Tuesday, February 02, 2010
You know you have them: those jeans that are just a little too tight. Oh, not too tight so that they're really indecent to wear out in public (not that that seems to stop some young girls), but jsut a little too tight to really be comfortable, tight enough to make you feel very aware that you're wearing them.
That's my skinny jeans. The ones I tried on a few weeks ago and they made me feel fat, because they felt even tighter. The ones that I tried on last week, and I thought I'd lost weight because they felt looser, altho in reality I'd gained a small amount of weight.
I wore them yesterday. I call them my focus jeans. When I'm wearing something that fitted, I can't help but focus on what I'm eating to some degree. Which is actually a good thing. As long as I keep my focus this week, I'm quite sure I'll see a loss. I'm not sure it will be enough to move my ticker (fingers are crossed, tho), but a loss would help boost my self esteem even so.
Sometimes it's a good thing to have focus jeans, especially when you're going out to eat. If you wear something loose, it's like giving yourself permission to overindulge. If you wear something tight, overindulging will make you darned uncomfortable. No, people who maintain a healthy weight effortlessly don't think this way -- but we're not people who maintain a healhy weight, are we?
One of my NSVs was my red velvet dress. It's incredibly fitted. And it fits. Oh, it's a focus dress, too, I suppose, but I think I could wear it in public on the right occasiion. Like maybe my birthday dinner. There is a bit of dirt on the skirt, but it's a very long skirt (really ought to shorten the dress) and probably no one but me would notice.
I've worn the dress once, I think. And hung onto it for 20 years. What surprises me is that I know I weigh more than I did the one time I wore it, but I think it probably fits about the same. I mean, I probably weigh at the very least 10 lbs more, if not 15 lbs more. Lots of exercise will do that for you, I suppose! I really wish I knew what my body fat percentage is.
Anyway, it would serve very well as a focus dress. Unfortunately it's not like I can wear it often, it's very dressy, and there aren't very many dressy occasions anymore.
Then I took my measurements this morning and it looks like maybe I've lost a bit more off my hips. Funny how stubborn my waist is about releasing the weight, but the hips move easier.
No matter what the scale says, I've had a really good week. It even included pizza. And a few BLTs (bites, licks, and tastes -- I once had a spark buddy concerned that I was eating a lot of bacon, lettuce, & tomato sandwiches), but less than the previous weeks to be sure.
Oh, and to share last night kitchen's frustration: I was making a pasta dish with edamame. I had the devil of a time finding frozen edamame. Only I did read the package closely; I thought it was shelled edamame, and it wasn't. So there I was, planning to just open a bag and dump it into a pot, when the reality was I had to stand there for about 5 minutes or so popping out the edamame.
And the kitchen is still coming along despite our waiting for the cabinets. The pantry, which is so much better, is almost restocked. My husband put in a new kitchen faucet for me -- the old one was driving me crazy because the water filter would pop off if you looked cross eyed at it, or so it seemed. This one has a nice tall spout, with one of those detachable sprayers. And a separate dispenser for filtered water. I really wanted to just find an under the sink filtered water dispenser, so when I turned on the tap filtered water came out, but apparently they don't make that.
So, do you have focus clothes? How often do you try them on? Do you wear them if they're still a bit too tight? What sort of clothing do you wear when you eat out?
Remember, those NSVs are more important than the scale! The scale is just a number, but NSVs really effect your life.
Monday, February 01, 2010
I recently finished a book called "The Daily Coyote". It's about a woman in Wyoming who adopts a coyote orphan, and raises him. She starts out sharing daily photos with friends and family, then sets up a blog -- www.dailycoyote.net/ .
A particular line towards the end of the book really caught my attention:
"This seems like such a common female thing, to lose oneself completely when trying to take care of others, but really, it is just another form of control, one that grants no faith in the other person and denies that they have the power and ability to help themselves."
Boy, that really caught my attention! Despite never having had kids, I have this tendency with my animals. Maybe with my husband. Most people lose weight when they get a dog; that's when I started to really gain weight again!
I have had to "force" my husband to come on walks with the dogs again. I think it's mostly because it's so cold, altho he claims it's because it takes too long. He's totally abanadoned walking them during the week, altho now that the days are getting longer, there's really no reason he couldn't start walking them in the afternoons again.
I'd even be willing to go for a short walk with him & the dogs before he leaves for work (which means he'd have to wake up earlier), and I personally think it would just do him a world of good. Give him a little energy to start his day.
I know many of us are like this -- do everything for others, nothing for ourselves. That isn't really true of me; I'm pretty good at taking care of myself, too. But there are times I get lost in caretaking. And yes, there are times where it probably doesn't need to be as much as I think it does.
Do you lose yourself in taking care of others? Do you think that it's a control issue? How do you learn to let go a bit?
On the good news front, my shoulder is almost back to normal. My thoughts is I was doing a lot of yoga and very little weight training with real weights. And I know if you're arms aren't strong enough, it's easy to overuse your shoulders. So I'm going to make sure I get some real ST in along with my beloved yoga.
The irony is that they say you shouldn't do kettlebells unless you take a class first -- that poor form can lead to injury. I haven't taken any classes, and it hasn't bothered me. Only in the last month or so, I stopped kettlebells in favor in yoga. Go figure.
And when my husband asked for a wish list for my birthday, one of things on it was simply going to a nice restaurant. Since my birthday happens to fall on a holiday, I told him he'd have to make reservations (something he hates to do). I was astounded to find out he has actually done it already. I don't know if it's at the restaurant I requested or not, but I suspect it must be. And I have every intention of having a decadent meal. Well, within reason.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
So thanks to one of my spark buddies, I've started to plan out what I'll eat each day in advance. I've always done this loosely, and I once was really obssessive about it -- planning out every meal & snack 2 weeks in advance, then only food shopping every couple of weeks (no longer works for me anyway, with the amount of fresh produce that I eat).
I always spend the weekends planning out my week. Choosing which recipes I'll try. Writing a list of what we'll have each night. It's always liquid; things come up, I change my mind, I'm not in the mood for what I planned or I'm too tired. But at least I have a starting point.
But I hadn't gone further than that. I'd just go with the flow for breakfast, lunch, and snacks. I'd have a loose idea in my head, but I didn't sit down and look at how that broke out into points. And that worked for me for a long time.
Until now. Now in the last 10 pounds, it wasn't working for me. So I tried it -- and it isn't easy. And I still often change my mind about what I want. But by planning it all in advance, if I do change my mind about what I want, I know what I have to play with.
And I'm doing much better staying within my points for the first time in weeks.
Do you plan out what you eat each day? What do you plan it on? Do you use pencil, or pen? How to you handle changes?
It's not only my meals. I'd always had a loose idea of what I wanted to do with exercise, too, but when I got my new fitbook with it's calendars to plan out a month, a week, a day at a time, I started to use those, too. There's definitely a relief in having a plan. Knowing ahead of time what to do. Which doesn't mean I'm not flexible, but it's one less thing I need to think about.
And we all need less to think about!
Saturday, January 30, 2010
It's true; trust me. If you're finding your New Year's motivation waning already -- altho my motivation hasn't, that "it's a new year and all things are possible" feeling is fading a bit along with the diving temps -- know that you really can turn things around.
I had a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head after I got up to use the bathroom this morning. I don't know why I bother going back to bed; I know I won't be able to get back to sleep. I guess it's because the bed is so warm and the house is so cold. Anyway.
TOM did arrive a tad early. Which is explains why I was so hungry the last few days. I never quite know when it will arrive -- that time of life, altho I'm ready to skip a few already! -- so I never know whether the hunger is "true" hormonal hunger or psychological or what.
I have begun to plan out my eating for the day in advance (thanks, Ducky). I even did it the night before last night. Oh, I've already changed my mind about breakfast, but that's fine. It still allows me to look at my day and see where I can make substitutions.
And because I've been taking a cold, hard look at what I've been eating and whether or not it's truly fueling and filling me, it's making choices easier sometimes.
For instance, a few days ago I had chocolate mousse for breakfast. Seriously. Only it was a healthy chocolate mousse of tofu, yogurt, and chocolate. With 2 clementines. But I found while I enjoyed it, it didn't hold me over long enough. So no more chocolate mousse for breakfast for me.
Speaking of clementines and who are you & what did you do with my husband moments, last night I was peeling a couple for dessert. I'd planned on a vitabrownie, but knew that wouldn't satisfy me and went for the clementines instead. And as I was peeling them, DH asked if he could have a slice. He was quite surprised when I said no, go peel yourself one. I was hungry and I needed all my clementines!
I was just surprised he actually asked for some of my fruit! I've been making him breakfast to bring to work a few times a week now, which assures that he gets something other than a banana every single day, assuming he actually remembers to even eat the banana.
But getting back to the title. That's the point: when you eat stuff that fuels and fills your body, you begin to want more of it. Sure, the processed stuff and the fast food is easy. And it tastes good (well, sort of, fast food really doesn't do it for me, but there was a time I enjoyed it more). It's highly addictive, too.
The less high sodium, high fructose corn syrup stuff you eat, the less you crave that stuff. And you know what? You'll find that you actually feel fuller and have more energy when you make the effort to make yourself real food. And you really have to watch out for the HFCS: it hides in all sorts of things, like condiments, fiber one stuff (which is why I don't eat that stuff, even tho it looks so good), 100 calorie snack packs.
For just a little bit more than 100 calories, you could have an apple with 1 tbsp of peanut butter. Or popcorn (I pop my own; if you're using microwave, you've got to read the ingredients again). A couple of clementines with some nuts. Some yogurt (you've got to read the ingredients again on that one).
Do you find that you're beginning to crave more healthy foods? How do you feel when you eat something you used to love? Does it make you physically sick now? Do you pay attention to how you feel a few hours after eating?
I'm not saying everything you eat has to be healthy. I have my treats; I won't give up my treats, either. Without my treats, this way of eating wouldn't be sustainable for me. I'm just saying concentrate of adding more healthy food that you enjoy, and then really notice how it makes you feel.
Friday, January 29, 2010
They are probably my biggest downfall. I mean really, what's one small square of dark chocolate eaten while making dinner? It's healthy, right? And the problem really isn't one small square. The problem is one small square every night, or maybe it's really a couple of squares, or maybe it's a square and a raw fudge baby.
I did not, btw, eat the chocolate bar yesterday. I came here, got it out in a blog, read a bunch of other people's blogs, drank a couple of glasses of water, walked the dogs (in the snow again, which stopped again the moment we got inside), and did my ST. And realized I didn't want it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with some chocolate, for me, anyway. I eat it on a regular basis. The problem with that particular chocolate bar is that I wanted to eat it for all the wrong reasons, and in a way that wouldn't have satisfied me.
It joined the bag of peanut butter M&Ms that have been sitting in the pantry for several months. I'm going to have to stop buying peanut butter M&Ms; I really don't like the ingredients, and I can now make my own reese's cups -- it's really not all that difficult. It's not like I eat them all that often, either, maybe once a year. They no longer call to me.
I didn't preplan my meals last night, but I did sit down and write them out this morning. I'm a morning person anyway. It's really too bad DH is a night owl, because it frustrates me that he barely moves before noon, and he gets angry that I'm ready for bed at 9 pm and cannot be called on to help do something in the evening -- or watch a movie if we don't get started by 7 pm at the very latest.
BLTs are definitely my demon. Yup, I have a tendency not to record those BLTs, as if they don't matter. They are most likely what causes my small weight gains before my period most of the time. Sometimes it may be due to water retention, but I'm guessing it's more often due to those little tastes I don't record. So now I have a goal for this week: plan my meals out in the morning, and record those BLTs.
Wish me luck. And thank you so much to everyone that reached out to me -- you really helped, more than you can know.
What is your little unhealthy habit that you don't want to fess up to? What will it take to tackle that habit? How much do you think it's been tripping you up?
Remember, a minute on the lips really IS a lifetime on the hips! And I don't know about you, but I've already got enough hips.
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