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Overwhelming Lack of Motivation

Friday, March 18, 2011

I would really love to know what I just can't get motivated..... to do ANYTHING!!! I know the changes I need to make in my life, and not just with weight loss, and I just can't seem to start.

Plain and simple, I'm lazy. I mean, what else could it be? Argh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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DEZZIEJAMES 3/18/2011 11:41AM

    I joined a 5k with a friend and knowing that she is depending on me to run/walk it with her has given me the motivation. Maybe you should do something similar. You can do this...

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WDWGIRLS 3/18/2011 11:01AM

    Try this website - it's a free 21 day program to get mentally tough enough to fight this fight! It starts out really blunt, but it was the kick in the butt I need. So if you are not easily offended, it will help you figure out why you're not motivated, and how to get there.One of the other Sparkers (TUBLADY) told me about it and I've been spreading the word too. Let me know if you try it and like it.

Keep going - you can do this - and NEVER NEVER GIVE UP! emoticon

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SUECHRIS50 3/18/2011 10:46AM

    Its all in your head to brace your feet but,try forcing yourself to go walking!It can be in the mall or your favorite park,with music or quietly.Just forcing myself made me lose 108 lbs.I gained some back when the holidays came but im back on track!good luck and im here for ya if you want to talk

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Going To Try Something New

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

So I got a lot of feedback on my page and my posts for help (thanks everyone!) and the general consensus is that I am trying to make toooooo many changes at once. I"ve been thinking about it and it is true. I tried cutting everything bad out of my diet at once, working out everyday for at least an hour (just to start!) and pretty much trying to set goals way to fast. Of course what happened.... I crashed and gave up (sort of). So I have come up with a new plan for myself.

I call it the "Week-by-Week" plan. (Corny, I know). Anyway, I am going to start by changing one unhealthy habit a week. Week one will be removing soda and juice and only drinking water and my morning cup or two of coffee (sans the creamer of course). That starts this coming Sunday (yes, I am one of those people who like things to be even, I have to have a start at the beginning of a week). The following week I am going to start implementing an exercise routine. Nothing too difficult at first, just a walk for 30 mins each day and perhaps some strength training every other day. The third week I am going to work on portion control. The fourth week will be the hardest, removing sugary foods from my diet (I have a MAJOR sweet tooth). I am leaving that for the fourth week because I am hopeful that after accomplishing the other mini-goals I will have more motivation not to backslide.

Some on-going goals I need to incorporate are:
#1) STAYING OFF THE SCALE. Sounds counter-intuitive, I know, I mean how will I measure my progress? I will weigh myself but not everyday! I have a tendency to step on the scale everyday, several times a day and that can be discouraging. I want my husband to hide the scale for the first two to three weeks. I need to view this for what it is - a lifestyle change. Yes, I need to lose weight, but I need to get healthy once and for all.

#2) STOP OBSESSING OVER THE DETAILS. By this I mean I will not be using the nutrition or exercise tracker. I know this like a cardinal sin among some Sparkers but it just doesn't work for me. I get all frantic if I can't find the exact food in the tracker. I worry that I didn't burn as many calories as one of the listed exercise routines says because I can't work out as hard as some of those instructors. So for me it is about making healthy changes overall. Do I exercise now? No. So.... starting some type of exercise is better than what I am currently doing. Now, I know enough that I can't just do three sit-ups and call it a day, but I am not going to track every last minute in an effort to make sure I hit some goal. My goal is simply to exercise. Same thing with food. I know that 1) I consume a lot of empty calories (soda, sweet snacks, etc), so I have to cut those out, 2) I eat portions that are too large so I must reduce those to a moderate amount. In time I may use the trackers again if I don't see any progress or come to a plateau, but to start I just need to get into the right frame of mind.

I am also planning on attending a womens group at our church that is called "Made to Crave". It is based on a book by the same title and it is a 6-week class dealing with food and how we were made to consume it and not the other way around (food consuming us). I am looking forward to this class.

Well, thank you all again for your very positive words!!

Good luck in your weight loss journey and God Bless!!!!

:) Jill


Angry With Myself

Thursday, March 03, 2011

ARGH!!!! I am so mad at myself!!!!!!!!! I had tons of motivation last week and now I am losing it. I was feeling great during workouts and today I walked for 15 minutes then came home because it was too cold. Granted, I walked a mile, but I could have pushed myself to do so much more, I KNOW IT!!! So why don't I? Instead of blogging I should be doing some cardio and feeling the burn again. Why can't I pick myself up to do it?????

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LYNNAPO 3/4/2011 7:35PM

    I suffer from this as well. But I always come back to the fact that even if I dont succeed immediately, I MUST keep trying. There will come a time (I pray) that it WILL come naturally, it WILL come without constantly having to push myself to do it and I WILL SUCCEED. I dont know what it will take to make the final lasting change, but I do know that if I dont try, the possibility of success will never cross my path. Keep up the good work!

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NEENSTER1 3/3/2011 11:25PM

    15 minutes is better than nothing. Be Encouraged. emoticon Your doing emoticon

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SUZANNE0606 3/3/2011 11:24PM

    This happens to all of us. I try hard to just stay focused when I am feeling this way. Usually, I can get back on track. Granted, sometimes it takes a week or two, but staying focused on my goals helps me.

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PHANTY1 3/3/2011 5:42PM

    Don't be too hard on yourself. This is a marathon, not a sprint. I have been doing SP since 10/09 and have only lost 7 to 8# but I'm trying not to focus on THAT....I'm focusing on loving myself more; exercising more, eating right.....Over time, you'll start to crave a healthier lifestyle but don't beat yourself up.

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MHINTZ0929 3/3/2011 12:20PM

    You are allowed to be angry with yourself for the next five minutes. After that, take a deep breath, and commit to doing better today. Motivation will come and go. It is hard to do, but you simply have to make yourself do it when you don't want to. Once it becomes "routine," you won't even think about not doing it... but you will be angry (well, annoyed!) when you can't do it. We are all works in progress, and no one is perfect.

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SKYWATCHERRS 3/3/2011 12:12PM

    How about making a list of the things keeping you from your goal? Make a list of all the obstacles and then go back and write two solutions to each obstacle.

Make a plan. Implement the plan. Work the plan. If it doesn't work, revise and re-work.

Get rid of anything in your way - toxic relationships, bad habits, negative self-talk, etc. Find some social support and publicly commit to your goal so that you have an even greater incentive for sticking with it.

Ask yourself if you are willing to do whatever it takes to reach your goal. If the answer is no, then you might spend some time reflecting and finding that place inside yourself.

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MISSCHARLEE 3/3/2011 12:08PM

    I'm no expert, but when I start to feel like this, I stop, take a deep breath, and then....I change my mind.

Instead of focusing on all the things I'm NOT doing, I count my blessings - as many of them as I can count! For starters, that I am able to MAKE THE CHOICE to workout or not, and that I am physically able to workout!

Then, I acknowledge that I am human, and I am kinder to myself. Not wishy-washy, but definitely kinder. I don't allow myself to make excuses. I know it's a choice.

Hope this helps. Stick with it. You're going to be just fine!


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RIVERDLC 3/3/2011 12:05PM

Dont beat yourself up. Brush yourself off and keep going. This is a long hard journey. Beating ourselves up just makes it more difficult. Learning from our mistakes helps us improve.

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