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No wonder!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

So, I had a revelation last night...

I'm so stressed out and under so much pressure, from others and from myself, there's no wonder I've been gaining weight instead of losing it. Hell, I'd even go so far as to say its possible I'm depressed.

I'm only 4 months away from graduating with my first Bachelor's Degree. In theatre, with limited experience in lighting design, which is what I'd love to do with my career. I'll be done with that in June. In August I plan on going back to community college to study nutrition. I hope it doesn't take me forever. Its really only something I want to do for myself. I wouldn't even get a degree in it, just a certificate of achievement. And then there's the issue of finding a job. I'm not sure what I can do with what I've gotten so far in regards to theatre. I just have no idea, really. So, I'll probably have to settle for something that has nothing to do with my chosen career path until after I get a Master's Degree... whenever I decide to do that.

Then there's my personal life. Someone whom I love very much, and would love to spend my life with, told me last night that I am selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed, and apparently not very intelligent when it comes to being in/nurturing a relationship. Somewhere in the same conversation, it came up that I should probably consider not having children because I'm "emotionally frail" or something to that effect. For the last month or so, this is has been the nature of the conversations we've had. Part of me knows I need to let him go, that there's NO WAY this is healthy... but, its hard to let go of someone whom I've "been with" for 6 years. I've imagined this person as THE person I'd be growing old with, having children (apparently not), traveling... basically sharing my life, turning my life and his life into "our" life.

He'd like it if I was much thinner as well. I want to be much thinner. I don't feel healthy. I'm tired all of the time. I have little motivation to do much of anything, including exercise. I manage to eat healthy 75%-80% of the time... I've binged or knowingly over-indulged during times of high stress and emotion. No wonder!!! NO WONDER I'm GAINING weight. No wonder I'm not losing it! How on earth am I supposed to do it with all this coming at me all the time?

I have no self-esteem (which, according to the earlier mentioned person, is for teenagers), very little feeling of self-worth, inferiority complex. I feel so... not smart. I feel like a fat loser. Not smart enough to ever have children (even though I badly want[ed] to be a mother someday). Barely able to survive adulthood successfully. Getting to be healthy again. I feel like I barely have a chance.

  
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JILLYBEAN25 3/10/2010 4:20PM

    Thank you all so much. I'm glad I have the Spark Community to keep things in perspective and to pick me up when I am down. :-)

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GIGGLES04 3/2/2010 11:49PM

    My dear friend Jill,
NO man who makes you feel worthless, is worth your time. I spent 3 years in a marriage with a man who wanted me to be "different" than who I really was. A true partner values you, even at what you feel is your worst. Will love you even if you weighed 300lbs, sees your inner beauty and not your outer. Being with someone who knows what a caring, loving and dedicated friend you are. I know the depth of your character and beauty of your soul. You know that you are deserving of all the happiness you want out of your life. Never let ANYONE deprive you of your spirit, or you will to dream. You are FAR from selfish, because if I need you, you are there for me. You are one of my best friends even though we are miles away!
Maybe you should point out all his "faults" he is mean, critical, rude and undeserving of you and any future children you would have ever given him.
You know I love you and am here for you always :)
T
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

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TRECECOOKS 2/19/2010 1:18PM

    (((((HUGS))))) Sending you virtual love, so that you will KNOW you're loved, not matter what. You're more than a number on a scale, and perfect, just the way you are!

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CLAUDIA1333 2/15/2010 12:28PM

    Hey you! First off *big hugs*!!! Although I can't sympathize right now with the relationship part of the equation, I can empathize with the high stress and gaining weight! I gained 10 pounds back the end of December through January because I was working crazy hours, being very stressed out, and not working out because, hey-I'd rather get another hour of sleep. It's tough in this industry to eat healthy and workout, especially when you're surrounded by overweight stage hands who will generally eat anything put in front of them! You just have to do the best you can and get rid of the bad foods in your house! You can only control so much, and making more healthy foods available to yourself will help you feel better. I know that after one particular stretch of days without serious vegetables, I ate a huge salad for lunch and nearly instantly felt less gross and fat! Hang in there sweety!!!

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TMCFADD1 2/12/2010 10:19PM

    Jilly, I agree with the ladies and Kristen said it best...looks like you got some excess baggage to rid yourself of, thats a good 15 pounds of crap right there. Any man that has to put down a woman the way he did is lacking himself. I know you've been with him the past 6 years and you probably feel you can't go on without him, however I'm one to tell you that you can. You deserve so much better. Your self worth is more then this man can handle. My experience is he's intimidated by your intelligence and he's intimidated by your strength and the only way to make himself feel inferior is by knocking you down. Ask yourself do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering your self worth? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with regret of not having kids and always feeling like your not smart enough or thin enough? If you can answer yes to any one of those questions then stay with him, but if you answer no to at least one or all then it's time to move on, rid yourself of the excess weight and prepare yourself for that man that will make you feel beautiful and smart no matter what.

Love you girl and know that I am here if you need me.

PS...you'll find that job, don't worry, trust me everyone that has come close to graduation goes through the same thing.



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NUTTYIRISH 2/11/2010 9:27AM

    Jill, in your very intelligent mind, you KNOW what you have to do. I think everything is going to fall into place very nicely for you once you graduate and get that under your belt. Stress can do a lot of damage to your body, and a relationship. Only you can decide what is best for you, but as an outsider, I say losing that excess "baggage" will do wonders for your self esteem. :) Here if you need me! Love ya!
K

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FRENCHTOSD 2/11/2010 1:56AM

    I'm with Tigger! You're too good for this, and too young to be worried about if you will "ever" have kids. Take care of yourself and better relationships will come your way.

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TIGGER2908 2/10/2010 7:32PM

    Oh, my goodness, Jilly. You have GOT to get rid of that man. You are SO MUCH better than that. Anyone who says the things he said to you should just be kicked to the curb, with no hesitation.

Self esteeem is for everyone, not just teenagers. Wanting to be a mother is for anyone who wants it, not just those who are thin. When I got pregnant the first time, I was over 200 pounds. I topped 300 by the time my son was born (I lost 40 during delivery) but that left me with 260 pounds. I got pregnant twice more. My doctor said that he would have preferred me to be lighter but was still supportive of my pregnancies. If your guy can't imagine that a large woman can have a healthy pregnancy with the right support, then tell him my story.

Regardless, you are better than this, you deserve someone who will love you for you, not for your body size.


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When it REALLY bites you in the rear...

Thursday, October 01, 2009

Boy oh boy, when it rains, it pours... as per the usual law of nature. I had such high hopes for this upcoming quarter. It was to start the final year of my UCSD career. Good things were supposed to happen. I was taking a class that I was excited about... hell, more than excited about! I was praying for another lighting design class. Two days before school started, I got word that it had been canceled. You know how many lighting design classes have been offered at UCSD since I began attending? One. And I took it when it was offered. It was a basic class, but I learned a lot. I worked seriously hard in it, too. Sometimes our lighting projects would require 3-5 hours outside of class time to complete. And I loved it so much. This class was the next step- advanced lighting design. It was meant to be small. No more than 10 or 12 students MAX. I guess everyone decided it didn't fit into their schedules anymore. So, they dropped it. And f***ed over the few of us that were left. So... I want to be a lighting designer for the rest of my life. And I've taken one 10-week basic class to date. That ought to be enough, right?

I applied to be an assistant lighting designer, ASSISTANT lighting designer for a student run production on campus. The Muir Musical has a lot of esteem, held in high regards, and is quite impressive for a student production. Faculty and staff and students alike all enjoy and are awed by the work and talent and dedication that goes into producing the musical. And I only wanted to be an assistant- NOT primary- lighting designer. And I didn't even get that chance. If I wasn't going to be able to take a class, then I wanted the opportunity to learn more through this (although I didn't know at the time that the class had been canceled).

I have asked several people several times if I can be an assistant for one of the graduate lighting designers who are working on projects at the Playhouse. I'm never told 'no', but I've also never been told 'yes'. I'm waiting for the opportunity to learn. I want to be taught how to be a designer. I know the basics. I've known the basics for quite some time. I need to know more. I can't get by on the bare minimum. And no one seems to want to help me. I am by no means a popular student... because I'm not an actor. I'm older. I'm inked. I'm pierced. I'm not a naive kid that can be ordered around. I am nice. I can be asked to do things. I usually don't even need things explained to me in detail. But, it seems like I'm getting overlooked.

Don't get me wrong. I'm grateful for the opportunity I got to be a part of "The Savannah Disputation" at the Copley (Globe theatre complex). But, I wasn't a designer. Hell, I didn't even have a hand in the design at all. I created a few pieces of paperwork and basically sat around as quality control. I watched the rehearsals and the previews. I was the liaison between the designer and the tech crew. I stayed for notes, I took notes, and I payed close attention to what was going on. But, essentially, I was an assistant TO the designer, not an assistant designer. Which is fine. I learned a lot. But, once again... not enough to really put it on a resume. I can't put it on a resume... My name isn't even in the program.

I want the chance to be a designer and it seems like every door is being closed on me. Am I following the wrong path? Am I doing something wrong? If I am, what am I supposed to do that's right, that's correct? I don't even know. I've said it once before and I'll say it again: UCSD's Theatre and Dance Dept. hates their own students. Well, their non-acting, non-playwriting undergrads anyway. They love their grad students. They love their actors and playwrights. Us designers... we get the shortest end of the stick. Usually the piece of stick that got stuck in a giant pile of poo first.

If I don't do anything design-wise to design a show, then I have nothing to put in my portfolio. If I don't have a portfolio, there's no way in hell I'm getting into grad school. And if I wanna focus my education solely on lighting design, grad school is where I do it. But, not if I can't get there. If you want to be an actor, and a darn good one, go to UCSD and be a theatre major. If you're an undergrad and you want to be a designer, go somewhere else. If I had known, I would have gone to a specialty school. And focused my BA as narrowly as possible on lighting design.

And in the meantime, I'm enrolled in a theatre history class that I specifically remember saying I didn't want to take. And another history class that I do want to take, but is going to be a ton of work... more than MMW ever was. Same goes for the theatre history class. I may never have a spare moment between the hundreds of pages of reading a week complete with written responses for each assigned reading, the presentations (for each class!), the 10+ page research papers (that's one for each class, folks!), and the department productions I'm required to watch (all 5 of them).

For some bizarre reason, my wrist feels infinitely better today. I hate my wrist. WHY oh WHY does it gotta be a b****? I need it. It's my righty. I hurt it the other day turning the steering wheel. That's all. Its such a wussy wrist!! It can't even TURN a STEERING WHEEL without failing epically. What is wrong with it?! Why can't someone tell me? I really have to pay $500 out of pocket for an MRI before I get an answer? For reallies? I just want to scream. "I'm sorry Steve... that wrist is gonna have to go..." *sawing motion*

I just want to scream. I am so jaded right now.

AND!! Since when do I have to censor myself on a blog?!?! Free speech, yo! First Amendment privilege AND right!

  
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JILLYBEAN25 10/1/2009 4:20PM

    I love being an electrician, too, but you're right. Its hard to learn design from the outside. Plus, I can't do as much electrician work right now thanks to my stupid wrist!!!

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CLAUDIA1333 10/1/2009 3:53PM

    I so know you're pain about the design stuff. When I was at school there wasn't a lighting design class until my second to last year, and it was just the intro one too. I love lighting but have not gotten the education I wanted. I'm working as an electrician now and am trying to learn more about design but it's definitely a struggle.

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Food Cravings, Interesting Theory!

Sunday, May 31, 2009

How to Dog Whisper Your Food Cravings

Warm, fudgy chocolate cake.

Melt-in-your-mouth fettuccine alfredo.

An icy flute of champagne.

Gee, thanks a lot, MDA.

Whether it’s for garlic knots or a tuna melt, the temptation to indulge in delicious but unhealthy fare catches up with even the most disciplined among us from time to time. (Except Mark. He’s immune. It just took a lot of ice cream to develop.)

The body tends to crave what it is used to, which is why breaking out of the chips ‘n cookie regimen foils so many folks. There is a silver lining, however: given enough practice, you’ll actually miss brussels sprouts and feel sickened by ice cream. You just have to habituate your body. Many times, “cravings” that we experience are not indicators of any real nutritional need the body has, but simply a powerful psychological response to a habit gone cruelly unfed.

That said, sometimes a strong craving for a certain food (coughchocolatecough) can signal that you may be in need of a particular nutrient. Mark’s Daily Apple to the rescue: when you feel the urge to nosh on something you just know you shouldn’t, there’s guaranteed to be a healthy alternative. Take charge of those cravings and make them work for you, not against you!

When you are just about ready to kill for:

Salty foods like chips and pizza - you may just need some tryptophan or chloride. Try organic cheese, unsalted cottage cheese, fish, sweet potatoes (or yams), spinach, and authentic sea salt.

Chocolate - you may be in need of magnesium. Instead, eat…chocolate! Yes! (Or nuts. But chocolate is actually healthy, if it’s dark and eaten in small doses.)

Sugary snacks and starches such as donuts and bread - you might be dehydrated. Drink some water and get a little nutritional acid by way of a piece of fruit, such as an apple.

Carbonated beverages - you might need to up your mineral intake. Try spinach, kale, collard greens, and legumes.

Fatty foods - some sources will tell you to drink water and eat fruit, but we say eat that fat! Fat is nutritious: it aids digestion, improves vitamin absorption, and can even boost brain health. Just watch the salt. Good fats: fish, olive oil, nuts, butter, cream, eggs.

Are you overeating or feeling general cravings? You may need tyrosine, found in citrus fruits. You might also be in need of a shot of zinc, so have a grass-fed steak or shellfish such as shrimp or oysters.

Craving candy? You may need sulfur, you inflammatory little nugget, you. Try garlic, onions, and cruciferous vegetables like broccoli or brussels sprouts. And pineapple works wonders.

Outsmart your body. You are the alpha, so you best be dog whisperin’ those wacky cravings!

Whether your specific craving signals a nutritional deficiency, hormonal imbalance, or simply a pesky bad habit you went and taught yourself, choosing healthy alternatives will satisfy your body’s needs and retrain your brain to get excited about things like lettuce. Which really isn’t so bad, now, is it? As Mark always says, vegetables don’t meow, people.

Source: www.marksdailyapple.com/food-craving
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CAREWREN 5/31/2009 4:33PM

    emoticon for putting this info up on your blog. It is very interesting and helpful. I can even see where I might prefer something healthy over something unhealthy. I may not be there yet but I can actually see it--sort of like the light at the end of the tunnel--and I don't mean the light of an oncoming train!


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WOLFKITTY 5/31/2009 3:51AM

    I've never seen that Mark site. Thanks for sharing! :D This article was interesting!
Jocelyn

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Sparkpeople Convention 2009

Sunday, May 03, 2009


Wow, what can I say about the Sparkpeople Convention that hasn't been echoed by everyone else who attended? It was an amazing experience, with so many great lessons to be learned from the people there!

I got to meet up with the volunteers and staff members the day before the convention. Spark Guy Chris, Coach Nicole, Dietitian Becky, Expert Jenny... these people were wonderful, warm, and genuine. It was like meeting Spark Celebrities! It was so great to get a chance to hear them and converse with them for a few moments before the hectic race got under way. It was also super to see familiar faces from the message boards at Spark San Diego Team- Leah (how I missed her!), Diane, Felicia, Violet, Jocelyn... Awesome ladies!

The next day was convention day! I'm glad the media-induced hyper-panic about the swine flu couldn't keep these fellow Sparks away! Spark Guy Chris started off the morning with his story. It was a great story to hear... truly inspirational. Start with 10 minutes of activity a day... It was the birth of the Spark Streak! :-) After that we had the real-life member panelists do their presentations. This was particularly touching. They told us their stories- from their weight gain, to feeling terrible about themselves, to doing something about it, to their successes, triumphs, setbacks, etc. There were more than a few tears shed! The audience was given an opportunity to ask questions for tips and advice. The ladies shared some truly invaluable ideas with the crowd- Jocelyn's (Wolfkitty) point about holiday eating not being "special" eating was right on! There will always be another holiday, another opportunity to eat those foods. Is Thanksgiving going to be the last time you'll have your turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, etc? NO! It won't be. There will be a Thanksgiving every year. Dana (Zircadia) emphasized portion control awareness and self-control during holidays. Don't deprive yourself of holiday foods, but be aware of your hunger level. If you're full, stop eating! If you want a piece of pecan pie, eat it! Just eat one piece. And everyone on the panel emphasized not beating yourself up for your "bumps in the road". Everyone is going to mess up. Don't dwell on it. Just move on. Don't convince yourself that you have already screwed up once and justify letting yourself screw up the rest of the day. Jocelyn said "I'm not a member of the Start-Over Club. I don't have do-overs." Just accept that you are human and prone to human compulsions. Don't fix the situation later. Fix it now. No do-overs, just keep going. Leah's (Spring4Fal) enthusiasm is so contagious! She wants to see everyone succeed and she puts herself out there to help you! Just take the first step if you need it and reach out!

The next speaker was Fitness Maven Nancy Howard. She was a bubbly, warm woman with a cheery Texas accent! She's an avid runner. She gave us tips and ideas about working out. Her message of "something is better than nothing" fits perfectly well with the idea of Spark Guy's streak. If all you have time for is 10 minutes of exercise, it's better than doing nothing with those 10 minutes. So, do something! Each time, do something! She said that we are all athletes. We just need to channel our inner athlete and get moving! Also, she said when it comes to working out on a treadmill, never run/walk on less than 2% or 3% incline. She indicated that studies have shown a 0% incline is equivalent to walking DOWN a hill! That leaves you more susceptible to injury like shin splints and whatnot. Also, alternating inclines and speeds during your workout is more like walking naturally outdoors.


After Nancy's presentation was Food Guru Becky Hand. She had lots of fun handouts for us to do during her presentation. Obviously, I've scanned one of them. I have it hanging on my fridge! (Which was her intention, I'm sure!) Anyway, aside from some obsessive-compulsive kitchen ideas ;-) (alphabetize and mega-organize your spices and pantry by building your own specialty shelves!) she had several good points regarding eating and nutrition. Canned and frozen items are just fine! It doesn't always have to be fresh! Sit down and plan out a weekly dinner menu. No joke! It helps not only the organization process, but it keeps you on track and makes sure you make healthy, good decisions regarding meals instead of leaving it up to chance at the last minute. Reduce the junk! My eating style (as per the results of the quiz) is "Scratch is where it's at!" meaning, I make most of my meals at home and try new recipes, have several spices in my spice rack (20 or more), and sit at a table to eat. I don't usually practice a grab and go lifestyle, with ready made meals and I was almost borderline "Mix it, Fix it" where I do a combo of eating out and eating in. In general I'm a home meal type of gal. Lately, thanks to my lack of groceries, I'm a mixed eat in/out gal. My eating personality scored high on both Emotional and Relationship eater, but wasn't too far off for Stress and Pleasure eater, either. Almost even across the board, actually. Also, I think I spaced out what a "Food Phantom" was... can anyone fill me in? :-S Her next message was 4 mindful bites. Take your time with eating those first four bites of food. Pause and savor each bite. Put down the fork. Close your eyes. Focus on what is in your mouth- taste, temperature, texture. Eat to live, not live to eat. Also,

The next presentation was from Life Coach Cheryl Richardson. As rousing and important as all the presentations were this day, I wish hers was longer. She had so many great things to say about "Toxic People" in your life. Even if they aren't directly derailing your success as a new, healthy, maybe skinny person, they can inadvertently do so. Especially for stress/emotional eaters! Toxic people don't make you feel good, so why keep 'em around? They "puke" their stress and toxin on you, and you take it in and turn it into your own. Its hard to tell these people, especially if they're family, about their behavior and how it affects you, but it is highly super important that you do! Its YOUR LIFE. They do not get control or power over you! That's no way to live! If its too difficult to talk to them because they drain you of your life force, something needs to change. Don't give them attitude, don't give them excuses, don't explain yourself, don't dismiss their behavior (whether they claim to be joking or not). Be neutral, but be firm. The less words you say to them, the better. Anything you say beyond "I do not like it when you do/say/act like this" is more fuel for them to come back at you with the same thing or something worse. Keep it short and sweet. And give them three small chances. If they say it again, gently remind them you do not appreciate their behavior/comments. If they do it a third time, walk away. Let them know you will not be victim to their spew/puke/toxin any more. Its not fair for you to have to accommodate them when they make you feel so horrible. They aren't accommodating you and they get to make you feel horrible while they still feel good. F*** that!!!

Spark Guy ended the day for us by previewing the new Sparkpeople book, entitled "The Spark" due out December 29th of this year! How awesome is that?! Finally, a book! Its got great stories from people, as well as tips, advice, etc. It looks like it'll be a must-read! I'm very excited about it. I wish I could remember more, but there was sooo much information, and it was the end of the day, and I was simply exhausted by that time. A final guest speaker, who's name I regret I do not remember, came up and briefly shared her story. Then, Spark Guy said his good-byes and that was it!

It was an incredible day. I just felt empowered and blessed and part of a big family of people with similar health/fitness goals as I did. It was amazing!!! I left there with lots of goodies! A sweet tote bag, 3 shirts (gratis), a calendar, a water bottle, one of them cute technical shirts!, SparkGoodies from a few people, and lessons, tips, and advice I can and will apply to my own journey.

Feel free, for those who have actually read this far, to add your favorite lessons learned, correct anything I got wrong, or share your favorite memory. Put up your pics of the convention and be sure to upload them to the Flickr group! (See convention team page for the link)

Side note:
I lost 3 inches in my hips, waist, and neck this month. I gained??? 1 inch in my bust! Woo!

  
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CAREWREN 5/31/2009 4:35PM

    emoticon specifically for the recap of Cheryl Richardson's portion. I already responded to you but when I reread it, I realized I had not written anything about this part of the day and that you captured what she said really nicely.


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WOLFKITTY 5/13/2009 5:35PM

    I love your recap!!

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CAOMAGIC 5/7/2009 11:45PM

    This convention was an overall AWESOME experience, and was well worth my time and money to go!! I have met so many great people, and have learned so much that will help the people that touch my life and about myself as well!!! emoticon

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GIGGLES04 5/7/2009 12:03AM

    Jill, so glad you had fun! Would love to have gone, but so far away for me :( I am so happy to hear it has helped re-ignite your Spark! You are such a motivation and I think you are awesome for everything you have to accomplish in your daily life! I am so lucky to know you! Keep up the awesome work :)
Love ya!
T

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CAREWREN 5/6/2009 10:14AM

    Thanks for doing such a great blog entry on the event. I am doing blog entries--but I have done two and have only scratched the surface. I am going to refer folks to your page so that they do not have to wait for me to slowly work my way through that weekend!


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CLAUDIA1333 5/5/2009 11:52PM

    Wow this sounds like a truly incredible experience! I'm a bit jealous. ;-) a SPARKPEOPLE book?? I can't wait!!! Congrats on your losses this month, and your gain too. Keep up the good work!

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DISNEYSMOM 5/4/2009 1:17AM

    I'd say you covered pretty much everything from the convention here!! And lucky you for getting those free shirts!! I'm too short and all the tall people around me were beating me to them (LOL). As far as the food phantom, I have no idea either!! I don't remember her mentioning it, but she was fabulous!! I loved her energy and sense of humor. I loved the whole day actually. I've only been a member for 6 weeks (and 3 days), but the whole convention completely reaffirmed the reason I joined. My favorite part? The member panel, hearing their stories pulled my heart strings and brought tears to my eyes. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Goal Items

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

So, for my Spark Team, we've all decided to select a clothing item that we currently own that does not fit and make it a motivator to get back into it. I happen to have two items. And, since I'm not able to sleep, I will now commence posting my embarrassing pictures to track my progress in these items.

The first is a cocktail dress I bought and wore to a charity event a few years ago. It USED to look fabulous on me (as you can see, sort of).





The next item are a pair of Dickies Girl pinstripe pants. I had wanted a pair for FOREVER and I finally lost a ton of weight in Boston and was able to get a pair. Now... THIS:




So, there's my humbling experience in my time of sleepless crankiness. I gotta say, maybe its just me PMSing, struggling with change, my lack of sleep, intensely high stress level, disappointing weigh-in yesterday (gained BACK 4lbs, WTF!!!), poor eyesight without corrective lenses, fluctuating weather, posting extremely unflattering pics of myself for all of Spark to see... But, is there a way to make a team private by invitation only? Perhaps I'm skeptical from the last experience, but the point of our newly revamped team is so that each member functions as a constant support for the others. The idea of having another willy-nilly person show up and then decide they don't want in is simply irritating me right now. I learned my lesson after a year of being on Spark... if I'm not going to actively participate in a team, don't join it. We set down rules, goals, and a very well thought out plan for this year and discussed in depth how we wanted this team to be run and what we wanted out of it. If someone wants to join because they think "we'll be fun, or we seem nice or something" then not take the active role our team is founded on, they aren't fulfilling what I need them to fulfill in our team, what we all agreed we needed. Ok... I'm done ranting. And I've spent waaaaay too much time at this computer doing homework. I'm out. Peace, ya'll!

  
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ERINBELLOWS1978 2/18/2009 5:57PM

    Jill I totally understand you!! I will actually look into this!! I'm fine w/ the few that we now have. I dont mind other people joining, but I'd like a committment from them!!
As for your pics- Well done!! Girl I know how you feel!! I hate the pics I took of myself in my pants and I CANNOT believe I put them up. OH well. It'll force me to look at them and do someting about it!!

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GIGGLES04 2/17/2009 9:30AM

    I totally agree with you about the "fairweather" team mate! We are all making a newfound commitment and others joining in just "because" isn't right. I guess there is no way to control it, just like we can't control life. But we know that we will always be here to support each other! Great post :)



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