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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Well, for those following the roommate drama in my life, this one's for you! For those that haven't, you might wanna catch up a bit! emoticon Here: www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo

So, Sunday morning I woke up, still very sleepy from being designated driver the night before for my friend's birthday (the mother of my "niece"). It was really fun, but I didn't get home until almost 2am. Can't tell you the last time I was awake at that hour (on purpose).

See? Lot's of fun! That's Heather, whom I haven't seen in almost 11 years!

I had a list of chores to do before I left for my visit that included a load of laundry and my weekly assigned household chore, which was kitchen counter. It entails more than just wiping down the kitchen counter, FYI. I also needed to tidy up a few things I had left out (my sewing machine for example, and the stool needed to get it in and out of the cupboard where I keep it stashed). I was putting away the stool in the utility closet where it's normally kept and I noticed something strange about my mop. Namely, that is was in multiple pieces instead of one big, cohesive unit. So, I reach down to grab the oddly detached mop head and cut myself on it! The tip of my finger started gushing blood. Strange! I inspect the mop head and realize it's been broken. I don't know how that happened. It's a pretty wickedly tough plastic that would take a pretty big amount of force to break it. But, the more strange thing was that this mop, broken and all, was placed back into it's proper storage location with nary a word uttered about it. There was no note on our message board, he didn't say anything to me, didn't text me... Now, if you were me, wouldn't you think that someone put a broken mop back where it belongs to cover up the fact that its been broken? Well, that's pretty much where She-'mate and my train of thought went.

But, from there it gets "worse". See, I just used that mop on Thursday night to complete my assigned household chore for the previous week, which was kitchen floor (once again sweeping the floor isn't all you do for that one). We have 1 mop with 1 mop pad, that you throw in the wash to clean when you're done with it. Well, we usually throw it in our soiled kitchen towels bin and then wash the kitchen towels at the end of the week when the bin is full. Someone else prematurely washed the kitchen towels that week so the bin only had 1 other towel in it and then the mop pad when I was done with it. Fast forward about 48 hours and He-'mate decides to do the wrong chore for his week and does kitchen floor (he was assigned to living room, so wrong room entirely!). Useless, right? It's been only 2 days since I swept, thoroughly mopped, and did the remainder of the tasks that chore has assigned to it (which he didn't do). Then, I threw the used, dirty mop pad in the bin.

So... the question is... what did he mop with? He broke my mop, so obviously he did use the thing. The mop pad was still in the bin, probably still wet to some degree since it was in a heap in the bin with another towel (or two?). She-'mate and I, to our horror, both think he used the already filthy mop pad to mop the floor. GROSS! Seriously?!?!?! So, he just put back everything that I mopped up on Thursday, essentially. Disgusting!

Well, since I knew I'd be gone by the time he got home and I was busy doing my chores anyway, I wrote him a quick note on the board saying he should have told me. That's literally all I said- "M***, you broke my mop and should have told me." [Well, I also asked him about using the dirty mop pad 'cuz She-'mate and I were curious/disgusted.] I mean, that's common courtesy, isn't it? You break something of someone else's, you tell them and say you're sorry, and leave the broken item out where they can see it or hand it to them directly. Then, if you can (and you better be able to somehow!) you offer to replace the item. Luckily its a mop- something easy and cheap to replace.

Well, She-'mate was there to witness the s***storm that was next and called me LITERALLY seconds after it happened. Now, the nature of my note was pretty straightforward and direct. There was no hidden message there. I'm not, nor did I say, I was pissed off about the actual breaking of the mop. It was the fact that he didn't give me the courtesy of telling me, but instead appeared to be hiding it. My grandmother even read my note when she came to pick me up and said there wasn't anything malicious about it. Well, He-'mate read it and FLEW OFF THE HANDLE! He stomped off into his room, threw some s*** around in there, slammed his door, and then spewed some crazy tirade at She-'mate. "This is so passive-aggressive! If she has something to say to me, she can say it to my face! I was gonna replace the mop! What, was she going to take it back home with her?! I'm going to call her!" She-'mate stared at him like he was a moron that was super over-reacting. And he was. And it's not passive-aggressive if I call you out BY NAME and say DIRECTLY what I had to say. If I had said "To WHOEVER broke my mop!" knowing it was He-'mate, THAT would have been passive aggressive. And I didn't have anything else to say. I didn't want to accuse him of covering anything up in case that was not his intention. I think he got mad 'cuz I called him out for using a filthy, soiled, already used, not washed mop pad and it embarrassed him.

So, he did call me, which I promptly ignored and left me a brief voicemail that I deleted without listening to. Spoke to She-'mate about it and she told me all the above. Told my grandma and aunt (who were sitting with me at lunch at a restaurant while all this went down).

He texted me yesterday saying we should sit down and air out our grievances when I get back. I don't know what the point of that would be. We're only going to be living together for a few more weeks. As soon as school's over, which I believe is December 6th, I'm going to begin the packing process. My ideal would be to move/be done packing before Christmas. That way after Christmas the cleaning and painting of my room back to its original color can take place. So, really, 3 or 4 more weeks tops of all of us living under the same roof. And I already knew a long time ago that there was no way we'd be friends after all this. Its too late. Even if things didn't go as they did, I really don't have anything in common with He-'mate anymore. We met at school and bonded over many school related things, but I don't have that with him anymore. And soon he won't have that either. The reality is, there wasn't much there besides that. So, to me, sitting down and airing out any grievances is a moot point. I'd just like to get through the next few weeks, get my schooling done, and go forth.

So... that was the start to my "vacation", which is really not a vacation, but a family business trip. I'm helping take care of a few things and lending a hand where needed so that a few things can get done and fixed or on their way to fixed.

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TRISHAKAY17 11/20/2012 7:50PM

    Wow. Sounds like a lot of drama. Hope everything goes smoothly in your last few weeks living with him.

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ARUNNINGKAT 11/20/2012 2:35PM

    Life is so full of drama sometimes. Hope the next few weeks go by smoothly and peacefully! emoticon

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 11/20/2012 1:44PM

    OMG!!! What a drama queen he is! His overreaction was definitely because he was embarrassed. I hope the 3-4 weeks go by fast! Do you know where you're going to move?

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30 Days of Thankful- Day 18 & 19

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

I'm going to be spotty... or spottier than usual... on these this week because I'm visiting my parents. All my stuff is at home to take pics of, so I have nothing here. Sorry. The next few will be bland.

Day 18, Nov. 18
Today I am thankful for my fun magazines- Eating Well and Cooking Light

I used to have 4 or 5 magazine subscriptions. The only ones I ever really read cover-to-cover were these two cooking magazines. And then I read something by Coach Nicole, and I'm not sure what it was as it was such a long time ago (whether a blog or status update or article written by her, I'm not sure!) that said something about having subscriptions to magazines that don't necessarily make you feel good about yourself or even your journey. The other two magazines I subscribed to were Women's Health and Shape... Actually there was a third one called Bust that was very indie/feminist- that one was good, just REALLY expensive. Those two magazines always show some ultra-skinny celebrity on the cover in a bikini. Granted they tie in how those celebs supposedly keep that figure by interviewing them about their diet and exercise regimen. The reality is, knowing what I know about nutrition and exercise, is that there has to be something else, something unhealthy, going on for them to THAT thin and still eat the way they supposedly do. So, I finally ditched those. I'm still getting Women's Health as my subscription hasn't run out yet, but my Shape subscription did and I didn't renew. So, I'll stick with my cooking magazines. I always like them around to generate ideas. I rarely follow their recipes to a T unless it's something that looks incredible as-is or is a baked good, 'cause I'm not so good at baking. They always talk about ethnic cuisines or places to go for good food in a certain city. They'll feature vegetables or fruits in several recipes to show outside-the-recipe-card thinking. I like that. Thanks magazines, for existing!

Day 19, Nov. 19th
Today I am thankful for GOOD BOOKS!

I am, or used to be, an avid reader. College tends to take up a lot of time normally spent on "fun" reading... replaces it with boring readings about the Mongolian expansion in the Orient or the long-winded writings of Immanuel Kant. I read a lot of fiction. I guess I'd rather use my reading as entertainment than as always learning about something. Sometimes the brain needs a rest! I really like reading Stephen King. He's wordy, so it takes a while to read something of his. And, recently, a book of his I've been waiting for was finally released in paperback. It's part of his Dark Tower series, which is one of the best series I've read. It's not scary, or horror, like he usually writes. It's more fantasy. And it's really good. So, I'm anxious to get a hold of that book and start reading! I'm also a classic lit type person. I stocked up when Borders went out of business (got about 40 books!) and the majority are classics- Frankenstein, Dracula, Siddhartha, Journey to the Center of the Earth- to name a few. I've never read the Harry Potter series (the shame!) and would like to, so I'll be gearing up to do that in the near future. So, I have the books to read or a to-read list. I just need to remember to carve out some fun time to do it.

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 11/22/2012 7:17AM

    I love magazines and books! Reading is what keeps me going being shut in alot!
Love Tara French, Dean Koontz, Stephen King, Lee Child, Jonathan Kellerman and so many others (Maeve Binchy and Elizabeth Berg)!!!!

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ARCHIMEDESII 11/20/2012 12:52PM

    I used to subscribe to subscribe to Bon Appetit. great magazine. I'd occasionally pick up a copy of Gourmet. another great cooking mag. Of course, neither or them are in business anymore ! boo... My brother used to get Cook's Illustrated. These days, I just watch America's Test Kitchen on PBS. I love the PBS cooking shows.

And I hate to say it, but I bought more than my fair share of books when Borders went out too. It felt like I was picking over a carcass like a vulture. great deals, but I'm always sad when a bookstore goes out of business.

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30 Days of Thankful- Day 17

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Day 17, Nov. 17
Today I am thankful for my little "niece".

I had a wonderful visit with the cutest little bundle of joy! It was nice to spend time with her just me, her mommy, and baby. I hemmed a pair of pants for my friend (yay, my first bite since posting my flyers!) and we spent a good deal of the afternoon together just catching up and enjoying the company of everyone. Even kitty came and joined in on the action. I simply love that little girl. She's truly a blessing.

During yesterday's visit. (Approx. 5 mos)

Just a few weeks after she was born.

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 11/22/2012 7:21AM

    Adorable...both of you!

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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/19/2012 12:54PM

    Awww a very nice auntie and neice photo. Don't think I have any photos of me and my neice and nephew. Sad!! Now they are grown! Your neice is adorable and you are looking great too!!

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ARCHIMEDESII 11/18/2012 3:21PM

    Now that is a happy baby !! too cute.


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DIANER2014 11/18/2012 1:42PM

    She's adorable! emoticon

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ABB698 11/18/2012 1:37PM

    aww, she's a doll! And woo hoo for the business from the flyer!!

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 11/18/2012 12:15PM

    What a cutie!

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OLIVIANIGHT 11/18/2012 9:08AM

    Aww she's so cute! I love babies, they're just adorable.

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TCANNO 11/18/2012 4:52AM

    She is lovely

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30 Days of Thankful- Day 15 & 16

Saturday, November 17, 2012

I'll post 17 tonight. It's been a very busy few days. I'm trying to get all my homework and household stuff done this week because I'm heading to my parent's house for the holiday on Sunday. I'll be spending a whole week with my family, including a sober mom! Yay!

Day 15, Nov. 15
Today I am thankful for jackets.

Some women obsess over shoes. Some over purses. Some over shades of red nail polish. I obsess over jackets. Sad, really, since I live in Southern California, the land of no seasons (particularly winter). But, I sure do love a good coat. I have several that I wear on the regular, and a few I keep put away (mostly because I haven't fit into them in some time). I regularly wear the big green trench-like coat, fuzzy leopard print, and green corduroy sport coat. I keep my letterman's jacket put away (I lettered in the performing arts academy I was in, as well as played powder puff football one year), the tan/orangey suede coat [top right] stays packed away- hence all the wrinkles- and my long red jacket that I got from a thrift shop stays in storage as well. Its some sort of polyester fabric that I'm pretty sure was once paired with an equally vintage leisure suit. I have more jackets than this, these are just the highlights. And certainly don't include the hoodies! I do need a peacoat to round out my collection.

Jackets... I love you.

Day 16, Nov. 16
Today I am thankful for the non-meat proteins of garbanzo beans and lentils.

I am allergic to beans. Well, all the ones that seem to fall into the kidney shaped realm anyway- kidney, black, pinto, navy, cannelini... Sad. Somehow, though, my body seems to be okay with garbanzo beans and lentils. Also, I do fine with nuts, so it's not a full-blown legume allergy. Maybe it's more of a food intolerance. Anyway, I'm glad I have these options when Meatless Monday comes around or I'm just down to watch my cholesterol intake. I use these puppies quite a bit (which is why I keep so many lentils in my pantry) and I always have no less than 2 cans of garbanzos.

Thanks you two for not killing me when I eat you.

Homemade kalamata olive and artichoke hummus

Cooked lentils to go in my Vegan Lentil Chili

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 11/22/2012 7:23AM

    LOL... hey, there is nothing wrong with this collection!
Love the food...and meatless Monday!
Enjoy time with. Your Mom!

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RORYLYONS 11/17/2012 5:13PM

    I love my jackets too....Been busy cleaning the house for the visiting family expected this week...Have a Happy Thanksgiving! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/17/2012 1:37PM

    I really enjoy blazers. I understand your love of jackets. (smiling)

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30 Days of Thankful- Day 14

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Day 14, Nov. 14
Today I am thankful for my good health.

Yes, I've been sick for the last few weeks, although feeling tons better lately. Still with some runny nose issues, but really, feeling much more normal. Plus, it's not like I have anything seriously wrong with me. I'm not malnourished, no cancer, no heart disease, no terminal or debilitating illness of any sort. For all intents and purposes, I am healthy. I feel great being healthy. I have a life I am able to live because I am healthy. So, I am certainly thankful for my good health. Because there are a lot of people out there that aren't healthy.

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DIANER2014 11/16/2012 8:09PM

    Good for you! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/15/2012 8:19AM

    Good for you! Yes, I never take my good health for granted. It's truly a gift. Have a wonderful day.

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  emoticon emoticon for sharing!

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LANAHAUTH21 11/14/2012 11:57PM

  It does feel good to be healthy.

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