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My Last Big Supper Phase is Finally Over, Just in Time!

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Since Thanksgiving just two months ago, I have been struggling to eat healthy and exercise more again. Before that, I had been consistently losing weight each week and feeling better about myself eating the South Beach Lifestyle way and exercising more For Thanksgiving my family and I went to a nice Restaurant for a big and delicious turkey dinner and I stuffed myself to the point where I felt uncomfortable. At that dinner once again my dil told me how much better and thinner I looked. Well, maybe I got smug and just thought without much effort or hard work on my part and even with a little food cheating I would continue to lose weight. Well, as you all know just wanting and wishing it doesn't make it happen for us. I swear, from that day on I slowly lost my Spark and Healthy Focus and started eating basically what I wanted to again with not much thought to the consequences of my unhealthy choices. Plus I just about stopped exercising always coming up with excuses for myself or thinking I will do that later and then later never happened. I was in a downward spiral screaming inside for me to get a grip and get out of this very dark "hole" of abuse I was doing to my body.

It's been long two months with no weight loss and almost too afraid to WI and see what damage I had done to myself with my old unhealthy habits sneaking back in again. I didn't want to know how much weight I was gaining and didn't want to know what the scale said as was actually ashamed of myself and didn't want to post my weight gain in my Team's Weight Loss Challenges anymore. I was in total denial of the harm I was doing to myself both mentally and physically by not being accountable to myself nor to those friends who cared about me. Finally, a few good friends reached out to me and wondered if they could help and just knowing others did care about my well being touched me deeply. I'm usually the strong one for others but this time I needed someone myself to lean on for help and support--and they were there for me.

This week I've been re-reading articles and the South Beach Book again as this plan worked the best for me. It's eating good food with very little processed food on it. When I was on South Beach my sugar and starch cravings were almost non-existent. My Dr. was thrilled with my success and my lab work results were better than ever and my weight hadn't been this low in almost 15 years. Well, this morning, I decided it was high time to get back on the scale to find how just how much weight I had gained. I found out how quickly it is to re-gain 10 pounds and I honestly can't say I was shocked as I expected it to be about that. It's amazing how hard it is to lose 10 pounds but so easy to gain them right back. I wasn't a bit depressed to see how my unhealthy bad habits had affected me as I knew I was finally motivated again to do what I know works well for me, the South Beach Plan and exercising more. I know it will take time to re-lose the pounds but I know I'm ready to do what it takes to make that Happen and move forward again.

This Week I've been making getting Healthy and working to a Happy Weight a top priority again. . .after all no one can do this for us but we for ourselves. I am working on some new doable Goals to achieve. I'm glad to be honest and accountable for my weight gain and to move forward again. My pants were getting tight when they had been loose on me just 2 months ago. If it wasn't for those of you who noticed and cared I'm not sure when it would have hit me in the face like it did. . .but, I know eventually I would have come to the same conclusion myself. As I haven't worked hard for almost 3 years to lose weight only to regain it all back in a short period of time. In some ways I feel we're all a Work in Progress and no one is perfect and I've never even dared think I am in any way. I've even wondered if I hide behind my fat as I've never been one who likes to be the Center of Attention and maybe this is my way to protect myself from being hurt again.

If you have a friend who is struggling with food choices or a healthy lifestyle tell him/her kindly that you care about them and do support them. It's amazing how a caring friend can give us a wake up call about ourselves. Thank you all from the bottom of my Heart as I couldn't go on and do well without all of your encouragement, support and God's Strength.

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~KINDREDSPIRIT~ 7/5/2014 4:02AM

    You have my support...you are kind and deserving of whatever you set your mind to - you are a great support to everyone and deserving of our support.

barbara

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JUDY106 3/15/2014 10:05AM

    Thanks for responding to my status feed. You are the only one that got through to my email. I miss those notices of my friends blogs. I added you as a friend please be my friend also read your Spark page. I relate completely to your story and to this blog. Hugs, Judy.

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CTUPTON 1/28/2014 10:06PM

    emoticon I am so glad you came to your sparkfriends for support. You advise and support all of us. It is our turn to help you out. We love you dearly! Be good to yourself through chatting with friends, enjoying your growing family, doing things you love. Maybe a flower show is coming up in your area??? chris

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SLIMTHICK2 2/10/2013 6:00PM

    Wonderful blog my friend. I can totally relate to so much of what you said. Here's to your success and all the best for the week ahead. emoticon

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DONNAJZ4241 2/4/2013 6:32PM

    Thank you, Jill, for writing such a heartfelt blog. I am a friend of Martha's who has also been struggling to the point where over the past year I have regained several pounds...28 to be exact. I have been searching for that "magic moment" that would get me back on track but it surely doesn't happen easily for me. I can definitely relate to what you wrote and I agree that having friends who care and reach out to us during our difficult times an be just what is needed to get us back on track. I'm glad that happened for you, and I thank Martha for pointing me in the direction of your blog.

Good luck with getting back on track. Once you get a few good days under your belt, things will get a little easier. I am also starting over today (again) because continuing to gain is ruining my health and I feel horrible. I would like to add you as a Spark friend so we can stay in touch.

Donna

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ESYLVANTUTOR207 2/4/2013 11:30AM

    Hi Jill.....You know I have been having my own struggles lately. After the recent death of my dad, I guess a lot of things didn't seem that important anymore, including focusing on a healthy lifestyle. I have been slowly trying to get back on track.

Well, this blog did it for me. I connected with everything you said. It gave me the motivation to begin anew and not worry about the 13 pounds I've gained over the last months. I know that I am not alone and your blog made me feel so much better . I thank you for that and for recommitting yourself to doing better because it gave me the spark I needed to do the same thing. Amazing, isn't it...how one heartfelt blog can reach so many of us who are struggling too?

So sorry that I was so involved in my own misery that I didn't realize that you were struggling too. You are such a dear friend and I am so happy that you are re-energized for this journey. Yes, it is a long and often difficult one, but if we NEVER GIVE UP we will reach our goals, one day at a time. Love you and sending you lots of hugs. ((HUGS))
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VTMAID 2/1/2013 9:09AM

    Hi Jill--Thanks for writing such an excellent heartfelt blog. The thing is, it could have been written by any one of us, myself included. For whatever reason, there are quite a few of us who have been on Spark and have lost our way.
I've been on Spark for 3 years and gained 30 pounds. I cannot keep going along the path I've been following.
Thank you again for the blog. It was inspirational and make me realize I need to do exactly what you are doing--recommiting to a healthy eating plan and a healthy way of living.
I am glad you shared with everyone--you are one nice lady!
Love,
Karen

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SPEEDY143 1/26/2013 10:24PM

    Been there... done that emoticon We all have and 10 pounds seems to be the magic number emoticon Takes forever to get off... goes back on in no time emoticon Blogging helps to put the breaks on emoticon At the very least you feel better being honest with yourself and others and it give you a new starting point emoticon

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QUIETUDEAGAIN1 1/26/2013 2:38PM

  So glad you are at the point that you are heading back up the ladder to success. I am also thinking that I am just about there too. I have been coasting on my 35 pound loss for so long. I think part of me is saying well, no one noticed so what's the point. But, the point is that "I" know I lost it and it's time to lose some more. It doesn't matter if someone doesn't notice, but I really suppose it does matter! I've read the South Beach and it looks so do-able, I'm just scared of the lack of "breads" because those are what keeps my tummy from nausea. I always give up and then eat a whole loaf in one sitting. But, I'm thinking about it, I'm thinking about it. I'm the type of person that has to quietly think about changes for a long time before actually doing them. Here's to your success. emoticon

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TXMEMAW6 1/25/2013 7:33PM

    Jill, What courage it took to write your blog!! I'm so proud of you and happy that you are finding your way back. I know only too well how easy it is to regain. I've done it too many times to count. Just know that you have many friends who are here to love, support and encourage you. I count myself among them!! You can and will succeed...and so will I. Take care and have a great weekend!! Hugz!!! Sharon

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1FARMER 1/25/2013 6:25PM

    I am sad that you lost your way. That can happen so fast. Please know that way want to help you in the ways that you support all of us.
Please know Jill that we need and love you. emoticon Jeanne
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CJMOK1121 1/25/2013 12:21PM

    OMG Jill, I knew in my heart there must be something going on with you. I'm sorry I didn't respond to you sooner. You are a most wonderful friend and an AWESOME leader. I know sometimes the Holidays just get us all off and back onto those old habits. I too am one of those who just get inside myself and eat and even though I know I'm just hurting myself I just can't seem to pull myself out of it. I'm so glad you are back on track and I know the South Beach diet is a really good place to start.

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OHMEMEME 1/24/2013 8:54PM

    Thank you for your honesty. I needed to hear it. I have done the same. Keep Sparking!

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TUBLADY 1/24/2013 5:59PM

    Jill Dear, I was sorry to hear you got off track, but elated to know you are back doing what worked in the first place.
You are not alone, I don't know how many times I worked months at losing only to gain the pounds back in days. My daughter and I were just discussing that yesterday. And why this time I am keeping the pounds off..
I feel it's my last chance. I used up all my get out of jail free cards. At my age I can't afford to yo yo diet. Plus I love my wardrobe and refuse to buy larger clothes. Smile!!
If losing weight was so easy everyone would be doing it and we would have no obesity. It's hard, it takes time and commitment.
Well you have both and I know you will do the best ever to lose as much as you can, with no more slip ups.
It's easy to get complacent. I have to check myself often.
Take care.
Be strong, stay positive.
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KADYSMOM11 1/24/2013 4:35PM

    I did the same thing Jill. So glad you found your way back! I'm trying...hope some of your enthusiasm rubs off on me!!! Good for you girl!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JINLYNN 1/24/2013 1:36PM

    Glad you are back on track - it is so easy to get off course, and it takes real honesty and courage to face ourselves and change course to a more healthier lifestyle. You are such an inspiration to me.
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NPA4LOSS 1/24/2013 10:47AM

    I am so glad that you are able to return to what works for you. emoticon and emoticon emoticon

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IOWAGRAMMA 1/24/2013 10:30AM

    Dearest Jill: Hugs, hugs, hugs!! Just having you "back" is awesome and I can see much success in your (our) future!! Love that you worked at figuring it all out...and thank you for being so honest. That is something we all need to do and be every single day! You are such a blessing in our lives! We need to band together FOR one another. More another time, as I'm shutting the puter down in a few minutes! Thanks for the sunglasses...not sure I'll need them, but I can hope, right? Love you, Warrior Sister!! XOXO Jeannie

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WENDYJM4 1/24/2013 5:14AM

    glad you are back on track Jill, I know how easy it is to slide back into our old habits.
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EATVEGAN 1/24/2013 2:54AM

    Hi, Jill, I'm sorry to hear you were struggling. Glad you're turning it around. I could have written this blog, but I found it very difficult to put the 16 # I gained back on. I had to work on it, eat every thing I hadn't even wanted for more than 6 months, go back to old habits with a vengeance, etc. But I did it. 16 big awful pounds. And I couldn't seem to turn around. Finally, about 3 days ago, I found the main problem. I had started eating while reading and watching movies again. When I started SP I started eating at the table. I had let that habit slip and when I let the food choices slip also, I was in trouble...big time. Well, you and I are going to turn around and do this things and we're not going to quit, are we? I have your "Won't quit" on my desktop and have read it several times lately. I'm so glad you're back. emoticon emoticon
Janet

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/24/2013 2:24AM

    Getting back on track is easy with the help of friends and a positive attitude like yours .I admire your courage !

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BELDONDOG1 1/23/2013 4:09PM

    My dear sis, I am so happy that you wrote this blog. You really needed to write it and we all needed to read it. But by being a leader, I know it had to be harder for you than for us followers. I kept checking out the challenge and had seen that you weren't posting on it. You had been under so much stress and I know you had to be putting on a few pounds also. Since I had put on a little over 15# since my scare at the end of September, I knew it was because I was so stressed out over everything. Then my birthday, thanksgiving and Christmas. All "chow down" days. But like you, I too, woke up like you did. This b.s. had to stop and thank God it has for both of us.
The very best of luck to you, my precious sis, and I wish you only the best. You have every number you need to get ahold of me if you need me. Love you, honey!

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SUSIEPH1 1/23/2013 2:57PM

    I am so glad you are back on track my lovely friend ...It is so easy to slide back into old habits ...
Way to go Jill for waking up to getting back on track before no further damage is done ..
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MS.ELENI 1/23/2013 11:49AM

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I was where you were for months. I even took my weight ticker down.I recently put it back up. emoticon emoticon

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NEWTEXDEBBIE 1/23/2013 11:27AM

    Dear sweet Jill.....
TY for comming back to us again! I have missed you and because I stay buried in my own misery I failed to notice your struggles. I'm sorry and hope to see you here with us again!

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_KATHY 1/23/2013 11:26AM

    Jill...I know that becoming honest with yourself is the most important component to a healthier weight and being healthy overall. That is what you have done. I don't think anyone can make permanent changes without self honesty. I'm very happy for you :)
Hugs
Kathy

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LISBETHSALANDER 1/23/2013 11:20AM

    My dear friend, you had a detour but you are committed again to your path. You are on the right track, understanding the behavior and recognizing the denial. You have given them the knock out punch by sharing them with us and making the commitment to your plan.
This is your new beginning.

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JAOTAO 1/23/2013 11:10AM

    Oh, Dear Jill .. your words touched me deeply. It takes a lot of courage to face our demons, and you did just that. Thanks goodness you stopped it now at 10 lbs! As you know, I didn't stop until I regained 33 lbs. Sometimes no matter how strong we are, the journey or the burden gets too overwhelming and drains our energies. It is good that those reached out to you and in return you reached out as we can all share in your journey and learn from it as well. We don't have to suffer in silence - which can be my mode sometimes as well.

You are a good friend and excellent team leader. I know you will be successful as you have already turned this around!

Love, Jackie
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MASTERPIECE8 1/23/2013 11:05AM

    emoticon blog, Jill.

Let me say: I am so happy for you. I am so proud of you. I know you can do it and I know you will do it.

It takes courage to write a blog like you did. That's how I know you want it badly and that's how I know you will do it. You did write that blog.

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ESILBO 1/23/2013 10:55AM

    DEAR JILL, YOU SO DESERVE IT. THE BEST IS AWAITING FOR YOU. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT. YOU COME BACK, NOW, BEFORE WE WOULD JUST LET IT GO. NOW WE KNOW BETTER. FEW DAYS OR MONTHS OFF, DOES NOT TAKE THE JOURNEY AWAY.
WITH YOU ALL THE WAY, MY FRIEND. I AM ALWAYS HERE IF YOU NEED ME.
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I Take this Seriously. . . My Never Quit Pledge!!

Monday, April 16, 2012

Monday, April 16, 2012

Today, I promise I will not quit.
I pledge that no matter, how many ups and downs I pass through,
I will continue on my journey.
I pledge to make a NEW START today, and forgive myself for my past, and to stop being so critical of myself.
I pledge to take control of myself, to Stop making excuses, and stop blaming other people or situations.
I pledge to treat myself as I would my Best Friend, because that is who I am.
I pledge to stay in the race and to be a WINNER!

Signed: Jill Suter

Will you join us and post your own Never Quit Pledge?
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A good Spark Friend Posted this Pledge yesterday and I feel exactly the same way as no matter if it takes a Lifetime I will do my best at eating healthy and moving more. I'm in it for the "long haul". I'm actually happier since I joined Spark as rather than losing over 40 pounds I probably would have gained more weight than that. SparkPeople has enriched my life in so many ways and I thank those involved for keeping this a free website. I've made so many caring friends and appreciate and love every single one. I may be slower than a Turtle but in the end I will achieve all my Weight Loss Goals and be far healthier for achieving them.. I feel more confidant about myself now and even have learned to love myself more. I've learned so much from this website and all of you--thank you for being there for me! Overall, I feel better now than before I found Spark. Hugs to all of you trying like me to stop the excuses and keep moving forward. You and I both have what it takes to be Healthier!


I will make a Copy of this for Myself and Post it up in my kitchen where I spend a lot of my day!

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JEWELSGMA 5/31/2014 8:06PM

    I saved this Pledge to yes we can do it even if i mess up one day i start over the next day because i wont give up till i reach my goal emoticon

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SALLYANNE0852 2/16/2013 2:13PM

    i do every morning and every night and i don't know what happens to me in between emoticon

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INSPIRATIONAL3 10/16/2012 5:30PM

    Dearest Jill,

I certainly pledge also. I also make a committment to myself and the sisters here we are on this journey together and won't stop until we succeed.

Yvonne

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HALLALUYAH 8/24/2012 10:57AM

    Thanks Ms. Jill for this. I am going to copy the pledge and share it too. God bless you.
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DINIE123 8/11/2012 9:44PM

  Great blog, so honest. I admire you, your attitude is wonderful and inspiring. Thank you for reminding me to honesly make a pledge to myself and keep it.
Keep up the good work. I made you a spark friend because you sound so positive and dedicated, just like I need to be. I am sorry you don't still have the buddy you had, but you can do this. Diane emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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1FAVOREDLADY 7/31/2012 8:27PM

    Yes! I sure needed this

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QUIETUDEAGAIN1 7/13/2012 4:17PM

  Great pledge and yes, keeping up with this crowd is a good thing as it helps keep the weight from going up.

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WENDYJM4 7/8/2012 7:35PM

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EATVEGAN 6/10/2012 2:18AM

    Okay, I just saved the pledge to my desktop and will print, sign, and hang it up as soon as I am near my printer. Thanks for the inspiration. emoticon

Janet

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JOANOFSPARK 5/12/2012 8:08PM

    Yes, I will take this pledge...am going to post it on a blog right now.....and pass it on, though not today....but soon....and running off a copy to put up so that I can see as I go by is an awesome thought.......thanks for the blog and for being such a sweet and dependable friend..........
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SLIMTHICK2 5/6/2012 3:03PM

    I've been off line for such a long time and just got back on today. Glad to read of your pledge and I know that you will make it. Like me you're in for the long haul and I'm sure glad to have a friend like you on this journey, keep on keeping it real Jill. All the best to you. emoticon

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RETURNTOTHIN 4/28/2012 10:14PM

    YEA Jill, I have this pledge printed on Orange paper (of course) and hanging in my bathroom.... to read every day! Love to you..... Keep smilin'

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JINLYNN 4/19/2012 8:01PM

    As a fellow turtle - I salute you! I like your pledge - it is a great reminder that we are all in this for the long haul. Thanks for sharing it!

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_KATHY 4/19/2012 1:17PM

    Thanks Jill. Great reminder of what is important each and every day!
Hugs
Kathy

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DIDMIS 4/18/2012 10:56AM

    Thanks Jill, I pledge to maintain my goal weight and a little below it.
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NPA4LOSS 4/17/2012 9:08PM

    emoticon I Pledge!

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MOMFAN 4/17/2012 12:31PM

    Amen for me too!

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SUSIEPH1 4/17/2012 2:33AM

    HI Jill ....
I also have taken the Pledge !! woo hoo .. here we go ..
Thank you my dear friend for the lovely comments on my blogs .. I really appreciate your support and encouragement ...
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GRANNYSUE9 4/16/2012 7:13PM

    It is a pledge we should all take!

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GEMINISUE 4/16/2012 5:28PM

    This means the world to me to see this posted by you and passed on. Hugs Linda

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Yes Jill we are all in this together, much success to you and all our Spark friends!

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TUBLADY 4/16/2012 5:07PM

    The Never Quit Pledge is an excellent one to adhere to.
Once you are into this healthy lifestyle it seems very normal and you forget that you lived any other way.
After all you are forming habits. Good habits.
So many of the actions and choices I make now, seem just as natural to me as if I have been doing them for years.
But of course there are a few that take longer. I didn't say it was a walk in the park, no it's work, but so worth it.
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ESILBO 4/16/2012 4:37PM

    GO FOR IT GIRL...WE CAN ALL DO IT TOGETHER
LOVE
LISE

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SUE_2U 4/16/2012 4:33PM

    emoticon Heck, you ARE doing it! Spark On, my friend! YAY!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 4/16/2012 3:33PM

    YOU GO GIRL! These are lofty ideals and goals, and I know if we all adhere to them and believe in them, we will be the healthy people we strive to be. They're going up in my kitchen too. We can never quit--this new lifestyle is for LIFE!

Thanks Jill for sharing!!

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TORTILLAFLATS 4/16/2012 3:23PM

    We will do it!!! Yes we will!! I like the idea of you putting it on the refrigerator. A great place to post it!

Have a great day!
Hugs, Gail

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 4/16/2012 2:47PM

    Jill, you're so awesome! I'm so proud of all that you have done, and all that you do! emoticon

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MS.ELENI 4/16/2012 2:01PM

    ditto ditto ditto ditto
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MASTERPIECE8 4/16/2012 1:37PM

    Lise is definitely 'Spreading the Spark!'

Good luck to you, Jill. We'll remain comitteed and Never Quit together.

Barb

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My Son, my Inspiration to Get Healthy in 2012!

Sunday, January 01, 2012

My oldest son, Brent, is 38 years old and has always lived with me. Unfortunately, since he was 15 years old he fights "demons" that I only can imagine would be terrible to deal with. He has a severe mental illness and yet is the most caring and loving son I could ever imagine. He is always there for me and rarely complains about the poor "hand" in life he has had to cope with daily. From the little bit he tells me he lives in a very scary world most of the time. Yet, he is usually cheerful and is the type of guy that would give a cold stranger the shirt off his back. I really admire him and worry about him as due to his mental state he is very dependent on me. He has told me a few times he doesn't think he could go on without me. I know it's not true but it makes me want to be there for him as long as possible. I need and want to lose a lot of weight for myself but also he inspires me to do it for him. He is the most wonderful son I could have ever asked for--he truly is a kind, unselfish and loving person.

I've recently been sick and have had the chills at night so the other night I asked him if he could bring me an extra blanket and he quickly did that. Early the next morning he told me he was cold last night and when I asked him why he said that's because I gave you my blanket. That's just the kind of person and son he is.

I feel I've been selfish in not making more of an effort to always eat healthy and exercise as I'm not only doing it for only myself but for him. With my computer down almost the whole month of December I've slipped back into some of my unhealthy ways--not eating right and very little exercise. So, I have lots of motivation to make 2012 a Healthy year for me and I know I can do this. I'd feel healthier and stronger and be the better for it. My son in lots of ways isn't as demanding of me as I am of him. Sometimes he's the one that reminds me that yes I have the strength to do this Healthy Journey right and be happier at the same time. He's the best reason I can think of to finally get healthier and live a more fulfilled life myself.

  
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NPA4LOSS 4/7/2012 8:10PM

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BETHV10 3/27/2012 2:24PM

    Your blog was very touching to me. My son was healthy as a horse until last year when he developed tachycardia. It crushed his plans to be a Marine and threw him into a tailspin with no idea what to do with his life now. He's working through it but I can tell you that it took a lot of strength to so completely change directions with his life. I'm very proud of him as you are of your son. Life throws you some curve balls and we have to make the most of it. emoticon

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ROCKANDROLL7 3/18/2012 1:01AM

    Your a very strong lady ,and it is good you see you can not

help

your son if your gone. Weight killed my sister in her mid

50s. March 31 she has been gone 10 long years she should have

been here.

Time is important as no one is promised tomorrow.

I am glad you are on your weight loss journey NOW.

As for your son all i can say is i knew some who had such

issues and their life was very hard. I do think most people

who have such issues are super kind and loving people. The

person i knew is gone on now but they are well now and happy.


In Heaven all are well. This person i knew is well now ,

and my sister is too as she

use to tell all of herself " in heaven i want be know as the

fat lady".

Take heart if your time to go comes first your son will make

it especially with a kind heart as he has.

Good luck and thanks for dropping on on my blog. I am in

hopes it will help someone especially if they read between

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RORYLYONS 3/2/2012 1:00AM

    Your an inspiration my friend to all of us reading your blog. We are given challenges in life and through all the tough times given your son, ultimately he is a blessing for you. So glad that he is very helpful & caring but sad he has this to live with..My prayers for him as well as you on your journey to be healthy & fit. Blessings... emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 2/6/2012 10:19AM

    Having a good son is priceless! Last night, I posted a v-blog of my son's 21st birthday tribute. Don't they grow up way too fast!? Before I know it, he'll be 38, too! emoticon

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SUE_2U 1/16/2012 2:12AM

    Wow this has me all teary... what a beautiful testament to a mother's love - and her son's love for her, as well.
I have two sons with severe Autism. One is still living with us. The other would be but he has a tendency to run away and has many more severe behavioral problems, and so it is really impossible for me to safely care for him, anymore. Yet, both have always been a blessing to me.
My son Raud can't do very much, but he can make a cup of tea in the microwave and can, with some guidance, heat up meals in the microwave. I tell you, that I would not have made it through all the problems after my multiple surgeries if it were not for him. He helped me to the bathroom, helped me back to bed, fed the dog, fixed my tea and our meals, and really was smiling the whole time, always glad to do something for someone else. He's a truly good human being.
Your son sounds much like my loving son, only more functional and with speech... and they do need us to be there for them as much as we can, as long as we can. Getting healthier, for me, is also motivated by my son's need of me.
He's truly a blessing for you, too. I hope he finds a freedom from his fears.



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WVAWACKADOO 1/12/2012 2:02PM

    What a wonderful son...like Out of the Mouth of Babes. Even though he might be mentally challenged...he KNOWS that he loves you shows you by his caring ways. It IS good for you to want to get fit & healthy, so that you can live longer & continue to care for your son...Hang in there & Breathe Deep...

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OZARKMARY 1/5/2012 10:29AM

    Beautiful blog, my Friend! Yes, you must do it this time for both of you. As you start to consistently lose, you'll wonder why you haven't done this a lot sooner. Hugs

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SLIMTHICK2 1/3/2012 5:13AM

    Sorry to hear of you son's challenging situation and your recent setback. I hope and pray that you will soon get back and bypass the place that you were in 2011. All the best to you my friend, 2012 is your year. emoticon

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JINLYNN 1/2/2012 2:46PM

    What a touching and sincere blog. You are blessed by having such a gift as your son. I think he must have learned kindness and love from you.
Our lives touch many others, and you have touched mine with your blog. Thanks for sharing from your heart.
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JOANOFSPARK 1/2/2012 11:31AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon I know all too well what you are going through. And I too worry about my own son's future should anything happen to either my DH or me. But, in the end, we have to do it for ourselves, although I gotta admit that our sons are a great incentive ...and a push along the way. We can do this and we will make 2012 our year to shine and get healthier. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IOWAGRAMMA 1/2/2012 11:13AM

    Look at the love shown to you here, Jill! It's awesome, and just reinforces to me how loving and caring our SparkFamily is. You know we're all in your corner on this one. Theresa said it well...you have your own demons to fight (as do we all), but with the love and support of our Families, wherever they may be, we will achieve success!! emoticon emoticon emoticon Jeannie

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PYNETREE 1/2/2012 9:56AM

    Yes Jill, they say you have to do it for yourself, But you have the extra incentive of needing to do it, to be there for Brent.
And for all the reasons..YOU can do this. You too are fighting your own demons..poor food choices, and lack of exercise. It is hard to stay on the healthy track. But, every day, every meal, find the strength within, to do the best thing..not slip back into old familiar...EASY bad habits!

I wish you Strength, Peace, Health and Happiness in 2012 emoticon Theresa

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COOLMAMA11 1/2/2012 6:16AM

    A wonderful blog Jill, so heart warming to hear of the love between you and your son! You can do this Jill,we are here for you all the way!

Sending many blessings your way for you and your son, 2012 will be our year, let's get focused and see this through!

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ESYLVANTUTOR207 1/1/2012 11:42PM

    Hi there, Jill.....what a wonderful, hearfelt blog. And yes, my friend sometimes we do things for our children that it might be hard to do just for ourselves. Your son sounds wonderful, just like his mom. It is a New Year and I will be there right along with you, doing my best to stay healthy and strong for my children as well. We can make this a great year! The slate is clear and it a year of new beginnings. You can do it and your Spark friends will be there right beside you. ((HUGS))
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MS.ELENI 1/1/2012 10:58PM

    emoticon Have a wonderful new year

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SPEEDY143 1/1/2012 10:54PM

    My heart breaks for your sweet son who struggles through no fault of his own. And as Brent's mommy I know how much you suffer as well. What a joy that he can look past his difficulties and be such a good companion and helpmate. I applaud your resolve to make more effort... its not an easy journey but you are right... it's worth it and I think YOU have been doing a great job Jill. You are so supportive of all your Sparkfriends. It's time for us to do whatever we can to support YOU emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 1/1/2012 10:41PM

    Jill I understand what you are saying my friend .. My daughter Helen had much the same problems ..
Luckly, she is on the right medication now and is doing really well .
Please do this for your son if not for yourself he is going to need even more as time goes by, and you need to be fit and healthy for you both .... I know you can do this my friend ..
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MADKAPKID 1/1/2012 10:16PM

    Jill, this is a lovely touching blog. You are worth it...and you can make 2012 a winning year. Becoming healthier and more physically fit is a gift you give yourself...but, you are aslo giving the gift of yourself to your son. YOU can do it! I will be here rooting for you and cheering you on. Have a joy filled day, Karen emoticon

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ESILBO 1/1/2012 9:36PM

    JILL, GLAD TO SEE YOUR POSITIVE ATTITUDE...YOU CAN DO IT AND YOU DESERVE IT...I WILL BE WITH YOU ALL THE WAY...
LOVE
LISE

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I'm in a Rut and Really Disappointed in Myself

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Until about a month ago I was making WL progress and losing weight at a slow steady pace and then I somehow seemed to lose my enthusiasm even though I was still Sparking like mad and I continued to encourage others to do what I haven't been able to do for myself--eat within my calorie range and exercise more. I usually do eat Healthy but just too much of it! I'm given 1200-1550 calories a day and most days I eat at the upper range or go over it. I'm mainly doing chair marching for my exercise and I know it's better than nothing but it doesn't burn too many calories away. I need to find more cardio and strength training exercises that I enjoy and do them. I will be checking out some new exercise videos on some Team Pages to find something I will and can do on a regular basis.

Until about a month ago I had a great Accountable Buddy and she really helped me focus and "keep on my toes" and I was staying within my calorie range so I was losing weight then. I haven't lost a pound in about a month and it's because I eat too much. I'm doing myself a disservice as I'd feel so much better with less weight on my aching knees and back. My Dr. even told me that losing a significant amount of weight was the best single thing I could do for myself as it would ease up the knee & back pain I deal with daily. I want to be more mobile and be able to really live life again but it seems I'm my own worse enemy.

I was dealing with some sad family news yesterday and you know how I chose to deal with it? I made a batch of homemade Snickerdoodle cookies to drown my sadness. It was a Spark recipe with only 50 calories a cookie but the cookies with that amount of calories must have been quarter size--and mine were about the size of a small saucer! I must have plowed through a half dozen of those cookies and of coarse when I weighed myself this morning I had gained a pound and it kind of shook me up as I know I'll never lose any weight with that "don't care" mentality. We are only given one Life here on Earth and why can't I make it a healthy and good one for myself. I feel I not only am hurting myself but all the people who love me and want me around for a long time.

I am always inspired and encouraged when I read those great success stories and I want that for myself. The choice is up to me. I know no one can do this for me but me. So, this morning I went searching for my Spark book and it's time for me to re-read it and get on the right Track again. Just reading this wonderful book has really helped me in the past set doable goals and give me back my Spark again.

I am in the Fall 5% Challenge and I'm going to make just losing 5% of my weight in a couple of months my biggest goal. For me that means losing 13#s and with the right mental attitude and all the tools on Spark and with a new commitment and all my wonderful supportive friends I know I can do it! I know what to do thanks to Spark now the ball is in my court and I've got to pick it up and run, well maybe jog, with it!!

  
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DINIE123 12/27/2012 12:54PM

  Wow, you got some great feed back from this blog. It could be me writing this, It is so simple to understand in the brain intellectually, but emotions seem to override any amount of common sense that exists in my brain. I love snickerdoodles too, so I just don't make them. Nothing like a fresh hot cookie right out of the oven. O.K., so I don't bake them, that does not keep me from getting something at the store, like a fat doughnut while I am shopping. This is needed of course to give me the nergy to do the shopping. You mentioned having a buddy and lost her for some reason. I would love to have a buddy in this program to bounce ideas off of and vent frustrations and even celebrate victories. I am from Ca, San Diego, but now live in Arizona and love it. I am 70 yo, love to read, make cards, scrapbook, write, cook, crossstitch, walk, do chair exercises. I love people and do some volunteer work that I redally enjoy. I think 2013 is going to be a successful year, so I am getting organized to start my healthy eating and exercise plan. Let me know if you want a buddy, I understand if you do not. Have a great day, Diane emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KIMMIE124 12/6/2011 9:47AM

    Can you try to find something, anything, that can interrupt the eating binge? I find that if I can break away from it, I get time to re-evaluate what I'm doing, then it doesn't taste so good. Maybe you could have someone call you on the phone, set an alarm clock to go off, or be distracted by something going on in the other room or outside. All you might need is a few minutes to step outside the experience and look at it differently. Be picky, because your health is worth it. You are worth having an active life in the future. I know that it is a slow process, so we have to think long-range. We can do this! emoticon

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JOANOFSPARK 10/24/2011 12:07PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonsorry about the double post......I didn't think it posted.....but just keep on hanging in there, Jill...................WE CAN DO THIS.......!!! emoticon emoticon

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JOANOFSPARK 10/24/2011 12:05PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonI know you can do it.......just have faith in yourself......and keep on taking each day and each moment.....that's all we can do....I have been off line myself for about a month or so.......first for vacation, but then when I got back, I had a major meltdown......not just because of family crises but because I have been so frustrated with myself and I suppose also a letdown after such a great vacation, but I am back and ready to start taking it one step at a time and each moment as it happens..........WE CAN DO THIS.......!!!

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COMPUCATHY 10/23/2011 10:41AM

    It's the old "we know what to do...now we need to do what we know." You know? You can do it. You've had success. You know how much fun it is to succeed. Just eat in range and do your activity and work on the mental game. Those three things will get you going and start the ball rolling in the right direction. Keep up the good work! Thanks for your encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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PATTYCAKE17 10/22/2011 10:18AM

    Just writing your blog is such a cleansing action. You CAN and you WILL achieve your goal! You have it within you, one day at a time. I'm refocusing also, and have changed my food plan,AGAIN,lol, and am working with less WW points than I'm allowed. I CAN and I WILL get off this plateau, so help me, God! emoticon emoticon
God bless you in your efforts! emoticon

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SHARON10002 10/20/2011 9:06PM

    "I shall shape my future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me. Or I can be lost in the maze. My choice. My responsibility. Win or lose - only I hold the key to my destiny". –Anonymous

It is your choice in every moment to go forward or fall backward. Yes, you made the choice to bake and eat the cookies, but the very next thing you choose to put in your mouth is once again, your choice.

Once you can begin losing the weight again, it will make you feel better about yourself, and once you do that, you'll begin to make better choices. The past is over and done, Each minute is a clean slate on which to begin. You can tear up and throw the previous page away, and begin a new vision. emoticon

Why not run off a copy of my Motivation+Weight Loss = Goal blog and post it on your fridge, or somewhere where you have ready access to it everyday? I holds many keys to our success, mine included. It's my new blueprint.

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WENDYJM4 10/16/2011 7:41AM

    Hi Jill, we are only human and right from birth we have things put in our months. Think how you treat your grandson and this is how we were brought up, cry and we will receive food or milk. Something bad happen and then we want to put food in our mouths again. It is a very hard place to be but it is comfort eating and I don't know how we can stop it all the time. I think we do have to weaken sometimes when things do get too bad.
Don't beat yourself up, just accept that it happened and keep positive to lose your 5 % of weight. Good luck, I have faith in you.
Wendy

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JINLYNN 10/15/2011 2:20PM

    I try to look at my weight loss journey like the stock market in reverse. The market slowly goes up and down on an upward line graph - my weight loss is slowly going down and up on a downward line. I know that I will not be 'perfect' every day, but I am certainly making progress from where I started. And so are you. You are hanging in there - and that is a huge accomplishment. You may be knocked down, but you are not knocked out! Being able to be honest and transparent in your sharing is a real strength. Keep pressing on and you will reach your goals. I believe in you - believe in yourself.

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MATEYMATE1 10/13/2011 1:59AM

    You have overcome the biggest hurdle that is putting it in writing what you are feeling. We can all give you words of encouragement however, unless YOU want it to happen it will not. Don't waste this wonderful start and take little bites of the cherry. Small goals towards the big one.
I only had 16kg to loose but it took me 2yrs to do it. The last few kg's was hard to move so my daughter wrapped 7 presents up in plain paper and sent them to me. The note said I had to loose 200grams and keep it off for 1 week and I can open present 1 as a reward. Well I have all presents opened now and have reached my goal weight thanks to her. The presents was only small things like rose talc, hand cream, hair treatment, comb, bath glove. All very useful.
You hang in there girl because hey, you are worth it.
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OZARKMARY 10/12/2011 8:54PM

    Oh my dear Friend, I have no miraculous ideas or cures. Just NEVER give up on yourself. WE/ emoticon Lots of water and potty calls will get that pound off. btw Have any of those cookies left? emoticon Just kidding. I am so excited and so looking forward to seeing MM and meeting You! lol I will cusoon!

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SLIMTHICK2 10/12/2011 6:57PM

    I understand what you're going through, I've been struggling myself but I'm not giving up. I will press on and I know you will too, we will win this battle. Keep fighting friend all the best to you. emoticon

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RFJSJ50 10/12/2011 10:28AM

    Our stories are so similar! I do well and then go off track - in a major way. I went so far as to close my Spark account and give up. Something inside me wouldn't let me do that so I'm back again with a new account and a new name (I was JAKEANDNELLIE). I was so discouraged with my lack of progress and weight gain that when I was criticized by another member for team issue I couldn't deal with it. BUT Spark is where I (we) need to be for the friendship, motivation, encouragement, and motivation. I really need the trackers to keep myself accountable, even when I'm not making the best choices.
We will do this, always taking those two steps forward, no matter how many we take in the other direction! We are strong women with a vision of the life we want for ourselves. We will never stop working to reach it.
Sheila

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CTUPTON 10/12/2011 8:36AM

    Jill, I am great giving advice, too! You are a wonderful person! You help so many of us!

I don't know exactly what to tell you. What is your strongest reason for losing weight?

Maybe blog about that. I hope that helps you! Can you find a new Accountability buddy---FAST!

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DILLONNAN 10/12/2011 7:15AM

    I know what you're feeling. I'm going through it too.

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SUSIEPH1 10/12/2011 12:36AM

    Hey sweetie .!! don't beat yourself up!
that was yesterday!! and I hope you really enjoyed those cookies??? Because you won't be having them again for a while !!.Make tomorrow the first day of a new start try to plan your meals and make sure they come in at the lower range of your calories .... by doing this you have room to have a treat or two but not every day.
We are all human my love, and this is a really hard decision to make, but it will pay off in the long run it just takes time...
Hope this helps Love and Hugs Susie
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GRYPHON55 10/12/2011 12:07AM

    I hope you can get through this rough period and keep going. My sister was told to lose weight for her health (multiple health issues, on oxygen and diabetic). After losing 80 pounds, she is no longer on oxygen and not diabetic. So losing weight can really help you, there's inspiration for you!

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CJMOK1121 10/11/2011 10:40PM

    Jill: I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I have been in this mess for the past 3or 4 weeks. I have even dropped out of the team and almost deleted my page. I have decided to read more of my spark book and focus on getting back on track and keeping my mind on my exercise and not so much on challenges and teams. I miss all of you and I hope you can overcome all the down side.

YOUR SP FRIEND: CJ from OK.

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RGEETING 10/11/2011 10:26PM

    Thanks for sharing and being transparent... SP is a great "safe place" where many of us are able to be honest about the struggles on our journeys. Just reading all the comments on this post shows how many are there for you! You may have lost your other accountability partner, but it looks like you have gained many more!

Sorry about your sad family news... I'm working on having a plan for times like that... so that ahead of time I know what I'm going to do instead of eat...

I do understand your "don't care" mentality that hit you that day... I was there in August... I was still recovering from shingles, on a 2 week business trip that was made harder because I wasn't feeling well yet, and didn't have easy access to internet, so tracking was difficult and I didn't have the daily encouragement from SP friends... By the end of the 2 weeks, I remember feeling that "don't care" attitude about what I put in my mouth since I couldn't track it on SP, I couldn't measure and have easy access to determine the calories of the prepared meals (tho' I realized that I ate less at meals, but more on the snack level).

I'm realizing that it's hard enough to lose the weight the first time, I don't EVEN want to have to lose EVEN a pound a second time! :-) I'm finding that it is helpful motivation! :-)
emoticonYou're right - it's ultimately up to us! Here's to a fresh new day - (according to Anne Shirley of Green Gables or was it her teacher who said it? ) with no mistakes in it yet.
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THISISIT-PA 10/11/2011 9:38PM

    I love the chair dancing videos. I have 3 but I want more! Have you ever tried water walking/aerobics? They're my favorite exercise.

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SPEEDY143 10/11/2011 9:35PM

    Even the best cheerleader can lose her pom poms now and a again emoticonso let us "Cheer" emoticonYOU back on emoticonyour Spark journey emoticonYou know the drill... you want to succeed... you have the tools and we are here for YOU emoticon

I'm an emotional eater and it sounds like you are too. I have to remind myself everyday to love myself more than food and in order to do that I have to address why I want to over eat and its usually because I haven't had enough protein so I'm craving sweets/carbs which only make me unhappy with myself if I cave. A vicious circle that gets me no where. Try upping your protein and keep the hungries at bay with lots of water. The more weight you lose the more you'll be able to move. It's not going to come off like it did when we were younger. Don't set yourself up for failure by making your WL goal to high... I learned that the hard way. Half a pound a week is doable. And when you lose a whole pound or nothing one week you are still on track instead of getting discouraged as the weeks pass and you start to gain. emoticonsweetie.

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ICANDOTHISJEN 10/11/2011 8:23PM

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I feel you. I am going through an emotional rollercoaster for the past week due to some bad news I received from distant family. So struggling with it and trying to keep my workout schedule has been so mind boggling. Your doing good and I'm glad you got your mojo back. Keep up the positive energy and you are capable of anything!!
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TXMEMAW6 10/11/2011 6:11PM

    Jill, I can so relate to what you're feeling right now. I have been there so many times. A year ago I was 50 pounds lighter than I am right now. I was on a really good diet, exercising every day, and losing weight. Then "life" happened. I got off the diet, quit exercising, and the weight came right back on. I realized that no one can lose the weight for me and no one can make me do it. I'm back to Sparking, and so far the weight is coming off again. Slowly, but it is coming off. So, my friend, don't give up. Take a deep breath and realize that you can eat right, you can get in some exercise, and you can lose the weight. I have faith in you and you need to have faith in yourself. Remember that we all get down on ourselves from time to time, but with good friends to help and support you, you can and will do it!
Hugs to you,
Sharon

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TORTILLAFLATS 10/11/2011 4:25PM

    Jill, you can do this!!!!! I know how you feel as we have all been there. I think that rereading The Spark is a great start back to where you want to be. Remember just one pound. I will be excited to see your progress this week. Sending you strong will to eat what is right. We can do it together.
Love ya, Gail

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MASTERPIECE8 10/11/2011 4:10PM

    I have so much faith in you, Jill. Like several have mentioned here - it's time for you to take care of yourself. Put yourself first. That isn't you though; is it? It has to be in order for you to 'get fit, get healthy.'

I think if you focus on healthy foods, portion control, and getting in some exercise everything else (i.e. weight loss) will fall into place. Sometimes all I can think of is that darn scale! I hate that thing. But it takes time and I have to accept losing in small amounts. So things are starting to 'shape up' (I love that term) for me, and they will for you too.

Come on, Jill, join us and do this for yourself. Your such a loving, giving person - now love yourself. You can do this. We're all here working on it with you my friend.

This was a wonderful blog. Straight from the heart, like all of your words are.

Barb

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BETHV10 10/11/2011 2:07PM

    Jill, you are not alone! I had some considerable success until I had several serious family problems come up and I chose to not be as careful in my eating and stopped exercising. I know it is up to me as well. I wish you the best as I know it isn't easy.
We just have to keep trying until we can make it happen. At least you are not giving up as I have done in the past. You are still on SparkPeople. So, at least that is a positive for you! emoticon

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DARLENECASEY 10/11/2011 12:45PM

    Jill I don't have any great advice, but just know you are loved by all of us, me especially.You know how down I have been about myself.Just hang in there.
Love You Bunches Dear Friend
Darlene

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ESILBO 10/11/2011 11:58AM

    HI JILL, I KNOW THE FEELING BUT THE ONLY THING TO DO IS FOR YOU TO DO IT...
I AGREE WITH KAREN THAT PUTTING YOUR FOOD AND EXERCISE PROGRAM PUBLIC CAN HELP TOO...
FOR ME IS TAKING SPECIFIC GOALS FOR THE DAY LIKE, I WILL WALK 1000 STEPS TODAY, NOT I WILL TRY TO WALK TODAY...
I ALSO DID, THE FAT LOSER WHICH IS NOT FOR EVERYONE, I AGREE, BUT HE IS TRUE, WE GOT THERE, WE CAN GET OURSELVES OUT OF THERE...ONLY US CAN DO IT BY STOPPING DREAMING THAT WE CAN BE THIN BY MIRACLES...
I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY AND IF YOU NEED AN ACCOUNTABLE BUDDY, I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR ONE SINCE THE BEGINNING....
BUT I DON T GO EASY ON MYSELF, MAYBE THIS IS WHY I DON T HAVE ONE YET...
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I WANT THE BEST FOR YOU
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IOWAGRAMMA 10/11/2011 11:47AM

    Guilt saps your energy and is like glue...it just keeps you stuck where you are. So, yes, dear and sweet friend...we're happy you support us and give us all the encouragement that you do, but it is time to turn some of that toward yourself. An accountability buddy is a great way to do it, but truth be told, you really need to be honest with yourself, too. So, it all seems to keep coming back to you, doesn't it? That's not news for any of us, I think. I'm like Karen. I tend to track first--it's part of my planning for the day and helps me to know ahead of time if I want to change something. I know I always look to see where I am with my calories after I have lunch (and my lunch is generally very routine) and plug in what I'm planning for dinner. No calories left for a snack? Fine...I don't get one, or I adjust the amount of what I have for an earlier meal. It's kind of like managing your checking account--you don't wait to figure out if you have enough money to pay the bills after you've sent the check. LOL! Another thing that you might already do, but is so very helpful to me is to get a good set of measuring cups and a scale to weigh certain things. If you don't have them, get one...I love to measure my things out since I can't guess worth a darn. And, this may seem harsh to a lot of people but we don't have any deserts here--when you only get 1200-1550 (which is my range now, too), there just isn't room for deserts. I might plan something very small once or twice a week, but it is never when I have access to a whole pan or batch of anything, as that means I will eat the whole thing. I hope some day to get over that. Didn't mean to write a sermon here, but we all care too much about you to let you get down on yourself. Time to put those big girl panties on and get to work, Jill. I know you can and will do it, because you are the most important person to YOU!! Sending you tons of hugs and lots of love, Jeannie

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MS.ELENI 10/11/2011 10:37AM

    You have been so great to encourage me every day. I am still in a rut but you can do this. There are a lot of sitting exercises out there. I bet you have some Richard Simmons tapes. Everyone does. You can do those standing ones sitting in a chair for one thing. He also has a couple of sitting tapes that are good. And Jodi Stolove has many sitting tapes that are good.
here are some I use when I am being good.

Sit and Be Fit ( Stretching and Circulation)

Richard Simmons Chair exercises

Zookinesis (chair stretching and breathing.)


Jodi Stolove’s Chair Dancing Hand weights

Jodi Stolove’s Chair Dancing Seated aerobics

Later I will get you a list of actual names of tapes I have

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MADKAPKID 10/11/2011 10:33AM

    Jill, as you well know I have been right where you are. everyone here has given you some good things to think about. There isn't much I can add. I do think its important not to get too down on yourself as that keeps your thoughs in the negative. Shake those pesky thoughts off.

Its a new day! A new chance for YOU to start fresh and get yourself on track. Some days it will be harder than others to do..but, YOU can do it! I know you can. I will be sending happy , healthy hugz to you.....remember YOU can do anyting! Karen emoticon emoticon

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FLARETIREE 10/11/2011 10:21AM

    Oh Jill, I so understand. It's similar to what I was talking about a couple of weekends ago. And Snickerdoodles are my very favorite cookie...not the SparkRecipe, that's for sure. You hurt now because of your sad news and I'm sure that is making you "feel" this disappointment in yourself all the more. Karen had some great ideas. In fact, I did a copy/paste of them so I can save them. One more suggestion...if you can, get the SparkPeople Cookbook. I think that will help motivate you once more, along with the Spark book, and also give you some recipe ideas. You help keep my attitude positive with your posts and SparkGoodies and Comments, and you lift my feelings when I am down. Don't be too hard on yourself. You know what you need to do, so just put one foot in front of the other until you are back on the path you have been following so faithfully. And realize, with this blog today, you are inspiring others and helping them to get back to things that work for them.

Hugs and love,
Nancy

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CCCARTER3 10/11/2011 10:20AM

    Jill,Yes you can do this,forgive yourself and move forward.
You are doing good my going back to your SP book to help you get going again.
Yes like Karen said track everything.We are only human and sometimes we exspect to much out of ourself.
Take it one step at a time you will get there.
Hugs
CC

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VTMAID 10/11/2011 9:57AM

    Jill--I know you can do this thing! You just need a little jump start, we all do once in a while.
There are a couple of things I do which has helped a lot. One is to track everything I eat BEFORE I eat it. If I don't have enough calories left, that is usually enough to deter me from stuffing my face. The other is the dreaded E word. I hate to admit it, but it works. If chair marching is what you can do right now, then make sure you do it. If it is getting boring, increase the speed. Or find something else you can handle that you will be consistent doing.
About meals--isn't there a part of SP where there are sample meal plans? Why not try those for a bit? I think on your SP page you can also make your food diary visible to others. Kind of like me with the sticky notes on my doorframe--if you know others are watching it might help you be more accountable for what you eat. And...you could inspire someone else with your determination!
I have never heard of an Accountable Buddy? What is that--I am curious.
Take care, Jill.
Hugs
Karen

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Put Live To Be 100 on My Bucket List??

Wednesday, October 05, 2011

Even though I don't have Live to be 100 on my Bucket List following is an interesting MSN Health article that gives you good suggestions on how you can achieve that goal. I'm going to list all the things they suggested you to do to achieve that. To be honest, most of them I already do but the ones I don't I'm going to start doing them as I want to be healthier now.

1. Floss Once a Day can add 6.4 years to your Life Span

2. Take a good Multivitamin slows the signs of aging

3. Weigh Yourself Once a Week because Life-Threatening pounds can creep up and stay at a healthy weight. Staying at a Healthy Weight can add 6 to 7 years to your life.

4. 5 Days a Week eat some Nuts. Pistachios are recommended because they have less calories than most nuts and are so healthy. Eating 1 oz or 45 Pistachios at least 5 times a week can add 2 years to your Life.

5. Do Cardio Exercises 5 Days a Week for 30-60 Minutes can help your body be 20 years younger and you may grow new brain cells.

6. Every Day Commit Hara Hachi Bu - Japanese people in Okinawa live an average of 6 or 7 years longer than most of Americans Do. Hara Hachi Bu just means you only eat until your 80% full and stop--not 100% full like so many people do. Okinawas know that Life is worth Living Well and Healthy!

7. Get Enough Sleep but Not Too Much - Sleep between 6-9 hours a night--no less no more can help live a long life. You'll have a trimmer waist and reduced risk of heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure.

8. Have friends and Socialize with them. Australian Researchers found those people who had a circle of friends outlived folks with the fewest. You can add 3 to 4 years to your life by getting together with friends.

9. Every Year Get a Mammogram.

10. Have Your Cholesterol Checked at every Physical as heart disease is the Leading cause of Death in Women. You can add 6.3 years to your Life by improving your Cholesterol if it's high or keep a normal one.

11. Eat 5 Servings of Fruits and Vegetables Daily

12. Exercise Regularly

13. Drink a Moderate Amount of Alcohol (Up to 7 glasses a week)

14. Avoid Smoking

15. Think Positive

16. Eat Fish and/or nuts

17. Get Out in the Sun to get your Vitamin D or take Supplements

18. Munch on Foods High in Vitamin C and E as they are healthy antioxidants

19. Meditate, do deep breathing or tai chi.

I want to do as many of these as I can possibly do as I aim to be healthy of body and mind as I age gracefully.



  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

BEESPARKLE 10/20/2011 1:57PM

    My sister in-law used to say. I dont know if I want to live to a 100. She came to my Surprise Anniversary this pass sunday. She is now 89 young. She has not got a wrinkle yet. So I am sure she will make the big 100 . With flying colors.

That put a step in my walk when I seen her and sat with her. her mind is sharp as a whistle.

Like your list here.

If my sister in-law can do it . So can we.

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SPEEDY143 10/10/2011 7:08PM

    emoticon emoticonI'm shootin' for 100 'cause I have a lot to do still emoticon

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PATTYCAKE17 10/9/2011 4:04PM

    Nice blog, Jill.Thanks! Helpful hints are always good reminders, as well as good motivators. You're sounding more positive all the time. Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MEME102 10/6/2011 8:17PM

    Interesting information - thanks for sharing!!! Only want to live to 100 if I FEEL good!!!

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VTMAID 10/6/2011 9:43AM

    Nice blog, Jill! I am not sure about #6. I do 60 minutes of cardio every day, but I am pretty sure I don't have any more brain cells, lol. I wish.........
I thought the items were very interesting. I tried meditation for awhile, but just couldn't really get into it. I wish I could because I have heard that it is so beneficial.
At any rate, thank you for such an excellent blog!
Hugs,
Karen

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JOANOFSPARK 10/6/2011 1:03AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon great blog .....loved the advice.......it's really great advice and even though I have no desire to live to be 100, I still want to live healthier and do a lot of the things on your list......but am going to copy it and put it on my bulletin board to remind me every day .........thanks for such a great blog.... emoticon

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MADKAPKID 10/6/2011 12:20AM

    Well, my friend...I don't know if I will live to be 100....and not sure I want to unless I know I will be in pretty good shape ( for 100) and have all my marbles ( so to speak ). But, I can say that I do try to enjoy every day that I am blessed to wake up and breathe fresh air...to smile...and live another day on earth ith family and friends. Your blog has some good advice....great job. Have a joy filled day, Karen emoticon

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SLIMTHICK2 10/5/2011 7:25PM

    Good post my friend. Very informative. Have a great week. emoticon

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JINLYNN 10/5/2011 3:28PM

    Great list - I am going to copy it and join you in following them. Thanks for sharing this.
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COOLMAMA11 10/5/2011 2:19PM

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Yes Jill, we can do this!

Hugs Elaine

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SUSIEPH1 10/5/2011 1:00PM

    Sound like a good plan Jill, and easy to do!!
Just little changes to our daily routine can help us feel so much better.
Thank you for posting such a great blog!!
hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ESILBO 10/5/2011 12:39PM

    GREAT ADVISES,,, CAN T FLOSS ANYMORE THO...LOL...I STOPPED MY FAVORIE NUTS, PISTACHIO BECAUSE I THOUGHT THEY WERE FATTENING, GOOD NEWS HERE...
THANKS JILL
LOVE
LISE

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DEBBIEG8S 10/5/2011 11:35AM

    Wow, don't know what happened there. Glitch I guess. emoticon

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DEBBIEG8S 10/5/2011 11:32AM

    Great blog and so full of wonderful information. I like it when people find thing and share them with us. I don't have time to read every "health" publication out there, although sometimes I would like to, so it's good when someone post something like what you posted.

Thanks,

Debbi
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DEBBIEG8S 10/5/2011 11:31AM

    Great blog and so full of wonderful information. I like it when people find thing and share them with us. I don't have time to read every "health" publication out there, although sometimes I would like to, so it's good when someone post something like what you posted.

Thanks,

Debbi
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DEBBIEG8S 10/5/2011 11:31AM

    Great blog and so full of wonderful information. I like it when people find thing and share them with us. I don't have time to read every "health" publication out there, although sometimes I would like to, so it's good when someone post something like what you posted.

Thanks,

Debbi
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IOWAGRAMMA 10/5/2011 11:11AM

    Well, Jill...I don't want to live to be 100 unless I'm of sound mind and body!! Having said that, I'd also like to be healthy now, so need to follow these suggestions. Like you, I already do most of them and am working on others. In fact, I tried walking meditation this morning--that didn't work so well, but I have other options for that. I rarely drink alcohol because I don't care for it, and I'm still trying to figure out how to tell when I'm 80% full...I've never gotten a signal like that and frankly, I don't have a clue. Working on a healthy weight and the cardio, too!! Thanks for sharing. Jeannie

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MS.ELENI 10/5/2011 11:07AM

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WINDANCER99 10/5/2011 11:04AM

    Interesting list. One of them I didn't know would increase your life span. Glad I'm flossing and getting more benefits than one. Thanks for sharing!

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