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Friday, July 30, 2010

emoticonToday I realize just how lucky I really am. I don't know why I never realized this before, I guess the accident I had 2 weeks ago changed my perspective. I am grateful for my family especially my husband and my son. My husband who will by 86 on Aug 3rd is in almost perfect health. He is my all in all. He is my helpmeet, my encourager, and my sustainer. He does everything for me that I can not do plus more. He makes sure that I eat properly, he goes on walks with me, he makes sure that I check my blood sugar levels when I am supposed to and when I fall off track he always cheers me on and tells me that I will reach my goals and that he will help me- what more can a woman ask for. My son can be difficult, but as far as a teenager goes he is a good kid. He doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs or have sex. He hangs around with good Christian kids,is involved in sports, karate and church-even plays bass guitar in the band at church. He is in excellent health and cares a lot for other people and animals. He is motivated to looking for a job. We have all that we need and most of what we want, a little money in the bank, but a lot of debt- I am in the midst of bankruptcy but if that is the only downfall we have then we are very lucky. Thank you SparkPeople for being here for me as well. The friendships I have developed here are keeping me focused on my goals and helping me to see my self value. Thanks for sharing the journey with me.

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CHUBRUB3 7/31/2010 1:26PM

    I have tears in my eyes. You are truly blessed to have such a warm loving family and the support of those around you. I hope you are fine after your accident. It sometimes does take something near tragic to make you step back and look at what is truly around you and the many blessings that have been bestowed upon us. Yes we have trials, but that only makes what we do have that much more special. God bless you and your family. You are loved in many ways and a treasure to others as well.

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Difficulty with teenage son

Sunday, July 25, 2010

This week has been a nightmare with my 16 year old son. I need some advice on how to handle his attitude towards me. Let me give you some information. I was involved in a truck accident 1 week ago yesterday, which totalled my husband's truck. Luckily the other driver was not injured and I only suffered minor injuries. My son now is making fun of me in front of his friends because of the accident,when he is riding with me in the other vehicle he is constantly tewlling me how to drive and reminding me that I could be in another accident if I don't watch what I'm doing and do what he tells me to do because he thinks he is a much better driver than I am since he has not had an accident yet, even though he has knocked off the mirror off our van the same day he got his liscence but he says that doesn't count because the driver in the other lane push him over against the mailbox making the mirror come off. He has been talking back to me everytime I ask him to do somethingand refuses to clean his room. But the biggest thing was when we bught a new truck this week and we told him about the truck before we picked it up from the dealer, he went ballistic because it did not have an extra seat that he could sit in. He had wanted us to get a truck with an extened cab which my husband is too short to see over the top of the hood to drive. I explained that to him and he started cursing at me and saying that that was not true. When we brought the truck home he is refusing to even look at it. He is now in pouting mode. He will only talk to us when he wants something from us. What should I do ?

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MARIHOTTI 7/26/2010 2:30PM

    I work for an insurance company and I wish all states would change the requirements for getting a license. I think that boys are the worst especially when their hormones go crazy, and I have a 12 yr old who is chomping at the bit to drive but until he gets his act together he will be 18 before he sees the back of a steering wheel.
stay strong and persistance emoticon

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EPEREZ205 7/25/2010 7:47AM

    I don't have children so its hard for me to give advise other than that you will need to set boundaries to acceptable an unacceptable behavoir. Starting with his languge and sassiness in front of his friends. I hope that helps.

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Day of relaxation

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

I have promised myself to give myself at least 1 day per week of relaxation. Tomorrow is that day this week. I am really looking forward to it. It is also the day I am starting over working on my goals. Any ideas on what I should do tomorrow besides just laying around?

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EPEREZ205 7/21/2010 12:08PM

    On my relaxation day I pamper myself. Do my nails, bubble bath read go out in nature. That sort of thing. Hope that helps.

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Monday, July 19, 2010

have been bingeing for 3 days. letting family stress control me. Did not realize how it had effected me until I got on the scales today and saw that my weight had went up from 199.6 on Friday to 202.8 today. Need to get back on track. Need support and motivation. emoticon

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LOVESLIFE48 7/20/2010 10:44AM

    I know exactly where you are coming from! I did this last week. You can get back on track. You have come a long way. Don't let stress and family issues get in the way of your progress. I had to realize this and continue with me journey. If I can, believe me, you can!!
Good luck and I'm here cheering for you!!! emoticon

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MFFNSLYR 7/19/2010 11:50PM

    Don't beat yourself up. Just start all over and try not to let the stress get to you. emoticon

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Saturday, July 17, 2010

Lately I have been having trouble learning to say "no" to my step daughter. She has been quite ill and is constantly asking me to do things for her. She lives with her fiance who works day shift and this is when she is asking me to do for her. She says I am the only one in her family that will help her yet she spends a lot of time with one of her older sisters and her sister's husband. It is wearing out and my health is suffering because of it. What should I do?

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JHARBESON 8/5/2010 5:43PM

    needing to update this blog: My step daughter is willing to help me out anytime I need her to instead of me helping her out all of the time now, in fact she told me that for an appointment that she has on the 17th that she has made othe arrangements so that I do not have to be there. she is wanting me to focus on taking care of myself.

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GEMINI-SKY 7/18/2010 6:26AM

    I so Totally agree with KRISTIEEASTWOOD. also, try asking her to do something for you a few times.. Not just once and see how she reacts. Sometimes ones own medicine works best. A relationship is a give and take thing. I wonder why no one else will help her. Don't get suckered into her whims. You need to take care of YOURSELF...Be strong and I know you can work it out....What's that quote from Dr. Suess???Wait I have to look it up....Here it is....
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
Dr. Seuss
Need I say More????

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  Heres what i have to say , but do what your heart tells you to do. First, if you are not healthy, satisfied and happy about yourself...well how can you give your all to others? I feel that if the two of you are close then be honest with her...tell her what you have told us in a nice way. Honestly, if she loves and supports you she will take what you said and say...take a break and get back on track..in her own way though. You cant run yourself to the ground and if you have the energy left try to help her find someone else to help her while you get back on track...never lose sight of your goal and god bless...smiles and hugs to ya.

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