Friday, September 02, 2011
from your friend feed daily entries as I have recently gotten a part-time job (yay!) and haven't had the time (or energy) to respond to your milestones and accomplishments. Please excuse my lack of comments on your blogs as I am spending more and more time getting ready for work, traveling to and from work, and re-arranging my days to accommodate my constantly changing work schedule. Please excuse my lack of interaction on the SparkPeople website as I have been so sleep deprived lately that I sometimes fall asleep on the bus to work and generally forget what day it is.
Thank you all who wished me well in my job search and supplied me with lots of encouragement and enthusiasm. While not my dream job, and it is certainly the most physically challenging job I have had for the least amount of money since I was a teenager, I am earning a living again, albeit a meager one. I am contributing again to federal taxes, state taxes, social security and the gross national product in general.
And on the plus side, I have been working so hard that my stalled weight loss has finally budged. According to my BMI, I am no longer considered overweight but now in the higher end of my correct BMI.
Thank you all for all your support and encouragement and I hope to become more active on the site once my schedule stabilizes.
Thursday, June 09, 2011
Like millions of other people in the United State, I have had a life-changing experience - the loss of my job. When I was first laid off, I went through a range of emotions akin to a grieving period; DENIAL - I felt like I was in a stupor for a while, numbly going through the motions of the day, watching days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, ANGER - I was angry at everyone, no one understood what was happening to me, my anger left a bitter taste in my mouth, BARGAINING - "God, if only you would help me get this job, I promise I will be a better person..., DEPRESSION - this period lasted the longest, I still have remnants of it that come back to haunt my thoughts and prevent me from acting, and finally ACCEPTANCE - It took a long time for me to get to this point. I was too angry and depressed to accept any responsibility myself for my predicament. I was too eager to blame others. However, there were clues that I chose to ignore. Now I am willing to accept my role in this portion of my life and move on. I no longer want to be a Victim, but a Victor. The difference is just two little letters but a whole world of change. I may not be able to get employment with the same pay or benefits as before, I may not even be able to obtain a full-time job, but with a little hard work, a lot of honesty and perseverance, I will find something that will bring income into my household and have me contributing to Social Security, Medicare, and state and federal taxes again. I was a victim because I allowed myself to be. Now I am a victor because that is what I choose to be.
Friday, April 15, 2011
A little less than 2 years ago , I was pulled into our local H.R. Rep's office along with my boss, who looked and acted as if he would rather have all his teeth pulled out without the benefit of anesthesia while being water-boarded, than be in that little office with me. As it so frequently happened then, I was informed that after 19 1/2 years of service, I was no longer needed. The room seemed dark and fuzzy, their voices droned on and on. Finally when they took a breath, I asked, "Do you mean I no longer have a job?" "YES!" was the resounding answer and my life as I had come to know it began to unravel.
I began to pack my things and realized that being a packrat was definitely not a good thing now. I had a ton of personal stuff to bring home, but no more job, no paycheck, no medical and dental or even 401k benefits. Sure, I would get some sort of compensation - unemployment benefits from the state and some sort of additional unemployment pay from my former employer.
What to do? What to do? I did a lot of couch surfing/sleeping. I felt lost, betrayed and used. I was a good employee. I worked hard, stayed late to finish projects, even worked through lunches if needed. But the truth of the matter was... I hated my job! The people I worked for often treated me as a second class person. My boss even used to make jokes about my age. I dreaded going into work every day, so maybe being laid off was a good thing? Yes and no. [Come back tomorrow for the next installment]
Thursday, March 31, 2011
My nephew in law is being deployed earlier than expected, leaving his young bride (my niece) all alone. As her Mom can't get there until next week, I am heading out today to help her out - pack up, take care of the doggies, and most importantly - offer morale support and a shoulder to cry on. Let's pray that all these hostilities throughout the world end peacefully and soon.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
During my walk this morning, I was surprised at how loud it was outside. No, it wasn't the traffic, or children and parents hurrying to school, it was the birds! There was a group of Blue Jays screeching and flying from tree to tree playing a game of tag, a male cardinal calling out for a mate and a robin, so glad to have more daylight, was singing his heart out welcoming the day. I can't forget about the little sparrows either since they are always so busy flying around tittering to each other and gathering nesting materials.
Occasionally I hear the honking of a few Canadian geese as they move between small ponds and waterways. All those birds made me realize that despite the cool temperatures, it really is springtime!
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