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But You Never Know Until You Try, How Things Just Might Be

Monday, May 31, 2010

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Every song on the planet should start with the line that this one starts with:

'You Don't Have to Take this Crap."

And you don't have to.

Nope. Not YOU.

Now, you may be saying to yourself: what the heck is jes on about NOW? Gosh, she's not making any sense.

No. Wait. Hear (read) me out.

Almost everybody here got here because they settled.

They compromised.

They went along to get along.

They ate what was put in front of them.

They lazed when others did.

They finished the stuff off their children's plates so as not to waste it.

They took what was given or foisted upon them. Even if they didn't want it. Even if they were already full, they ate it. They settled, they compromised, they laid back and took it. They SWALLOWED it, both literally and figuratively.

But it does not have to be that way.

You can be the one who says no.

You can be the one who zigs where the others zag. Hell, where the others are standing still and doing absolutely nothing.

You do not have to wait for them. You do not have to live your life tailored to theirs. You do not have to live up to their expectations and be their good little girl or their darling boy.

You are you. You are an adult. They are not responsible for your happiness and your health. And you are not responsible for theirs, either.

Sure, it's nice to help them out. And it's great if you're not being undermined and sabotaged at every turn by all or some of them.

But, ultimately, it is on you.

And you can throw off the yoke of oppression and break free of the chains. You can be you. The beautiful, powerful, sexy, dynamic, focused world-beating YOU. The one who climbs the mountain. The one who gets the girl. The one who gets the promotion. The one who aces the test. The one who they line up for. The one with the happy ending.

I am not, specifically, talking about being thin. Sure, it is a great and grand thing. But the way things can be DOES NOT HAVE TO WAIT FOR THAT.

Nope.

It is independent of that.

YOU. You take control. You bring the power, and don't give it away to others. You forge the steel. You blaze the trail. And you are thin, or not, and it doesn't matter insofar as this kind of power and attitude are concerned.

But, you say, I am all alone. I am scared. I am in my home in Oshkosh or Dubai or Beijing or Moose Jaw and I am only one of a thousand, a million, a billion and it is so very, very hard to stand alone and keep back the tide.

I know. I really do. Oh God, do I know that feeling. You tremble inside, and you feel lost, and the world is black and bleak and your little candle is flickering and the wick is drowning in a pool of wax and about to sputter out.

I totally get that, because I have been there and I have held that dying candle, that dim and seemingly insignificant spark.

Here's some lighter fluid for it.

Unity and togetherness.

Teams. Gathering together. Making friends. Being as one. Because your little candle in Hicksville and mine in Boston and that other one in Siena and the one in Kiev and the one in Rio and and and they all add up and together, if we are together they are synergistic and they make more together than they ever could apart. 1 + 1 does not equal 2 here; it equals 20 and more and more and more.

"You don't have to take this crap
You don't have to sit back and relax
You can actually try changing it
I know we've always been taught to rely
Upon those in authority -
But you never know until you try
How things just might be -
If we came together so strongly

Are you gonna try to make this work
Or spend your days down in the dirt
You see things can change -
YES an' walls can come tumbling down!"

...

"And like Jericho - You see walls can come tumbling down!"

...

Let our unity be like Jericho. Let us break down the barriers between us and become the people we have always -- and I mean ALWAYS -- been meant to be.

Goodbye, walls. Hello, new, excellent you.

Damn, you're beautiful.

  
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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 6/7/2010 9:08AM

    How funny. Just Saturday I was chatting with another kayaker and telling her that NO ONE gets to define who you are, except YOU.

She said she was trying to teach her 16-year-old daughter that, and I wished her well, because it sure has taken ME a long dang time to learn it!

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LIVUNDERTHESTAR 6/7/2010 1:36AM

    What an inspirational blog! Thanks for the motivating words, I am definitely energized to power through this week now! emoticon Have a great week! I will definitely keep reading your blog! emoticon

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YSLETA 6/6/2010 1:08PM

    Your blogs are so inspiring, ty for sharing them!
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DDOORN 6/5/2010 3:22PM

    Sorry to get here so late to catch up with your inspiration!

Takes a little effort, but swimming upstream brings SUCH rewards...! :-)

Don

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TRACYZABELLE 6/3/2010 3:46AM

    emoticon you rock

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KSGROTHE 6/1/2010 8:38PM

    emoticon blog!

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emoticon Damn, I'm beautiful! ... And so are you! emoticon

- Karen

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KAN2124 6/1/2010 3:03PM

    Amazing work and thoughts! Thanks for sharing!

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MARCHMAID 6/1/2010 7:04AM

    Aw shucks. You nailed it again. I needed that. Not for the weight thing, for the life's work thing. emoticon

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LESS_IS_MO 6/1/2010 12:16AM

    I. am. Canadian.

Sorry there was once a beer commercial up here that had the same feel as your blog. I love it! I love it!

I'm in charge. Yes I am. And having a negative reaction is a choice. A music teacher once told me that and I need to remember that, because today I am sitting here post-surgery with a loooooong row of countless stitches in my face (I had mohs surgery today) and the stains of many of today's tears on my cheeks. I do NOT have to feel sorry for myself. Tomorrow will be better, and next week better still and in three months most people won't see my scar.

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STRINGS58 5/31/2010 10:13PM

    yeah, maybe it's time to make a few new rules a little more real!

It was fun reading your blog with the music background!

It's a nice, strong anthem. emoticon emoticon

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250STRONG 5/31/2010 9:41PM

    "Almost everybody here got here because they settled.

They compromised.

They went along to get along.

They ate what was put in front of them.

They lazed when others did. "

Yup. I did. And no more.

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TELERIE 5/31/2010 2:12PM

    Oh wow! My candle's burning bright in Norway and I'm feeling really privileged to have MET you. What an inspiration you are! Love this blog!

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ONECOOKIETWO 5/31/2010 1:07PM

    Thank you for the inspiration Jes!

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FIT_TERI 5/31/2010 12:27PM

    This is awesome! I agree with LL - it should go to the top of the top 10 list.
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PMFISH 5/31/2010 11:38AM

    Go Girl!

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CAROLISCIOUS 5/31/2010 11:35AM

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Pensacola is in! Thanks Jes! I'm posting this blog for my local team.

And, damn, you ARE beautiful!
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KNITTINGFROG 5/31/2010 11:23AM

    Thank you :)

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SWEETZMIX 5/31/2010 10:44AM

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My little candle is on here in the Bronx.

(Ok it's not the single candle, but I have to work with what SP got lol. But you got my drift.)

Your blog was powerful!

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NEXT30YEARS 5/31/2010 10:34AM

    Wow...wants you to go and kick butt (exercise that is)!

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LAB-LOVER 5/31/2010 10:16AM

    Oh my, this is awesome... and it should go to the top of the Blog Top Ten list!

So privileged to know you! JUST LOOK how far YOU have come!

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OPPORTUNITIES 5/31/2010 9:55AM

    I like it

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Really Wild

Monday, May 24, 2010

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Oh, my. I've had quite a week.

I started it with meeting with a recruiter. Nothing for me, not too exciting, more of the same and more of the same of stuff that I don't really wish to do any more.

Then on Tuesday I went to a meeting of a nonprofit tech group. Lovely people, but I met no one knew and got no cards. They are ... not exactly the right pond. I need to fish elsewhere. The more I do this, the less tolerance I have for lovely people who cannot really help me. It's not a mercenary thing (at least, I don't think it is). Rather it's just that life is so full that I need to make choices. Contacts or comfort? I've had a lot of comfort lately. So contacts it is. Oh and I went to the gym that day, too.

Wednesday I went to a coffee that I love. That is almost pure comfort so I'm not totally bagging that aspect of things. But I do have to curtail it, allow one and not others.

Thursday I had no meetings and instead worked on robotics stuff all the livelong day. And I realized: I'm having a good time. Then the principal (B___) contacted me: we are looking to have a meeting on Sunday. Wanna come? Sure. Plus I went to the gym again, and this time talked to some folks. These are, well, they are probably neighbors. :)

Friday I had another networking meeting. This one is much more the correct pond, despite it being a lot of comfort. Perhaps I'm less eager to dump the comfort than I'd thought.

And then, after Saturday (Mr. J and I went out and played frisbee; it was fun) came, of course, Sunday.

I had cut up fruit and some rather junky store-bought cookies. Ready to go, I boarded the bus to Cambridge. Took me a while to find my way (the principal lives in Somerville, a vortex that I swear swallows people and cars), but I got there all right.

We got down to business once the other three arrived (they were driving in from the West). Talking, laughing, reading off a computer screen. I had prepared a report. They LOVED it. Just some graphs (I like graphs) showing how things are going. It's early and there is little to report, but I wanted to set a standard.

We talked about how much it would cost to manufacture a buncha units (they make robotics modules -- guts, not the outside). We discussed how to handle an upcoming meeting with a venture capitalist firm (I wouldn't be going to that). We talked social media marketing. We talked sales. We talked papers and patents.

Then the B___'s girlfriend walked in. How long you been meeting?

Uh, two hours.

No one had noticed the passage of time. We were all just so bound up in it all.

They are taking a chance on me, I know, we all know. I am new to this and eager to please, trying to get in a plan and a strategy and have it all make sense. And I am taking a chance on them, as there are no guarantees, there is no money yet, and my main source of income will continue to be Unemployment until funding kicks in, if ever. Risks abound. Rewards are uncertain.

Yet I am having more work fun than I have since I taught, which was almost 20 years ago. It is comfortable. Easy. Intelligent. Respectful yet playful. It feels like we're doing something important. Something that might really help people.

The dynamic is, admittedly, a tad odd. They remind me a tiny bit of these guys:

So I suppose that means this is me:

I am jazzed. I am pumped. I am so happy.

All I gotta do is work on the ears.

  
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LESS_IS_MO 5/26/2010 11:27AM

    Any time you can get bound up in something and have time fly by without noticing it, it is a great sign!

And thanks for the blog visits and kind words. Race weekend forecast is looking worse. But I'm feeling fine with that. I will use the race to enjoy the progress I've made in two and a half years.

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LIV2RIDE 5/25/2010 6:45AM

    Sounds like you are having a lot of fun with this project. Sometimes that's more important than any monetary benefit. It's good for the soul.

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DDOORN 5/24/2010 10:02PM

    I'm PSYCHED just hearing about it! Wowzer! Such an opportunity! I just KNOW you're going to take that ball and run with it for all you're worth! :-)

Don

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QUEENOTHEFOREST 5/24/2010 9:54PM

    And this is exactly what you earned your unemployment insurance to be able to do. Now this is more like it.

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FIT_TERI 5/24/2010 3:29PM

    Very cool. I hope this robotics thing turns into something y'all can make some money doing! I'm so glad you're having fun at work. A bit jealous, I will admit, but happy for you. At least someone's having fun!
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MARCHMAID 5/24/2010 2:29PM

    Sounds more than promising! Fun. I remember fun--vaguely. Wonder if I can still do it. Nostalgia is setting in--where do I look for fun? Will have to think about this. Finding money would be good, too. Where to begin?

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JDB1957 5/24/2010 1:08PM

  Excitement, Fun , Intrigue~ they keep us motivated and are good for the soul!It is good you are doing something that makes you happy, YOU matter! emoticon

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MS.ELENI 5/24/2010 10:53AM

    Sounds like a good week to me. I hope all works out the way you want .

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FURBALLDTH 5/24/2010 10:27AM

    sweet!

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TELERIE 5/24/2010 9:50AM

    Sounds very exiting! You rock those ears!

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DAWNDMOORE40 5/24/2010 8:46AM

    I hope that this new adventure works out! Have a great day and stay motivated! emoticon

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GEE-KNEE 5/24/2010 8:43AM

    I hope this works out for you. Nothing wrong with working a few hobbits.

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Just Long Enough to Grab a Handle off the Top

Monday, May 17, 2010

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It was a great vacation. We had fun, got in some working out and ate well. Much more importantly, we both relaxed and just existed. It was truly necessary for both of us.

I'm feeling a lot better although yesterday, when we got home, I was a whirling dervish to try to get a number of things done for the week. I had been hoping to make tomato sauce but it was simply impossible, given the amount of time I had. Oof.

Hence today I'm a lil tired. I have a noon webinar and a meeting with a recruiter in the afternoon. The remainder of the week is three events and a second webinar, plus I'll be seeing my mentor from my last job on Wednesday and we'll go for a nice, long walk during her lunch break. I have not seen her since before surgery and I miss her. Plus we will catch up and I'll hear how her cats are doing, and in general how the old company is doing. I know that more IT workers were let go. I am concerned for them, but not too too much. There are definitely jobs out there and it is getting better. There are more job calls and the lists of jobs that I get sent to me automatically are, well, those lists are getting longer.

There is a light in this tunnel. I strongly suspect I will be working by about when my birthday rolls around (early September). And then I'll have to tell them I'm taking two days off, because I'm going to book a few more nights on the Cape in mid-September.

As for my robotics pal, I have heard from him a few times, sometimes with my prompting, sometimes on his own initiative. A thing I need to remember is: twentysomething guys are not terribly great at writing. Plus it's only been a week. Patience, here as in all things, is a virtue.

Doesn't mean it doesn't make me nuts sometimes, though.

Hence I am continuing to push out in all directions and not just that one, and make it easier on myself by putting my eggs (that is not a perimenopause joke) into several different baskets.

I am trying to make my actions as purposeful as possible, with the ends being getting a job or getting fit. A lot less time should be wasted on meaningless activities like just watching the tube. Not that I don't do that, of course, but I need to do even less of that as I'm on a few different missions right now. My fitness mission isn't necessarily one about weight loss and that's kinda similar to how I felt when I first started out. My original thought, back in January of 2008, was to simply treat myself better. And then I realized I could take alli and it became a lot more about weight loss.

But the fundamental nugget is treating myself better. Better food, more bodily movements, being kinder to myself and feeling like I've got a goal. Getting back to that thought has not been too difficult, actually, as it's a fairly gentle mindset.

The "get a job" (or at least get paid) mission is more complex. I am, much of the time, like a Jack Russell terrier, continually sniffing and jerking my head around and captivated for three seconds by something shiny and then onto the next good smell or belly rub. One of the things I did while on vacation was write out a number of blog entries (not for here, for my site) in longhand. They need to be cleaned up and I need to get the links, plus I need to data enter them, but I have a lot more in the can now. I had been simply reporting on various activities I was going to. While this was timely, and it gets some readership because everyone loves to read about themselves, it made me look more like a member of the amateur press than an actual worker in the social media field.

Hence my incipient blog entries are more about how to do it. Of course there are a thousand such blogs out there but perhaps my take on it will strike a chord with the right person(s). If nothing else, it will give me some inner satisfaction to be getting that information out there and hopefully helping people.

In the meantime, we took some photos. I feel okay about the pictures that were taken of me. I think my body looks fine, but I am seeing my age more and more. Hell, that's the ticket, though, eh? I will be 50 in less than 2 1/2 years. And so it goes. But if all I have to b*tch about it are a few lines around my mouth and eyes, as opposed to being horribly short of breath every time I climb a stair, I will take that exchange any day.

But it doesn't mean I don't want to hide those damned lines.

  
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CAROLISCIOUS 5/23/2010 9:55PM

    I am glad you enjpoyed your vacation...I did too. Said goodbye to NVDONNA today...can't wait to see her again!

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STRINGS58 5/22/2010 5:52PM

    I wish you the best of focus!

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TRACYZABELLE 5/19/2010 6:21AM

    I will be tuning in for vacation pics, lol

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ZIRCADIA 5/18/2010 8:37PM

    I really try to focus on treating myself well also - eating good nourishing foods, in the right amounts, is a way of treating my body the best way possible. :) It's so positive to think this way!

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BAGGYPANTS5 5/18/2010 6:26AM

    There's nothing wrong with 50. 67's ok too.
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DDOORN 5/18/2010 6:02AM

    Beautiful "nugget" to on which to stay focused!

Sounds like your time away was just what the doctor ordered! :-)

Don

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SWEETZMIX 5/17/2010 6:34PM

    Glad you enjoyed that time away. I know things have been getting a little crazy. It's always good to just get away. Defrazzle the mind as I like to say. I really don't want to comment on every single thing, so it was just great to hear from you.

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MS.ELENI 5/17/2010 3:15PM

    So Where are the photo's. Glad you had a nice time

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FIT_TERI 5/17/2010 10:37AM

    Sounds like you had a great vacation. It also sounds like you have a lot of good, productive activities to look forward to this week. I'm glad that you were able to get some traction on the content for your site. Sometimes maybe a change of scenery (or maybe medium? writing it longhand vs. entering directly on your site?) is what you need to jump start that kind of thing. And while you might be right that there are many similar blogs out there, I would venture you're a much better writer than most of the other bloggers....and you don't lose anything by trying.

I can't help you with the lines! I am right there with ya (actually, I'm a year closer to 5-0). Moisturizer and sunscreen. And water!

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QUEENOTHEFOREST 5/17/2010 8:52AM

    Morning my friend. Love the concept of purposefulness. I am still on Cape. My vacation did not look at all like yours. I will be glad to get back to work and routine tomorrow. I did drive myself nuts this trip. I am finding this blog really helpful and thought provoking. Thanks!

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Haven't Had a Dream in a Long Time

Monday, May 10, 2010

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Actually, this week's title is totally and completely untrue.

I've had a dream, a constant dream, pounding in my head and ringing in my ears, keeping me up at night and snapping me out of my fugues as I get them.

The dream is to do what I want for a living. To do it and be happy, or at least content and feeling like I'm living the way I want to.

And today, oh today.

It was something that started off completely unauspiciously.

On April 13th, I went to a robotics job fair at MIT. This was attached to the back end of a seminar on robotics that I did not attend. Now, I don't know squadoo about robotics, but I figure, hey, spread business cards around like seeds and perhaps one of them will sprout.

I was standing just sort of staring into space, looking at the board showing the companies expected and thinking, man oh Manischewitz, I am *SO* out of place here. Feeling weird. When this young guy comes up and he's looking kinda lost, too, and he looks at me and says out loud, "What the hell!" and sticks his hand out.

And B__ turns out to be truly sweet and owns his own company and is looking for venture capitalist funding. And he is young. Oh, so young. Only a coupla years out of college. Whip smart. Pleasant. Gets my jokes. We trade cards and I send him a note the next day, saying it was nice to meet him. I don't expect much as I write to everyone after these things.

I let it go and go about my other business and attend other events.

I get an email about a week ago - so sorry I didn't write back - I've been busy, life's been crazy, your email's been starred for weeks and I meant to contact you.

No prob. We agree to meet.

I go to his site. Aha! He's got a community (my speciality). But it's tiny. As in, less than a dozen people. I realize: this is why there's a need to see me. And I'm thinking, okay, this is not work, it's just a talk. People have picked my brain before and I'm more or less okay with it. After all, this is how I polish my pitch and hone my craft.

This morning, I look at his site again, and really think about it while on the bus. I get there early, and the coffeehouse is playing The Smiths (hence the song). So I take out a pad of paper and start writing down ideas. He should write this, submit here, do that, answer a blog there. A page's worth of ideas. Basic ideas, nothing too fancy.

He gets there, we grab coffee and sit. We talk about the site, about the community. I flip to the page and read off what I've thought of. He knows most but not all of what I'm talking about. And we get down to the nitty gritty: he needs content. I can write content. He needs a community. I can manage a community. He needs Twitter to be updated. I can do that.

And there is a meeting of the minds.

Emails will be exchanged (I need to get passwords and whatnot). This first month is something of a trial, particularly as I don't know the industry. I will meet the other guys (all college or grad level).

Things will be clearer in a few weeks as we work to formalize things a bit. But we are both excited about this, and enjoying the process as much as I'd hoped we would. Good to talk business but also laugh and bounce ideas off an obviously smart individual. Good to see the clear connection and the obvious need/niche/fulfillment coming full circle. Who knows where it will all lead? I don't know, but I want to find out.

And my scattered seed has, well, it may have sprouted.

And the other piece is that I have been bored. I was not going to the gym, was not loving walking, not wanting to (or really being able to, to be perfectly honest) run any more than I had been. I woke up today (and my weight was up again) and I realized that this cannot go on. And so I am quitting my old gym (writing up the letter as soon as I finish this blog entry) and am instead joining the Y down the street.

The reason to not spend time commuting to the gym disappears. The Y is new and different so there's freshness there. And, huzzah!

It has a pool.

I rarely get to swim, and I'm lousy at it, but I don't care.

And so my seed might be getting a little water.

This week is a short vacation on the Cape. I received word that I didn't get that job I interviewed for a month ago, but that's okay. It is highly likely that I will interview for a far better temp position soon. That one is also 6 months, also data analysis. And no, I don't really want to do data analysis. But I'm okay with it if I can also be working with my robotics pal and continuing to chase my vision.

I get the feeling I'm about to catch it.

  
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MALCONTENTION 5/12/2010 9:59PM

    Woo hoo!! Sounds like fun!

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LAB-LOVER 5/12/2010 8:13PM

    Very, very cool.
Very, very pool.
You, no fool.
Nope, you rule.

(hey, I only had 5 hours sleep last night!)

Congrats on the lead! Run with it. I have a similar opportunity on the horizon. To try something out while keeping my job. I"m saying to myself, "who knows, I might discover that I hate it." But then again... I might just LOVE it. Stuff like this... it keeps life interesting!

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PRINCESSNURSE 5/12/2010 7:02AM

    Everything is looking up! Sometimes we just have to wait for the right opportunity and it will appear and reinvigorate us!

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DDOORN 5/12/2010 4:08AM

    Oh YES! Sounds like the tide's turning...! :-)

Good to catch yourself and re-SPARK anew!

Don

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MADERINERUE 5/11/2010 8:01PM

    I belong to a gym right down the road and it, too, has a pool. It's a little neighborhood place, owned by the city, and I love it. I do interval training and then hop in the pool for some laps as a "reward" for running.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for your work horizons. I admire your willingness to cast your seeds, so to speak...

Seems the life I've had could make a good man...uh...glad?

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SWEETZMIX 5/11/2010 6:28PM

    emoticon I am all smiles for you!

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DMPRIDER 5/11/2010 3:53PM

    Oh JES, good luck! This sounds so auspicious and from little acorns mighty oaks grow!

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LILSUNFLOWER 5/11/2010 1:09PM

    Here's hoping that seed becomes a giant plant/bush/tree! Soounds promising. Good luck!

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SAPNA. 5/11/2010 4:04AM

    Always follow your dream and never give up.

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EMMASMART 5/10/2010 11:19PM

    Coolness my dear. Yea you certainly can provide content. Good for you. You can toss me the data analyst jobs you don't want. I want anything at this point.

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MS.ELENI 5/10/2010 11:10PM

    You are going to be just fine and the right job will show up.Just hang in there.

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FIT_TERI 5/10/2010 10:23PM

    Wow, this sounds so exciting. It just goes to show how important networking is. Best of luck!

And look how that time off, resting....recharging, has resulted in your decision to join the Y. Sometimes we just need to clear our heads a bit to see the right path ahead.

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CAROLISCIOUS 5/10/2010 9:51PM

    Adding my hope too! Sounds exciting!

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BADPIX 5/10/2010 6:35PM

    emoticon very cool. I would wish you best of luck, but it sounds like you're doing a great job making your own luck.

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TELERIE 5/10/2010 6:03PM

    Sprouting seeds oh my! Very interesting, possibly exciting, Enjoy the road ahead and enjoy the new gym!
Let me know how things work out!!! Rooting for your seeds to blossom! emoticon

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QUEENOTHEFOREST 5/10/2010 4:13PM

    I am in there hoping with you.

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FATESLADY 5/10/2010 3:31PM

    Great job! And good for you, joining a local gym. Mine is only a five minute drive from home (I'd walk it, but the roads are not pedestrian friendly in that area).

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LORTHOM2001 5/10/2010 3:30PM

    you go! wonderful.

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OLIVERNABBYSMOM 5/10/2010 3:23PM

    Good luck to you. You definitely have your act together and I'm sure "B" saw that and will want you on his team. Keep dreaming --- and making those dreams come true.


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You I Cannot Judge

Monday, May 03, 2010

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There are water restrictions in my area. This is because of a huge water main break in Weston. It's affecting 2 million people. It coincides with the first real heat wave of the year. It happened the day we ran the second 5K of the year. But I cannot see running right now. Because in order to get any water, you've got to boil it if it's not bottled. You should see the production line at my house. Pot, lid, every thermos, every jug, anything with a lid. The measuring cup with the funnel. Careful, don't spill it.

So, I need to run more. I know I need to, as the running parts of both 5Ks this year have had me laboring for breath, my chest hurting and stinging. But running isn't possible.

And don't tell me to go to my gym. They're under the water restrictions as well. Plus, well, I'm just blocked. I cannot and do not want to return there. Not now. It is not going to be a good thing to push me to go, so kindly do not.

Motivation is a tricky, elusive beast. And I know myself. If I am pushed too hard, it will retreat even further. It will hide away and cover itself with a veil.

So are you hearing me? If you want to tell me to go to the gym, tell someone else, okay? Because it will do damage here. Thank you for respecting that.

And I know, I know, I know. I don't need to hear it. I know what I need to do, what I SHOULD do, what would be a good idea, yadda yadda yadda, yeah, I get it. It is not information that I need. It is not that. You will think it is a thousand excuses, and you need to let me have them for now.

I need to regroup. And I need for you all to let me do that. Without the pushing. Without the call to go forth and do a lot of amazing things. Right now amazing is out of reach.

It is not that I am not doing anything. I ran two damned 5Ks in less than a month, for God's sake.

And I am walking, and doing ST every single day, like always. It is the going beyond that is elusive, so I am here at the minimum, living at this moment rather than at that one, the one with all of the extras.

I am reminded of the scene in the film "Office Space" where Jennifer Aniston gets fired. Her boss asks her, "What would you think of the person who only does the bare minimum?" And we are talking about a waitressing job, it's not like it's a major career for her or anything. She ends up flipping him off and leaving. And it's a little bit like that. Right now, I am going to do what, for me, is the bare minimum. Why? Because it's easy. And because it is ... what's the word? Sufficient. Sufficient means hanging around, more or less, at this weight and not losing for a while. It means taking a bit of a break from the hot and heavy treadmill.

Because, well, because I've been doing this for a few years already. I've had more than one person ask me if I'm on maintenance. No. Not really. I've got a good 35 plus to go or so. But right now I want to rest, and test the maintenance waters a tad. What is life like, to not be trying to lose? To be, well, just to be? Not to just hang around and do nothing. That, sadly, is not maintenance. That is, for pretty much all of us what we call, regaining. Regaining is not my intention here. I just want to coast a bit, let the really hard work go and see what happens.

Motivation may come back tomorrow. It may come back after vacation (coming in 10 days, thank God!). Or it may take longer than that. Yelling at it to come back, like a Drill Sergeant, is not going to do me any favors. It's time to nurture it. It's time for me to stop and take stock right now.

  
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LESS_IS_MO 5/10/2010 9:26AM

    Hug. I hear ya. About a year ago, I hit what I felt was a good place and tried maintenance and it is tricky. It stayed a couple of months and then the slips started, and a two week slip would turn into 2 lbs gained. As I hit about 5 lbs gained, I'd try to restart the losing process, but I'd stall out with a whimper and a fizzle. It is super tough to find motivation after we've been at this a while. I am about 9 lbs up (eek!).

Anyway, we'll figure it out. There are lots of ways to live a healthy lifestyle and you might even drop some weight if you focus only on keeping the truly bad moments at bay. I hope you are stellar at being "sufficient"!

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LAB-LOVER 5/10/2010 6:42AM

    I am also just reading this now, but I KNOW you have water again. You know, I think taking a time out and maintaining is a fine thing to do. I was just contemplating the idea of a week on, a week off -- working hard to lose one week, then coasting for a week -- as way to get to goal. Because that's sort of what I've done since my vacation. I'm on Week 3, which means there's a tiger in my tank right now!

I hear you on the long time though... I frankly got a little BORED with Spark this winter -- and it's only been two years for me. I coasted. I maintained. And then... yup.. I started to gain. Before I knew it I had 18 extra pounds on the hiney, which was a major wake up call. So I've reduced that to 11, and am working to get the rest of it off. I'm too damn determined to quit before I reach goal. But none of us have any deadlines.

You're going through a tough time -- I say that you're smart to recognize that and do what YOU need for you, not what anyone else sez you need.

Hang in there! We ARE here for ya!

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FIT_TERI 5/9/2010 1:33PM

    I am behind on SP, and am just reading this. I trust the water restrictions are lifted by now...what a hassle.
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I hope you're getting what you want out of this regrouping period. You'll need to figure out what's required to maintain so why not, to your point, test the waters now? There's no deadline, no clock ticking. I'm glad you recognized that you needed this time to regroup and recharge. Sounds like a good frame of mind to have as you head toward your vacation.
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DMPRIDER 5/7/2010 9:42AM

    I don't see anything wrong with taking a little maintenance break. I think it's great that you know what you need and can express it so well. So chill out, maintain, have fun on vacation. When you are ready it will all come together again.

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CJROMB 5/7/2010 7:24AM

    You sound thirsty, downright parched in fact, for a break and some fun. Baby steps sound like they're definitely in order. A bit of sideways sliding looking for a new path though, while you catch your breath, is likely a smart move instead of trying to dig through a brick wall with you and everyne else breathing down your back.

I wonder who this message was for here, telling someone not to yell or cajole? To just give you some space and trust that you'd be ok. Was it meant for you? That's a bit what it sounds like to me. I hope you hear you if that's who it's for.

And now for a song...

You deserve a break today,
So get up, get on you way...

Uh-oh. That's not a good song for this site...

To McDonalds (where you enjoy the healthiest thing on their menu, water. Haha)

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DDOORN 5/5/2010 3:00PM

    You'll do it, you'll get there...after all that you have accomplished I'd say a "pause" and re-grouping is in order. Just know that your SparkFamily is here, we think the world of you and your achievements and we know that you'll pull through this when you're ready.

Don

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 5/5/2010 11:53AM

    Duplicate comment? How did that happen? *sigh*

Comment edited on: 5/6/2010 7:06:22 AM

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 5/5/2010 11:53AM

    You've been going at full-speed for months now, overachieving like crazy, keeping your motivation and spirits up in the face of all kinds of obstacles.

It makes sense that you might need a breather. Hang in there. Some days sufficient is just fine!
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SWEETZMIX 5/4/2010 8:37PM

    Motivation comes and goes.

Just be my friend!!

umm water restrictions NOT cool when you want to shower when you get up, shower when you are hot or in a bad mood, shower after you workout...reminds me of growing up. I swear we never had enough hot water. So we would boil, carry buckets...that's if we had water. Yup those were the days lol

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BAGGYPANTS5 5/4/2010 2:26AM

    You know yourself best. Maybe your body and mind are telling you to ease up a bit. You have enough experience not to binge or lie in bed all day! Trust yourself. Be kind to yourself. You deserve it.
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CAROLISCIOUS 5/3/2010 9:37PM

    I love your honesty.
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MS.ELENI 5/3/2010 12:06PM

    I am not going to tell you to do anything but to do what is right for you. I know exactly how you feel. I am not the lest bit worried about you. Like you said.You know what to do and when you are ready you will do it. I agree with everything you just said. Have a good day today emoticon

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VEEJAY3 5/3/2010 9:53AM

    I'm trying this "Eat Vegan for a Month" thing, and my son asked me yesterday if it wasn't just the hardest thing ever. I said that depending on the place you are in life, things like that are either impossible, or surprisingly easy. It all depends on that elusive mindset, which I can't seem to find the key to. Sometimes, things are easy ... sometimes, they're impossible ... and I think a wise person knows not to fight the upstream battle during those impossible times!

So go forth, wise, woman! Know thyself and respect the mystery!
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MARCHMAID 5/3/2010 9:11AM

    Shucks, Sugar. Take a break! Smell the flowers. You're owed.

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TELERIE 5/3/2010 9:03AM

    My fantastic friend, I won't shout at you to go to the gym! As I wrote in my latest blog, we can't be ON all the time, and it is healthy to go slowly. I'm sure you know what to do and recognize forward momentum when you see it. With all the stuff in your life right now, it's no wonder you're regrouping.

Sometimes treading water is all we can do, and you know what? - It's enough! It really is. The bare minimum for you TODAY is totally different to the bare minimum for you BEFORE. Just think about how much improvement you have seen in quite a short while - I'm convinced our minds need to catch up with our bodies from time to time.

Listen to yourself, be your own greatest fan/friend and treat yourself well. And catch the motivation/inspiration as it flies by. It IS there. emoticon

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QUEENOTHEFOREST 5/3/2010 8:54AM

    Right on schedule!

Silly Milly and I send support and licks. Well, she sends licks. I send support.

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