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Any Minor World that Breaks Apart Falls Together Again

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

I've been having a rather rough time of it lately in terms of work stress. I don't want to get into it but things seem to be lifting a bit so I am hoping that will last. But I did want to put out this song as it's been kind of a meditation for me lately. Music helps me, lyrics always have. I guess they mean more to me than they should, but it's the title of this blog that has kept me going.

It's karma, you know, the cosmic cycle. The world breaks apart and then is renewed, over and over again. Even my own little world. And so, I hope, a renewal cycle is beginning.

But melancholy takes a while to lift, so this year (because it is my birthday today), the party will start off slower than it did last year.

At age 47 I can honestly tell you that I still feel a bit like 17 and a bit like 27 or 37 and even 7. It was exactly 30 years ago today that I got to my first college dorm. My parents helped move me in and gave me a chocolate cake and a can of chocolate frosting. Y'know how many friends you can make with the line, "Wanna help frost my birthday cake?"

Every year I take stock at this time of year. Partly it's because it's my own personal New Years' Day but also because it's the start of a school year so it's easy to get into that mode. I've accomplished a lot. Last year I got a lot more weight loss out of the way, but this year I am considerably more toned and in better shape. I am starting to live the life of a thin person, not just a dieting person. It's a good life.

And it's got room for cardio. Cheesy cardio.

Happiness doesn't always come. But with you, my friends, it comes more often, and more easily and it lasts longer. You lift me up and make things so much better. You're gonna make the next 47 rock even more.

Because I'm geeky, because I'm silly, because I relate way too well to Office Space and Napoleon Dynamite, because I know all the lyrics even as I've forgotten High School French, because I've got canned heat in my heels, and most of all because I love you all, this one's for you:

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MRSAKINS2005 9/14/2009 5:18AM

    Happy Belated B-day my friend!

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DAN_ODEA 9/2/2009 10:10PM

    Happy Birthday emoticon!

I see you like quoting songs (this one Steely Dan, "Any Major Dude (Will Tell You)"). I am also reminded, on my own birthday, of the Paul Simon songs "Everything Put Together Falls Apart" and "Run That Body Down".

I was a big Canned Heat fan for a while; they made it up to #11 on my Favorite Bands list in the 1980s. That music just gets better with age.

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CAROLISCIOUS 9/2/2009 10:04PM

    Happy Birthday and Happy New Year! Hope the stress gets better...I'm happy to be here to help you feel better!

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DMPRIDER 9/2/2009 4:35PM

    Happy Birthday!!

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WOLFKITTY 9/2/2009 2:58PM

    May the TRUE gift of this birthday be a lighter emotional load! You'll get through the stress. Have fun celebrating your birthday!


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MARCHMAID 9/2/2009 2:12PM

    Happy Birthday and thanks for the gifts of music! You're pulling your load and helping all of us with ours!

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MS.ELENI 9/2/2009 10:27AM

    Happy Birthday. I always enjoy your blogs.A great way to start my day emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ZEBEBEE 9/2/2009 9:34AM

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESPAH!!! Thank you for all the inspiration and wonderful blogs. May your day be wonderful!

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LOSINIT52 9/2/2009 9:33AM

    Just wanted to wish you a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
You have made amazing changes this past year and I hope the coming year is a great one for you too.
Thanks for sharing your insightful blogs with us.
Best wishes.

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ANONYGIRL 9/2/2009 8:47AM

    Happy Birthday!

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H-2-OH 9/2/2009 8:47AM

    Great blog!
I'm sorry things have been stressful and I hope your cosmic cycle is on the way up, too. Love memories like that. I think it's great to evaluate your life on your birthday. Have a great day!

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FIT_TERI 9/2/2009 8:31AM

    Happy Happy Birthday!

Wow - you're starting to live the life of a thin person. How wonderful. Being active & making healthy choices because that's just what you do. Shopping for clothes and buying only what looks good on you. Sitting wherever you want at Fenway. I hope the situation at work starts to improve and that you can fully focus on enjoying this new life.

Enjoy yourself on this beautiful day.
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    Happy Birthday Girlie!

You can take your stock and say you are it! What amazing accomplishments. What a wonderful life. And you make it look so great, sound so great.

Happy day to you and your hunny. I hope your day is just full of joyful music, the best sights and experiences Bahston has to offah. Just enough introspection for a healthy foundation for the year to come. Maybe a little exercise. Maybe a little of your favorite desert. And the admiring affection of all us Spark Buddies.

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No Time to Search the World Around

Monday, August 31, 2009

I now weigh 189, also known as less than I have since, I dunno, early 1991? I moved my ticker again; now my intermediate goal is 180. My long-term goal continues to be 146.

Yesterday, we went to a Red Sox game. It was fun (I always have a super time at Fenway) and I paid attention when the players' weights and heights were revealed, which is during the second run through the line up.

Well. I'm lighter than almost all of the Red Sox now, or at least lighter than the players they fielded on 8/30. Only Jacoby Ellsbury and Dustin Pedroia weigh less, and not by much (185 and 180, respectively). Pitcher Paul Byrd is a pound more than I am. David Ortiz, Jason Varitek, Rocco Baldelli, JD Drew, Kevin Youkilis, Alex Gonzalez and Victor Martinez all weigh more.

Last year, I outweighed all of them, and a lot of them are a good six or so inches taller than I am. Next year I have little doubt that I'd be able to sit on even Dustin Pedroia's lap without squishing him.

This is assuming he'd let me, seeing as he and I are married, and not to each other. Plus if I was on his lap I'd tell him to tidy up his beard. I figure it's gotta be adding at least a pound to his total.

After the game, we walked home from Fenway. My husband thought it would take us up to two hours. It took an hour and a half, for about 9,000 steps, which is close to four miles.

This year, it was a question as to whether we would walk, and Mr. J asked me more than once if I wanted to stop.

Next year, we will walk, and there will be no question.

Even if Dustin Pedroia fails to tidy up his beard.

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TELERIE 9/1/2009 6:46PM

    Just love your blogs! Keep on hopping down the scale!! I remember when my walks were MUCH shorter than now, and I run "the long round" by my house now. Where will we be next year, eh?

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MARCHMAID 9/1/2009 5:03PM

    Fantasies are strange sometimes when turned into reality, so be careful what you wish for.


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SWEETZMIX 9/1/2009 9:42AM

    GO JANET, GO JANET!! You are just all types of awesomeness! And you never know, you may get to sit on his lap. hehe


OH and thanks for stopping by my blog. Yeah I am still working on that plan u know? The eating out is a really hard thing for me. And you would think that I don't know how to cook. I guess it's a bad habit I picked up being young & living in the city.

OH yeah & I just look too. lol These trainers are not my type as I get to know them, but I just admire their muscles! lol

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    I want to sit in Mike Lowell's lap please.

Congrats on the new low. Spectacular job.

Like Carol, I get all your audio at once. Sometimes I try to listen between the words. Quite crazy actually.

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CAROLISCIOUS 8/31/2009 10:17PM

    Congrats on the new low...and on the lap-sitting fantasy...and on the walk...and on the win.

Here is an odd thing...when I open your blogs, all of your vlogs start to play at once...a mass of a vlog gumbo. Any ideas? If problem. It's kinda fun.

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LIV2RIDE 8/31/2009 8:33PM

    That's great that you walked. No traffic parking headache...and extra steps for the day. Good for you!

emoticon on the weightloss.

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LAB-LOVER 8/31/2009 8:05PM

    Oh, I'd sit in Jacoby's lap before I'd sit in Dustin's! Given the choice that is. Of course Jason would be first in line before all of them!

You know meeting Jason is on my bucket list. I've actually sat and thought about what I would say to him if I met him. But sitting on his lap... I just can't even think about that!

But I digress -- congrats on the walk! We usually park at Longwood and in my old days I thought it was a HUGE schlep to the park... I'd be tired by the time we got there and dreading the walk back. Now... it's a skip around the blog.

Glad you got to see our boys win!

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MS.ELENI 8/31/2009 5:00PM

    I always enjoy your blogs.

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GEE-KNEE 8/31/2009 3:24PM


Nothing like hitting a weight you haven't seen in like 20 years. I bet that feels fantastic. So very very very cool. I am so happy for you. I hope to be there soon myself (i am trailing behind you by 17 pounds), and I haven't been under 200 since high school, so that's..., hmm, 1990 for me.

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WOLFKITTY 8/31/2009 12:11PM

    HEheee. Nothing like the feeling of having a CHOICE to do something like that walk. :)

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VEEJAY3 8/31/2009 11:55AM

    My husband just went to the Green Day concert here in Denver (my 17-year-old son actually had to miss it because of a high-school sports trip, which was tragic!) and he could NOT stop talking about it. He's a musician, and has gone to literally hundred of concerts -- and he said Green Day was like no other, ever. So much energy that he literally said he would not have been in the least surprised to see the roof literally explode off the arena and the crowd just spontaneously combust.

He was soooo impressed. are you a fan?

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Now playing in right field ...

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Quick, cue the stripper music!

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JESPAH 9/5/2010 7:26AM

    It's the attack of the sequel!

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DAVEINSEOUL 8/15/2010 11:41PM

    Pretty cool - I like the ending for sure:-)

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    Awesome transformation!

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TEDDYBABE 7/21/2010 3:05PM

    Thank you for sharing, wow you have given yourself a great gift and are very motivational to all of us!! Enjoy the game!! emoticon

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DANBON 7/9/2010 5:19PM

    Great blog.So inspirational for someone like me who is just beginning this journey Thanks emoticon

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NANCYXXIII 7/7/2010 8:56AM

  That is amazing..., I'm very happy for you and by the way you look great. I would love to do the same very soon. Thank for sharing emoticon

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ADRIENNE323 6/29/2010 5:56PM

    Thats amazing congrates, I cant wait to get to that point, I am so tired of being fat! emoticon

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CHERSAVAGE 6/22/2010 9:12AM

    Good for you! emoticon

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CH0COTIGGER 6/16/2010 12:48PM

    Wow! You are inspirational. Thanks for sharing

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RUCGIEB 6/12/2010 11:36AM

    Congrats, you've inspired me. Thank You for sharing

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RUCGIEB 6/12/2010 11:35AM

    Congrats, you've inspired me. Thank You for sharing

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RUCGIEB 6/12/2010 11:35AM

    Congrats, you've inspired me. Thank You for sharing

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LYNZEY79 5/26/2010 4:32PM

    That is so amazing Jespah! You are an inspiration. Keep up the good work.

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KTC037 5/20/2010 2:05PM

    Wow!!! good job! I want to be like you.... :) emoticon

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RACHELMIDRAY 5/4/2010 3:19PM

    Wow! That was really great. Maybe one day after I lose enough I'll do the same thing and be able to motivate someone the way you have motivated so many!!! Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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JENNYPRESTON307 4/12/2010 6:00PM

  Wow..loved your blog.. You look great....Keep it up.

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LADYHAWKES 3/30/2010 11:38PM

    So cool...congrats...felt the same way about airplane seats!

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MIRIANNE_1 3/29/2010 6:01PM

    Very funny. Good attitude make a good mix with weight lost!

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MICHDANG 3/26/2010 4:06PM

    I loved this video, you looked so cute! Great attitude, you looked wonderful.

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CAROLDEDOO 3/22/2010 6:27PM

    emoticon emoticon You are my "success story" of the day. What an inspiration! and a very good presentation!

Keep on Sparking and Sparkling!!

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IAMSLIM135 3/18/2010 11:21PM

    Way to go Jespah! emoticon

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CLSNYDER1 3/14/2010 2:46PM

    Good Job, Keep up the good work..I love baseball but I love the Yankees...Always a good game between the Yanks and the sox. Congrats emoticon

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MARISEL111 3/10/2010 8:47AM

  Keep it up!

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MELISSAH2007 2/28/2010 7:04PM

  that is fantastic. congrats. I hope that I can do that well. GO RED SOX I can't wait to go to a red sox game again. love them.

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GETFITALREADY 2/28/2010 6:22PM

    You look mahvellous!!!!

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SUDEAUX 2/6/2010 10:46PM

    What a fun video! And a great presentation. Thank you!

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DBERGENT 1/30/2010 4:12PM

    JESPAH! You have really inspired me. I just found this site a couple of days ago and I can't believe how wonderful it is. Your video was great. I will keep checking in on you for more inspiration. Thanks, and keep up the good work. emoticon

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WESTCOASTGIRL2 1/22/2010 9:49PM

    You just saved me from having dessert tonight! emoticon

WOW - what a great inspiration!! I'm at the beginning of my journey, and I WAS craving dessert after surpassing my daily allowable calories by about 50, and thought: "oh, what's 100 more", but now I'm going to have a nice cup of herbal tea (no sugar etc) instead. Thanks to You!

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SLIM242 1/3/2010 3:46PM

    Great job! nice video! You did an excellent job.

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GOOSEMUFFIN 12/30/2009 10:59AM

    I don't know you, but I am so proud of you! emoticon

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KARENE10 12/14/2009 8:37AM

    WOW!!!! You are such an inspiration!!!! You look terrific! Bet you feel much better too :)

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READY2WIN1 12/14/2009 8:01AM

    WOW way to go. Keep up the great work. emoticon

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LADOULANO1 12/12/2009 7:00AM

    You are awesome! What a motivator. YOu are really and inspiration for me. Thanks for this great video

God Bless
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DANAGALUTEN 11/16/2009 5:01PM

  Good for you! That made me smile. You must have worked so hard and you deserve to feel and look good! Awesome, woman!

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ON2VICTORY 10/25/2009 1:48PM

    woo hoo nice job!!!!!!!!

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 10/24/2009 2:23AM

    WOW....You are looking FABULOUS!!!

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MISSM0929 10/10/2009 11:11PM

    WOW - this was soooooo inspiring and motivating. Thank you so much for sharing your story and motivating others like me.

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CHAPALETA 10/4/2009 5:39AM

    Hello; Nice video..proud of you!!..Something similar happened to me with an exit row airplane seat where the arm rests are solid and dont lift up..had to fly 8 hours from Miami to Paris and, I tell you,... my thighs where hurting!! My goal is to be able to fit comfortably in those dreaded seats..LOL!! Thanks for sharing your experience. emoticon

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JACQUISPAGE 10/2/2009 1:37AM

    Wow, that is a wonderful message, you have done so well, keep going, what an encouragement the way you dress now. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FITMAMA1984 10/1/2009 12:53PM

    That is truly amazing. My hat is off to you big time.. you are an inspiration for us all!!

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DNISEY 9/30/2009 2:12PM

    Congratulations!!! Keep up the wonderful work!

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CINDYRIK 9/29/2009 9:54PM

    That was awesome--one of my favorite blogs ever! Congrats!

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KATELOSS2009 9/28/2009 8:27PM

    you GO, girl! what great progress you've made!! you look awesome! I hope you had a GREAT time at the game!!!

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The People Would Sing

Thursday, August 27, 2009

I was there.

If you are looking for some diet or exercise advice or inspiration today, well, feel free to click elsewhere. 'Cause it won't be in this space today. And if you feel that you simply must drag politics in here, or speak of someone's imperfect life (as if our own lives were perfect and, therefore, superior), I do hope that you'll turn around.

Not today. Please, not now.

I live and work in Boston. And today was Senator Kennedy's last trip through the city.

It was a strange, stressful day, like the planets had aligned oddly, and there was an unfamiliar tilt to the axis. I suppose that's only fitting, as when people who are larger than life, they really are -- they affect so much. And so when they are gone, the tilt changes.

So, the tilt. Today work was a strain, which it has been lately. I very nearly snapped at a coworker, a perfectly lovely woman who only wants to work with me, and work well. But I saw her after that, and smiled, and we started to talk, about this of course because it is a very big deal. She is an immigrant, here for decades from India, and so her axis has tilted many ways, I am sure.

The immigrant experience is the story of America, whether you came here by boat or just stepped off a plane. She said, she had donated to some charity or another years ago, and her name was sold, and somehow she ended up on the mailing list for Irish Immigrant Aid. So for years, she'd get mail from them, including invitations to meet Senator Kennedy. I told her she should have gone, she could've said she was from Southern Ireland. WAY South. But she didn't; the dinners cost too much. And now it's too late.

I, too, have a tale. It was around thirty years ago. I was 17, just starting school here. And friends were going to the State House to hear Ted announce he was running for President. I didn't go. I don't know why, after all, 1980 was going to be my first year voting. But I just didn't. And now it's too late.

But there's something about that moment, the Globe mentioned it, they said Teddy was asked why he wanted to be President, and he just couldn't articulate it. That had doomed that candidacy, even absent Chappaquiddick, it was just, who wants an indecisive President? Or at least someone who's not sure why they're there, or even if they want to be there?

I tell you, I can totally relate. I am going to be 47 soon, hey, just about the age he was then, and I still can't tell you whether what I do for a living will make me happy in twenty years, or ten, or even five. I have always had that kind of indecision, that kind of not being sure why I'm there, and I can feel what that feels like because that's the country I live in.

Today at least I knew why I was there. I get out of my office early (my schedule is an hour shifted earlier from everyone else's) and today was no different. My office is across the street from City Hall Plaza, so I stood and waited. A crowd slowly gathered. There was a family, speaking what I think was Portuguese. Tourists. Elderly folk. Mailmen. Office workers. Students. People in wheelchairs.

And then it happened. The motorcade came by, and behind me I heard a man clapping, so I clapped, too, and pretty soon we were applauding, only stopping to wave back at the family as they waved at us. I know they heard us. I know they saw us. And I saw Patrick sitting in the front seat of the hearse. And in the first car behind, oh, it tore at my heart, I saw Victoria. And in the car behind her was Jean, the last of the siblings. And dozens of nieces and nephews. All somber. But many of them waving. They saw. They heard. They knew we were his people. They acknowledged and we did so in turn. They knew why we were there.

When they had passed, I realized I was standing next to a coworker, but not the woman I wrote of earlier. He turned to me and just said, "History." I agreed, and wished him a good night, for it was all I could say.

As I walked away and dabbed at my eyes a little, I hoped she had gotten a chance to see and be a part of it. To be a piece of that silent dance of "thank you -- no, thank YOU."

Luck did have something to do with it, to start, I suppose. But bad luck also had something to do with it, and mixed in with all of it was a boatload of hard work and also a dollop of "I don't know why I'm here".

I know why you were here.

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WOLFKITTY 8/31/2009 12:06PM

    Aww. Thanks for sharing that moment! I was away from the media coverage and all of it, so had very little sense of what transpired. I appreciate you recounting your experience.

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DAN_ODEA 8/28/2009 2:37PM

    We'll miss Ted. He was an outstanding Senator. Thanks for your descriptions; I almost feel like I was there.

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CAROLISCIOUS 8/28/2009 1:45PM

    Thanks for sharing this historic event with those of us who could not be there.

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CANNOTFATHOM 8/28/2009 8:48AM

    Nice blog Jespah! Thanks for the Emerson, Lake and Palmer clip!


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MAKINGTIME4ME 8/28/2009 8:02AM

    Thanks for sharing your historical moment. It is a great loss to our country but a legacy that will live forever.

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MS.ELENI 8/27/2009 11:07PM

    Interesting blog

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LAB-LOVER 8/27/2009 9:06PM

    Thanks for this blog. It it indeed a sad week for the great state of Mass-a-chusetts.
I couldn't read the Globe this morning without crying. So I set it aside. As I said to another friend, I can't imagine being Ted. Seeing his two brothers assassinated for speaking up and standing up for their beliefs. And then continuing to do it himself day in and day out. Advocating for the poor and the little guy even though it would have been easy to check out and live the good life.
He will be missed.

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    I'm glad you were there. For me too.

My part of the planet is off kilter too. This is the end of an era in so many ways. Suddenly Massachusetts is just one among many. Small. Gone is the influence and the clarity. Our voice.

My generation was called to service by the Kennedy's. They were just sinful enough to make it comfortable. No saints here. That would not have made service seem achievable, sexy. Tarnished tipsy halos. And good works. Lots of good works.

It's a good life, this life of service.

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As Real As Real Can Get

Monday, August 24, 2009

Note: the music is good but some of the imagery on the video might be disturbing.

In web development, there's a phenomenom called WYSIWYG, It stands for, well, the title of this entry's song: What You See is What You Get.

And I've been thinking about that a bit lately, and I've decided that when it comes to clothing, from now on, WYSIWYG.

See, way back when, in the dark time, before Spark, before I gave a damn, it was all elastic waists, special little slimming panels, Spanx and control top pantyhose and the like. Everything was restricting or overly loose or deceptive or just, well, a tad surreal. Nothing actually fit.

What you saw was not me. I fooled myself into believing that I looked good or at least decent, that it took off the pounds and the inches and I looked like things were at least not out of control. But the reality was that the only person whose eyes were getting any wool pulled over was, you guessed it: me.

I've woken up, you could say, and decided to go back to what I really look like. I look at ads, at magazines, at catalogs. I suppose we all do. Use this to enhance your bust! Pick this style to hide a protruding waist! Just a little lift to your keister is all you need -- and here's what you need in order to do it! Quick, put this on, it'll hide your hips! Do your makeup this way and your second chin will magically disappear!

Naturally it is all very money-driven. After all, if a store can sell you a sarong to go along with your swimsuit, or Spanx for your evening gown, or a push-up Wonder Bra for your tee shirt or whatever then they make more bucks. No one needs a degree in economics in order to figure out that equation.

But what if -- whether you *need* them or not -- you tossed the Spanx? You ripped the slimming panel out of the front of your jeans? You still wore a bra, for sure, but not one designed to make you look two cup sizes larger?

And instead you let people see that you've still, maybe, got a muffin top. Or your hips are wide. Or your bust sags because, dare I say it, you're not 20 any more? And you don't look perfect because you're a work in progress and you're real and there's something very, very beautiful about that.

I am not saying that I will abandon things that make me look good. If anything, I care more about my appearance than I did before. I like having clothes in colors and cuts that fit and flatter me. I like it when I look better (yes, slimmer) than I truly am.

But I refuse to do it with panels and elastic any more. This is, I know, why it is taking me longer to lose this size than it's taken me to lose the other 7 (yes, really) I already have.

It's because the game is being changed. By me.

This may not be my absolute greatest motivation (my health is), but it is there. I want to be the woman who looks like she's wearing Spanx.

But isn't.


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NYAYNE 8/26/2009 4:32PM

    I have to say my favorite bras are minimizers. Push um in, way in to get them in the suit jacket. I've always worn a bigger top than bottom. Please don't take my minimizers away!

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WOLFKITTY 8/26/2009 1:26AM

    "looks like wearing Spanx... but isn't."

I love it! HEhee.
Good for you!


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MRS_TOAD 8/25/2009 11:55AM

    Indeed! WYSIWYG!

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ANONYGIRL 8/25/2009 8:27AM

    2 years ago I went to a wedding wearing under my suit what could only be described as a sausage casing. Every time I had to go to the bathroom, it took about 5 minutes of futzing and smooshing. I wore the same outfit in June without the girdle, and now I think I'd have to have it altered or wear a belt just to keep it on.

So I'm with you on the WYSIWYG bandwagon - I felt horrible in that elastic contraption and I'm not going back to that.

Also, as a web developer, I wholeheartedly support blogs like this. :)

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LIV2RIDE 8/25/2009 6:40AM

    Well said! WYSIWYG!!!

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GEE-KNEE 8/24/2009 11:15PM

    Heh, I was telling my sister today that those "slimming" jeans ought to be called "muffin top jeans". It all has to go somewhere. I am all for trying to look good naturally.

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4OURBOY 8/24/2009 10:03PM

    You've made this an art form!


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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 8/24/2009 9:39PM

    Ugh. Do people really still wear these girdle things? My mom looked sooo uncomfortable in them.

I refuse to even wear nylons!

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KUNGFOOD 8/24/2009 9:03PM

    Heheheheeeee! I *still* live in my Spanx tops.

One of these days.... probably thanx to your motivation... I'll tanx da spanx.

Thanks for visiting and as always, great blog, music.

Did you notice any heavy people in that video at all?????

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    My Buddhist friends have a concept they call being right sized. Right sized is what we are. Now. What ever we are.

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LAB-LOVER 8/24/2009 8:05PM

    Amen! No Spanx here... No wonderbras eithers. Although I do swear by those Macy's Magic Pants. No slimming panels, they are just cut in a way that makes me look... thin!

Cuz why look good if I can't breath and it's a pain in the hiney just to go and pee!

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MS.ELENI 8/24/2009 7:32PM

    Great blog as usual emoticon

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ANBENNER 8/24/2009 7:03PM

    I think this is a great philosophy. I always notice that women I think are attractive are the ones that are not trying to hide themselves - not wearing makeup or slimming pants or whatever. I hope you can be that person - who looks like she's faking it but really isn't - who is naturally that skinny and beautiful.

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KSTDENIS 8/24/2009 6:43PM

    great blog! i absolutely love the ending!

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