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Seeing is Believing

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

It's been a whirlwind. Yes, I was on television. In Britain!

On GMTV's home page it shows their TV highlights. I'm #2! Plus I was listed under their Today page as a top story, just under (of course!) the Queen's birthday celebration. Her Majesty was 83 the day of my broadcast.

Also, check out this link:

This woman, Sue Jameson, took me under her wing and was so kind and so lovely. She did a lot to assure that I was comfortable and happy. It was so good to have a friend there. We traded emails -- she'd like to know how I do. And, frankly, I'd like to know how she's doing. A very sweet lady.

So, here's how it all went down.

I went to work Monday morning and by that time had a train as I'd already spoken with the producer and had a go. Started dealing with basic work stuff, my mission was to make sure that it would be almost as if I wasn't going to be gone at all. I managed to do that, and I doubt the intern had much to do later on on Monday. I also went in and told my boss, I think she was not quite understanding what I was doing. Then I headed out at noon, only telling my colleagues I was going to NYC to visit my inlaws. Heh, well, that's not 100% true of course.

Mr. jespah met me at South Station and saw me off. The train was lightly populated and I didn't have a seatmate until Stamford. It was on time, which was helpful. Got to the inlaws' at, I think, around 4, 5 PM, something like that. Quickly settled in to get the clothes and props ready and order dinner. Plus I had plenty of voice mails to answer. Once we were done eating, I asked my father in law to wake me at 10 PM. Hence I got about 3 hours of rest although most of that was not spent sleeping. Sue had suggested that, she said people who did not do that tended to really fade by 2 AM.

I had a snack and was ready to go at midnight; the car service was expected at 12:30. Well, it didn't show! After five minutes of waiting, I called Sue. She determined that the car service's computer was allegedly down and they'd lost all their reservations. Hence she came and got me in a cab, and promised to take care of the return trip while I was on. She also told me, while we were in the cab, that she was expecting some major diva editor from Marie Claire magazine. The diva had already insisted on $1,000 for her own personal makeup lady. The New York office had balked, but the London office ended up having to pony up for that. The diva and her entourage were expected at 5 AM. I told Sue, well, maybe the makeup lady is expensive because she works fast.

We got to the studio and it's located at the Thompson Reuters Building at 3 Times Square. The building where the big ball is dropped on New Year's Eve is right across the street. The place was mainly deserted, which makes sense, given the hour. We were greeted by Larry the engineer. Then the phone rang, and it was David Mason in London, wondering where we were. He had just called Mr. jes at home (woke up the poor man), asking where I was as I'd be on in 10 minutes. Eek! Sue then grabbed the phone and told David, "I'll talk to you, she's got to do makeup!" I was doing my own makeup and hair. I work a lot cheaper than the Marie Claire gal.

The room where I was filmed as tiny and mainly black. There was a director's chair on a platform and a small box in front of it to put your feet so that they wouldn't dangle. Then they got me wired up. I got an earpiece in my left ear and the microphone had to go under my dress and be clipped to the side. Sue put it under my dress (so I guess I ended up knowing her pretty well, har har) and everything got plugged in. Then they left me alone in the room and closed the door, I assume to get technical stuff done in the control room. I learned later that a part of that was putting my before picture up.

I waited and then heard a voice in my ear, "Hello, this is Robbie in London, can you hear me? Can you tell me the pronunciation of your surname?" I told him, he said I sounded fine and told me the names of the people who'd be talking to me. Then there was music and suddenly I was talking to Penny Smith and her guest. They asked me some questions and the slant was definitely about the side effects. Which is fine, I have nothing to hide. That interview is the link above. The other interviews don't seem to be up yet. After I was done, Robbie's voice was back in my ear and he said, "Are you sure you've never done this before?"

The second segment wasn't too long after the first one, less than a half hour later or so it seemed to me. That time I talked to Kate Garroway, and was able to show my old Red Sox jersey so you can see how much I've lost. I think talking to her was a little more difficult than it was to talk to Penny but I think in general I did the best with that segment.

Once that one was done, there was over an hour to go to the third and final bit. I grabbed my snack (a Fiber One Chocolate Bar, very nice) and so did Sue, and then Larry gave me a tour and showed me all of the equipment. They are connected with Reuters so there's a news feed coming in. We looked at footage of the perp walk of the teenaged Somali pirate, and also some silly footage of a goat seen in some restaurant, I think somewhere in South America. To which I said, "Their meat is REALLY fresh." Larry is from Massachusetts so we also talked about the Red Sox. He mentions he's often bored during these things and goes online. I told him to go to my website and showed him the site. We also talked about Spark People!

By this time, Sue was tired (she had a cold), told me she'd normally hug me but didn't want me to get her cold. She went home so it was just Larry and me. He showed me some more feed footage and then it was time to go back on. He told me I'd have to put the microphone under my dress as he said he only does that for supermodels. I said, "Well, maybe next year." He replied, "Maybe!"

This time, I spoke with Lorraine Kelly and their resident health expert, Dr. Hilary Jones (who is a man). I think I did the worst in this segment as it was getting close to 4 AM and I was very tired. But Dr. H. did say that he thought I looked really good already. I think they had a hard time believing I still have 55 pounds to go. On that segment there was also a woman who had tried alli and it hadn't worked out for her. Unfortunately I didn't catch her name.

Then it was time to go. Larry got me to the car service and I was whisked off, by limo, to the inlaws' apartment. By the time I got in, it was after 4 AM. I immediately got into bed. My father in law got me up at 8. I hadn't slept all that much.

My train was at noon so I had breakfast and lounged around until about 10:15, then left for Penn Station. When I got there, the cabbie had to let me off across the street. There was some guy collecting charity, asked me and I said to him, "I don't have any free hands." I was carrying all of my stuff, of course. He said, "That's okay, baby girl, I'll catch you when you do." Ha, so I guess I'm Baby Girl now. Better than being Big Mama.

The train was on time and I ended up sitting near a guy named Edward Ellington. As in the Duke's nephew. See:
The guy looks just like the album cover, although now he's probably close to 60.

I got home yesterday, and have been answering emails and of course composing this blog entry. I also sent a thank you note to everyone at GMTV and asked if they'd pass along a message to the woman who had tried alli and it hadn't worked for her. I just wanted her to know that this is not easy to do, and offered my support.

And now here we are. Last night a triumphant dinner at the local Vietnamese place. Surprisingly, I stayed within my calorie range both days. Today I'll go back to the gym, too, so probably tonight I'll finally get a full night's sleep.

After all, a diva needs her beauty rest.

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GREENLILY 4/28/2009 4:37PM

    Yay J!!!! :) I watched the link you posted! Sounded GREAT! :) You'll have to post other links, if you get them! I have to say, you have come a LONG way! You are always such an inspiration. I love that you always "tell it like it is" with that slight humorous edge that helps us picture EXACTLY what you're going through!


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EMMASMART 4/24/2009 10:10PM

    I didn't realize there were SEVERAL interviews. I hope their are checks coming your way. Alli should be paying you for one. Even if not that was soooo coool.


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CAREWREN 4/23/2009 5:52PM

    This is so cool! I appreciate the video so we can really see you but I also appreciate your taking the time to give us such a wonderful rendition of how it went. emoticon emoticon

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MARCHMAID 4/23/2009 6:38AM

    I'm reading all my friends' blogs this morning for inspiration. Yours is way up there on that score!

Hurray for you! emoticon

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TELERIE 4/22/2009 2:23PM

    Wow, what a great experience! Congratulations - you look so good on TV!

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JENZZ22 4/22/2009 10:46AM

    Wow! Amazing story and what a crazy trip with thte timing. I can't wait to see the video, I am at work and can not watch it here.

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We Hear the Playback and it Seems So Long Ago

Monday, April 20, 2009

Actually, it hasn't happened yet, but it will tonight. I'm going to be on television!!!

It's GMTV, which is a British Good Morning program (er, programme). And, eep, they have 5 million viewers! They were looking for someone to talk about alli as it is going on the market there on Wednesday. Spark People's PR Dude Extraordinaire, GrantM, asked for volunteers.

I guess they liked me.


I am going to New York, and will be on live. Since it is a five hour time differential, we are talking, oh Gawd, about 1 AM or later. I'll be the woman in the blue floral patterned dress.

I am psyched. I won't be tired. I'll be as nutty as I've been for the past few days, ever since I learned this was coming together.

How nutty?

Nutty enough to do a boatload of extra cardio.

Nutty enough to have a ton of nervous energy burning off as I tapped my fingers and danced around and did little jogs as if I were a hyperactive kid.

And it paid off.

I lost an astounding 7.0 lbs. this week!

No wonder they want me on TV.

I'll blog about the specific experience once it's done, of course.

In the meantime -- and since I have your attention -- I actually have the month in review to do, so here goes.

It's been 1 year, 3 months since I started taking alli.

Weight and Measurements

I have lost over 145 lbs.

My bicep is 13.5"; when I started, it was 19" (5.5" off)
My bust is 40.5"; when I started, it was 54.75" (14.25" off)
My band is 34.25"; when I started, it was 47.5" (13.25" off)
My waist is 35.75"; when I started, it was 49" (13.25" off)
My belly is 39.5"; when I started, it was 59.5" (WOW, 20" OFF!!!)
My rear is 45.25"; when I started, it was 64" (18.75" off)
My hip is 42.75"; when I started, it was 51" (8.25" off)
My thigh is 22.5"; when I started, it was 32.35" (9.75" off)

Energy Levels

For the past few days, they've been off the charts so it's a little hard to gauge them right now. But they are very good, even when I'm not on an incredible adrenaline high. One thing I noticed (part of my cardio was cleaning, as my folks are coming over in a couple of weeks) is that certain things either don't make me tired, or they do but I recover readily. One of those was scrubbing. I cleaned the heck out of the oven and my arms feel just fine.

Oops, I'm losing my excuses for not cleaning. Hmm.


The past few days have been a whirlwind but my normal routine is the gym on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, with walking every day but Sundays and weights and resistance bands every single day. Everything feels great, and I'm beginning to wonder just a tiny bit about increasing the amount I lift at home. At a certain point, that will hit a limit (that was a big part of the reason why I joined a gym in the first place), but for now I still have a few more weights I could tack onto what I do as of right now, which is 25 lbs. But at 40 lbs. is when I've hit the at-home limit. I just don't want to have a big barbell set at home (plus the exercise room is tiny), so daily lifting won't go above 40 lbs. but I'll make up for that at the gym. I'm not worried about that one bit.


I'm a 14. But I also bought myself a Winter jacket for next year and it's a Medium/10-12. Except for a little hip snugness, it fits. As in I can zip it up and everything, I just have to adjust it around my hips. It'll be perfect in a month, so I'm tucking it away for next Winter, and the old one will go to charity. Right now there's no sense in getting the new one dirty. Currently I'm wearing a pair of size 18 pants that I'm swimming in. Good thing tonight's dress is a 14.

Speaking of tonight, here's a link to the schedule:

The joke at home is that I am now a superstar diva. Hence I am now demanding my own trailer, a personal assistant, a massage therapist and a personal relish tray with radishes carved into interesting shapes.

I'll recount the full experience when I've processed it all.

It's good to be the diva.

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EMMASMART 4/21/2009 9:03PM

That's a direct link for those who can copy and paste.

You done good.


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STARFISH207 4/21/2009 10:42AM

    I just viewed your TV debut by using the link above. You have done an awesome job. What an inspiration! You look awesome girl! What can I say, you've just motivated me to lose another 18 pounds! Thank you so much!



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CAREWREN 4/21/2009 1:37AM

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CANNOTFATHOM 4/20/2009 12:40PM

    Congrats on being on TV!


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JESPAH 4/20/2009 11:04AM

    I should clarify. GMTV is the name of the program. ITV is the channel. It's a British channel -- here in Boston we only get BBC America on Comcast so we can't record or TIVO it or anything, just gotta get it on Youtube.

And, thank you!

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    That is so awesome. The weight loss phenomenal and of course they want you. You are an inspiration and a motivator. You are positive and look at life with a curiosity that keeps you going. I am so proud of you. I hope I can see you on t.v. Great job. I don't think we get GMTV. I have never heard of it.

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JESPAH 4/20/2009 10:32AM

    Grant says Spark will get it onto Youtube so once I have a link I'll send it along. And I'm so glad I know YOU, too, Marit! :-D

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TELERIE 4/20/2009 10:25AM

    I'm so happy I got to know you before you became famous! emoticon
Incredible superstar diva shrinking woman you! Good luck, I wish I got the channel over here - hope to see highlights from the show! Have fun!

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JESPAH 4/20/2009 10:02AM

    My husband, who won't take any guff, says about the radishes in interesting shapes, "Is round interesting?"

Yes, alli is working marvelously well for me. It is one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

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    Wow, that's unbelievable!! I shouldn't say that, because it is TOTALLY believable ... wow!

So you are having a good experience with Alli I take it?

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LAB-LOVER 4/20/2009 9:02AM

    Don't forget the wardrobe consultant, and hair and makeup professional!
Good luck -- I'd be so nervous! You so deserve this chance to shine!

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When There is No Pebble Tossed

Monday, April 13, 2009

I was thinking about this song recently as a number of seemingly disconnected events occurred. The particular lyric that I'm thinking of is this:

Ripple in still water,
When there is no pebble tossed,
Nor wind to blow.

A few days ago my husband and I went to a local park to play frisbee. It was getting late and there wasn't a lot of light left. We'd been playing for maybe 10 minutes and would not be playing for too much longer. Just then about a half a dozen preteen kids came up, attracted by what we were doing. They all asked, "Can I try?" How can you say no to that?

So we played, a bit. They had most likely had never even seen a frisbee before, let alone thrown one, except for one boy who was pretty good. My husband and I gently threw to them and would praise them lavishly whenever anything good happened, no matter what it was. One boy mainly sat and did almost nothing, and was afraid when the frisbee came to him, but still referred to himself as The Boss Dog (my husband was called Doggie and they called me Mama Doggie). Did I mention that this kid who wasn't running and jumping was also overweight?

Then the game changed, and they started to attach conditions to catching the frisbee. One boy said, "Whoever catches this is the sky, the earth, Saturn and all the planets!" One of the girls said, "Whoever catches this is, is ... Hannah Montana!" Of course all of the girls wanted to be Hannah. Did I mention that the only two people there who were the same race as good ole Hannah were Mr. jespah and me? Eh, that doesn't matter. I suppose Hannah is as universal as Saturn to those kids.

Finally, Mr. j and I called it a day, and thanked the kids. They thanked us, too.

Then two days ago, I saw my friend again, for the first time in a good month. He asked me how Philly was. Funny, to me, it had been a long time since we'd seen each other and I had no idea he would remember -- or even care about -- such a detail. But he did. We discussed Cezanne (he, too, is evidently an art world Philistine) and I mentioned to him that I was surprised he'd remembered that I was going away. Well, he did. It mattered enough to him to remember. I was very touched by this.

Then yesterday on Facebook I got a note from a dear friend from High School, asking me about my weight loss. She asked if I could help her a bit. Well, of course.

These three things may not be obviously related, or at all related to the lyric, but they are. And here's how.

What does it mean to say that the water ripples even when there is no pebble and there is no wind? When the pebble of fate doesn't drop and the winds of chance don't blow?

It means that the catalyst is not something random. It means that the influence, the cause, the generator is none other than YOU.

Not only what you can do for yourself, but the way you can influence others. The way that you can hold out your hand and hold their lives in yours. And that they can hold yours in theirs.

Spreading the Spark isn't just about telling people about a website. It's about sharing your positive experiences, even when they have nothing to do with health and weight loss. It's about giving off the better part of yourself. It's about caring about other people. It's about using your powers for good. It's about rippling that water.

And if you're lucky, you get it back a thousandfold. You get people who remember things about you because they care about what you do. You get people who ask for your input because it counts. You get to be the sky, the earth and Saturn and all the planets.

And if you're REALLY lucky, you get to be Hannah Montana. :)

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CAREWREN 4/16/2009 1:12AM

    What a great blog entry! You made it come together so wonderfully. I love that you played frisbee with the kids.

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HEATHERREIF 4/14/2009 11:23AM

    Why do you have to make me think? LOL. I read your blog and relate it to my life. You have such great thoughts and analogies...

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JENIFIREHARP 4/13/2009 10:05PM

    LOL Thanks for the great blog!!!

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VONIEATSRIGHT 4/13/2009 12:43PM

    My 12yo's track team has "Frisbee Fridays," and she LOVED it. Worked hard, too.

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TELERIE 4/13/2009 11:59AM

    Keep on making those ripples in the water! Love your blogs!!

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2BMYOWN 4/13/2009 10:43AM

    What an absolutely wonderful blog! One of the best I've ever read! And what profound insight! Kudos to you, and thank you for posting this, it's a real day brightener! emoticon

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    This is one of the most inspirational blogs I have ever read. It is the hand of friendship. It is about the way of the world and how we can make a difference. You made a difference in the lives of those kids. You took the time to pay attention and teach them that we are all connected, young, old, white, black, whatever. If we take the time to really listen to and show that, then this world can change. Everyone is running around, no time for anyone. But you and your hubby took that time. That is beautiful. I am sure they will remember that and maybe you helped them to see the world in a different light. It may have seemed like just a little thing but it spiraled into an inspiration. God bless you both.
It is our kids that will make that ripple in life and hopefully decide that love can win over hate and that the positive light can still the most negative of all things. Pam

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    This is one of the most inspirational blogs I have ever read. It is the hand of friendship. It is about the way of the world and how we can make a difference. You made a difference in the lives of those kids. You took the time to pay attention and teach them that we are all connected, young, old, white, black, whatever. If we take the time to really listen to and show that, then this world can change. Everyone is running around, no time for anyone. But you and your hubby took that time. That is beautiful. I am sure they will remember that and maybe you helped them to see the world in a different light. It may have seemed like just a little thing but it spiraled into an inspiration. God bless you both.
It is our kids that will make that ripple in life and hopefully decide that love can win over hate and that the positive light can still the most negative of all things. Pam

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I Wonder Who Put Those Ideas in Your Head

Monday, April 06, 2009

I was thinking about this song recently because Spark isn't the only place online where I hear/read people talking about weight loss. And there is a lot of despair out there, and a lot of misinformation and a lot of well-meaning kinda, sorta right stuff and all I can say is it's a good thing that there is a Spark where there is good information on nearly everything. Because out there, there are a lot of sad people and a lot of scared people and a lot of people in denial, and they look for answers and they don't always get them.

Case in point #1.

A woman came to my site (I run a general Q & A site) and asked about weight loss. Actually, she didn't ask, she just complained, and claimed that she would eat next to nothing but still gain. She said she'd weigh herself every day and see variations, so - ha! - diets don't work and life is all despair so why try this cockamamie idea of eating less and moving more when it's all going to end in ashes anyway?


A member who means well but has certain ideas told her that eating less WOULD make her lose weight, WITHOUT FAIL. Welllll, that's not 100% true, as then the extreme would be true, too, and fasting would be the quickest and easiest method of losing weight. Which it's not. I said nothing (I have discussed such with this person before and didn't feel the need to rehash it). Now, this member made some great points, that the daily weigh-in idea was insane, and that there are normal fluctuations. This member was not advocating starvation, either. But I do feel that, in order to be truly and fully informative about such things, it's more than just a simple equation of less in your mouth equals less on your butt. That's not 100% the case, and it is not a linear progression. I feel a lot of folks get hung up on that, that the cause and effect relationship is neither perfect nor simple, and then things don't work out in that perfectly simple manner and then suddenly that's an excuse to let it all go to hell in a handbasket.

Case in point #2.

There is a long-term member on my site who also weighs in (pun intended) on the weight loss topics. Not on the one I was discussing above, but on plenty others. This person is near 80 if not already there and is disabled. And this person, I suspect, has been overweight for a long time.

That person lamented that there's no good way to lose weight. And that because that person couldn't exercise, they were doomed to sorrow and despair.

The member who's into the linear progression told this person to not eat so much. And while this is true (albeit not necessarily 100% tactful), it's not, like I said above, a perfectly linear progression. And the elder member balked -- not being able to exercise was tantamount to it just not being good, ever! Nothing could possibly work, so why even try?

I mentioned hand weights. I mentioned the arm-strengthening cardio used in physical therapy (I've forgotten what it's called, but it's like a little bicycle axle; you push the pedals around with your hands). I mentioned eating fewer calorically dense foods. I mentioned eating frequent smaller meals in order to stave off hunger and binging. Oh no. None of that could possibly work. Never, ever, ever, no sense in even trying and was I ever on crack for even suggesting such insanity.

So I let it go. After all, there are plenty of people -- and I was one of them for a very, very long time -- who really just want to complain that it's not easy. Well, I'm here to say that it's easy to do it. The hard parts are getting started and then sustaining, in particular when things don't seem to be going right, despite your best efforts. But the actual weighing in, measuring and recording of food and moving your body, I mean, let's face it. This is not the equivalent of defending your dissertation. It is not brain power that is necessary. It isn't even, completely, will power. It's determination. It's wanting to do it and being receptive to it. It's opening up your mind to this experience, and letting it work, and giving it a chance, even if you're skeptical. Even if everything you ever thought, or believed or were taught said that it was impossible and that you were foolish and gullible to ever believe in it.

And I wonder -- here's where the title and song come in, folks -- who DID put those ideas in our heads? Who told us that we couldn't make it? Who told us that trying was absurd or wrong or bad or a waste of time? Was it our parents? Our teachers? Our coaches? Our clergy? Our classmates? Our friends? Our neighbors?

Who told us that we'd always be fat? Who told us that we'd never succeed? Who gave us the old line about, "she's got such a pretty face ... but .."? But what? Who was it?

But, in the end, does it really matter? Does it count that someone put a notion in your head that you were not worthy of health, and that you don't matter? It's YOUR head. Choose what to fill it with just as you choose what to fill your stomach with or your house with or your life with. My case in point #2 still laments how things did not work out perfectly back in grammar school sports. That was, what, 70 YEARS ago?

It's time to let it go.

And it's time to let all of those other notions go, too, and replace them with, with what, exactly?

With the knowledge that you can do this. With the strength that you have, even if you don't know it yet. And with the understanding that, even if you're not so sure you believe it right now, that you are so worth it.

And when you're done putting those ideas in your own head, I hope you'll do just one more thing.

I hope you'll do whatever you can to put those ideas into someone else's head.

Because they're worth it, too.

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HEATHERREIF 4/10/2009 8:02PM

    Can I just say....I love you! Everytime that I am feeling down or just need some inspiration I turn to your page. You have been the one to light my fire and get me going and whenever I have no where to turn you keep the flame burning. Thank you for that!

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MARCHMAID 4/7/2009 5:01PM

    Thanks. I needed that. I may whine once in a while, but I know it's my own fault. No one else's. emoticon

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GREENLILY 4/7/2009 2:28PM

    You are 100%, absolutely right on! I think we all at one time or another remember our "inner complainer," whether we did it out loud or stewed in it silently...

Change can be a very hard pill for some people to swallow. The thought of venturing outside their comfort zone may scare them, whether or not it is "for the best." This is such a destructive form of self-sabotage... Positive change requires positive thinking and effort! We are worth far more than we usually give ourselves credit for!!

If mind over matter is thought to move mountains, than certainly it can move a backside off the couch!!! :) LOL! If you want it bad enough, you can do it no matter what it takes!

Okay... I'm not the biggest lover of country music in the world, but the lyrics in this song speak volumes to me...

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DMPRIDER 4/7/2009 1:39AM

    Oh thank you! I've been really off track the past few days and reading your post reminded me that it just takes determination and if you stick to the plan that Spark gives you it will work in time. I have had times in my life where it seemed I couldn't make any headway in the weight loss process, but Spark makes it so simple and straightforward and it sure works for me! Thanks for helping me get my focus back!

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LAB-LOVER 4/6/2009 10:55PM

    Ah, say "Amen" brothers and sisters!


You said it right, my friend!


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CAREWREN 4/6/2009 5:46PM

    I couldn't hear the song, for some reason but I've written it down to listen to on another computer.

We are bombarded with so much information and misinformation, the myths we were told and the stories we make up. It has been said that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.

So, yes, every time one can replace misinformation with information, one person at a time, the better off we'll all be.

Thanks for this blog entry.

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KUNGFOOD 4/6/2009 4:44PM

    Oh, Boz Skaggs... yay!
What a great post... you are an excellent writer, Jes.

Hope you don't mind, but I'm linking this to my SP page!

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ANGEL4NOW 4/6/2009 12:49PM

    Very good points! Everything that has helped me I have learned on Sparks!

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SWEETZMIX 4/6/2009 12:36PM

    sO true. loved this blog because at the end of the day, whoever or whatever helped you decide that you couldn't do this or that and that there is only 1 way to lose weight doen't really matter. It is kind of simple, and all it takes it time and patience...not rocket science! LOL

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JOHAL52 4/6/2009 11:11AM

    Excellent blog JESPAH! Being healthy is really where it's at. I look at some SP members who weigh 120 and want to get down to 110. I think you'd have to be an adolescent or a midget to be "overweight" at 120 but if they want to try, it's their right. On the other hand, if someone is so overweight that they can't enjoy life, can't exercise, have weight-related health problems, then they need to have a complete physical to determine if there's a physiological reason and, if there isn't, follow a diet plan HONESTLY (not forgetting all those little extras that we eat standing up or straight out of the cupboard) and MOVE their bodies every day. Start with five minutes of walking, then ten, then fifteen. Like you said, liaise with a physio to find the right exercise helps.

Everyone who is carrying more weight than our body needs CAN lose it. But it takes discipline and patience and consistency.


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NANCYVV 4/6/2009 10:25AM

    I agree, this is a big problem for people not just in weight loss but in life. It is harder, IMO, to overcome mental roadblocks than physical ones. We usually don't mind pushing our bodies or trying to make them do something they can't (injured runners still try to run although they know they should rest). But give someone an emotional or mental block and they will defend to the death the fact that they "just cannot lose weight, no matter how much or little they eat". Great points!! (The cardio therapy for the arms is called an Upper Body Ergometer or UBE).

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TELERIE 4/6/2009 9:54AM

    I believe you're right as you say: It's easy to do it, the hard part is getting started. Once the momentum is built, it doesn't require a whole lot more than stubborn determination to keep going.
I believe many who never get started (and I count myself as one for a number of years!) are perfectionists. If it can't be done perfectly, we might as well not bother doing anything at all.
I'm trying hard to encourage friends and tell them about the solution I have found. The sad part is we all have to find our own way at our own time.

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    I often think about this too, and I had a serious "oh my god" moment this morning when I was packing my lunch: I measured salad dressing into a little container and put it into a larger container that had lettuce in it. Sometimes my containers leak, so I was pretty excited that I'd thought of a solution. I mean, if the dressing leaks in the lettuce, that's okay! I told my boyfriend, "I feel so stupid that I didn't think of this before!" And he said, "How is it that when you are feeling smart, you still manage to feel stupid?"

Wow. He is totally right. And I don't think it's our parent's faults, it's not the fault of anyone, really. I think it's capitalism. That sounds silly, but capitalism is the one thing that's ingrained into all of us by *everything* around us. We always want more than we have because we're never good enough because everyone is trying so hard to sell us things and make money. In reality, we're all in this together and should be helping each other out, not competing for everything all the time. So ... try to do something good for someone else and take that first step away from constant competition and maybe we can all feel better about ourselves!!

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You've Got to Roll With the Punches to Get to What's Real

Monday, March 30, 2009

I was thinking about this song because recently my routine was disrupted. And there was a time when that would have caused a complete meltdown, and that time was not too terribly long ago.

But the fact of the matter is that there kinda is a routine, and there kinda isn't. I mean, I get up, I go to work, yadda yadda yadda, but things are radically different from what they were two years ago. They are even different from last year as there is room for a gym in my life now.

This experience has been one long routine-disruptor. And that's all to the good, because the old routine was pretty dull. Sure I still got up, went to work, etc., but would come home, go online and gorge myself in front of the PC. Then it would be time for dinner and more food. Then TV and, you guessed it, more and more and more. When I was cold at home, I'd grab a blanket or turn up the heat, not move myself. My husband did much of the laundry. It wasn't even so much that I was incapable or refused, I was just so slow.

So different things have happened, and life has changed in about a thousand ways and it will a thousand more, I am sure. And while I attempt to put a lasso around some things, others just won't be corraled. I do have a lasso around my eating, and if there is one thing I can impart it is to record the food before you even eat it. Check the numbers and work them out. And if that eclair doesn't fit the numbers, either live with the consequences or select something else. Know before you bite. That way you won't be surprised. That way you won't be blindsided. That way you won't be a victim. That way you won't have an excuse.

But there are other matters that just won't stay put no matter what. For a control freak like me to be able to let go of them is no small feat. But there are days when the weather does not cooperate. But I go out anyway. Or someone is jogging on my favorite treadmill. So I pick another one. Or someone is using the rower. So I do something else while I wait. Or I forgot to bring Cheerios into work. So I grab from the emergency oatmeal stash. Or the restaurant is all out of something I want. So I get something else, or we get up and eat elsewhere.

I've recognized that not everything can or should be tamed. And sometimes going around is one way to get there, and another is to go through, or go later. And those can work, too.

How do YOU handle the curves that life throws you?

I mean, I figure, I might as well jump.

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TRECECOOKS 4/3/2009 3:04PM

    Thought provoking blog. You sound like you have truly learned how to roll with the punches. Most excellent!! You prepare with a plan B and C; good job!!

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GREENLILY 4/2/2009 9:44AM

    :) Allo dahlink!! :) Love the blog today!

I know what you mean! It's amazing how far this journey takes us.

When I look back, I can't believe where I am RIGHT now! I never would have thought things would change so drastically...

My routine didn't just quit cold turkey, it slowly evolved into something else! Something HEALTHY!! Whoa!

The curves in the road make for an interesting ride, but I always try to maintain my focus on my destination... not the bumps in the road. I try to keep where I WANT to be right in front of me at all times... Achieving the "dream" is possible! :)


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JENIFIREHARP 4/2/2009 8:39AM

    Ahhh... that video brought back memories... LOL werent the 80s all Mike Nelson's fault???

Seriously, I loved this blog! It amazing how much we change over time. We can still watch our fav shows and eat our fav foods, we just have to remember there is a balance to all things! So if we change our habits and routines to POSITIVE and HEALTHY ones, then we won't want to spend all day sitting and stuffing ourselves. Instead we will make sure a food fits into our day, and exercise while watching our fav shows!

I know my current routine would not be recognizable to the girl I used to be!!!

Oh in answer to your question: I never give up! Positive attitude keeps me pushing forward no matter how many roadblocks get thrown in my path!!!

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TELERIE 3/31/2009 4:22PM

    I track and measure progress, I plan meals and workouts, I resort to plan B, C or D if A doesn't work. I try to vary my workouts so I am not too dependent on one thing working. Recently a lot of the ellipticals at my gym has been broken and in need of service, so I use the rowing machine or treadmill instead. I look for low-cal versions of what I want to eat, or I track and eat a little of what I crave with open eyes and live with the consequences. I'm definitely in it for the long haul and that means navigating through all kinds of curves.

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JESPAH 3/31/2009 6:03AM

    Thank you all - yes, running in a downpour! I was thinking of that. :)

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    You are certainly paying attention to life and its surprises. You are getting a handle on things and taking control. Being flexible helps control stress outs LOL. Keep on going and take it one day at a time. You are doing great. Pam

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SQUISSHY1 3/30/2009 9:40PM

    Great blog entry!! Learning to deal with such things is the hardest part of all of this. It is easy to eat a low-cal cereal bar when that's all that is in your house, but what about those days when you are running late and McDonald's is on the way to work? I have been facing a lot of that lately. I try to keep an emergency granola bar in my bag, or tell myself to hold off on the gas station food because the healthy food at home tastes so much better. And if I do make a not-so-smart choice, I learn and live.

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CAREWREN 3/30/2009 9:27PM

    Know before you bite! Kind of puts a new spin on, "Look before you leap"! Great blog entry. As a control freak myself, I can really appreciate what you've written.

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LAB-LOVER 3/30/2009 8:40PM

    Curves? Just sail through'em... Like run in a freakin' downpour!

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ANGEL4NOW 3/30/2009 7:29PM

    It seems you have what it takes! Keep it going. Logging my food is especially important to me.

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