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Not guilty

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Yesterday, I went WAY over on my nutritional balances. But you know what, I'm just not guilty.

I'm an on-again, off-again Sparker, I admit it now. Actually, this time around I "relit the Spark" because I woke up one morning looking great, stepped on the scales, and realized that not only was I holding on to my previous success from Spark People, but I'd actually been making gains (or rather losses, of pounds), and it simply made me think, "Wow, I'm doing great and I bet I could do even better with the help and support at SparkPeople!"

So, by knowing that I have already made some lifestyle changes that are sticking with me and that I've had success and been able to manage even when I wasn't meticulously tracking every calorie in and out, I have faith that my body is learning what it needs (and what it doesn't), and that I'm becoming better at listening to it.

So, last night, when I was putting away groceries and my body told me, "You know what, why don't you put off that healthy chicken stir fry you'd planned for tonight, I really want some SOS, and you just got that ground beef so you won't even have to thaw it," I listened. I knew it would throw me way over my calorie allowance for the day, but I made the decision even after all those facts were in.

I didn't feel bloated or overburdened after - and I still have faith that there was something in that meal that my body was missing.

Now, back on track, until my body provides the next update!

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NIKKIV2 10/15/2010 11:10AM

    I like the way you are thinking. You make good sense. Our bodies do tell us when they need something. I have just really started making steps to the new me again and have found how much better I feel because of it. I dropped 5 pounds in a little less than a week (not sure if that is totally accurate) but that was my last weigh in to my new weigh in and it felt great to see the scale go in the right direction. Keep up the good work!

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CAPECODSANDI 10/14/2010 5:44AM

    Stay with it, you are proof that spark does work!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CORPUSANNIE 10/13/2010 8:44PM

    So, welcome back. I have slacked off on Spark so many times, but finally realized that it's just something I need to do to feel healthier.
Good luck on your renewed commitment! And thanks for blogging, something I've always been too lazy to do! emoticon

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Who's standing in my way?

Thursday, April 08, 2010

"Most barriers to your success are man-made. And most often, you're the man who made them."

- Frank Tyger

This morning, the above quote was facing me in my "Healthy Inspirations" e-mail from Spark People. It really gave me something to think about this morning, about who is standing in the way to my success.

Weight loss success? Yes, I'm in my own way, here. I find all kinds of things that I "have to" do - have to cook dinner, although my husband offers or even tells me he's fine with something light. I "have to" get dinner in town, because I've had a bad day and don't want to face cooking. The list of things I "have to" do seems to stretch each day, and then the list of things that I really need to do - like working in the time for exercising, making certain that when I'm making meals they are on healthy meal plans, etc., gets pushed aside - by me! Now that I know exactly who is standing in my way, I have one less excuse.

Personal success? Definitely in my own way here, too. I tell myself that I'm "needed" to help at my current job, even when difficult times make it look like it would be wiser to find something else to do. Do I know what else I'm interested in doing? Yes, a recent experience with a close friend has shown me that getting a master's degree and certification as a speech language pathologist could be very fulfilling for me. But I keep finding reasons not to go talk to the university to find out what I'll need to do to bruch up after my bachelor's and be ready for the next series of admissions for the master's program. Who's in my way? Me again!

Quitting smoking? Guess what, I'm in the way, there. Who tells me that I'll just keep smoking for right now, until I can find a time that's a little less stressful? Who tells me that I need a cigarette to deal with something in my life today? That me, too.

Today's healthy inspiration has given me an opportunity to look at the way I'm in my own way in many aspects of my life. It's time I started pushing myself out of the way, and moving on to the better person I know I can become.

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ILOVETOCRUISE 4/8/2010 10:44AM

    This "I have to" bit; my husband says I don't "have to". Good blog. A reminder fo all of us. emoticon

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FRANCESCANAZ 4/8/2010 10:16AM

    I know you can become her as well. Just don't be too hard on yourself in the process. (unless you need to be) Best wishes mi amiga! emoticon

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Tired of cigarettes

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

That's right ... I'm tired of cigarettes. And probably tired, because of cigarettes, because of all of the oxygen they're depriving me from. And tired of waking up coughing in the morning, reaching for the very thing that continues this yucky cycle. I need to quit, I know I do.

On a positive note, I thank the people out there who have finally started making positive commercials that might actually encourage me to quit, rather than trying to scare me with the awful statistics that I already know and tell me all the rotten things I already know about smoking.

I don't even remember whether it was a public service or whether it was for a drug or for a nicotine-replacement aid ... But I remember seeing a commercial last night where an older woman was blowing up a huge balloon, then, when she got it blown up, a little girl cheered, "Grandma, you did it!" and when she took the balloon, all the air came rushing out of it.


I think those of us who haven't yet been able to quit the habit need more positive images like these - something to show how great our life can be without cigarettes, rather than just constantly reminding us how terrible life is with them.

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BABES1369 1/18/2011 7:45AM

  Hi, I stop and then i start again. But now I am simply not buying anymore cigarettes! So there. Good luck to all. emoticon

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GROOVY_GURL 1/20/2010 5:51AM

    When you are ready you will be able to quit. And I totally agree with you that they should show the positive things about not smoking. I have only been quit for 14 days now and already I can tell a big diffence in my sinus passages and throat.

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CAPECODSANDI 1/20/2010 4:32AM

    Jenvose~We (Classy Quitters)are here for you and will support you when you are ready. I agree, they should have thought of the positive imagery smokers need a long time ago!! emoticon

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NEW_HUSKER_MAMA 1/19/2010 2:43PM

    I agree with ya 110% about needing more positive quitting ads. I know the stats ... I just don't need to have my nose rubbed it them everytime I turn around.

I'm tired of smoking too ... tired of my house, clothes, hair, car, whatever ... smelling like smoke.

I'd love to try Chantix, but the insurance company has a ton of hoops to jump thru before they'll cover it, which totally UNmotivates me to try it. "We want to to quit but first you gotta do X, Y, & Z, & THEN we maybe might just possibly pay for the drugs.

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JENVOSE 1/19/2010 2:28PM

    MarieWalkerVa - I'm glad the Chantix worked for you! I've heard very positive things about it. They put my father on Chantix, and he was one of those who had bad reactions; he became very aggressive and had to quit the pills for his own sanity (and everyone else's!). I'm very sensitive to medications, and share a lot of the same allergies and tendencies he does in this regard, so I'm afraid to try.

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KALYNWINN 1/19/2010 2:03PM

    Good luck to all of you. I'm not a smoker, although don't know why, both of my parents were. My dad quit when he had a heart attack and my mom passed, in large part because of them. So the more encouragement you can get, go for it. Hope you all make it this year!!!!!

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MARIEWALKERVA 1/19/2010 1:33PM

    Hi... I am glad that you are admitting to yourself that you want to quit... that is one of the hardest and essential things to do when trying to quit smoking.

I was a smoker... and quit right after Thanksgiving.... I spoke with my doctor about it and she prescribed Chantix... I'm now off the pills and am a non-smoker.

I don't have any desire for smoking what so ever.

And it really feels great to not be a slave anymore.

When you are ready (ONLY when you are ready), talk to your doctor about it. It is worth it... it was for me.

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JENVOSE 1/19/2010 1:30PM

    CNHAGEN87 - I've been a member of the Spark Team Classy Quitters for a while. They're a real friendly group, very supportive, and they're not the type to make you feel awful if you're just lurking and still smoking or if you try and fail at a quit. Also, they've posted a link to a free version of "Easy Way" - I bought the book, too, and it's really food for thought.

Anyone interested in quitting, please feel free to join our team:


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CNHAGEN87 1/19/2010 1:05PM

    I'm with you there! Sick and tired of smoking. Tired of going outside in the rain 15 times per day, tired of huffing and puffing to do the simplest things. Tired of feeling like crap! I don't have cable so I don't see any adds positive or not. I am wondering if any of the products out there actually work or is it just more expensive crap to pay for at the hand of tobacco companies. I will have to spend some serious time researching and create a plan. Links to come if I find anything good!

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KDUNCAN7 1/19/2010 1:02PM

    I am on day four of no smoking. It is not easy but I know it is something I must do for myself. Good luck.

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Ordering off the "light" menu ...

Thursday, October 29, 2009

My husband called and asked me if I wanted dinner out last night as I was shopping. As I'd planned on picking something up on the way home, anyway, it didn't sound like a bad idea. I'd just watch my selections, as I am working on trying to bring more balance to my meals. My usual habits of scarfing a breakfast as quickly as possible in the mornings and trying to remember to bring something with for lunch usually end up in calorie-laden evenings, even if I'm within my calorie count for the day.

He asked about IHOP, which sounded A-OK with me, and so off we went. I perused the calorie laden offerings on the seasonal menu, and must admit, the pumpkin pancakes did have a bit of a calling. And although I knew I probably had enough left in the day to have the smallest version, at least, I decided that it was more important to restore balance, rather than jsut stay within calorie range (I actually finished significantly under, but hope that will leave me room to increase my breakfast calories accordingly tomorrow!).
So, I ordered off the "For Me" menu, and was quite satisfied with the yummy omelette and a side of fruit.

It wasn't until I was driving home that I stopped to consider that maybe I felt a little self-concious about my choice.

When my husband asked what I was getting, I slipped by his question as the waitress came by answering, "I'm ready to order," and simply giving her my order.

He's been very supportive of my weight-loss efforts and complimentary on my progress, although I know he thinks it's a bunch of malarky. But he always tells me, "Obviously, it's working for you, so keep doing whatever you enjoy."

Then I realized, somewhere within me there's a part that wonders, "Does the waitress think, 'Gee, it's gonna take a lot more than this one better decision to take off that weight?'"

I think I'd feel more comfortable if healthier items were spread throughout the menu, instead of sequestered to the back page in a special section for us "fatties." Although I appreciate and applaud the efforts restauraunts are making to offer healthier selections; it would be nice for them to recognize that many people are making complete lifestyle changes. These don't have to be items that are only of interest to people who are "dieting."
Also, I've observed that when I'm with other people who are "dieting," they seem hesitant to order anything from these selections. Maybe these items simply don't have the same appeal as stuffed french toast (of which, I must admit, I've been a victim in the past). But could it be, too, that they worry about what others will think when they order off the "special" menu.

All in all, it was a really good meal, and probably a decision I'll make again. According to the information here at SparkPeople, I'd even seriously underestimated the calorie counts in my dinner (although they brought me even closer in line to my goals of eating evenly), so I felt like it was a good amount of food for the calories.

But I just wonder if the next time, I'll be thinking, "I really enjoyed this meal before, and I think I'll order it again," or if I'll be thinking, "I should really order something off the 'fatties' menu."

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BACK2HEALTHY 11/17/2009 11:03PM

  i hear you but on the flip side- for those of us just starting out, i'd be really tempted if i had to browse throughout a menu and then choose the lighter option! HA! i'd never make it back to the lighter option.
i do like the suggestion of ordering from the calorie menu- that just helps you make informed decisions. maybe your "sinful" dish, when split in half is 500 calories? i think i'll ask next time i'm out. that whole- calories at your drive in has really curbed my fast food intake!! plus, you're not ordering off the "special" menu.
i get a little shy that the "fatty" is ordering off the low calorie menu but i have 2 reasons that help me get past it.
1. my friends that are thin, order off the special menu!!! they WATCH their weight by making healthier food choices. not one of my girlfiends eats whatever she wants. they workout hard, they enjoy in moderation, they ALWAYS check their portions. please, we're not in our teens anymore- it takes work!
2. i used to be a server for many years, i never once thought about the person and a judgement of what they were ordering. i had to focus on their needs, multitask like crazy, "grace under fire," and get an awesome tip to make rent. if you want marshmallow mountains on a prime rib sandwich- i will make it happen for you. HA! Boy, am i glad i'm outta that world!!!hehehhe
awesome blog, though provoking!

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AIRFORCEMOM820 11/14/2009 9:58AM

    It took a lot of strength to stick with your decision after picking up the menu. I hope I can remember your strength and reasoning when this scenario happens for me. emoticon

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LADYNETTIE 10/29/2009 2:27PM

    Next time ask if they have a menu with calorie content included for all selections on the menu. I did that at the Olive Garden, and they had a brochure in the back that they brought out for me. That way, I could see the calorie content of everything on the menu, and choose the item that I wanted, based on my health plan. I was able to order the seafood portofino, which had a much lighter garlic herb sauce than some of the higher calorie cheese and cream based fettucini's, and I enjoyed a glass of wine too- all within my calorie budget! Good luck and keep on Sparking emoticon

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FRANCESCANAZ 10/29/2009 12:11PM

    Maybe the waitress was thinking...Smart choice! emoticon

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NEW_HUSKER_MAMA 10/29/2009 11:55AM

    I've never thought of the healthy sections of restaurant menus in quite that way before... interesting way of looking at it.

I think I'm going to be borrowing your idea of pre-deciding on what to order. That way I'll have PLENTY of time to figure out the nutritionals for my meal!

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JENVOSE 10/29/2009 11:25AM

    PinkStilletos - We have a chain here called "Cotton Patch," with kind of home-cooked meals. Don't know if you have one in your area. But you can order just about all of their meals in a "Dixie Bell" size, which is a smaller order of meat, but just as much of the veggies. I order those all the time with no qualms when I go there, and often ask about substituting veggies when I order meals that typically come with fries. But I've just realized that those "seperate" menus kind of get to me!

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MIRDREAMS 10/29/2009 11:18AM

    I agree with you, there's a weird vibe when you go out to eat, especially with other women actually, on the one hand they'll notice more and applaud you for "being good" but on the other hand there's a feeling like you're showing off, being smug, trying to make them feel guilty. I've found if I look at the menu online before hand and know going in what I'm going to get, it helps me avoid both longing for other, less healthy options and it makes me feel less self-conscious somehow, like the decision at that moment is out of my hands.

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PINKSTILETTOS 10/29/2009 11:08AM

  Good for you for making the healthier choice at a restaurant where it would have been so much easier to go for the pancakes! I think it's all about how you look at it when you talk about the placement of healthier options on the menu. I have never thought of the healthier options as being in one place for us overweight people. Usually, I think, I bet this is what the HEALTHY people order. I have never thought of the healthy options on the menu as the designated "Overweight Person's Sections of the Menu".

And, when I worked at Denny's I would often order off of the kids menu and the senior's menu because the portions were so much more realistic for what any person should be eating.

Hold your head up high when you order the healthy menu items and tell yourself that the back of the menu is for the healthy people.

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Large? Ha ha!

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Over the weekend, I was going through a few clothes I'd picked up at the women's shelter thrift store some months back. When I'd made the purchase, it was with the anticipation that I would be losing some weight, and they had a fabulous sale of buy 2, get 3 free, so I'd picked up sizes up to a couple of sizes smaller than what I was currently in, so that I'd have them when the time was right.

As I was preparing for a Halloween party with friends (which was unfortunately canceled), I decided that one of those pairs of pants hanging in my closet was just right. I remember when I bought it that the tag had been removed and it was just marked "women's large."

"Perfect," I thought. "They might even be a little baggy now, but for one night, I can make them work."

Not a chance! I'm down to size 14 now, and while I was able to pull the pants up over my hips now (a major accomplishment, since only six months ago I wouldn't have even been to get a pair of size 14s up to my hips), they were a definite no-go.

I remember that at the time I purchased them, I held them up at the waist to my other acquisitions, and they seemed to be much closer. Probably someone at the thrift store trying to determine the size had made the exact same move when they deemed these pants a large.

But, they are a nice pair of pants to keep for my upcoming goals ...

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LADYNETTIE 10/29/2009 2:30PM

    I always buy pants a little tight. That way I am inspired to keep working at it, and there are rewards hanging in the closet for me when I get to a goal! emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/29/2009 8:37AM

    Hang onto them! You WILL be able to wear them!

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FRANCESCANAZ 10/28/2009 7:19PM

    Large is so much more wonderful than X-large! Mediums here we come.... emoticon

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FREDDY1232 10/28/2009 7:04PM

    Keep up the good work. Pretty soon those pants will go on like a glove. (no pun intended.)

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OLIVERSMOM2 10/28/2009 4:11PM

    I went fake shopping this past weekend just to see what size I was. Even though I still "large" I love it!

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MELTEAGUE 10/28/2009 3:48PM

    What a nice surprise! you must have felt wonderful!
your hard work has paid off, well done and good for yoU!

Keep up the good work! Way to go!

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