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Pictures in magazines

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

I see them all the time, those perfect models in my magazines and advertisements. They haven't made me feel bad in years, because I realize that the photos can be touched up. Now when I was younger, yes, the magazine people were something to emulate. And possibly a reason to make me think I was "fat" by the standards. This is not an excuse, just something I try to remember as my own kids are growing up. I tell them NOT to believe everything they see...
and I am teaching them to love themselves AS THEY ARE rather than trying to look like or act like everyone else!!! Hopefully the message will stick. Especially because they have watched me lose all this weight, I make sure that they hear that I finally accepted myself the way I was BEFORE I lost any pounds. Then I could start my journey towards a healthier me rather than trying to look like someone else!

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LIFES*2*SHORT 5/21/2009 9:33AM

  I agree totally! And then we move to the barbie topic... okay.. I won't go there. lol You're doing awesome... and you're a great mom to boot!


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DEBULACLARK 5/19/2009 10:57PM

    Jen - I couldn't agree more whole heartedly. Another friend just blogged about the same thing. She was quoting Kate Winslet. Kate is one of the few "real" actresses out there. She admits they touch her up so much that when she sees her pic she's usually amazed at how great she looks! She said it's amazing what 3 hours of hair and makeup and photoshop can do.

I think it's great that you are instilling the positive values to your kids too. I try to do the same with Dominic.

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Mother Nature is calling my name...

Friday, May 15, 2009

I love love LOVE this beautiful spring weather. Everything is greening up and growing and blooming. Right now my DH is out tilling the garden so we can plant some veges for the summer and fall... we have some little plants already started on the back porch just waiting to be planted, along with some seeds... so in a few months, we should be making less purchases at the grocery store. Last year we had some luck with a few tomato plants (I LOVE fresh garden tomatoes!!!) and some other various summer veges. We even got ONE pumpkin to grow for the fall LOL (it came from a forgotten rotten pumpkin that was tossed into the edge of the garden...) This year we are aiming to grow a bigger garden... we will see how it turns out.

I have been spending much of my time outdoors, which means less time on SP. So if you haven't noticed me as much on threads, it is probably because I have been out biking, walking, gardening, or playing with the kids, or even "scouting".

By the way, my cub scout Leader training last Saturday was a windy but nice day. We started by singing the national anthem with about 26 people as the flag was raised. Then we had various camp training activities. We took one break by taking a group nature walk... besides tripping over a root while coming down a wet hill and being caught by two other scout leaders... it was a pleasant walk LOL. The outdoor chapel was a peaceful place to just sit and commune with nature. We even made our own dinners in tin foil (mine was chicken and a LOT of veges!) YUMMY! Most of what we learned was old school camping, since pretty much every parent and leader there had camped in the past. They did give us lots of great ideas for planning, safety, first aid, and campfire activities.

When I got home, we had a nice family (my birthday) dinner. By the way, thanks to all of you who wished me a happy birthday last Saturday! Then on Mother's Day we took a road trip, and on the way home discovered a great park... where we hopped out of car and walked around and explored. We all ended up playing together! It was so much fun.

This coming weekend, we have plans to enjoy some local free events in town: A garden show in the AM on Saturday, a community day in the afternoon with free food (I promise to be good!) and on Sunday, we have tickets to a baseball game acquired through scouts, so we will be going to the city and seeing some of our adult kids for dinner afterwards.

As I said, I am outside A LOT right now, enjoying the spring weather! LOL I should probably go check on the progress on the garden right now...

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LIFES*2*SHORT 5/16/2009 11:45AM

  You just go and enjoy your time outside... the winter will be here soon enough. lol We're hoping to get our garden in soon too... but there is still risk of frost here. ugh.

Have an awesome weekend!


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BIKERCHICK74 5/15/2009 8:11PM

    Enjoy... this is a blessed time of the year.
Love it too!!!!

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I have so much to share... and so little time LOL!!!

Friday, May 08, 2009

OK, so this week has been quite interesting... with many Hoorays! and Yucks!

So I guess that would make it average instead of interesting LOL

The truth is that I don't have time right this moment to write about them all so I will summarize:


Seriously, I had a bad day or two, but every bad day had great moments to look back at, so that makes it all OK. Looking forward, tomorrow is my birthday. I will be 35, and I look better than I have in, well, forever!

Normally I resolve to spend the whole day (on my Birthday) doing whatever I want (I usually take off from work) BUT I have some training that needs to be completed tomorrow for scouts, so needless to say I will spend the whole day learning about leaders/camping/rules, which actually should be fun (I am being optimistic... if it isn't fun, I will make it fun!!!)

I am looking forward to coming home in the PM and being with family.... but I will probably take a shower first and put on my favorite outfit because I will be out in the mud all day ( it has been raining a lot the last few days).

If you don't see me sparking on Saturday, you now know why! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!

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LIFES*2*SHORT 5/9/2009 12:12PM

  Wishing you an AWESOME and blessed birthday!!!


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SHERREMAC 5/9/2009 7:38AM

    emoticonhappy birthday

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Have a great day !!!!!!

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    Happy Birthday!! emoticon

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FINDINGMYWAY09 5/8/2009 9:34PM

    Happy Early BIRTHDAY!!!!

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What other people think of you is none of your business!

Thursday, April 30, 2009

A spark friend just reminded me of a something that happened to me that always pops into my head whenever someone makes a cruel or thoughtless remark towards me or one of my kids complains of someone at school making a remark to them.

It was about one year ago, and I was taking a walk in the park with my then 6 year old. It was a pleasant day, and the park was full of teens, families, and kids enjoying the spring weather. A beautiful young girl walks by, wearing jeans and a t-shirt, hair done nice, smile on her face, talking on her cell phone. Two preteens going the other direction start making those "Hey Baby, where you going type remarks," which she ignored (smart girl)! So the boys instantly turn nasty, calling her fat *butt* and ugly and other such unfriendly remarks (which in turn meant I had to talk to my 6 year old about bad language!) Anyhow, the girl kept walking, never stopping to get upset, or say a word to those boys, who just kept up the comments for a few minutes. I had an epiphany. This girl was gorgeous, and STILL someone made a nasty remark about her looks! And she didn't seem bothered one bit!

It wasn't too long after that where I was biking though the very same park when too teen girls made nasty remarks to me about 'Fat *butts' on bikes... I tried not to let it bother me... but it wasn't easy. Then I remembered that beautiful girl walking through the park, and I felt calmer!

Who cares what other people think about you? The only thing that matters is what YOU think about you!!!

NOTE: I don't remember who that quote in the title is from, but I have seen it here at SparkPeople many times!

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ALEXSGIRL1 5/28/2009 4:40PM

    good blog it reminds me of a quote i read." never limit yourself because of others' limited imagination; never limit others because of your own limited imagination." Mae is only what we think of ourselves that count. we must always think of ourselves as strong and good and important to god and others.

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JOYATLAST 5/28/2009 5:46AM

    I love this blog! And the title. I just felt a weight lift off my shoulders. Wonderful! Thanks for that!

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    Thanks so much for sharing this, Jen. I really need to learn to take this to heart more. I have this crazy fear of seeing anyone that I went to high school with because I am over 100 pounds heavier than the last time anyone saw me. I avoided my 10 year reunion because of it. But I want to be proud of who I am. I am walking with my head held higher than I have in a long time. so... hopefully some day soon I will be able to keep on going and not care what anyone says...

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    People make derogatory remarks to try to boost their own self-image. It doesn't work that way.

They may think they are being clever but to the rest of the world they become the dirt beneath our feet.

Great blog!

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SUPREME5 4/30/2009 10:03PM

    great blog and truth is some people have no manners but your son will thanks for informing him of how wrong they were. he will grow up to be a son you will be proud of

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LIFES*2*SHORT 4/30/2009 10:00PM

  I can't believe that it's actually letting me respond. WOOHOO. ANyway... good on ya for thinkig that way. There is always someone in this world who will think that we are.... too fat... too short... too tall... too skinny... too ugly....etc. There is only one who we need to impress... and that is GOD... and he looks on the inside. :P)


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DONANNE 4/30/2009 4:19PM

    Way to have Grown while loosing! Now that is should be so proud of yourself...I know I am...thanks for a great blog, my friend! Hugs emoticon

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BABIE_JANE 4/30/2009 1:11PM

    Thank you for sharing this story. Isn't it a shame we get caught up so much in what others think. I am glad I have left that phase behind me. If I feel good about me, that is what counts.

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SUZI219 4/30/2009 12:33PM

    I really enjoyed that!! When I was younger, I used to worry about what others thought. Now, I know that it is what I think about me that matters!!

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SHERREMAC 4/30/2009 12:21PM

    great story! thanks

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Leave your POSITIVE mark on the world...

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

I love quotes, so I subscribe to those daily healthy reflections that SP sends out. Today when going through my emails I found this one:

The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.

- William James, philosopher and psychologist

Here is what this quote inspired me to write:

Notice that it didn't say you needed a skyscraper with your name on it, or a street, or a statue... it just says SOMETHING that will outlast your life. I believe that most things that we do touch other people's lives, and it can be a ripple affect! So if we take a little extra time and touch someone in a positive way, whether friend, relative, or stranger, we can start a positive wave that outlasts each and every one of us alive today. Start small with a smile for the next person you see... add a random act of kindness... be a little more patient with a stubborn friend... do something for someone without being asked... "forget" to grumble and complain next time life treats you unfair... volunteer at least a little (read a book to a child, work an hour at a soup kitchen/food pantry, give blood) whatever you can do to leave your mark on the world!!!


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    Thanks Jen - good way to think of it! I like that quote.

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STILLFLYIN 4/23/2009 10:04AM

    Lovely thinking! Thank you for sharing it.

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SUNLUVV 4/23/2009 6:09AM

    Thanks for posting your take on this quote. When I read it I felt discouraged because I couldn't think of one thing I have ever done to qualify, now I realize I do things every day to leave my mark!

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MOTECA 4/22/2009 11:39PM

    Good Blog, I totally agree!

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