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Tuesday, June 01, 2010

So nearly a week has passed. My husband and his brother rushed over (after just returning home) because we were told it was the 'C' word we were dealing with. Only to learn it was a precautionary doctor who wants us to know everything he is thinking could possibly be wrong with him.

The C-diff has cleared. The TB test was negative. He is not fully healed of the pneumonia. Late last week they did a bone study and took blood. They told us they were looking for multiple mylenoma.

The spots on the CT scan became 'we're not sure'. It could have been from prolonged Prednisone use. So the blood work and other things to come would look further.

I decided to pull the kids out of school early on Friday and head over. My parents would be there, so I could go see him in isolation. I did take my 10 yr old. He saw his grandfather as he came out of the bone study. He would not be allowed to go into his isolation room in ICU. As I watched him breathing, all I could think was how he could not continue to breathe in this way for much longer. His breathing is severely labored, and he breathes more from his stomach. He looks like he is trying to do crunches laying flat on his back. I know there has been talk of intubation, but he has not said he is ready for that yet.

He had a lung biopsy today, and thank heavens they were watching closely. His lung became partially collapsed and they said they could put a tube in to help correct the problem. He asked what would happen if he said no, and they said it would collapse almost 100 percent and he would then need surgery to fix it. He agreed to the tube. Also, they could not get what they needed in the biopsy so they would do a 'smear' test.

The oncologist came in, and what they could tell my husband (in his father's presence, anyway) was that they found proteins present. The proteins in the blood could indicate cancer (the multiple mylenoma they were looking for). I asked if they told him the type of proteins and he said 'no'. So more waiting. He said they may, if the lung smear test does not show more of what they need to know, have to do a bone marrow test.

Late last week, FIL said he wanted to go home to die. Trouble is, he is getting breathing treatments every 4 hrs. His breathing is just painful to watch. He can't walk. I have no idea what the man is thinking. I can understand he just wants peace, but in the hospital they can keep him as comfortable as possible. Treat him humanely. He does not deserve to go home (unsafe discharge) and die from lack of breath.

And so we keep going. More to learn in the days to come.

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SEANDA 6/2/2010 11:11PM

    Lifting your fil up in prayer.

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NINJALINDA 6/2/2010 10:18AM

    Sending prayers your way. What a difficult situation!

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250STRONG 6/2/2010 8:44AM

    So hard.

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RUNTRILAUGH 6/2/2010 8:38AM

    Been there with my Mom, and am going through this with another family member, and to a lesser extent, my Dad.

Prayers for all of you.

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MARATHON_MOM 6/2/2010 7:11AM

    I know that this is a very difficult time. I have been there with my Mom. I am saying a prayer for you right now, Julie.. for your father in law, your husband and you and for all of the family.

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    Prayers are still continuing for the whole family.

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ETTEZEUS 6/1/2010 9:18PM

    My prayers are with you, your family, and your FIL

My FIL passed away last week at home, and was made as comfortable as possible with the help of Hospice. He endured a very long illness and was tired of the hospitals. He was more comfortable at home. The family abided by his wishes as it was his decision.

It's hard. I know.
(I'm saying an extra prayer just for you now.)

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BABY_GIRL69 6/1/2010 6:03PM

    I whispered a prayer for you & your family. God will hold you guys in the palm of your hands. God bless! Dee

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NEWNAC304 6/1/2010 5:38PM

    I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through such a rough time. I wish you all the best of luck.

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MADEMCHE 6/1/2010 5:25PM

    I am so sorry to hear Father in Law's struggle. It is awful to see a loved one in pain. My heart goes out to you.

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What I'm Grateful For - Tuesday

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

I'd like to put two things down for today:

1. That I can do some of the PT exercises better (and feeling up to doing them)

2. That my husband was with his father when he got word that, after his lung biopsy, he had a partial collapse. It would have been terrible if no one was there. Father in Law has a lot of anxiety about the state of things. Unfortunately, there is not much that we can do except visit and talk to him.

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    emoticon But visiting and talking make a world of difference to him though.

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What I'm Grateful For - Monday

Monday, May 31, 2010

Today, I am grateful for the men and women, past and present, who have served for our country.


What I'm Grateful For - Sunday

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Today, I am grateful that my oldest son slept in and when he fever. He was very miserable last night and wanted to rush home. I convinced him to shower, sleep elevated with pillows, and gave him meds. I heard him cough at 3am and gave him meds so he could keep with the restful sleep. It was all worth it. Hoping he improves further so that I don't feel the need to take him to the pediatrician.

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VALPAT1 5/30/2010 9:03PM

  A mother is always concerned when her kids are unwell, no matter the age of the child. Hooray that your child's better. Yes, it is something to be truly thankful.

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What I'm Grateful for - Saturday

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Today, I am grateful for time with family. I decided at the last minute to come out with the kids to spend time with my parents, brother, and visit my father in law in the hospital. I took my oldest son with me to the hospital, and I think it was really good for my father in law.

There is further testing taking place, and we won't know more until mid to late week of next week.

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    Hang in there - emoticon

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