Sunday, January 01, 2012
Joining the team "Fit & Organized" got me thinking: I had already begun decluttering my home of all the "too-sentimental-to-throw-out" and "you-never-know-I-may-use-it-one-day" stuff. But there are other areas in my life that I need to declutter, such as:
I have a mind of my own. I do not have to go along with what others are doing, just to be sociable. Today after church my daughter-in-law suggested brunch at a restaurant. I said, "No, I'm not hungry; I had fruit this morning"-- but no one else had, so we went to a restaurant. Over everyone's protestations, I ordered only coffee, and I offered to feed the 2-year old so her parents and my daughter could enjoy their meals.
I just commented on another SP Friend's blog today, who was saying she felt overwhelmed by feeling she needed to respond to everyone who encouraged her on SP--I told her that I was sure no one was watching to be sure everyone responded to their comments. They had too many other priorities to feel slighted by something so trivial. But I have spent a lot of time responding to "thank people" as well-- probably unnecessarily, too. I'm going to declutter that thinking-- for me that time will be put to better use giving some comments that might actually help inspire Sparkers to stay with their plan or congratulate them on a goal reached. I know I have been much encouraged by many in those ways. In a few days I will be back to work; my time will be limited. I will use it wisely, with no guilt.
More decluttered thoughts involving "shoulds":
I do not HAVE TO "invite" someone who has invited me (to dinner, to a party, etc).
I do not HAVE TO join, let alone take the helm, of committees or organizations that I no longer want to participate in.
I do not HAVE TO do ANYTHING that I even suspect is not in my best interest.
I will ask myself. "Do I really want to do this?" or "Will I really benefit from this?"
This does not make me selfish; it frees me to take care of the things that are really important to me. One of the things I really do want to make time for is to volunteer in a soup kitchen this year.
I can do this!