Friday, December 19, 2014
Had a good day today. Felt well enough to go to Curves and work out plus got a sassy hair do with highlights and poinsettias painted on my nail! Had lunch with a friend and now my nephew is here for his Christmas visit. He asked me if I was Sandy from Grease with my hair all done up.... Can I just say I was thrilled?!! Thrilled!!!
Day 12 is about fuel versis filler. Linda Spangle defines fuel as those foods that truly nourish us, like lean protein, whole grains, high fiber foods.... Fruits, veggies, other nutritious choices. She defines fillers as those snacky, junk food types of food that I so adore! Chips, sweets, etc. Today's exercise was to keep a detailed food journal and identify those foods that were fuel and those that were filler. My day was mixed. We went out for Mexican this afternoon, so I got the half portion of Arroz Con Camrones, rice and shrimp. the shrimp were grilled and this does come with grilled zucchini and squash on it, but also white rice and cheese! I added a guacamole salad to the side for the greens and the healthy fats of the avocado. Had chili and a salad for dinner. I did have popcorn, which I guess could've been worse. I plan to redo the 100 Days once I get thru it the first time and put a lot more effort into each daily activity/assignment. I feel I am learning now and then can put it all into action after the holiday rush!
Happy Holidays! Taking me and my cold to bed!
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Since SP changed I can't find the points wheel. It used to be right there on my start page where as a blind person I could click a button the way I click things and spin the wheel. I was on a good streak and now I can't find it! It is not a big deal, I don't need Spark Points, but it is yet another slap in my face reminding me that I am blind and can't do what everyone else can do! Then, I tried to purchase a gift for my husband on E-Bay and you need to have an account. You used to be able to purchase as a guest and it still says that in the help section, but guess what? No guest check out. to register you have to look at one of those squiggly line things and type in the caption you see.... Yes, you read this correctly.... Look at and see.... No audio caption as other sites provide for those of us who are blind and want to spend our money at their sites! So, I call and they tell me the only thing I can do is get someone here to help me. Really? What if I didn't have anyone? What if, as in my case today, I am buying a gift for the sighted person who is here? What if you were like my friends and both of you are blind? Get real E-Bay and step up to the times! Grrrr! OK, of fmy chest and I am done.
Day 11 in the 100 Days of Weight Loss starts a section on our relationship(s) with food. This coincides with my Weight Watchers program too. Chapter 11 talks about there only being 2 reasons for our food.... (1) Fuel: to fuel our body and meet its nutritional needs and (2) to appreciate the flavor. Fuel and flavor that is it. Not for comfort, not for something to do, not for all the other reasons we find to eat.... We are happy, let's celebrate with food! We are sad, let's give a hug with food! Someone died, so let's eat to fill that void; someone got married, let's eat to show how much we care; let's eat to make Grandma, Auntie, Mom feel not so guilty.... You know the drill and have eaten for other reasons than fuel or flavor, as have I, many, many times! In fact, I've felt bad from a cold all week and have been very emotional following the death of a close friend on the very date on which my mom died, so food has been there even when people have not! So? so, I ate? I was too sick to attend my WW meeting and see how much damage I've done too! So, fuel or flavor?
The exercise was to take notice and write down when I eat and what I eat and what time and decide if the food was fuel or flavor. I'd say today was a mostly fuel day, but probably not the most nutritious fuel. I have not been junking it all today like in past days, but canned soup is not always the most nutritious choice.
I am angry and I am sad about being blind today. I'm not always sad about being blind, when I hit a roadblock that stalls me because of being blind I get angry, sad, mad, hurt, disappointed and guilty! If only comes creeping in.... What do I have control of when I feel all these things? Food. So, then I should take control, but often I do not. I'm going to put this exercise to the task the next few weeks and see what I learn. Hopefully there is a WW meeting I can attend on Sat. I don't want to be non-accountable for my depression charged bad choices this week!
I know life is good, but I'm having a pity party today!
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Not feeling well and didn't get to post yesterday! Both me and my dog are sick! So, my mind is not all into the 100 Days!
Day 9 is about What I Want. It includes a short quiz to answer and read aloud and share with family and friends about what I want in the ways of support during my weight loss journey. Day 10 is about Accepting Compliments and the 2 chapters do go hand in hand, so OK that I didn't post yesterday!
Here is the quiz with my answers marked by an *!
What I want from you
1) If you see me eating something that's not on my diet plan
a. Ask me, "Should you be eating that?"
b. Ignore it entirely
*c. Ask me if I've had a bad day
*d. Give me a hug.
**I think asking about my day instead of focusing on what I am eating will be more of a help to me. A hug is always good in my book, so I would never turn that down from a loved one! Asking how my day went after seeing me eat something that may not be appropriate for my plan lets me know the person cares about me and not just my weight!
2) When I'm making progress, such as losing weight
*a. Compliment me on how I look.
b. Praise me in front of others.
c. Never comment on my progress in front of others.
d. Give me non-food gifts or rewards.
**I'm not opposed to public compliments and if a person hasn't seen me in awhile and notices a difference, then good. Tell me I look good. Even ask what I am doing to lose weight. But, making a big deal about it and asking if I am sick, or being "amazed" at how much weight I lost do not make compliments to me. It is a way of passively calling me fat and you don't even believe I could lose weight. Tell me I look good. Ask me my secret. Compliments my clothing. Just don't go overboard. but, I wouldn't expect this negative reactions from my friends and loved ones. Maybe from casual friends, but not my close ones. I'm at the point now that not too much people say to me bothers me if they are not close friends of mine. My husband is good about compliments and appropriate compliments, so no worries for me there!
3) When I'm struggling or gaining weight
a. Tell me you notice and really care about my struggle.
*b. Ignore it entirely.
c. Hug me and show me extra affection.
d. Ask me how you can help.
**I didn't know how to answer this one. when it comes to my husband he seems to know the "right" thing to say depending on my mood or state of mind or level of discomfort with the gain. If anyone else notices I'd rather they just keep it to themselves. After all, it is not like I don't know I'm gaining weight. My husband knows if I need a hug or need some help or want some encouragement.
4) When I'm making progress you can't see (such as improving my self-esteem)
a. Ask me how my efforts are going.
*b. Compliment me on how I look.
c. Ignore my efforts and my changes.
d. Give me non-food gifts or rewards.
**This seems to be for people who have people who undermine their efforts and have larger families. It is just me and my hubby here and the negative person in my life who helped me feel bad about myself is no longer a part of my life. So, it is hard for me to thing about these situations. I'm always up for a compliment on looking good though. How do I expect someone to know I've improved my self-esteem or have had NsVs unless they are part of my life and weight loss journey? At my WW meetings we do acknowledge non scale victories and get rewarded in positive ways when we share.
5) When I've maintained my weight (even though I may still want to lose more)
*a. Tell me you are proud of my current efforts.
b. Ignore the subject entirely
c. Ask me if I'm struggling or feeling discouraged.
*d. Compliment me on my looks and my efforts.
**I took this one for my husband. He is good at supporting me anyhow, but I would like him to continue to tell me I look good and he is proud of the efforts I make.
AS far as compliments go, there used to be a time where when someone complimented me I would push it aside and make excuses for their praise.... "Melissa, you look good in those pants" might be met with oh, the cut is right for my body or the good ol' these old things? But, I've learned that I am worthy of compliments and when people tell me they like something about me I say thank you and I mean it. Peple do tell me I am amazing all the time due to my blindness. I do argue this one. I am not amazing. I simply live life to the best of my abilities. But, even with this one I tell people thank you even if it does come with a "I'm just doing what I can do"! But, I do try to accept compliments graciously and genuinely. If the compliment comes at a particularly rough time I tell the person that their words really mean a lot and came at just the right time! Even when compliments are backhanded or not really compliments I thank the person and go on about my business. Usually that throws them off their destructive game! I had a person my age tell me one time that I looked the same as I did in HS and I said thank you and she said, oh, I guess that is a good thing! I suppose she was insulting me in some way, but I wouldn't take it that way and it confused her! No one can make me feel bad about myself, but me. They can try, but I'm not going to let them! so, if you are going to be rude, then that is your problem. I'm using the general "you" here for all folks! When you are perfect, then tell me I shouldn't be eating that if I want to lose weight! People are people.
Thanks for reading my blogs as I struggle thru this weight loss journey! all I can do is try and change!
Monday, December 15, 2014
Today's topic is about asking for or receiving, sometimes unwanted, help from others. I, personally, do not feel comfortable asking for help with my weight loss efforts from any of my "fleshy" friends, those real life friends, not Spark Friends! I'm not sure why either. I just don't want to ask. The name of Day 8's topic is "Help Me Please". It looks at what kinds of things we want people to say to us to help motivate us and those things we don't want people saying or doing to help in our efforts. Do I want compliments? Public compliments? Do I want people telling me "you shouldn't be eating that" or actually snatching food out of my hand/mouth? What do I want from others in my journey to better health?
Daily Action Steps:
~ Write a list of things that people are always welcome to say or do in regard to your weight-loss efforts and healthy lifestyle. Examples might include: offer you compliments, protect you from dessert, or clear the table after meals.
*1* I don't want people "protecting" me from food. Whoops, this is the what do I want list.....
*2* I like compliments. I like people saying I look good or look like I lost weight.... I haven't lost enough weight for people to actually ask if I am sick, which has happened to other people I know. But, people have noticed and have told me I look good and that is fine with me!
*3* It is OK to ask me how I am losing weight or what I am doing to get fit. I simply reply that I am eating healthy and working out. Most people don't want to hear that, but that is what they get from me! I don't even share that I am doing Weight Watchers. It really is none of their business.
*4* Those pants look good on you, I like that dress, those pants are looking awfully baggy.... That is all acceptable to me.
*5* I really want people to offer to go for walks with me or work out with me. that doesn't happen often. But, that is what I want to hear.... Can I go on a walk with you? As a blind person living in a rural area, I can't, well don't want to, walk by myself and would appreciate a walking buddy! Someone asking to try my gym out with me would be great! Someone offering to go to dance class with me would be fantastic!
~ Create another list of things you don't ever want people to do, such as: snatch your plate away, give you lectures, or admonish, "You're not supposed to be eating that."
*1* I don't want peple snatching food out of my hands or mouth! If I am eating something "bad" I chose to do that and it is my choice. Maybe I made room for it in my plan... Maybe it is the only goodie I've allowed myself in a month....Whatever my reasons, they are my reasons and no one else's business! Besides, I've always been the type that if you tell me I can't, then I want to more!
*2* I don't want lectures or advice unless I ask for advice. Don't tell me how much weight you lost by avoiding all carbs or drinking green smoothies, or only eating on odd numbered days.... I'm doing my plan and good for you, but I don't wwant to do what you are doing and besides, it may be unhealthy for me!Don't lecture me. I will rebel and just get angry. I only want your advice if I ask for it. That is not to say that I don't enjoy reading how my fellow Spark Friends have lost weight. I read blogs and posts and some interest me enough to try and others not. As long as someone is not pushing their plan on me, I am interested.
~ Read both lists to your support people including your spouse, your children, and your best friend.
*3* Regarding #2 above, I think Diet Pushers can be as bad as Food pushers. Help me by honoring my plan of choice and make some foods that are just plain healthy for the both of us!
*4* Don't tell me I don't need to lose weight and if it comes to where I am close to being at goal don't tell me I shouldn't lose any more weight! I need to lose weight. I need to lose a significant amount of weight. You are not to judge. that is between me, my doctor and my WW leader.
*5* On the flip side, don't tell me how fat I am. That is just rude. If you are not saying it out of concern, don't say it.
*6* This one is a real problem for me! Learn before you speak. don't tell me that losing weight will cure my diabetes. I am a Type 1 diabetic, diagnosed at age 4, I cannot be cured without a pancreas transplant. No amount of weight loss will cure me!
I invite compliments from my family and friends. I would like for my family to at least prepare foods that are healthy for all of us, not singling me out as "The Dieter"! Try new foods with me that are healthy and delicious! Go for a walk with me. Ask to visit my gym. Invite me to a new fitness class. I'm open to all that! Help me, but only if I ask. don't assume that I want your magic weight loss tips! Be kind, not just to me, but to everyone. Think before you speak. I think that is simple enough for any of us!
Sunday, December 14, 2014
Today is the end of 1 week of following the guidelines of Linda Spangle's book, 100 Days Of Weight Loss. Today is all about cheering yourself on and telling yourself "you can do this"! If you are following my blogs as I know some of you are, you know I am struggling with that concet. I'm not sure I can do it. So, today is the day to find mantras and cheers to tell myself that I can do this!! I can lose the weight. I can maintain my health. I can simply look better.
Daily Action Steps:
~ Tell yourself "I can do it" at least 10 times. Use this to cheerlead yourself through the entire day!
**OK. I will keep telling myself I can do it! I can do it! I can do it! I got up with a cold feeling, like I'm coming down with a cold today and I did 45 minutes of walking workouts already. I plan to do more, but I've done that because I can do this weight loss thing too!! I can do it!
~ Write "I can do it because __________________" and then add a few supportive phrases such as I'm capable of doing anything."
*1* I can do this because I am a survivor and can do anything I put my mind to.
*2* I can do this because I didn't think I could do math and ended up being a math tutor, a blind math tutor, and what is weight loss but a mathematical equation? I can do math, I can do weight loss!
*3* I can do this because I love to exercise and make sure I work out daily. I didn't used to like to exercise and now I do. so, I just need to do the same with food choices and portions sizes! I can learn to make better choices every meal, every day!
*4* I can do this because I am hard headed and stubborn when I want something.
*5* I can do this because I have a great support system at Weight Watchers and here on Spark People.
*6* I can do this because I deserve to live healthy and be fit. I do!
*7* I can do this because so many others have and I am just as smart, just as determined, just as deserving!
*8* I can do this because I am determined to do this for a final time and make it a lifestyle, not just a diet!
~ Read your phrases often, using them to reinforce your goals and build your enthusiasm :)
**I shall read this one over and over and keep telling myself I can do this until I actually do believe it!!
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