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Day 1 of 100 Days

Sunday, April 06, 2014

I'm trying something new - 100 Days of Weight Loss. Every day has a reading and an assignment. I think having more structure to my plan will help. I don't seem to be able to keep myself in line when I'm left to my own devices.

Before I do today's assignment, I have some preliminary steps to get through.

1. Type of diet I'll follow. Since I hate to cook, am a lifetime picky eater, and a vegetarian who has never ever liked the healthy vegetables, I'll use a lot of meal replacement bars/drinks as well as other choices from my "menu" of healthy things I do like. (Unfortunately, it's a short list!)

2. I am committed to following this plan for 100 days. I will (a) Stay loyal to what I have said I will do even after the mood has left me and (b) Hang on even when I feel like letting go.

3. I have a notebook to record the daily assignments and other 100-Days articles and forms. I'll write down 10 reasons why I want to lose weight and keep it off.

4. I have put up a monthly calendar so I can visually track my progress.

5. I will weigh every day and post my weight on my calendar. I'll also follow the suggestion of using color-coded stickers to indicate gain, maintenance and loss days for a visual summary of how I'm doing. I'm also going to use a "money jar"--$1 in for every day I stay with my plan. Nothing in on days I slip up but will probably not gain. $1 out for any day I throw caution to the wind and indulge my Inner Brat. I'm thinking of having my husband keep the jar. Extra motivation to keep the dollars going IN the jar!

[Thanks to Ohanamama for setting out these get-ready steps.]

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BLITZEN44 4/9/2014 10:32PM

    Sounds like a great plan. Good luck! emoticon

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LIFECHANGZ 4/8/2014 6:16PM

    emoticon Sparktacular prep & commitment! I can hear the determination in your voice! Hope you find some ideas that will help a lifetime :)

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NATURALLYME126 4/8/2014 12:06AM

    Hmmm.... I may need to see if my local library has this book. Thanks for posting this. And I know you will do your best on your 100 day journey friend! :)

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KALIGIRL 4/7/2014 1:33PM

    Here's to emoticon

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SEAGLASS1215 4/7/2014 4:08AM

    I had this book…until my dog ate it! I only got a few days into it, too, so I was rather upset but it looked very promising - good luck to you! And if you have a dog, do not let him use it as a chew toy!

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DJC2021 4/6/2014 4:06PM

    Sounds like a good plan. Best of luck with it. I know that tracking works :)

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THE_RED_BIRD 4/6/2014 2:57PM

    I love your plan! You sound awesomely motivated!!! emoticon

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MLH148 4/6/2014 2:49PM

    Have a great journey! A plan helps so much!

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ALICIA214 4/6/2014 2:10PM


That is good advise... emoticon

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BIGPAWSUP 4/6/2014 1:56PM

    You got this!!

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from being tired to dancing

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

I’ve been feeling a bit tired. Tired of thinking about what I can and can’t eat, how I’m going to force myself to exercise if I’m out of my routine, how I’m going to get back up when I make a poor choice. Just tired of constantly thinking – either consciously or unconsciously – about my weight and everything connected to it.

Being on SparkPeople has kept me from giving up entirely. I’m grateful to the site and to my great SparkFriends who keep me going. And for leading me to 2 books that I’ve started reading that I think are going to help me get a new perspective and make some life changing progress: "The Willpower Instinct" and "Savor".

Then this morning I found this quote "Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts." In thinking more about it I realized that the journey doesn’t have to be a tired-making drudgery. I need to change my perspective. I need to remember that it’s all in the attitude.

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DJC2021 4/16/2014 10:59PM

    Just reread your blog. I'm glad to see your change in attitude. You're not alone on this journey. Your sparkfriends are with you. Lean on us. emoticon

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BLITZEN44 4/3/2014 9:14PM

    Love the attitude quote! I will be sharing it with some coworkers tomorrow! emoticon

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LINDA! 4/3/2014 7:26PM

    Great quotes!!

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KALIGIRL 4/3/2014 8:54AM

    Here's to a NEW attitude!

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MLH148 4/2/2014 8:41PM

    This speaks to me! Keep on trucking and know as much as Spark adds to your life, you add to Spark. emoticon

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WIZKEY 4/2/2014 4:26PM

    I'm glad you found some inspiration!! I have been struggling too lately and today I talked myself into taking a walk alone!! We can get back on track!! emoticon

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LOSINGLINNDY 4/2/2014 2:13PM

    Those are wonderful motivational quotes. I am so happy you found them and the books to help you out of the "tired of attitude." Are there any challenges we can do on Spring into Action to help you along your journey?

Hugs, Gaylinn

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Start the year by saying no to excuses...

Wednesday, January 01, 2014

emoticon “Start the year by saying no to excuses. Decide to own your decisions….”

Through my own carelessness, I begin 2014 at my highest weight ever. But I am determined that I will, over this year, make my way to Onederland. That’s my main goal. I know that I am concentrating on weight issues and not “healthier living”. But the fact is I’ve always been a picky eater and I have never liked vegetables. I will work towards more healthy eating, but I want to begin with working the scale to increase my self esteem and encourage myself by what I feel sure I can accomplish.

Rather than make New Year’s resolutions, I want to define my action steps and chart my progress month by month.

January: I will lose 3 pounds. I will do this by:
* Starting a new “Honest Efforts” streak and posting my progress for accountability (thanks, Pixie)
* Drinking 8 glasses of water each day
* Tracking my calories in and calories out at least 5 x week
* Making an effort to increase my protein intake and decrease my carbs
* Exercising 30-60 min a day 5 x week
* Charting my progress using a weekly check sheet of to-do’s and dones and using rewards
* Using positive affirmations daily
* Staying active in my SP teams
* Avoiding my “monkey-see, monkey-eat” habit
* Practicing mindfulness and gratefulness
* Improving the way I talk to myself

I recognize that my age, my genetics, my depression, and my medications all work against me in losing weight, but I will not use these factors as excuses. I also will take ownership for my actions and recognize that I am the one in charge of me. I want to stop allowing a victim mentality to undercut my efforts. I want to take back my power and stop thinking that other people or circumstances are the cause of my decisions.

Carolyn Myss says, “You’ll never accomplish anything if you wait until you feel motivated to start taking action. Take initiative today.” So I will also stop waiting for motivation to strike. That has been a regular excuse for making poor decisions in the past. Now that I am aware that I need to “act as if”, it will help me stop playing the “poor me” card.

As Dean Anderson says, “the main ‘enemy’ of motivation is the tendency to see yourself as the hapless victim of forces (or urges) over which you have no control.” It’s time for me to be the boss of me and own my decisions. I will be proactive and I know there are lots of motivational articles and posts that can help me. I will stop waiting for that bolt of motivation to magically strike. I will work on becoming a lot more proactive.

But I will also be kind to myself when I’m not perfect in my endeavors. I know that sometimes life will be one step forward and two steps back. I will not view myself as a failure for not being perfect. My plan is to continue to persevere and never give up, even though it looks like I’m wearing big holes in the carpet from traveling the same steps over and over and over.

So I'm taking 2014 a day at a time:
“Just do it – Do not wait till you feel like it. Just move your body through the motions like a robot if that is all you can do. Face the fact that some things do not inspire. It is nice to want to. But do not wait for the humor to hit you. Just do it.”

Best wishes to all for a successful, peace-filled, self-loving 2014. And when it rains, let's dance in the rain.

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LOSINGLINNDY 1/5/2014 12:12AM

    emoticon Did you make a list to keep in the kitchen of your steps to lose 3 pounds in Jan? That sounds like a great step.

I bought one of Jorge Cruise's books which has menus planned for a week at a time. The one I started with is working for me and I am not hungry. He has them labeled: The Meat Lover's Diet; The Carb Lover's Diet: The Fish Lover's Diet: The Fast Start Diet and The Vegetarian Lover's Diet. I would be happy to make copies of the diets and send them to you. You would have to spark mail an address. You could look at them and see what you think.

Hugs, Gaylinn

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BLITZEN44 1/3/2014 12:08AM

    What a great blog! I like your list of clearly defined goals. You are on your way to success!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 1/1/2014 1:05PM

    I am rooting for you! Keep me posted on how you're doing, ok?


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SPOONGIRLDEB 1/1/2014 11:00AM

    Wow, did you read my mind this morning? I was ready to sign off of SP last night, and then woke up this morning to blog about needing to suck it up and take responsibility for my own actions, or lack thereof. Then I read your blog, and it's essentially a mirror to my own! Glad to know I'm not alone - you are not alone!

Together we can do it, we can make 2014 the best year yet!

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CAL6563 1/1/2014 10:48AM

    I LOVE your "no excuses" approach. I am very good at making excuses as to why I can't, and I know that when I just do it no matter the excuse, I find success. I wish you success in 2014!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 1/1/2014 10:33AM

    I love your plan--simple and honest. I need to write a plan myself--that would be a first for me., emoticon emoticon

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BOOERDEM 1/1/2014 10:30AM

    Great plan & thoughts - you have the right perspective to help you on your path to being healthy inside & out!!!! I love the quote you shared from Carolyn Myss - “You’ll never accomplish anything if you wait until you feel motivated to start taking action. Take initiative today.” That's going on my personal goal board - thanks!!!
Here's to taking 2014 one day at a time - loving ourselves each step of the way!! emoticon

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MYJUNIEMOON 1/1/2014 8:02AM

    Positive attitude! emoticon emoticon TODAY... is the first day of the rest of your life! Start Today!

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TIGTAZ325 1/1/2014 8:00AM

    Great plan! I may have to "borrow" some of your steps! I did not do as well in 2013 as I hoped but today is a new year & I will get there. I was not a big veggie eater either so I learned to trick myself - I put them in everything I can. My meatloaf, lasagna, spaghetti sauce, etc all have hidden veggies in them. I now actually like some - I don't eat a wide variety but I at least found a few "go to" veggies. A very happy new year to you & best wishes on your your plan! I wish you a happy & healthy new year!!

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No More Losing Weight

Thursday, November 07, 2013

Well, drat! I found those 2 pounds I lost. It's like the weight I "lost" is just waiting behind the couch to reattach when I'm not paying attention. I think there should be a different term for when we get rid of weight. “Lost” implies it might be found again. Misplace – ditto. I’m going to find a new term for it because I’m tired of finding the weight I thought I’d lost. Maybe something like “jettison”. How does “I jettisoned 1 pound” sound? I know it's a little forceful, but I find that every pound that goes away doesn't just slip away quietly. What else could we say?

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SHARON10002 12/19/2013 5:24PM

    I love your new saying! Jettisoned - gives me an image of firing booster rockets and blasting further ahead while those pounds fall into the ocean never to be seen again!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 11/14/2013 8:57AM

    LOL. I seem to be shuffling my pounds. The older I get, the more they wind up in unwanted locations.

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SMITTY4RL 11/14/2013 6:53AM

    I'm with Blitzen--jettisoned is a great word. It implies to consciously get rid of something, never to be found again!

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TOWHEE 11/7/2013 10:28PM

    I belonged to an online weight loss team and we "donated" our fat to all those "starving children in" India/China/Africa (whichever area your parents told you about when you were a child and a picky eater). It made it seem that it wouldn't come back to us and for me, at least, it hasn't.

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BLITZEN44 11/7/2013 10:11PM

    I like "jettison". It's lovely and not forceful at all compared to my first thought after reading this. "I killed a pound" was what I was thinking! Guess I haven't lost, killed or jettisoned any weight lately so no reason for me to have to think of a way to describe it. Sound like you're on the right track even if you did "find" the two pounds you lost.. the fact that you lost them in the first place is the important thing!

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2BDYNAMIC 11/7/2013 3:52PM

    I feel your pain!! Ok--Here goes ............. I FLUSHED a pound!! (that leaves an image to the imagination!) emoticon .......... I DELETED a pound (those are harder to retrieve than lost) ............. and I know those 'lost pounds are sneaky............ I think mine hid under the kitchen table and waited til I was sleeping and snuck back into my belly!!!! .................... emoticon

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KALIGIRL 11/7/2013 9:04AM

    emoticon I love 'jettison'!

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JAROL7 11/7/2013 7:16AM

    Yep, welcome to my world. But we have no option but to eat right, measure everything, calculate the calories and write it down in our SP nutrition counter. If we keep doing the right things, the weight will eventually come off for good. It's not easy but its the right thing.

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RIDLEYRIDER 11/7/2013 7:15AM

  I say 'remove'...not lost! Try it!

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I want to move from interested to committed

Sunday, October 27, 2013

I read somewhere here on SP about the difference between being “interested” in your journey or “committed” to your journey. I figure that I’ve only been interested. Even with being on the verge of a diabetes diagnosis.

I’m wondering, though, if part of what I need to do is to figure out why I self sabotage. Do I need to figure that out before I can stop doing it? I think deep down I don’t think I can actually lose this weight and change my lifestyle. And I don’t think I deserve it. I appreciate notes from SparkFriends that include things like “you’re worth it”. I don’t believe it. But how do I begin to believe it? Do affirmations work? I think the fact that I’m still here and haven’t given up shows there’s a spark somewhere that says that I am indeed worth the work. How can I fan that spark into something sustaining?

I don’t mean these as rhetorical questions. I know if there were easy answers maybe none of us would be here. But I’m interested to hear if you think finding the underlying reason for self sabotage is important and what you have tried to offset the self sabotage. Or am I just trying to circumvent the hard work that this journey requires?

It’s time for a real heart to heart with myself. I want to move from interested to committed. In fact, I NEED to. I’m not getting any younger! emoticon


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SMITTY4RL 10/30/2013 3:53PM

    Hey, I just wandered upon this. You bring up some excellent point, especially about the interest vs commitment. But I don't have any answers for you since I'm working thru some of the same issues. I always wonder about self-sabotage and the answer is always why? But interest is the spark for sure, sustainment is the real bug-a-boo.

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BLITZEN44 10/28/2013 11:18PM

    To your brain, unhealthy eating (specifically carbs and sugar) is not self sabotage. To your brain, it's just the opposite of that...it's reward. The brain always looks for the shortest path to reward (aka a big dopamine hit and rapidly increased levels of serotonin) which is why many of us are drawn to eat high sugar or high carb (which rapidly converts to sugar) foods. These foods give us the dopamine rush we're looking for without having to do any work. We could all accomplish a similar, healthy dopamine hit with about 30 minutes of cardio, but your brain wants it faster and knows it can get the same thing in about 60 seconds with cookies or a donut. So it's all about being able to stay focused on your long term goals long enough to overcome your short term impulses. That's the long and short of it. ;) Good luck!


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TIGTAZ325 10/28/2013 7:23PM

    I can really relate to this blog! I constantly self-sabotage myself. I want to get healthy but haven't fully committed to the process yet. I "commit" for awhile and then fall off track (losing interest). I haven't found my true reason yet. Most people say they are doing it for themselves with the underlying for their kids/spouse/etc. I'm attempting to do it for me but question if that is enough...if I am worth it. I would think that we do need to find out why we self-sabotage to be able to stop the cycle but I don't know how to find that answer. If you find the answers to your questions please let me know!

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BONNIEMARGAY 10/27/2013 3:12PM

    I believe very strongly that actions are more important than words, no matter how much power words can have. If you treat yourself well, as if you believe you are precious and worth any amount of effort and dedication to hard work, you will get there one day. We all will!

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LUANN7 10/27/2013 2:04PM

The interested part is good at least your not against trying to live better. You have to write down your goals even if you think you can't do them and at least try then comes the committed part. Stay true to your goals and really try to hit them and if you don't succeed set a new goal and be committed to it and hit that one. It's a keep trying game until you gain that confidence from losing and you will start losing when your committed to your goals.You can do it!!!

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ADRIENNEAKAAJ 10/27/2013 9:21AM

    The interested part is comfortable..the committed part sounds like work. So you know by being committed, you have to work and stay at that from the minds prospective. Soooo..we have to tell ourselves its not work, its our life now! Because eating healthy and exercise is not work, its how we live everyday :) I know exactly how you feel! This was me 6 months ago. I love the articles that are provided to us on here, they help me stay on the committed path. Being interested is good too because you know what you want..now we have to program the mind and body to work together.. emoticon

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