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Hoping, but not holding my breath

Wednesday, May 05, 2010

Well, I got to talk to the case worker of my grandchildren finally today. I expressed my concerns and asked some pointed questions, which she half hearted gave partial answers too. They did say that it looks like they will be looking to place the girls somewhere permanently. They are looking to terminate the mothers rights, finally. I gave her all the info she asked for and she said they would start their check they have to run on me to see about getting the girls down here, when they finally decide to terminate the rights. I think that will be somewhere toward the end of the month. I believe that is when her next court date is.
So at least the news was more positive than I have gotten in any of the other conversations I've had with her. I'm still upset with the way the system has gone about things, but not too much I can do about that. Now I'll keep my fingers crossed, but I'm not gonna hold my breath.

  
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ARTIE322 5/6/2010 12:38PM

    All of this must be so difficult for you and waiting and not knowing what's going to happen is just miserable. Good luck and I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. emoticon

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DAMICHAL 5/5/2010 10:07PM

    Jacque, I'll be praying that all goes the way it should for you and the girls.

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PJSTIME 5/5/2010 8:36PM

    Well I have positive thoughts coming to you. At least you did get some answers and the process (such as it is) is started.

Hang in there. PJ

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Good day gone bad

Monday, May 03, 2010

There's nothing like a good day going bad. I have been informed that it looks like the mother of my other grandchildren is considering giving the girls up for adoption. I have tried to have a conversation via e-mail with the DHS case worker and all she'll say is that in order to tell me anything I have to call her. She used to give me updates as to the girls via e-mail. Now all of the sudden she won't tell me anything. It is difficult for me to call and have a conversation with her while I'm at work. I never know when someone is going to walk into my office.
This is so frustrating. I've been trying for months to get them to let me have the girls with no success. They always say, we want the girls in the same state so the mother can have her visitation. Well, she hasn't been coming to see the girls. The next to the youngest has been put into a Psyc clinic and they are saying they want to keep her for a year. I feel like the girls are being lost down a huge crack in the system and there has been nothing I've been able to do about it. I don't even know where to turn anymore.
Thank you for letting me vent this frustration. I know that I can vent here without fear of misunderstanding.

  
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ARTIE322 5/4/2010 10:44PM

    All I can add is that it sometimes seems common sense flies out the window. Blood relatives willing to care for the children should be given the opportunity before they are sent anywhere else, either to a foster home or given up for adoption. I really hope everything works out best for the kids.

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PJSTIME 5/4/2010 6:45AM

    Jacque I am so sorry to hear about your grandchildren and your situation. What about grandparents rights? It does sound like you will have to get a lawyer involved. I hope things will turn in your favor and soon. PJ

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TERRIEJO53 5/3/2010 11:32PM

    Somehow this doesn't surprise me. Mother's rights seem to trump everything, up to and including what is in the best interest of the child. What I don't understand is, if the mother is giving up the children for ADOPTION isn't she surrendering her parental rights? If that is the case, why is she getting visitation? And what about your son's parental rights? Shouldn't he have some say about where his children are placed for adoption? Are these Bobby's children? Why can't he get custody ... or request that you get custody so they are there in LA near him? Can you get some time off work to go up there and speak to the DFS caseworker directly? Maybe it's time to get a lawyer involved! Sorry I have more questions than answers for you. I'm sure you've thought of those things ... but maybe one of my questions will be something you hadn't thought of and give you a new direction to go in.

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DAMICHAL 5/3/2010 11:10PM

    Oh Jacque, that has to be so frustrating and heart breaking. Those poor kids could be where they are wanted and loved and the system just won't work with you. I hope you can find a chance to talk to them, maybe that will help.

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motivation

Monday, May 03, 2010

OK so now I have a new motivation. Robby wants us to get married sometime this summer. We are going to go to Vegas. He doesn't want all the hoopla, so we won't have one here. I don't mind that, I've been through the whole big wedding thing and don't mind not doing it again. I'm searching on good deals for the trip and I would like to get back down into onderland before we go. That means I have to get serious. I can do it if I set my mind to it. I'm figuring we'll go about mid to late June. So here goes. It's time to lose lose lose. I will not do it in an unhealthy way, I appreciate my health way to much for that. I am excited, nervous, scared, all those things you're supposed to be, lol. Keep pushing me, I need all the help I can get.

  
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ARTIE322 5/4/2010 10:32PM

    Congrats to you both! My DH and I are nearing our 2nd anniv this summer, so if you have any questions about what to expect when you're a newlywed, don't hesitate to ask me, since I've got some experience. emoticon

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GERRYB54 5/3/2010 1:49PM

    Jacque, Congratulations to both of you, keep enjoying the journey!

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BEACHCOMBER2 5/3/2010 12:59PM

    Jacque, That is great news. I remember that he asked you to marry him awhile back now. A trip to Vegas sounds nice, and I am sure you will meet your goal. Congrats to the both of you. Go girl , go. You will do it the healthy way. Nice picture.
Cheers, Linda

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1ROCKYMAMA 5/3/2010 12:39PM

    Congratulations to both of you. I wish you many years of love, laughter, and most important, close friendship.

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TERRIEJO53 5/3/2010 12:27PM

    Somehow I just KNEW this was the motivation you mentioned in the team post. I've been waiting for you to set a date since Robby asked you to marry him. I'm so happy for you both! I hope your upcomming marriage and trip to Vegas provides you with as much motivation as PTS's Eagle Court of Honor did for me.

Aw, a June Bride ... emoticon emoticon

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PJSTIME 5/3/2010 11:58AM

    Congratulations. It is scary I remember when DH and I got married (2nd time around for both of us) I was pretty nervous, but all is well still after 29 years.

We are here to give you a push and support you. PJ

P.S. I love the picture.

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Exercise

Thursday, February 04, 2010

As I sit here doing my laundry, I have to think how different I am than I was when I was younger. You know you never think about age until it affects you or a loved one in a negative manner. While my parents are fairly old in numbers, neither is old in spirit, so age to me has been a hard concept to grasp. Over the past 2 years,(since I turned 50) my body has changed. This is hard for me, because I've always just taken it for granted that it would remain the same. Oh, I know the weight has a great deal to do with some of the changes, but not all of them.
Over the past 2-3 weeks I have begun a regular work out program. I have not done this in a very long time. I've always just been active. Well over the past year my activity level has decreased alot. I started working again and my job is mainly a sit down job. While I know that a little soreness comes with using muscles that haven't been used in a while, it has floored me how bad I hurt. Almost enough to make me quit, I said almost. I know the exercise is good for me and helping me to get back to a level of fitness I need to be at, but at the same time, I can understand how some people just can't tolerate it and give up. It is not in my nature to give up, so I don't worry too much about doing that.
I know that alot of this is just rambling, but I need to get this out so I can make some sort of sense out of it. Things that are good for us shouldn't be so difficult. If I had just hurt for a couple of days like I used to when I started something new, I wouldn't have thought twice about it, but when you almost can't crawl out of bed the next morning there is something desperately wrong, and I don't mean medically wrong, I'm medically healthy. I know that I can't be as healthy as I should be, I'm extremely overweight, but I have a good heart rate, my blood pressure is well within normal range, etc. Why is it so hard to get back to where I once was.

OK, I'm done whining and rambling. I'm so glad I have friends here who understand and don't judge people. You have all been very helpful. emoticon

  
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JAKOMOM 2/5/2010 8:44AM

    I so hear you... I too am very sore! The first 10 minutes on the elliptical are so hard that I could give up, but I don't either... just keep pushing thru. I am in pretty good health as well, except for this weight! I am so DONE with it and I am in it for the long haul.

Today at the gym my daughter asked where I was weight wise and how much I have lost, and she said at least I was still enjoying myself, and she was right. I can still go out and eat out and make good choices!

Hang in there, we can do this... and some pain medicine never hurts! LOL!!

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DAMICHAL 2/4/2010 2:24PM

    Remember Jacque, take it slow to begin with. You can do more damage than good if you go too fast as the physical therapist told me when I was taking therapy.
Arlene

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HAPPYMOM8 2/4/2010 2:09PM

    You can whine all you want to here- we all understand. Been there-Done that!
Now get up and do some squats so your laundry pays off too! Hugs, Pat

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Life at the track

Friday, June 12, 2009

Ok, let's see if I can figure out where to start. When coming to the track to work for the first time I have learned that there is a whole world that outside people never see or know about. Race trackers are a tight knit group. A family of sorts. You have the front office people, those are the people that everyone sees. I'm one of those. We take care of the daily entries, silks, paperwork, etc. Then of course we have the owners and breeders, without them we wouldn't have racing. Then there are the trainers. They take horses and get them ready to race. They break them, train them to race. The trainers have a crew of people working for them and these are the people on the backside. These people are the groomers, asst. trainers and other misc. people. These people on the backside usually live back there. Most of them don't have cars or maybe just 1-2 of a bunch will have and they do the driving for the rest. All of the barns have tack rooms. In our barns there are 44 stalls per barn and 8 tack rooms. The trainers are issued tack rooms based on how many stalls they have in a barn. These rooms can be used for, of course tack, feed, or to house some of the employees. They have no facilities in them. They are just an empty room. They do have electricity and we provide them with air conditioners, due to the weather around here. There are outhouses (port a pottys) throughout the backside and there are 2-3 sets of showers. We also have a set of about 20 dorms. These are basically the same as the tack rooms, but are set apart from the barns, though still on the backside. There is a laundry on the backside. The people back there are not allowed to cook in the rooms. Most of them have groups of communale BBQs. Our track is only about a mile from the local Walmart. The folks walk there alot. They do most of their shopping there. These people are used to this life, most of them don't know any other. The majority of the are of hispanic descent and speak little english.
There are Chaplains at every track, they are there to do what chaplains do, lend aid. They work for a program called REAP, (racing employees assistance program). The REAP group is there to help anyone in racing with a problem. They take donations, have events to raise money, etc.
We have 2 chaplains at our track, they are a couple. The female of them has started a sewing class. She and a volunteer have been teaching some of the women on the back how to sew. They have had some sewing machines donated and I'm going to go through and clean and service the non working ones. I feel that this is something that I can do to help.

Now that I've said all of this, don't feel sorry for these people. They are all well fed and for the most part as happy as anyone else. There are problems of course, but this is a life they have chosen. They love the horses, and this is obvious when you see them back there. They enjoy being close to them.

Maybe it will help us to reevaluate our lives and the things we have. Either to make us more thankful or more aware of the excess that we think we NEED.

I know that it has been a real eye opener for me. I hope that everyone has enjoyed hearing about track life. I know that there are many things that I have probably left out, but at least I have given you an idea of track life.

  
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JUSTJO66 2/19/2010 8:02AM

    I really enjoyed reading this blog, Jacque. The people sound so interesting. Tell us more.............. My ex-husband's brother was a jockey....but was killed in a car accident not too long after we married. So, I really never got to know him.

Jo

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CBENOY 6/13/2009 8:49PM

    Thank you, Jacque, for insight into a whole world that otherwise we would not see. I would love to hear more about the people on the back side as you get to know their stories.

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SHARONSPARKLE 6/12/2009 7:17PM

    Jacque - Thank you for the glimpse in to life behind the scenes. I enjoyed reading about what seems like a whole different world. I can see why they get upset when one of the jockey's or horses get hurt. As you say, they become like family.

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