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#461: A Positive Attitude Fights a Veil of Darkness

Sunday, March 13, 2011

For days I have debated writing this story but after reading of others in a similar situation I decided exposing something I deal with may help someone else.

I suffer from depression. Some studies claim this is a brain disorder, others claim it is a reaction to stress and other factors beyond our control. It really is not important what causes it; what is important is dealing with it.

Last night is a good example. I had a pleasant day, was catching up on emails and various sites I participate in, public television was airing an oldies/doo-wop music special (yes, my era) and all felt okay. Then, a veil of darkness draped itself over me and my mood changed. I even posted a status update about it.

There have been numerous counseling sessions and medications but they are not a permanent barrier tough enough to always keep the brightness shining. One thing that has been shown to help is exercise so last night I began several vigorous exercises and followed with a long, hot shower. That helped, but after a short while I only wanted to go to bed, read a while and shut out the world.

Normally, as some of you know, I am an upbeat, positive person who tries very hard to lift up others and encourage them to do their best every day. Once in a while a SP friend will write and ask why I haven't answered their recent blogs. I reply and tell them that sometimes I just need time to myself. Later, though, that day or another, I will read and reply to 40 or more blogs.

Last night I tried to backtrack and determine what led to that veil dropping. Nothing is ever decided in a vacuum. One feeling or thought leads to another and another until a lever is pulled and moods change. Often, too, long-buried feelings surface and cause us to examine our lives and our decisions. It is a complicated situation.

What I ask of you is if you know someone who seems to be down, who seems to change moods for no apparent reason, talk to them, see if they need to see their doctor about their changing moods. It's likely they do not know themselves why they are happy one minute and not the next.

Mine largely began in 2006 when losing three relatives in three months a year and a half earlier hit me. That was followed by a diagnosis of diabetes soon after. One of the valuable aspects of SparkPeople is the information passed along on various illnesses and diseases via articles, message boards and other avenues. I have learned so much from this site and from the members who have also shared their situations. The support I have received here has been a true blessing.

I remain positive about life. As my weight has finally dropped, blood sugar readings have dropped also. Other medical indicators have posted terrific numbers. I am grateful to a health insurance nurse for referring me to SparkPeople. My time here has not been wasted. I have learned how to adapt to my problems and to those of others. I continue to enjoy the friends I have met here, from Finland to Canada to Australia, and from California to Virginia. What a group of motivating people you all are.

For more information about depression, please check the site for the National Institute of Mental Health at www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications

Thank you for reading this far. I hope I have explained why it sometimes takes me a while to catch up with everyone or to blog.

Life can be good if we have faith and exude love, friendship and compassion, if we help others whenever we can and if we believe there is a greater purpose in store for each of us if we only open our minds and our hearts.

We can succeed if we believe in ourselves and never, ever, give up.


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IAMDARLENE 3/15/2011 8:57PM


Lou, thanks for being as real as you are!!

love, Darlene

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WENDYSPARKS 3/15/2011 5:54PM

    I understand...my mother had a really bad case of depression. Sometimes my moods go up and down also. I just try to pray and hope the mood passes.


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SPARKIE1964 3/15/2011 3:49PM

    Depression is definitely hard to live with which I know all about. I have been fighting falling back into the depths of sorrow again as I do not want to go back to meds. I do find that exercise can be a great cure for the blues if we can just take the first step. Blogging is helpful as are people like you who reminds us that we're in this thing called LIFE together! Happy to hear that you're days are looking brighter Lou...

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MIZZSB 3/15/2011 5:16AM

    awwww thanks Lou!!

God bless you!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 3/14/2011 6:43PM

    Lou, even THIS blog, ends with positivity. That is why you are so awesome! I could write a blog called: All the reasons we love Lou! It would be my most popular blog. Victoria

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    I can so totally relate to this blog. Thanks for shining some light on an otherwise dark subject. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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YATMAMA 3/14/2011 3:38PM

    Sometimes friends encourage and sometimes they cry with us and sometimes they simply be near, a presence of compassion. I am so honored to be your friend, whether the road be filled with hardship or delight. *hugs*


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CINDYHOUGHTON 3/14/2011 3:06PM

    What an awesome blog. You may never know who you impact by sharing a bit of yourself and letting them know they are not alone. I suffered from very mild depression for years due to feelings of unworthiness and thinking I was somehow unlovable. I am glad to hear you are finding ways to combat it. You do have so much to offer and are missed when you need to go, but we do understand, especially when you let us know. God bless the nurse who led you here. We have so enjoyed you my friend :)

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BOVEY63 3/14/2011 1:06PM

    Thanks for sharing this part of you Lou. You are here for so many of us and now we can reach back to you with our prayers and positive thoughts.

Take care my friend!
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BUSSMOM 3/14/2011 11:02AM


I will keep you in my prayers. I have experienced severe depression in my life and I can understand the struggle it is just to lift up your head in the morning, let alone get out of bed.


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CHARMIN944 3/14/2011 10:19AM

    Lou, I never would have guessed you suffered with depression. I'm so glad you posted this for people like us who live with depression. Maybe people can now understand that we can't just snap out of it. Maybe they can understand that it's not a weakness. Thank you for this blog.

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CARRIEANNE1027 3/14/2011 5:36AM

    Depression has a tendency to run in families.. Unfortunately, it runs rampant in mine.. I've noticed in my family, it tends to hit those who have very sensitive hearts..I've seen it rear it's ugly head in my oldest son, who unfortunately turned to alcohol to deal with it. (He's off the booze now thank God) I used to have days when it hit me, and all I wanted to do was hide from the world.. The one thing I've learnd for myself was to quit dwelling on those thoughts/memories/old feelings.. When they come on me, I shout out a loud "NO!".. and force myself to think about something else. I can't change the past, I can only learn from it. I have had to LEARN to forgive. That's where Jesus comes in. Hanging on the cross, after being beaten and tormented, what did he do? He forgave.. God showed me that's what I needed to do.. I can honestly say my bouts with depression have seriously decreased.. but when those feelings come, I pray and ask God to show me how to forgive and forget.. It isn't always easy, but that's what I have to do.. My prayers are with you..

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NANHBH 3/14/2011 1:03AM


Our Lenten mission started at church tonight. The topic tonight was compassion. The speaker, who is a religious Brother and a psychologist, said this - "Mystics and madmen swim in the same water. One drowns. The other is reborn. It all depends on how they react to adverse life situations. How we deal with adversity makes us more compassionate."

You are an incredibly compassionate man. Now I understand where you compassion comes from. Thank you for your honesty and for speaking from your heart.

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IAMDARLENE 3/13/2011 10:58PM


Lou, I admire your openess. I know there are many people who would benefit by being more open, myself included.
I sometimes wonder what I'd do or say if I too was completely open.

Keep on taking good care of yourself. Thanks again!!

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    Wow, Lou! what a remarkable blog! How you seem to put into words the impossible, is incredible! I, too, suffer from depression, and often find myself at odds with my moods for no reason. It's a lot better since I went to the dr. and have the right anti-depressant. Your open and honest blog really will help a lot of people, and it has helped me, too.

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PEPPERLEAH 3/13/2011 9:58PM

    Lou, thank you for posting this. There is so excellent information/suggestions/advice in here. I know I will remember the things you have shared.

Prayers and hugs, my friend.

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PONYFARMER 3/13/2011 9:54PM

I like you have suffered most of my life with depression. For many years, I just lived depressed, until I finally found some help. It does not fix easily BTW. But at least I was on a road. I believe that my depression was inherited from a mother who was bipolar, undiagonsed because she did not trust the physch community. My mom was a nurse, so she self medicated with pills at first adn then with alcohol which eventually took her life.

It took me years to get where I am now and SparkPeople helped me with great articles and even greater people who would see my mood turn dark and call me on it. I have learned to allow myself a day to be sad, mad, grumpy or want to be alone. But that is all I get. I have learned that I do not need to blog my feelings all the time, but I do journal the really poopy ones so that I can deal with them.

I try to be positive and if I am not then I usually lurk, except with a few trusted friends, that know me very well now. I really believe that SP has brought me to a much better place with all the tools they have here.

And lastly, the people on SP are accepting of who we are, where we are and want to help us succeed, (most of them that is) a few get into our place and like to spread negativity. Oh run from those and be yourself. We like you, well I like you just as you are and you have helped me to grow.


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TEDYBEAR2838 3/13/2011 9:46PM

    LIfe in and of itself is surely a challenge, but you have risen above your circumstances. I am so PROUD OF YOU!


I'm so glad you are my FRIEND!

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LESLIES537 3/13/2011 9:08PM

    Thank you for sharing this with us, Lou. I will keep your advice in mind and appreciate you letting us know! Actually, I just appreciate you period. emoticon emoticon

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JSTDREA1 3/13/2011 8:56PM

    SO TRUE!!!

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ZZYYGGY 3/13/2011 8:52PM

    Great blog

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#460: Remaking Ourselves One Step at a Time

Thursday, March 03, 2011

Today, I ran across these two quotes:

"Greatness lies not in remaking the world but in remaking ourselves." - Mahatma Gandhi

“Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” - Dr. Martin Luther King.

Together, these thoughts easily point us in the direction we need to travel to have a successful weight loss journey. They also provide a framework for viewing our efforts to become the person we each aspire to become.

Take the first quote, for example. "Greatness lies not in remaking the world but in remaking ourselves." Now, it would be a significant achievement if we were able to remake the world, but common sense tells us the chance of our having an effect on the entire world is negligible.

But we CAN remake ourselves, can't we? One positive day and one pound at a time?

How do we do that? By following Dr. King's advice to “Take the first step in faith" and understand that we "don't have to see the whole staircase" in order to "just take the first step.”

Sounds pretty simple. Take the first step, even though we do not know how many steps we will ultimately take and where they will lead us. But if our goal is to remake ourselves, we can be pretty certain our steps will take us to a glory land of weight loss success we never would have dreamed of if we had not taken that first hesitant step.

Will you take the challenge that is implied in the statements of these two wise people?

Will you make a sincere, focused and determined effort to remake yourself into a happier, thinner, healthier person?

All you need to do is take that first step in faith and always believe in yourself this is something you CAN and WILL succeed in achieving.

That's it -- take one step, then another and believe in ourselves. Something we all can do, isn't it?

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/13/2011 12:51AM

    One step at a time, one day at a time....sometimes one minute at a time. Thanks Lou. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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TEMPEST272002 3/11/2011 10:04AM

    Taking it one step at a time is exactly how you move forward!

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WENDYSPARKS 3/8/2011 4:39PM

    One step at a time is good. I can handle that.


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TEDYBEAR2838 3/6/2011 9:38PM

    I am staying focused and realize I CAN DO THIS!

We all can


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    As simple as it is, it can be so difficult. As we get older it is no longer optional. It becomes a matter of life or none. That is when we stand up and say what you have just written. May your words reach all of those who so badly need to take that step. Victoria

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GOSPELCLOWN 3/6/2011 11:24AM

    It's like 'eating the elephant'... just one little bite at a time.

Big projects always seem easier and managable broken down in small challenges.

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DANA_LEE 3/5/2011 9:20PM

    Thanks for the reminder to take the first step!

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ERIKO1908 3/5/2011 12:46PM

    so much easier to focus on the single step than be discouraged by the entire journey! thanks for sharing!

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CAROLINE1000 3/5/2011 1:35AM

    Every day I take that step. And Step....step..shuffle ball change. Lou, inspired, as usual!

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NANHBH 3/4/2011 2:04PM

    I WILL take that first step! As soon as my toes are healed.

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YW84FRIDAY 3/4/2011 11:22AM

  Thanks, Lou. I always appreciate your encouragement.


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BUSSMOM 3/4/2011 10:21AM

  Well put. I always enjoy reading your thoughts!


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CHARMIN944 3/4/2011 9:50AM

    Thank you for this encouraging blog. It's so much easier to take one step at a time, one pound at a time.

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WENDYSPARKS 3/4/2011 9:47AM

    Thank You Lou...I am taking my steps...and trying to become more aware of my choices as I do with each step.

Wendy :)

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MALEXANDER4 3/4/2011 8:12AM

    One small step now, one giant change later. Thank you.

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MIZZSB 3/4/2011 1:36AM

    great Lou!

And it is what we are all trying to achieve

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    Yes, a great blog! I love that quote by MLK, and he has so many wonderful quotes, too! Thank you for wisdom to ponder on, Lou!

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PEPPERLEAH 3/3/2011 11:13PM

    How true...one step, one meal, one choice, one day at a time. We will get there! Great blog, Lou!

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SPARKIE1964 3/3/2011 10:35PM

    I'm taking 1 step in front of the other! I love reinventing myself regularly!

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COOLCUKE 3/3/2011 10:26PM

    excellent post, lou! small steps lead to big successes.


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YATMAMA 3/3/2011 9:47PM

    And nobody can do it for us. The responsibility is ours and ours alone. I guess that's why there are so many people who are stagnant and frustrated. Man is intended to move forward throughout life, to change, to grow, to blossom. When we don't, we are miserable. Thanks for an insightful blog!

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#459: So Very Tired

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Lately, I have read many blogs and status updates from people who say they are tired. This is something that hits me from time to time, like this past week when all I had energy for was to rake a bag of leaves or put the trash out. The rest of the time I have simply wanted to sleep.

Oh, I've gotten in time here on SP and on Facebook and LinkedIn, and I have made progress on getting my tax papers in order and a book edit that is due soon, but find I can only do these things in spurts of a couple of hours or so, then I need to head to bed, sometimes reading for a bit, sometimes not, before falling asleep.

Tomorrow I may have an excess of energy, work in the yard, sort and de-clutter boxes of things in the house, edit and be on fire, getting many things done and feeling good for having done so. Then again, maybe not.

I know the theorem that states that a body at rest tends to stay at rest while a body in motion tends to stay in motion, but knowing that and finding the energy to get going are two different things. Could this be from boredom? I don't know.

What I do know is that despite being so tired, I remain positive about my weight loss and strive to continue encourage and lift up others. I continue to mull over the remaining plot of the mystery I'm writing and stay on top of emails, reading blogs, huddling every day with all my teams and monitoring the teams I co-lead. But overall I feel as if I'm wasting the time that has been entrusted to me every day.

On Monday I see my primary care nurse practitioner and will ask her about this but I wonder why it hits for so long and so often recently.

Have you had bouts of fatigue like this? If so, how did you overcome them?

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SPRING1973 3/4/2011 10:10AM

    I get that on occasion, usually seems to relate to my thyroid combined with sleep pattern. I'm on meds for thyroid, but if I throw off my sleep, I think it has an impact on how well I absorb/use the meds... hope it went well.

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    OK, Lou! Somehow, I overlooked this blog and am just now reading it! I wonder what the nurse pract. said and if there was an underlying cause.... I know I need sleep and if I don't get it, it can get out of control to not being ABLE to sleep for being overtired! Vicious cycle! emoticonI finally weened myself OFF of Ambien, and don't think I ever want to take that stuff again as it really is addicting! I think I sleep better now without it than when I took it!

I hope your mystery gets finished by the deadline! How exciting! emoticon emoticon

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 3/2/2011 10:48AM

    Hi Lou, I battle fatigue daily. I deal with it in every way I can. I also watch Dr. Oz and I take notes when I watch it. He is always giving tips and advice on exactly this subject. Are you a fan?

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SPARKIE1964 3/2/2011 10:14AM

    I am with you on feeling tired Lou...I'm wondering if the winter blues is affecting my energy level and can't wait for the warmth of spring which is around the corner!

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BUSSMOM 3/1/2011 7:09PM

  I understand where you are coming from. I have changed my diet to plant based which I feel is helping me to feel better physically, but boy am I fatigued by bedtime. When I was putting in 2 to 3 hours a day of exercise, I felt like I had more energy, but in my "job" right now, I get very little aerobic or strength training time in. Like you I get 10 minutes or if I am lucky...15 minutes to work on my projects before I am pulled away by other distractions.

I wish you well and pray that you can get it figured out. You are a blessing to all of us on SP who read your blog and hear good things from you.


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BOVEY63 2/28/2011 4:05PM

    I have had those bouts lately too - I'm chalking it up to spring fever. This winter just seems to be going on and on.

Here's to some "spring" in our steps.

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WENDYSPARKS 2/28/2011 3:03PM

    Hope you feel better soon. I get tired to sometimes but I try to get enough sleep at night.Also make sure to drink your water so that you not dehydrated.


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LESLIES537 2/28/2011 2:55PM

    I hope your visit w/ the nurse practitioner brings you some answers. I'd be interested to hear what you find out. One thing I admire about you is that you remain so positive and make it a priority to uplift and encourage your friends each and every day. Thank you for being that positive outlet in my life. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NANHBH 2/28/2011 10:53AM


I have not had fatigue like you describe. I hope the nurse practitioner has an answer for you today. Perhaps your thyroid is slowing down? Do you sleep well at night? I was recently tested for sleep apnea, but fortunately don't have it. I just need to get to bed earlier! I will hold you in prayer that you are feeling spunky soon!

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LIBBYFITZ 2/28/2011 4:33AM

    Sorry to hear that the dreaded fatigue has hit you as well! Be interested to see what your Nurse has to say. I have learnt to go with the flow! If tired sleep, if feeling energetic get moving! It is frustrating when you have a list of chores that need doing! hope you feel more energetic soon!

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TINKERBELL200 2/27/2011 10:42PM

    I have been the same way for weeks! I slept all afternoon and had so many things to do, seeing as I was out all yesterday afternoon. I got home around 5 pm on Saturday and couldn't keep my eyes open. It's terrible. During the week I work 9 hrs M-T and 4 hrs on Friday. I am so tired by 5 pm when I get off work, that I can't even think clearly anymore. I can't tell you any solutions I've found, but if you figure it out, let me know. I would be interested to hear what the Nurse has to say.


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CAROLYNVIL 2/27/2011 10:17PM

    Hope you get better soon.

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YATMAMA 2/27/2011 9:55PM

    Are you still battling insomnia, Lou? That could certainly cause fatigue. Any new meds you're taking? Some can wear you flat out. I'm glad you will be able to ask your doctor. Praying you find that energy fount again soon!

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TEDYBEAR2838 2/27/2011 4:44PM

    So, it's now Sunday. How are you doing with the plans you had made for today? Are you a 'body @ rest?' or a 'body in motion?'

Inquiring minds want to know.

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KENDRACARROLL 2/27/2011 1:25PM

    Boredom? Maybe. Light depression? Maybe. Vitamin deficiency/ies? Maybe.
Been there at different times on all three counts.
Glad you're getting a good checkup.
Take care of yourself.

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MIZZSB 2/27/2011 8:04AM

    Hi Lou,

I can relate, i have this as well.And mostly its because i go to bed to late even if i sleep my 8 hours. It doesnt mean i am rested the next morning. I am more energetic when i sleep from 10-6 than from 12-8, its the same amount of hours but it still does something to me to go to bed at midnight.

I was very tired in January and the first half of february.

I hope that your care nurse practitioner knows what it is, let us know ok?

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MALEXANDER4 2/27/2011 7:25AM

    Oh my friend I had this also but it was depression. My dark hole. I'm out now but please talk to your nurse about this. For me it comes about this time of season. I'm ready for spring and I want and need fresh air. The weather has been so nice that i've taken to walks during my lunch and when i'm off in the afternoons. That has helped considerably. Feel better soon my friend. Even this is to be taken one day at a time.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/27/2011 1:06AM

    I can't wait for spring to get around that corner. I suffer from SAD and think that is part of the reason I am so tired along with being anemic and low Vitamin D due to Celiac Disease. Still have lots to do, so just smile and get it done!!!
WAY TO GO on keeping it positive. Maybe you suffer from SAD too. Can't wait for lots more sun and longer daylight hours. Let us know what your primary care nurse practitioner has to say.
Have a wonderful Sunday...

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HEART_N_GRACE 2/26/2011 11:32PM

    I did ~ but then found I was B12 deficient. Now I get weekly injections and will soon be just once a month. It helped me.... I don't have the energy I'd like ~ my to do list always seems longer than my "ta done" list!!!

Check Dr. oz site he did a segment on energy a 7 day plan Thursday or Friday, some great suggestions there!

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CAROLINE1000 2/26/2011 11:08PM

    I do. Yesterday, in fact, I blogged about it. I wish I knew more about why and when. It seems to be, for me anyway, a combination. Big emotional spikes make me tired. Darkness. Revelations. Heck, weight loss makes me tired (on the nights when I don't bolt out of bed at 2am).

I have learned a fun little lifehack for when I am completely exhausted and need to be "on" and smart in an hour. I drink a cup of coffee, get under the covers and fall asleep for 20 minutes. Unlike a usual nap (which usually just makes me feel more tired) I wake up bright, smart, and raring to go.

Hope that helps! Keep it up. You're not wasting my time.

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#458: The "Good" Bathroom

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

I have been having a few things repaired and upgraded around the house the past couple of months emoticon. One has been the back bathroom. New floor tile, new comfort height terlet, as Archie Bunker would call it, cracks repaired from the house settling and soon, new paint to match the tile, new shower curtain and window drapes (I'm not rich enough to have "window treatments" like on TV redesign shows). emoticon

Last night at dinner with my brother and his family and our sister and her grown daughter and son, I joked about getting some crime scene tape from my nephew, the police officer emoticon, and putting it across this bathroom's door when the painting is completed to keep anyone from using it emoticon. When asked why, I responded that this was going to be the "good" bathroom.

You know, like when our Moms always had the "good" scissors we were not allowed to use? Or the "good" china and silverware, "good" linens, bedsheets and tablecloths that all never saw the light of day unless company came for dinner or for an overnight visit? And, no, visiting family members didn't rank high enough to warrant pulling out and displaying the "good" things. emoticon

Then we had our "good" clothes for church emoticon and for the rare occasions when we went out to dinner at a real restaurant with white cloth napkins and tablecloths and waitresses and waiters. To our "going to church clothes" we always had to add our "good" shoes. Of course, later while in the Army this was a good thing. The smart ones among us kept a pair of freshly spit-shined dress uniform shoes in cloth shoe covers for inspections so they wouldn't get scratched or dirty. emoticon

There was also the matter of Dad's tools. We could use what we needed -- screwdrivers, hammers, etc., as long as we didn't use his "good" tools, heaven forbid. If we did, our bottoms would be sore for the rest of the day. emoticon

One day I used a thermos to put lemonade in, tossed it in the basket on the front of my bike and went wherever it was I was going emoticon. When I stopped, the thermos flew out of the basket and crashed to the concrete, shattering the glass-like coating inside and making the thermos unusable. I thought little about it, being a kid and all, but when I got home I caught the dickens from both Mom and Dad because it had been...the "good" thermos. emoticon

The last thing I will need for the remodeled bathroom is a new scale. emoticon But I have decided that, based on the indoctrination I received during my formative years, that neither I nor anyone else will ever use it.

Because it will be my "good" scale. And we all know we never use our "good" things, don't we? emoticon

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WARRIORGIRL121 3/5/2011 2:47PM

    oh, yes, growing up, my house also had the "good scissors," "the good pens,"... dishware, clothing, etc. Isn't that funny how everyone knows this? LOL!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 3/2/2011 10:55AM

    I try to use my "good" things as much as I can. I broke my good glass, but I was not mad because while I used it I enjoyed it. The girlfriend who gave it to me might not agree though. I don't where my good clothes at home because Boo gets hair all over them. But when I go somewhere, I try to wear the good stuff as much as I remember to. I skimp on my scrapbooking pages, I always use as little as possible. I should stop doing that. Got use it or lose it, right? But the old saying goes "She who dies with the most supplies wins!"

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/27/2011 1:01AM

    This brought back many memories, Lou, and some good laughs. However I have started using my "good" things or giving them away. No reason for me to continue to keep things I haven't used in years.
Keep these wonderful blogs coming...

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KICKINGIT@56 2/26/2011 7:38PM

    That is so funny, Lou. I also had a Mom who kept her "good" things for those special events (which never came). One day I dared to use one of her "good" tablecloths and it literally fell apart - from dry rot! From that day I decided to enjoy my "good" things and treat them as a blessing that God intended me to enjoy.

Post a picture of that bathroom when it is done.


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BIGDAD1211 2/26/2011 5:31PM

    LOL! Great blog! I too have "Good" things that I don't use.

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BOVEY63 2/25/2011 11:11PM

    I remember all the "good" things when I was growing up too. I also remember the sound of a breaking thermos from the time I dropped the one my dad used for work. Sure glad they don't make them like that anymore.

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KAYDE53 2/25/2011 1:06PM

    Oh yes, I remember those days!! "Good" things were only brought out for special occasions!!! Good silverware, dishes, towels, you name it, reserved only for "company", which at my house, was just other family members!! lol emoticon

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MIZZSB 2/25/2011 3:54AM

    hahahahaha great blog again Lou!!

I always use the good stuff, life is to short!

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PEPPERLEAH 2/24/2011 11:47PM

    Oh how true! Thanks for this blog, Lou. It made me laugh, and that is a good thing! I remember all the "good" things we had, too, that we were not allowed to use except for certain occasions.

Have a wonderful evening!

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BUSSMOM 2/24/2011 8:51PM

  We had "good" dishes.....they were the dishes my grandmother pulled out of flour sacks, now they are collectibles called Depression Glass. My grandparents had a parlor that we were not allowed to go into because that was for special guests.

Ah the memories.....so nice.

Thanks for sharing.

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TEDYBEAR2838 2/24/2011 7:43PM

    Boy that sure tells it like it is.

WHy do we not use the GOOD stuff ALL THE TIME?

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YATMAMA 2/24/2011 6:39PM

    LOL I do relate! Ahhh and I broke Daddy's good Thermos, too, when I was a kid. He was NOT happy about it!

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ENERGIZED4LIFE 2/24/2011 2:43PM

    Yes and back then jeans were play clothes that we changed into after school.

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KANSASROSE67 2/24/2011 1:55PM

    Great blog! I still have a tendency to save back the "good" things, but I'm working on getting over it because who am I really saving them for? Thanks for sharing this...love the idea of a "good" scale!

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WENDYSPARKS 2/24/2011 12:59PM

    Yes I agree!! The good things we never use...we save to keep good and use them like once a year...like my good shoes I wear to church on Easter.

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PENNYAN45 2/24/2011 11:51AM

    I remember all those "good" items around the house.

Do you remember the plastic slipcovers that some folks had to cover up and protect their sofas and chairs? Nobody ever got to sit on the fabric. OMG!!

Those were not the "good" old days!


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IUHRYTR 2/24/2011 11:19AM

    I agree, Pat, about window treatments. It's the same as having a "water feature" in the yard instead of a small waterfall or something. just fancy designer terms. -- Lou

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PATSDIARY 2/24/2011 11:14AM

    ROFLMAO... I do remember the "good dishes", and many of the other "goods" we had. What really cracked me up was window treatments... My DH swears that if you want to call them window treatments even if you buy them at Wal-Mart you have to add an extra $100 per window. Needless to say, I have curtains and blinds! Have a wonderful day, and thanks for the good laugh and great memories!


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SONGOFJOY27 2/24/2011 10:36AM

    I love it! Whatever happened to the "good" things? My mom is now using her "good" china for every day ... and why not?

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NANHBH 2/24/2011 9:28AM

    Lou, I can't stop laughing! Did we grow up in the same house???
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THENAMESLISA 2/24/2011 7:45AM

    Great! I thought we were the only ones with good scissors.

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MALEXANDER4 2/24/2011 7:35AM

    Lou you always manage to bring a smile to my face. I love it......I too have a "good bathroom", but no one ever uses it. lol. Sad part is we are just laid back country folk, so what is up with a good anything? lol. Like the last post says, good things are a blessing and we should use them. Have a wonderful day and enjoy that new bath.

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CARRIEANNE1027 2/24/2011 3:03AM

    I whole heartedly think that we should use the "good things" daily. If we were blessed enough to have these things, shouldn't we enjoy them? I believe there is a scripture that says something like, we are to put our hope in God who richly provides us everything for our enjoyment..
I think you deserve to enjoy the "good bathroom"! emoticon

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ERIKO1908 2/23/2011 11:24PM

    Giggling now...thanks!!

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#457: Where is the Patience?

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Yesterday I had several errands to get done. It seemed as if every traffic light was against me and I spent long periods waiting for a green light. When I got to the bank I had to wait in line at the drive-through. The grocery store? Waited in line to check out. Everywhere I went I had to wait.

But wait I did because I knew those intermediate delays were but small bumps in the road that would not stop me from getting done what needed to get done.

As I waited at one intersection, I thought of some of the posts and blogs I've read here on SP that bemoaned in excruciating detail how frustrated the posters are with their lack of weight loss progress and I wondered, "Where is the patience?"

We all know too well we did not awaken one morning 20 or 50 or 150 pounds overweight. We know that our excess baggage crept up on us one candy bar, one pizza, one order of French fries, one ice cream sundae at a time.

And we should know that our extra weight will not be released overnight, but may take months, maybe years to get rid of.

We should know that but some people refuse to acknowledge it. They become impatient and want what the fraudulent advertising says, "Lose 20 pounds a month on this diet plan, or with this pill."

Sorry to inform those misguided souls, but that isn't how things work in this world. No one was born a bodybuilder or a musician or a writer; they worked long hours and sweated and practiced and learned about their craft before they reached a level of expertise. Many times they wanted to give up, but they persisted because they knew the ultimate reward would be worth their immediate sacrifices.

They knew they had to be patient and wait for the results.

Then, one day, they flexed in front of a gym mirror and saw muscles or played a song without hitting wrong notes or had a story or book published and that is when they reviled in jubilation at the successful culmination of the totality of their efforts.

So I urge those who are impatient with their weight loss, those who moan about "only" losing a few pounds despite all their hard work: Never give up. Acknowledge that the effort put forth today may not produce results tomorrow or next month. Patience is the virtue we need to cultivate.

Patience, and a stout belief in ourselves that meal by meal, exercise by exercise, positive day by positive day we are inching ever closer to seeing the success of our efforts.


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TINKERBELL200 2/27/2011 10:45PM

    You are so right! Patience is a virtue we all need to work on sometime!

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GRANDKATZ 2/22/2011 9:08PM

  Oh so true, be patient and never give up!

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    Awesome blog. I have learned to take time to look around me and appreciate the blessings around me when stuck at a light or standing in line. Life is so much better when patience is cultivated. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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LIGHTHEART09 2/19/2011 10:41AM

    When Joel was in ICU dying he grabbed my arm and said "NEVER GIVE UP"
He was such a testimony to me...
Thank you for this reminder...we don't wake up 50 lbs heavier, or lighter...one oz at a time...
Great blog Lou,

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ANNABELLE1957 2/19/2011 3:55AM

    thank you so much your blogs really do help me alot , bless this weekend for you emoticon

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/18/2011 9:42PM

    Great blog. Thank you for the "patience is a virtue" reminder!!

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BOVEY63 2/18/2011 12:47PM

    I have to remind myself everyday to be patient for one reason or another. Since joining SP I have gotten better at it and don't derail as easily as I used to. I still struggle with it but then I am my dad's daughter and if you knew him....

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ON2VICTORY 2/17/2011 9:36PM

    AMEN to that!

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GLORIEE 2/17/2011 8:28PM

    Yes! "...meal by meal, exercise by exercise, positive day by positive day" we are getting there!!!

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YATMAMA 2/17/2011 8:00PM

    So well said, my friend. *applause*

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NANHBH 2/17/2011 4:54PM

    Busted. Did you read my status update yesterday that said I "want patience NOW!" I was referring to the fact that my feet aren't healing fast enough. My doc doesn't want me working out yet, and I'm tired of only doing upper body workouts. I want to SWEAT!

But, I get your point. My body takes time to heal. I should be using this time to increase my fitness knowledge, read more, work on taxes... so many things I could be doing instead of bemoaning that healing isn't coming fast enough. Thanks for reminding me to be grateful!

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MIZZSB 2/17/2011 2:54PM

    thanks Lou!
Patience i got for a lot of things but not for weight loss emoticon

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LESLIES537 2/17/2011 11:17AM

    Well said! Patience is the greatest of all virtues! emoticon

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BEBE1964 2/17/2011 10:00AM

    Patience is the key. Learning to have patience comes along with all of the other changes happening along this journey. emoticon
Old habits die hard! Every lb along with the better breathing, more energy, etc. are all the rewards that come along with each step and pound.

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SONGOFJOY27 2/17/2011 9:43AM

    So true! The pounds didn't go on overnight and they don't come off that quickly. But with perseverance and patience and doing the right things, they will come off!

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WENDYSPARKS 2/17/2011 7:29AM

    I wait alot also everywhere...but remember patience is a virtue...wishing you a nice day.

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MALEXANDER4 2/17/2011 7:12AM

    As you have reminded me many times before.....one pound at a time. As long as we don't give up we are winners everyday.

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BUSSMOM 2/16/2011 10:48PM

  Beautifully said.....thanks!


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KRITTERKEEPERS 2/16/2011 10:01PM

    Wonderful post! emoticon

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 2/16/2011 9:46PM

    You can really uh write! It will happen exactly as you say. One day you just look in the mirror and say "hmm not bad". Good things come to those who wait.


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TEDYBEAR2838 2/16/2011 8:57PM

    emoticon post my friend. When I used to give up and quit and gain again, I would think, 'if I had only stuck with it for the year, how much lighter I would be. So, no more 'WHAT IF's'.

I'm going to be patient and I know for sure I am getting healthier even if the scale does not reflect all the changes going on inside me and inside my head. My determination is STRONG!

Let's continue to ROCK 2011 Together~!

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LIBBYFITZ 2/16/2011 8:41PM

    emoticonPatience is the key!

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