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#209: Do Positive Affirmations Work?

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Do you believe in positive affirmations? Do you believe you can be successful by repeating to yourself positive thoughts?

I believe if we think of negatives, we get negative responses in return but if we think positive thoughts, then we get positive responses.

Not immediately of course.

Simply telling ourselves that "today I will be 50 pounds lighter" doesn't work. But positive thinking is about so much more than mere thoughts. A positive mental attitude is about a lifestyle, about believing in ourselves, believing we CAN accomplish a certain thing.

In stressful, game-on-the-line situations, top athletes remind themselves how often they have succeeded in similar situations before. They tell themselves they CAN make a successful shot, that they WILL succeed.

"Whatever you put into your mind - in one way or another - is what you will get back out - in one way or another." Shad Helmstetter

"Whatever you plant in the mind is going to come up - multiplied. Plant a negative or a positive and you reap in multiples because between planting and harvest, imagination enters the picture and multiplies the result." Zig Ziglar

"Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture." Norman Vincent Peale

It's not difficult. Use index cards to write positive thoughts on and read them when you awake and before you go to bed and often during the day. Or record positive affirmations on a tape and listen to it when you're home and driving and when you get up and before you go to bed.

"Have you ever seen a negative baby? Children come into the world with no doubts or fears at all. And whatever has been learned can be unlearned through practice and repetition." Brian Tracy

It will take a while to overcome established negative thinking and to forget all of the failures in our lives. But it has been done by a multitude of people and can be done by us.

"Reflect on your present blessings, of which every man has many; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." Charles Dickens

Do positive affirmations work? I believe so and would rather develop a positive attitude than allow a negative one to rule my life.

How about you?

  
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SPARKLOVE 1/27/2010 2:46PM

    emoticonYes positive affirmations are good to use.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/25/2010 4:00PM

    I definitely believe in positive affirmations!

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AMBERROGUE 1/25/2010 11:54AM

    Right on!

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GABY1948 1/25/2010 3:04AM

    I totally agree with this. Through personal experience it does work! Thanks, Lou.

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YATMAMA 1/24/2010 11:50PM

    Absolutely!

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LADYNETTIE 1/24/2010 11:31PM

    Great attitude and information. Thanks for sharing.

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KATIE4KIDS 1/24/2010 11:30PM

    emoticon As always, amazing post!

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LAURIES_PLACE 1/24/2010 10:56PM

  Lou,

You are such a wonderful friend. I don't know why I am rebelling about this so much. I am starting therapy tomorrow, at the insistence of my psychiatrist (No, No! I don't want to do this! emoticon emoticon emoticon No therapy!) I will bring this up soon, maybe get some help with how to overcome my resistance to positive affirmations. I know it should work if I don't rebel against it, if I focus on just a couple of statements that would help me get to a specific goal, if I give it time. I am trying.

Thank you.

laurie

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PEPPERLEAH 1/24/2010 10:44PM

    It is so much better to focus on the positives. Yes, they DO work! Thanks for another great blog!

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CARRIEANNE1027 1/24/2010 10:10PM

    Wow.. I just wrote in my journal about this subject this morning.. Not so much about positive affirmations per se, but about negative thoughts, and their effect on my attitude/emotions day to day. At times I can easily get caught up in the "stinkin thinkin" mentality.. The thing is, I know when I'm doing it, and rather than changing the thought and thinking about something positive, I wallow like a pig in it for a day or 2. I get so frustrated with myself that I had wasted that time feeling sorry for myself, when I could have been out doing something positive..
Thanks for the post.. It's just what I needed to read..

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BUSSMOM 1/24/2010 9:30PM

  I figure...what's the point in wasting my time being negative. It's not fun for me. It's not fun for those around me. God has blessed me to be on this earth for a short amount of time and I choose to use my time reflecting His love and positive message for eternal life.

Looking for the good things makes me a happier me!

-Maribeth

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#208: Beginning a New Life

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Chapter eight of the book, "The Greatest Salesman in the World" begins with the story's man character, Hafid, reading from a scroll marked I:

"Today I begin a new life."

"Today I shed my old skin which hath, too long, suffered the bruises of failure and the wounds of mediocrity."

"Today I am born anew and my birthplace is a vineyard where there is fruit for all."

"Today I will pluck grapes of wisdom from the tallest and fullest vines in the vineyard, for these were planted by the wisest of my profession who have come before me..."

"Today I will savor the taste of grapes from these vines and verily I will swallow the seed of success buried in each and new life will sprout within me."

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"Failure no longer will be my payment for struggle. Failure...is alien to my life. In the past I accepted it...Now I reject it..."

"Yet, within my allotted time I must practice the art of patience for nature never acts in haste."

"In truth, the only difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded lies in the difference of their habits. Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure. Thus, the first law I will obey, which precedeth all others is -- I will form good habits..."

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The man then begins to study each of the scrolls of wisdom for 30 days.

"And what will be accomplished with this habit? Herein lies the hidden secret of all man's accomplishments. As I repeat the words daily they will soon become a part of my active mind, but more important, they will also seep into my other mind, that mysterious source which never sleeps, which creates my dreams, and often makes me act in ways I do not comprehend."

"Thus a new and good habit is born, for when an act becomes easy through constant repetition it becomes a pleasure to perform..."

"Today I begin a new life...Today my old skin has become as dust. I will walk tall among men and they will know me not, for today I am a new man, with a new life."

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What lessons can we learn from Hafid and apply to our lives and our journeys of weight loss and better health?

* He willed himself a new life, knowing he would need to be patient for results to occur.

* He planted a visual scene in his mind of success.

* He vowed to reject failure and embrace success.

* He also vowed to take the knowledge of those who had succeeded before him and apply it to himself.

* He committed to creating new habits.

* He realized the importance of positive affirmations, said repeatedly until they are a part of the subconscious.

Aren't these the tips SP has taught us? When we follow the principles of success that others before us have followed, failure is certain to be absent from our journey. We must visualize the new us, make a commitment to creating new habits and allowing our old self to turn to dust.

"I will walk tall among men and they will know me not, for today I am a new man, with a new life."

Isn't this what we all seek?

Then let's start now developing our own code of behavior for our future. Let's each become our own greatest salesman in the world. We can do this. We WILL do this. Nothing will stop us.

WE WILL SUCCEED!

  
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JOYATLAST 1/31/2010 1:57PM

    Oh, my, Lou. This deserves to be among the popular blogs! Everyone should read it.

I'm getting my copy of The Greatest Salesman in the World for a re-read.

GREAT JOB!

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SPARKLOVE 1/27/2010 2:53PM

    I will walk the walk and not just talk the talk!

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KLASSIE 1/24/2010 9:40PM

    Thanks for sharing. I read Og Mandino a lifetime ago when I had it in my head that I could accomplish anything I set out to do. It's about time I revisit the book and reclaim my old beliefs. I am a true believer of the statement that whatever the mind can conceive and believe the body can achieve. This was a great reminder and I thank you again.

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SEKSUNSHINE 1/24/2010 12:12PM

    Seems we read the same books.

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YATMAMA 1/23/2010 9:25PM

    *applause*

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TIFFANIEMARTIN 1/23/2010 9:21PM

    not that far in the book but what i have read i really enjoy it puts life into perspective for me .. emoticon

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LAURIES_PLACE 1/23/2010 9:04PM

  Hi Lou,

I have never read this book. Maybe I should. Some of these ideas I have already made part of my life. One that I reject again and again is the idea of using positive affirmations. I would like to know that people have used them so much that it is a given, a fact that the affirmations made a difference. Am I that cynical? No, I don't think cynical is it. I should believe it. After all, don't we all remember so very clearly instances of negative, hurtful, destructive moments that made a huge impact on our thinking? Haven't we all recoiled from a person, an activity because of something so very painful that was said to us? I need to start over again, to create good things in my mind rather than letting my brain relive what scarred me. Can anyone tell me what positive affirmations have truly done for them? I want to believe.
(Thanks, Fox Mulder.)

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GABY1948 1/23/2010 8:35PM

    Lou, I love this idea! And I'm holding you to it! emoticon Seriously we will succeed! emoticon Thanks for another winner blog.
Gaye

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WALNUT5612 1/23/2010 8:22PM

    Great blog! Good advice!

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ZZYYGGY 1/23/2010 8:12PM

    Great idea.

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#207: Five Ways to Beat Stress

Friday, January 22, 2010

Stress is a silent, ever-present killer.

In our lives there are many things we can control and a great many things we can not. The things we can control are usually not even thought of in the course of a day. The things we canít control, are, hopefully, recognized and compensated for when they arise.

Here are some easy ways to defeat stress.

EATING RIGHT

Don't simply drive into a fast food joint and order a greasy burger and greasy fries and then wonder why you donít feel all that well. This not feeling well just adds more stress. Follow SP and other guidelines that call for fruits, vegetables and other healthy foods. Proper eating will provide the fuel needed to stave off fatigue that adds to feelings of being stressed and overwhelmed.

MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Don't be a workaholic. When you're done with work, leave. Take a walk by yourself, spend quiet time relaxing reading or with a hot bath. Enjoy the peace and replenish your soul.

ON YOUR DAYS OFF

Forget work and forget not working out. It's a day off for a reason. To recuperate from the week till that point. You need time to decompress and unwind. Enjoy being around the wife or husband and kids or enjoy doing something you like.

DEVELOP HOBBIES

It doesn't matter what they are -- skiing, golf, hunting, fishing, bowling, knitting, painting -- whatever. Hobbies are a great way to get rid of anxiety and stress. Youíre doing something you like and your mind is off your daily obligations and responsibilities. Try not to make your hobby work related.

MAKE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT CO-WORKERS.

You canít get two or more co-workers together for more than five seconds without the conversation turning to work. With this in mind, meet people from other professions to network or join groups that have a common interest -- sports, hobbies, etc.

Stress has indeed been called a silent killer. But it needn't be if we take care of ourselves and follow these five simple rules to help balance work, home and play.

  
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WALNUT5612 2/2/2010 11:50AM

    What wonderful advice!!!

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ROXANNEGREY 2/2/2010 11:30AM

    What great advice! Doing the right things isn't always what I feel like doing...have to make the decision in advance. Keeping a prayer in my heart gets me through the day...there really aren't any bad days.
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THEADMIRAL 1/26/2010 2:01PM

    Again, great and timely reminders for me! emoticon It's been pretty stressful for our family this month. I need to apply all these suggestions so that I can be supportive instead of needing support.

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LADYNETTIE 1/24/2010 12:14AM

    Great reminders. Thanks for sharing

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/23/2010 5:10PM

    I think I do pretty well in all categories. Thanks for the checklist!

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SPARKLOVE 1/23/2010 4:33PM

    Those are 5 good tips Lou, thanks for sharing them. I have read that when you are under extra stress it is also good to take a B Vitamin and as you know meditation and prayer does wonders .

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CARRIEANNE1027 1/23/2010 1:05PM

    emoticon Stress? What stress? I don't have any stress? emoticon Lol.. Thank you for the reminders..
Usually when I'm more stressed than usual, I want a greasy burger, the greasier (more greasy?) the better! Either that or I just shut down totally and crave sleep.. The later has been the norm the past couple of weeks..
Thank you again.. good post!

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TIME4ANEWME47 1/22/2010 10:48PM

    Great reminders!!! Thanks Lou!

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PEPPERLEAH 1/22/2010 10:42PM

    Lou, how do you always know just what we need to hear when you post your blogs? I needed this so badly tonight. Thank you for another wonderful post.

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KATIE4KIDS 1/22/2010 10:15PM

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GOSPELCLOWN 1/22/2010 10:14PM

    Great reminders!

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SLENDERELLA61 1/22/2010 9:20PM

    Great blog! Thanks.

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GRANDTEETON 1/22/2010 9:18PM

    Amen...I agree...stress is # 1 problem in my life...as far as everything..work, diet, exercise, etc etc...leads to my struggles with emotional eating.

Thanks for posting this!

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YATMAMA 1/22/2010 9:06PM

    Thank you for sharing this, Lou. I hadn't realized just how much the stress of the last few weeks has been affecting me until I had a mini-meltdown. It sure is a sneaky little bugger, and it saps the life right out of all the good we do for ourselves. Thanks again, my insightful friend.

*hugs*

Missy

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GABY1948 1/22/2010 9:05PM

    I love these ideas. I'm retired but remember all too well that you are right about betting co-workers together and talking of something other than work...NOT. Since I am retired I really am busier than I ever was before because I am catching up on all the things that I put off while working. So now I have to work on a hobby to relieve some of the stress I put myself through over not getting something finished when I feel I should. Great reminder, Lou.
Gaye

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DKAB55 1/22/2010 9:05PM

    As usual Lou, wonderful advice.

Have a Blessed weekend!
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#206: The Story of the Banana

Thursday, January 21, 2010

"We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed."
Viktor Frankl

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Tonight I talked with a friend from Trinidad who lives in New York City. He related a story his very traditional and wise grandmother told him when he was a young boy. It's a poignant story he has never forgotten.

The tale tells of a man who was depressed because he had no home, no job, no friends or family and nothing left to eat but a banana. He decided life wasn't worth living and vowed that after he ate the banana he would hang himself and gain relief from his worldly worries.

As he began eating the banana, he climbed up a tree and tied a rope to a branch. He then fashioned a noose and put it around his neck. He took the last bite of his banana and tossed the fruit's skin to the ground beneath the tree.

Just as he was about to leap from the branch, he saw a boy run to the tree, grab the discarded banana skin and begin eating it before running away.

The man realized that what was a useless banana skin to him was a meal for someone less fortunate than himself. He realized, too, that as bad as he thought his life was, there was someone else whose life was worse.

He undid the noose from around his neck and climbed down the tree.

He still had no home, no job, no friends or family and now nothing left to eat. But he now had hope. His faith was restored. He vowed to begin his life anew. He didn't know how or where he would end up but he understood that no matter how bad off he was, there was always someone worse off, like the little boy.

When times seem overwhelming and we have nowhere to turn, let us remember the story of the banana and realize that there is always someone worse off.

For, what is life without hope and faith?

  
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SUSAN134 1/22/2010 1:30PM

    Excellent and thought provoking - thank you for sharing it

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/22/2010 11:32AM

    Faith, Hope & Love!

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CARRIEANNE1027 1/22/2010 11:26AM

    Awesome story, I needed the reminder.. Thanks for sharing emoticon

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AMBERROGUE 1/22/2010 10:03AM

    Hope is very important!

Thanks for sharing!

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-PAULA 1/22/2010 7:10AM

    I love this blog! Thanks for posting!

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GABY1948 1/22/2010 6:23AM

    Oh, Lou, this is the MOST awesome story! Thank you for this. It is just what I needed today.
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Gaye

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PEPPERLEAH 1/21/2010 11:48PM

    Great blog, Lou. There is always someone who wishes they had what we have; and on the flip side of that coin, there is always so much to look forward to!

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KATIE4KIDS 1/21/2010 10:39PM

    emoticon thanks

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ROSE-IS-A-ROSE 1/21/2010 10:34PM

    haha!

This was my guilty laugh for the day. When I saw the title, "the Story of the Banana" I assumed it was going to be funny. Maybe I set myself up and then misread it ... was this supposed to be dark comedy?
A man says to himself, "at least I'm not a grubby starving street urchin" and finds a reason to live? Yikes.
This is one cruel old man. So dark that it's funny.
No wonder the poor guy doesn't have any friends.

Thanks for the story. It's one that I'll remember and pass around.


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SPARKLOVE 1/21/2010 10:05PM

    I thought you were going to say he found a reason to live that he was going to climb down from the tree and help the little boy. Maybe because I was thinking Love is about giving not getting. Well , what you said, is so true and it makes me think of that poem ,I forget how it all goes, but I am sure you heard this one. I complained I had no shoes till I met a man who had no feet. Hugs, Joy

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DEBRITA01 1/21/2010 9:49PM

    emoticon That was a thought provoking story and I'm glad I read it!

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MAMABEARLICIOUS 1/21/2010 9:44PM

    great blog, thanhs for posting

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#205: A Test of Faith and Positive Attitude

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

As if prophetically, last night's blog began: "I'm a pretty positive person. Even in the midst of stressful situations I try to find the good in what is going on around me."

This afternoon that way of thinking was put to a test.

I had an appointment at a business and was about three-quarters of a mile away when my car broke down. First time in six years. Gave thanks it happened on a side road and not on a busy street or expressway and for the cardio I'd receive by walking to the appointment and back to the car.

Then called roadside assistance and gave thanks I had a charged cell phone and a tow service plan.

The sun was hot but not unbearable while waiting for the tow truck. Gave thanks it wasn't summer's high humidity or the recent cold spell in the 30s and for a cooling breeze that occasionally blew through the car's open windows.

Realized I didn't have a credit card with me to pay for the excess towing miles. Gave thanks that a friend who was to pick me up at the mechanic's said he'd pay for it.

Called the mechanic to say I'd leave the keys in the drop box since he'd be closed when we got there. Gave thanks he stayed open until we arrived and that he'll be able to start the repairs first thing in the morning. Gave additional thanks that the breakdown happened today and not tomorrow because the shop is closed on Fridays.

My ride wanted to stop for dinner and treated me. Gave thanks for friendship and a nice meal.

Didn't make the rest of my appointments. Gave thanks they will let me have time tomorrow afternoon.

Certainly a day that tested my faith and positive attitude. But a day I realized there truly can be good in stressful situations if we only look for it.

  
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KATIE4KIDS 1/21/2010 10:33PM

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It's a blessing to "know" you!

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JLUVSHIKIN 1/21/2010 10:29PM

    Very nice attitude! and what a great example to follow. Thank you.

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SPARKLOVE 1/21/2010 9:56PM

    You are emoticonLou! That is the attitude I am trying to cultivate. I am trying to look at things in a different light and be thankful for all things because everything gives us an opportunity to exercise the fruits of the spirit and when we do we are laying up treasures in Heaven. You laid up some Treasures this day!

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LADYNETTIE 1/21/2010 7:13PM

    What a great positive attitude! It's all how you look at things and you have it all figured out. Have a successful and positive 2010~!

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WALEB1002 1/21/2010 6:39PM

    Wow...your positive attitude is amazing... you are definitely someone for me to look up to in that area (im not the best at being positive in a rough situation...but im working on it)! there are little things all around us to be thankful for...all we have to do is see them!

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YATMAMA 1/21/2010 5:33PM

    Awesome attitude!

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AMBERROGUE 1/21/2010 10:11AM

    Good for you for staying positive in the face of so many things going wrong! emoticon

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GABY1948 1/21/2010 6:22AM

    You just showed the right way to handle ALL things in life. Give thanks to God, where it belongs! I Praise God for your day and for YOU! God Bless you and your blogs.
Gaye

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PEPPERLEAH 1/20/2010 11:55PM

    There is always much to be thankful for! And I know, when we are going through rough times, we usually do NOT see the purpose in it. But, you just gave a great example of giving thanks in all things!

Blessings to you;
Leah

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/20/2010 9:02PM

    Yup, for sure. They say it's not what happens to us, but how we react to what happens to u.
God Is Good



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