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4, 16, 11 HIKE (Pictures)

Saturday, April 16, 2011

No not football, today's date and Hiking :). Today was our training hike. We have a race coming up in June in Idyllwild, which is up in our mountains. We are valley dwellers so we have to get ourselves up the mountain a few times at least to work on altitude training. Wish we could do it more often, it is just sooooo pretty up in our mountains. Oh, our town is nice enough, but I LOVE the mountains.

I've written about this hike and these mountains before, but a quick recap won't hurt. Short but sweet, Idyllwild has a special place in the collective heart of our family. We have been going to Idyllwild for as long as I can remember and my mom has many a tale from her family's trips up the mountain when she was a girl. Ernie Maxwell is the name of the trail we LOVE. My mom and I "discovered" it years ago after an article was run in a local newspaper. We went quite often for awhile and took my nephews with us a few times. Those trips were always fun. My mom, sister and I started going back to the trail about two years ago as a way to increase our fitness. We hadn't been for awhile as running took over, but now that the weather is nice and we have our mountain 10K looming again we were itching to get back to the trail.

This was a MASSIVELY fun trip "up the hill" (local colloquialism for the mountain). My nephew, one of the ones we took on the hike many years ago, came today, along with his wife and their dog. His sister's, naturally my nieces, also came along. Also our running/spark friend Angela. Of course the group also included my mom, sister and myself. We had quite the group :).

Part of the fun part was the time of year and the type of year we've had. We haven't been, that I can remember, in April. Also this year we have had a very wet year with lots of warm weather scattered in between so the mountains got lots of snow, but the majority of it has already melted off. One of the things that made this trip so different is how much water we encountered. On previous hikes we had identified several location we felt would carry water during spring run-off and had seen small amounts of water flowing in streams on previous occasions. On this occasion we found lots on little streams, what appeared to be a natural spring and several beautiful, if small, waterfalls. I already thought this area was gorgeous the water added even more charm to the scene :).

Another great surprise was a field of wild daffodils. I may be wrong in calling them daffodils, because they were a much smaller version than the ones I am familiar with, but so cute!! These were covering the ground in one section of the hike

Somewater pictures...Baby waterfall :)

Bigger waterfall

It's hard to see the water in this pic, but it is a couple inches deep and fed but the stream in the pic above. This is where you crossed over the stream. Step on the log and then choose carefully your rocks and you will make it without getting wet :)

The biggest surprise was waiting at the top of the trail... a little bit of stubborn snow :).

Tahquitz peak...our local fave for rock climbers. We met a few climbers getting ready for the climb.

Niece, Nephew, Nephew's Wife and their adorable dog...

Heading back down...

Done :)

5 miles round trip, HRM says more than 2000 calories burned...reward, a small bowl of blueberry pomegranate ice cream :). Now time for din-din. Have a great weekend all :).

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BUTEAFULL 4/22/2011 3:03AM

    thanks for the photos, now I want to hike

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SLEEPYDEAN 4/18/2011 12:28AM

    Sounds like a nice time. Definitely a great way to get some training in.

We used to go camping in Idywild when I was a kid, and have some great memories of it too.

We've got a great hiking preserve near my house and we used it for about a year before learning there was a waterfall at the top of one trail we'd never taken. It is a rough incline, but so worth it when you get up to it.

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OVERHAULING-ME 4/17/2011 10:56PM

    WOW, that sounds amazing! What better way to get exercise in than surrounded by nature with lots of loved ones! And 2000 calories...AMAZING!!!

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DARINGR8LY 4/17/2011 6:18PM

    Amazing pictures Heather! emoticon It was a rewarding time on so many levels. I am looking forward to the next hike.

I'm glad you had the ice cream--you deserved it.

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IMSMILEY88 4/17/2011 9:57AM

    It looks like a beautiful place to hike! And, what wonderful family memories. (The calories burned is just an added bonus!)

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NEW-CAZ 4/17/2011 3:54AM

    Love it Heather, what a great way to spend the day,
I bet that ice cream tasted amazing, you certainly deserve such a heavenly treat..

Hope your Sunday is as equally lovely emoticon

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KARTOM 4/17/2011 3:23AM

    Looks like a beautiful hike! It's good to reward yourself too for all your hard work! :)

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41SUSAN14 4/17/2011 1:59AM

    Pretty stuff!

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YOURJONES 4/16/2011 11:42PM

    How fun! Your ice cream sounds delicious! You definitely deserved it!

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ESBELL 4/16/2011 10:06PM

    Love It!!! What a beautiful way to spend your Saturday!

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HICKOK-HALEY 4/16/2011 9:36PM

    What a fun day!

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WENDYWITKOSKI 4/16/2011 9:33PM

    What a great way to spend the day!

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Heeding the Siren Call :).

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Try to do this quickly because I still need to finish working out :).

So, yesterday I did something I've been thinking about doing for a long, time, but have never done. Let me tell you the story (with some pics).

My son is currently in his 4th year of little league and we have played with the same league on the same fields all that time. Our fields are down at my sister's end of town and kind of tucked into this spot behind the High School and up against the highway that runs along the south end of our valley. The baseball fields take up most of this little corner, except for an open field. My best wild guess is that the field is about an acre, probably more though, which, supposedly, is privately owned. Anyways, sitting in this field is this hill, it's a pretty good sized hill and you can't go to baseball without seeing the hill.

This time of year you can often see people climbing the hill and walking around up there and I have ALWAYS wanted to climb the hill. For four years, twice a week for two months, I think about climbing this hill and NEVER do it. The timing is just wrong. Every time we are there it is for baseball and we never make time to climb the hill. It got even worse last year when we moved from t-ball to coach pitch and our field assignment changed and we were now on the fields looking at the hill-lol!! We are on those same fields again this year.

So, earlier this week, I casually mention on FB that I want more hill training in my schedule and that I can't think of a good way to fit it in, but maybe the least I can do is climb that hill. I forgot to mention this plan to my husband, which is funny because I am ALWAYS yelling at him that he needs to communicate things because I am NOT a mind reader. Luckily he is on FB and saw my post-lol!! Who knew FB could improve the communication between spouses?! lol! Tuesday he asks, "So, did you want to climb that hill tomorrow? Do we need to leave for the game early?" Me: (laughing) "Oh yeah, forgot to mention that didn't I! Yes, let's leave early and do that". And thus a plan was born :). The sirens were calling and I didn't plug my ears with wax and tie myself to the mast of my ship-lol!! Luckily it turned out to be a good thing, not at all like Odysseus' experience with the Sirens :).

Because we would be leaving so early and baseball was immediately following the hike, we made a picnic dinner. Everybody placed their order for a sandwich, which went into the picnic basket and a jug of Tang, some plastic cups and we were set. We got there and my son, who has climbed the hill with his cousins leads us out on our hike. It is actually really easy to access this supposedly private hill, there is a gate in the fence surrounding the ball park-lol! Plus the gate itself is 4-foot chain link, but the gate was hanging open so no prob there.

There is a short path leading to the hill and then a really easy to follow trail leading up. The first part is a little steep and a good workout, but short, maybe a hundred yards, max. We had to stop once so my son could show us where he and his cousins saw a lizard run into a hole and then one of the cousins poked a stick in the hole and the lizard ran back out and almost ran up the arm of the cousin. This is one of the things I LOVE about having a boy, lizard stories, they ROCK!! (Totally serious, I'm not joking at all, it is just SUCH a boy thing I find it adorable!!)

Here is a pic of the going up part...

Once you are up the steep climb the hill is actually really flat on top, more like a mesa than a traditional hill. A pic of my kids at the top...
As soon as we got to the top the trail cut to the left and headed back down the hill. Well, that just would not do as far as I was concerned-lol!! Straight ahead was a relatively flat table of rock. It looked like after a short scramble it would be really easy to just walk across the rock to another section of the hill. I told my kids to stay put while I climb up a rock a small rock and scope out the situation and sure enough there are two easy ways off our rock and then we are right on top of the big flat rock and it is easy going. So off we go. Another pic of my kids being silly Here we are standing on the big flat rock and you can see right behind my kids the rock we had to climb over...on the other side it is more sloped and there are little holes all over the rock that make perfect footholds. It almost looks like the sloped side was used as a Maize Stone, but our town has done a really good job of identifying and preserving those, so the holes are probably erosion, but it is really cool having all those little natural foot holds. Not that it is a hard rock to get over but I am a MAJOR clutz and had already tripped on one teeny-tiny rock. Sliding down a sloped rock is always a risk with me so I appreciated the helping hand from Mother Nature.

The path picked right back up on the other side of the rock and it was pretty easy to follow it back around to the front side of the hill and back down, we took a couple "false" paths, that are probably real paths when everything is dried up. There was quite a bit of wild mustard growing up there though and it had choked off some of the less traveled paths. We got back in plenty of time for son to participate in his team's warm up. We had our picnic dinner and watched the game and it was an awesome evening. The kids CAN'T wait to climb the hill again. We have a date for after the baseball game on Saturday :).

I finally climbed that hill and it was a blast. The interesting side effect was it also helped me with running. Here is the side story :)...I recently got new running shoes and I love them, they are GREAT. But, they aren't the same as the pair I usually wear and my shin problem has been trying to come back up and I wasn't sure if it was just my shins or if the shoes were a part of the problem. I felt it could be the shoes because my shins seemed to bother me more when I wore the new shoes and not as much when I wore the old shoes. The old shoes aren't really old, they still have plenty of miles left on them, these ones were just a REALLY great price and with two pairs they will last longer and I like having choices :). Anyways, I wore the new shoes for the hike yesterday with the though that maybe if I wore them a little when I wasn't running I would "get used" to them and it wouldn't be a problem. While we were hiking I only thought about the shoes when I tripped on that rock, thinking that if I was wearing my hiking boots (which I thought was kind of overkill for this "hike") I wouldn't have tripped on the rock. I didn't think about which shoes I was wearing again until much later. After the game I put our chairs and picnic stuff in the car and talked to my sister-in-law for awhile (our kids played against each other last night-it was fun until we had yet another flare up from a parent (different one this time) ). So by the time I was done with all that the team and my husband were all up at the snack bar and it was really cold, so I told the girls, "Let's run". We did we ran all the way to the snack bar. It wasn't until we were getting in the car that I realized I hadn't had any problems with my shins or shoes during the entire hike, the several times I ran back and forth to the car, and the time I ran to the snack bar. I wore the shoes again on this morning's run...not one problem. I figure the shoes just needed to feel important :). I still can't say if it was the shoes or the shins, but I don't care, for now problem solved and that is fine with me. Had a great run this a.m., fastest in a long time. Still really slow, but back to my normal "fast" pace so I am good with it, because I am no longer playing catch up-YAY!!

We have a hike on Saturday instead of a long run and I am looking forward to that, it's been awhile since we've done a hike. The plan is to hit my favorite, Ernie Maxwell trail. It is up in the mountains, it will be chilly, but should be absolutely gorgeous and the stream should be running well. When we go later in summer the stream is usually completely dried up, but it is really fun to see the stream in the spring, which is in full swing here in So. Cal. It's been a good week so far and have more to look forward to still. Oh, not to mention, nephew and his wife will probably be joining us and maybe a niece or two, so it'll be a really fun hike too :). Hoping now that the scale will agree with me on Saturday that it's been a good week :). Hope everyone else is having a good week too :).

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 4/18/2011 3:48PM

    Sounds like great fun.

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GINGERSNAPED 4/18/2011 8:42AM

    way to go

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SPEEDYDOG 4/16/2011 9:45AM

    Hills, you gotta love 'em. The kids are adorable It looks like a good time was had by all.

Thanks, Bruce

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4EVERADONEGIRL 4/14/2011 2:50PM

    So glad you finally hiked the hill! I'm hopeful that *one of these days* I'll be able to get out to the field for hike and ball game! LOL My life is really way too busy. *sigh*

Oh well - looking forward to this weekend! Time to dust off the hiking boots after oh...8 months at least since they were last out! YIKES!

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YOURJONES 4/14/2011 2:11PM

    How fun!

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ZURDTA- 4/14/2011 1:38PM

    FANTASTIC! Now that is fun!

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 4/14/2011 1:17PM

    Awesome! Sounds so fun. So glad you made your shoes feel important so they stopped hurtng your shins!

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NEW-CAZ 4/14/2011 12:57PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonWell done Heather

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NEW-CAZ 4/14/2011 12:56PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonWell done Heather

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ENDUROVET 4/14/2011 11:45AM

    If you want to climb a hill, you need to come to TX & hike Enchanted Rock:

(crap, what did I do? I just tried to copy a link for you & it DISAPPEARED!)

But anyway, take my word for it, it's awesome... Congrats on your successes!

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RHONDALYN36 4/14/2011 11:40AM

    that's awesome to get up that hill..way to go you can do it

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RIGBY31 4/14/2011 11:33AM

    Hiking, picnic, lizards! Good for you, what great parents, beautiful kids!

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FUNFROG79 4/14/2011 11:26AM

    emoticon emoticon

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DARINGR8LY 4/14/2011 11:22AM

    How exciting to finally get up that hill. You are a conqueror!

I always love seeing pictures of people's adventures. Thanks for sharing. The kids are adorable.

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RAIN_SIS 4/14/2011 11:19AM

    Kudos to your husband for picking up your hint.
It is amazing when they pick them up - even more so when they are dropped where it is a stretch to pick them up.
Good job male!
It sounds like a very nice family outing. So great that your kids get a chance to realize that physical stuff is FUN.

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CALLIKIA 4/14/2011 11:12AM

    That looks so great! I feel like it's certainly hiking time yet again and I just can't be happier about it! Can't wait to tackle the hills and such around here VERY soon. Have a great hike Saturday!! And good job facing that fear and finally reaching the summit of one goal! :)

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SEEAMANDARUN 4/14/2011 11:03AM

    What a great day! It looks like you had a fun time!

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Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Sometimes blog ideas come from the strangest places...this one comes from Facebook.

A page I follow asked this question this morning...To me, endurance means_____ (fill in the blank).

Well, immediately I started thinking about the word endure. That word sometimes has sort of a negative connotation. When we "endure" something we are "getting through" a tough time the best we can. When we endure we are not having fun. Some people go through life with the attitude that this life is something to be "endured". Which I find to be really sad by the way.

The question of what endurance means was asked in a sporting context, where endurance can mean going distances that are inhuman. I mean really...who runs 70+ miles!!?? Endurance athletes that's who, and more. Let's take runner Dean Karnazes for example. Dean is an Ultramarathoner who is running across America in 40-50 mile bits...EVERY DAY. I haven't been following his trek very closely so I don't know if he's had to take a day off here and there, but 40-50 miles in ONE day is amazing, to get up and do it over and over and over again until you've run all the way across the country is simply AMAZING. Dean Karnazes is an ENDURANCE ATHLETE. He has reached a level of fitness that I am in awe of. And NO it will not matter what I do or how I train I will NEVER be like Dean, and that is okay because, as the question indicates, endurance is different for every person.

For some endurance is getting up in the morning. For some it is running 50 miles for the 60th time. For each of us it is something different.

I ENDURED a half-marathon and will probably do it again. But, a half is probably my limit. At this point I don't know if I have the ability to do a marathon or ever will. And really, I'm okay with that. 10 miles seems to be my max and I can push and endure another 3, beyond that and I just might die. ;) So, I had this idea in my head of what endurance means to me, but I could not express it in words, but as I read some of the responses, I saw my thoughts expressed and decided to share some of them with you. I'll include the link to the thread at the end. Here is what endurance means to some people and I happen to agree.

Not giving up on yourself.

Achieving what you thought could not be done!!


“Endurance is not just the ability to bear a hard thing, but to turn it into glory.”

believing you can do more that you ever thought possible.

knowing i can finish

discovering the unknown.


Feeling free...

I LOVE each and every one of these statements. Together I think that not only do they define Endurance in a sporting sense, but give new meaning to Endure in the everyday sense. This is one of those things I am going to be able to think on for a long, long time and find new depth every time I do.

Your turn to fill in the blank.

To me endurance means______________.

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DARINGR8LY 4/14/2011 11:19AM

    strength! emoticon

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PAPPHEM 4/13/2011 10:58PM

    Endurance means keeping going even when you're not making much progress, continuous forward motion (even if it's two steps forward, one step back) emoticon

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KARVY09 4/13/2011 3:43PM

    To me endurance means pushing past your comfort zone and that nagging voice that says "you can quit now."

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NEW-CAZ 4/13/2011 2:55PM

    emoticon blog Heather as always

To me endurance means inner strength and knowing you can do whatever goal you set yourself


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4EVERADONEGIRL 4/13/2011 1:32PM

    endurance means strength! that's the same thing I thought when I saw it on FB this morning! :-) Awesome blog!!!!!

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ENDUROVET 4/13/2011 12:40PM

    Endurance = getting 'er done; hanging in there!

(see most recent blog entry ;-)

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FUNFROG79 4/13/2011 11:53AM

    Great blog! To me endurance means strength and confidence

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I'm an addict

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Yep, I must confess. I can't hide my secret any longer. I'm an addict. I'm addicted to races. Not running mind you, I like running just fine, I even actually enjoy it from time to time. I'm addicted to races even though I don't stand a chance of winning one, I'm still addicted.

I'm addicted to the energy of a race. If you've never been to a running race I dare you to just go sometime. Find a race near you and just go. Nobody will care that you aren't running it. Everyone will assume you are "support". Lots of races have health expos attached and you can get some great freebies if you show up at the right race. Stand and watch the runners come in and cheer them on. Trust me, not one single runner will question why you are cheering for them. It's just kind of how it is in running, everybody cheers for everybody else. Just hang out at a race and you will FEEL the energy. It is just different. It is hard to explain, but it is kind of like a giant ball of positivity (is that a word?). I would call it excitement, but you get excitement a lot of different ways and race energy is just different, in a really awesome way.

I'm addicted to the expos. Especially if it is a really good one!! Disney is the best I've ever been to, but I've heard through the racing grapevine that there are others out there to rival Disney. You just kind of gotta get lucky, but a good expo is like, well, see here's where I have a problem... I don't drink so I can't compare it to anything alcoholic. I don't do any drug that my doctor doesn't give me so I can't compare it to that....oooh!! A really good race expo is BETTER than really good chocolate!! Yep, I'll stand by that comment-lol!! I'll never forget that first gear I never knew existed. I tried my very first Clif Shot Block at the Disney expo. Expos are, in and of themselves, a drug :).

I'm addicted to the race bibs. Outside of a lobster restaurant there is no other place where it is appropriate to wear a bib-lol!! Race bibs are all unique. Each one different and each one special. Since I have children I can't really compare them to children, but once you have more than one, you love each one for how special it is and you appreciate each one for it's unique characteristics. I would NEVER throw away a bib-lol!! Plus, it is a way to stock up on safety pins-lol!! It seems like every time it gets to the point where I have to hunt for a safety pin I have a race and poof! 4 more safety pins-lol!!

I am addicted to the swag!! Some races come with nothing but the bib and they can be nice and fun. But, sad as it is, I have a habit of judging a race by its swag. A shirt is almost a must. A medal is excellent. After race snacks are a definite plus. Don't know what is so special about an orange wedge and a stale bagel (only because it has been sitting on a tray all morning), but oranges cut into wedges are the best tasting and juiciest oranges in the world-lol!! Looking at taking up a new race I always want to know what I get...sad, but true...I'm addicted to swag.

I'm addicted to race web-sites!! I'm a race web-site lurker. I love to check out what races are coming up. I love to think about "what if's". What if I run this one? Can I fit it into a schedule? Can I afford it? Would it be as fun as it looks? Today my sister showed me a new race. Yes, she is an enabler, I'm gonna have to talk to her about not enabling my addiction-lol! Anyways, she showed me this new website for a race not too far away. Saturday is a 5K and kids race, Sunday a half. We are looking at the half. It looks like an AWESOME half. The 5K and kids race look like a blast too. The kids races are FREE!! So what do I do? Sign my kids up right away, because it is free and limited to 1000 kids! I figure even if I don't do the half I can do the 5K on the same day as the kids-lol!! I'm addicted...I saw a chance to grab a fix and went for it-lol!! Plus, the kids get medals-for FREE!! Yep, wasn't going to pass that one up.

I'm addicted, now I just have to get GOOD and do my addiction justice :)

P.S. Just to be clear, I am teasing myself and joking about an "addiction". I know that addiction is a serious subject but this is meant to be a lighthearted jab at myself. I am NOT making fun of anyone with a real addiction. Just so we are clear-K? Thanks for reading, hope you all have a great day :).

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DARINGR8LY 4/14/2011 11:17AM

    Yes the possible swag at a race can make it enticing. I don't think I've done enough races yet to see any of real quality. It's the absolute free one I've done with the massages, goodies, and food that has my heart so far. Hopefully in the future an actual paid race will make me think different.

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 4/13/2011 12:20PM

    OH yeahhhhh I love races for those reasons too! Nothing like the excitement and build up waiting for it to start. The swag is fantastic, and I love the t-shirts. I wear them proudly! I earned them!!! Great Blog!

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ANNIE7205 4/13/2011 12:17PM

    I can relate - I'm scheduled for about 2 per month. Luckily sweetie is a cyclist and has a similar affliction. Many weekends I race on Saturday, he races Sunday. The "goodies" for running are much better - he rarely gets anything for cycling events. I've got a race this weekend and I get excited just going to pick up my packet the night before - I get to strut into the expo center (or school gymnasium, church basement, etc) and say, "yep, I'm a runner." :)

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KKINNEA 4/13/2011 11:28AM

    I am right there with you!! Since I started running 2 years ago, I committed to one race a month but who am I kidding - I run as many as I can get in!!

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MARATHON_MOM 4/13/2011 8:24AM

    Hi, my name is Becki, and I am also an addict.

Great blog! And so very true, on ALL counts. I love the energy of race moring, the encouragement from the other runners and the crowd. I love the swag, the t-shirts, the medals and the expos. I have some of my bibs scrapbooked, and all the rest in a big stack waiting to be scrapbooked. I have NEVER thrown one away. I have a glass on my dresser full of safety pins!

I could've totally written this entire blog! Love it!!

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NEW-CAZ 4/13/2011 3:07AM

    Hey Heather I think it's great that you find such fun and excitement in something healthy-I know you love the buzz and it comes across in your fantastic blog.

Here's to the next one you either run in or go yo for the hell of it! emoticon

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WENDYWITKOSKI 4/12/2011 10:04PM

    It's so awesome that you are so EXCITED!

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KARVY09 4/12/2011 9:46PM

    Loved this! I'm an addict too!

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JILLIANPRNCSS 4/12/2011 9:22PM

    OMG, I had to read this to my husband. He asked me if I was reading from my page. I should just copy this blog and post it on mine since it is too true. I would also like to add the addiction to excitement over Cow Bells.

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LISAW/3 4/12/2011 7:43PM

    I TOTALLY agree with you! I feel as though you read my mind!
I am addicted to races, but not the running! Unfortunately, I haven't done a big enough race yet that has good swag or expo, but a t-shirt is a MUST! So far, the best after race food was a race sponsored by Whole Foods. They had a medley of granolas/cereals/flax seeds/fruit/soy milk to make cereal.

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MEOWYSMILING226 4/12/2011 7:32PM

    I Am happy for beats being addicted to food. emoticon

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4EVERADONEGIRL 4/12/2011 6:30PM

    hahahahaha - this is hilarious!!!! Yep - I think many of us will agree that we have are faced with the same affliction. Hmmm...Running Racers Anonymous?? :-D

Now if I could just figure out a way to FUND my addiction...then life would be just about perfect! Ahhh...the difficulties of being an addict. ;-) LOL

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RIGBY31 4/12/2011 6:03PM

    I LOVE RACING... and bibs and T's! I want a medal, but need to find a race in So Calif that will give. Willing to travel. OK, now I'm sound like a dating website, but I know what you mean! My goal this year is one race a month... still need to find April. Race on, my friend!

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KIRANICSMOM 4/12/2011 4:51PM

    Too funny about the "swag". I walked the 1/2 marathon in Kansas City and got a crappy t-shirt but did get a medal (that I had to wait 2 months for because they ran out. I ran the 5K at the Quad Cities marathon and got an awesome shirt, wicking material and got a medal too.

I love the t-shirts and if they are more than just a plain t-shirt that is super!!!

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MMACHICK2010 4/12/2011 4:34PM

    @SleepyDean- It is a great race!
@PinkHope- YES! You can absolutely walk almost any of the 5k races. Just hang out towards the back so the runners don't have to get around you and you are off!! The acceptance of walkers is especially true of any 5k that calls itself a "fun run" - this often means they are not paying to have the race chip timed... so the number of walkers is much higher!

@ItShowYouLive- We share this addiction. My New Year Resolution is to run a 5K every single month of the year. So far I've done it. The best swag so far- the Mermaid Series (Prevention magazine)... Try and run one!! :)

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SLEEPYDEAN 4/12/2011 4:00PM

    Ahhhh emoticon

I could have written most of this blog myself. haha Although I have yet to attend a really great expo. I hope to in San Diego in June for the Rock N Roll race.

My life is pretty much consumed with races lately - but hey it could be worse - I could be sitting at home on the couch every weekend - although my house could probably use a lot more cleaning which tends to get neglected during all the training/racing. Oh well the "high" outweighs the downsides.

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FUNFROG79 4/12/2011 3:59PM

    Ha@ I have the SAME addiction!!

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NEWCASTLE7B 4/12/2011 3:50PM

    haha most everybody here is addicted to spark, lol.

I read a tony robbing quote about addiction, that 'addicts' (in the "bad" sense/vices people think of) have to replace their bad addictions with good ones as part of the healing addiction isn't always a bad thing as your post shows!

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PINKHOPE 4/12/2011 3:49PM

    It sounds like fun. Sadly I will never run. I have double prosthetic knees and the orth. surgeon says NO RUNNING. Can one walk a 5K or do people look at you like - "who do you think you are?"

Keep running - keep enjoying!

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Battle lines.

Thursday, April 07, 2011

Typed this up last night, but didn't post it. I guess I wanted to think about it a little bit. Here it is with only minor alterations. It's an odd one...

It's late, I should be doing school work, or house work or something work, other than Spark work, but here I am typing away (and watching old Glee episodes-giggle).

Today wasn't a much of anything type of day. The kids have been all off of school so my house was in some serious need of attention today so I did some of that. We got a surprise rain shower today. It made everything smell fresh and clean, so I liked that.

Tonight was baseball. My son, 8 years old, loves baseball. Quite the natural catcher. Shows some talent and might make it all the way through college if we are lucky and he decides he wants to work that hard. This was just our third game today and we've had a rough season.

My husband is an assistant coach. I insisted on it. For two seasons before this he was head coach and I, by default, was team mom. I did NOT want to be team mom this year and I did NOT want to have to keep score. Well, due to circumstances beyond my control I only got half my wish. I am score keeper. Ugh. I'm not good at it and my girls keep me distracted enough that I miss lots of things I'm not supposed to miss. Fortunately, it is little league so it doesn't make a huge difference-lol!!

The man who was supposed to be head coach is no longer our head coach due to circumstances that were well within his control, but the Little League folks kind of frown on coaches who get themselves thrown in jail. This man's wife was supposed to be team mom and they are the "adults" for two of our players. So, we've already been trying to deal with the problems of being down a coach AND a team mom, and for two out of 3 games down 2 players. The team mom was the easy one to fix, another mom volunteered and is doing a great job. Dads who didn't feel like they could make the coaching commitment are stepping up and assisting, but it can only be temporary until we get a couple more authorized coaches. Rules say the "coaches" must be in full uniform and we've been up against really nice teams who have let that rule slide so that dads can walk on the field and help my husband with our team. For the most part our team parents have been hugely supportive and really fun to work with. For the most part...

Unfortunately, there is this one parent. I guess we are extremely blessed that we have only one-I've seen teams where every parent is like this woman, or worse the coaches. She is driven to win. Unfortunately, that's not our team. We are bad, very bad and getting better every game. BUT, the kids have fun and most of the parents feel that this is what is most important. Thank GOODNESS.

Last game, my husband and our manager, a woman who played softball herself, but has never done anything related to little league, were doing their best, their absolute best with a team that wasn't ready to play and who had just recently found out they were losing their coach and we were losing, but doing very well. We held the score to within one run until the last inning. The inning where our manager walked off the field in tears because this one parent wouldn't shut her ugly mouth. I couldn't hear everything she was saying because I was too far away, but Heidi (the manager) could hear her and had had enough. In the end Heidi came back determined to keep with it and help the kids. Today she was sick and she and her son missed the game so thankfully she didn't experience today's episode of the Ugly Mother Show.

Now, don't get me wrong, I can be a vicious mama bear and have said more than one thing I really shouldn't have to someone who got in my way, but this is not protective parent ugly, this is just ugly, ugly. She wasn't happy about the position her son was playing and she wasn't happy we were losing and she wasn't happy about just about anything related to the game. She criticized players and she criticized the coach. Then, then, uggh, then, in the middle of a children's baseball game we hear "M.....F...." spew forth from this woman's mouth. I didn't hear the context because I was trying to ignore her as much as possible, but I heard those words and my eyes got wide and I'm sure my ears turned red in embarrassment for her. I didn't know what to do. The mother next to me and I looked at each other and she said "glad my kids didn't hear that" and I agreed.

Honestly, I didn't know what to do next. I could get in her face and yell at her. I could tell her to shut up. I could do a lot of things, all of which just didn't seem right. So, I tattled to the coach (my husband). He came out and told her she got 1 warning to watch her language and went back to coaching. Did this stop her? NO!! It stopped the language problem, but not her attitude. Her attitude got worse. She continued to complain about the position her son was playing and yelling that her kid was better than another kid and she even went and told my husband to put her son at 2nd base. In the middle of another tirade I had finally had enough. I looked right at her and said, as calmly as possible..."You know what? This is about the kids having fun. Every kid has to rotate positions, maybe your kid will play that base at some point, but we really need you to have a better attitude, it's about the kids having fun."

I was scared!! Really, this is the kind of woman I thought would come punch me in the face!! She kept on with the argument and said she would demand that they switch her kid's team and I repeated that she just needed to have a better attitude and it was about the kids having fun. She then decided to attack the job the coach was doing so I rebutted with "he's a volunteer, this isn't his job". Oddly enough, she shut up. She kept that trap shut for the rest of the game. Every word from my mouth was said as calmly as possible. Firmly, but calmly, like I was talking to a child who was just learning the rules after breaking one unknowingly. Did she learn her lesson? Probably not. Am I going to have to talk to her again? Probably.

So, I could have sat there and continued to simply ignore her...lots of parents were. I could have kept my mouth shut when she uttered foul language at a children's game. I could have done nothing. I could have returned ugly with ugly, but I calmly rebutted her behavior and tried to show her that she wasn't setting a good example.

Ugly happens all the time...way too often in fact. You have to pick your battles or life would be one constant battle. Today I drew a line in the sand..

So, now I am thinking about battle lines. I don't enjoy drawing battle lines, it isn't much fun, but what other battle lines do I need to draw and haven't? Are there fitness battle lines I need to draw? With myself? ( lol) Imaginary conversation in my mind: "Hey, if you don't get up and do some cardio right now things are going to get ugly." "Yeah, whatcha gonna do about it?" "Oh, you wanna see what I'm gonna do about it? I'll show you!" Mental brawl ensues. emoticon Maybe I should be as civil with myself as I am was with ugly baseball mom-lol!! Have you been drawing fitness battle lines? Are you civil with yourself? I hope so. We all deserve to treat ourselves with respect and kindness even when we need to be firm and put ourselves in our places (huh...oh well too tired to analyze that sentence-lol).

Update: even after not nearly enough sleep I drew a battle line and forced my tush to go for a short run this a.m., now I need to draw another battle line and wrestle the t.v. away from the kids so I can do the strength video I planned on doing-lol! Okay, off to see the wizard (okay, don't know where that came from-lol). Hope you all have a great day :).

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RIGBY31 4/12/2011 12:16PM

    You're are such great parents! You did a very brave thing, my dear. Team mom at the very best!

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ENDUROVET 4/12/2011 9:50AM

    Yes, excellent diplomacy ;-) !

Someone's already mentioned the fact that the umpire has the discretion to EJECT her for her foul language; that has absolutely no place on the ball field...

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BUTEAFULL 4/9/2011 10:51AM

    my SIL ended up being coach for my grandson's team because nobody else would do it but the parents all had opinions none the less, it is a thankless job. The parents do forget it about the kids not the game so much as experience win or lose and kids do need to know they will lose sometimes too and respect that aspect of the game. Our team went for pizza afterwards whether they won or lost it didn't matter and took the pressure off the kids. Good luck

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GINGERSNAPED 4/8/2011 8:19PM

    a sooth answer turneth away wrath. the scripture is so very true. you did just that calm and kind but firm. you where setting a strong boundary and the second time she respected it or at least followed what you asked her to do. i like the suggestion of saying ok you need to volunteer and see how well you do..
it is very true some parents live their lives through their children and the sad thing is the children end up doing things because their parent pushed them to not because that is what they wanted to do it. those parents are very sad and very miserable and tend to make everyone around them feel the miserable too. to them it isn't a game it is their life and when the kids aren't the star of the show then they aren't happy because they aren't the star of the show.
i wish that parents like that, would just let the kids be kids and be happy being a child and doing what they enjoy.. but if frogs had wings they wouldn't bump their rear ends when they jump either. I am prond of you for standing up to her.. also for standing up to yourself.. we all need to take care of our responsibilities too. loved your blog.....

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WENDYWITKOSKI 4/7/2011 11:02PM

    emoticonYou told her without stooping to her level!

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LISAW/3 4/7/2011 6:07PM

    Good for you for saying something! Mine are still little, so we haven't had to deal with that much yet, but I know it'll find us one day! I am going to remember your story to encourage me to stand up to those bullies, too!

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NEW-CAZ 4/7/2011 2:51PM

    emoticon for speaking out!

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FUNFROG79 4/7/2011 2:11PM

    Good for you!

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ESBELL 4/7/2011 11:55AM

    I don't know about your little league rules there, but here with baseball & soccer (the two sports I know about) any foul language by any spectator is enough to get them thrown out of the park. They must leave the facility before the game can continue, or the offending team will forfeit the game. Maybe you can let her know before the game starts that the umpire has that kind of power, and if she's going to get ugly it could cost the team the game.

Another thing I have done with parents in the past is handed them the contact information for the league and tell them if they feel so superior to the VOLUNTEERS on the field maybe it's time for them to VOLUNTEER with the league and get out there and help! That usually shuts them right up!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 4/7/2011 11:14AM

    So glad you said something and even if it never sets it, you set a really good example of what a parent SHOULD be...maybe she dwelled on it and ended up learning a lesson. It may not make for automatic corrections in her behavior, but hopefully it left a lasting impression that keeps returning. :-) Good job!!

And I love the analogy! Yes, battle lines. Perhaps some should be drawn and then when they are crossed, that we lovingly but sternly remind ourselves of what model behavior should be!!!

I'll definitely keep this one close...Thank you!!!!!

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 4/7/2011 10:38AM

    Good for you! Somebody needed to stick up for the kids, glad you were there to do it! Why do people have to act that way???

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KARVY09 4/7/2011 10:36AM

    Ugh, I'm glad you said something to her!

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DARINGR8LY 4/7/2011 10:24AM

    Your story totally depicts why I didn't enjoy working with other parents in sports. Their ugliness was disturbing and discouraging. I clearly saw this even with supposedly Christian people.

It's a bit coincidental that you brought this up. I see this behavior in all forms of competition. In young as well as old. Ethics and values go out the door for the sake of winning or having bragging rights.

On a positive note, I'm glad you got a run in today. Good luck on getting the remote from the kids. emoticon

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QUIKSYLVER 4/7/2011 9:53AM

    I coach kids' bowling, and have the same parents there. I've had the same conversation with them. This is for the kids, we need to keep it fun....blah, blah, blah. But all they care about is the score. I think it's pathetic. GOOD JOB! on handling her!

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