Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Yesterday I was in kind of a bit of a funk. The day was shaping up to be a real bummer. I blogged an unhappy blog and started thinking...I could be unhappy about all this, but what is the point. Turn your attitude around girl!! Then blogged a much more positive blog and felt better. The rest of the day went along just fine. My slight headache went away. I got a considerable amount of work done. A friend called, she had happened upon a bag of clothes and needed someone to pass them on to, would I want them (she even started with "I don't mean to offend you...apparently some people are offended by free clothes). She brought them over later in the day. Quite a few pieces were really cute and quite a few basic t-shirts which are always great for workouts. MOST of the pieces fit just fine. Several are too small, but won't be for long. One shirt I thought was cute-basic polo style but with buttons all the way up the front in a really fun kiwi shade of green that I can carry off-was a size 14/16 (still a few sizes too small). I thought, I'll stick this one in the "try on someday" bucket. But, as I held it up, it looked a lot closer to the right size than I thought it should. I tried it on ...it fit!! Granted it was still a little closer to the "just because you can put it on doesn't mean you should" category, than the "that looks great on you" category. But it is REALLY close to "that looks great". A few more crunches, and weight sessions and I should be there. I couldn't believe it!! It is a loose cut, obviously, but still!! I was really surprised by how much of the bag of clothes fit. So today I take a second look at my "try it on someday" bucket and there is a cute blue and white graphic print blouse right on top-size XL (not XXL) so I try it on. It looks really cute-I'm wearing it still. Again, a couple more inches and it will be PERFECT.
I have this adorable son, who I love VERY much, but he is a lot like me...a bit of a perfectionist and a lot of a pessimist. I like to call him Eeyore. He reminds me very much of Christopher Robin's donkey. Kind of mopey, kind of hard to please. We have been having a lot of talks lately about attitude and how things can be really different if you have the right attitude. He is starting to get the idea. Last night's Family Home Evening lesson was on Gratitude so it fit right in with recent discussions. For those who are saying "what's Family Home Evening" it is a night where the family stays together and has an activity or a lesson. It is an idea started many years ago by our church to strengthen the family. I usually try to do a fun lesson with a game or something afterwards. This particular lesson on gratitude came with an object lesson. I put a small lego in each child's shoe-it was supposed to be a pebble, but I had legos, gave them a rolo (candy) and told them to walk around while eating the candy-this idea was presented in the book I got the lesson from-I am not that clever. After they finished the candy, I asked them which they noticed more the candy or the lego: Lego. Would eating the candy have been more enjoyable without the lego: Yes. The idea we discussed afterwards was that we have real and imaginary pebbles in our lives. Sometimes our problems are VERY, VERY real and sometimes they are just something we have created with our own attitude. The trick is being able to set aside those pebbles, whether real or imaginary, and enjoy the wonderful things around us. We can't ignore the real pebbles, we have to do everything in our power to make them go away, but sometimes you just have to say "enough". For now, for this moment, I am going to set down this pebble (or boulder as the case may be) and enjoy this moment. I am going to stop and look around and be thankful that for this moment I don't have to carry around that pebble. And if the pebbles happen to be imaginary just get rid of them!! Yesterday morning I had a handful of small pebbles, I tossed them away and my day got immediately better.
So, I guess what I am saying is that I've found the secret to Happiness. Gratitude+Attitude=Happiness. There are some sparkers who already know that secret and many of them have become MOTIVATORS. Those nifty people with the little badge at the bottom of their page that shows that despite ups and downs, despite having gotten several pebbles in their shoes they have maintained an attitude of success. They have shown their gratitude by posting blogs, sending messages of support and generally being there for others. Gratitude+Attitude=Happiness. Thanks to all the Sparkers who are such great examples of this-NEW-CAZ, KARVY09, LIFE_IS_SO_GOOD, and BILLALEX70 just to name a VERY few. Keep up the great work sparkers!! Gratitude+Attitude=Happiness!!
Monday, April 12, 2010
There are some strong feelings out there about a particular phrase. Some people think the world of this little phrase, some people hate it. Sometimes it is five words if phrased as a question. Personally I like this phrase. What is it? "It looks like you are losing weight." As a question "Are you losing weight?". It has a million relatives-"You look thinner", "What are you doing different", "What diet are you following", or my favorite from my son last year..."you are looking not as fat"-LOL!! Some of them are tactfull, some tactless. Some are because someone has a genuine interest in you, some are because someone is wondering if you found the magic bullet and they can take the easy route too. Some ask out of pride for your accomplishment, some out of jealousy because you are accomplishing something and they are not (SlimFast is just an advertising ploy folks not the truth).
Whatever the reason for the statement or question we should all take it as what it is...a recognition of our hard work and effort. A tangible result of the effort we have put through to acheive a slimmer, more toned, fitter self. Whether tactfull or tactless, somebody noticed your work-bask in the glow.
Do we need these statements to validate our existance-NO WAY!! Should feel good when we get one-yes! Should we feel bad when we don't get an "Are you losing weight?"-No! It just means you are surrounded by a bunch of blind people, too absorbed in their own drama to notice you-LOL!!! Take pride in your efforts no matter what the people around you say or do. To those controlling, obsessive people who try to bring you down with negative statements...they can go eat rocks!! Sparkers are the best people around. We are dedicated and strong. We are committed to a way of life that makes us healthy and strong physically and mentally. We stand together during good times and bad. We fall and get back up, we run and are not weary, we walk and do not faint, we enjoy our occasional piece of cake (even if it is gluten free, made with stevia, or has no dairy), we share our successes and our failures. We laugh together, we cry together. Today as I read about another Sparker's tears over not running the race I was right there crying with her (stupid Tom's hormones-:P). We rally around those who are suffering, we send get well wishes to those who are ill. We constantly check back on those who have gone AWOL hoping that they log back in and see how much we missed them and hope they are still well.
We are of all different faiths and beliefs, yet when a member calls out for prayers on their behalf everyone answers. We come from all walks of life: young, old, in-between, dark, light and in-between. We live all over the world, America, Canada, England, Australia, Japan and more. For some of us this is relatively easy, for others very, very hard. Yet, we can all relate to each other. When NOTABOUTTHEFACE writes about "fat slap" many of us know exactly what she is talking about and laugh our fool head off. We are women and men, we are husbands and wives, singles, divorcees and widows/widowers. We live our daily lives and yet we all have this common bond that brings us together.
Sounds an aweful lot like a family to me....Bask in the glow of your accomplishments-hey, you there reading my blog, you look like you've lost a little-WAY TO GO!!!
Monday, April 12, 2010
Sunday was nice, my daughter had her cheerleading exhibition. We have a standing no sports on Sundays rule and try to choose leagues and such accordingly but when this started there was a chance we would get a Saturday date, when we found out we had gotten Sunday we were so far into it we decided to make a one time exception and if we get Sunday performance dates again we will have to pass. Glad we went...she had a blast and looked so proud of herself when she got her trophy for participating. Her next performances will be at a Storm (minor league) Baseball game and a July 4th parade-should be safe there. We already know that the Storm generally have things like the cheerleading, etc. on Friday night games so should be fine there. The 4th is on Sunday so she might have to miss the parade although generally speaking, in the past, when the 4th has been on Sunday the town has celebrated on Saturday, wait and see...
It has been a busy weekend and that nasty Tom brought a weight gain making me drop out of the last man out challenge I am in-drat him. Hate Tom he is so rude!! Had to happen on the Monday weigh in day-tomorrow I will probably be back down to a loss, but tomorrow doesn't count-blah!!
I was insulted via ee-mail by Russ Bogh, a local politician running for California State Senator. He called me uninformed-is it my fault his campaign is only about why I should NOT vote for his opponent?
My neighbors are ticking me off. They are actually very nice people. Elderly grandparents raising a grandson. We all have VERY small yards and most are not fenced, we fenced ours specifically so our beagle could have a place to go outside and be safe. They have to take their dog on a constitutional since they don't have a fence. The thing is there is a spot, less than 100 yards away where they could walk their dog and clean up after him. Instead they choose to DRIVE the dog less than 1/4 mile to a different spot, outside our community, where there is not a manager to yell at them for not cleaning up, so they can let their dog poop and pee and the city, or kind citizen will have to clean up after the dog. They do this 3 times a day. Put the dog in the CAR, and DRIVE it to poop. Do they NOT realize the effect they are causing by turning their car on 3 times a day to drive less than a 1/2 a mile round trip???!! Not to mention the effect of leaving their dog poo lying around?? What is the point in DRIVING your dog to a location that can be walked to?? While the grandfather is morbidly obese and probably could not walk the 100 yards to the spot within the community he should be trying to work up to it. The kid is young and healthy and has no excuse why he can't walk 5 minutes to the second location. The dog would probably like it better. Our homes are small and he doesn't have a fenced yard. His constitutional is the only exercise this pup gets. It has turned into an actual "pet" peeve (hahaha).
The rain woke me up last night and usually that makes me happy, but I really needed some great sleep-fought off a migraine all weekend-Tom's fault too. I don't get severe headaches often but when I do and I let them set in they are a terror. Went to bed feeling dizzy and off kilter, woke up with just a slight lingering headache, if it doesn't grow the whole thing should be gone tomorrow.
Stupid Tom has me all grippy and complainy. Hate him-he is always so negative...stupid Tom...
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Last night the kids went to spend the night at my mom's house. The older two do this every so often, it is fun for them and us!! This was the youngest's first time though...awww...I missed them, but the peace and quiet this morning was treasured :)!! So...I am just settling into a nice quiet, but productive morning when my mom calls...The cousins (who live walking distance from Grandma) are going to the beach and can my kids go too...Yes, they would really like that!! Except the youngest is being kind of quiet and just not herself. Youngest is probably missing Mommy more than anything. So we finally work up a plan for me to go to. We meet at a convenient mid-way point, I switch cars to theirs and off we go!! There are at least half a dozen beaches we could be going to so I just assume my mom knows where we are going. After driving around Fallbrook for 45 minutes I call my SIL and get the REAL directions and then bust up when I find out we are going to the EXACT beach where we ran the Turkey Trot last November-Oceanside beach!!! Also a beach we used to go to ALL THE TIME when we were kids!! Oh well!! Funny how you can get lost when you are not sure where you are going even if you actually do know where you are going!! We had a blast though. My son was bouncing off the walls. See, we haven't ever taken them to the beach for swimming before-last November was the first time they went to the beach at all-well, we did used to go to Sea World a lot so they had seen the ocean several times. I just never could see the fun in taking an infant to the beach-too much stuff to tote and the infant can't do anything and the parent watching the infant can't do anything-just didn't seem fun to me. Well the "baby" is 3.5 now so it was high time for a beach trip. We all had a blast so we will probably have to go several times this summer-it is only a little over an hour away if the traffic is good.
She didn't want to go in the water-I had warned son earlier about sudden drop offs and she took me a little too literally!! She still had a blast playing in the sand and building castles and burying my feet...
This one put on a good show, but the water was just too cold. She spent a good 5 minutes chasing waves and then went and played with her sister in the sand.
This one is part fish. He hardly got out of the water during the several hours we were there. Kooky kid. He had a real blast!! I told him he had to stay close to shore because I didn't want to have to dive in to save him. I knew the water would still be cold and didn't take my suit. I told him he had to wait to do any REAL swimming until I went in with him. He still had a blast. He would sit and let the waves crash into him and push him along for a ways. It was a pretty mild day as waves go so we didn't have to be to worried.
It was a great way to end the spring break!! Tomorrow is baseball, Sunday is the cheerleading expo (we are making a Sunday exception ONE time-usually we have a firm no Sunday sports rule) then Monday is back to school. Now I am tired and I have a morning run to do!! 4 miles again...I almost forgot-for the SIS challenge this week we are supposed to find a way to give back-a charity etc. I am donating clothes-going to Salvation Army tomorrow, I am also looking up Soles4Souls to donate some of the shoes I don't need anymore AND I am running a charity race on the 24th!! WooHoo!! Hope everyone has a great weekend!!
Get An Email Alert Each Time ITSHOWYOULIVE Posts