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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

I've been blogging too deeply lately- time for some fluff.

When's the last time you ran? Last Thursday for 50 seconds before my congested lungs told me to stop or die.

Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them? Not intentionally. I don't think they do, would you tell me if they did?

What are you dreading right now?Actually exercising tomorrow after so many illness induced days off.

Do you get the full 8 hours of sleep a night? Try to, but going to bed at 9:00 is almost impossible and getting up at 5:00 is a necessity.

If anyone came to your house on your "lazy days" what would ya'll do? Watch a bunch of old MASH, Emergency or Bonanza episodes on DVD.

Who last grabbed your butt? My husband-anyone else would get slapped.

Have you ever been on your school's track team? You mean they had sports other than football in school? Who knew. I am a very late blooming runner...

Do you own a pair of Converse? Nah, not really my style. Loved the teeny tiny pink ones I put on my baby girls though.

Do you eat raw cookie dough? Occasionaly, it is more likely I will be licking the brownie batter off the beater though.

Have you ever kicked a vending machine? No, almost kicked a bench once, but realized how stupid that was before I broke my toes.

How do you eat Oreos? Usually in one piece, dunked in milk. If no milk is available I do the twist, lick the center out, put the halves back together and eat.

Could you live without a computer? Uhh NO! Had to recently and couldn't. I was hijacking every unattended key board I could.

Do you wear your shoes in the house? rarely.

Who or what sleeps with you? Always the husband, more often that I want to-the girls and occasionally the cat.

At what age did you find out that Santa wasn't real? Don't remember-8ish? I do remember it was the stupid Easter bunnies fault though.

How many phones, house phones and cell phones are in your house? No house phone-2 cell phones.

What do you do when you're sad? Cry-watch sad movies.

Last time you saw your best friend? Don't really have a best, but I haven't seen my good friend-Lisa for about 3 years now.

What jewelry are you wearing? Diamond stud earrings and my wedding band, that is all.

Is anyone on your bad side now? Yep, tough cookies for them. It isn't one of those things I dwell on or even really care about.

What's the first thing you do when you get online? Log into Spark and then open new tabs for e-mail and a couple other things.

Where do you work? I am employed by three midgets who make many demands on my time and resources. Good thing I love them.

What are you doing tomorrow? Driving the kids to school, home, back to school, home, back to school. yeah-you get the picture.

When was the last time you left your house? 1:45 to go to the kids' school

Do you return your cart? Yes. Well, let's qualify that statement. My favorite store makes it very easy to return the cart. Wal-mart not so much. So, if my kids are with me (with out DH) and the nearest station is 3 rows and 20 cars away-yeah, it's not going to happen-sorry wal-mart, put in a few more stations and yes, I'll do it everytime, but I am not going to make my kids tag after me in your crazy parking lot to walk 1/2 a mile to return the cart.

Do you have a dishwasher? Yes. And I am always surprised when I hear someone else's dishwasher at how QUIET mine is-LOVE IT!!

What noise do you hear? Lazy Town (for the millionth time today-too tired for the turn it off battle so on and on it goes) and son doing his school reading.

Would you survive in prison? Sure hope I never have to find out.

Do you know anyone with the same name as you? Yes. In high school, before we changed our names, I knew a girl with the EXACT same name as me-first and last with the same middle initial, born less than a month apart-our high school was NOT happy with us!! :)

What's the last thing you purchased? Bakugan for son as a reward for doing well in school.

What brand are your pants right now? Danskin-my warmy workout pants.

What irritates you most on the internet? Slow connection that make me post comments twice so I look like I don't know how to work a computer.

What song best describes your life right now? The sound of silence-not that it is what I have it is what I want

Do you own expensive perfume/cologne? What is expensive? I don't want to go look, but the only perfume I have is that one that looks like an apple-the red one, I can't remember the stupid name right now.

Are you taking college classes right now? No, but if I get accepted to my program I will be.

Do you like sushi? Yes, I am not very daring when it comes to food choices, but the kinds I've tried I have enjoyed.

Do you get your hair cut every month? No, I'm a girl I can let it grow for awhile before getting another cut.

Do you go online everyday? Sometimes I skip Sunday, but I try to hit the computer every day.

So, there you have it folks, a whole bunch of useless trivia about Itshowyoulive!!

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 2/24/2010 7:36PM

    Thanks for sharing a bit about you and your humor.

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PAULASTRAS 2/24/2010 3:25PM

    i like fluff :)

fluffanutter, marshmallow fluff, fluffy frosting lol

my kind of fluff.

like your fluff too......enjoyed this blog very much. :)
thank you for taking the time to post it and share it.

hugs, paula:)

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PAULASTRAS 2/24/2010 3:25PM

    i like fluff :)

fluffanutter, marshmallow fluff, fluffy frosting lol

my kind of fluff.

like your fluff too......enjoyed this blog very much. :)
thank you for taking the time to post it and share it.

hugs, paula:)

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YOOVIE 2/24/2010 10:32AM

    love surveys! and good job on being a daring eater!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/24/2010 10:18AM

    Definitely fun stuff!!!

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NEW-CAZ 2/24/2010 7:42AM

    No trivia is trivial when it's about someone great like you Heather.
Some interesting stuff here.
xx emoticon

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JILLIANPRNCSS 2/24/2010 7:40AM

    I had to laugh at the posting things twice ande feeling like people think you don't know how to use a computer.

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NONIE_C 2/24/2010 2:29AM

    Fun! And somewhat inspiring. I'm off to bed right now, but I may come back tomorrow and hijack the questions for my own light-hearted blog.

Thank you for sharing, and I'm interested in what program you're applying for too. Whatever it is, I wish you the very best of luck. Also good luck in achieving the sound of silence in your life (at least for a moment or two every day LOL).

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    What program are you trying to get into?

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CDKEIL 2/23/2010 11:31PM

    A nice light-hearted look at life that made me smile. Thanks for sharing


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Thanks to all the great Sparkers and what is with some people???

Monday, February 22, 2010

I want to start by thanking all the great Sparkers out there, especially, those who read and leave wonderful comments on my blogs. I know I love reading the blogs of other's and seeing what they are accomplishing and the things that give them the power to go through another day of saying no to their favorite desserts, getting up early to workout and doing push ups until thier arms get sore just so they can say "I DID IT"!!! I love Sparkpeople. It truly keeps me going. The holidays were rough, the shin splints rougher, and there have been many days that it just seemed to be so easy to say "tomorrow I will sleep in, tomorrow I will watch 18 hours of t.v. and none of it will be fitness related, tomorrow I will eat chocolate and drink soda." But, I get on Spark and I find the power to keep going because somebody else is feeling the same way and they are not giving up, so I won't give up either!!

With all that greatness I guess there has to be some bad to make the good that much better. Why, oh why, do some people feel the need to leave negative messages. Even if meant in a manner to help me improve myself, why leave it. I didn't ask for the advice and it really didn't even make sense in the vein of what I had written. Here is the story. On yesterday's blog I said "Everyone is beautiful" and I said it A LOT!! Those words were the words of my three year old and that was made perfectly clear. However, one sparker, felt the need to point out that my statement was not grammatically correct (guess what I'm not spell checking this either so I will have typos too). So freakin' what if my grammer is not correct. SERIOUSLY!!! It should probably have not bothered me the way it did, but it did bother me. I am the mother of 3 small children. I am a wife and an overweight woman. Trust me, I find PLENTY of reasons to correct myself, doubt myself and criticize myself during the course of the day. And that is only when my kids are not correcting me or criticizing me themselves!! Now, I am not putting down my children, I know it sound like it, but they are SMART kids and they are quick to see the little things I sometimes do wrong (like calling another driver "stupid" which is a bad word in our home) and they tell me about it. What I do not need is somebody pointing out that my grammer was incorrect. It made me feel bad :(.

I LOVED yesterdays blog. LOVED IT LOVED IT LOVED IT. I got so many positive comments from so many great sparkers. THANK YOU!!!! But, here's the thing...yes, maybe, "everyone is beautiful" is a grammatical error, but those words were spoken by MY SWEET, LOVING, CARING, ADORABLE, INNOCENT, PURE, INTELLIGENT and BEAUTIFUL three year old. HOW DARE ANYONE CRITICIZE THAT!!! I went to college. I made good grades. Yep, never finished my degree, but I took the first steps toward finishing that final year this past weekend. I was and still am a History major with an English minor. Do I CARE if "everyone is beautiful" was a grammatically incorrect statement? NOPE!! Do I sometimes read other blogs and think to myself -typo, or punctuation error, or misspelled? YEP. Can't help it, I went to college, I was asked to edit roommates papers. I worked in a business where I maintained the over important Policy and Procedure manuals. Did EVERY SINGLE word have to be perfect-Yep? Do I tell fellow sparkers about thier errors? NEVER!!!! That is not what we are here for. We are here to support and guide and help each other along.

I erased the statement from my blog so that it will no longer be there, like the red editting marks made on papers I turned in to my college profs (MOST of those papers came back with A's and B's BTW-every once in awhile a C crept in when my heart wasn't in my work and I knew I deserved those). I also sent a sparkmail message to the offender telling her my thoughts. I tend not to hold back in situations like this. So, I put this behind me and go back and read again all the WONDERFUL statements still left on that blog!!

Thanks to all my friends who consistently come back and read my ramblings. I often find them to be quite good, sometimes they are just ramblings, but sometimes they are quite good and not because I have skill or any special talent. I think they are good, because I wrote about something special to me and I feel that when I tell the story again for all of you. Thanks for reading, enjoying and taking this journey with me. It really means A LOT!!

Okay-deep breath, focus, yeah, that's better-just needed to vent....

Additional info-For the curious among you-it is the use of every"one" that was wrong. "one" indicates just one person instead of all people. "Everybody" or a different phrasing like "all people are beautiful" would be more correct. But, it is not what my daughter said so... (guess what-one is also not supposed to start a sentance with the word "but", but, I did it anyway :P).

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4MYPTS 2/25/2010 8:40PM

    Alright! I am sorry for noting the grammatical error whether yours or your 3 yo.... emoticon emoticon

Please forgive me for utilizing the knowledge that is being crammed in my head at this time in college. emoticon

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OCEANGIFT 2/24/2010 10:37AM

    I love it and everyone is beautiful and your post was beautiful and spot on... emoticon

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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/24/2010 10:14AM


I guess we could also look at it this way (you know me, always the optimist! LOL): How could we truly appreciate all that SparkPeople is if we weren't reminded at times of what it could be by the couple of rotten apples in the bunch? I, like you, have been afforded such wonderful support and genuine caring by people here on Spark and they keep me going too. And seeing things like this just reminds us of how wonderful it is to get helpful and caring support. Thank goodness we get the helpful and caring 100x more than the not!

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ME4CAM 2/23/2010 7:16PM

  Love Love Love this blog !! Thank you !! I have been there so many times and I just never knew what to do about it. I vent and then someone comes along and feels like they have to hurt my feelings or make me feel even worse then I did when I wrote the blog. I have slowed down writing blogs because of this but you have opened my eyes again..
Thank you again,

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PANSYGAL 2/23/2010 1:45PM

    What can you say? The worse part of this is that the person probably didn't even get it! Keep on posting! Hugs!

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WBOYACK 2/23/2010 1:32PM

  you rock!

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DOLLYLALA 2/23/2010 9:47AM

    This is so silly. YOu are awesome!


Comment edited on: 2/23/2010 9:48:52 AM

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MUCKITY_MUCK 2/23/2010 9:20AM

    Good for you!
It's a blog and not an English paper and 99.9% of Sparkers know that. You just happened to get the loony tune of the bunch. We are all here to support you - even through your rants!! =)

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NEW-CAZ 2/23/2010 7:24AM

    emoticonHi hun
Just bumping your blog to renew my subscription to it.
I closed my SP a/c in error and this is the only way I can think of to make sure I keep abreast of your news.
Look forward to your next blog
Luv ya
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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 2/23/2010 2:54AM

    I loved your blog and there was nothing wrong with it. Your daughter saw the beauty in everything during the ride. Its a shame that there are people out their that feel it is their "duty" to point out everything that is negative in this world instead of celebrating the positive.It's no wonder why so many people think our world is a mess at times. I give you a high five for sticking up for yourself and not letting it bring you down.

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TES813 2/22/2010 11:44PM

    I wish that I had read your post this morning instead of right before bedtime. You have made my day, and I wish the day was just beginning so that I could enjoy thinking about your post all day.

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PAULASTRAS 2/22/2010 11:22PM

    Good for you:)

hugs, Paula:)

keep on sparking :)
have a great week...

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RAIN_SIS 2/22/2010 11:04PM

    deleting double post

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    I say to heck with that person!
Who elected them blog monitor anyway?
You have the right to use or misuse language in whatever way you see fit. I happen to make some interesting typos due to my disability, and I may or may not correct them depending on my mood and ability to recognize them - so what!

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RAIN_SIS 2/22/2010 10:59PM

    Well don't I feel like a dummy. I read the blog. Got teary eyed and felt like an idiot for tearing up. It was a beautiful blog. I always feel embarrassed by my tendency to cry about beauty.
Now I know I should have felt like an idiot for not even knowing that "Everyone is beautiful" is grammatically incorrect. I also learned to read and write, went to a little college - didn't even catch it.
Had I known would I have pointed it out to you?
It is like the Ani DiFranco song says:
"I never try to give my life meaning by demeaning you."

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HONEYDEW;] 2/22/2010 10:49PM


I have alot of typo & punctuation errors .

Thank God for spell check . emoticon

Thank-You for not judging and to that person who caught your mistake ~~ emoticon

KEEP SMILING ~~ Drives serious people nuts .


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HEALTHYARTIST1 2/22/2010 10:41PM

    Oh, I couldn't agree more about the wonderful, wonderful people on spark. Yesterday, my day was just like you described. It started out great, went to church, lunch with friends (and I ate healthy) the I went home and just wanted to take a nap or veg in front of the tv. BUT I went on spark and read comments and blogs on my various sparkteams, wrote to two sparkfriends for motivation, and, YES, you know what happened, I was motivated to put in a great workout. Thank you, all of you beautiful people on Spark and especially you, ITSHOWSYOULIVE!

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NOW2DAY 2/22/2010 10:35PM

    I couldn't find anything wrong with yesterday's blog. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PURPLEALLY 2/22/2010 10:25PM

so what? that is for the person who wrote the negative on your blog
good for you to look past that and focus on positive!

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VERGE_OF_ME 2/22/2010 10:24PM

    I am so very sorry that you had someone leave a comment that made you feel anything short of encouraged, supported, and accepted as is...grammatical whatnots and all. I always find your blogs wonderfully written and so enjoyable....a true reflection of what is going on with you...the real person behind the words. Your blogs are what drew me into coming back time and thank you for keeping them coming!!! You continue to inspire and touch us all through what you share : ) Keep up the great sparking and the wonderful blogging!!!

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Everyone is beautiful...

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Well, it's been a busy weekend. A quick recap...we all spent the week in varying degrees of illness. I spent several days living in a fog and wanting to just sleep, sleep, sleep. I missed most of my workouts for the week, but by Friday was finally feeling like I had turned the corner back towards wellness. Thankfully, because Friday we went to Disneyland!! We live relatively close and have year passes this year so we have been going from time to time. Friday was in celebration of son's birthday. We celebrated several weeks early, but the timing was right because the kids had been off school all week and my husband's paycheck went into the bank Friday morning!!! :) :) :) We had a blast. Son had a few things he HAD to do at Disneyland. First, he HAD to do the Jedi Training Acadamy. A Star Wars based "show" that has Jedi Masters "training" kids from 4 through 7 years old to be Jedi Padawans. The finale of the show has the children "fighting" Darth Maul and Darth Vader and sending them running. It really is an enjoyable show. Of course son REALLY wanted to be one of the children chosen. To maximize his chances we got to the location REALLY early-an hour before the show. There was a "cast member" (all employees at D-land are called cast members) straightening up the area so I went up and talked to him (those who know me well know I DON'T go up to strangers and engage them in conversation) and asked him about the show, where a good location was and how to maximize son's chances of getting in the show. He showed us the best place to stand (right on the isle, right in front) told me that kids that are very upbeat and excited are usually chosen, some make signs and that helps them get noticed and he told me that sometimes the parents will do something to help get their child noticed. Again those who know me well know that I DO NOT draw attention to myself in public arenas. I am definately an introvert and being an extrovert does not come naturallly or easily for me. It also does not come easily to my son!! Well, show time came and we spent a little time speaking to one of the cast members who's job it was to "warm up" the crowd. Then here came the "masters, the ones who would choose the participants, they were walking down the isle right next to me and I knew what I had to do. I started pointing at my son and saying "pick this one", "this one", "pick this one" over and over. I got a nod from one of the cast members and hoped it meant what I thought it meant but I didn't give up. I kept eye contact with some of the cast members and kept pointing and saying "pick this one". I got another nod and was almost sure he was in and sure enough he was the first kid picked!!! Put right up on the stage in his little jedi robe and he looked fit to bust. He had a blast!!! My technique was so successful we, and a few additional parents, turned it on another little boy who also looked so hopeful and it worked for him too. He was one of the last ones picked and the mother was so grateful she thanked all the parents who pointed to her son and said "this one", "this one". The kids all had a blast and it was kind of cool because at the end of the show the "masters" basically tell the bad guys that these kids are so good and so strong that they don't stand a chance and they go running. I kind of liked the message the kids were sent at the end, that if they stand up for what is right they cannot fail. Yep, definately something I want my son to learn. Son beamed for hours off the buzz that came from being in the show. It just got better when he got to go to the Lego store at Downtown Disney and pick out a Lego Star Wars kit he wanted, then to Build-a-Bear where he built a dinosaur-I had no idea they had Dinosaurs. Claw the dinosaur spent the rest of the day walking around Disneyland and getting LOTS of attention!! He was in a special Build-a-Bear carrier that let his head stick out one side and his tail out the other-everybody wanted to see Claw. The final touch of the day was when son got to build his own lightsaber!! Wow-I think he will remember this birthday forever. We had a great time, went on lots of rides and came home exhausted.

Saturday, I told my husband we were suffering from a too much fun hangover-we don't drink and neither one of us has ever had a real hangover but how I felt sure matched the descriptions I've gotten from friends who do drink!! Tired, foggy brain, headache sitting right at my temples... We were bushed-a lot too much a little too soon kept us wiped out for the entire day.

Today I am finally, actually, feeling sort of healthy!! I have a cough, but I can breathe, my chest feels clearer, my headache is clearing up and my throat is no longer sore, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel-Woo Hoo!!!

Now, finally to Everyone is beautiful...At Disneyland my three year old gave me something to think about, as she often does. We were on MY favorite ride. I love lots of the rides at Disneyland and always have a blast on everyone of them, but there is one ride I ALWAYS make sure I go on-It's a Small World. When I was a kid I had a record of the song and I think I drove everyone crazy with that record!! Son did not want to go on Small World, but I told him it was the one thing he had to do that day that he did not get to pick. Daughters love Small World and couldn't wait to go on it. Some of you might not know but last year (I think that is right) Disneyland altered their classic ride just a little and added dolls of many of thier favorite characters (Cinderella, Alice, Ariel, Jasmine and Aladdin, etc.) and the girls love to look for all the characters. Anyways...youngest is very stuck on names right now (she is three). She knows that everyone has a name and wants to know the name of everybody. She will point to pictures in magazines and ask "what her name" and I have to make something up. So, back to the ride, we are getting close to the end and we are in the section where all the nationalities are singing together and everyone is dressed in white costumes. Daughter points to one doll and asks "who that?" I said "I don't know, but isn't she pretty?" Daughter answers with "Everyone is pretty in Small World Mommy". It was one of those instant jolts of "I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!" I know she was talking about the dolls on the ride, but it is one of those things that, if I do my job right, she will be able to transfer to humans around her without a second thought.

Everyone is beautiful on small world. I kept this thought with me on Saturday and as I looked through the latest issue of Shape magazine, I was struck by how many different kinds of beautiful were represented in the magazine. The one picture that had the biggest impact was a picture of Serena Williams. I am NOT a Venus or Serena fan. I am not really a tennis fan. It is one of those sports that barely registers a blip on my radar and the players, generally, even less so. But there was this amazing photo of Serena, you can barely see her face, but she is jumping with joy, presumably over a great shot or a win. What was amazing about the picture was that you could see this incredible muscle definition in her legs and in her arms, but at the same time she is curvy and sexy and sweaty and just AMAZING. Combined with my daughters statement this picture struck me as a perfect example of "everyone is beautiful in small world". People with curves, people without curves, people who are short and people who are tall, people who win gold medals and people who go home with nothing but the experience of having tried their best, people who are light, people who are dark, people who have done their best and have reached thier goal and people who are just starting out...everyone is beautiful in our small world. It is what the ride really is all about and a message as important today as it was when the ride first opened. It's a world of laughter, a world of tears, it's a world of hopes and a world of fears. There's so much that we share, it's time we're aware, it's a small world after all...

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TRAPEZEGAL 2/25/2010 1:04AM

    You brought tears to my eyes. Stepping out of your comfort zone to maximize your sons chances of getting picked, that is love. I, too, am an introvert and I know how hard it can be. You are beautiful!

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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/24/2010 10:07AM

    That is so beautiful...reading the end just about brought me to tears! I know...I'm a sentimental sap! LOL But so many times the wisdom we get from children is so much better than our own! I just love my little nieces and nephew!!! They make ME proud too!

And way to go, Mom!!! Being able to step out of your comfort zone to help Matthew achieve his goal is what being a Super Mom is all about! :-)

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PANSYGAL 2/23/2010 1:51PM

    Such a wonderful blog! Keep on writing!

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NONIE_C 2/22/2010 11:07PM

    This is a beautiful, heartfelt, and thoughtful blog. I'm so sorry that someone bummed you out with a negative comment.

Keep writing, and let other people's "stuff" roll off like water off a duck's back.

You are BEAUTIFUL!!!!

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    It sounds like you had a wonderful family day!
Reading this made me miss having little ones at home and I can't wait for the kids to make me a grandma...
Kids have the best outlook on the world, don't they?

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LAURANAV1 2/22/2010 8:31PM

    What a wonderful birthday your son had! I'm so proud of what you did to make his day special for him. As an introvert, I understand how far out of the comfort zone that can be.

I was sick week before last so I can relate to the fog, sleep, and the lingering cough. Glad you are better!

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WBOYACK 2/22/2010 8:19PM

  Sorry people are sick! The rest sounds fun!

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WYOWLDFLOWER 2/22/2010 11:47AM

    "Pay attention to the little things, for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things." What a beautiful blog, and how smart you are to cherish these biggest of little things.

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/22/2010 11:28AM

    WOW what a great time you all had at Disney....something you'll all remember and cherish.
I'm glad you're feeling better- my cold's going to thank heavens.
You are so right- everyone is beautiful.
Have a great week Heather, beautiful lady

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ESBELL 2/22/2010 10:56AM

    You have me tearing up reading this! Yes we are all beautiful! We just have to really look hard to see it some time. Small World was my mom's favorite ride too. I'm sure I will bawl like a baby the next time I go on it!

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JAKEANDNELLIE 2/22/2010 10:38AM

    You gave your son birthday memories to cherish his entire life - not to mention the ones you and your husband received.
Everyone is beautiful, and you are one of the most beautiful of all.
Stay positive!

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BUTEAFULL 2/22/2010 10:06AM

    this was the most FUN reading I've had in a long time, my Son's kids went to disneyland the first week of Feb. and the oldest one got to build a light saber, I have know idea what they were talking about, but she had to most fun with it and was very proud that she BUILT it, now I understand a little more, I didn't know they had changed the It's a Small Wold ride, thanks for all the info
oh yes, and glad you're feeling better

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KARVY09 2/22/2010 8:39AM

    I loved this blog. I hope to be the kind of mom you are someday. It seems like you tell your kids all the right things!

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    Oh my gosh! The thought of those little guys hoping to get picked, brought tears to my eyes. You are a great mommy, and a amazing random lady in the crowd for that other little guy. Good job.

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RASCALSMOMMA 2/22/2010 12:32AM

    Thanks to you and your daughter for a beautiful thought! Hugs Laurie

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Hate being sick...

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Uggh!! I haven't had a cold this bad for awhile!! My poor family has really been going through it. All of us have had a cold AND a stomach bug!! That is everyone except my husband, how does he get so lucky??

The kids are all getting over their colds and the stomach bug only lasted a day for each of us. My cold just set in on Monday morning. I went out and walked on Monday, but I haven't done anything since. I have just felt too aweful. Monday after the workout just went totally downhill, feeling feverish everytime I exerted myself. And, by exertion I mean standing up and walking across the room. Tuesday was a little better, I only felt aweful if I tried to breath or do housework!! Today I am finally feeling a bit better and got some work done (FINALLY!!!).
Unfortunately, this week is a school holiday (Presiden't Week) and the kids have been home all week with a sick mom.

Oh dear, you should see my poor house!! I did make a dent in the dishes and laundry today, but there are still toys everywhere. I held some of the destruction at bay by turning the kitchen table into a tent so they stayed occupied with that for quite awhile. Unfortunately I've had to mediate more fights than I can stand. The three of them cooped up together is getting to be too much for all of them!! Poor son lost Wii time again today due to yelling at his poor littlest sister while she was playing Wii. Each child has a set amount of time and can play anything they want during their time (all our games are E). Littleset was playing her favorite Build a Bear Workshop. She wins medals for finishing a game whether she wins or loses. Where she places affects the number of medals. Well, son, who is "overachiever" personified, can't stand watching her "lose" and threw a massive hissy fit because she was "annoying him" by losing. She doesn't see it as losing though because she still gets medals!! Oh dear!! Too much family time is not a great thing. I have a plan for helping son understand that "losing" is not the horrible thing he thinks it is.

I am going to post a sign, maybe two, that says "When I lose I learn..." then he can earn Wii time or stars (our allowance system-stars = money) for each thing he fills in. The other sign might say something to the effect of "---------is more important than winning".

Thankfully, I am feeling a bit better and on Friday we go to Disneyland!! We live close enough to have annual passes and we are going on Friday to celebrate Hubby's and Son's birthdays (a bit early). Son is super excited because he gets to dictate MOST of what we do on Friday. Space Mountain, Jedi Training Academy and Build a Bear Workshop are all on the agenda so far. At least we will be out of the house!! :)

The good news is that even though I haven't worked out AT ALL, I have left the alarm clock on and have gotten up at the workout time each morning hoping to feel well enough to workout. I feel this is the best I could do at this point and am VERY happy with it!! Tomorrow should be a better day, my brain feels like it has recovered from the cold, at least, even if the rest of me still feels congested. Happy start of Lent to those who observe, hope your goal(s) go(es) well. My religion doesn't observe Lent, but I have always loved the arrival of Lent because it means Easter (probably my second favorite holiday) is just around the corner! Hope everyone is doing well and Sparking along!!

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LAURAJAH 2/18/2010 4:25PM

    What a great idea maintaining your "get up" time to your body trained! Hope you are able to enjoy Disneyland.

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WBOYACK 2/18/2010 10:54AM

  Hope you feel good soon.

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VERGE_OF_ME 2/18/2010 8:31AM

    Bless your heart! Thank goodness for kitchen tents huh?! We do that here too. I think you deserve an award for true dedication....feeling so icky but still getting up with your alarm anyway...THAT is amazing and you probably got just as much benefit from that mental workout as you would have from a physical one normally. Don't rush back into too much as you get better...just take it easy until you are 100% so you don't have a dreaded relapse. I feel your pain on the "family togetherness" issues,lol...there never seems to be an end. I think it is so commendable how you've handled being sick and the dissension among the glad you are on the mend! Have a fabulous time at Disneyland!

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/18/2010 3:48AM

    Hi Heather- so you and I are sharing something -a cold.
It must be that time of year hun, loads of Sparkers seem to have one. I rarely get them but when I do they really bring ne down. Determined to get a light workout in if only to evleviate the boredom of sitting around emoticon.
Great idea for you son- he has to learn and you're an excellent teacher to your kids and it shows.
Hope you're feeling brighter this morning and can enjoy your visit to Disneyland on Friday
Have a great Thursday

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Monday, February 15, 2010

That's right folks I refuse to sell the fundraiser candy!!! Granted, we did participate in the school's Valentine's Day See's Candy Fundraiser, but only reluctantly and because we hadn't participated in any of the other fundraisers to date. But, the straw that broke the camel's back came with my daughter's cheerleading fundraiser. The fundraiser is to earn money to pay for the quite expensive uniform that is extra from the cost of the classes. The kicker is that in order to earn the uniform you must sell 72 See's Candy candy bars!!!! 72!!! 72!!! I cannot and will not inflict 72 candy bars on my family members, husband's co-workers, etc. What really gets me is that little beginning CHEERLEADERS (the girls who, by high school age, all the other girls like to say are suffering from eating disorders (true or not) ) are selling CANDY to raise money!!! But it is not just the cheerleaders, it is also soccer teams and school districts. What kind of message are we sending by telling kids over and over that candy is bad for you and then ask them to go out and sell their family members that candy in order to raise money for their SPORTS teams. You know those things we sign our kids up for so they can go outside and run around and get healthier?!! Those of you who have had to participate in these candy sales know the real danger of them though!!

You take this box of candy home and are then responsible for selling it and paying the money you earned from the sales. So, you've got this big box of candy sitting in your house and what happens??? Your family eats it and you are left paying for all that over priced candy!! And are you lucky enough to avoid eating even one bar of it? Not likely!! You are lucky if you get away with eating just one bar! And of course these are the moster candy bars, containing an entire day's calories in one neat little wrapper!!

Fortunately the cheerleading fundraiser is optional. You can opt to pay the entire cost of the uniform or sell candy to earn part or all of the uniform's cost. Well, we were hoping that the fund raiser would be something NOT candy related, but it was so we opted to NOT sell the candy. However, I still wanted my daughter to do something to EARN at least part of her uniform so we got creative! We created some little critters to sell to earn money!! They are hard to describe so I will try to get a picture posted but I'll try to describe just in case I can't.

They are small stuffed "animals"/"dolls" that we made from soft fabrics and are really cute and pillowey (word?). One we made was a purple bearish critter with a purple face and blue button eyes, another was a "monster" who was blue with bat-ish ears, little felt fangs, and really long arms that you can tie into a knot. Some were more doll like with girlish faces, embroidered "eyelashes", and pom-pom ears. We have sold 3 so far and have a few more we can still sell. If my daughter sells all of them at $5 a piece she will have earned MOST of her uniform. Daughter is only 5 so I did ALL the sewing, but the kids all helped design each critter, picking out hand, foot and ear styles for each critter and my son in particular was having a blast at our family get together last night showing off the creation and trying to sell them.

I feel better knowing that my daughter is learning that creativity can pay off and that there are ways to get to your goal without resorting to selling candy. It really concerns me how many fundraisers are centered around food and candy. I am sure, that with a little creativity, our organizations could earn just as much money or MORE without sending our kids the message that candy is okay if you are eating to earn money for school, soccer, or whatever. It really concerns me that sports organizations participate in this practice. How hypocritical is it to say "come play soccer, it makes you healthy, but hey, we need you to go sell boxes and boxes of high fructose corn syrup, trans fats and empty calories to other people so that we can keep the costs of you getting healthy down, and by the way the kid who gets other people to consume the largest number of calories will get a special prize." It is like the government saying "we need to find a cure for diabetes so we need every citizen to go out and sell 100 candy bars, or more, to raise money for that cause, and if you sell the most candy we will give you a break on your healthcare costs!!"

So here's a thought, maybe it'll catch on..why don't we find sponsers who, instead of pledging prizes, will pledge cash donations for each kid who walks to school every day, or walks the dog in the evening or gets some sort of exercise not involving just your thumbs and eyeballs. Kids can get donations from friends and family members equalling the cost of a candy bar and instead of getting a million calories in return we get healthier children, who have better self-esteem, will be less likely to develop diabetes and other illness linked to obesity, and understand that candy is candy and there is never a time when it is okay to encourage consumption of large amounts of the stuff no matter how good the cause or how big the reward. Maybe next Valentine's day instead of selling heartshaped boxes of heart disease waiting to happen we can sell the idea of making our children's hearts healthier through exercise and proper eating and our schools and sports organizations will still get the funds they need in order to function. Sound good??

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DOLLYLALA 2/23/2010 9:50AM

    This is awesome! You are such a beat-the-system sort of sister! I think doing it yourself, making the profit for your daughter, and not supporting the over-priced candy pushers just ROCKS! emoticon

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AUDREYM82 2/16/2010 12:25PM

    This exact situation just happened to me last Thursday. One of my co-workers (who sees me eating healthy foods every day) brings a box of candy (the giant bars) up to me and asks me if I want to buy one because his kid is selling them for school. I flat out said no. I said I don't eat candy bars and my fiancee is diabetic. I have the same issue with bake sales where you might as well just eat a bag of sugar. 72 candy bars is entirely way too much candy to sell! I love your idea though and I wish more parents would set the great example you are setting. If more parents were like you I'm sure this candy selling business would have to change.

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FINZFANATIC 2/16/2010 7:09AM

    I COMPLETELY agree with you. We don't have kids, but I have a neice and nephew and they are constantly selling stuff. Unfortunately it is either candy or cookie dough, but the worst is the overpriced junk. I bought an egg slicer and it broke after the first use. I tried just donating money (where they get 100% and not the pittance that's left after paying the vendor), but the kids get "prizes" for selling the crap. ARGH!

The other thing that bugs me is the kids standing in front of the grocery store asking for donations. It's basically begging. I agree with LINDSAYHENNIGAN, what about a fun run? Even a car wash or something where they are "earning" the money.

Sorry for the rant, but I do LOVE your idea of making stuff. Hopefully you can post a picture. The critters sound really cute.

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/16/2010 6:09AM

    Great idea of yours Heather.
Candy and good health do not go hand in hand. Better fundraising ideas should be sought.......
Same goes on a larger scale, Our Olymic games are to be sponsored by KFC and Mars Bars and alledgedly Coka Cola............all bad for you!
Sends out the wrong message doesn't it?

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LADY_JOSIELOT 2/16/2010 3:41AM

    It's insane what parents are expected to do/pay and what kids are expected to sell to partake in sports and other extracurriculars. 72 candy bars is ridiculous, and I agree that candy bars in the first place sends totally the wrong message. I'd love to see the things you made, they sound really neat. :)

- Josie

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B-LYNN1ST 2/16/2010 1:41AM

    LOL, I get sick of those school candy sells too.. A teacher told me. If you don't want to sale the box just by one for you and your family. Like, I'm going to buy that 1.50 candy for my kids.. I can get the cheap stuff from the dollar store. I've gotten to the point to where.. I just donate the money. Keeps me from knocking on doors.. Worrying friends to buy and not only that.. Watch my kids get stressed out over all the no's and maybe next time.. It's bad enough my little girl is in the 4H club.. We have to sale stuff all the time, but as of now. They are down with the check drops. Just keep me out of it..
Being crative is a great idea. I just hate saling candy, warpping paper.. And anything else they ask us to sale. I'm not with it, and never been a big fan of it.. I'm with the PTA,and I always get hit with.. Do anyone wants to donate in the meeting, and then your kid comes in with a box of candy.. Where, when, and why! Who signed the sale sheet? My father signed it once, and I was mad as H. My other got a full box, and passed it out at work.. My brother.. He just munch and say. I will pay you before it's due, and he always does, but it just makes me sick... Sale this.. We are going to sale that.. Give me a break. I do all I can for my kids. What more do you want! My blood! It's coming soon.. A blood drive at our school.. I think you are on the right track. That track isn't in me, but you are on the right track.. Love your spark page BTW..

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WHITNEY0814 2/16/2010 1:16AM

    Wow good for you!! I never thought about it that way. I hope you can post a picture of your creation. I would love to see it! It sounds cute, and it seems MUCH better than selling candy. Plus it gets that family involved!

Good luck!!

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BUTEAFULL 2/16/2010 12:48AM

    I agree WTH are our schools thinking promoting such unhealthy things no wonder we have obese kids in this country
I really like your suggestions of sponsors

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IMKFOX 2/16/2010 12:10AM

    Good for you! I applaud the stand you are taking and think your creativity was amazing. What a wonderful lesson you've taught your little girl! Sadly, I think so many organizations rely on candy sales because they know candy is an "easy" sell in our overweight culture.

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FITTGRRL 2/15/2010 11:47PM

    72 candy ! that is a lot of chocolate! You have a good point and maybe the school(s) should look into healthier alternatives ...or other items as you suggested.

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    How funny, I just had a conversation about just this subject. What ever happened to the FUN RUN??? Now it is just frozen cookie dough and candy bars. What a shock that the USA has a weight problem.
Good for you, it is a stand worth taking.

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PHDMAMA06 2/15/2010 11:21PM

    72 chocolate bars is a lot of chocolate to sell, and I agree that I wouldn't feel all that comfortable selling so many to my friends & family when cheerleading is (in part) about fitness and good health. I like your creative idea of selling the critters :)

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JESUSHIPPIE 2/15/2010 11:20PM

  Great point! Every think about approaching the coach with this? Maybe they could help you and actually make it happen?!

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