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Friday, February 12, 2010

Just some random thoughts today.

Tis that time of year...for sniffs, sneezes and other bugs!! Last week youngest child came down with an ailment that resulted in a 12 hour fever and just a general malaise for the rest of the day and then it was gone and she returned to normal. Middle child had it yesterday and missed school for the first time-she cried!! Son is generally feeling under the weather with the same stomach bug I've had the last couple of days. Gotta love it when everyone is sick with something different. Makes me wonder when the fever will hit those of us who haven't had it and when the stomach bug will get the others! If we time it JUST RIGHT we can all be sick with something different at the SAME TIME!!!

Hopefully everyone will be healthy this weekend though. Sunday is a HUGE family bash and we don't want to miss it. An Aunt and Uncle who live in Oregon are coming for a visit and my nephew and his wife who have been in Germany (he is an Air Force Medic) are finally home (will be stationed about 2 hours away in L.A. for the next 4 years (Yeah!!)) so...we are all congregating at my sis' house for Sunday dinner-my sister's 4-plus nephew and wife (and Koko the dog), my 5, my brother's 5, my mom, an aunt's 4, and the visiting aunt and uncle make 23 people, plus nieces' boyfriends might come!! The great thing is that we all have a BLAST together so it will be a fun day.

Had a GREAT walk today after taking two days off. Took the days off because I just felt like I needed them. My knee was bothering me Tuesday night (I like to sit on the sofa with my feet tucked under and I did it wrong and tweaked my knee (trick knee since college), and I've just been kind of tired fighting off the bug. SO-no guilt the rest was needed and felt good but this morning's walk was also needed and felt good!!

Going to Disneyland next week to celebrate Hubby's and son's birthdays. We are celebrating early but the timing is right-the kids have all next week off school (Abe (Lincoln) and George (Washington) get a week to celebrate their birthdays here in Hemet) and hubby gets paid, so early it is!! Son doesn't mind at all that he gets to get some birthday presents two weeks early!!

Making a definite goal to stay in calorie range and get enough water today. Already got the cardio checked off the list so doing great there!! I guess that means I should actually track what I eat today....I've kind of fallen of the tracking wagon, time to get back in the buggy though. Got a sneaking suspicion that some of the tummy trouble could have been avoided with better eating.

Anyways, hope everyone has a great weekend and a happy Valentine's day!!

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JOANNAMARIE 2/13/2010 4:34PM

    Wow, sounds like a fun time with family! I have a really small family, so we don't have get togethers like that. I think you're really lucky! Hopefully, you all will be healthy and illnessless (is that a word ?!?)

I hear you on the tracking wagon. I've been so busy that I've lost the hang of doing it again. And honestly, I eat so weird that it takes me so long to do it when I do. I can't eat wheat, and I've also added in a lot of vegan foods, and I eat all sorts of wild and crazy things lately, but I sure am feeling healthy. A couple years ago, you would not have found me eating tofu or seaweed, both of which I'm experimenting with quite a lot, lately. And I've been eating many different grains as well: quinoa, millet, buckwheat, etc. It's been fun! Well I wish you a wonderful time with your family!


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WBOYACK 2/12/2010 12:14PM

  Sounds like a great party! Have fun and I hope everyone stays well!

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AXISLADY 2/12/2010 11:38AM

    My husbands 6 children and spouses and all the grandkids (16 of them) love being together. Probably like your family. What a wonderful time for you! Sorry about the sniffles etc., but get it done now so you can celebrate!!!!!

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PINKCOCONUT 2/12/2010 10:07AM

    You sound like a busy woman! Hopefully everything clears before the big partay!!

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Tuesday, February 09, 2010

Well, I had another ditzy moment this morning. We had really just started our run-same route I've taken over a hundred times now. I was on this one stretch where I have to pass several culs-de-sac before the next street we turn down. Well, I lost track of where I was and turned too soon. It was one of those rare moments when I was actually ahead of my sister (the dog needed to pause and she had to stop for a moment) so there was nobody ahead of me to watch and silly me turned one street too soon!! I noticed my error pretty quickly and turned back but it did, actually, make me laugh out loud-LOL!! When she caught up my sister commented on my mistake and it was still funny. She said she was wondering what was going on when I disappeared for a moment and then reappeared!!

So, we continued on with our run and one long street later I made another detour, this one intentional. At the end of one long street we always turn left, but if I turn right, just a few feet away is my favorite place to stretch. A "bridge" (decorative not actually over any water). Something about the railings is JUST RIGHT. It's like Goldilocks, there are lots of places to stop and stretch, benches, curbs, etc., but this bridge is just right and I really do get the best stretch when I stop there. Unfortunately, on our regular route the bridge only comes towards the end of the run. So, today I detoured and hit the bridge right after my first interval and WHAT A DIFFERENCE!! It made a world of difference to my run today!! I even had a nice little sprint at the end that left me feeling energized and powerful.

Just like in life, sometimes we make detours that take us off track and are not the best thing for us, sometimes the diet goes astray or we find that our new favorite "healthy" smoothy has more calories than a hamburger. But, other times we take a detour and it is the best thing we could have done. It is just a matter of watching for those good detours and trying to avoid the bad ones. Hope you all have a good detour today and find something wonderful and unexpected in your day and may all the bad detours be on a different route than the one you take today!! :)

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ANMAIREE 2/12/2010 1:51AM

    emoticon blog Hon emoticonblog

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JILLIANPRNCSS 2/11/2010 8:04PM

    I forget what a difference stretching can be, thanks for the reminder.

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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/11/2010 3:26PM

    Love how you turned this into a great moment!! Yes, detours...they sometimes can take to awesome places if you let them!


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PHDMAMA06 2/10/2010 12:01AM

    Ahhh, cool! The detours I've taken in my running routes have made for some of the best workouts ever!

Thanks for the slippers too :)

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FITN2014-TSP 2/9/2010 10:12PM

    It is a good idea to vary your workouts so you do not get bored. emoticon emoticon

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    I will try to keep my eyes open for some cool detours to try this week. Good advice

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/9/2010 11:41AM

    Glad you had a good run this morning- loving the comparisons
xx emoticon

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NANC304 2/9/2010 10:57AM

    Great blog! I like the way you look at things. I'm going to start looking for more detours in life.

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 2/9/2010 10:47AM

    Choose the trail and detours wisely and make today a great day. I will try too. emoticon

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AXISLADY 2/9/2010 10:29AM

    This is a really good blog - my first read of the day. How awesome is that? Have a wonderful day and continue to Detour!

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TLROYER 2/9/2010 9:40AM

    Great blog. Love your insight on 'detours'. Thanks for sharing.

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Dear me...

Tuesday, February 09, 2010


In a few months you will have been active on Sparkpeople (this time around) for a full year and I just wanted to check in with you and see how you are doing.

I understand that you have had some trials recently, sore shins, weight gain instead of loss, just a general feeling of ick and a renewed issue with sugar.

I understand how these things can affect how you feel and how much you accomplish. I just hope that you have learned, here at SparkPeople, that you are not alone in any of these issues. There are hundreds of Sparkers just like you who have experienced the same thing and found a way around it. There are even Sparkers who have had further to travel than you and are still finding success.

You can do this you are a strong and determined person who will find the success you are looking for as long as you keep looking. Let's do a little review and see how much you have to be grateful for. have met so many awesome people here and quite a few of them have become true and honored friends who have stood by you and given you great advice, some of them were with you during the great 40th birthday debacle and some of them are new and you are still forming that bond of friendship. Caz NR Heathrow, The New Melissa, Wboyak, Lauranav, Firenut34, Rain Sis and Riteebee, Phdmam06 and so many more-sorry if you weren't named but the list would go on forever-trust in the fact that your friendship is cherished. Some of the friends you made in the beginning are no longer active and you miss them and hope that someday they will return, it is all a part of the process.

Blogs, you have written down your emotions, your trials and your triumphs, your blogs are numerous and each comment left by a reader is a treasure of support, love and advice. You have read many blogs and found something in each and every one that has helped you along your journey (yes even CAZ's funny blogs that have been there just to make you smile). You have met some awesome people through their blogs...Billalex70, Botzzz, Karvy09, and Pinkcoconut just to name a few.

Challenges-you have fed your competitive nature by joining a challenge or two and there are challenges still coming in your future. The challenges have been a fun way to keep that spark alive.

Successes- there have been quite a few of these. You ran your first 5K at DISNEYLAND none the less. A few months later you ran on Thanksgiving day and the view of the Pacific Ocean as you ran towards the finish line is a sight you will hold in your memory forever. You have lost some of the weight that you want to lose and more of that will be going too. You got into hiking and accomplished something not everyone hiked to the top of a mountain and stood at the peak and savored the view of the world at your feet. Your family is eating healthier than they have in the past and your children, unlike so many, know what many fruits and vegetables look like in their natural form-apples that aren't sauce or pies, pumpkins that are not soup or pie and potatoes that haven't been frenched and fried. You took immense joy recently as you watched your 3 year old munching a carrot a la Bugs Bunny. A real carrot, not one put on a lathe and whittled down to look like a baby version of itself!! You have spent more time with your sister on walks and runs than you have spent with her in all the years since you left for college combined!! You have learned that you can keep going even when the elements have combined against you, conspiring to make you quit, give up and throw in the sweat soaked towel. You have found a new way of living.

Well, my friend, it has been a long journey thus far and there is still much of the journey left ahead, I am glad we get to make this journey together and can't wait to see what you will have to say next.

Have a good evening and a good run tomorrow. Remember your positive imagery-you are a runner, you run easily and lightly, slowly and steadily, you might be a penquin but you are NOT a couch potato. Keep up the good work friend.

Love you, Good-night.

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SOOTHINGGLOW 2/19/2010 4:09PM

    Wonderful insight! You should be so proud of your achievements!

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WHITNEY0814 2/16/2010 11:32PM

    Wow. That letter to yourself was amazing. You have made so much progress. I'm proud of you. Every time you get discouraged you just need to come back to this entry.

I know you can do it!!!!

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MANA8503 2/16/2010 5:29PM

    Wow - very well said!

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-PAULA 2/12/2010 7:45AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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DISNEYSMOM 2/12/2010 3:11AM

    What an amazing blog! I actually teared up reading it! Thank you so much for sharing your innermost thoughts for all of us to see.

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GRANDMAAMIE 2/11/2010 9:18PM

    emoticon emoticonFOR SHARING

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-LORI-B 2/11/2010 8:55PM

    Beautiful. Im in process of writing a letter to myself also.. I think its a great way to remind yourself how far you have come and even when times wernt the best and didnt go the way we wanted that we managed to pull thru and move forward.. thats the most important thing. Congrats on all your accomplishments so far,, I know there will be many more to come

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TIME4AFITME 2/11/2010 4:29PM

    great blog

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LOTUSFLOWER 2/11/2010 3:56PM

    What an inspirational blog!

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ANGIEEB1229 2/11/2010 3:51PM

    I enjoyed reading your blog. We're all on this journey but at least we're not alone. I've made some great friends in the last month on here and enjoy all the tips and suggestions that SP has to offer. Congrats on the races. Keep up the great work.

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BUZYBEEDEBRA 2/11/2010 3:43PM

    great blog - and I love your background image

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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/11/2010 3:30PM

    All I can say is I wish I could hit "I Liked This" a million times!!! This was an AWESOME blog and is so true!! We have had many struggles, but many more successes. Can't wait until we hit our Sparkversary because it truly will signal a year of transformation!!


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NANC304 2/9/2010 11:04AM

    You have a way with words. Thanks for sharing your journey.

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/9/2010 6:06AM

    What a wonderful way to share your journey, hopes and dreams.
You are one amazing person Heather and I value our friendship, you inspire me to be the best person I can be, bless you hun
May your journey continue to be filled with love and friendship and may you achieve all you set out to do
Luv ya

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PAULASTRAS 2/9/2010 2:00AM

    Very nice , and so true. thank you for sharing life's journey and our journey on
spark people. it is so important to have friends who care...
you are very special, caring, and have a beautiful heart.
I am glad we are friends.

God Bless You,
love and hugs, Paula:) emoticon

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Be like the bird...

Sunday, February 07, 2010

"Be like the bird who, halting in [her] flight on a limb too slight feels it give way beneath [her], yet sings knowing [she] hath wings." Victor Hugo

I read this quote a week ago and it has been rattling around in my brain since then. I found such peace and comfort in this quote.

"Be like the bird" many times have I felt like the fledgling leaving its nest, not knowing what awaits. I felt it when I first signed up for SparkPeople many, many moons ago. I felt it when I came back over and over. I felt it when I started running. I feel it every time I run a race.

"who, halting in her flight on a limb too slight feels it give way beneath her"...every time I run a race, everytime I run and feel my shins getting tight, every time some of the weight comes back, everytime I crave salt or chocolate or have a bad day and want to binge through the emotions.

"yet sings knowing she has wings" doesn't matter if that branch shifts under me and leaves me feeling uncertain or even frightened of what will happen next, because I have wings. I can fly and find a branch more suited to me. I can run intervals until I heal, I can fly away from the cookie, I can land in a tree filled with other Sparkbirdies who also are finding thier wings and learning to fly!!

I have the skills, the knowledge and the support system to make this work. I can sing my song of joy and faith because I have wings to take me where I want to go. Birds have to weather the storms of life just like any living thing, but after the storm comes the morning and I can sing again.

My spirituality plays a big part in my life and though I usually leave that aspect of me out of my blogs, I know that my Creator loves me and wants me to find success because it makes me happy. I can rely on Him and though it always won't be easy He will bless me for my efforts. I have to do my part but He will make up the difference.

I want to be like the bird, who halting in her flight on a limb too slight, feels it give way beneath her, yet sings knowing she has wings!!!

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WYOWLDFLOWER 2/22/2010 11:35AM

    Beautiful! The really great quotes have a world of information encapsulated into a few words. This is one really great quote! Congratulations on all your success so far. Fly sister fly!

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RAIN_SIS 2/18/2010 12:21PM

    My sister left a comment on my "Stolen Words" blog that is much better than my blog and almost as good as yours. I just thought you should know how much thought your thought has SPARKED.

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RAIN_SIS 2/12/2010 10:09AM

    Very nice quote. Now it will be rattling around in my head as well. I doubt I will make anything as lovely of it as this blog, but I am sure it will bump up against few other things in my head and stick. Thanks for sharing.

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ME4CAM 2/8/2010 7:31PM

  emoticon blog !!!
Thank you for sharing..

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KAT_MANDU 2/8/2010 9:36AM

    What an amazing blog! You are really a gifted writer, honey. I mean, I know you had a brilliant inspiration, but what a way to analogize it! I've never heard of that poem before, and I was impressed.

Keep up the good work - you inspire me! Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like.


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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/8/2010 8:57AM

    Cool analogy Heather, Great blog

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NANC304 2/8/2010 8:46AM

    What a great way to look at things!

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VERGE_OF_ME 2/8/2010 12:32AM

    Sing it sister!!...and fly on to the best you that you can be!! Great blog!

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WBOYACK 2/7/2010 11:44PM

  Are you a humming bird? I can just see you buzzing about!

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Broader application

Saturday, February 06, 2010

The other day I bloged my goals for the 28 day program and then later in the day I had a mini-revelation. Part of the 28-day program and the Fast Break program is to set rewards for your good behavior. Follow through with a goal and you should reward yourself. Well, I this ah-ha moment about my 5 year old daughter.

My little 5 year old is a smart little cookie. Since she was born husband and I have always said that we better watch out because she was just too smart for her own good. Actually we have said this about each of our kids and it is turning out to be true. My son's first grade teacher says over and over that he should be in 2nd grade not first, he is just too smart. Anyways, this 5 year old of ours is also our ACTIVE child. She is not hyperactive or any of the other activity related disorders. She can and does focus for extended periods of time on things that interest her. The trouble is that Kindergarten does not always interest her. She is having difficulties with a variety of the aspects of Kindergarten. Fortunately her classroom behavior is an area where she does very well. Unfortunately she does not see the need to focus on things like the alphabet, how to write letters, numbers and sentances, or even how to read and recognize the "sight words" Kinders are expected to learn. On her last progress report she did manage to bring up most of her grades into the acceptable range, but still had and "N" -not satisfactory-in writing. I asked her teacher what she needed to do to bring that grade up and learned that her letter writing has improved to the acceptable range but that in writing sentances she does very poorly. The children, at this stage, are just copying sentances the teacher writes on the board. Things like "I see a dog". My daughter scrunches her words all together or leaves out entire words. The sentance "The month is January" turned into "The January" in her journal. She also forgets letters in her own name!! I think she just wants to hurry and get it done and so she leaves letters out to go faster. Unfortunately this lowers her grade. While pondering how we are going to get her to work on improving her work I was picturing the many battles to get her to write extra sentances and practice her name. It is often a battle to get her to do her homework and the scene stretching before my eyes was not a pretty or pleasant one.

Then the reward system came to mind!! Hey, I thought, if it works for Sparkers, shouldn't it work for my daughter??? Today was the first day of extra sentance writting. We went to the store and let her pick out her own little journal to write her sentances in (there was not a big selection because she still uses the paper with the three lines (top, bottom and middle to help her write the letters the right size for Capital and lower case). But, she picked out her book. I picked up some rewards (I hate to say but right now the reward is M&Ms-I don't want her to learn to equate rewards with food, but for this purpose and our budget M&Ms is the best first choice-once she is used to the system we may find a more suitable reward). We chose M&Ms because she likes them and I think 3 little Ms a day will not be too damaging in the long run. We did set the limit at 3 per day so that there will be no going overboard with the candy. I gave her her first sentance "I see a dog" and she immediately went to work on her writing. She did everything I asked her to and did it well. She even drew a picture of her walking our dog, Baxter at the top of her page. She spent quite a bit of time on it and she did very well. She put her spaces in and each word was written exactly right. The system worked!! The interesting thing is that the other two kids are even asking what they can do to earn Ms!! I'll have to keep my eyes open for little trinkets in the dollar bins and maybe even set up a sticker reward system-collect stickers to earn bigger prizes, once the Ms run out and they are used to how this works.

There is a broader application for just about everything we do here at SparkPeople. The system was formed around correct and basic principles that every human can relate to and benefit from. Reward good behavior, make changes in small portions, don't deny yourself every pleasure and find new ways of accomplishing goals. It all makes sense!! Thank goodness!! Well, bed time-got a run to do tomorrow!!

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PHDMAMA06 2/6/2010 12:25PM

    Yes, I agree that some of the ideas in The Spark can apply to many different areas of our lives, and our families' lives...

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WBOYACK 2/6/2010 10:06AM

  I like to call rewards "blessings".

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CAZ_NR_HEATHROW 2/6/2010 6:22AM

    i think most people do accomplish more if a reward is in site- it works for every aspect in lfe.
Great blog Heather
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4EVERADONEGIRL 2/6/2010 3:51AM

    Ah-ha!!!!! Yes - rewards work at every's funny how sometimes I forget that I need to reward myself! :-) Great blog!

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