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It's Official~ My running shoes are finally here! Nike Zoom Vomero 5's

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Official story~ for anyone who has been following my blogs or are sparkbuddie you know I have been pining away for some good running shoes. I talk about it constantly to my family. Last week, my husband presented me with a card and $100 towards the shoes. he made the card from scratch and I wish I could show it to everyone. He is a pro at this so it looked like a real greeting card with family members pictures in it and it said...We Want You to do it! She Wants You to do it, so does he! (picture of dogs) and then you open the card up like an accordion and there is a picture of my rascally Bosco and the card says ( well, maybe not him!) with his picture ( and he is looking rascally!) and then one more accordion fold later is a picture of some running shoes with $100 attached to the card. Best Mom's Day present ever!

Needless to say I had to come up with the rest of the cash and voila--Today I ran over to the running store, it is across the street from work, and I came back with the shoes.

I took my time trying them all out for the second time. I remembered to bring a pair of socks from home that I typically run in. I had the girl bring out the three pair I had tried before---The Asics Gel Nimbus, The Saucony ProGrid Triumph and the Nike Zoom Vomero's, in my size.

She was out of the Asics, so no luck there. I tried on the Saucony, which were my preferred pair of choice but they didn't feel quite right so I tried the Nike. I went back and forth several times, running around the store in my work clothes, getting all sticky, but I had to be sure! I changed socks several times. I used the socks I had brought from home, which were quite thick and cushiony and the pair the store lent me to try. Back and forth I went, not quite sure. I had her bring out a second pair a 1/2 size up just to double check. I think I was driving her crazy but it was a big purchase for me and I wanted to make sure I was getting my money's worth!
Well, i finally narrowed it down to the Nike Vomero 5's.

They are a nice cushioned shoe. All of the sales folks at the store were wearing them. My only concern were that they did have quite a bit of white foam and I have been told the more white the faster they will break down. I only run about 10 miles a week right now so I think they will last a while. When I get ready to upgrade I can always change brands, shoes, etc.
So the suspense is over. The girl at the store also said I could take them on a test run before my 5k but if they were going to hurt my feet they would hurt from the getgo so I think I may wear them to my 5k on Saturday. She also said I could exchange them within 30 days and I had a week to bring them back for a refund. I may wear them around the block tonight to se how they feel and then tomorrow to break them in but all in all, a great experience.

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FISHIE3 5/22/2010 10:46AM

    hooray for shoes!

i hope your run went well today.

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CHOESCH 5/21/2010 10:37AM

    HOORAY! For new running shoes! I am so jealous - but I am also very, very happy for you! What a great thing to slip your feet into awesome new shoes. I know you will do great tomorrow - I am so proud of you! I think your hubby is AWESOME to not only make it possible for you to get the shoes of your dreams but to make a homemade Mother's Day Card - you are a lucky woman! I'm looking forward to your blog about the race. I will be thinking of you!
HOORAY again!

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BETTERJULIA 5/21/2010 8:43AM

    Yay for running shoes!!! Rock that 5K girl!

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LILY_SPARK 5/21/2010 7:44AM

    congrats! Nike's NEVER work for me cos I have high arches. Most people find them VERY comfy, though...hope you do and good luck with the 5k!

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RUNNINGPFUHL 5/20/2010 6:02PM

    KEWL!! What a great thing for your hubby to do and those look like great shoes! Can't wait for your first official run report with them! :D

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ITSALMOST30 5/20/2010 5:31PM

    How awesome! What an amazing husband and friend! Congrats on your new shoes. I hope you wear them out fast with all your running. Ha ha.

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BRANDNEWBUFFY 5/20/2010 5:17PM

    That is awesome! Glad you took the time to make the right purchase. I would do the same.

Hope they are perfect and run great at your 5k ;)

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    Hope they fit your feet well!

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NIELSENSLADY 5/20/2010 4:24PM

    Shoe shopping is always so tough! Hope this one's a winner.

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Running a 5k on Saturday. Any advice is appreciated

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

GAH! I wrote a blog about my insecurities running this 5k. I went to hit post and the computer decided to malfunction! Argh! I don't have the patience to rewrite so anyone who would like to give me advice about what to wear, what to eat for breakfast would be appreciated! It is supposed to rain. Any suggestions to get through this? Thanks!

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BETTERJULIA 5/21/2010 8:48AM

    All great advice! My biggest trick to keep myself moving is find someone I want to 'keep up with' and just pace with them either next to them or being able to see them ahead. It keeps me motivated and focused on something other then myself which helps me. I also run with that energy at the beginning of the race because it really can help push you. Good luck!

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SUEINTHEPARK 5/20/2010 10:18AM

    Hi there - all great advice here. I would just add a couple of things. RELAX! Have fun! Don't put any pressure on yourself, just treat it as any other run you have done, just with lots of friends. If you have keep track of your routes you have been using to train and the time it takes you to run them, find some that have been a comfortable pace for you and divide the time by the distance to get your comfortable pace. On your race day, you should see mile markers / KM-markers along the way. Glance at your watch at the first one to make sure you aren't a lot faster than your comfortable pace. If you are way behind your comfortable pace, it might just be due to the lag of getting to the starting line, if it was crowded, so I wouldn't worry about that so much as being above your pace. If you are above, just take a deep breath and focus on your own comfortable pace. And relax and have fun. Good luck!
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CRIS76 5/19/2010 5:48PM

    I do not drink anything beyond a half cup of water about an hour before (I have to pee when I get nervous LOL) and for breakfast, I eat a microwave egg dish (something my friend ABUNTING showed me - she has a version on spark called Yummy Eggs) - I don't wear anything I wouldn't normally wear running. New stuff can malfunction. Don't forget to stretch (hopping up and down is my favorite cuz it's good for nerves and excitement LOL)

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PAPAMIKIE 5/19/2010 4:51PM

    First things first. Make sure you have fun.

I am not an experienced racer, but I am a runner, and I have done my homework. Try to stay as much as possible with what you have done during training.

Wear the same type of clothes you would wear if you were going out for a training run, eat as you would eat before a training run. Take water, etc as you do for your training runs. No point introducing difference the day of the race.

Try to treat the race as much as you can like any other run.

Sounds like this is a first 5km race, so if you step across the start line you will have a Personal Best. The next goal is to step across the finish line. If you do that you will have two Personal Bests in one race!!!

As I understand it, one issue that sometimes comes up for new runners, is they go too fast at the beginning of the race. The excitement of the day, the crowd, the spectators, etc. pump you up, and that is natural. Try to ensure you are running at a pace not too much faster than your planned pace. It is typical for people to be a bit faster on race day, it is just part of the excitement of the day.

Oh, and Lastly, make sure you have fun.

So Good running, and be careful out there.

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ROCKINFOX 5/19/2010 4:24PM

    I'm excited for you!! You will definitely need to post a blog about it.

Pace yourself and eat something lite. I ate a banana and a small handful of almonds to hold me. Make sure you pace yourself with the water too.

Good luck!!! emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/19/2010 4:03PM

    I am just so excited for you. I have no advice. I just showed up to a 5K - but I probably wouldn't recommend that - LOL.

You will rock with all of these awesome suggestions. Good luck!


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SPECKER_RECK 5/19/2010 11:59AM

    I like to eat a handful of almonds before a race. The protein helps keep your blood sugar steady without making you feel full or bogged down. Which 5k are you running?

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IONA72 5/18/2010 5:16PM

    You have lots of good advice here, I would certainly agree with not starting too fast. It is very easy to try and stay with the pack at the start but I always find this is too quick for me to sustain. I used to be bothered about people passing me before I even got to 1K but I'm over that now. Most of all don't forget to ENJOY it and come back and tell us about your race!


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PRISCILLAE 5/18/2010 4:53PM

    How exciting! I eat oatmeal about 2 hours before race time and then a half a banana closer. I also have about 8 oz of BLACK coffee and 16-32 oz of water. But you need to be sure you're eating and drinking things that you normally do, nothing new! This might be TMI, but go to the bathroom as many times as you can before the gun!

The excitement of the race and the group will probably make you automatically start out faster than normal. Be sure to take it easy the first bit; don't kill yourself the first mile.

I agree with only swishing the water at stations and wearing layers. Be sure your top layer is something you can easily take off.

I'm a big fan of positive self talk if you start to feel tired or hurting. You've done this before; you've trained for this; your body is strong; you CAN do this. Kick it in the last .5 mile. Finish strong.

Good luck!! Racing is such a fun thing to be a part of. Enjoy every minute of it!

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RUNNINGPFUHL 5/18/2010 4:46PM

    Eat light or really early, that works best for me. Drink alot of water the night before.

unless you've been drinking water along the way while you've trained, I suggest only swishing the water in your mouth as at the water station, spit it out and not to drink it.

wear layers, I wear a tank top and a jacket. I always get hot so I take the jacket off and tie it around my waist.

no matter the weather I always wear sunglasses and a baseball cap.

take an extra set of clothes so you can change afterwards, in case it is raining, you can change into dry clothes.

remember to stay to the right if you're at a slower pace than the pack, let people pass you on the left and you pass others on the left

eat all the yummy food afterwards! take pictures! have fun!!
Don't be nervous, you've traied, you're ready, you can do this!! There's no LUCK to it! You've GOT THIS Runner Girl!

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LILY_SPARK 5/18/2010 3:21PM

    I've only ran one but what happened to me was they changed the race route from all flat to hills -- the morning of the race! So, I had no chance to "prepare."

I will advise that if it's a HUGE race (ours was over 40k runners), get farther back to start. The people up front were pushing and SHOVING before the race started. It was shockingly rude. May as well be happier towards the back! Oh and these rude shovers? They weren't faster, just wanted to be in front like the guy who passes you on the highway and proceeds to drive 10 mph slower than you were going in the first place. Them. They run, too. ;p

Oh, duh: GOOD LUCK! You're in much better shape than I was, you'll do grand!

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LADYFOLDER 5/18/2010 3:01PM

Everyone who has told me what they eat before a 5K says to eat light. You don't want an empty stomach, but you don't want to feel too full. The race should have some refreshments for after--bananas, oranges, grapes, watermelon, and bread are all good ways to restore the carbs you spent racing and to help with rehydrating your body.
And particularly, DON'T SKIP DRINKING WATER. Although we've never had to call an ambulance at our race, those who have the most trouble completing the race are dehydrated. We also had a clean-up after someone who ate too much got sick during the race.
This is just the advice I've been given. My difficulty with walking means that I don't try to walk very far. It's just too painful.

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CHOESCH 5/18/2010 12:49PM

    I am so excited for you - you are going to have a great experience! The only advice I could give you is to relax and enjoy the whole thing - you have trained and prepared and you are ready to go. Eat a light breakfast you don't want to be weighed down - I had a banana and a protein shake before my first race and it was great! Wear layers then if it warms up you can shed some as you go. Have someone take pictures - you are going to want to remember this experience. You will do GREAT!!! I'm cheering for you!

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UHH, P90X...? previewed

Friday, May 14, 2010

Someone lent me there copy of P()X. I have been curious about this program and wanted to see if I could give it a try. My fitness level has really improved since I was cleared after my surgery in Nov. I am killing JM's Yoga Meltdown and have been doing level 3 of the Shred consistently. I wanted to see if I could bump it up.
Last night I popped in the P90X yoga dvd to preview it. It looked totally doable. It was long but by buddy said it repeats itself so you can do 1/2. I was planning on giving it a try this morning but woke up at 4am drank a glass of milk, went back to bed and overslept! Oh well, there is always tomorrow! I was curious as to what the rest of the tapes had to offer so I popped in the Core dvd, not sure what that one is called. Anyway, OMG! It was really intense and the trainer was even out of breath! I think I can give it a go but I am by no means ready to do the whole thing. I may do modified verisons of the moves but for only a 1/2 hr. I really liked that he mentioned how everyone is at a different fitness level and you can do what you can and that you can work up to more. That was encouraging. Some of those moves, like the banana and the boat were a little intimidating but I think I could pull off one or two.
Ok, I got distracted and meant to post this a few hours ago. I lost my train of thought but you get the idea. Feel free to leave me your comments!

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CHOESCH 5/17/2010 11:48AM

    My daughter bought this series and she and her hubby do it together. He is uber fit - one of those people who LOVE the gym. He said it was difficult so I haven't even thought about giving it a try. I'm like you...I'm getting a little tired of the DVDs that I currently have and I would like to up the ante a little bit. Not sure if this is the right direction - I'll be waiting to hear how it goes for you. Glad you had a good weekend - I know what you mean about it being too short - I got so much done this weekend and still had tons of energy to do more - I'm sure it was the sunshine! You are amazing!!!

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50HARLEYGIRL 5/14/2010 5:22PM

    Girl I am with ya on the Dreya rolls! I think they call them that cause she's the only 1 that can do that many! LOL! But really, my DH an I have worked at this (and by no means gotten to the extent these people are) and have gotten good results. We ate better not right out of the book, DH says there comes a time a man has to have a good steak and potato! LOL! But really felt better even with the modifications and not even being able to make it thru the entire DVD each night. Like Toney (trainer) says you just have to get up, put it in, and push play. You will def feel results but it is not easy!

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IAMSHE-RA 5/14/2010 3:43PM

    I have P90X too. I haven't been able to follow the program yet, but I've done a workout here and there. It is intense! I still have to set up my chin-up bar. Have fun!!

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LILY_SPARK 5/14/2010 3:17PM

    I do the non-ST workouts of p90x and don't consider myself THAT fit. I'm probably "moderately fit."

Core Synergistics does have some elements that are nuts (can you say Dreya Rolls?) :) I do them, just not as many as they do. Wear your HRM and make sure you're okay & be safe!


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MRPLATSON 5/14/2010 2:59PM

    P90X is not a joke - it's for real!
We have some people here who have tried it and their results are impressive.
This is not your mother's VHS workout tapes, this is boot-camp and it will unapologetically kick your butt!
If you can stick to it and do it you will probably be amazed with how you look and feel at the end.

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CTRAJDOS 5/14/2010 2:52PM

    I love but hate p90x the diet portion that goes along with it really really works. Good Luck

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NIELSENSLADY 5/14/2010 2:47PM

    Good luck!

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Planning for my next 5k and funky running

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Its funny how life seems to creep in the way even with the best laid plans. I have a 5k coming up next Saturday. My first one that I will be running. I am determined to get my last few runs in come heck or high water. With that said as soon as I made that goal things have gotten weird. I don't know if its karma or if I am subconsciouly setting myself up for failure or if its just life and I am learning to deal with it.
Anyway, to make more sense of all this on Sunday I set out to get in my run midmorning. Sunday runs are weird because I can't seem to get a set time and so my whole body clock is off. I set out midmorning to get in my run. I decided to take the dogs, big mistake. Let me tell you why. I had taken them on a previous run during the week and had made the choice to let go of the leash. This worked out so well. The dogs kept pace with me the whole time. The smaller dog lagged behind a little but he was so desperate to keep up he kept coming. So on Sunday I thought the same thing would happen.Wrong! When we got to the park and I let go of the leash, the smaller dog took off! ( dogs are on separate leashes) He was really good the first trip around the track but on our second trip I turned around and he was gone! UhOh! So I ran around all over looking for him, trying to keep "running". I was yelling his name the whole time, "Bosco! Bosco!" to no avail. Half way around the track again I see him--On the other side of the track! He was doing his own little run, keeping on the trail, wagging his tail. It was the funniest site. He just kept going and going as I called his name over and over. I decided to cut him off by beelining it for him. He decided to take a detour just at that momment so off I go. Talk about a workout! I chased after him again and I finally caught up with him. His ears were all perky and his tongue was hanging out of his mouth. Great, so now comes the fun part. As soon as I grabbed the leash and started to run--he stopped. What? He completely came to a dead stop and would barely walk. So I guess my run was over and I ended up walking him home, pulling him most of the way, about a mile. I couldn't tell if I really got in a good workout or not. I was pretty tired from running and chasing him all over the park, running and stopping, running again. I guess I got a good set of intervals in, LOL.
Ok so then last night was my next run and this is how it all panned out. We, my hubby and I, were really busy getting my DD of 14 signed up for Taekwondo ( a completely different blog!) so time kept passing and I could see this storm rollling in and I had a lot of nervous energy because my body was sitting instead of running, and I could see that the storm was impending. We spent two hours at the studio. My hubby could see how figity I was so he offered to cook dinner so I could get my run in. By this time it was pouring but where there is a will there is a way! I remembered that our rec center had an indoor track and I REALLY needed to get this run in. I had missed Zumba the night before and was feeling the effects of missing out on my exercise. Did I mention how great exercise is for relieving stress and tension? So I drove up the street to the rec center, they charge a really small fee to use the track, which was a nice surprise. I walked down to the track, started my warm up walk and couldn't believe how many people were there doing the same thing I was. I had thought it was pretty late for running. It was about 8:15 pm when I arrived but the track was pretty busy. There were a lot of young woman and families and a few people my age.
It was actually a good experience. I ended up following a gal who looked like an experienced runner. At first I thought she was around my age ( later I noticed that she was in her twenties, judging from appearances). I am just trying to get my milage in and seem to plug along. She passed me about every 3 laps. Six laps make up a mile. I am so bad at counting laps I decided to go by time and how many songs I went through on my ipod. I ended up running through 9 songs at about 3.5 mins eavh so that equals 31.5 mins. Not sure if I got a full 3.1 miles in but I did my best. So back to this girl who kept passing me. Everytime she passed me I would watch her stride and try and match my feet to hers. This made a big difference. It was a neat experiment. I couldn't keep up with her but it was fun to try. When I decided I was about finished I kicked it up a notch and really pushed it for the last lap. Then I took about 5 mins to cool down. Pushing it really made my heart rate go up but it felt good and even if I didn't get the full 3.1 miles in I did get in a good run. After finishing my run I went home ate a really late dinner and went to bed. I slept pretty good considering how late my run was. I think I was just exhausted from the day. My stress was all gone and I had a huge sense of relief.
I am not sure how all of this is going to play out with my 5k training. Like I said I have made a commitment to get my runs in before next Saturday. I know one thing, I am NOT taking the mutts with me on my next run, they will just have to wait. If it rains again before the 5k I can always go back to the indoor track. Its not the same as running outside but until I invest in a treadmill it is the only backup plan I have. I really hate running in the rain so I am visualizing and praying and sending positive energy up to the heavens for a nice, rain free day next Saturday. Wish me luck!

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JUDYPETE1 5/14/2010 7:19AM

    if all runs were the same, what fun would that be? LOL!!

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CHOESCH 5/13/2010 6:40PM

    I just had to smile as I read about your adventure with the dog. My little dog loves to run too but he has a hard time keeping up after the first mile so I don't take him when we go on long runs. It sounds like you are prepared for the 5k the first one is a little scary but you will definitely surprise yourself - you have really trained hard! I am so impressed with your commitment and desire - can't wait to hear your time- get some pictures and post the before and after. Saturday is supposed to be a beautiful day - hopefully the weatherman is right! We deserve some good weather! Thanks for your great comments on my blog. I appreciate your good thoughts and your great ideas. You are amazing!

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KIRSTENRPH 5/13/2010 8:39AM

Dogs are SO FUNNY sometimes!!!!
I think God put them on earth just to keep us entertained!!

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LILY_SPARK 5/12/2010 2:17PM

    Great idea, matching your pace to another runner! I always heard jogging with a taller person (longer legs!) helps gain speed and endurance, too.

When I was about 14, I'd run with my brother (straight out of the Army!) and he had to wear a 40lb waist belt & ankle wts to slow himself down to my pace ;p

Anyway, GOOD ON YOU!

You mention your bpm? Where do you aim to keep yours between, percentage of MHR? I'm curious cos I'm just getting back into running...kinda!

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FISHIE3 5/12/2010 12:47PM

    i'm guessing that you got a long enough of a work-out with your dogs. if you're active between 30 and 45min you should be close to what C25k asks, even if some of it is walking a reluctant dog back home.

don't forget to have your rest days next week. i don't know what your plan says, but the advice i've seen in other plans recommends no running the two days before the race (walking is fine, but no huge treks), and easy runs as a whole for the beginning of that week. if you're really going to give it a good go, you'll want the rest.

good luck.

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NIELSENSLADY 5/12/2010 12:13PM

    What a bad dog! Funny though. I think any activity you can do between now and the run will be beneficial. emoticon

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Feeling good about myself brings out insecurities in others

Thursday, May 06, 2010

When I started this journey I didn't feel very good about myself. I really wasn't who I wanted to be. As I started losing weight and getting attention for my efforts my self confidence rose and I started to feel like my authentic self.

Feeling like who you are meant to be can have its drawbacks. I consider myself to be somewhat attractive but by no means a super model. When I was heavy I didn't get many ( if any) compliments. But since I have gotten to goal weight I get compliments daily, especially from my husband. He says I get a lot of looks but I don't notice.

On a professional level I hold myself to a high standard. I don't necessarily hold everyone else to that standard, just myself. But this too has its drawbacks.
Yesterday's bad day had to do with a co-worker. She is an unhappy person. She is overweight and is constantly trying to get back to her weight when she was in her 20's. But she doesn't ever follow through. She doesn't care about Sparkpeople. I have tried to tell her.
Anyway, why is it just when you seem to be getting your life on track the crazies have to come out?
This lady went out of her way to send me a hurtful email that was a personal attack.

I work for a great company that has an EAP program. I went to ask for counseling to see what I could do about the situation, trying to be proactive and better myself is usually how i handle these kinds of situations. The counselor was awesome and said just what I neede to hear.

The jist of it is when someone with self esteem is surrounded by those who have low self esteem, they feel threatened. Hmm, this lady has even told me she is threatened by me.
So she makes snide remarks that can't be determined to be an insult or a compliment. Trying to make herself feel superior by chipping away at MY self-esteem.
The counselor also said this lady doesn't like me and probably has had issues with me for awhile and this is her way of telling me. It hurt so much. I can't make everyone like me though and I don't have control over her or her feelings. Now that she has come right out and let her feelings be known I should be able to avoid her in the future. The hard part is that there is a group of us ladies who have lunch together, about 5. Sometimes one of us is MIA. This lady is in the group. I need to keep my relationship with her strictly professional so I will temporarily be avoiding her, and the group, until I can come to grips with how best to handle her. This is all advise from the counselor.
I am a very sensitive person so I always can feel when someone isn't right with me. It makes perfect sense that my high standards and excellent work ethic would bring out insecurities in others. I really am not trying to toot my own horn. This blog is for me to try and wrap my head around having to deal with this person. I have had a working relationship with her for over three years and I personally have struggled with her demeanor but thought maybe it was all on my part, the struggle I have with her. Now I know I am not crazy and that she is the one with the problem. This is coming from the counselor once I described our interactions. Me trying to be helpful and being a part of a team and always assuming good intent and her belittling me or putting me in my "place" when she thinks I have overstepped.
She really didn't start having a problem with me until I had lost about 70 lbs. I try not to overstep my boundaries at work and pull myself in when I realize the help is not wanted.

I am very efficient at my job and I guess that can be a little scary. I don't want anyone else's job. I just want to do my own and do it to the best of my abilities.

It is the same with my weight loss. It is my journey, no one elses. It is no one's concern but my own. If someone wants to come along they are welcome but don't stand in my way or try to sabotage my efforts. I am in charge of my own life and no one else will dictate to me how I feel about myself or my abilities.

Enough said, I feel good about myself.

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HEALTHYARTIST1 5/12/2010 1:10PM

    Oh my goodness. I wanted to comment on your blog to give you support and a high five for immediately going to a trained professional to help you out, however, everyone has taken the words out of my mouth! So know you are making the best decisions for you, your family and your work and that is perfection! emoticon

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NIELSENSLADY 5/12/2010 12:22PM

    I thought I would share a similar/non-similar story that came from WW boards.

One of the WW ladies mentioned at work that she had a co-worker to join her to a month's worth of meetings several months ago. The co-worker quit going and didn't lose wieght. The WW lady once inquired about it but the co-worker said that the timing wasn't right at the time.

This is what happened yesterday

Co-worker: I'm going to McDonalds for lunch. Can I pick you up something?

WW Lady: That would be great because I am swamped here. Could you pick me up a Southwestern Salad?

Co-worker: Sure no problem. I'll be back soon

(30 mins co-worker returns and drops a quarter pounder with cheese and fries and puts it on WW lady's table)

WW lady: That's not what I ordered.

Co-worker: Yeah Sorry I forgot what you told me.

(WW Lady is PO'd and decided that she was refusing to give in to this passive aggressive behavior. She gives her lunch away to another co-worker)

Co worker: (10 mins later) I really did forget what you ordered but I figured you had flex points that you could use

WW lady: I'm sorry to say that your efforts to sabatoge me have failed.


Moral of the story: We deal with people all of the time for some reason or other can't handle our success. I think you handled that situation very well.

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    I'm happy to see that you aren't blaming yourself. I think its important to remember that the world is made of different people - You want to live your life at a 10 don't let the haters bring you down to their 5! Find strength in knowing that you can't help everyone and too many are content with misery. Continue to be the person that you are and do it happily. This truly is one of those instances where you can kill them silently and with kindness. You'll find you're way to deal with her - but try not to be cold/show offense to her dislike because people like her "feed off the negative "power"

You're emoticon!

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FLYINGB16 5/9/2010 8:59AM

    I could have written this blog word for word. You are awesome and you are doing exactly what you should be doing...putting yourself first! We will always have exposure to negative people through our work and the only thing we CAN do is choose how we react to them. My one particular co-worker loves to make comments about how awful it will be when I have all of this loose skin to deal with or that I am going to get BIG muscles from working out. I see her body checking me all the time trying to tell if/where I'm losing or (SHE HOPES) if I am starting to gain it all back. Her first question to me every morning is did I work out the evening before. Really??? What's it to her? She just wants me to say NO I skipped my workout and ate a whole pizza and a gallon of ice cream! Not going to happen.

YOU did the right thing and you are taking care of yourself. You Rock!

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LEWASKO 5/8/2010 9:58PM

    I totally agree with MrPlatson. She is to be pitied. It is unfortunate that you have to put up with this at work and that you have worked so hard to better yourself only to have to deal with ignorant jealousy. You are strong and you are sensible to have dealt with it the way you did. It would have been easy for you to be small and insult her back, but you took the higher ground! Congratulate yourself and DON'T EVER LET ANYONE QUESTION WHO YOU ARE!! ROCK ON SISTER!


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TEENY_BIKINI 5/8/2010 9:35PM

    I really commend you on how you handled this situation. I love that you are so confident and you should be - because you are amazing. You are right - the crazies do come out when a diva starts beaming. Maybe they just need to bask in your beautiful light - who knows? Just keep being you.

You are amazing. Trust me this nutjob is already suffering. Hang in there, gorgeous.


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DAWNO64 5/7/2010 4:13PM

    Congrats on handling this the best way for YOU!! It sounds like your co-worker has definite issues; you're right to let them be HERS!

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CHOESCH 5/7/2010 3:15PM

    Hey Cute Stuff;
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this - I too have noticed that there are some people who just cannot be happy for anyone else's success. It is so hard to work in an environment like that; we all spend so much time at work. I'm so glad that you could talk to your counselor and still vent on SparkPeople. I'm sure it helped you to see things more clearly. Relish your success, find peace in the fact that you are a good person, and gravitate towards the people who are non-toxic. You are handling this well by removing yourself from the situation - even though that doesn't seem fair. Keep smiling and always remember that you are AMAZING! Don't let anyone take away your feeling of accomplishment. I appreciate you so much! Hang in there!

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DARLENEK04 5/6/2010 6:49PM

  I believe you are like I am...which is very sensitive.
This other person is insecure and unhappy and she is
taking her venom out on you. I am glad that you had the counselor to reason things out with.
You have come such a long way with your weight and are now
secure in yourself, and your beauty shines.


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MRPLATSON 5/6/2010 4:02PM

    She suffers from too much ego and not enough self esteem - she's living in a hell of her own construction, she hates herself but too proud to put in the work to fix her problems. She's weak, she's frustrated.. she looks at you and sees everything she wants to be but doesn't know why she can't be as accomplished or how to do it.

Personally I can't be angry at a person like this, all I can feel is overwhelming sadness and pity.

If she does this again I would suggest very calmly explaining to her that you are not comfortable with the way she is treating you and that if she can't muster anything nice or work-related to say to you that you would appreciate she didn't interact with you at all.


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50HARLEYGIRL 5/6/2010 3:57PM

    I recently lost 15 lbs while on SP an I have been tickled! And a good friend told me the other day that it made her feel bad because I had lost weight and she has not. Talk about a slap in the face! A couple of years ago she was going to the gym an lost a lot of weight an I told her how proud of her I was. It really knocks the wind out of your sails if you let it, at least this lady is not someone you call friend. And you kinda feel bad for them because they have such stinky attitudes and you know they are really miserable people and just want everyone else to be miserable to. Keep on doing what you are doing with your head held high and be the better person and remember forgiveness happens sometimes multiple times a day! emoticon

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    Dang girl, you said it perfectly.
First it is awesome your work has something like that so that you can go and talk to someone. I bet that helped sort through your feelings a lot.
Second, not everyone is going to like you, but when you haven't given them a reason not to, it still hurts. I am the same way and its hard to come to terms with. But just know who you are and what you stand for and the rest won't matter so much. You know you are doing the best job you can, and live the life you want and it sounds like she is super jealous of that. It's easier for her to lash out at you then to take a hard look in the mirror at why she is so unhappy. It's a hard pill to swallow.
I think that is best that you stay away for a bit and just gather your thoughts and get back to a calm place when it comes to dealing with her. Pretend as if she didn't even bug you with her email. Pretend like her comments don't hurt. Over time it really won't matter any more.
I heard somewhere to care about what the people who love you think about you, NOT about what the people who don't matter think about you. You can't win em all :)

Hang in there sweetie. It will all turn out fine. Hugs!

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