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Spark Coach has been a life saver ~

Sunday, March 03, 2013

Joining Spark Coach has been wonderful for me. A lot of my Spark friends have been missing in action, lately ~ and I, myself, have not been blogging or commenting on blogs or doing much interacting, lately. I think everyone is just sick and tired of winter and are feeling 'blah'. Thank God, spring is so close. emoticon

No matter how crappy I have felt, I have still gone to Spark Coach every day and I really feel that is what has kept me motivated. I have encountered a few 'slippery slopes' and made a few mistakes ~ but Spark Coach has always brought me back to reality and my goals and kept me accountable. I'm pretty sure that without it, I would have given up and caved in by now.

I have finished the Spark Diet and the Plateau Busting programs and am now doing the Consistency & Motivation program. I still get very frustrated with the program some days because I would like the program to have videos EVERY day and not text ~ but, all in all, it has been a great tool and has kept me going. It is full of motivation and has great tips and information.

On March 1, I have been on Spark People and Spark Coach for 4 months exactly ~ and I have lost 17 lbs. Which is great ~ however, if someone would have told me that I would ONLY have lost 17 lbs in 4 months, I would have said "Are you kidding me? I am NOT going on a diet to ONLY lose 17 lbs in that long a time." My thinking has changed tremendously since then.

Today, I am proud of my accomplishment, even though I would like to be losing faster. I am DOING this and plan to continue until I have lost ALL my extra weight. Thanks Spark Coach!

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JOYB19 3/3/2013 4:09PM

    slow and steady wins the race...quick weight loss for me always meant quick weight gain afterward because i didn't give myself time to make any good habits


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PHOENIX1949 3/3/2013 3:18PM


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2BDYNAMIC 3/3/2013 1:55PM

    I just joined and do not evenknow of the diet yet ......... Guess I was waiting for the Sparks Solution ............ But AM sticking to my calorie range and tracking every morsel!!! .............. AND lost one pound in first day so I think it is working! And good for you ............ emoticon

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ARNETTELEE 3/3/2013 1:41PM

  You're doing great! Keep it up!

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Mindful Moment for Monday ~

Monday, February 25, 2013

Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. ~ Francis de Sales

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JMARIES51 3/1/2013 7:43PM

    I love it. I was just thinking about my parents today and how after they retired they just didn't get much done until afternoon. They still got up early everyday, but they just read the newspaper, watched the news, did their paperwork, etc. It used to drive me bonkers. But now I find I am doing the same thing. Slow and easy, methodical. It feels so much better than rush, rush, rush, all the time. hugs, Joann emoticon emoticon

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PHOENIX1949 2/25/2013 6:22PM

    Beautiful photo and very timely quote for me. Thanks.

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Mindful Moment for Wednesday ~

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Great things are done by a series of small things brought together. ~ Vincent Van Gogh

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PHOENIX1949 2/21/2013 4:50AM

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Talking to myself ~ I hope I follow my advice ~

Friday, February 15, 2013

Syncronicity is something that I totally believe in. Carl Jung coined the word to describe what he called "temporally coincident occurrences of acausal events."

Last night, I over-ate. No, I mean I REALLY over-ate. Once I started ~ I couldn't stop. For instance, I ate over half a box of Toffifee. :( And that was just the beginning. So, I have been full of loathing and self-disgust all day.

I received a message from a friend of mine, earlier today ~ she was very, very upset. You see, my friend is trying real hard to quit smoking. She had a cigarette yesterday and is very disappointed in herself. Of course, I answered her and tried to cheer her up by telling her the exact truth, as I see it, about the situation.

It wasn't until a few hours later, that I realized that I could, and should, apply what I said to my friend to myself and my binge situation. In fact, my letter to her could have been sent to myself, it applied so well. Everyone always says that you wouldn't talk to a friend the way to talk to yourself. That we are our own worst critics ~ and that we need to be nicer to ourselves. That we need to apply self-love to our situations.

This is what I wrote to my friend:

PLEASE don't beat yourself up about smoking. It is OVER. It is the PAST. You need to live in the PRESENT MOMENT. Do not allow yourself to feel guilt/shame/self-hate about it. YOU are a great person who made a bad mistake.

It is a hard job, quitting smoking, and you are doing the best you can ~ without having to put expectations on yourself, for anyone, for any reason. STOP IT.

Think of the wonderful job you've been doing ~ 3 months is wonderful. Keep your mind on the positive and not the negative. So what, you screwed up ~ it's part of life. You have done a lot of good recently and you need to give yourself credit for that and keep your thoughts focused on that.

PLEASE, be good to yourself. You are worth it ~ and you've been doing such a wonderful job. You hit a bump but keep on doing what you've been doing. I love you and give you lots of credit for the great work you have been putting in lately. Talk soon. Big hugs emoticon

I expected my friend to listen to my thoughts and, hopefully, take my advice seriously. She is a wonderful woman and shouldn't be defining herself by her mistakes and imperfections.

But, ME ~ that's a different story, altogether., I screwed up royally and I should 'know better' and not make mistakes. Especially such huge, glaring mistakes. I might gain 5 lbs. for what I did! How can I be so stupid! I've been doing so well . . . . and now, look at what I've done! I might as well give up! It will take me 'forever' to recover from THAT mistake! How could I have been so stupid?! It was clear to me that Kelly (my friend) should forgive herself and move on but me? I don't deserve forgiveness.

It took me most of the afternoon to convince myself that I, too, am lovable, worth it and forgivable!! But ~ I have, finally, come to the place where I can forgive myself and apply these things to my situation. I AM only human and I deserve to be forgiven. I don't have to treat myself with hate and disgust. I can view myself as valuable and deserving of a break.

Do you treat yourself the same way, sometimes? Do you need to apply some self-love and respect to yourself? To be your own best friend? Try treating yourself the way you would treat a loved and cherished friend because if you don't love yourself, how are you ever going to love anybody else? You DO deserve it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JOYB19 3/3/2013 4:13PM

    As long as you have more good days than binge days, you'll do fine. Just get right back to eating well.

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JMARIES51 3/1/2013 7:51PM

    Amen, I hear you -- loud and clear. We are our own worst critic. But on the other hand, you were the best of friends. Now it is the choice to be our own best friend! You are awesome and deserve everything that Kelly deserves. Synchronicity is my favorite word and favorite way to live my life. Just you being here and writing this blog is a anachronistic moment for me because I relate to everything you said. hugs, Joann

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BOOICUS 2/15/2013 3:40PM

    To err is human but to forgive is divine. You can make mistakes, but you should learn from them and then forgive yourself. emoticon

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LENORE_DEADGIRL 2/15/2013 3:34PM

  It is hard to forgive yourself sometimes. Give yourself a hug and move forward. emoticon

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GRANDMABABA 2/15/2013 3:02PM

    I beat myself up way too often. Good advice to yourself.

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PAPASMURF1957 2/15/2013 1:54PM

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Mindful Moment for Wednesday ~

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Happiness in this world, when it comes, comes incidentally. Make it the object of pursuit, and it leads us on a wild-goose chase, and is never attained. Follow some other object, and very possibly we may find that we have caught happiness without dreaming of it. ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

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PHOENIX1949 2/13/2013 3:06PM

    Love this quote & have added it to my growing list of favorites.

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CELIAMINER 2/13/2013 2:42PM

    I've never thought of it like that. We talk about the "pursuit of happiness" like a worthwhile activity, but Hawthorne's point is well taken. Happiness happens.

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ANDREAG89 2/13/2013 12:35PM

    Very nice! Accidental happiness. :-) It's true we never know what this world will send our way. Enjoy the moments we have!

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