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Memories of childhood

Friday, November 13, 2009

A weekend challenge reminded me of growing up in Paris and having to explain celebrating Thanksgiving, a holiday unknown to the French at the time. Luckily we had Art Buchwald to turn to, and he didn't fail us.

Buchwald's classic 1953 column still runs in the Washington Post and International Herald Tribune, and helps explain le Jour de Merci Donnant.

Here it is in full:


One of our most important holidays is Thanksgiving Day, known in France as le Jour de Merci Donnant.

Le Jour de Merci Donnant was first started by a group of Pilgrims (Pèlerins) who fled from l'Angleterre before the McCarran Act to found a colony in the New World (le Nouveau Monde) where they could shoot Indians (les Peaux-Rouges) and eat turkey (dinde) to their heart's content.

They landed at a place called Plymouth (now a famous voiture Américaine) in a wooden sailing ship called the Mayflower (or Fleur de Mai) in 1620. But while the Pèlerins were killing the dindes, the Peaux-Rouges were killing the Pèlerins, and there were several hard winters ahead for both of them. The only way the Peaux- Rouges helped the Pèlerins was when they taught them to grow corn (maïs). The reason they did this was because they liked corn with their Pèlerins.

In 1623, after another harsh year, the Pèlerins' crops were so good that they decided to have a celebration and give thanks because more maïs was raised by the Pèlerins than Pèlerins were killed by Peaux-Rouges.

Every year on the Jour de Merci Donnant, parents tell their children an amusing story about the first celebration.

It concerns a brave capitaine named Miles Standish (known in France as Kilomètres Deboutish) and a young, shy lieutenant named Jean Alden. Both of them were in love with a flower of Plymouth called Priscilla Mullens (no translation). The vieux capitaine said to the jeune lieutenant:

"Go to the damsel Priscilla (allez très vite chez Priscilla), the loveliest maiden of Plymouth (la plus jolie demoiselle de Plymouth). Say that a blunt old captain, a man not of words but of action (un vieux Fanfan la Tulipe), offers his hand and his heart, the hand and heart of a soldier. Not in these words, you know, but this, in short, is my meaning.

"I am a maker of war (je suis un fabricant de la guerre) and not a maker of phrases. You, bred as a scholar (vous, qui êtes pain comme un étudiant), can say it in elegant language, such as you read in your books of the pleadings and wooings of lovers, such as you think best adapted to win the heart of the maiden."

Although Jean was fit to be tied (convenable à être emballé), friendship prevailed over love and he went to his duty. But instead of using elegant language, he blurted out his mission. Priscilla was muted with amazement and sorrow (rendue muette par l'étonnement et la tristesse).

At length she exclaimed, interrupting the ominous silence: "If the great captain of Plymouth is so very eager to wed me, why does he not come himself and take the trouble to woo me?" (Où est-il, le vieux Kilomètres? Pourquoi ne vient-il pas auprès de moi pour tenter sa chance?)

Jean said that Kilomètres Deboutish was very busy and didn't have time for those things. He staggered on, telling what a wonderful husband Kilomètres would make. Finally Priscilla arched her eyebrows and said in a tremulous voice, "Why don't you speak for yourself, Jean?" (Chacun à son goût.)

And so, on the fourth Thursday in November, American families sit down at a large table brimming with tasty dishes, and for the only time during the year eat better than the French do.

No one can deny that le Jour de Merci Donnant is a grande fête and no matter how well fed American families are, they never forget to give thanks to Kilomètres Deboutish, who made this great day possible.

Art Buchwald

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IFDEEVARUNS2 11/14/2009 12:18PM

    Exactly! Debout = standing, so deboutish = standish.....

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FREDI59 11/14/2009 11:51AM

    now it finally makes sense - thanks for sharing.
This was funny - especially the French translations ... Monsieur Kilometre ... I almost p m p ...
Now if you excusez moi, I gotta change - j'ai besoin de transformer ...

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PALMTREEGIRL1 11/13/2009 7:00PM

    Je suis un fabricant de la guerre on the Pounders!!! Great story Dee!

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LILHLFPINT 11/13/2009 6:03PM

    (::giggles:: i loved it! it was really amusing.)

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TUFFYBIRD 11/13/2009 5:08PM

    What a great story! Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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HECTORJESUS 11/13/2009 3:20PM

    That was great..did not know you were French, mon amie ma femme et Français aussi...aurevoir bisous
Hector

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JENNNVA 11/13/2009 2:52PM

    That is really neat! Thanks for the info! I love it emoticon

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Back to dancing

Friday, November 13, 2009

It was difficult to walk in, but I returned to my dance session this evening. Truth be told, I've been distracted for six months, and while I think I'm still an excellent instructor, my focus wasn't there.

Well, I didn't really want to be there this evening either, but I knew it would do me good. I remained numb for about an hour, and then started to feel a little more lively. By the end of the evening, I was actually having fun. Love those endorphins!

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PALMTREEGIRL1 11/13/2009 8:37AM

    Time Dee, time heals everything eventually. It is good when people share with you their regrets - it shows they care - you are an easy person to love and I totally understand why people would be concerned for you.
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JLITT62 11/13/2009 7:41AM

    Glad to hear it was such a release for you.

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TUFFYBIRD 11/13/2009 7:38AM

    You did good Dee! Congratulations - it must have been hard to walk in there. emoticon emoticon

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IFDEEVARUNS2 11/13/2009 7:32AM

    Eventually I did. But I've been feeling numb, and the thought of enduring people's condolences was daunting. I'm glad I faced it though.

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FITKAT2010 11/13/2009 5:25AM

    You not enjoying teaching your dance class? That surprises me.

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Up front

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

I didn't get to weigh in last week on Wednesday (regular day AND my birthday) so I waited until today to do it. Lo and behold, I saw that goal number - 110.

Now, I know as well as anybody that tomorrow it could be up a pound and a half, or down half a pound. So my first instinct was not to acknowledge it, but to stay where I was for the past two weeks. That seemed safer. I'm all about safe, believe me.

And then I decided to be brave and put it out there. Sure, I may have to struggle to get it to stick. I may be wringing my hands this time next week. But I need to acknowledge the victories and in the process give myself a little extra incentive to keep pushing. So there you have it, I met my goal of 110 by my 60th birthday. Give or take...

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KATBWIN 11/14/2009 7:37PM

    Ooh, congratulations on reaching your goal by your birthday. Happy Belated Birthday! What a motivational blog today. Thanks for sharing.

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MSWEEZER 11/11/2009 5:16PM

    That's truly awesome! Fit and fabulous at sixty. Or should it be skinny and sexy at sixty? Either way, congrats are in order.

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LIFEHASCHANGES 11/11/2009 1:41PM

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WOW! Im so happy for you!!! Safety first, I agree!
Have you checked to see what your BMR is now?
Its important that you go and find what your basic calorie
needs are so that you can maintain this wonderful
accomplishment! You may have already done this
- but I just wanted to point it out in case you didnt.
below is the link to the page that discusses it:

http://www.sparkpeople.c
om/resource/calorie_calculation
101.asp

Perhaps if you adjust your goals to show that you no longer
wnat to lose weight it would change your calorie range for you.
Dont forget to make sure to leave room for exercise
- and to adjust it when you are NO LONGER getting the
same workout routine- that way you dont gain! Stay on it girl!
Congrats!

Love in Christ~
Mrs. K

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DAWNWS1 11/11/2009 1:27PM

    Yahoo!!! Way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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JLITT62 11/11/2009 12:43PM

    Of course you must acknowledge it! Now comes the hard work of maintenance, which doesn't mean you don't gain or lose -- only that you only gain or lose up to a certain point.

With all that's been going on in your life, you deserve a big Kudos & Congrats.

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JENNNVA 11/11/2009 12:06PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Great job! I'm so proud of your accomplishments!!

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CHLOIANNA 11/11/2009 11:47AM

    That is wonderful. Congratulations.

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FLUENTFROG 11/11/2009 11:07AM

    emoticon Let yourself jump up and down at that goal! A little waivering, maybe or maybe not, but today YOU ARE THERE! Yay for you for daring to share!

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HECTORJESUS 11/11/2009 10:50AM

    Maybe by sharing the news it will stay there


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TUFFYBIRD 11/11/2009 10:16AM

    Congratulations!!! I really think SP should give members a free T-shirt when they reach goal! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PALMTREEGIRL1 11/11/2009 10:14AM

    Dee!!! You Rule!!!!
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Set yourself up to succeed

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

It's different for everyone, of course. And SparkPeople gives you any number of tools to help you along the way, from trackers to maps, to recipes and even suggestions for maintaining a healthy pantry.

I read it all voraciously, though a lot of it has been my practice for years. The nutrition and exercise trackers are tools that have been enormously helpful to me, and if I got nothing else from SP, this would be extremely beneficial.

What came through for me in the pinch, though, is the tool I never thought I'd get into: a SP team. Don't get me wrong, I usually will do what I'm told to do, what is 'right' to do. And so I jumped into the team spirit, only not really. I thought it was silly, hoaky, ditzy, you name it. But I tried. I went for the teams that I thought might be of interest, and found myself adding friends.

It didn't take long to figure out which ones I really connected to (teams and friends), and no, it wasn't always the ones I expected. And by paying attention to which teams these folks were actively involved with, I learned to navigate this site a little better, and find teams that really were a better fit. And I read about challenge teams: I couldn't imagine it would make any difference, but was willing to give it a try.

So one fine day I found myself part of several challenges, and that first week, my world was rocked by the death of my mother. It was not unexpected, but it was mind boggling nonetheless. But I didn't spin out of control, au contraire! I had team mates I couldn't let down, and a job to do. I had to exercise, I had to drink water, I had to watch what I ate and get the right amount of sleep. I probably wouldn't have done it just for me - I can let myself down right and left. But my team mates deserved better. Or so I thought.

A week later I'm still going strong. And I realize that it really was me I wasn't going to let down, although you, my friends, were there to hold out a hand to me. And you all came through for me. For that, I'm profoundly grateful.

  
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KATBWIN 11/14/2009 7:42PM

    I am sorry about your mother. Seems like just the other day you were telling us she was ill. I missed the part where she passed.

Thank you keeping up with your blogging. It is motivational for me to read your blogs. Again, so sorry to hear about your mom.

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LALASTRIVE 11/11/2009 9:10AM

    Oh why did I just read this in the morning? I just put on my make-up Dee! Your success is our success and helps us all keep going! Make it a great day!

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 11/11/2009 12:23AM

    Sometimes, we discover ourselves by reaching out to others. Thanks for sharing yourself with us.
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TUFFYBIRD 11/10/2009 7:59PM

    You make me proud to by your SP friend, Dee. emoticon emoticon

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GEMGODDESS 11/10/2009 4:41PM

    This actually put tears in my eyes: "And I realize that it really was me I wasn't going to let down"

...been having a tough few days. Thanks for the inspiration! I wish you peace and succcess. xoxo

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CYCLEMEL 11/10/2009 3:42PM

    What a wonderful blog - thank you for sharing! We are with you all the way!

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PALMTREEGIRL1 11/10/2009 1:52PM

    Dee, you're the best!!! Clap, clap, clap, clap, clap,clap, clap (standing ovation for you!)
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I just don't wanna

Monday, November 09, 2009

I got back home late last night, and I'm feeling numb. I'm not surprised; I remember this from when my father died 14 years ago. I only hope it doesn't last as long - a year is a long time to feel numb!

I'm supposed to go to the SO's cousin's house for dinner tonight. I can't do this - I don't have it in me to be social. I put my time in after the funeral Saturday being social, and I just can't do it. I'd rather go and exercise. Wow, I never thought I'd say that.....

My brother put us on notice yesterday that he was spent, that he wasn't making any more decisions, that he'd done enough. That's pretty much how I feel right now too. I wasn't too pleased with his statement (after all I made more than my share of the difficult decisions last week) but I got it.



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Edit: my mother passed away 14 years to the day from my father's death. Last week I had a vision as I was driving home: my father and youngest brother appeared to me complaining that my mother was taking her sweet time. I told them both to stop rushing her, reminded them that they knew how she was, and she had to do things her way. She hated November - we lost my father and brother on Nov. 3rd and 4th. And now I've lost her on Nov. 3rd as well. The 4th is my birthday. I don't hate November; I'm just holding them close to me.

  
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PHEBESS 11/10/2009 9:04AM

    Big hugs, sweetie. May her memory always be a blessing to you and your family.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/9/2009 9:18PM

    Of all the times when you shouldn't be feeling guilty about just taking care of yourself, not being social, and vegging for as long as you like at home--this is it! I'm very sorry to hear about your mother.



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SURLYGIRL 11/9/2009 9:00PM

    Dee ~
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Please do what you can to take care of yourself. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

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PALMTREEGIRL1 11/9/2009 7:39PM

    Dee, anything I can do to help you I will do. I missed you and I'm thrilled to have you back.
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ASLNUT 11/9/2009 3:44PM

    Dee- You do what you have to do to get through this. It's a tough time for everyone, and it doesn't mean that you have to suffer double with accomodating everyone else. Excercise is not just for loosing weight and heart help, it also burns off anxiety, stress and depression, building up those good ol' endorphins! I wish you the very best with a virtual hug and pat on the back!
Mary

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TUFFYBIRD 11/9/2009 2:41PM

    Dee:

I am sorry to hear about your loss; it doesn't matter how expected it is, I don't think a person is ever really "ready" to let go of a loved one.

And I think you're making absolutely the right decision to take time for yourself (away from other people) if that's what you need to do ... and, in my opinion, exercise is a positive response. When my mother passed away I went to the pool and swam laps for an hour and a half; I think it helped. It certainly worked off some of the stress and anxiety that had been building over those last few days.

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I'll be thinking of you!

Pat

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WANNABELESS1 11/9/2009 2:23PM

    I wont pretend that I understand what you are going through becasue I have not yet had to deal with loss, especially of that magnitude. But, I will say I think you have the right idea. Its okay to take time to take care of yourself, and that is what you should be doing now more than ever.

Hang in there and take care, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.


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JLITT62 11/9/2009 11:46AM

    Of course you are spent. And you are so strong, too. It would be really hard not to hate November with all those losses, but you have the right attitude -- they are in your heart, always.

We are here for you, no matter what.

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MSWEEZER 11/9/2009 11:36AM

    Going to exercise and taking care of YOU sounds like a good plan at this point in time. It is a difficult time indeed. Take care and will keep you in my prayers as well.

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BEAMISH7 11/9/2009 11:34AM

    We truly can not be all things to all people all of the time. I don't pretend to know what is right for you. Pray and you will know what is right for all of you.

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