Tuesday, March 11, 2014
My stepson, Bud, graduated from High School last June. He decided to take a gap year because he didn't know what he wanted to study in college. I know my stepson and I was against the gap year from the beginning, but I was overruled by my husband and his ex-wife. My husband's ex lives in Europe. She moved there 2 years ago for work and has no plans of ever coming back. The plan was for Bud to go to Europe for a few months and do some traveling. A fantastic opportunity as how many teenagers can say they've traveled all around Europe? Anyway, he goes, has a great time with his mom, comes back in October and plants his butt on my sofa and has not moved since. I cannot get him to get a job and I can not get him to move on his college applications. My husband's idea of handling the situation is to ignore it until it fixes itself. I encourage, I prod and I nag to no end. Bud sleeps for 12 hours and then plays video games for 12 hours. I don't believe this is the definition of a "gap year". His TV broke about a month ago so I thought maybe that would provoke him into getting a job. Nope, now he plays games on his computer instead. If I have to wait for his computer to die I may have a nervous breakdown. My friends tell me to step back and let my husband handle it but that's the problem he's not. I've yelled, screamed, cried and begged to no avail. He promises he'll do something but he drops the ball soon after he starts dribbling. I am physically feeling the effects of all this stress. I have panic attacks, headaches and I've been self medicating with potato chips. This has got to stop before I lose my mind. I just want to throw his computer out the window! I told my husband that I can't take it anymore. Bud better get it together or he can be on the next plane to Europe and sit on his mother's sofa for a while. He's a super good kid, but I didn't raise him to be a lazy bum. L-A-Z-Y!! You know when he did his laundry last?? November!! ARRRGGGHHHH!! I will not cave and do it for him. No way!! The gap year was a big mistake and I think my husband agrees with me now. I know ( I hope) this phase shall pass, but my sanity sure is suffering. Pray for me!