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LiveFit: Phase 1 completed, Phase 2 begins

Monday, April 14, 2014

My third rotation through Jamie Eason's LiveFit Trainer is flying by! I lost 8 pounds during the first 4 weeks by eating well and doing strength training. No cardio for 4 weeks! It was surprising to see that much of a loss. My other two rotations with LiveFit had me gaining weight during the first 4 weeks, so I'm happier this go around.

Phase 2 starts today. I've already logged in my cardio for the day and will go to the gym after work for my strength workout. Phase 2 is harder because the workouts are now over an hour and a half long. I don't have the time to do it all at once so I'll be hitting the gym twice a day 4 times a week to get it all in. I'm happy to be starting cardio again because last week I didn't lose any weight. I'm hoping the cardio will be the jump start I need to get back to losing.

I'm still 8 pounds heavier than I was last year (yes, SheRa put on 16 pounds over the last year) and I'm not happy about that. But I can lose it! You can't let injuries (for me it was a ripped deltoid muscle and a strained calf muscle) destroy all your hard work. You can't let bad eating habits creep back into your life (I did and you see what happens). If something is no longer working you need to change it. I'm concentrating more on diet than exercise these days. The injuries I've been dealing with tell me that I've been working too hard in the gym to compensate for bad eating habits and it wasn't working. So now I'm changing things up and moving forward. I didn't fail, I just need to look at things in a fresh way. I will NEVER give up. You can all count on that!

  


My Kid Is Stressing Me Out

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

My stepson, Bud, graduated from High School last June. He decided to take a gap year because he didn't know what he wanted to study in college. I know my stepson and I was against the gap year from the beginning, but I was overruled by my husband and his ex-wife. emoticon My husband's ex lives in Europe. She moved there 2 years ago for work and has no plans of ever coming back. The plan was for Bud to go to Europe for a few months and do some traveling. A fantastic opportunity as how many teenagers can say they've traveled all around Europe? Anyway, he goes, has a great time with his mom, comes back in October and plants his butt on my sofa and has not moved since. I cannot get him to get a job and I can not get him to move on his college applications. My husband's idea of handling the situation is to ignore it until it fixes itself. I encourage, I prod and I nag to no end. Bud sleeps for 12 hours and then plays video games for 12 hours. I don't believe this is the definition of a "gap year". His TV broke about a month ago so I thought maybe that would provoke him into getting a job. Nope, now he plays games on his computer instead. If I have to wait for his computer to die I may have a nervous breakdown. My friends tell me to step back and let my husband handle it but that's the problem he's not. I've yelled, screamed, cried and begged to no avail. emoticon He promises he'll do something but he drops the ball soon after he starts dribbling. I am physically feeling the effects of all this stress. I have panic attacks, headaches and I've been self medicating with potato chips. This has got to stop before I lose my mind. I just want to throw his computer out the window! I told my husband that I can't take it anymore. Bud better get it together or he can be on the next plane to Europe and sit on his mother's sofa for a while. He's a super good kid, but I didn't raise him to be a lazy bum. L-A-Z-Y!! You know when he did his laundry last?? November!! ARRRGGGHHHH!! emoticon I will not cave and do it for him. No way!! The gap year was a big mistake and I think my husband agrees with me now. I know ( I hope) this phase shall pass, but my sanity sure is suffering. Pray for me! emoticon

  
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IAMSHE-RA 3/12/2014 9:02AM

    Thanks guys. I've been the full time "mom" figure for Bud since he was 9 years old. His mom is physically out of the picture, but keeps in touch regularly. She's been sending him (guilt) money and I've asked her to stop or at least cut the amount down cuz all he's spending it on is pizza and computer games. She was actually surprised when I told her what he was spending it on! Really?! Don't you know your son? Gah! Anyway she said she'd try to help and I've asked my husband to make sure his college applications are done by this Sunday. I'm not holding my breath, but he said he'd do it. I do NOT want an extension to the gap year!

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NGCHILD 3/11/2014 10:49PM

    I agree.....tough love Libby Lou! I will pray for an end to your couch potato and for strength and patience!!

I disagree with the gap too. Big BIG mistake. Your hubby needs a wake up call as well. Does he want a constant mooch for the rest if his life??

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JOHNMARTINMILES 3/11/2014 8:55AM

    This appears to be a time for tough love. Unfortunately, if dad is not willing to engage in tough love and tell Bud to get the hell out and do something, school, job, volunteer work, you will come across as bitch step mom. Unfortunately this appears to be one of those things you need the serenity to accept because you cannot change it. Bud is acting like a bum and dad is enabling him. Oftentimes this is motivated by a spoken or unspoken threat to move in with mom if you don't treat me right.

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RIDLEYRIDER 3/11/2014 8:53AM

  Yup, I'd buy him a one-way ticket to mooch off his mother, but that's just an outsider's opinion. Your husband is enabling his behavior and may soon see that he needs to get his act together, for your benefit, not just his. Good luck with this, as I fear the gap year may get extended......

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Work Advice Needed Please!

Thursday, January 30, 2014

I've just been given the opportunity to manage a co-worker. While it is a great opportunity for me I'm thinking of turning it down. Not because of the work involved, but because I've worked with this woman for over 10 years and we have a very good relationship. Back when I interviewed for this job she was one of the people who interviewed me! Also, she had the opportunity to manage me a few years back and refused. Oh and she's been with the company for over 25 years. I'm flattered but I think I need to pass. I don't want to ruin a really good working relationship with someone especially when there's not much for me to gain. (I took on a management role last year with no title promotion or pay raise, although I did get a raise this year). Part of me is ambitious and really wants to grow, but I know how I would feel if one of my equals was suddenly asked to manage me. I'd be insulted and feel put out. I don't know if I can deal with it. Advice please!!! Thanks!

  
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LOWFATFOODIE 2/1/2014 2:31PM

    I'd go with your gut instincts. I see no immediate upside either. The only thing I'd do to hedge my bets is ask the work friend if she was planning on leaving anytime soon. 25 years is a long time- could she be retiring soon?
If not, I'm with you. At the very least, some OTHER manager is trying to pawn off someone onto you. Don't know if this friend is a low-performer, but bigwigs don't move people around for NO reason. someone likely wants to look better by having one less employee to manage or wants you to look worse by sticking you with more work or someone they don't work well with.


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IAMSHE-RA 1/31/2014 9:06AM

    My husband doesn't understand my moral dilemma. He doesn't understand why I didn't jump at the opportunity. It's a delicate situation and I'm really not gaining anything by taking this on. There is no promotion and there is no pay increase associated with this in the short term. In the long term I may see a reward, but for now, it's just more work and the possibility of losing a friend with no added benefits. Does the pros outweigh the cons? Not sure yet.

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NGCHILD 1/30/2014 1:57PM

    Could you approach her and ask her what she would think about you accepting the promotion? If it will help your career, you should give it a shot. If you are really friends with her, she should understand.

Give it some thought and pray on it. I will be thinking about you!

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PIXIECUTE 1/30/2014 11:54AM

    There are no guarantees in this world - your friend has been with the company a long time which could mean she'd leave sooner rather than later. Don't pass up good opportunities for fear of hurting your relationship because relationships & people at work constantly change and evolve - it's part of any business. If this is a fun opportunity that will help you GROW in your career, you owe it to the hard-working, ambitious side of you to take it. Negotiate a good pay increase (don't take it without monetary compensation!)... and lastly, talk to your co-worker before it's announced. Do all you can to not boss her around i.e. be a firm but fair manager. YOU can dictate how that relationship will be.

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Friday Funnies

Friday, January 10, 2014

To Brighten Your Day....



















Happy Friday!

  
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LJOYCE55 1/10/2014 10:06AM

  I absolutely agree with the coffee buzz.

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My Top 10 Christmas Songs

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Merry Christmas to those of you who celebrate! I forced myself to wait until after Thanksgiving before I would listen to a single Christmas song. Now that we are well past Thanksgiving Christmas music is ALL I'm listening to.

My top 10 songs this year are:

10. Hey Santa - Carney & Wendy Wilson
9. My Grown-Up Christmas List - Kelly Clarkson
8. All I Want For Christmas Is You - Vince Vance & the Valiants
7. Christmas Wrapping - The Waitresses
6. Something About December - Christina Perri
5. Oh Come All Ye Faithful - Josh Groban
4. Angels We have Heard On High - The Glee Cast
3. Every Time It Snows - Olivia Newton-John & Jon Secada
2. The Santa Claus Boogie - The Tractors
1. I'll Be Home For Christmas - Toby Keith (a very nice country version)

This list could change tomorrow, but I'm really enjoying these song today.

What are you listening to? Let me know because it may be a song I don't have and I'll have to download it immediately before the season is over!!

Have a lovely Wednesday!



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NGCHILD 12/11/2013 10:01PM

    Ooooo! I love your list! I love anything by the Carpenter's, Dean Martin, Andy Williams, Frank Sinatra or Bing Crosby. We have sirius in the Tahoe and I am addicted to the 40's station. I can't wait for Thanksgiving because the weekend after they start playing the music. I'm a dork, I admit it.

I actually listen to it all year long. LOL

Fa la la la la!

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