Monday, May 21, 2012
Hard Work! " Hard work pays off." We've all heard it said many times. " Yea, Yea, Yea, might work for some, but not me." " Create a deficit; burn more calories." Well, the government does a fine job of creating a deficit so all I have to do is burn more calories! Hey! That must be the answer? NOT.
I always scoffed at those kinds of infomercials and ads and magazine articles on how to lose weight. O, come on, they get paid to say that stuff and have all those skinner-than-healthy bodies and men with re-touched photos that make you want to melt. Well, some are, no doubt just saying that for money.
But I'm saying it because I have learned the hard way that what they are saying it TRUE. It does take a lot of work to get to any goal. Just look at the olympic competition and how they train. That tells me something right there. It takes commitment. It takes determination, it takes diligence and it takes discipline.
Sad but true. I have to lower my pride and admit someone else knows what they are talking about!! They are so right, that I started taking their advise and here I am at 158! Just doing what they said would do it: hard work. But you know what? Once you get past the "I really don't feel like doing this" (I'll call that self-pride) you find that you want to keep up the good work because you start to see yourself in a different way than when you first started.
It's like going through a closet after losing some weight. Some clothes just won't fit anymore and some need to be thrown out to Good Will. Maybe there are a few you can take in a little bit to fit, but mostly you find that the old stuff just doesn't fit anymore than a bad attitude.
Sunday, May 20, 2012
I've always had snack attacks while at the computer. Before I would just grab anything sweet and enjoy it. But since I've had bariatric surgery, I can't/won't do that anymore. So I came up with a solution that maybe will help you, too.
I have to take calcium and vitamins everyday since my diet is very restricted. I have to take them in chewable form since I can't take anything like a pill that is bigger than a Tic Tac. So, I put these beside my computer. When I get a snack attack, I have them instead, plus the extra bonus of REMEMBERING to take them! They are right there in front of my so I don't forget to take them. After all, they solved the problem of unnecessary snacking!
Friday, May 18, 2012
Why do we so often try to fool ourselves and lie? Let's get real...change is very hard. I've often wondered why I would want to do something different...like exercise more, eat less...and yet never get into gear with it. I finally came to the conclusion that in order to change you really have to want to change. Easier said than done, right?
We get so comfortable being uncomfortable that we just don't know "how to" sometimes. Where do I start to get motivated? What keeps me from doing what I KNOW I should do, but don't? I've learned over the years through insecurity, negative conditioning, and a false belief system are some of the things that held me back. Lack of self confidence is a killer. It's probably one of the things at the top of the list for suicide. Don't quote me on that, but I'm sure if they did a study that's what they'd find.
For me it was self-rejection. There I've finally admitted it. I have hated myself, blamed myself, condemned myself all these years....and I asked myself one day "why? What did you do that was so terrible?" I thought about that for a long time. Finally I came to the conclusion that I had been trained to think that way by the very people who were supposed to love and nurture me. I was made to feel like I couldn't do anything right, didn't listen, that something was wrong with me, that I should just shut up...the list is endless.
Then it finally dawned on me to think, "Why am I listening to these "voices" from the past? That was so long ago and here I am still convinced they were so right. WRONG!
I have come to a turning point in my life. Aerosmith sings a song "It's Amazing", in the blink of an eye you finally see the light."
Here's what I'm trying to say: What my parents were throwing on me is what they actually believed about themselves, but couldn't look at themselves and see it; they acted it out on me. Do you see what I'm saying? Example: Mom always would say, "You never do anything right.:" and yet she would never tell me how I should do "it" whatever "it" was. Or she'd say, "Why don't you ever listen?" Why should I? No one ever listened to me or ever asked me what I thought. I could go on but I hope by now you get the point.
So, I have come to the conclusion that my parents were very wrong in the way they did things. Going to church does not make one a Christian anymore than having a baby makes one a parent. And I decided that I was a normal kid who just had bad parents. I'm still normal--ha--whatever that means!!
Most of us live by echoes of what our parents taught us sub-consciously. Sad, but true. I say most because some are fortunate enough to have good parenting skills from day one. God bless them. For the other 99%, learning to love yourself takes you a long way from home.
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