Monday, March 01, 2010
I've spent the last week at a friend's house in Oregon while my hubby is getting our new place ready (He doesn't like me around when the big stuff is being moved, he's nervous that I'll get in the way and get hurt! LOL)
The people I'm staying with are wonderful folks, a single Dad who introduced me to my hubby 20 yrs ago... he now lives with his 14-yr-old daughter-- and a 21-yr-old borderline autistic 'stepson' who is really into computer games...LOL A pretty active household, and his daughter's half-brother and half-sister (both autistic too) have been to visit several days this last week.
It was brought home to me that we are all very different in our concept of what a healthy meal should look like. It's worse than guessing at things in a restaurant... the family is part Croatian and their tastes run to things like sauerkraut and blood sausage, and any ethnic food that is hot and spicy! And the daughter is a budding gourmet chef-- YUM! LOL...
I've had to pick and choose, and it's been a real challenge trying to figure out what they put in some of it! LOL
My "gratitude project" has given me a different vantage point, and not only am I grateful for having such a pleasant place to stay, I am really grateful for the opportunity to understand a bit more about different family dynamics and culture... and I'm grateful we had the opportunity to look at some new projects together. We even built a doghouse this weekend! LOL
We are all planning to attend a historic society or fantasy event (we haven't decided which yet! LOL) together in June, so there is something to look forward to as well.
Life is a wonder, isn't it though? It's a roller-coaster ride, and sure there are highs and lows, but that's the thrill of it, y'know?
And it's all good...
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
I've been really trying to use the techniques I've been learning to improve my life. Like, I have a "gratitude rock" I've been carrying around in my pocket. Every morning, when I put it in my pocket, I think about the things I'm grateful for. When I empty my pockets at bedtime, there it is again. And, every time I put my hands in my pocket, it's there reminding me and I go through that mental list of gratefulness...
It's interesting how we seem to sabotage ourselves... when things are going very well, it seems like our subconscious mind gets in there and tells us it's too good to be true so it has to do something to fix that...
I've been working on packing things for the upcoming move, so I've been cleaning--I refuse to pack anything that's dirty! LOL
While I've been doing that the last few days, every time I turn around (pretty literally it seems LOL) I'm spilling something. There was a container of hot water sitting on the counter day before yesterday, and I turned around and caught it with my elbow. The dish went flying (thankfully, not breakable!) and the water went down my leg and all over the floor. Yesterday, I was cleaning the cat litter, and when I was transfering the clumps to the garbage can, the side of the container collapsed and I had dirty litter all over my floor. This morning, I set a glass of water on the counter and reached for my medications--and I am still not sure how the glass fell over, but there's water all over my kitchen counter and floor...
Hm. I think something is trying to tell me something! LOL
I'm having a chat with my unconsious mind this morning, putting in an order for a perfect day. I believe the things we tell ourselves make a difference, so I'm going to see if I can put a positive spin on these events.
I'm grateful I was wearing a pair of old jeans that were too big for me-- also something to be grateful for! LOL-- When the water went down my leg, I got the hot water off my skin just by pulling the fabric away from my leg. I stripped them off a minute later, and the skin got a little pink but it didn't burn...
The litter was messy to clean up, but I had to clean the floor anyway--and I found the key that went missing last week...
The glass didn't break, and my counter is now mopped up--and free of crumbs too! LOL
Just changing the way I've been looking at things... It's already a better day, I feel like laughing and I can feel the energy picking up. I think I'll put on some inspirational music, and make my grocery list-- it's shopping day! HURRAY! LOL
I think this technique may be helpful with the whole weight-loss health-gain thing too... looking at how far I've come and how much improvement I've made rather than wishing things were farther along and kicking myself for not getting it done faster, and keeping my eye on the end results and finding inspiration and opportunities in the things that happen along the way...
Saturday, February 06, 2010
DH and I are moving again... and even though circumstances pushed us into it, somehow it seems different this time. We were excited when we moved into the place but being here... well, let's just say, it wasn't what we expected! LOL One thing being here has done: it has given us an opportunity to spend more time together, and learn a little more about sharing our expectations and what we want in life, and in our relationship in particular.
And, of course, it was here that a friend introduced us to The Secret... I know, I'm starting to sound like a fanatic! LOL It's just that the timing was so perfect, and learning to focus on what we want rather than giving energy to what we DON'T has been so liberating...
Our attitudes have turned around, and we appreciate what we have and where we are~ and instead of moaning and groaning because things didn't go the way we wished they would, now, we're actually looking forward to this as an opportunity to improve our lifestyle! LOL
I've always known that the attitude with which you face things can change your outcome in unexpected ways... but there is a difference between knowing something and applying that knowledge~ and when you're with someone else whose attitudes or feelings rub off on you, you can really end up in some "places" you don't want to go.
Now that we're both actually PRACTICING what we have learned, it makes SUCH a difference! DH ran into an old neighbor of ours, who is living in what he says is a very nice neighborhood, very quiet~ and they have vacancies there... and we have a large sum of money coming next week, which is when we have to leave anyway.
The timing is perfect on this too! LOL
It's wonderful. Life is good... and getting better all the time!
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Just some more thoughts on that last blog of mine... I fell asleep thinking about a good night of rest, and I actually slept for seven hours straight last night... the first time in a long while! LOL
It's the last day of the month, and as I look back, I notice that Life has been busily throwing lemons into my path this past four weeks: plans that had to be cancelled last minute, car break-downs, running out of things and not being able to find replacements... and it isn't bothering me near as much as it used to.
As I think I mentioned, I've been reading THE SECRET, and it got me thinking about that old quote of Abraham Lincoln's..."Folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
According to the book, I bring things to myself by what I focus our energy on. If I look at life through a negative filter ("I don't want to be fat," "I'm trying to lose weight," "I hope my car doesn't break down..." etc) I am giving my energy over to undesirable things, attracting the very things I'm trying to ban from my life, BECAUSE I am trying to ban them. Basically, that's going about it wrong.
Conversely, I should be able to focus on what I want in a positive way ("I look and feel fantastic at my new weight!", "I love the new car I have planned, I can feel the steering wheel under my hands," etc) and attract those things.
The whole point of the book is being happy about what we are aiming for, putting positive energy into it and expecting the best, and taking advantage of the opportunities that open up.
I just remembered another old adage. "You find what you're looking for." If I expect people to act out, or to treat me with disrespect, if I expect negative things, there they are. If I expect respect...I'm much more likely to get it. THAT one I KNOW is true! LOL
As to the book again, whether or not I "choose" the things that Life throws my way, I definitely choose my attitude about them... and at this point it's probably a good thing that I love lemonade! LOL
Lately, I've noticed that a lot of challenges sent my way seem to be opportunities in disguise...
Today, I'm going to try an experiment from the book and try to put some real, happy energy into the things I want to have happen, and see if I can create a wonderful day in advance... I've always believed that we write our own stories, so I don't see why it shouldn't work! LOL
Saturday, January 23, 2010
I was reading someone's blog this morning, and she was talking about trying to quit having a love affair with a particular food... and it reminded me of something else I'd been reading. (A lot of reading going on at my house lately! LOL)
Because I have specific medical issues directly affected by my food choices, this has been a real challenge.
When ever we pay attention to something, positively OR negatively, we are giving energy to it.
Guess what happens when someone tells you not to think about elephants. Guess where your thoughts go! LOL And then, of course, whatever it is you are saying you don't want takes the (negative) energy you're giving it and manifests itself in your life.
Whenever I decide to stop eating a particular food, suddenly it is EVERYWHERE! The cheescake samples being given away at the grocery store bakery... the huge slice of cherry pie being consumed by the people at the table next to me in a restaurant... and it's also suddenly the one thing in the world that I really WANT! LOL
I've made it harder for myself by trying to deny it, adding vigorous energy to my thoughts of not having it~ and doing so perpetuates the thoughts! It becomes a cycle.
I found that the best way for me is not necessarily denial. Instead, I concentrate on the things that are good for me that I have also learned to love. The savory flavor of salmon or cod adorned by lemon slices and freshly ground pepper, the taste and texture of whole grains, the refreshing sweet tang of ripe berries or the juicy crunch of an apple, the creamy richness of a ripe avocado... and I don't miss out on the "goodies" either. I plan them.
Yes, that's right. Thank goodness for SparkPeople, because now I can plan my menus ahead of time to include all these wonderful things... and I add what some may consider indulgences, in their place and in suitable portions... but to me they are now just foods, with their own contributions to make to my nutrient needs. A slice of cheese has essential calcium, and I reduce the fat elsewhere. An ounce of rich, dark chocolate is chock full of antioxidants. The sugar in it is a carb that gets taken into account in my daily total.
It seems to me that by placing my attention on ALL the wonderful things I can have, I don't see what used to be treats as that any more... and I don't really care if I eat them or not.
Because of all this, I realized recently that a lot of the "New Age" things I read when I was growing up must have had a greater impact on this process than I ever realized. Those funky old books actually had a great deal of truth to them.
Let me think, what's that old quote... hm...
"Eat to live, don't live to eat."
Someone gave my hubby a copy of "THE SECRET", which we have been reading together
... and it actually just confirmed all this for me.
In a nutshell... the best way for me to deal with an addiction (even to food LOL) is to stop feeding it attention by paying attention to the alternatives instead...
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