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Wisdom found in odd places...

Sunday, March 14, 2010

I was watching one of the few 'reality' shows I consider worth watching--EXTREME MAKEOVERS:HOME EDITION-- yesterday, where a team goes in and rebuilds homes for people in need, either because of disasters, personal injury/illness, and because they give a service and/or provide inspiration to their community. It's a wonderful show, and every episode has a happy ending. One of the guest recipients made a comment that when you do good things, good things come to you... how true! LOL

Another thing really struck me though. The team built a home for this family who had extra room on their property where they try to offer homeless people a place to rebuild their lives. Considering the things that have happened in my own life in the last year or so, it really touched me. The shelter the family offered wasn't much but it was a start-- and the team not only built a new home for this family, they took their old home and renovated and upgraded it so it too was beautiful.

Then the host, Ty Pennington, offering his commendation to the family, made the remark that the people they helped now would have a better chance of learning and moving forward, because now they too would have a beautiful place to live, and 'where you live is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.' And the wife said that the people they take in become part of the family, and learn that they are important, that they count for something...

Seems to me they are wiser than they know.

Think about it. Doesn't that also apply to how we take care of ourselves? We struggle with the outer things, the weight loss and attending health issues, and often don't stop to consider that it is a manifestation of how we feel about ourselves. We treat ourselves as if others were more important, that we don't count. But we are part of the family of all mankind, and each one of us really IS important, we DO count for something...

I think that old Golden Rule works both ways... we need to treat others as we would wish to be treated, but we also need to treat ourselves as kindly as we would if we were someone else!

Today I am going to try my best to be as entertaining, kind and comforting, encouraging, and wise for myself as I would if I were my own honored guest...

Wish me luck! LOL
Kathy emoticon

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VXWALL1942 3/22/2010 2:21PM

    What a wonderful and inspiring blog. Your words brought me to a point of reflection and recognition. Knowing how to care for ourselves creates the proper environment for doing for others. I'm afraid when we put ourselves last we give the impression we are less worthy and that is simply not true. Keep the faith...you and I are strong and important. Love yourself first so that you may be lovable.

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LITTLEWIND53 3/21/2010 3:08AM

    Very profound and deeply appreciated. Thank you for sharing.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 3/21/2010 2:24AM

What a wonderful blog!!! I so agree with your statement..."Today I am going to try my best to be as entertaining, kind and comforting, encouraging, and wise for myself as I would if I were my own honored guest..."
I hope you don't mind if I copy it and post it on my refrigerator door. I really want to remember this.
Best of luck to you, my friend!!
Blessings and hugs,

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CJD2000 3/18/2010 9:52AM

    It seems you've struck a chord again, Kathy. Keep them coming!
Cathy emoticon

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DONNAKHA 3/14/2010 12:04PM

    Adopting the "help others" and "take care of yourself" mind-set are very much in line with The Spark Way. You are very clever to notice that so many of us are only good at one half of the equation.

As the mother of three, I have spent a lifetime putting my own needs last, but I am now trying hard to turn that around where my health is concerned. I like to encourage others on SP to "get stubborn and selfish" about maintaining consistency in making healthy choices. It seems to me that SparkStreaks of small goals are an often overlooked, very powerful motivator to do so. So many Sparkers start out strong but lose momentum.

So good for you for turning your helpful nature inward. Who in the world could be more deserving than YOU?


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JANNIEWANNIE 3/14/2010 12:01PM

    Good Luck by all means. Thank you for sharing this tremendously powerful insight. How did we become so estranged from our own selves? I guess the answer doesn't matter if we live in the solution. I am so grateful for this wisdom you shared today. Hugs from Janet in central Illinois.

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WOWEETOO 3/14/2010 11:13AM

    my son worked on one of those extreme makeover housesin kirkland i think several years ago..he said it was the most wonderful thing and he had such a good time it rained all week and that was the one where they redidthe swimmingpool and built a garage and all that hoohah he sure was excited about being there and doing that
the lady mary

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SANDRAFIVE 3/14/2010 10:56AM

    This has given me a lot to think about. I do need to be as helpful to myself as I am to others. Thanks.

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CALAMITYJANE44 3/14/2010 10:26AM

    Beautiful sentiments indeed. I believe firmly in the law of sowing and reaping. If you sow goodness into your own life as well as others' lives you will reap a good harvest!


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I'm Finally Home!...

Tuesday, March 09, 2010

I'm usually pretty organized, or at least before the FMS I used to be LOL... but even without that, there's always that last minute stuff, with DH hovering and saying HURRY HURRY... well. LOL

Maybe that's why unpacking after a move feels kind of like Christmas. Maybe it's just opening the boxes that were thrown together at the last... and not having a clue what's in them! LOL

There's still so much to do... and with my FMS is acting up, it's hard to even THINK. LOL

The landlord lost the key to the mailbox so we need a new mailbox. Once that's done, I need to notify my doctors, the social worker, my attorney, my FAMILY... not necessarily in that order! LOL

We have to make arrangements for a truck next weekend to get the rest of our things from storage at DH's sister's.

Then we have to move the refrigerator to make room for the washer and dryer the landlord is supposed to bring over.

I don't have a step stool, so DH has to clean the kitchen cupboards out before I can finish filling them. (Honey dew this, honey dew that LOL Poor fellow, he has to go to work too!)

The floors are dirty. Not only do I need to clean them, but they are extremely cold: there are no rugs or carpets-- which is probably a good thing for now, because there are wood shavings all over from where the landlord put in a new front door and didn't clean up after... can you imagine trying to get that off a carpet? No thank you! LOL

...and, of course, we found out last night that the bedroom door won't even close, the knob shifted when they attached it and it sticks out the side almost half an inch! LOL

The landlord didn't paint either, but I am NOT doing that for him! LOL Unless... hm. I wonder how much he'd take off the rent if we did? I mean, there is that "honey dew..." LOL I think DH would flip! LOL

In case you can't tell, this isn't the Ritz-- but for right now, it's OURS! And I LOVE it!

Just one thought though.

That HURRY HURRY stuff... it not only leaves us exhausted and frazzled, it causes more mistakes that lead to more on that "honey dew" list, because when we do things in a hurry, things break, mistakes are more drastic, we skip over the basic common sense stuff because we're too busy "putting out fires", we make more work for ourselves later-- and what we do doesn't seem to last.

Kind of like this whole weight-loss, health-building thing. A good foundation takes time to build. A clean and healthy home-- or business-- or relationship-- or lifestyle-- takes time to put together... and time for maintenance too.

I want a better life for myself and those I love, and I want it to really last.

I plan on taking the time to do it right this time around...

Kathy emoticon

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LITTLEWIND53 3/21/2010 3:23AM

    My mom used to have a saying

"The hurrier I go, the behinder I get"

I don't know where the saying originated, but sure seems to hit the nail on the head! Thanks to Helen for reminding me of it.

Glad you are (or got) moved into your new home sweet home.


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MOMMA_BEAR_69 3/21/2010 2:17AM

    Congratulations on being in your new home. Sounds like a lot still going on...take one thing at a time, one day at a time and you will soon have it all where you want it...or semi-close at least. I know that the more I hurry the further behind I get. Best of luck to you on getting everything straightened out.
Blessings and hugs,

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WOWEETOO 3/9/2010 11:52AM

    you know this time next week this will all be a memory and another laugh to enjoy down the road this has been a long 6 months for you guys for sure or has it been longer?? lol
know it will be better for sure
love and hugs
the lady mary

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Hiatus from moving...

Monday, March 01, 2010

I've spent the last week at a friend's house in Oregon while my hubby is getting our new place ready (He doesn't like me around when the big stuff is being moved, he's nervous that I'll get in the way and get hurt! LOL)

The people I'm staying with are wonderful folks, a single Dad who introduced me to my hubby 20 yrs ago... he now lives with his 14-yr-old daughter-- and a 21-yr-old borderline autistic 'stepson' who is really into computer games...LOL A pretty active household, and his daughter's half-brother and half-sister (both autistic too) have been to visit several days this last week.

It was brought home to me that we are all very different in our concept of what a healthy meal should look like. It's worse than guessing at things in a restaurant... the family is part Croatian and their tastes run to things like sauerkraut and blood sausage, and any ethnic food that is hot and spicy! And the daughter is a budding gourmet chef-- YUM! LOL...

I've had to pick and choose, and it's been a real challenge trying to figure out what they put in some of it! LOL

My "gratitude project" has given me a different vantage point, and not only am I grateful for having such a pleasant place to stay, I am really grateful for the opportunity to understand a bit more about different family dynamics and culture... and I'm grateful we had the opportunity to look at some new projects together. We even built a doghouse this weekend! LOL

We are all planning to attend a historic society or fantasy event (we haven't decided which yet! LOL) together in June, so there is something to look forward to as well.

Life is a wonder, isn't it though? It's a roller-coaster ride, and sure there are highs and lows, but that's the thrill of it, y'know?

And it's all good...
Kathy emoticon emoticon

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 3/7/2010 10:36PM

    Sounds like you are having a wonderful time!!! WAY TO GO on being able to pick and choose among the foods. I am sure you have been a blessing to them.
Blessings and hugs,

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WOWEETOO 3/1/2010 12:14PM

    yep nothing like being immersed in a 'foreign' culture for a bit what a wonderful life you are having my friend!!
love and hugs the lady mary

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What the...??

Tuesday, February 09, 2010

I've been really trying to use the techniques I've been learning to improve my life. Like, I have a "gratitude rock" I've been carrying around in my pocket. Every morning, when I put it in my pocket, I think about the things I'm grateful for. When I empty my pockets at bedtime, there it is again. And, every time I put my hands in my pocket, it's there reminding me and I go through that mental list of gratefulness...

It's interesting how we seem to sabotage ourselves... when things are going very well, it seems like our subconscious mind gets in there and tells us it's too good to be true so it has to do something to fix that...

I've been working on packing things for the upcoming move, so I've been cleaning--I refuse to pack anything that's dirty! LOL

While I've been doing that the last few days, every time I turn around (pretty literally it seems LOL) I'm spilling something. There was a container of hot water sitting on the counter day before yesterday, and I turned around and caught it with my elbow. The dish went flying (thankfully, not breakable!) and the water went down my leg and all over the floor. Yesterday, I was cleaning the cat litter, and when I was transfering the clumps to the garbage can, the side of the container collapsed and I had dirty litter all over my floor. This morning, I set a glass of water on the counter and reached for my medications--and I am still not sure how the glass fell over, but there's water all over my kitchen counter and floor...

Hm. I think something is trying to tell me something! LOL

I'm having a chat with my unconsious mind this morning, putting in an order for a perfect day. I believe the things we tell ourselves make a difference, so I'm going to see if I can put a positive spin on these events.

I'm grateful I was wearing a pair of old jeans that were too big for me-- also something to be grateful for! LOL-- When the water went down my leg, I got the hot water off my skin just by pulling the fabric away from my leg. I stripped them off a minute later, and the skin got a little pink but it didn't burn...

The litter was messy to clean up, but I had to clean the floor anyway--and I found the key that went missing last week...

The glass didn't break, and my counter is now mopped up--and free of crumbs too! LOL

Just changing the way I've been looking at things... It's already a better day, I feel like laughing and I can feel the energy picking up. I think I'll put on some inspirational music, and make my grocery list-- it's shopping day! HURRAY! LOL

I think this technique may be helpful with the whole weight-loss health-gain thing too... looking at how far I've come and how much improvement I've made rather than wishing things were farther along and kicking myself for not getting it done faster, and keeping my eye on the end results and finding inspiration and opportunities in the things that happen along the way...


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IRONGRACE 2/27/2010 6:07PM

    I love your attitude and the gratitude stone idea!.
I have practiced using gratitude in the past and it always lifts me up.
I have not been remembering to utilize this much lately.
Thanks for the reminder!


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LAINYC 2/26/2010 10:24AM

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IM_GETTIN_THIN 2/25/2010 11:33AM

    keep that positive attitude going! emoticon

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TLROYER 2/25/2010 8:23AM

    Great way to look at the bright side of things. Good luck on your journey!

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IMJUSTFLUFFY 2/25/2010 2:21AM

    I was chuckling reading this blog as that is all I'm good for any more is falling, tripping, stumbling, bumping, spilling, dropping, breaking, making another mess I have to clean up!
I like your turning the negatives around though!
I'm going to find me a pocket full of stones. I will call one Grace & another Poise! tee hee!
Have a great end of week & weekend.

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CJD2000 2/10/2010 3:59PM

    So true! Really enjoyed reading this!

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SEAKRITS 2/9/2010 11:11AM

    Oh I lol'ed at your post! What a great way to look at the bright side of things. I need to try that sometime. Haha!

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WOWEETOO 2/9/2010 11:01AM

    yep it's always something for sure
love and hugs my friend
the lady mary

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POPPINPENGUIN 2/9/2010 11:00AM

    that is good advise. I need to look at the good side of things too. Thank you for posting this. i am glad I read it. My day will be now trying to find good in everything. I may get a rock to remind me too.
Keep up the good work. emoticon

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Something New...

Saturday, February 06, 2010

DH and I are moving again... and even though circumstances pushed us into it, somehow it seems different this time. We were excited when we moved into the place but being here... well, let's just say, it wasn't what we expected! LOL One thing being here has done: it has given us an opportunity to spend more time together, and learn a little more about sharing our expectations and what we want in life, and in our relationship in particular.

And, of course, it was here that a friend introduced us to The Secret... I know, I'm starting to sound like a fanatic! LOL It's just that the timing was so perfect, and learning to focus on what we want rather than giving energy to what we DON'T has been so liberating...

Our attitudes have turned around, and we appreciate what we have and where we are~ and instead of moaning and groaning because things didn't go the way we wished they would, now, we're actually looking forward to this as an opportunity to improve our lifestyle! LOL

I've always known that the attitude with which you face things can change your outcome in unexpected ways... but there is a difference between knowing something and applying that knowledge~ and when you're with someone else whose attitudes or feelings rub off on you, you can really end up in some "places" you don't want to go.

Now that we're both actually PRACTICING what we have learned, it makes SUCH a difference! DH ran into an old neighbor of ours, who is living in what he says is a very nice neighborhood, very quiet~ and they have vacancies there... and we have a large sum of money coming next week, which is when we have to leave anyway.

The timing is perfect on this too! LOL

It's wonderful. Life is good... and getting better all the time!


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WOWEETOO 2/6/2010 5:09PM

love and hugs the lady mary!!!

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KIMSHIDELER 2/6/2010 4:40PM

    I absolutely love your outlook!! Way to be positvie!! Goos things will come your way!!

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