Sunday, March 14, 2010
I was watching one of the few 'reality' shows I consider worth watching--EXTREME MAKEOVERS:HOME EDITION-- yesterday, where a team goes in and rebuilds homes for people in need, either because of disasters, personal injury/illness, and because they give a service and/or provide inspiration to their community. It's a wonderful show, and every episode has a happy ending. One of the guest recipients made a comment that when you do good things, good things come to you... how true! LOL
Another thing really struck me though. The team built a home for this family who had extra room on their property where they try to offer homeless people a place to rebuild their lives. Considering the things that have happened in my own life in the last year or so, it really touched me. The shelter the family offered wasn't much but it was a start-- and the team not only built a new home for this family, they took their old home and renovated and upgraded it so it too was beautiful.
Then the host, Ty Pennington, offering his commendation to the family, made the remark that the people they helped now would have a better chance of learning and moving forward, because now they too would have a beautiful place to live, and 'where you live is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.' And the wife said that the people they take in become part of the family, and learn that they are important, that they count for something...
Seems to me they are wiser than they know.
Think about it. Doesn't that also apply to how we take care of ourselves? We struggle with the outer things, the weight loss and attending health issues, and often don't stop to consider that it is a manifestation of how we feel about ourselves. We treat ourselves as if others were more important, that we don't count. But we are part of the family of all mankind, and each one of us really IS important, we DO count for something...
I think that old Golden Rule works both ways... we need to treat others as we would wish to be treated, but we also need to treat ourselves as kindly as we would if we were someone else!
Today I am going to try my best to be as entertaining, kind and comforting, encouraging, and wise for myself as I would if I were my own honored guest...
Wish me luck! LOL
Tuesday, March 09, 2010
I'm usually pretty organized, or at least before the FMS I used to be LOL... but even without that, there's always that last minute stuff, with DH hovering and saying HURRY HURRY... well. LOL
Maybe that's why unpacking after a move feels kind of like Christmas. Maybe it's just opening the boxes that were thrown together at the last... and not having a clue what's in them! LOL
There's still so much to do... and with my FMS is acting up, it's hard to even THINK. LOL
The landlord lost the key to the mailbox so we need a new mailbox. Once that's done, I need to notify my doctors, the social worker, my attorney, my FAMILY... not necessarily in that order! LOL
We have to make arrangements for a truck next weekend to get the rest of our things from storage at DH's sister's.
Then we have to move the refrigerator to make room for the washer and dryer the landlord is supposed to bring over.
I don't have a step stool, so DH has to clean the kitchen cupboards out before I can finish filling them. (Honey dew this, honey dew that LOL Poor fellow, he has to go to work too!)
The floors are dirty. Not only do I need to clean them, but they are extremely cold: there are no rugs or carpets-- which is probably a good thing for now, because there are wood shavings all over from where the landlord put in a new front door and didn't clean up after... can you imagine trying to get that off a carpet? No thank you! LOL
...and, of course, we found out last night that the bedroom door won't even close, the knob shifted when they attached it and it sticks out the side almost half an inch! LOL
The landlord didn't paint either, but I am NOT doing that for him! LOL Unless... hm. I wonder how much he'd take off the rent if we did? I mean, there is that "honey dew..." LOL I think DH would flip! LOL
In case you can't tell, this isn't the Ritz-- but for right now, it's OURS! And I LOVE it!
Just one thought though.
That HURRY HURRY stuff... it not only leaves us exhausted and frazzled, it causes more mistakes that lead to more on that "honey dew" list, because when we do things in a hurry, things break, mistakes are more drastic, we skip over the basic common sense stuff because we're too busy "putting out fires", we make more work for ourselves later-- and what we do doesn't seem to last.
Kind of like this whole weight-loss, health-building thing. A good foundation takes time to build. A clean and healthy home-- or business-- or relationship-- or lifestyle-- takes time to put together... and time for maintenance too.
I want a better life for myself and those I love, and I want it to really last.
I plan on taking the time to do it right this time around...
Monday, March 01, 2010
I've spent the last week at a friend's house in Oregon while my hubby is getting our new place ready (He doesn't like me around when the big stuff is being moved, he's nervous that I'll get in the way and get hurt! LOL)
The people I'm staying with are wonderful folks, a single Dad who introduced me to my hubby 20 yrs ago... he now lives with his 14-yr-old daughter-- and a 21-yr-old borderline autistic 'stepson' who is really into computer games...LOL A pretty active household, and his daughter's half-brother and half-sister (both autistic too) have been to visit several days this last week.
It was brought home to me that we are all very different in our concept of what a healthy meal should look like. It's worse than guessing at things in a restaurant... the family is part Croatian and their tastes run to things like sauerkraut and blood sausage, and any ethnic food that is hot and spicy! And the daughter is a budding gourmet chef-- YUM! LOL...
I've had to pick and choose, and it's been a real challenge trying to figure out what they put in some of it! LOL
My "gratitude project" has given me a different vantage point, and not only am I grateful for having such a pleasant place to stay, I am really grateful for the opportunity to understand a bit more about different family dynamics and culture... and I'm grateful we had the opportunity to look at some new projects together. We even built a doghouse this weekend! LOL
We are all planning to attend a historic society or fantasy event (we haven't decided which yet! LOL) together in June, so there is something to look forward to as well.
Life is a wonder, isn't it though? It's a roller-coaster ride, and sure there are highs and lows, but that's the thrill of it, y'know?
And it's all good...
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
I've been really trying to use the techniques I've been learning to improve my life. Like, I have a "gratitude rock" I've been carrying around in my pocket. Every morning, when I put it in my pocket, I think about the things I'm grateful for. When I empty my pockets at bedtime, there it is again. And, every time I put my hands in my pocket, it's there reminding me and I go through that mental list of gratefulness...
It's interesting how we seem to sabotage ourselves... when things are going very well, it seems like our subconscious mind gets in there and tells us it's too good to be true so it has to do something to fix that...
I've been working on packing things for the upcoming move, so I've been cleaning--I refuse to pack anything that's dirty! LOL
While I've been doing that the last few days, every time I turn around (pretty literally it seems LOL) I'm spilling something. There was a container of hot water sitting on the counter day before yesterday, and I turned around and caught it with my elbow. The dish went flying (thankfully, not breakable!) and the water went down my leg and all over the floor. Yesterday, I was cleaning the cat litter, and when I was transfering the clumps to the garbage can, the side of the container collapsed and I had dirty litter all over my floor. This morning, I set a glass of water on the counter and reached for my medications--and I am still not sure how the glass fell over, but there's water all over my kitchen counter and floor...
Hm. I think something is trying to tell me something! LOL
I'm having a chat with my unconsious mind this morning, putting in an order for a perfect day. I believe the things we tell ourselves make a difference, so I'm going to see if I can put a positive spin on these events.
I'm grateful I was wearing a pair of old jeans that were too big for me-- also something to be grateful for! LOL-- When the water went down my leg, I got the hot water off my skin just by pulling the fabric away from my leg. I stripped them off a minute later, and the skin got a little pink but it didn't burn...
The litter was messy to clean up, but I had to clean the floor anyway--and I found the key that went missing last week...
The glass didn't break, and my counter is now mopped up--and free of crumbs too! LOL
Just changing the way I've been looking at things... It's already a better day, I feel like laughing and I can feel the energy picking up. I think I'll put on some inspirational music, and make my grocery list-- it's shopping day! HURRAY! LOL
I think this technique may be helpful with the whole weight-loss health-gain thing too... looking at how far I've come and how much improvement I've made rather than wishing things were farther along and kicking myself for not getting it done faster, and keeping my eye on the end results and finding inspiration and opportunities in the things that happen along the way...
Saturday, February 06, 2010
DH and I are moving again... and even though circumstances pushed us into it, somehow it seems different this time. We were excited when we moved into the place but being here... well, let's just say, it wasn't what we expected! LOL One thing being here has done: it has given us an opportunity to spend more time together, and learn a little more about sharing our expectations and what we want in life, and in our relationship in particular.
And, of course, it was here that a friend introduced us to The Secret... I know, I'm starting to sound like a fanatic! LOL It's just that the timing was so perfect, and learning to focus on what we want rather than giving energy to what we DON'T has been so liberating...
Our attitudes have turned around, and we appreciate what we have and where we are~ and instead of moaning and groaning because things didn't go the way we wished they would, now, we're actually looking forward to this as an opportunity to improve our lifestyle! LOL
I've always known that the attitude with which you face things can change your outcome in unexpected ways... but there is a difference between knowing something and applying that knowledge~ and when you're with someone else whose attitudes or feelings rub off on you, you can really end up in some "places" you don't want to go.
Now that we're both actually PRACTICING what we have learned, it makes SUCH a difference! DH ran into an old neighbor of ours, who is living in what he says is a very nice neighborhood, very quiet~ and they have vacancies there... and we have a large sum of money coming next week, which is when we have to leave anyway.
The timing is perfect on this too! LOL
It's wonderful. Life is good... and getting better all the time!
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