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Foreclosed Landlord... Again

Wednesday, September 03, 2014

3 months ago, a longtime friend (my husband has known him since high school and I met him 10 years ago when my hubby and I first started dating) asked if we'd be interested in moving into his rental house. It would be a good deal for all of us, as we weren't happy with the house we'd been living in for 5 years (houses way to close together and all of the yards being "community property") and they would benefit from having responsible tenants. They had had to evict the previous tenants for not paying for nearly a year, as we just learned. It seemed like it would benefit everyone, so we've been living here for the last 3 months

There has been some weird boundary issues with him, and especially his wife. Things were starting to improve and then her behavior got even stranger. She started lurking around the property when our car wasn't here. We only have 1 car, so I was here and confronted her. She gave some weird excuses and said it was her property and she could "view it" whenever she wanted. We had pretty much decided after that incident, we would move when we received our tax refund in 6 months or so.

I was going to have a talk with her husband to see if she had a medical issue or even a drug problem, but then they informed us 2 days ago that because of rent not being paid for that year, they had fallen too far behind and the house will go into foreclosure on the 10th of this month. They were chickens and came over to do a repair (after 3 months of telling them about it) and waited until I left with our son to do his popcorn fundraiser for Cub Scouts to break the news to just my husband.

So, I get the call that this house is going into foreclosure while having to keep smiling and sell popcorn to customers. I just can't believe that "friends" would do this! I uprooted my kids from the only house they can remember and transferred them to a new school in order to move here! I'm outraged, disgusted, and sick over this. School just started today and I have no idea where we'll be living and what school they'll go to when we get officially served by their bank!

We were in this situation 6 years ago and had lived in a house for a little over a year and it turned out that the landlord had not paid the mortgage in nearly 2 years. The kids were toddlers at the time and don't remember it at all, luckily. I have no idea how to explain this to the kids now. Especially with it being "friends" that caused this to happen!

This couple has also been on vacation nearly the whole summer. They have gone to Vegas, Arizona, the Oregon Coast, and many other vacations. It looks like that's where our rent money went...

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    I'm so sorry. Maybe now is a good time to speak to an attorney to see what your rights are in terms of receiving information about the foreclosure and to decide when you can legally move.

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BEACHCALSIX 9/4/2014 1:41PM

    oh that is ridiculous! I'd be super pissed and demand a refund, can you pursue this legally? That is unfair, get all your evidence together and show a judge. grrr!! emoticon

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APONI_KB 9/4/2014 1:01PM

    oh no I'm really sorry
Nothing helpful and all but I'm sorry about this mess.

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HILLSLUG98239 9/3/2014 6:57PM

    Ugh. Moving is stressful, and I don't have kids. I hope your family is able to make the adjustment, and I hope you find another house nearby so your kids don't have to move schools.

I can only imagine how disappointed you are. It's incredibly irresponsible to leave a renter high & dry. You might want to check with your state's laws and see what protections you have. It may be possible for you to stay in the house, because your family is the innocent victim of the owner's malfeasance. (Washington's Residential Landlord-Tenant Act puts nearly all of the power in the hands of the tenant, but because so few tenants know their rights, the landlord still has the power in most situations.)

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ROCKPORT9 9/3/2014 6:11PM

    So sorry for you and your family. This is stressful!

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HOT-MOMMY 9/3/2014 5:26PM

    The friend's house that we've only been renting for 3 months is now being foreclosed.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 9/3/2014 5:12PM

    now i am a bit confused.have you got the house from your husband life long friend who spoke to you 3 months ago or is that the house that is being forclosed?i am hoping it is your old house being forclosed and you have the new house to go to.either way will be praying that it will all work out to your families good in the end and see this as a new opertunity to re organise you stuff . emoticon

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Healthy, Inexpensive, Potluck Ideas?

Sunday, August 10, 2014

I have a potluck tomorrow and am looking for inexpensive, but healthy potluck ideas. There will be 20 - 40 people attending. I'm trying to get back on the healthy eating wagon. Thanks!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 8/11/2014 6:17AM

    various dips with chopped up veggies of the season are cheap and healthy and can be attractive arrange.rice salad or pasta salad can be made healthily(check out spark recipes)lentil chilli.vrgtable casseole again using vegtables of the season.have a look what the local shops have n sale at the moment and make accordingto ingrediants.could be fruit salad if fruits are on sale.i usually decide after i have seen what the shops have on offer.hope this helps emoticon

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ATGOALWT 8/10/2014 10:00PM

  I like Pinterest for ideas. Just google Pinterest inexpensive party foods and lodes of ideas with the recipes will appear.

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FOCUSD 8/10/2014 9:23PM

  I saw a cute idea for watermelon. You cut in half and put the open side on the tray. Then cut the dome of watermelon in a grid......make one inch cuts vertically and then horizontally. Leave it as is. People pick out a piece and eat like a popsicle. The shape holds itself.

Bought a watermelon today to try for our first day back to school.

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Out of the 300 lb Club!

Friday, May 16, 2014

I reached my heaviest weight recently of nearly 310 pounds. However, I am happy to say that I am now 299 pounds and have met one of my short term goals of getting out of the 300s!

I am so proud of myself, yet so ashamed at the same time. I want to be happy, but I really am having conflicted feelings. I want to shout it from the roof top that I am no longer 300+ pounds, but that would also involve admitting that I did once weigh that much. I want to be happy that I've lost 11 pounds, but it's also very daunting to think that I have so far to go before I reach my goal weight. I've lost nearly 6% of the weight that I want to, but that still leaves 94+% that I have left to lose.

I know I need to just take it one day at a time, but I'm a long-term planner, so it's hard to focus and be proud of today.

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JENSHAINES 5/18/2014 3:44PM

    You know what? You COMPLETELY rock!!! You SHOULD be shouting this from the rooftops - no shaming! You're taking your health into your hands and that is totally AWESOME!!!

Much love from an Azurita ;-) emoticon

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YENGLISH100 5/18/2014 11:07AM

    Great job on losing 11 pounds. Be proud of your progress. emoticon

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SUSANELAINE1956 5/17/2014 12:29PM

    emoticon on breaking that number. I understand how you feel. I rarely admit how high I was at my highest, and won't even admit to anyone not on SP where I am now. Really, it's no one's business. You are doing great and learning what works for you, and with every loss you are going to get more energy and feel better. If you can focus on that and your progress, the numbers are easier to accept. Keep up the good work. emoticon

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EVER-HOPEFUL 5/17/2014 4:40AM

    i remember when i got under the 300 as well.i started out at can do it love.also be proud of what you have done.if you donīt want to tell people your weight but still want the lob you can say you reach your first mini goal of 10 lbs and celerbrate every 10 lbs loss with people.believe me it is something to celerbrate.infact every lb lost should be celerbrated.i know you can do this.take one day ,one meal,one choice at a time that is less daunting than seeing the whole thing ,how much is still to go etc.well done emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MSILVER94 5/17/2014 12:45AM

    Well you can shout it from the roof tops here! Were so proud of you!!! Remember focus on one small goal at a time and you'll get there, don't think of it all it will overwhelm you! Big congrats! This is just proof you can do it!!!

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LMALSBURY 5/16/2014 10:35PM

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I remember when I went into Onederland for the first time. I was so excited and more determined to get the weight off. I de railed on that ride and gained weight but once again in onederland just a few weeks ago! Its great and a great feeling. I am trying to push even harder to get to my weight. I know you can do it!! Keep up the great work

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You should be extremely proud!

Sometimes focusing on the big picture can rob us of the joy of the current victories. Don't let that happen. Celebrate all of your success!

Each step takes you closer to where you want to be!!
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HILLSLUG98239 5/16/2014 6:03PM

    Good job!

Celebrate the success rather than regretting what got you there in the first place. It's always harder to regain fitness than it is to lose fitness, so you should be very proud of your tenacity.

Remember that you are so much more than that number on the scale. You deserve to be fit and healthy. I'm impressed with what you've done, because I know how easy it is to get side-tracked.

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GIVEMEFRIES 5/16/2014 4:58PM

    I know exactly how you feel. I once got down on myself for losing weight because I felt like I should have never gotten myself into that mess. All that negatively got to me and I gained back the weight and then some. I'm in the same boat as you, starting out at 300. Now I'm at 297 and I'm learning to count the small victories and celebrate just being able to move about and reach my goals.

Congratulations and many more 11lb. victories to come!

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BEACHCALSIX 5/16/2014 4:32PM

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Wow you are doing great! I felt the same way (and still do)
It feels like it takes forever but you just have to distract yourself and keep busy. When I'm bored I read a lot of SP blogs and articles or I go out and do something with my family. I try not to think about how much time it's taking. but when you think about it, it's not that long. what, maybe 8 months to a year of changing your habits leads to years and years at your goal and good health. That is SO worth it and only a tiny percentage of your time :)
Congrats on the loss so far, shout it from the rooftops! 11 pounds is great!!!
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Growing Avocados

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

I actually managed to grow an avocado from a pit!

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BANANAFANNAH 5/15/2014 2:44PM

    cool !!!

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    Impressive! I had no idea avocados would indoors.
Thanks for posting this.

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MSILVER94 5/15/2014 10:02AM

    Wow! I had a pit just yesterday and joked about planting it! That's awesome!

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Today Can Only Get Better...

Thursday, May 08, 2014

My morning started off really rough. I bought myself some chocolate covered Craisins as a treat for myself a couple of days ago. This morning, I found them on the couch and they had been cut open. I knew perfectly well that it was my daughter, but I am trying to have a calmer approach to dealing with her lying and taking things. She is almost 6-years-old, so I'm really trying to break her of these bad habits. Unfortunately, lying seems to be a genetic trait in my husband's family. I asked her calmly a few times if she did it and she looked me in the eye and lied to me. She then promised she'd never lie and take things again, which is a lie in itself, so I left her there with my husband and went to the store. I talked to my husband about his own selfish habits and told him that the kids pick up on it and how I feel disrespected a lot in our house by him and the kids. He blew me off as being over-dramatic.

At the store, I discovered that the hubby had lost his debit card and taken mine. It's not a big deal except for when I am stuck at the store with no way to pay! I was embarrassed and had to put everything back.

This led to another argument where he again refused to accept responsibility. He called from work to say he was sorry, but I told him that, for at least the kids' sake, he needs to take responsibility at the moment that he makes a mistake, not long after the fact.

When I was driving my daughter to school, my neighbor, who was driving her child to school, cut me off. When we were waiting for the kids' teachers, she tried making small talk, but I was not in a good mood and she was included in that after cutting me off! Rude!

I went to the store for the second time to buy the items that I couldn't buy before. Luckily, there was a different cashier. I would have been more embarrassed if it was the first gal. I also picked up some items to pamper myself after this rough start to my day. I am going to soak in a bubble bath and give myself a pedicure.

Today can only get better after this rough morning.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 5/9/2014 11:29AM

    i am having the same problem with my 8 year old not only taking things and lying about it but also hiding them as well.i am finding empty packaging in the most unusual places,lol.when you figure out how to stop it let us know.glad that you are pampering yourself to a bubble bath and pedicure and not food etc.take care and keep smiling emoticon

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    Sorry for the troubled morning! Hoping your day got exponentially better!

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BEACHCALSIX 5/8/2014 7:05PM

    sorry for the rough day, hope things are getting better!
My 3 year old disrespects me a lot and I am dealing with that now too.
We can get through this!

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HILLSLUG98239 5/8/2014 5:54PM

    I'm glad you can vent here. I do the same thing - it's why my SparkPeople world does not intermingle with my Facebook world.

Keep up the good (and painful and difficult) work in socializing your child to societal norms. I'm grateful my mom was "mean" - I cannot imagine what kind of train wreck I would be right now if it weren't for the fact she was more stubborn than me!

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