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Wednesday, July 18, 2012

wow, I haven't done one of these since MySpace! LOL They are going around on my feed and I do enjoy reading them, so here goes.

that, and there's really nothing new in my world. I'm getting ready to go camping with my hub's work and all their families for the weekend. My oldest has narrowed it down to 3 places, hoping one of them picks her (In San Fran you don't pick a place, they pick you) and still waiting to hear word from our lender, which won't be until after August or so (exasperating!!)

anyhow, not that this will tell you who I am, but enjoy. If you need to know more, why, just ask!!!

I saw a few of these on my feed so I figured I'd do it!

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE?
Yes. The Song "Corinna Corinna"

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED?
the last time I got on the scale? no...um...OH! I remember, I broke down in my science class with my daughter and threw a paper at the teacher. So, 5 months ago. "ish"

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?
If I take my time, like three hours to write my name I like it, otherwise I say "how in the heck did my hand write that??"

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT?
I am not into lunch meat at all. But if I have to choose it'd be either pastrami or corned beef.

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS?
yep, three girls, a grown man, and two dogs. What do you mean I can't count my husband??

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
Wouldn't the crazy girl off of The Breakfast Club? totally.

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT?
Probably too much.

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS?
Yes I do and it surprises me how many of you do too!!

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP?
Not on purpose I wouldn't !! I can't even get into a ferris wheel or elevator without creating a scene fueled with terror.

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL?
granola, or Grape Nuts.....frosted mini's are good too.

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?
No

12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG?
Nope...especially in the arms...weakling, legs are awesome though, spiritually, stronger than I realize (aren't we all?) emotionally, I wonder. LOL

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?
Mocha Almond Fudge gets me every time.

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE?
How they treat people. Really. I tend to be a wallflower and if I hear excessive cackle and gossip I walk away, but if I hear something "nice" I tend to try and blend. weird, but after years of being beat up, you learn to pick and choose.

15. RED OR PINK?
for what? A sunburn would obviously be pink and not red, but I want my lobster cooked red and not pink.

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF?
A constant fear of the outside world. It's true. I do. I fear what people think of me, I fear controversy, I fear confrontations....Hey, I'm working on it!!

17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST?
probaby the ones who don't reciprocate it...I know. I know. see question 16. Thank God for Kim :p Bet she never knew she was my anchor.

18. WHAT IS THE PAUL MCKENNA TECHNIQUE THAT YOU NEED TO WORK ON THE MOST?
who?

19. ANY TATTOOS?
No although I have several Duran Duran pictures incase I ever get the guts...

19. WHAT COLOR SHOES ARE YOU WEARING?
light blue.....now I wish I had my hot pink ones I plan on buying...that seems so much more fun to point out then light blue...dirty light blue to beat.

20. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE?
Was last night: Amy's Light & Lean black bean and cheese enchilada with veggie rice. It was so freaking good for a "tv dinner". I am impressed!!

21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW?
I kid you not, Pandora just started playing "Rio" by Duran Duran. God Bless America!!! :p

22. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE?
I'd be the mushed up mess that kids have squished together and tore the papers off of and kindof melted into a glob on colors everywhere in the bottom of the box.

23. FAVORITE SMELLS?
Sauteing garlic, coffee beans, baked goodies coming from the oven, the fair foods lingering in the air, and yes, the harbor. I love the smell of the harbor.

24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?
Volkswagon Service. My bug needs help again.

25. MOUNTAIN HIDEAWAY OR BEACH HOUSE?
yes please.

26. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH?
Football. There's nothing like getting friends over with (even healthy) foods and shouting and fun times....

27. HAIR COLOR?
today is Sandy blonde, I have a brownish red available, but my goal weight will be blue/pink. You know it.

28. EYE COLOR?
For me? I tend to favor brown. There's something about brown eyes that make me melt. Oh, Mine? they're green.

29. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS?
No

30. FAVORITE FOOD?
Silly question. If I had a favorite, I probably wouldn't be on Spark trying to lose the weight. Food goes IN MY BELLY because it's ALL my favorite!!1 Nom Nom Nom, but, if I had to narrow it down to a few: warm brownies, chocolate frosting, coffees, Ruffles original, chili cheese rice (I can eat that all day), notice there was nothing on the "healthy" menu???

31. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS?
Neither, just one that sticks with me for a couple of days. Whether it be a comedy, romance, or drama, or whatever. Just good.

32. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?
At home was "The Big Miracle" GREAT MOVIE by the way and at a theatre was, was, gosh I think it was too long ago...I remember there was the Miley Cyrus movie but could have sworn I've seen one since...Harry Potter!! That's it.

33. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING?
White with wolves on it. I strangely get a LOT of compliments on this thing.

34. SUMMER OR WINTER?
Today is summer, but it will soon be winter! Very good.

35. HUGS OR KISSES?
don't both entail touching? I used to love both, but apparently those kind of things get one into trouble so I'll say neither. :p

36. FAVORITE DESSERT?
I thought I answered this with favorite foods, but okay: warm chocolate brownies, chocolate frosting, Ruffles original potato chips.

37. STRENGTH TRAINING OR CARDIO?
I'm guessing this is a "prefer" question? I prefer to sit on the couch and watch people do these things. But, as I have to pick from one of these two: ST It doesn't put me out of breath as much.

38. COMPUTER OR TELEVISION?
I'm on the computer.

39. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW?
I'm not. But looking forward to the textbook associated with Forensic Anthropology!!

40. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD?
Sierra College

42. FAVORITE SOUND?
Children laughing, 80s music playing in the background, the neighbors washing machine agitating through the walls (it's comforting and I know I don't have to move the clothes to the dryer)

43. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?
Duran Duran

44. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME?
I don't know, I'm still trying to get there. :p

45. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT?
um....nope.

46. WHERE WERE YOU BORN?
It was in fact, NOT in a barn, but a hospital. True. California.

47. WHERE ARE YOU LIVING NOW?
Why do you want to know? I paid my taxes!! Who are you?? What do you want? California

48. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR HOUSE?
I wish I had one, but all of California houses around here are mud color....so I'll say mud.

49. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR CAR?
blue. Geeeeez, is the person who created this quiz trying to find me or something???

50. DO YOU LIKE ANSWERING 50 QUESTIONS?
Sure. why not.

  
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SHOES17 8/3/2012 3:14AM

    I like these! Good job

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SWEDE_SU 7/20/2012 1:04AM

    what a fun exercise - thanks for sharing! emoticon

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KIM_POSSIBLE77 7/19/2012 9:44AM

    Yes you got me on #17....got me laughing and all tear'ed up. I love you honey and I'm glad that I mean so much to you because you Sister dear mean that much to me too. I love you always!

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LYNETTEMOM 7/19/2012 2:24AM

    great read. Tks for sharing!

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-MOJOJOJO- 7/19/2012 2:02AM

    #42 made me lol emoticon

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CAMROLA 7/18/2012 11:59PM

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CORINA-MOMOF4 7/18/2012 9:26PM

    Nice getting to know you better! BTW, my mom sang that song to my my entire life (still does) LOL

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SHERYL_B 7/18/2012 7:43PM

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PEPPYPATTI 7/18/2012 5:53PM

    Thanks for the laughter & for letting us get to know you.
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PARNELI 7/18/2012 4:51PM

    Quite the sense of humor. What fun this was to read.

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 7/18/2012 4:50PM

    emoticon Corinna- thank you for the giggles. I totally have to write one of these too! Loved your answers!!

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LEANIE64 7/18/2012 4:47PM

    I enjoyed your blog..it was lively !! A feel good blog for sure..

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A running question and take that athletic clothes!!!

Friday, July 13, 2012

The other day I went to the gym and attempted to do my Week 3 of C25 on the treadmill. Like the rest of the world, we are in a hot one (triple digits) and I thought being in the A/C building would be a great way to escape the heat. I think the rest of the Lincoln/Rocklin/Roseville area had the same idea as it was PACKED!! Strangely enough I couldn't even do a mile. I got off the treadmill and went to the bike instead.

Getting the itch to get back into things (I do have a dress to go for) I wanted to get out and run. I've been seeing people around the area running at all times of the day so I thought "what the heck" and prepared to go out.

First thing first. My clothes. You all know how much fun I have with my clothing so I thought today I would keep it simple.....hmmm.

I put on a pair of Capri's and a t-shirt.

Not workout clothes. Regular cotton Capri's with a button and POCKETS!!

blue and white polka dotted ones

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See, my logic was this.

it has pockets.

Anyhow I have a question for you guys. I did my week 3 of running today in the heat. I really wanted to get in my miles to log and half way through I got pretty tired. So tired that on my way back I didn't do the three minute run....

here's the thing. I still made it back in the same time it took me to run there.

aka: I run as fast (or slow) as I walk.

How is it then that so much effort goes into running when one is running at the same speed as walking? Anyone get this??

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So I don't slip out of my regimen I'm going to walk tomorrow. I've noticed that if I stop for ONE day of any sort of routine, I'm done for a long long long time. I'm pretty sure this is why I never finish the C25. It's every other day. LOL so, tomorrow I will "walk" the area so I'm still in a routine. I like that idea. Maybe I can drag my girls out...I'll bribe em with a Jamba Juice.

OH Wait!! Tomorrow is orientation day for my oldest at San Francisco State!!..eh, I'll still get it in...promise. I love getting out...It's so my time to think. Today's was weird though. I kept thinking of people telling me how bad running was for me and how I've been working on this forever and how I'll never get it. I don't know why I thought those ... probably to push myself harder.

Let's see, speaking of school I emailed the guidance counselor and asked for help in determining a major for me. I asked since Deaf Studies were so impossible to obtain classes for what major was I the closest to? I informed them that I also wanted to look into some sort of career in nursing, but not as a nurse and listed what I wanted to do.

I am the closest in obtaining a degree in Social and Behavioral Science and was requested for obtain a degree in Natural or Biological Sciences.

So, that's what I'm doing!

My daughters are laughing at me. "mom, those are the things that always plague you and now you are going for it" to which I reply "yeah, kind of like my fitness, huh?" LOL

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So, I'm pretty darn tooting excited! As excited as when I first started. My classes include this semester Forensic Anthropology!!! woo hoo!!

Well, I guess I'm going to get to work on my place...really....really really. LOL I keep Sparking instead so I blame you for my dirty place!

no. not really.

Going to wash my Capri's and get them ready for next time. They worked pretty good.

Take that athletic clothes!!

  
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TWNOMWE 7/23/2012 9:54AM

    I love workout clothes with pockets as I have to have some where to put keys and a timer.
Way to go with the run/walk. emoticon

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FIT4ME41 7/15/2012 10:08AM

    Great job! BTW What is c25? emoticon

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GOODGETNBETR 7/14/2012 4:48PM

    I agree with Blue42down, running requires more energy because of the lift we generate and in most cases the increased speed. Pockets do come in handy but a Tune Belt (what I use) or runners fanny pack can accomplish the same purpose. Better to stick with quick drying "tech" fabrics vs cottons, it'll make your time in the sun that much less miserable :) emoticon with the C25K training.

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KIM_POSSIBLE77 7/14/2012 3:18PM

    I have no idea with the running...I just know I burn more calories when I turn up the speed. Heck I don't even know if I'm running or walking. LOL But I figured if I'm sweating my ares off then I must be doing something right. LOL

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CORINA-MOMOF4 7/13/2012 11:21PM

    do you have a Garry Gribbles in your area? If so, I highly recommend calling them to see if they have running form lessons. I attended on a couple weeks ago and learned some really interesting stuff regarding running.



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PEPPYPATTI 7/13/2012 10:34PM

    umm..could be you have a long stride length when walking. Maybe, maybe not. Way to go on the classes. I want to go back but my husband says it is just a waste of money at my age. He can be such an idiot!
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SHERYL_B 7/13/2012 6:50PM

    Go for it!

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MNABOY 7/13/2012 6:14PM

    You might have a TV show like "Bones"!

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BLUE42DOWN 7/13/2012 5:40PM

    In my thinking, the reason running takes more out of you than walking even if you're going the same speed has to do with what the difference between the two boils down to.

Walking always has one foot on the ground. Before you lift the back foot, the front foot is down. Our center of gravity, what we balance around, stays consistent.

Running has an airborne moment in each step. There's vertical motion of our body to produce that lift off of the ground on each step. Our center of gravity shifts a little forward so we still move forward rather than just bouncing up and down, but that means we have to work harder to maintain our balance.

So more work during a run to keep the body stabilized and moving - even if the pace is the same.

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SEEWORD 7/13/2012 5:29PM

    Pockets! Yes!

(enjoyed the rest of the post too)

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TEACHFIRST268 7/13/2012 4:42PM

    How exciting! Best of luck in your studies!

As for the jogging as fast as you're running - um, yep...that's me, too! I can 'power walk" (or whatever you want to call it when I walk fast) FASTER than I jog, especially up a steep hill. BUT...I tell myself that by jogging, I'm exerting more effort so, in turn, I'm burning more calories (which weight loss is my ultimate goal so I try not to let it bother me too much).- So that's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Keep up the great work!



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BAKER1009 7/13/2012 4:35PM

    You should be excited and I am so darn proud of you!!! Go you!!

As for the running, I'm not a runner, and definitely not qualified to answer your question. That is pretty ironic though Cori, that you run and speed walk at the same pace. I'm just happy to hear you are out there and doing it, polka dots all the way baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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WILSON1926 7/13/2012 4:28PM

    LOL.......very cute post

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Arrrrrrrghhhh! Charlie Brown you stink!!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Not really. I love Charlie Brown.

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So, I heard something today.

It was a rumor I had heard before floating around on Spark. Those awful rumors. The kind you turn a deaf ear to because you just can't imagine the horror of it to be true.

But I heard it again, and again. Then on Facebook, so I knew it had to be true.

Diet Pepsi is bad for me.

I know...I know....shhhhh......calm down. I was in shock too. I thought "it's okay, we still have our coffee" but you know what? we don't. Cuz it's the word

aspartemine

(GASP!)

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yes, it's true. It's not just "Diet Pepsi" but pretty much anything "sugar free"

Now, so I don't get into trouble I'm merely going to say that it's really really bad for you and not go into the statistical rumor fact thingie given to me like "65% more liklihood to develop type 2 diabetes and other health problems" from the show "The Doctors" and the horror of this one "ingredients include addictive ingredients and chemicals such as flame retardent"..

I just ran out of vices.

so, does this mean if I don't drink my Diet Pepsi I could potentally be a fire hazard?

Maybe that's it cuz after a few weeks of no coffee, no Diet Pepsi, no sugar free items (which means no sugar free coffee mate hence the no coffee) no meats, no sodium, no processed foods, no chemically enhanced foods, no smoking, no drinking

I should be hot!

Like "D*MN" hot!!

I better be.

Or I'm going to be the healthiest dead chick alive.


**blogspot**



  
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SHERYL_B 7/12/2012 8:59PM

    I changed what I add to my water a couple of months ago to a naturally sweetened product and minimize the artificial sweeteners I take in. I can say that I have noticed a difference in my concentration and I am much less irratible. It really makes a difference.

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PEPPYPATTI 7/12/2012 7:22PM

    Hahahahahaha! I love it! Yes the rumors are true, sad to say. I have switched to adding MIO to my water which has sucralose. I am sure it will turn out to be just as bad but at least I am not getting all the other junk in it. You are doing fantastic!
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OPERATIONSIZE6 7/12/2012 6:04PM

    I feel your pain. I have found Zevia soft drinks which are sweetened with natural stevia - also, SOBE drinks (I have to get them in the US as I cannot find them here). I also drink a lot of carbonated water. I used to have diet Pepsi or 7Up every day but now I only have them rarely.

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RUFFIT 7/12/2012 5:06PM

    What happened to water??? Hopefully that is still OK!!! Moni

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WHITNEYLD 7/12/2012 2:30PM

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GRANNYSUE9 7/12/2012 12:56PM

    It seems there is always something out there in our food or drinks that is not good for us. I rarely drink a diet coke. The other night on the news they were talking about meat glue. I mean, come on, what else are they going to come up with and what are we really eating and drinking. I will stick to my water and coffee and I probably don't want to know what all is in our food. Just make healthy choices or as healthy as we can.

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CHANGINGSEASONS 7/12/2012 10:36AM

    I've gotta comment on this. I was TOTALLY addicted to Diet Coke..same sweetener..aspertame. I tried kicking the habit many times but would always go back...ADDICT. BUT, I finally kicked it for good probably 4-5 months ago and let me tell you..I feel so much better!! Do you crave sweets a lot? Do you feel bloated a lot? For me I craved sweets ALL DAY LONG! Every day. I didn't really notice the bloating because I must have been bloated all the time. Now, I amaze myself because some days..I don't even eat something sweet. And, i'm totally ok with it. And, btw..crystal light..has aspertame also. I drink that occasionally and immediately bloat. I do drink a cup of coffee in the morning, you'll probably need to do that to keep the headaches at bay. I use regular creamer. It's worth it to me. And, check your labels just in case. aspertame is not the only artificial sweetener out there(not that I really like any of them but aspertame is supposed to be the worst). You CAN do this but only if you really want to. And, honestly going cold turkey is probably the only way to do it. Even now..when I see a can of diet coke I RUN. Because, I know that if I have some..I'll be right back there..totally addicted.

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SWEDE_SU 7/12/2012 10:20AM

    i always kind of envy people who *do* have something like soda to give up because those are calories which, if you don't eat/drink them, mean you lose weight! so look at the bright side! you may be running out of vices, but it will help you to lose! so you will be a healthy live chick!

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TEACHFIRST268 7/12/2012 8:33AM

    LOVE THIS!
I've managed to stop the diet Pepsi, instead drink flavored seltza water...but the sugar free popsicles are what get me through at night when I want something sweet/something to snack on. Please...don't take away my sugar free popsicles!!!



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BAKER1009 7/12/2012 8:25AM

    You crack me up lady!!
Yes, those artificial sweeteners are not good and they are sneaking into everything these days!!

The only sugar I have regularly is the 1 tsp of regular, pure, sugar in my coffee. I figure that one teaspoon is better than a bunch of fake stuff, that's not good for you, all day long.

Go you!!

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ADVENTURE-GIRL 7/11/2012 9:54PM

    Yep, my husband has been telling me that for years. I was never a diet soda but regular soda drinker, which is bad too for different reasons.

When we were teenagers he used to collect sweet n low from restaurants to keep people from using it because it thought it caused cancer. (I know hes he was little weird, lol)

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POLYANNA2 7/11/2012 9:50PM

    Love your blog, but it's true, aspertame is soooo bad for you. Giving up diet soda was my last vice too. I'm darned near perfect now...lol The only thing that tells me different is the scale.
Hang in there, you WILL forget!
Hugs...Carol

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KIM_POSSIBLE77 7/11/2012 8:11PM

    I feel your pain...I have cut back to one cup of coffee with 2 tablespoons of creamer. Some days I don't even have that and will have a cup of green tea. As with everything in life it is the amount of bad that you let in....at least that is what I believe and what I will continue to tell myself. I know that I can't just give up coffee all together....just need to find something more natural....I'm on a mission now!

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EMMANYC 7/11/2012 8:09PM

    I cut out most (not all) diet soda about 2 years ago, mainly because of concerns about Aspartame but also because I found that cutting it out reduced by craving for super-sweet foods. I still love carbonated drinks, though. My MIL gave us a Sodastream machine for Christmas, so I have lots of plain, sparkling filtered water that I sometimes flavour with a bit of lemon, lime or something similar.

But I haven't given up diet soda altogether. I probably drink one 12-oz bottle per week.

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MAGGIEVAN 7/11/2012 8:08PM

    Ha-ha very funy. You can have your sugar and eat it too. I am referring to Dr. Oz to guided me to low GI sugar called Coconut sugar and it is 1:1 subsitute for "normal" sugar and it is laoded in nutrients. The good doctor knows best, so I bought some. What I like about it is that it is not overly sweet but then I use only a little. Please be the healhiest chick alive.

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Was about Yosemite, but went to teenage self esteem. LOL

Monday, July 02, 2012

I was hoping to get a picture that could compare the summers weight loss. Ah well, I still have July which is when our big camp outs were anyhow. It does look like, though, by scales value that it's literally been 10 pound loss a year. So, for those who think weight loss is forever slow...this turtle probably has ya beat. LOL

It's okay though. I know that for MYSELF it is age, lack of consistency, and the fact that I've NEVER exercised before starting Spark. Everyday I'm learning new tidbits of what things to eat, the addictions of chemicals and processed foods. I'm forever learning that exercise CAN be fun and I just have to find what I like.

AND, I've learned something else. That by NOT radically resorting to dangerous surgeries and radical fad diets, I am also encouraging my teenage girls to eat healthy.

We were watching the end of Season 3's the Biggest Loser (never seen it) and they were asking teenagers what certain vegetables were: brussel sprouts, eggplants, kale, etc. A LOT of the kids had no idea what they were looking at. My girls knew every single vegetable, have eaten them and enjoy them.

All of my girls participate in activities that keep them busy. Skating, marching band, Dance, cheer, swimming and even our video games are active (Wii). I didn't force this upon them. I TAUGHT them, mainly by example and some with questions. I don't want to say they still don't suffer insecurities. Actually, I am pretty sure this is a normal part of being a teenager until they can identify with themselves. But, I feel pretty secure that weight and health is educated and instilled enough to make good decisions. God above I hope.

While learning about this, I came across a site and want to give particular kudos to this company: Dove.

I am, what I would consider, a teenage advocate. I defend all kids by nature, but tend to be a little more aggressive when it comes to the welfare of teenagers. I don't know why. Maybe it was because of my own insecure issues. A skinny girl beat up daily, and I do mean daily on the bus, at school, at home....it didn't matter. I guess I just had the look of "human punching bag" at the time. But I also saw things in my neighborhood, at my school that I could never forget. A friend who miscarried several times in fear of talking to her mother. A Jr High girl who couldn't have been more than 14 carrying her baby as if it were a rag doll into school. Girls starving themselves, girls cutting themselves, girls sleeping with boys because it "means love" and boys...boys abused and running away...it was rough...even for the glorious 80s I love.

So yes...when someone says or do something negative regarding their teenagers I get ruffled....actually according to some of my friends and my girls...it when you hear my voice the loudest. I get emotional at dance recitals, talent shows, band concerts, and sports because I FEEL all of the hard work everyone puts in to it...as if they were all my own kids. My friends become my family and their kids become OUR kids. I'm a real believer in "it takes a village to raise a child".

See, people have a very misguided conception of teenagers. It becomes the age of "ah, no more paying babysitters" but they forget.......it becomes the age of "I really need my mother/father the MOST"

This is the age of identifying oneself so they WILL color their hair and go goth and rebel and then switch THAT up. Every single one of my girls "skipped assignments" around this time, every single one obtained a voice out of nowhere. They want to see who they are, how far they can push, and it's up to US to say "its okay to feel this way, but here are the dangers" and discuss things openly with them and yes, show them the consequences to their actions. Number one advice I can give?? Quit trying to regain your control. Honestly, you never had it in the first place. Work with them as a person because the moment you lose control by trying to gain it, well, you lose everything. GUIDE them through the different choices they make. My ballet girl/band chick may switch to acting/teaching or something and it will be up to me to help her even if I disagree with every fiber of my being. Because like an infant, she is touching, exploring and assessing her strengths and weaknesses. Some kids need it more than others. Teenagers are my second favorite ages because it's when you see the people they WANT to be trying to come out.

Dove has begun a campaign for young girls. Actually, it's been around for awhile, but it is still going. It shows the intense work going into covering a supermodels. They work at portraying "real" women in their ads, and they have classes that help girls identify with being a girl and not with media image. I just think that is "neat". It makes me proud to know that like me, others are gearing up and looking at girls beyond sex and babies. More voices need to encourage all teenagers that it's okay to experience lower body images and this is how to eat healthy and exercise. AND SHOW THEM!

www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4tOPheG8g0
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I love listening to people on here say "my son ran with me" and "my daughter went to the gym with me" or "my kids helped in the kitchen" This is how it starts!!

I love that girls contacted Nordstrom and said "Get rid of this crap" and Nordstrom listened! Go girl power .. I really dislike Disney though. Horrible. But my youngest seems to like it.

Maybe we can give our kids the self image we wanted for ourselves. Maybe they won't have to live in fear of lower mortality rates than their parents. Maybe we can eventually teach supermodels how to eat....now, wouldn't THAT be something? Maybe the schools will catch on? Maybe pizza will disappear from the "veggie" category (really?? really??)

I don't know. I can't say that all this rambling of mine will help prevent teenage pregnancies in Jr. High and bullying throughout life. But, I'd like to think that if our kids are encouraged by us and believe in themselves, maybe they can encourage others to do so as well. Maybe someday proper eating and healthy habits will be just as routine as teeth brushing for everyone.

Wait

Wasn't I talking about Yosemite or something.

Dang it....I did it again .

  
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KIM_POSSIBLE77 7/9/2012 2:46PM

    You and the family were the best gift I could have been blessed with at a time that not only did Sammy need you all, but I did too. It was because of your open door policy that I always had a place to go to when I needed a friend, a shoulder....and in the end my sister! I love you and admire everything that you do for yourself, your family and all the children and friends that are lucky enough to be in your life. Even with the thousands of miles that seperate us now I would have to say we are closer than ever! I love you!!

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DIANEDOESSMILES 7/4/2012 5:16PM

    I THOUGHT I DID what was needed with the girls,,, for self esteem,,,, it back fired,,, so that now,,,,, one has an eating disorder. It was to much,,, my heart breaks. Hope this doesn't happen to you also. the other one is Ok,,, very secure with herself. Hey guess you can't tell.

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LYNETTEMOM 7/4/2012 12:21PM

    Great blog! I too believe it takes a village to raise a child and I'm sad that many people take no responsibility in assisting young people achieve their potential.
I am very proud of my daughters. I became a single parent just as my oldest was entering the teen years and tho it wasn't always smooth, we survived and thrived!

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ITS_MY_TURN_NOW 7/4/2012 12:40AM

    I LOVE teenagers for all the reasons you stated!
I raised 4 of them. I was lucky, I raised 4 amazing, infuriating, caring, generous, brilliant, mouthy, talented teens, all of which have grown into young adults that I am extremely proud of. I agree that teens need their parents more than they are ever willing to admit and that control is a nonissue. They are so busy trying to figure it all out and they need to know you will be there especially when it feels like they are pushing you out. One thing I learned was that all the times I thought they weren't listening...they heard me. I hear it now coming from them when they talk to their "little" brother who is almost 18 and just graduated from high school.
Your children are very lucky to have a Mom that "gets it".
Thank you for sharing!
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PEPPYPATTI 7/3/2012 5:30PM

    emoticon Great blog!! emoticon

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GRANNYSUE9 7/3/2012 2:34PM

    You are setting a great example for your teens! Something they really need these days. Keep up the great work!

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WHITNEYLD 7/3/2012 2:07PM

    Nice tangent, though!

Also, ViSalus is a protein and vitamin mix powder you blend with fruit and milk to create a health shake to replace two meals per day. You can find it on Amazon.

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BLUE42DOWN 7/3/2012 12:50PM

    Love your viewpoint toward raising teens. I loved seeing mine go through those years, being there when they had questions and needed unconditional love, but letting them experiment with their world to start the process of finding themselves. BIG AMEN to what you say - "Quit trying to regain your control." We don't raise puppets. We nurture young adults.

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BAZOOKABOBCAT 7/3/2012 8:27AM

    Being a positive role model for the next generation of women, and men, is so important. Good for you for always advocating for not only your teenagers, but teenagers in general!!

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BAKER1009 7/3/2012 8:25AM

    Your girls are so lucky to have such an awesome mom Cori!
I did think you were going to talk about Yosemite too...but by the pic's on the front page, it looks like you all had a great time.

Anyway...love the blog. Great points and I couldn't agree with you more. Keep it up girl!!

Hugs,
Beth

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TINAJANE76 7/3/2012 6:42AM

    Sounds like you're a fantastic mom--your kids are very lucky to have such a strong and supportive role model to help guide them as they work towards finding themselves. Thanks for sharing all of your very personal experiences!
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SWEDE_SU 7/3/2012 5:55AM

    there is no better way to raise kids than by modeling the behaviors we want to see! well done!

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ADVENTURE-GIRL 7/3/2012 12:24AM

    Wow!!! I love this blog and your attitude towards teenagers. I, sometimes, wonder if people ever remember being teenagers themselves when interacting with their teenager, it is so hard. My oldest son is just entering 6th grade next year (middle school) and I am terrified in some ways. I am scared for him, of all the crazy emotions, peer pressure, and teasing that kids have to deal with. I can only hope that I will do the right thing when the time comes. Thanks for this blog :)

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SHERYL_B 7/2/2012 9:21PM

    Way to set an example. The best way to teach!

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Long distance relationships

Thursday, June 21, 2012

I thought it was the lack of coffee yesterday. I get like that once in awhile. A little blue, a little out of sorts. Nothing major, nothing bad...just "off" ya know?

I was like that the last few days wandering around lost in my own thoughts and I tell my Kate "you know what bugs me? When you give 90% and text and Facebook and call and the moment you stop, no one ever acknowledges your existence." She agreed and we talked about how by moving here we seemed to have lost our inner circle status.

See, for a bit when we lived in Washington, we had what so many people dreamed of. I had people coming and going at my house at all hours like they were family, because they WERE. My friends knew more about my kids then my my own relatives. People would come through the door "honey I'm home" and I'd offer them a drink...coffee brewing, conversations flowing, and cards every Friday no matter what. It was what you saw on sitcoms and wished for. We had it.

Because times change, Zach moved to Southern Cali, Travis moved home to San Antonio, then Kim met her superman :o) and moved to the East Coast, then Daniel followed his brother and soon after we moved to California before Bonnie hit Spokane. I joke with them sometimes how the universe just couldn't handle all of us in one state and moved us across the nation.

And although I have family in California, it's not the same. They are all over an hour away and frankly, hubby's not into "visiting" family. Especially in Stockton (it IS scary, but I figure it's mostly my family so it's okay LOL **I have over 108 cousins alone**)

So, anyway....I was kind of upset because one of my friends never responds anymore unless I text her repeatedly or she's bored or something, I don't know. Always "too busy" with the boyfriend and ... well, how can people just be too busy to take 30 seconds out of their day? How? I try and take the time to say "hello" on Spark and I don't even KNOW you !! LOL so, we were talking how if I left Facebook and I quit texting.....how many would reply back? and most importantly, what did I do to piss all these people off? What was WRONG with me??

About that time I received a text

"...Had a potluck today...I had small amounts of food and was stuffed...."

What.

I didn't say I was looking for anything mushy, silly! LOL but it was a voice, a voice reaching out to ME when I needed it the most. And she didn't even know it.

I told her, "you made my day and didn't even know it" You know why? Because. Because she took 10 seconds of her whole day to tell me about hers. To say "hey, I haven't forgotten you even though we are 100s of miles apart" She responded later that night with her Dad's death....then I felt stupid. Because all this time I had been waiting for words, and now I couldn't be there with HER. To share in her grief.

I people watch at the malls and at various places I am at and I wonder. How is it that we can all share the same planet and none of us dare to look at each other in the eyes? Is it the fears of the few creepers that keep us from establishing new villages of friendships?

Everyday I look on my Spark and I wonder about all of you. I read your blogs and mark your comments. I wonder if you are as lonely as I can be or if there is a support system around you. I live vicariously though all of you. It's so strange that we live in a world of social networking and yet, we can all feel so alone.

I think of my friend and wish I could be with her again. I wish I could lend a shoulder from across the 48 states and let her know, not just through text, how much I love and miss her. I wish her husband, her, my husband and I could be sitting around playing cards while the girls are off doing their own social networking. We would laugh real loud about the Seahawks and plan our gym trip for the next morning....maybe the boys would discuss golf.

If you have a friend out there.....take a minute right now and let them know. Take ten freaking seconds a day and say "hey, I'm thinking of you" It could mean the world to them.

I know it did me.

And yes, as of date....she is still the only one who has managed an acknowledgement.

I love her so much for that.

  
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PROVERBS31JULIA 8/31/2012 4:04PM

    Amazing how different we are but yet really really alike. We all just want to feel loved. I feel like I'm in "confessional" and I'm not even Catholic. But I do have an email group of deaf friends scattered across the country that met because of common spiritual beliefs... and so in email with that group, I feel much closer to them than I do my own family. With my parents divorced now and both are in their 70's and neither are doing as well alone as they were together, it's tough to stay up with them - and we're all in different states. My dad's way out in south west Texas, one sibling is in Houston, one is just outside Atlanta, GA and my youngest sibling is in the Washington DC metro My own mom lives about 30 minutes drive away....shares a duplex with my step-brother & his family.

I'm the only deaf one in my family... and now that we all have various text programs, it's still rare that any of my siblings will text me or email me or facebook me... I even have unlimited long distance landline plan (it's an old plan we got back when my husband still had 3 or 4 hour conversations with his mother, before she eventually moved up here and then died 5 years later, and that's been a year ago - we can't really get a better plan like that any more for landline phones, as everyone is going to cell phones.) But when I call them, conversations drag on because I'm having them have to repeat so much to catch what I didn't hear correctly.. and it's frustrating and then I feel like a dork, but a lonely dork. On the other hand, texting them is usually an inconvenient time for them so I rarely hear back. I'm generally always the one who is reaching out.....and then they have the nerve to say "well don't be a stranger" like I don't reach out enough?? and where is it written that they can't reach out first on occasion?

So yea... I can hear you in the heart...

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HI-NRG 7/12/2012 8:55AM

    This blog made me cry. I know I don't tell the people I love that fact often enough. I think of my family and friends often, but do I tell them? No, of course not. Usual excuses, too busy, etc. Thanks for slapping me in the face this morning. I am going to try to send those few words to all my friends and family, one day at a time, little by little and reconnect to those who are important to me. Good relationships don't just happen, you have to work at them. Thank you for reminding me of that.
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WHITNEYLD 6/29/2012 12:01PM

    Thanks for sharing. I feel the same way a lot of times. I moved out of Akron and Columbus and out to the sticks, and I have lost contact with so many people. When I was in college at OSU I felt like I had tons of friends, and in reality, I had only a few good ones from back in grade school! The people that matter are those who don't drift out of your life when you are no longer "convenient." emoticon

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DOTSONK 6/25/2012 5:22PM

    Your blog made me think about my best friend. Oh how I wish she was only a text or phone call away. Ovarian cancer took her back in '04. I miss her more than words can say. I miss all of the togetherness I used to have with family and friends-- especially as a kid, with my grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Even as a child, I knew how blessed I was. But I have come to accept that time moves on and many of those people and relationships moved on with it. So I have learned to take life as it is given to me, and cherish those who share it with me. You fellow sparkers mean so much! emoticon

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VICKLET31 6/22/2012 2:03PM

    This was such a great blog. Thanks for the reminder to reach out! You are not the only one who feels that way at times too!!

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SCOTMAMA 6/22/2012 10:35AM

    It was a good blog -- and thank the Lord other people feel this way too. I thought it might be just me! I have my BFF who lives in San Diego and I'm here in Arizona. It irks me at times to realize that I am the one who seems to do all the reaching out. And it makes me sad to see that she is beginning to withdraw into herself more and more. Half the time now she won't even get on the computer, so our daily notes to one another are over and done with. At one point I didn't phone her -- just to see if I would ever hear from her, and yes -- she finally did phone to see if all was OK. It made me feel guilty, but I still feel sad that she's letting herself just give up on life -- and especially since she's only 1 year older than me.

The other long distance person I really care about is my sister -- she lives in Washington. While she has 5 daughters who she fills her time with -- I can't help but wonder why she never phones ME -- I'm her only living sibling! I'm trying the same treatment to her as I did to my girlfriend in San Diego -- but so far no phone call. We both have free long distance calling. Am I being stupid about this? I asked her point blank one time if she was experiencing beginning stages of Alzheimer's. She said "NO, of course not -- why do you ask?" And I told her I thought she didn't remember that she has a sister. Didn't seem to shake her up -- if it had been the other way around, it would have shook ME up.

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BAZOOKABOBCAT 6/22/2012 8:31AM

    This is an excellent reminder. The way we communicate these days kind of seems to have trivialized how important contact is. So a blog like this is an awesome wake-up!

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SHERYL_B 6/22/2012 8:27AM

    Thanks for the reminder. I'm going to do some reaching out this weekend! Take care!

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BLUE42DOWN 6/22/2012 2:00AM

    The one long-distance relationship I have experience keeping up isn't balanced in terms of contact. When there is contact, it's almost overwhelming how much. When there isn't, it goes dead quiet.

I find that kind of cycle happens in a lot of places. For example, there's a forum I'm an active poster on. Some days / weeks it feels like I'm actively talking to a whole bunch of people. Other days / weeks it feels like I post something and no one even acknowledges my existence - someone replies to an earlier post, everyone else continues as if I'd said nothing.

Of course, I'm an oddball in not really being a social person. I recharge on quiet time and honestly could live like a hermit the vast majority of the time and not miss the interaction. It's not always obvious online, but it's very easy when I want to shut myself away to do so. In 43 years I have had two people I called best friends - one that I walked away from without a second though when he put drugs first, the other whom I have never met in person.

Only on rare occasions do I get a sudden craving for a closer relationship with someone more than my kids and siblings (even those relationships are "loose" for lack of a better word - we're close, but not in constant contact.) Those are the moments I am most likely to notice the cycle being in a withdrawal stage where it can feel like everyone is actively ignoring me. Never a comfortable day or two, but it always passes - both my neediness and the cycle moving back toward connection.

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LYNETTEMOM 6/21/2012 8:43PM

    I have to say thank you because I feel this was a gift from the universe for me today. Knowing that someone else is going thru some of the same stuff somehow makes me feel less alone. Spark People are probably the only ones who would notice if I dropped off the face of the earth.
I had a neighborhood of friends that I left behind when my husband was offered a transfer. We were in the new city for about a year when he started an affair and although those old friends were very supportive as my marriage ended, and I made some friends here, time has moved on and it seems everyone has moved on without me! My kids have grown up and left the nest, I've had a couple of relationships that haven't led to a commitment and well, I'm lonely.
But, I am going to get off the computer and phone my best friend, who I love and miss, and see seldom because she is hundreds of miles away.
Tks for sharing; we are all in this together.
L

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KIM_POSSIBLE77 6/21/2012 6:22PM

    Oh my, you just made me cry again....but it was good tears for once today. Remember how you used to call me because you were feeling "funny" and 99% of the time it was me having problems with the X or once I moved here it was because I was missing you all.....I have the same moments. I have these feelings like "Oh my god I have to tell Cori this" and so I do.

I sent you that text before I knew about Dad...I sent you it because I knew YOU would understand what it was like to be faced with all the different foods and actually behave yourself. I love you SO much and I totally understand what you are feeling and because I know you understand it to it just gives us that much more of a bond.

I can feel your love through the 3000 miles that are parting us and I can feel your hugs. I miss you dearly and wish and pray that some day we all can be together again. I still say you are right and we all were just too hot to handle all in the same place. LOL

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LEAELLEN07 6/21/2012 5:45PM

    You and I think along the same lines on this topic. Sometimes I feel like the friend who is taken advantage of but then I remind myself that I'm actually the friend who people look to when things are hard for them and there's a reason they do that.
I appreciate you, and I appreciate all the apperances you make on my page. =)

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TERRIMMIX 6/21/2012 5:37PM

    I think another thing, for me anyway, has been that since I gained a bunch of weight I don't like going out anymore to meet up with my friends. I'm afraid I'll run into an old boyfriend or really anyone that hasn't seen me since I've gotten fat and they'll judge me. I live to far out in the sticks to have the 'just drop in anytime' kind of friends, so I guess I'll just have to either lose weight or get over being a hermit. lol

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POLYANNA2 6/21/2012 5:03PM

    I do have a friend out there, my best friend, in fact, that I haven't touched base with for a while, so I'm going to take that minute to give her a call and see how she is doing. Everybody's just so busy all the time and the days seem to pass by like a flash. Before you know it, you've lost touch with someone you really care about.
I hope you'll make a new set of friends where you live now so that you don't feel so lonely. I've been through a major uprooting, and while it takes a while to establish a new circle of friends, it will happen.
Hugs...Carol

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CHRISGETTINGFIT 6/21/2012 4:54PM

    Hey, girl, thanks for the reminder... I know what it's like - I gotta keep up with my friends because I Don't have much family. I think this 'social networking' is Way overrated - nothing like getting together! (but if you can't, yup, a note sure is nice).

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