Monday, July 22, 2013
We always want to "improve" ourselves, whether it's by:
accomplishing a goal
constantly changing our hairstyle or color
whitening our teeth
even having the latest fashion.
There is nothing wrong with pursuing any of the above, though I think it's extremely important that we ask why.
Is it a need? Is it a want? Is it really going to benefit you or the others around you?
Is it for us?
Should we be healthy? ABSOLUTELY
Should we care about our appearances? Yes
There is a fine line between attaining these things, and obsessing over them to the point of destroying who you are.
We (especially women) are all self-conscious. We know people are looking, because we look too. Do we think negatively of others? No, well, we SHOULDN'T anyway.
But we look, and we always want what someone else has, and while we stand there being envious... chances are they're doing the same.
Is our self-esteem so low that we can't see our own self worth?
I've stood in front of a mirror and examined everything about myself.
you name it, I've probably stood there deciding what I did and didn't like, more so the last one.
I admit it. I admit it because I know I'm not the only one. We all do, some more than others.
For some of us the enemy is the scale, but for EVERYONE the enemy is the mirror.
I had a habit of standing there, and tearing myself down.
I could find multiple reasons I didn't like "this" about "that" and hated "that" about "this".
What good did it do me? Absolutely nothing. It made my self-esteem crash lower and lower... and increased how self-conscious I was to the point I never wanted to go out, ever.
This is such a dangerous practice... it can lead to depression, eating disorders, and just flat out hating who you are.
Why do we do this to ourselves?? It's HORRIBLE how hard we are on ourselves.
We have stuff EVERYWHERE telling us we're not good enough.
Not thin enough, not pretty enough, not stylish enough, not cool enough.... enough is ENOUGH!
The magazines, the ads all over the internet, commercials on tv.... UGH!
Do we do it for the opposite sex? No, I don't honestly believe we do... we do it to keep up with THOSE people, because we want to be them.
I'd rather be real. I'm sick of everyone telling me I need to be like this or that.
The typical sickly skinny, dark tan, perfect white teeth, bleach blonde hair or brunette covered in highlights, did I mention skinny and tan?!?!
Let's get real...
What should we do? Well, for starters, ignore all that CRAP, it's all a LIE. We ARE beautiful, we are worth loving, especially by US.
Be healthy.... YES! If that means losing weight because you're obese, do it. If it means eating healthier meals, do it.
Care about your appearance... yes. You are worth the time to take care of yourself and present yourself in a way that shows you care about who you are.
I dare you
I dare you to go look in that mirror... look at all the places that you have beaten yourself up over before, and decide if you're being RIDICULOUS, or if it's something you feel is worth the time to work on. Look at yourself... for every negative that you come up with you need to turn it around and have a positive to go with it.
It's not easy but it's worth it. You're worth it.
No more tearing yourself down because the world has stupid standards.
It's time to raise your self-esteem
It's time to stop being so self-conscious
It's time to be happy
It's time to love who you are
I dare you...
I dare you to see just how beautiful you really are.
"I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well"
Monday, July 08, 2013
Hey peeps! so I'm pretty hyper, talked about a mile a minute but thats what happens when you get some freedom, coffee and are excited! I was totally dancing in my kitchen before I recorded this by the way ;)
Wednesday, June 05, 2013
Most of you know that 7 months ago I had a c-section, some of you may not know that I also had emergency surgery not even a week after delivery because my incision re-opened(I don't wish that on anyone!).
My biggest fear during recovery? It's pretty obvious, I was terrified of it opening again because I didn't even do anything to cause the emergency surgery to begin with!
I babied that incision, you better believe it! Once I started running again there was always this fear of "what if I somehow pull or tear something?", even though time had passed and I was doing just fine.
6 months later, I finally decide it's time to start working my core again, I really needed to strengthen my abs because it helps a lot with my running, and is my "trouble area".
I cannot even tell you how afraid I was...
Let's get real!
We ALL have fears!
Some may seem big
Some may seem small
Some may seem silly
BUT regardless... we have them.
How do we overcome them? Well, you have to actually FACE them.
I started with some zumba moves that I know work my core, slow, and gently, being very in tune with my body. I had my mind made up that if I was in pain, I would stop, and try again in a day or so.
Much to my surprise... I didn't hurt! I did more... I picked up the intensity (SLOWLY)... and I started doing more real ab stuff... like crunches. No I didn't do a lot of one thing... but I did 45 min of a bunch of different things, slowly bringing up my intensity and and adding more.
You have to START trying to overcome them!
One thing at a time
One day at a time
Was I sore the next day? Yes... but in all the right places, my incision felt fine.
Am I still afraid? Yes. But not like I was, because I know what I'm capable of, and will continue to add more to it.
Overcome your fears... start by facing them. Acknowledge that they exist, and just try, a little bit at a time.
You will be surprised what you're capable of! It's MORE than you think!
Why should you overcome it you ask?
Because your fear will become a crutch.
A crutch only slows you down.
Overcome your fear... throw those crutches away and RUN!
You CAN overcome your fears... but you have to be willing to possibly fall... falling isn't failing. Giving up is.
Face your fears peeps... it's ALWAYS worth it.
Leaving you with some pics from recovery to now... life goes on!
After emergency surgery
Playing at the park with my sister(never too old!)
80's dance with my daughter
Trip to Arizona with baby Wesley
Swimming with the fishes at Bass pro with my boy
A candid Easter Family photo
80's trivia night... Wesley was impressed with my look
Dress like your hero day at school... My daughter chose me! :')
Mother's day... blessed
Sweet new running shoes!!!
He's worth all the craziness
Enjoying Silver Dollar City!
Princess night with my not so little girl
HAPPY NATIONAL RUNNING DAY!!!!!!
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
So here's the deal, I feel as if I haven't been completely honest with you guys, not intentionally of course. Confused yet? Let me try to explain...
Is it possible to get up off your rear, get active, eat less, eat better and drop 77+ pounds like I did?
Is it possible to go from doing nothing all day long to running half marathons like I did?
Is it possible to go from hating being active, to craving it?
Is it possible to go from eating a stupid amount of sweets to hardly being able to eat one bite of something because of how rich it seems?
ALL of those things are possible, and yes, you can do it... just like I've always said you can.
Let's get real!
Here's the thing, I think I somewhat forgot(not completely by any means) just how hard it is to GET those things.
It took me 9 months to lose 50 lbs, and I worked my butt off.
It took me 9 months of running 3-4 times a week, in freezing temps to heat advisories to get to where I could run my half marathon.
It took me 3 years to lose 77lbs, and drop from a tight 18 in jeans to a comfortable 8.
I know I never said it was easy, but I'm not sure I ever really made it clear about how much dedication, determination, motivation, and endurance it takes to ARRIVE in those places.
It IS possible, but you have to MAKE your mind up that you WANT this, and then you have to work at it EVERYDAY and be PATIENT for the day it comes.
Sparkpeople gives us an estimated date for our weight loss goals... and if we fail, or are just taking a little longer to get there, we get down. We may even give up. It's not about how fast you can get where you want to be, it's about GETTING there, period.
As I work at losing this extra baby weight, and get my miles back up with running, I have realized just HOW hard I worked for what I had and that I have to do it again.
I appreciate my 7 min miles way more now as I finally just made a 9 minute mile.
I appreciate my 10 mile runs more.
I appreciate the control I had with not overeating, the control to say no to a sweet or something unhealthy, the control to decide to do a 30 min ab workout over a nap...
I appreciate, and miss, having an unbelievable amount of energy for my kids (sleep at night would help too, but hey, a baby in the house, it is what it is)...
I'm fighting to get it back, and as I am, I just felt the need to tell you all that I'm sorry if I gave you these thoughts of going from a couch potato to a marathon runner in 2 months time, or whatever you thought when you've read my blogs. I know I've motivated many, which is always something I strive to do... but it order to succeed you need to know...
it's NOT easy!
It's NOT fast!
It's NOT comfortable!
I'm not saying throw in the towel, heck no! I'm saying you need to FULLY understand the work, and commitment involved, if you want to see big results.
When I've said you have to FIGHT for it, I MEANT it.
If you REALLY want this... then you REALLY have to go get it, it's not going to be handed to you on a silver platter.
Make up your mind.
Join the fight... and rock it out.
Friday, February 15, 2013
"What's your secret??" they ask... "I started eating less, eating better, and got active." I answer...
"But how? how did you lose so much?"
"Well, I found this website, called sparkpeople... I put in my height, weight, and how many pounds I wanted to lose a week, I selected the max amount of 2 lbs... it told me how many calories to consume in a day, and how many to burn in a week, so that's what I did. I counted every calorie I put in my body, and started running."
"No, really... how did you do it??"
Why is the answer I give not sound like enough? It IS that simple, and yet it's hard.
Let's get real!
Everyone wants a quick and easy fix.
Give me some fad crash diet, or a pill, or surgery even.
I guess it depends on the person... do you want to be happy fast and for a short while(because we all know what happens when you stop those pills and go back to eating whatever you took out of your diet before), or do you want to make a permanent change for life?
The answer was simple for me... I KNEW diets and pills wouldn't give me what I wanted, and this... this just sounded RIGHT.
So I committed. I decided for ONE week I would eat the EXACT amount of calories spark gave me, and I would make sure I hit the burn I needed, and see what happened.
I learned really quick that even though it was that easy, that it was crazy difficult. I realized within a day that I was consuming a STUPID amount of calories! I had to start eating better just so I could feel full without going over my intake... amazing how that works huh? In order to stay in those calories you HAVE to be eating better or you'll be STARVING! I was drinking away calories too...
hello water!! My new best friend! Hello crystal light! Hello Coke Zero!
I was amazed when I realized how OUT OF SHAPE I was, I mean, I knew I did nothing all day but... man!
Huff and puff was the sound I made all week!
BUT... when I stepped on that scale a week later and saw I was down 5 lbs, I was in shock! Surely this wouldn't continue, but I'm willing to find out!
Another week went by, -4 lbs!
That's right! 2 weeks, 9 lbs!
(5k after two weeks)
So I kept going, and I became stronger, so things were getting easier. Food was becoming my friend, I was going faster and longer while running and I didn't feel like I was going to die.
I lost weight every week, through Thanksgiving, through Christmas, New Years... I lost consistently until I was down almost 30 lbs, then I had to up my workouts a little.
(5k after 3 months)
(5k after 4.5 months)
(Half Marathon after 10 months down over 50lbs)
(second half marathon after 2+ years of losing and keeping off 77lbs)
Let's get real!
Pills aren't the answer.
Diets that you don't plan to keep up for the rest of your life, won't work.
You're going to have to get off the couch, and get your rear in gear.
You're going to have to make better food choices, and eat less of the stuff that got you where you are.
Calories in, and calories out. Yes it's that simple, and that hard. But... it works!
Do you want to lose weight, get healthy and stay that way? Then guess what? You're going to have to work for it!
Doesn't cost you a dime. Just some time, choices and determination!
It's not a secret peeps! When you see that ad off to the side of your computer screen that says "Click for the secret to weight loss!" "drop weight by following this old trick" or "so and so lost __ lbs using this secret!!!"
Just know... it's bull. ALL of it!
Love yourself enough to change your life, for the REST of your life!
It's simple, and hard, but you CAN do it and it's worth EVERY drop of sweat!
Rock it out peeps!
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