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3 Things You Have to Give Up to Lose Weight Forever

Friday, December 05, 2014

The following comes from a book written by Tory Johnson called The Shift...I think it is well worth thinking about these things.....

1. The Cheat Day

For years, I was lulled into the moderation trap, a bedrock of nutrition advice that works flawlessly for some women but is a disaster for others. Supposedly, as long as I limited myself to a few bites here or there, I could eat onion rings, rice and chocolate cake—anything, really—and not gain weight. Trouble is, I never ate just a few bites. A couple chips led to the whole bag, and, before long, I was out of control again. Ditto for the oft-advised "cheat day." For me, rewarding healthy eating with unhealthy foods was akin to an alcoholic celebrating a month of sobriety with a beer. It didn't work. When it comes to eating, I was not blessed with the moderation gene. Once I stopped struggling with moderation, my life got a whole lot easier.


2. The 7-Day Fix

I don't have enough fingers or toes to count the number of quick fix and fad diets I've tried, but they all failed me. Overweight people need hope—I get that—and you can't walk past any newsstand without seeing a magazine promote one gimmick or another. TV shows promote miracles, too. The truth is, that many of them do work; you will lose some weight—but only if you follow them to the letter (which, from my experience, is often hugely difficult) and accept that you may not lose that much weight (the timeframes could be ludicrously short). Not to mention, the diets are often unsustainable or unhealthy over longer periods. I realized that I could no longer try to lose 10 lbs. in time for that wedding, which, oh-by-the-way is this Saturday. By giving myself the luxury of time—and not putting an end date on my efforts—I was able to make big progress.



3. The Blame Game

As a child, food was comfort, and my obesity just was. But as I got older, I played the blame game: My mother filled the house with cookies and junk food. Fast-food restaurants had fatty cheeseburgers. I had fat genes that had been passed down to me. The idea that someone (not me) was to blame for my mess was front and center in my mind. But I came to understand that assigning blame serves no purpose. No one decides what I eat except me. I now own my choices. So, if you've struggled and failed to eat healthier, ask yourself: Where did you go wrong, how can you be fully accountable and what specifics steps can you take to solve your dilemma? That's far more empowering and leads to pretty powerful results.






  
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MRSRIGS1 12/17/2014 8:03PM

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    Cool blog.

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HELEN_BRU 12/13/2014 12:06AM

    Great blog!

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MARTHA324 12/12/2014 10:28PM

    Right on. I don't have cheat days as no food is off limits. Doesn't mean I don't limit some foods, I do.

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DIANISHA3 12/11/2014 10:36AM

    I think we have all been there. The seven day no carb diet or the cabbage soup diet. No carb diet etc... The blame game has never been my crutch but I am definitely hoping to end 2014 and start 2015 off right by developing healthy habits.

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  Thank you. So well said.

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SWEETTOOTH712 12/10/2014 2:23PM

    I can relate to the 7 day fix, been down that path many times. Excellent points. Thanks for sharing.

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ANNABELLISABEL 12/9/2014 9:18PM

    Couldn't have put it better. :)

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BRIAEL 12/9/2014 9:16PM

    There we go ... some honesty on SparkPeople. Congratulations for your realisation and taking ownership of your own culpability.

Hopefully the rest of us will see the logic and truth in your beautifully expressed blog.

Thank you for this post. You've made my day. :)

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EVRLNGFOO 12/9/2014 12:05AM

    I like the comparison of a cheat day with alcoholism. I find I behave better on cheat days becuae I know what I should be eating. But the recovery isn't worth it.

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1HOTFUDGEMAMA 12/8/2014 11:49PM

  Well said! So true!

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TAHANCOCK 12/8/2014 10:27PM

  Very well said! I need to remember these 3 things.

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SRWYLIE 12/8/2014 8:06PM

    So true, so true. We need reminding from time to time. Thanks for sharing!

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HIKING-4-ME 12/8/2014 7:58PM

    That was a great book!

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MAKAYLASMOM3 12/8/2014 6:42PM

  You have nailed it! Cheat days for me to is Not My Friend or maybe I'm not to that point yet. Cheat days have me spiraling like a drug addict. Those last two I am still working on and it is hard! I am kinda glad I'm not the only one.

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COOKINGIRL 12/8/2014 6:04PM

    Thanks for the great post. I really like #1 - I totally agree with you that having a cheat day is NOT a good thing. It is an invitation to completely undo all my good habits. Yes! A few chips leads to the whole bag. The longer I can go without having food that is especially attractive (for me chips, fries, creamy cheeses...love the fat and salty stuff!) the less attractive it is to me. It sort of loses it power over me when I don't eat it for a long time.

Keep up the great work and thanks for your really helpful post. Best wishes!

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MOMMY445 12/8/2014 3:10PM

    such good points.

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  Enid S's I'd!

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HIDDENMIZARY 12/8/2014 2:04PM

    Your right

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    Agreed.

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LDFRANCO 12/8/2014 12:08PM

    Exactly. It feels like anything that you turn into a battle, is immediately set up for failure. Moderation is part of that battle and when binging is a comforting habit, you already have a wink link in the armor. It just doesn't work like that.

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    Truth!

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LADYMOODY 12/8/2014 9:13AM

    Plain and simple truth, love it.

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SLAMPLE1960 12/8/2014 9:08AM

  Really good insight first thing in the morning.

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CHERRYLOU_52 12/8/2014 9:06AM

    I agree.

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    I agree

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MARYJEANSL 12/7/2014 4:29PM

  Your points will ring true for many, many people.

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    thank you sharing

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  good blog

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SIMONEKP 12/6/2014 9:24PM

    I agree that if something doesn't work you have to give it up. I don't agree that moderation can't work, it works for some people.

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CELEBRATELIFE 12/6/2014 8:46PM

    This sounds so familiar.

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JSEATTLE 12/6/2014 6:34PM

  Thanks for breaking it down for your situation. I find similarities to my own life so this is helpful.

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GRANDDAUGHTER'S 16TH BIRTHDAY SCRAPBOOK

Monday, November 10, 2014













































































  
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PEGGYO 12/5/2014 9:54AM

    What a great scrapbook

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CHALLENGER15 11/13/2014 5:25AM

    Love it, Heather!

I had almost convinced myself to just take pictures of some cards and early handwritten papers that served as cards from my children - I am glad now that I didn't!

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SHARONSPARKLE 11/12/2014 8:19PM

    OMG! What a labor of love! I know this is something she will cherish forever. It is priceless!

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MILLISMA 11/10/2014 9:16PM

    This is great! Really enjoyed looking at all the photos full of memories! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FRAN0426 11/10/2014 7:46PM

    Fantastic job on the scrape book for your granddaughter.

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COLOR-BLUE 11/10/2014 6:49PM

    WOW!!!! What an AMAZING job you did for your Granddaughter! I know you love her very much to make such a WONDERFUL gift to be cherished for a lifetime! Thank you so much for sharing that with me, that was special to be included in your family!

Blessings!

- Nancy Jean -
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RAINBOWMF 11/10/2014 5:27PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon a lot of work
Hope she enjoys it.

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NORASPAT 11/10/2014 4:45PM

    Wow that is a lot of photos. Well done I am sure she will treasure it.
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MASTERCARE 11/10/2014 3:15PM

    enjoyed it! Thx!

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HEALTHYGRAMMY49 11/10/2014 2:42PM

    Very artistic!

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NEW TRAILER....FENCE REMOVAL

Monday, June 02, 2014

On Autumn Oaks....I mentioned that we had to remove some fence panels in order to park up our new and bigger trailer.

Here are some pictures to help explain what I was talking about......

In this picture you can see hubby getting ready to cut down one of the posts that had to be removed~ in the background you can see that we tried to park the trailer across the front yard....that did not work as there was too much of a slope and too hard to get it leveled there.


In this one note that two fence *panels* have already been removed and it is just the posts that need cutting down at this point.


Here is the trailer pulled up the drive....

To answer Nancy Jean's inquiry about parking up the trailer...you can see that we had already had this paved just for that at this side of our house~ but we had thought we may be able to park it across the front...BUT...alas this did not work out. Thus we had to remove the fence panels for the *pull out*

These pictures show the *pull out* pulled out...where it would have hit the fence panels if we had not removed them....




This is the door side of the trailer next to our house...we barely have enough room to open the doors at this side but they are very workable.


I think it was Yvonne who asked if my neighbors minded us removing the fence panels....the fence is ours~~we put it up in 2008. And in this picture you can see the neighbors yard to the left. We own 2 feet at the back of the fence that faces his yard. Nope he did not mind anyway...he is a very nice neighbor....


Here I am getting into the trailer tonight...note the line of lights under the awning on the outside....love them!!


Never mind my *camping* jacket here in these pictures...lol...It becomes a part of me when I am camping or working around outside when it is cooler.
Our couch...with the *murphy bed* up over my head.


Our stove & kitchen area.....


Our dining table....and that hubby left the bathroom door open at the back...( darn men! LOL )


BTW....that will be where I will be sitting when I am inside....Hubby needs to sit *facing* the TV you see over my head ( LOL...men!! )

Today...we sorted out this & that in the shed. We had just thrown everything from the *old* trailer in the shed....so today was ...
*keep this~~throw away that* day.
Tomorrow we will start packing it where it all will go when we move out on the road.

It is a good job that *men* like mine have *women* like me! emoticon
Hubby told me yesterday that out BBQ which attaches to the outside of the trailer...would not fit in any of the cubby holes. I found that odd but today I said are you sure? He says...
COME with me~~ALL sure that he was right. emoticon you KNOW what's coming eh?

With BBQ in tow...I opened one of the cubby holes....tipped the BBQ a bit to it's side...and slid it right into the cubby hole! Hubby just *grinned* and said...
* NOW I know why I married you! * emoticon

After a bit when we were sorting in the shed....he says...those other cubby holes don't have much space. I said...
Why don't we use two stacking baskets inside so we don't lose any space?
He started to say~~
They won't fit~~stopped....grabbed a stacking basket....and went out to try it.... emoticon THEY FIT FINE!

I was smiling all the rest of the day~~
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COLOR-BLUE 6/14/2014 7:20PM

    IT is a very nice trailer, and I love the sitting arrangement around the table. It looks so comfy there too, all plush and just let me lay back, kind of a thing.

You have a very smart DH and he's just too cute, to pick up on you and try the baskets out first!!!

Those are some tight quarters between the trailer and the home, and man, the other side, it looks like a cliff, even though I know it isn't. Happy trails to you and your DH and I want lots of pictures, like in this blog and all the details too!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
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MILLISMA 6/10/2014 3:29PM

    This is awesome. If you ever head to the PA area, let me know!!!! emoticon

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RAINBOWMF 6/3/2014 9:25PM

    Nice trailer.
Now I have a question, how did the trailer get pulled into the drive way? How did the truck/car get out of the drive way?

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HEALTHY4ME 6/3/2014 7:07PM

    Awesome now a road trip to NS !!!! Well Hidden Hilltop Campground in particular! LOL
liking the murphy bed!


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PJSTIME 6/3/2014 5:50PM

    Love the trailer and that you can "Make things fit" WTG

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GLASSART43 6/3/2014 4:57PM

    Beautiful trailer, Heather, and yes, how nice to be able to park it next to your house. Like Sharon, I miss that too.

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GRLTAZ 6/3/2014 9:05AM

    Heather, beautiful RV. hubby is lucky to have you and glad he knows it today. LOL !! Have fun camping !

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SHARONSPARKLE 6/3/2014 8:38AM

    Heather - I'm sure you're disappointed you had to take down fencing but I really envy you being able to park your new RV in your own driveway. I miss having ours right outside our house. Now we have to have it in storage! Your new RV is beautiful! I see many trips and wonderful memories in store for you!

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FERRETLOVER1 6/3/2014 7:45AM

    What a great job your husband did taking down those fence panels. Men are good for some things, right? emoticon

It looks like a bit of a tight squeeze, but manageable.

Have a wonderful time driving that marvelous home all over the country! Let me know when you'll be in the Illinois area - maybe we can meet up!

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CHALLENGER15 6/3/2014 7:35AM

    DH often tells me that not everyone is so fortunate to have someone to help them drive! emoticon

That is a very nice trailer, lady. I just love looking at them.

Thank you for posting.

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MASTERCARE 6/3/2014 5:13AM

    I am so happy for you! You are going to have so much FUN this season!

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YVONNE2001 6/3/2014 12:57AM

    emoticon Loved your blog ... you have a wonderful way with words that makes your whole procedure come alive. Looks like you found a perfect home for the trailer when you are not using it and well worth the effort of removing the fence posts. Then when you are ready to be out and about exploring and having adventures, you can simply drive away and still have a lovely home. I am so happy for you. Hugs.

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BOOBERRY 6/2/2014 11:43PM

    very pretty love the u shape table like us you have a tight fit we just have the width of the drive hubby had to drive it up the drive way between our house & the neighbor's I tell him if you hit anything let it be our house , but he really does a great job parking it

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HEARTOFCHRIST 6/2/2014 10:46PM

    Beautiful trailer

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PEGGYO 6/2/2014 10:34PM

    Which way are you going to travel?

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FLUTTERFLI 6/2/2014 10:08PM

    LOL, I have come to the conclusion after being married for 37 yrs., and talking to other women, MEN just don't know how to pack !!! I really think they just don't want to !!! LOL
You sure had a job with that fence ! I'm sure you'll enjoy your camper this summer. Have a safe & fun summer !!!
KEEP SPARKLING !!!
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NORASPAT 6/2/2014 10:02PM

    WOW that is a difference you will just love that.

Well done Pat in Maine.

Where are you going you lucky young ones !!!

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FUN IN THE SUN~~OOPS~~I MEAN *SNOW*

Monday, March 31, 2014


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LIVELYLULU37 4/15/2014 12:14PM

    WOW, JUST WOW!! I hope you enjoyed yourself that day!! Jen emoticon



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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 4/5/2014 7:00PM

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RAINBOWMF 4/4/2014 11:54PM

    I had to come back and see you again LOL
You are just too cute.

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DEE1221 4/1/2014 7:06PM

    We have had a long winter. So anyway you can enjoy it....Go for it. I love the laughter! emoticon

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MOMNAMEMANTOOTH 4/1/2014 5:13PM

    aww, that's so cute!

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GRLTAZ 4/1/2014 1:50PM

    You goof ! How fun was that ? LOL !

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LANCER1984 4/1/2014 9:39AM

    LMAO! That was so awesome - where do you live? We got sleet and rain here. At this point between the snow and rain we are at flood range as usual for the spring- this year it just is happening sooner. I think everyone knows we are in for a bad flood season and are already preparing for it. PA is a nice place to live but sometimes the weather can get the best of us. You could never say that PA does not go through the four seasons! I can't wait for Spring to really get here and stay here. Then I hope to skip summer and go into Fall. Not a heat person myself so I kinda enjoy the winter and cooler months. Can't wait to get out there and hiking! I love what I've read on your wall and would love to be friends -

In peace,
Karin
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AJB121299 4/1/2014 8:14AM

    nice

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MILLISMA 3/31/2014 10:36PM

    OMG!!!! I haven't seen snow like that in years. Do you think it will be gone by June??? lol Thanks for the video - loved it!!!!

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NORASPAT 3/31/2014 10:27PM

    I think we sent ours up to you. I am so happy you are enjoying it.
I Loved your video. Well done. !!
We had rain and very high winds but so far the floods are not here thank goodness. ENJOY, you sound very happy, Love Pat in Maine. ((((HUGS))) to both of you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HEARTOFCHRIST 3/31/2014 9:50PM

    What fun!

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MASTERCARE 3/31/2014 7:46PM

    WHOA....ours is going away!

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RAINBOWMF 3/31/2014 7:07PM

    LOL you are so funny Love it.

Hugs Mary

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COLOR-BLUE 3/31/2014 7:04PM

    Holding,

I thank God, that I don't have to see snow like that again! Phew! As a kid, it was fun to be in, but the older I got, the older the snow got, too! What's under that mountain of snow? It looks like it might be a car! Enjoy youself!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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GIRL POWER!!

Friday, March 07, 2014











  
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1BEACHWALKER 3/28/2014 12:23AM

    Yeah, so right!!;

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COLOR-BLUE 3/9/2014 7:33PM

    Holding,

Thanks, for the girl power!!! We need to be reminded every once in a while, that we really do matter, and there's more to us than meets the eye! Helen Reddy's song entitled "I Am Woman," comes to mind, as I singing the chorus in my head. She was well ahead of her time, with that song!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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MILLISMA 3/8/2014 10:18PM

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GRLTAZ 3/8/2014 9:45PM

    NICE !

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    That is awesome! Happy Woman's Day to you too! Holly emoticon

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COLOR-BLUE 3/7/2014 11:57PM

    Holding,

emoticon WE ARE THE BEST!!!

Thank you for letting me know that this is Women's Day, as I had no idea!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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NORASPAT 3/7/2014 10:37PM

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