Let Me Add to My Blog of This Morning on Control. . .

Sunday, June 16, 2013

I sometimes don't get personal enough in my blogs. My loss of control started in my marriage. I just explained this to someone who blogged about her problems in hers right now and realized I could expound on my blog and show just where it all started with me.

I figured if my DH didn't do anything illegal or it wasn't too costly, I would let it go by the boards. Then I had balance and there wasn't that power struggle that goes on in so many marriages or relationships. But I didn't see just how much I was giving up of myself. There was no real communication in my marriage.

Then, he up and died nearly two years ago and what I experienced at the onset was a complete unrealistic position in which I found myself. I was overwhelmed, in a daze and felt disconnected, like I was in an out of body state. I was always a pretty independent person and in perfect control of myself. It took awhile for me to realize just how much of myself I had given up and how costly it had become - weightwise and my health. Along the way, had experienced a great deal of stress, so,in desperation, I realized I had been under a lot of stress for the 35 yrs. of my marriage, so I finally went to a chiropractor, almost as soon as I could after his death, because I knew I needed his kind of help!

What I am saying, too, is that a person like myself had to learn where I had started to lose "that control" to finish the picture. It helps along the road. . .

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What Is At The Basis of Weight Gain?

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Bear with me while I try to figure out how to say all this. I recently read a book that resonated with me. It was just one case that the author quoted. She was a successful professional woman who lost her zip in her company after many happy and energizing years. She obviously did the work she loved but couldn't get back into things the way she did in the past. She had become contented. So the author told her, "she had lost control". That was the missing and magical word for her condition and malaise.

You see, the same principle applies to losing weight. The bottom line, when you go off, fall into addictions, reach plateaus, etc., you are projecting a loss of control. That is the basis of your success or if you don't have it, your failure. It can be for many reasons, some trivial and some more serious.

It was a light bulb moment for me when I read that and didn't need to read the rest of his book because the problems he was dealing with were not mine and I already knew (or figured out) how I had to deal with mine. We are all individuals, so in order to keep pushing, we have to get to know ourselves better and I find Spark gives the help we need from all the articles and our Spark Friends. Don't cut our Spark Friends short!!!

This was the link to turning me around. And maybe my chiropractor was right when he stressed to me that it all starts with your mind. I was so furious because I blamed it all on my body. Then I began to wonder seriously how what he said could relate to me.

And then voila!, the book appeared in my life.

Hope this inspires some of you to follow my path and find success for yourselves. So far, it's working for me. I don't ever intend to go back to the place I was before - yo-yoing back and forth. Regaining all I had lost. And I started not only with my eating habits but projecting it further into my lifestyle. I am slowly gaining control over clutter and general cleaning up - even hired a handyman who is painting my fence, cleaning up my garage (that my husband left in disarray before he died nearly two years ago) and will finish up painting the house.

Like they say, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!

Let me know if you find this blog inspiring. . .

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My Thought For The Day

Thursday, May 02, 2013

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Here's An Update!

Thursday, May 02, 2013

Just to bring you up to date, no doubt others who have done the same as I did have noticed that going from a low carb diet to a more healthy one, you are bound to gain some weight first! I did, but didn't record it on my tracker. I am now on the downswing and I really lost about 7 lbs. total to date since my change.

Well, the good news now is I have levelled out finally and have started to lose.

Also picked up Jillian Michaels' Slim For Life. Just started to read it and already I am impressed. Was never much of a fan of hers. She's come up with important facts and put them all in one book.

I plan to blog about once a week and see how it goes.

Happy journeying!

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In a Way, You Can Say I've Become More Positive than Ever Once Again!

Saturday, April 27, 2013

I guess it's about time I came back here and blogged. Just to bring you up to date, I eliminated some of the foods that I'm not supposed to eat, added more good ones and then started binging on sugar ( it includes a lot of sins) again. However, I found I could incorporate a certain rye bread successfully because I learned I really do need to eat a lot of fibre to keep this body moving! (And beans don't do it for me!)


In the past, I've had some pet peeves - like when I first started Spark I was doing so well - lost 25 lbs. and hardly got recognized by my favourite team for my efforts. Woe is me! And afterwards I learned this really affected my progress! Eegads! I should have left the team and never returned, but I kept going back - to redeem myself in their eyes? Stupid!

Then, I look at my page and see I have accumulated 90,809 points and scroll down to see that I am still not a Motivator??? Hey, I helped and inspired a lot of people during my 5 or 6 years here, didn't I? But you certainly couldn't tell from that. Woe is me.

Get the picture? So now I have put all that nonsense behind me and who cares if I'll be the longest member of Spark with the highest no. of Spark points who didn't accomplish any recognition - BUT! I will have reached my goal! And those intentions will get me to goal without anymore stupid and insanse side tracks.

You can just go along blaming others/things for your stumbles for so long before you finally take hold of the reins once again.

We all have to get stronger for ourselves. . . . yeah! I don't have any excuses anymore. I'm healthy, with a bit of mobility problems (like I can't run, heaven forbid!) but I can still walk and do everything I have to around the house.

So how has my experience been on Spark? With all the ups and downs, I have learned to have more confidence in myself (even at this late age!) - I know what I have to do - and now I am finally doing it!!!

So come join me! It's a free ride!!

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