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Support and Those Around Me

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Support is so important for making this lifestyle change and weight loss a success. I've tried doing it completely alone before, not even telling anybody that I was trying, and those are the times that I had failed the fastest. It was so easy to slip back into my bad habits because nobody even knew I was trying not to do them!

More successful attempts at weight loss have always been when others around me are aware of what I am trying to do and they try to help me. For starters, my boyfriend has always been extremely supportive. He will encourage me to work out and he won't eat junk food when I'm around. However, in the past, his support occasionally sounded like lecturing. If I skipped a work out, he would tell me why I need to do it. Believe me, I know why I should be working out. But I would get angry because I know that while I am just skipping a work out session, he is sitting, not working out, and eating what he wants. So this time around, he agreed that he would do this with me. He will fit in exercise into his day as much as he can and he will also try to cut back on the junk food. It's a lot easier doing this knowing that someone you love is making the effort to do it with you!

However, as wonderful has his support is, my boyfriend and I don't live together. So while he may be cutting back on the junk food, I don't actually get to see him do it. We both live with our own parents. We cannot afford to move out together right now because I am not able to find a permanent full time job (I went to school to be a teacher. Not finding a job, having the bills pile up and living with my parents at 25 has caused a LOT of stress eating).

My parents' support, while well intentioned, is not the greatest. I will tell them, and they will tell me that they will try to help. But usually is just consists of my mom asking me if I should be eating that every time I go to eat something that isn't extremely healthy. And then I feel like I need to hide what I'm eating, and that is a terrible habit to get into!

Furthermore, growing up in my home has caused me to have many of the poor eating habits that I have today. My father is extremely overweight. In my house, when we had treats around like ice cream or cookies, my brother and I grew up knowing that we needed to eat as much as we could when we had the chance because we knew that as soon as my father got to it, it would all be gone in the morning. Now, I love my dad, but this really has caused me to not stop eating when I'm full. It has caused me to eat portions that are waaaay larger than one serving size. And this still happens today. I need to learn that, even though I may only get one small serving of the ice cream, that is ok. It's not the end of the world that I didn't get to have some of that treat every day.

My older brother serves more as an inspiration to me. He recently got himself into great shape, began eating healthier, and stuck to an exercise regiment. Now he is in the best shape of his life and he has never looked so healthy. But he recently moved to another state, so I don't get to see him very often and we don't really talk that often either unless he is home.

So that is why I am seeking out the support of fellow Sparkers. The last time I tried SparkPeople, I did not do this. I didn't make a SparkPage, join message boards, or seek out friends. But this time I am asking for more support. I am looking for people who can tell me that I can do this and who can tell me not to give up even when I really feel like it. I want to know that other people are having the same struggles or successes as me. All the support I can get, I will take because I really want to do this. And I also want to be able to give my support, because I believe that everybody here can do this. This is a path that is much easier traveled with others than alone!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ZULAIKAH 11/14/2012 10:17AM

    Very true - sometimes it's hard to stay honest when you are afraid of letting someone down (like your mom and her "encouragement", even if well intentioned). As with anything else, you will get from SparkPeople what you put into it. Staying positive and continuing the education on healthy living is key.

I know I'm working on this little by little also. Have a great day!

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RG_DFW 11/14/2012 9:05AM

    Thanks for sharing and welcome to SP... let us know if we can help

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HEATHERS_TIME 11/14/2012 8:52AM

    Thank you for your comment and advice Mybulldogs! These are definitely some tricks that I will use. And I should add that my mother has HUGE plates and bowls! I could easily fit three serving on one dinner plate! I will start using the smaller plates.

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MYBULLDOGS 11/14/2012 8:45AM



my sister walks 15,000 steps a day at 63 years
old and has lost 105 pounds. she went from a size 24 to a size 10. all her health issues dropped off as the 105 pounds dropped off. took 16 months.

i gave up grain and sugary products and have lost 44 pounds at age 60. i went from a size 18 to a size 10 shorts and medium tops from a 1 or 2x. took 7 months.

use a salad plate as a dinner plate

use fruit for your sweet tooth cravings, an apple works great. helps with the chewing sensation.

fill your salad plate with half vegetables.

we are both still loosing weight until we reach our goal


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Short Term Goal and Moderation

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Ok, so I am setting a short term goal. I would like to weigh between 185 and 190 pounds by Christmas. I know that this is going to be particularly difficult because my family does a lot of baking around the holidays and I have a pretty good sweet tooth.

Usually when I diet I will cut myself off from sweets and junk food and then become bitter when I don't allow myself to have any and others around me do. Or I beat myself up for having some, and then tell myself that I may as well go and have more since I ruined the diet.

Not this time. Moderation is the key. If I want to have a holiday treat, I will allow myself to do so. I will not allow myself to feel bad about it, and I will not get angry if others choose to go overboard. And I will not consider the diet a failure if I do have a treat. I will simple take the calories into account and throw in some extra exercise.

Like I've said before, I really do enjoy food. There is no reason for me to stop enjoying food. I just have to approach it differently and I think the upcoming holidays are the perfect time to start. And I will reach my short term goal as well!

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RG_DFW 11/13/2012 11:21AM

    I too enjoy food, I just eat less of it than in the past.

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ZULAIKAH 11/13/2012 10:40AM

    This can be hard, but remember to think of the alternative: Say you do overindulge, what now? Work out a little harder - make it a goal to burn off those extra calories. This may also curb your want to have a little more the next time.

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DETERMINED_SOUL 11/13/2012 9:46AM

    emoticon You have such a great attitude about this. I love food and have still lost over 100 pounds so I know you can as well. You are absolutely right, you can allow yourself to have treats. You can do this!

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How did I get to this point?

Monday, November 12, 2012

So how did I get to be over 200 pounds? For as long as I can remember, I have never been happy with my weight. Every time I reached a new high weight, I promised myself that I would lose weight and never let it happen again. Every time, I let myself down.

I used to run in high school, but I stopped because I developed really bad shin splints. I have since attempted to take up running several times again because I know that that was when I was in the best shape of my life. However, I never stick with it. I get tired of running through the pain and give up.

After college is when I got into the best shape that I had been in a while, and I weighed about 160 pounds. This was mostly due to the fact that I had reconnected with a friend from high school and he and I began to show a romantic interest in one another. So I decided that I didn't want him to find me unattractive and once again took up running and dieting. It was the longest and most successful weight lose attempt that I had made. By the end of the summer, he and I began dating and I kept up with my exercise and diet to keep up my appearance and try to lose even more weight.

However, as time went by, I became more comfortable around him. I no longer felt the need to always be dressed up when we would go over to each others' homes. Sweatpants worked just fine! And we would go out to eat, or order pizza- a lot. The next thing I knew, I would put regular pants and jeans back on, and they'd be a little bit tighter each time.

It doesn't help that my boyfriend never really eats particularly healthy food and he is also the type that can eat and eat and eat and never really gain much weight. So I ate right along with him and two and a half years later, I'm about 40 pounds heavier.

This past August, my boyfriend took me to Disney World. I was so excited for months before hand and I decided that I once again needed to lose weight so that I could be comfortable while we were there. I started off around 190 pounds and lost 10 before we went. But I have obviously gained it all back and then some since.

So here I am today. I went to buy new pants yesterday (because I don't fit into any of the ones that I have) and I could have cried at the way I looked in the mirror. I have had enough of being this overweight. No more excuses- I have always found a way to blame something else for why I have never been successful in my attempts to get healthier. But the truth is, I get lazy, and I really like to eat. I know better than this. I am tired of feeling like I need to hide my body from my boyfriend, tired of feeling like everyone is looking at me when I go out in public, tired of having a closet full of clothes that I wish I could wear again. This time, I am going to do it. I am going to take charge of my life, I am going to lose weight, and I am going to be healthy!

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TJHORT 11/14/2012 6:28PM

    OMG! I could have written this myself. I too am starting at 202 and ask myself how I got here all the time. Please know you are not alone.

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ASHINGALE 11/14/2012 1:34PM

    I can totally relate to what you just wrote. I successfully dieted and exercised last year and got down to my thinnest, buying new pants along the way, never throwing away my "old pants". Over the course of the last year with school, I have steady grown back into those old pants and my wake up call was the fact that those big pants were getting tight on me. Best of luck. Take one day at a time, one stressful situation at a time.

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ZULAIKAH 11/13/2012 10:36AM

    Sometimes I feel the same - nothing hurts worse than realizing we need to buy clothes to fit comfortably in them. I LOVE SHOPPING, but buying something for this reason is truly tough. One thing I have realized is sometimes we are too comfortable getting bigger clothes. I'm fighting with this right now personally. emoticon

Thank God my husband is so supportive emoticon . He never says anything negative about how I look or my weight. On the contrary, he is always trying to make me feel beautiful. Hopefully, you can appreciate the support your bf gives you (assuming he isn't judgmental of you).

emoticon Use both of these things as further motivation - or keep doing it since it already seems that you are.

It's very brave of you to be so open - it isn't for us to read, but for you to almost say it to yourself. You aren't in denial about your health and that is great!

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LULUTYM 11/12/2012 2:12PM

    Take one step at a time. Set reasonable goals and stick to them. You will have greater success making small changes over time. Remember the saying, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. You made a committment today. Move forward.

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It's my time to shine!

Monday, November 12, 2012

I have always struggled with my weight. Throughout high school, I suppose I was never really overweight, however I have always been curvy- big boobs, hips... Back then though, I only saw this as being fat, none of my other friends looked like that. Now I would love to look that way again! I am ok with having the curves, I will never be a stick. But I need to be in shape, I need to be healthy and I am neither of those things right now.

So now it's my time to shine! It's my time to finally feel good about myself. I have made several attempts to lose weight, but I have given up. This is my second time on Spark People- the first time was a half hearted attempt. But this time will be my success. This time I will reach my goal, I will control my life.

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HEATHERS_TIME 11/13/2012 10:04AM

    Thank you Zulaikah! I am very excited to begin this journey to a healthy me! emoticon

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ZULAIKAH 11/12/2012 1:56PM

    Congratulations on making the choice again. It's never too late, and you seem to have the right idea of getting comfortable within your own skin. Please always keep in mind what you already know - healthy looks different on everyone. I wish you lots of luck!

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