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Big promotion at work!

Thursday, August 29, 2013

My broker asked me to come in for a meeting today. I was hoping it wasn't something bad as she rarely asked me to come in for unidentified meetings. Well it was anything but bad. I was asked to a member of the governing board of our office. It is by invitation only and there are only 12. It is the elite of the company and there are a lot of perks and privileges that come with it. The best being that I can to spend a lot of time with the best of what I do. It is rare for such a new agent to be invited and I am honored, flattered and humbled all at once. I can't stop smiling. I have wanted to be on this board since I started with the company but I didn't even dream it would happen so quickly. I feel excited for my future. This is huge for my career. I really needed something positive like this to happen in my life.
Apparently there are a lot of required events, dinners with the bosses, and travel that accompanies the position as well as a lot of member only retreats and courses that the company provides only to this board. We make all the decisions for how the company is run and represent our peers. I am on cloud 9. It shows that in everything is truly use your heart your will be rewarded for your hard work.

  
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PELESJEWEL 11/6/2013 6:34PM

    emoticon emoticon Fantastic! Congrats Ashley!

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ALOFA0509 9/2/2013 2:22AM

    Congrats Sista!!!!! You deserve this emoticon

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COOKWITHME65 9/1/2013 8:27PM

    This is fantastic news Ashley! You should be very proud of yourself. All your hard work is paying off. In due time everything will fall in to place just as you have always dreamed!

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SMILINGTREE 8/31/2013 1:48PM

    Congratulations! I'm so happy to have come across this post :) Your hard work is paying off.

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MADEMCHE 8/31/2013 1:45PM

    So proud of you! Congratulations again!

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KTTAYLOR21 8/31/2013 1:26PM

    What a great accomplishment!! What a reward for all your hard work!!

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TRENTDREAMER 8/31/2013 11:39AM

    Major congrats!!! Best of fortune to you on the new role.

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JANETRIS 8/31/2013 9:57AM

    Wonderful news.....congrats! emoticon

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KRISKECK 8/30/2013 11:38AM

    Congratulations! I am so happy and excited for you - and it is truly a sign that you are in the right place!

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ME_FIRST 8/30/2013 10:33AM

    Congratulations! Obviously the powers that be know real talent when they see it.



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WORTHEYMOM 8/30/2013 9:47AM

    Congrats Ash! That's so awesome!

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HOPERISING 8/30/2013 6:46AM

    Awesome! So happy for you!

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GINA180847 8/29/2013 11:23PM

    What a great thing to have happen. I sure hope you will continue to enjoy the position.

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COLUMBINE2 8/29/2013 11:15PM

    Congratulations! What a great day & tremendous verification of your hard work!!!

And exciting, stimulating new chapter in your life!!! Yahoooooo!

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GHK1962 8/29/2013 10:02PM

    Nice!!!

It is great to hear good news. Yahhh You!

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PAMATX 8/29/2013 9:48PM

    Wow you really did great with the career switch. Fantastic! Love your new pic. Pretty!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 8/29/2013 9:05PM

    That's so great! Congratulations!

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MAMADWARF 8/29/2013 9:00PM

    About time things went your way!!!!

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CALVIND 8/29/2013 8:49PM

    Congrats Ashley! What a great accomplishment in a short space of time. Wishing you all the best emoticon emoticon

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MELLYBEANS0919 8/29/2013 8:30PM

    Congrats Ashley!!! emoticon

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PURPLEVALENTINE 8/29/2013 8:01PM

    Congrats!! What an honor and something you should be super proud of! emoticon emoticon

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Dyed my hair red today (pic)

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

I needed a change and as a natural blonde my options were platinum or go darker. Thank goodness for my amazing hairdresser who gave me the perfect color ! It feels like this me was always hiding in there. New hair, new life, new start. Rather symbolic. Go out and do something for yourself that makes you feel good. Do it only for you because you are what matters.

  
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KATHLOW 2/20/2014 4:31AM

    Beautiful! Suits you very well!

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_UMAMI_ 8/24/2013 8:51PM

    Looks great! I've been wanting to go red for YEARS (I'm a natural blonde, albeit ashy as I've gotten older). Maybe I'll take the jump myself----Fall is the perfect time to go red.

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BUNNYCATS 8/24/2013 11:16AM

    Wowza! It look great on you! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 8/24/2013 11:07AM

    You go grrl!

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HDHAWK 8/23/2013 7:54PM

    Pretty color!

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CRESHA20 8/23/2013 7:58AM

    Gorgeous!

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COMPUCATHY 8/22/2013 9:52PM

    What a great dramatic change! You look terrific! Good choice! I'm so glad to see TGIF on the horizon! Hope you have a great weekend planned! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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KTTAYLOR21 8/22/2013 1:14PM

    That's definitely YOUR color!!! ((hi five))

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JTAMSYN 8/22/2013 12:49PM

    Stunning! I also feel so much better as a redhead!
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DIVADOLL73 8/22/2013 11:30AM

    I luv that color on you, way 2 go!!!! emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 8/22/2013 10:10AM

    Love it!

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LEANNROCKS 8/22/2013 9:07AM

    You Are Gorgeous! Perfect Choice!

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OJIBWEEQUAY 8/22/2013 8:42AM

    LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes red heads are the ones who have more fun!!!!!! emoticon

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PURPLEVALENTINE 8/22/2013 8:34AM

    Love the red!!! Looks great! emoticon

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GIANTMICROBE 8/22/2013 7:19AM

    Whoa, you look like a totally different person! I love it though! I am getting my hair done this weekend- had to wait for my stylist to come back from vacation and I'm DYYYYYYYYYYING for a change!!!!! It was soooooooooooo hard to wait!

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ADVENTURESEEKER 8/22/2013 2:57AM

    Oh wow, I love it!

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MISSROCKABILLY 8/22/2013 12:02AM

    Love it! Now I really miss having my hair red!

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MELLYBEANS0919 8/21/2013 11:15PM

    Gorgeous!

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BAYBELIEVER 8/21/2013 10:35PM

    Looks great!

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WEEPINGANGEL74 8/21/2013 10:20PM

    From one redhead to another.... looks great!!

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GINA180847 8/21/2013 9:47PM

    It looks great on you!

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MOMMA-MOOSE 8/21/2013 9:28PM

    That is gorgeous! That color really suits you. Omg it's really stunning!

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COOKWITHME65 8/21/2013 9:25PM

    It is stunning Ashley!!! I love it.

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MT-MOONCHASER 8/21/2013 9:15PM

    Very flattering color.

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SMILINGTREE 8/21/2013 8:59PM

    I love your natural blonde, but that red is...wow! It looks really good.

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GRACEISENUF 8/21/2013 7:37PM

    Sassy and sexy!

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WORTHEYMOM 8/21/2013 7:12PM

    woot woot! what a hottie!

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ARNETTELEE 8/21/2013 6:51PM

  New look!!

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TIGER_LILY_613 8/21/2013 6:47PM

    Wolf Whistles !!! You look fantastic ! :)

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NANHBH 8/21/2013 6:45PM

    Beautiful!
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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 8/21/2013 6:40PM

    You look AMAZING! That color is definitely YOU!

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ME_FIRST 8/21/2013 6:38PM

    Very nice. It looks great on you. Very serious hair.

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FRUITYFUL 8/21/2013 6:27PM

    Cute! I like that color on you!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 8/21/2013 6:26PM

    Absolutely LOVE the color & positive attitude.

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Start Stop Start Stop....Start

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

This is the last 2 years of my life with SP after the lose of 94 lbs and regain of close 60. The great baby convo coincided with my first week back to tracking. I have decided to let go and move on from the pain of the regain. Enough punishing myself. Enough hiding from it. Enough coming on SP and making false promises and then disappearing in shame. Start stop start stop. I am determined to just track honestly and stop punishing myself. I am not perfect but I am honest. So that is what I will be. Honest with myself completely.

What I learned in the last week. I was WAY underestimating my caloric intake and my mindless eating. Which shockingly was how I got over 300 lbs the last time. I had returned to drinking a lot of calories and sugar. Still not back to soda but chocolatey coffee drinks are a weakness. To the tune of a few a day.

Each day has been a struggle. To make better choices or to eat enough. I tend to go to the opposite extreme and restrict when I am tracking. It feels good to be taking responsibility again. Time to make this my last start and never stop.

  
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MADEMCHE 8/31/2013 1:46PM

    Proud of you. I will be right here tracking and doing it with you, we can do this!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 8/22/2013 10:41PM

    Come On Ashley! Youve been there, don't that and don't need to go back! Just keep plugging along forward! GoGirl!
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ADVENTURESEEKER 8/22/2013 11:17AM

    Big hugs to you! BTDT. It sucks, but the best thing is that you are not giving up! You can be back to where you were before you know it!

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PURPLEVALENTINE 8/22/2013 8:32AM

    We have all done it. Been all in it then run away. We just have to keep coming back and moving forward. I am also guilty of those yummy coffee drinks - they are addicting!

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JAMJOJAM 8/21/2013 10:34PM

    Thank you for your wonderful honest post. I am walking in your same shoes. I had lost 65 pounds and have now regained 45. I just told myself I was tired of counting everything I eat but I am even more tired of being fat again. You have given me back my motivation and I am gonna start trackin. emoticon

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COOKWITHME65 8/21/2013 9:32PM

    So glad to have you back Ashley!!!! I have missed you.

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GIRANIMAL 8/21/2013 9:28PM

    I really need to get back to tracking myself, because I know I am way underestimating my overeating, and frankly I am damn lucky I've gained back only roughly 10 pounds.

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BLYNN710 8/21/2013 7:49PM

    Ashley,

You can do this! I myself have been somewhat lacking around here and am working toward fixing that. Know that there are people here who support you and will not judge your slips (we all have them). Hang in there and see all the positive around you.

Welcome Back!

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GRACEISENUF 8/21/2013 7:41PM

    emoticon , YES WE CAN!

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TONYATIME 8/21/2013 7:30PM

    Welcome back! You can do this, we are all in this together!!!!

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ME_FIRST 8/21/2013 6:39PM

    Love it. Very serious hair.

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OJIBWEEQUAY 8/21/2013 1:34PM

    I agree! I gained almost 20 back ! I lost 5 and on to the next 15! i ALWAYS eat so much! blah! damn mochcas anyway! emoticon

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MELLYBEANS0919 8/21/2013 11:42AM

    I will happily support you Ashley. I always have admired your honesty. I understand how sweet drinks can add up in calories and be oh so tempting and tasty. Here for you!

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HIPPICHICK1 8/21/2013 10:00AM

    I have to say that if I don't track I also lose track of what I've eaten in a day. I didn't track while on vacation, thought I ate modestly, had two treats and came home with 5 extra pounds! I lost four of them in a week. Weigh in is tomorrow to see if the last pound (or more!) is gone.
I have been on Spark 5 years now and I really think that the best tool is the Nutrition Tracker.
Congrats on thinking about a baby and making that happen by starting and never stopping.
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LEANNROCKS 8/21/2013 8:38AM

    Ashley, a real friend encourages, a real friend does not judge. Keep coming back - especially on those days when you feel you need to be carried. We love you!

A positive note, think about the money saved by giving up those caffeine drinks - money put to great use for your dream!

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NANHBH 8/21/2013 2:02AM

    Ash,

I read a poster today --

Losing weight is hard.
Being overweight is hard.
Choose your hard.

You are so worth being healthy. Keep the baby goal vivid in your mind! You won't want to be drinking a lot of sugary coffee drinks while pregnant, so no better time to give them up than the present! Keep up the good work. I know you can do it.
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EDDYMEESE 8/20/2013 11:29PM

    The "leaving in shame" is easy to do. Just remember there is no judgement here and if someone does judge you, you can just ignore them :) Sometimes I feel like my blogs get so down and negative - I want to be a happy, positive, weight-losing person and when I'm not...I feel like a burden to fellow SPs so I just stay away. But you know, I'm not here for anyone but myself. So maybe I complain a lot on my blogs. Maybe I'm not losing 20 pounds a month. Sure, I've been here 7 years and have never gotten to my goal weight...start stop start stop, right?

Just stay here and it'll all fall into place with enough hard work. I believe it!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 8/20/2013 10:35PM

    Good for you Ashley, I know you can do it! *HUGS*

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PATJOONWW 8/20/2013 9:53PM

    Welcome back! I too have done the start stop thing and I am darned tired of it. This time I am doing it forever, good bad ugly days I too will still log in my food. This way I will disgust myself into really seeing the damage I am doing to myself.

Congrats on starting, we can do this.

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GIANTMICROBE 8/20/2013 8:51PM

    I have to track because I ALWAYS eat more than I think I am eating, and I always *think* I need more food than I actually do.

When I lost weight in 2011 I was SHOCKED at how much I needed to eat versus how much I wanted to eat.

You can do this!

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FRUITYFUL 8/20/2013 8:51PM

    What matters most is that you're still trying. I've been there, done that, and I've left Spark out of shame too. But, there is not one person on this site who has not done the same thing and this is the best place for support. Welcome back!

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Honey, I want to have a baby

Monday, August 19, 2013

That sentence came out during a rather intense discuss about something entirely different. My fiancÚ is not a big communicator. He tends to think of things on his own for a long time and then just blurts them out mid conversation just like this. I stopped talking. It takes quite a bit to make me stop talking. We have discussed children. It wasn't a surprise that someday we would have some. However I didn't realize his sometime was now. Apparently he feels he is has reached his age of wanting a family. He feels we are living day to day but not moving forward much in terms of our family. My business has been my focus. His work has been his focus. We have been taking steps towards buying a house a year or so down the road (unless prices skyrocket again which they are in Boston and we get priced out which is entirely possible).
Honestly, a baby was not high on my priority list. Secretly I know I am not physically in shape to have a healthy pregnancy so I think subconsciously I am putting it off. He told me as nicely as possible that my weight is holding us both back from many things. Activities we enjoy because I am either too out of shape or too self conscious and from me having a healthy pregnancy. That is scared him for me to get pregnant in my current condition.
He is right about all of it. This is not a general commentary on pregnancy and obesity. It is our situation and my person health. I do not wish to give birth or carry a child at 300 lbs. I want them to have a childhood of hiking, bike rides, horse back riding, etc and parents who are doing it right along with them. Not a lifetime glued to the brain dimming box or laptop. I feel lucky to have a partner that supports me and will have the difficult conversations with me in a supportive manner.
I have thought a lot since this conversation Saturday morning and I am there too. Ready to take my life back. Enough of the start stop, start stop and false promises on SP. I have to let the last 3 years go of punishing myself for regaining and just begin again. I miss the thinner more active me so very much. Today is a week of tracking and making my breakfast. Today was my first real day of eating healthy. Honestly, I am dying. Detoxing like crazy from the sugar and junk. Hungry as heck because of the calorie cut but I know this lasts on 3 days. 3 days until I am on a roll and I don't miss the junk. We can do anything for 3 days, right?

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MADEMCHE 8/31/2013 1:51PM

    Love and support all the way. I am so glad you and A had the talk and you are correct, we can do anything for 3 days. And then it will get better. Love and hugs!

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DS9KIE 8/22/2013 12:10AM

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Eat lots of fruits and veggies.

you can do it

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COOKWITHME65 8/21/2013 9:30PM

    Ashley this is fantastic news! And such a wonderful man you have there. So glad that he was able to communicate this with you.

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GRACEISENUF 8/21/2013 7:40PM

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I had to start over awhile back myself...well nearly over, I gained 40 plus pounds back. Moving ahead and not looking back.

What an exciting time in your life. Glad you posted the new hair pic or I would have missed this blog cuz I was gone.

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KRISKECK 8/21/2013 10:41AM

    Good to hear from you again! And really, what better motivator is there? I too have been struggling with the regain and trying not to be hard on myself, to identify the problems and move forward. I look at it this way (and you might try this too): at least I didn't gain it all back. We can do this!

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NANHBH 8/21/2013 1:58AM

    Ashley,

I've been limited in my Spark time this year. This is the first blog I'm reading in quite a while -- and what an exciting one to come in on! You are such a loving, caring, and thoughtful person. You will make a wonderful Mom! You can become the healthy Mom that you want to be. You are in my prayers for success on so many levels.
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EDDYMEESE 8/20/2013 11:38PM

    I definitely understand your concerns about baby and weight loss.

I've been trying to have a baby for 4 years (only 2 really actively) and have had 2 miscarriages. I'm now seeing a reproductive specialist and we'll be on to In-Vitro soon if no luck. When I got pregnant the first time, it was unexpected. We'd been sort of trying but I wasn't panicked quite yet. I was still in school so it was kind of a "if it happens, it happens" type of thing. Well, I miscarried and then it became an obsession. That was in August 2011. I was just under 200 pounds when I got pregnant (I'm only 5'1). I told myself it was for the best - I wanted to be a mom so badly, but I wanted to be a happy, healthy mom. I didn't want to have to be on bed rest. I didn't want to be fat and tired and exhausted. I wanted to be a glowing, yoga-doing pregnant lady. Well, unfortunately I let the stress of trying for a baby get to me and I only gained weight. I had another miscarriage in February of this year. I know...I KNOW...I need to lose the weight because when that thing that I've waited for so long finally happens, I want to be HEALTHY! I love this quote by Randine Lewis: "You must become a vessel for yourself before becoming a vessel for another." My husband is working super hard for a promotion that should happen in November and I know that IVF won't happen until early 2014, most likely. I'm really feeling like I'm ready to really buckle down and take the next 3-6 months to lose the weight. It is so important and as another poster mentioned, babies are a great motivation for losing weight! We're in the same boat - I totally get you! We can do this!!


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MISSROCKABILLY 8/20/2013 1:16PM

    I'm in a similar position with my goals and motivation right now, as my fella and I also want to have a family, and between my weight (and its health implications) and my age, it's harder than I'd hoped. I can't do anything about my age, but I can about my health, so that's what I'm focusing on now.

Glad to see you back!


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WORTHEYMOM 8/20/2013 9:54AM

    well I am sure his comment might have came as a shock, but if it's something you are both wanting it's an awesome and rewarding goal! It will be worth all of the sweat and tears - watching my babies (a freshman and 2nd grader) grow up is crazy. I love my lil ones more than i ever knew was possible. You can do this Ash! By making yourself a priority, you will thank yourself in the future. Love and Hugs!

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PURPLEVALENTINE 8/20/2013 9:32AM

    I can totally relate. I have total baby fever and my husband and I both know that I need to lose weight to get pregnant. It is great you are both in it together, it makes it that much easier! Best of luck!

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OJIBWEEQUAY 8/20/2013 8:26AM

    LOVE the jacket! Oh how sweet!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a great motivation!!! Trust me I had my son at 19 then the 2 girls at 31 and 33! I wasn't entirely ready but now my son is a senior and the girls are in kinder and pre k! Time flies!!!!!! Good luck friend! I am here for you!!!

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SASSYDREAMER 8/20/2013 5:38AM

    Glad to see you back! I've been in and out myself. It's nice to see that there are couples out there with open communication and who understand the value of actually *gasp* speaking frankly. Frankly doesn't have to mean without kindness and it sounds like you're both willing to speak and listen.

AWESOME! Gives a single gal hope there might actually be some good ones out there! ;)

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LUCKYDOGFARM 8/20/2013 1:10AM

    It's hard work, but you are worth it! Never forget that!

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 8/19/2013 11:12PM

    Best wishes in finding the strength to accomplish this wonderful journey.

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ILIKETOZUMBA 8/19/2013 10:53PM

    Good for you!!!

My husband and I waited to have kids until I was healthy, too. I wanted to lose weight before my college graduation, and didn't. Then it was before my wedding, but I didn't. Then I said, before we have kids...AND I DID. It actually kind of helped that I was officially diagnosed with hypertension. I knew I had high blood pressure for years before I was diagnosed for real, but I preferred to take the head-in-the-sand approach. Once I had a doctor diagnose it and force me to go see a primary care physician to treat it, I got my sh** together and started trying to eat healthier and exercise more than I had. A lot of BP meds are not approved for use during pregnancy, and of course it would be best to have normal BP unmedicated while pregnant, so I literally worked my butt off and tracked my food (which was the main thing that kept the weight dropping - religious tracking my food intake and being sure to exercise most days), and after a year and a half or so, I was 90 pounds down, off my medicine and approved to start trying for a family! There were some additional hormonal issues, but now I'm over 7 1/2 months pregnant with twin boys, and we are all currently healthy and happy! :) I even still go jogging because I am determined to stay active and healthy during pregnancy in the hopes that it helps me stay more mobile as I get bigger.

So anyways....I totally get where you're coming from. Weight is definitely an important concern to address before starting your family, and it will take time to get down to a safer weight so even if you're not quite ready for kids yet yourself, it's good that you're thinking ahead like this now. I've read SO many articles about studies that suggest in various ways how obesity negatively impacts the health of the mother while pregnant, the health of the fetus, and the health of the baby even after birth - and those are things none of us wants to risk! Hooray for the people like us who are smart enough to see the problem and ready/willing to address it! :) I always feel bad for overweight women who are pregnant because I'm sure they feel bad about being overweight....plus it's got to be just MISERABLE to deal with pregnancy on top of obesity, which is physically uncomfortable enough on its own!

Oops, sorry for the super-long comment. This topic just really hits home for me. Anyways, I'm so glad your fiance can talk to you about these kinds of things in a supportive way and that you are receptive to hearing them and willing to do what is necessary to become healthy for your future baby/ies! :) AWESOME!

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ROCKMAN6797 8/19/2013 8:27PM

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 8/19/2013 8:14PM

    Wow Ashley, that's exciting! Glad you're back and have a goal to work towards!

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GIANTMICROBE 8/19/2013 8:08PM

    That's slightly unnerving. A guy who outright wants kids? I hope mine never says that to me...

Anyway, I'll of course support you no matter what. Missed seeing you around :)

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MISSLORI5 8/19/2013 8:07PM

    Babies are an excellent motivation to lose weight, and better yet, to keep it off, so you can live the kind of life with them and teach them the proper eating habits so they won't struggle as much as you did!!! Just remember to lose weight in a healthy way, so your body can gain in strength rather than taking the easy way out and starving yourself-something a person is often tempted with!!! Your hubby sounds like a very supportive sort who will give you the extra boost you need to do this!!! Just remember we're here for you at SP!!!! emoticon emoticon

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GINA180847 8/19/2013 7:34PM

    Oh Ashley, my heart goes out to you. My oldest daughter never really wanted children and then her husband of several years said the same to her. She loves him so much that she started to head in that direction and even though she was in her late 30s and had to get fertility help (a little, not the big time stuff) eventually she was pregnant with twin girls at 39. She had them just under the wire before 40. Then she stunned us all by becoming one of the best and extremely loving moms in the world. She was just here for a visit and even though we never lock our doors at night as we live in a super safe community she insisted I lock the doors. She said "They may not want an elderly couple but I have two extremely precious 5 yr. old daughters here." Nuff said, I locked the doors. They are the sweetest, nicest, little girls. Very proud granny here.

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MELLYBEANS0919 8/19/2013 6:57PM

    That is very exciting! I have always loved your blogs, you are so honest. Wishing you ALL the best! Rooting for you!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 8/19/2013 6:21PM

    Well it is awhile off until I lose weight but yes, very exciting! Thanks for the support Jan!

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MAMADWARF 8/19/2013 6:15PM

    WOW that is HUGE, ASHLEY!! How exciting!!! Well it helps to have a reason and a goal, does it not? I love and support you, all the way!

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The positive side

Thursday, June 27, 2013

After feeling sad yesterday I thought a lot about the positive people in my life. I am lucky to have several amazing people who are true friends and are very excited to help me with anything in my life and are thrilled to help me with the wedding. I feel blessed to have such special people in my life. I have a business I love and my relationship is at the best point it has been since we met. I am very lucky. I am also on my way being healthy again. Packing my lunch daily for work. Making better choices. Feeling better about myself everyday. This is very exciting. Life is what we choose for it to be. So choose to be healthy and happy. Way more interesting than letting the miserable people pull us down with them. Have a lovely day my sparktastic friends.

  
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NANHBH 8/21/2013 2:03AM

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KML410 7/28/2013 12:12PM

    You sound like you are in a good place today, thats wonderful! I find it's a challenge to think about the positive rather than the negative but I also think that is part of the process of living a healthier lifestyle. We also need to train our brain to think positively and as we make healthier food choices and exercise more our brain will adapt by thinking more positively. Just a thought, what do you think? Have a wonderful and blessed day! emoticon emoticon

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TRACYZABELLE 7/15/2013 6:15AM

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HIPPICHICK1 6/30/2013 8:23AM

    It's unfortunate that some people can bring you down but seeing all that is positive in your life is a good way to rebound from the let down!
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ROCKMAN6797 6/28/2013 9:56AM

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PATJOONWW 6/27/2013 3:59PM

    I didn't have time to respond yesterday, but some people are just negative. My MIL was, she hardly ever had anything nice to say. My DH said that I was just taking it the wrong way, that's not what she meant. I'm sure everything about your wedding will be beautiful! And just the way YOU want it to be. Stay strong.

emoticon on eating better and taking your lunches. The positive attitude will help on your journey. Glad to see you back on here.

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LESLIES537 6/27/2013 3:37PM

    Loving that positive attitude of yours! Keep shining! emoticon

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DEEDEE1102 6/27/2013 3:33PM

    Great attitude! See, it only took you a day to bounce back!
Healthy and Happy!!
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I love your energy today!! Have a Terrific Thursday and a Fantastic Friday!!!

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GRACEISENUF 6/27/2013 1:17PM

    Hi Ashley! Thanks for stopping by and I am so glad to read that your life and the plans you are making are going so well.

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 6/27/2013 12:48PM

    I'm so glad you're feeling better!

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ICKA_2 6/27/2013 12:20PM

    That's such a positive way of looking at things, and it's so true! We gotta appreciate the amazing people in our lives who support us. Glad you're feeling better! =)

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 6/27/2013 11:04AM

    Awesome attitude, Ashley! So much better to focus on the positives than to be dragged down by the negatives. I know you are going to have such a fabulous wedding! Have fun planning!

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COOKWITHME65 6/27/2013 10:33AM

    Wonderful to see your feeling better this am. We all need to rant and vent at times. You are right Ashley, You have so many important loving people in your life. They will be there to help you and share in your special day! Rock on Girl. Loving your attitude!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 6/27/2013 10:01AM

    March 2014. Haven't put a deposit on the venue yet but hoping for the 22nd. Very excited!

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CALVIND 6/27/2013 10:00AM

    So happy for your Ashley. Glad to see you back on spark. When is the big day?

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MADEMCHE 6/27/2013 9:59AM

    Ya! Super proud of you! You can do this. Keep smiling sunshine.

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GINA180847 6/27/2013 9:54AM

    Atta girl! Always look for the positives in your life. Family has been the least positive element in my life and like you friends, dogs and my husband are the things I love to get up in the morning for. Nobody promised us it would all be great and it isn't. But when you think how much worse it could be, well, things start to shine.

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