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Where the heck have I been?

Thursday, June 02, 2011

Yes, I have logged in everyday. Yes, I have been lurking about but not commenting because it sucks to do it on my phone. Where the heck have I been? Proving to myself and my bosses that I am the best damn thing that ever happened to them and you know what? I blew their freaking minds.
I had a meeting this week with one of the owners and they told me that 2 months ago they thought I was going to quit and had given up. That I didn't care anymore. That there was not a chance I was going to prove them wrong. NO ONE tells me I am a failure. NO ONE makes me feel like I am a failure and the best way to get me to something is tell me I can't.
In the last 60 days I tripled my sales, nailed several huge clients and in general have been kicking butt and taking names. Somewhere in there I have been managing to work out regularly and feel really great again. This is the first week I have not been able to get to my 4 days a week minimum goal. I took a personal day last Friday and got to spend almost the whole long weekend with my fiancé. We have not had that much time off together since our last vacation which was last August excluding my grandmother's funeral but that is not time off. He took Friday off to surprise me as well, yes, he is pretty freaking awesome. In the morning I went to meet with a mentor at my local SCORE chapter and I am so glad I did. He is awesome, very connected and brought with him the chapter leader. They both told me at least 3 times that I blew their minds and that I am better prepared than 99.9% of the people that come in to meet with them. I learned so many things that I never would have thought and they are going to help me fill in the blanks in the areas I don't have experience. I left feeling pretty jazzed about the whole thing. That afternoon we went shopping and ran a few errands and then came home and made dinner together. Best wild salmon ever for me and a truly delicious steak for him. It was so wonderful to just be together and no pressure.
Saturday he went out with the boys during the day to watch a soccer game and that is when I realized that food is a huge emotional comfort for me. I was angry that he left me on a holiday weekend when everyone I knew was away and I immediately sought food for comfort. I went to Homegoods and walked around for a bit and then food shopping for our BBQ on Sunday. All I could think about was what kind of takeout I was going to eat that night because he "abandoned me". My abandonment issues are much more deep rooted than I ever imagined. Yes, rationally I want him to have friends and I want to have friends but emotionally I feel like he is choosing them over me and I feel sad. I am sure it is a leftover remnant from my abusive childhood but I wish I could get past it. Truly. It isn't healthy for either of us.
He called me around 6 and asked if I wanted to meet him and his friends and go out for dinner with their respective wives and go dancing. It was fun and salsa dancing is not only great exercise but also one of our favorite things to do together. We always have a great time and he also made a huge effort to communicate with me that night about how going out with his friends with me was important to him and something he really wanted me to do. He usually would not have told me something like that and we are both finding that in the last 6 months we have almost not fought at all because we are making such an effort to communicate our needs to each other. I love this man to pieces.
Sunday we had a cookout with both families and I snuck in healthy foods. My sister in law was psyched because she had put on a few pounds and my niece is getting a bit chubby since she moved here. All she eats is fries and fried chicken and it freaks me out a bit but I would never say anything. Not my place. We all had a great time and the men spent a good hour trying to get our new couch into our apartment. Eventually they had to flip it over the back porch (we are on the second floor) with a rope system. Tons of work but it is here and I love it :).
Monday we went shopping for clothes and I bought my first ever size 18 since I was actually 18!!! I couldn't believe it fit. I still can't believe it does. I made it into the teens again with all of you and it feels great. Once I am out of the 20's for good I will be even more happy.
Work this week is pretty insane. Always is this time of year with graduations etc but I work more with corporations than social clients and it is still nuts. I have no idea what is going on but it is a good thing! Yeah money. The first farmer's market of the season is this Saturday in my neighborhood and I am pretty sad because I realized I have an appointment that I made months ago that will prevent me from going. It will keep me away the exact hours the market is open. Grrrr, I am so going next weekend. Fresh strawberries will be mine!
I have missed all of you and I don't want any of you to think I quit or I don't care about you. I am here and I care. I am cheering you all on from the sidelines, just not commenting. Keep working, the rewards are worth it. I truly believe that without losing as much weight as I have so far I would not being having all the success in life I am having now. You are worth it. I am worth it. Hugs

  
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COOKWITHME65 6/10/2011 8:31AM

    Sounds like you had a great weekend Ashley! Congrats on increasing your sales.

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ERIN4771 6/9/2011 11:27AM

    i wasn't worried...i figured you had lots going on, and after reading this...wow, was i correct!! congrats on the improvements at work, sounds like you are finally being appreciated for being the kick *ss person i already know you are!!
as for the abandonment issues, we all have them on some level, i think the thing to remember is it's important for you both to have your own space from time to time, doesn't mean you love each other less or don't want to spend time together, but, it's an opportunity to get your won things done, watch the movies he isn't that keen on or maybe just having a bubble bath with some champagne...
congrats on the size 18, i am sooooo proud of you my friend!!! and will we be seeing some new progress pictures any time soon (hint hint...i say hopefully emoticon)

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RAVENSONG37 6/6/2011 4:01PM

    I have the same abandonment = food issues. Keep working on it woman...you will get thru it!

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BELLALUCIA 6/6/2011 3:53PM

    Keep at it dear. U rock!

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KATHLOW 6/6/2011 10:05AM

    That sounds like a wonderful weekend! Love you!

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KTTAYLOR21 6/5/2011 9:39PM

    I'm not going to tell you how many times I have been to your page eagerly waiting for a blog!! A TON!!! Glad your back... congrats on getting into an 18!!! 16 here you come!!

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AGALAVIZ 6/5/2011 1:27PM

    Awesome Girl!!!! :) What a great update!!! emoticon

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OJIBWEEQUAY 6/3/2011 1:53PM

    We were on the same page with Salsa dancing!!! My Hubby is pretty shy so it was great for him to go! Um do not recommend doing it in 4 inch espadrilles though!!! You are doing great!! Size 18????Awesome!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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TREASURINGLIFE 6/3/2011 12:32PM

    What a wonderful update!!!! LOVE IT! :)

Have a fantastic weekend!

- Michelle

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LESLIES537 6/3/2011 11:06AM

    YESS, you ARE worth it! You really are kicking butt and taking names! NO ONE puts baby in a corner! lol emoticon emoticon Seriously though, I just love your kick-butt and take names attitude. Show 'em what you got, girl! emoticon

And a BIG CONGRATS on the size 18's!! Freakin' emoticon!

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HOPE2011 6/3/2011 10:49AM

    It sounds like you've had a lot of excitement lately! Congrats to you for everything, especially the size 18's! How awesome for you - great job! emoticon

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KARENZIO 6/3/2011 10:15AM

    Glad things are going so well. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 6/3/2011 9:50AM

    Sounds like you are doing awesome! Yeah on size 18!!! What I think is even more awesome is that you and your fiancé are communicating!

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WILLIAMV3 6/3/2011 9:17AM

    I'm glad to hear things are going well. Have a wonderful weekend. emoticon

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CHICAT63 6/3/2011 7:42AM

    So happy that things are good for you ! Excellent for the size 18 you rock, have a great weekend. Take some time for you even if you are super busy:)

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LUVDOGZ 6/3/2011 6:29AM

    I am so glad things are going well for you! Congrats on the size 18! emoticon

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MADEMCHE 6/2/2011 11:52PM

    I am so very very happy for you. You sound so upbeat and positive and even things that got you down a month ago are being pushed aside. You are an amazing woman and I am so happy for you and A. You have got this!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 6/2/2011 11:19PM

    Ashley, i am so glad that things are all going so well for you! Yay!!!

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MSPRING1987 6/2/2011 11:15PM

    Awesome blog! Looks like you have been busy! But you have made LIFE changes on spark so that is why you are sticking with it! Kuddos to you! Congrats!

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MAMADWARF 6/2/2011 11:15PM

    Yea... great Blog!! Loved hearing about your weekend and how things went. A SIZE 18????? That is fan-riggin-tastic. Now I have to go try the size 18 jeans on that I bought a few months ago cause I will NOT have you outdoing me! rofl.... I am so proud of you ash...

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KAMAPERRY 6/2/2011 11:05PM

    You are doing awesome!

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TADTURC 6/2/2011 10:47PM

    Glad to hear things are going well! WooHoo for the 18's!!!!

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TISHA80 6/2/2011 10:43PM

    emoticon I'm so happy that things are going well for you! :)

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LEANNROCKS 6/2/2011 10:20PM

    WOOHOO! You are on such a roll! You show'd 'em!



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KIMBYUT 6/2/2011 10:12PM

    I've been thinking about you! And, I know we've had this discussion about before about sparking on our phones & that it generally sucks. That being said, I'm on my phone now, so I'll keep this short (I've really got to suck it up & replace my home computer!) just know I'm so very proud of you!

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ECONLADY 6/2/2011 9:30PM

    I'm glad things are going well. You were smart to connect the dots on the emotional eating. Keep up the good work!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 6/2/2011 9:11PM

    Sounds like you've been crazy busy! What an awesome weekend you've had. You're totally rockin' it!

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IMIN2GENES 6/2/2011 8:55PM

    Thanks for the update! It's nice to hear that things are going so well. Congratulations on your many successes!
Chris

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ADALAI 6/2/2011 8:41PM

    Thank you for checking in and LOOK AT you GO woman!

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ALOFA0509 6/2/2011 8:41PM

   
Hi Sista!!! What a wonderful update, soo happy to hear all is going soo FRICKIN AWSUM,, emoticon emoticon emoticon

Hugs 2U, Alofa

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TAKINBACKMYBODY 6/2/2011 7:36PM

    Keep it up - you're doing fabulous!!! emoticon emoticon

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MARTELLA3 6/2/2011 7:11PM

    You sound so happy that I feel happy just reading about all of your successes!

Congratulations on your seeing the payoff for all of your hard work and dedication.

Marty

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ROCKMAN6797 6/2/2011 7:06PM

    So glad to hear that everything seems to be going good for you!
Also very nice that you are able to identify and, hopefully, work through some of your life issues!
Keep up the great work and keep on kicking butt!

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SLEEPYDEAN 6/2/2011 6:51PM

    Alright! So nice to read about your recent accomplishments and breakthroughs in your thinking and your relationship. Hope you can keep up with your fitness goals in the coming, busy weeks!

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IBSHAUN 6/2/2011 6:50PM

    So nice to catch up with you! I can feel your energy in your blog and it is awesome!! It sounds to me like you have found a pretty good rhythm (even if it is hectic) with your life. Keep communicating with your fiance! It is so important!! And, individual time away, with respective friends is also very valuable time to a relationship. So glad you checked in!

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 6/2/2011 6:46PM

    Glad to hear things are going so well with you!! Thanks for checking in! :)

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The Meaning of life....

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

....is to live it.

The universe has a sick sense of humor. Never did I think I would have a major life epiphany on the way home from the gym reading bumper stickers but it really doesn't get that more simple. How do you find motivation? How do you change your life? How do you find happiness?

GET OUT AND LIVE

You are not going to find yourself or your bliss at the bottom of a pint of ice cream, bottle of vodka, or on the couch. Get up and move for the pleasure of moving. Take your kids, hubby, dog, heck just yourself and go for a walk and admire the beauty that we don't take the time to see day to day because we are so busy rushing around. What are we rushing for? Is that extra 15 minutes at work going to make you happier? Most likely not. Is chaining yourself to a treadmill because you have to burn a certain number of calories a day going to make you happy? Meh, I doubt it. Find your bliss and follow it. This whole journey is about making yourself happy and when you find it that is when you will find the key to being healthy and living in balance.
Wish me luck on Friday when I go meet with a mentor at my local branch of SCORE who is going to help me launch my business because I am going to live my life, happy.

  
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SM-ARTGIRL 5/28/2011 7:34PM

    How did it go? I can sense your excitement with getting your business idea up, good luck with it Ashley!

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RIGBY31 5/28/2011 7:09AM

    Find your bliss and follow it.... perfectly simple. Thanks!

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HEALTHYONE2008 5/27/2011 7:49PM

    So true,
Let's all Get Out and Live. Also never give up on your dreams.
Wishing you the best on yours.

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NEENSTER1 5/27/2011 2:25PM

    Amen! Get Out and Live. emoticon

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BELLALUCIA 5/27/2011 2:21PM

    Happy for u!

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SPOOKYTHECAT 5/27/2011 9:17AM

    What an awesome quote~ I love it. Best of love & luck & everything on your new venture!!

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COOKWITHME65 5/26/2011 9:41PM

    Sending you lots of well wishes Ashley. I don't thing you need luck. Your a strong woman Ashley. I think you will do great presenting your visions to them.

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GIANTMICROBE 5/26/2011 6:59PM

    I am so excited about your business!

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NUTS4NUTELLA 5/26/2011 6:47PM

    Ashley, this reminds me of one of my favorite Oscar Wilde quotes, “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Have you heard of it? It totally reminds me of you! You don't merely exist, you live your life!
I wish you tons of luck tomorrow!
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DEBBIE19580 5/26/2011 2:05PM

    good luck friday ashley, your going to do so good with your business!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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F1AMEDIVA 5/26/2011 12:35PM

    Good luck Friday!!!! Hope your mentor has tons of good ideas for you. Grab your dreams! emoticon

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LETTINGGO85 5/26/2011 10:35AM

    Good Luck on Friday! Congrats on following your dreams!

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FITMOMTO4 5/26/2011 8:40AM

    Good Luck on Friday! If you want to be happy, then just BE. Right? :)

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TIME4AMY 5/26/2011 8:03AM

    Well said!

Follow your heart...NEVER forget the simple things in life...

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ANGELOO29 5/26/2011 7:53AM

    Woohoo! Good luck!

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TARANITUP 5/26/2011 6:33AM

    Right on!

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ERIN4771 5/26/2011 6:22AM

    sometimes we find inspiration in the most unlikely spots, you gotta love it!! good luck on friday!! emoticon

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KATHLOW 5/26/2011 3:47AM

    Good luck on friday! And have to agree with you...again!

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ALOFA0509 5/26/2011 2:27AM

   
Mmmmm.Hmmm girl you got that right!!! "Get busy living or Get busy dying!!!" (Shawshank) Good luck with your mentor,, GR8 news emoticon emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 5/25/2011 11:22PM

    Good luck this coming Friday Ashley!
Get out and live!

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IMIN2GENES 5/25/2011 11:15PM

    Good luck on Friday! I'll send positive thoughts your way.

Thanks for sharing your epiphany. It's a timely reminder!
Chris


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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/25/2011 10:50PM

    Good luck on Friday!! You can do it!

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ECONLADY 5/25/2011 10:50PM

    I have always believed all the answers are in front of us, we just have to listen, emoticon

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LESLIES537 5/25/2011 10:20PM

    emoticon blog! Best of luck on Friday!!

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IBSHAUN 5/25/2011 10:14PM

    Inspiration can come from the strangest places and sometimes those bumper stickers are the best source. Good luck on Friday!!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 5/25/2011 10:01PM

    Yay Ashley! Those bumper stickers are worth reading on occasion!

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MSPRING1987 5/25/2011 9:54PM

    Woohoo! Go girl! emoticon

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MAMADWARF 5/25/2011 9:01PM

    you got it all figured out and I LOVE it!!

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MADEMCHE 5/25/2011 8:52PM

    You said it girl!

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KIMBYUT 5/25/2011 8:32PM

    I was just reading a blog (not on SP) about "living out loud" and taking the time to find your joy, whether that means going to a park, taking the scenic route to work, having a "joy party" with friends (just getting together for the purpose of a joyous occasion), etc. My mission this long weekend, to find additional joy :).

This reminds me of a quote: "Life is a great big canvas and you should throw all the paint you can on it."


Good luck Friday, be sure to let us know how it goes, I'll be thinking of you!

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JSPIN74 5/25/2011 8:32PM

    thanks for sharing this energy...it's good for me...especially before resting for the evening :)


luck!!! i know you'll get it done (live your life happy that is)

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KRISKECK 5/25/2011 8:30PM

    You go for it girl!! It is good to do what makes you happy! That being said, ake sure you go in fully educated and with eyes wide open!! But go in and live love laugh leap!!! Otherwise it just isn't worth it! Much love, Kristin

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Revelations from my first 5K

Sunday, May 15, 2011

I realized during what I thought was my first 5K that it was actually my second. My first was when I was in my late 20's and I did it with a friend whose work sponsored it. I was so obese and so out of shape I could barely make it the first mile. I pretended I wanted to walk slowly so my friends went on ahead and after they lapped me I just turned around and headed back. I never told anyone that and I think out of self preservation I stuffed it into a dark crevice of my memory. That memory came back with glaring clarity as I struggled along during this time. I made it the first mile running but quickly realized the stunning difference between running on a treadmill and running outside. Outside is infinitely much more difficult. You use stability muscles you never realized you had. The run was along the beach and it was the perfect running weather. Overcast and a bit cold but not enough to make you stiffen up, rather it was cool and I didn't need to worry for a sunburn. Along the way I struggled with pain in my hips and I had difficulty keeping up. I just can't seem to even walk quickly and I was ashamed. Particularly as the winners passed me on the return trip so easily. I was jealous of their ability and sad for my own lack of endurance and ability.
I have decided to start looking at each experience I have in life as an opportunity to learn something about myself. At work I have to supervise a woman twice my age who can be difficult, insubordinate, combative and sensitive. The stress of dealing with her on a daily basis has made me not even want to go into work. That was when I realized that I am learning about my own behavior in the work place and that I need to be less sensitive. When you are so sensitive and defensive it makes people not want to be around you or work with you. Yes, she may feel I am young enough to be her daughter but that does not excuse her behavior. We all make choices in life and we have to live with those choices and their consequences. During the race the reality of how much farther I have to go in this journey really hit me and it was hard to process. I think the reason I am successful is that I have realized this process is more deep and complicated than I ever could have imagined possible. When I see people who lose the great majority of their weight in the first year I used to be jealous and now I have realized that the ability to maintain my loss exists in what I take from my struggles. I can not compare my journey to anyone else's because every circumstance is different. My weight happens to be a physical manifestation of my emotional difficulties and for someone else it may just be as simple as making poor food choices. The root of it for me more complicated, it is why do I choice to continue to make those poor choices.
Exercise is a catalyst for me for the whole rest of my life to remain in balance and it keeps me focused on healthy eating habits. When I let the exercise go is when I start to get off course. This 5K was a reminder of what I need to create balance in my life and get me back in the right direction. So as you struggle as I do remember that it is about the process and what you choose to take from it. There is a learning experience in everything. Crossing the finish line with my friend and my fiancé waiting for me was a wonderful feeling and it was a metaphor for my weight loss struggles. We have so many people cheering for us at the finish line and beyond and it doesn't matter how fast we get there. It is that we get there and then keep going that is important.

  
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PELESJEWEL 5/26/2011 11:24PM

    emoticon I think you have made fantastic progress on all fronts and congratulations to you for finishing!! Proud of you!

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ROSEWCI 5/25/2011 7:54AM

    emoticon on finishing! You're doing a fabulous job Ashley! Life is a journey! And this journey is life! Take it all in & make it happen! You CAN do it! One day at a time!

You're a WINNER my friend! A WINNER!

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NINNY165 5/22/2011 2:26PM

    Congrats on finishing!!! It seems that no matter how much we prepare with someone the journey is ours. Those who truly care for us will be there in the end no matter how long it takes us to reach our goal. emoticon emoticon

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CHRISTINA791 5/21/2011 1:29AM

    Beautiful post and beautiful message. Congratulations - not just for the run, but for all you've done and all you're going to do.

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ASSYRIA1 5/19/2011 8:38AM

    Thank you, this is exactly the message i needed to read today.

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BAYBELIEVER 5/17/2011 11:04PM

    True. Very true. It is about crossing the finish line, not necessarily how fast we do it. Just keep moving toward that line! Thanks for this. I needed this.

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RAVENSONG37 5/17/2011 10:51AM

    I love you!! Wonderful insights!!

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LOOKY-LOU 5/17/2011 10:39AM

    Wow...that one really makes me think!

So glad you finished, and finished PROUD!

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SASSYDREAMER 5/17/2011 10:29AM

    Way to go for finishing!

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WILLIAMV3 5/17/2011 10:19AM

    Congratulations. Keep on keeping on. It will get easier everytime.

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KATHLOW 5/17/2011 8:37AM

    you always seem to know just how to look at a situation! Congratulations on your second first 5k!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 5/17/2011 7:31AM

    I bounced over to see how your 5K went, and yet again, brilliant blog! I am so very proud of you Ashley, how you look for something to take away in each experience. I look forward to reading about your next 5K!! emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 5/16/2011 8:55PM

    I am super close to my goal weight and I bike 5 miles one way to work and I can't imagine running half a mile! Maybe not even two blocks. You are amazing, Ashley, for the effort alone - and finishing?! emoticon There is plenty to learn about yourself from that, girl!

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TAKINBACKMYBODY 5/16/2011 8:51PM

    Absolutely - it's all about getting out there and doing something to work towards our goals!!!! Great blog and kudos to you!!! emoticon emoticon

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KACYBEE15 5/16/2011 4:21PM

    Absolutely fantastic blog!! Way to go!!

~ Kayli

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ERIN4771 5/16/2011 4:17PM

    dude...i cannot fathom running farther than 2 miles, unless i am being chased by my dogs, or there is a giant lemon cake being held out in front of me....be proud!! you did it, that's what matters!
finding balance can take time, try to give yourself that opportunity, and not rush and feel it needs to be "today"....if that makes sense.....

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SEARCHING4ME11 5/16/2011 3:35PM

    Congratulations! That is awesome.

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ALOFA0509 5/16/2011 12:27PM

   
Awsum job sista!!! You did it, You finished emoticon emoticon.. Congrats, soo proud of you girl emoticon

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AMYLIZ13 5/16/2011 11:28AM

    Congratulations, that is a wonderful accomplishment!

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OJIBWEEQUAY 5/16/2011 10:16AM

    YES!!! Girl I would not be ashamed!!!! I like running and I remember my start!!! I loved how my core muscles would be sore for days after when I first started! This will soon pass I promise!I always knew I wasn't super fast and never strived to win any race. I always was impressed by bigger woman passing me and kinda smiled when I passed skinny girls! You are on your way!!! High Five! emoticon

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CARMINACG 5/16/2011 9:32AM

    So proud of you! You did it! And you will run many many more. Each time it will get a little better, the run wont seem so daunting. I run 2 times a week (on top of my hot yoga classes) and I have never registered for an actual run, so this year that is my goal! :) Thanks for sharing your experience, Take care lady!

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MADEMCHE 5/16/2011 8:30AM

    Way to go Ashley! So proud of you! You did it. It wasn't easy but you did it! You completed it and you learned more about you. What better things can you ask for from a race? It is a stepping stone on the road to a healthier you. You are amazing, and I wish I was there to give you a hug along with A at the finish line! Love you!

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SEESTARS 5/16/2011 7:24AM

    Congrats on finishing race and challenging yourself.

I hear so many people say running outside is harder. I think it is all what you are used to doing.I haven't trained to run on a treadmill in years, but I remember it being really hard (I am not a person who naturally craves running). Now that I do my running outside for exercise it seems easier, by my right hip still gets pretty sore. Recently, I tried to run on a treadmill on a rainy day, and just couldn't even do 1 minute! emoticon

You are amazing! Keep working toward your goals and learning about yourself. I always like reading about your insights in your blogs.

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COOKWITHME65 5/16/2011 5:34AM

    emoticon on completing that race. You are so right about running outside vs a treadmill. It is so much harder.

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ROCKMAN6797 5/16/2011 2:20AM

    Congratulations on completing your 5K!
The fact that you were able to participate was fantastic! You ought to be proud of this fact. Keep at it, you have learned so much about yourself and your future is bright!
Thank you so much for sharing!

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IBSHAUN 5/16/2011 12:01AM

    Way to go Ashley! You can only get there if you keep moving forward and it's not a race for time. You are right, it's about you and learning from your experiences so that you can be healthier and happier for the rest of your life. It's not about how quickly you get there. It's just doing it. I'm cheering you on from here!

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AARONSGIRL420 5/15/2011 11:40PM

    Congratulations on finishing the race and kudos on learning from your experiences. May you continue to have success on your journey.

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 5/15/2011 11:33PM

    You can only get better from here. Congrats on crossing that finish line!

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NEWSGIRL2177 5/15/2011 11:30PM

    Congrats on your 5K! And your newfound clarity.
Well done!

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HANNAH_CALM 5/15/2011 11:23PM

    Congratulations on completing your first (or second) 5k!!!! Good for you!!!

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EMSJOURNEY 5/15/2011 10:12PM

    the fact that you were at the starting line makes you a winner. this much is true. =)

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LUCKYDOGFARM 5/15/2011 9:01PM

    Ashley, Congratulations on taking on the race and finishing and learning from it! never be ashamed of your attempts to take on something. winners never quit and quitters NEVER win. so keep choosing to finish.

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FIZZYBALL 5/15/2011 8:57PM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing...you are so right!

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ECONLADY 5/15/2011 8:55PM

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You are doing awesome!

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RONOSOF 5/15/2011 8:48PM

    WAY TO GO! The weight I am done carrying is representative of more than too much in, not enough out, as well. A couple of weeks ago, I realized a guy was looking at me, a year ago that would have been my signal to stop shedding; but this year I was amused. Give yourself TIME and keep on. I will be 42 in November. I am in a C25K running group for the 2nd time and I am the slowets, the worst, the last, or NOT. I am putting one foot in front of the other and maybe I'll have GUTS like you and run a 5k!!! OH- and I am not waiting until I can do it in thirty minutes either; when I can do it without stopping, I'll do it!

Great JOB!

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PASSIONATEFOG 5/15/2011 8:25PM

    You have written such an insightful blog. I will be entering my first 5k in October, but I am currently obese and have lost my activity mojo because I wasn't seeing results. I bought real running shoes (from a sports store, not the cheap runners I bought in the past from Walmart or Payless).

I am not sure what to expect in October, but I'm going to get out there and just try and complete it!

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KRISKECK 5/15/2011 8:14PM

    Ashley, that is what I love about running races -- what matters is that you commit to finishing the race -- that's what everyone is cheering for! Truly it does not matter if you run, walk or crawl, you did it and I am so happy that you came away with that revelation. Take pride in yourself and your accomplishments, that much more valuable because you've fought so hard to achieve them. You rock!
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CHICAT63 5/15/2011 8:08PM

    Congratulations to you on crossing that finish line, I am sure at the same time you let go of some emotions:) This might have been your second or first, but it is not your last. You know focus on how far you have come and not how much you have to go. Look at me, started running at 40 then stopped, only started up again last year. I might not be fast but I finish and for me that's worth a medal!!!!

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MROSE61 5/15/2011 8:05PM

    You are a wise woman. Thank you for your insights.

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KAMAPERRY 5/15/2011 7:54PM

    Way to go!!! I want to do one someday!

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AGENTNER 5/15/2011 7:54PM

    I couldn't agree with you more!!!! I think you have come on some great realizations! You have a wonderful attitude and you will go far! KEEP IT UP! We are all always going to be learning too, about ourselves and others!!! I am looking foraward to doing my first 5k this summer. Not quite ready to actually run one yet....still training! I told myself when I can run 3 miles in 30 minutes I will sign up! I enjoyed reading about yours. It gave me some good pointers. I am going to start running outside! LOL.


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JAG-OH 5/15/2011 7:51PM

    Congratulations on COMPLETING your first 5k. Having the confidence and drive to stick it out, no matter how hard it was or how you felt is an incredible feat. You finished that race, and you will finish many more races to come. Great job!
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Nothing is easy in life and I don't just mean weight loss

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Yesterday I spoke with the man who runs the non-profit that I thought would help me and I realized that it isn't the right direction for me. Pretty much they will only help me if I already have money and can start paying them for rental space of the kitchen. They only offer business assistance or help securing loans at that point. Well how do I make money without any significant money???? He sent me a flyer for a business workshop that was free to City of Boston residents and it is a group of large corporations that give back to the community by helping small business owners get started. It is a pretty cool program. The seminar was about 3 hours after he told me about it so I decided to attend and I am happy I did.
I already knew most of what they were talking about since I took basic business courses in college but I wanted to network and get the financial advice they were offering. The funny thing about business is you have to have money to make money. There are a few programs the city offers for ground up culinary business sponsored by Sam Adams which is pretty cool and might be helpful to me. The bad part was I learned that basically because my credit got trashed in my divorce that will make it almost impossible for me to take out loans. I feel like I have be responsible since that time, not gotten debt I can't pay, not been reckless and I still am having problems almost 8 years later. When have I paid enough penance for my mistakes? Yes, I know there are other ways to get money and it means I will have to get more creative but I am upset and frustrated that with all the people like me who didn't know better and got taken advantage of by predatory lenders that there isn't a way for us to recover. The banks get away with a slap on the wrist and the people get to spend 10 years try to dig themselves out. Ok, enough of my social commentary on this whole topic.
I am lucky that my fiancé supports me because my family doesn't. I am not going to get into that in depth on here but I will just say I am hurt by some people's attitudes and lack of support or understanding. I truly thought this business was going to be my way out of being so miserable day to day but it seems like it is so far away now that it is unlikely to happen anytime soon and that is devastating. This dream was all I was clinging to for sanity.

  
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SIMPLE_TAILOR 6/1/2011 10:22AM

    Just remember that it is still there, you just have to go on a different path to get there. You can do this.

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CINDERELLA_MAN 5/18/2011 12:58AM

    You have alot more to cling to than your business plan Ashley! You're a huge Spark success and have all of is rooting for you as well as your fiancee. It's a temporary setback, but you've proven you know how to deal with challenges. You'll find another way around if you want this. And it may take time. emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 5/16/2011 8:47PM

    Oh, you have to be able to find a way! I like the idea of starting something out of your home if that's possible.

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BELLALUCIA 5/16/2011 3:13PM

    I'm glad u have support from your man and if he's the only one besides us Sparkers that supports u, how lucky are u?

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RIGBY31 5/14/2011 10:59AM

    Love that you are in contact with the SBA and Woman Owned Business group. Menoring programs ae available thru them, and it is good get insight from people who have done it. You're smart, keep looking, it's there.

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THISYEARSMODEL 5/13/2011 3:24PM

    You might see if there's a "business incubator" kitchen in your area. In L.A. we have one where for $25/hr. people starting food businesses can make their products in a health department approved professional kitchen. They can also apprentice for other bakers / chefs there if they're not quite ready to start their own gig, and there are classes on running a food business as well.

You also might look into microloans and "angel" investors (proceed with caution and find them via good networking, not randomly). Failing that, sometimes you have to take a slight detour to get where you want to be: apprentice with someone, perhaps the older of an older business who may wish to retire within 10 years and would be looking to sell the business. Or find a local celebrity chef to intern with and mentor you, who believes in you and is financially set enough to want to invest in your business.
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ENCHANTED26 5/13/2011 10:24AM

    You are sane and you are successful in ways that other people don't even dear to dream. Also you are so young. In you are age other people havent even figured out where to focus. You will find the solution for this or some other similar plan. The future is ahead and you will succeed because you know how to fight.

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ECONLADY 5/13/2011 1:00AM

    Try to find another way around, like the catering mentioned by Rockman. How about teaching cooking classes?

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HANNAH_CALM 5/12/2011 9:09PM

    Have you thought of catering out of your kitchen at home? If your area isn't zoned for business, I think you can get away with this by taking orders online. You might want to check with your lawyer friend though. Good luck!

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SEARCHING4ME11 5/12/2011 6:13PM

    You can do this!!! Don't give up. You will find a way. Keep fighting. emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 5/12/2011 1:38PM

    Sorry to hear about the roadblocks you have encountered but stick to it. As my mom loved to tell me when I was young, "Rome was not built in a day!" Keep at it, work towards it, and soon you will be there.
Thank you for sharing Ashley.

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COOKWITHME65 5/12/2011 1:06PM

    Don't give up, Ashley! You will find away. Your'e a smart girl.

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MADEMCHE 5/12/2011 12:58PM

    You can do this bud. It is hard. But that is what is going to make it so worth it when it is over. Keep looking, doing your research, asking for help from everyone you can. There has to be people out there will to give you a hand. You can do this. You can. It is frustrating and not what you planned for, but that is ok. Nothing worth having is easy. You are amazing, go get 'em tiger! Love! Hugs!

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JUNEBUGABEE 5/12/2011 12:03PM

    You're right- nothing is easy. How you struggle is what defines you. Fight on.

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JENNYGIFFORD 5/12/2011 11:03AM

    Remember, Bill Gates started out in their garage. The CEO of amazon ran out of his garage too. Paula Dean delivered meals to construction workers out of her van. Colonel Sanders GAVE his chicken away at roadside stands along Interstate 75. You'll get there. Us small business owners have to put in our time in the trenches, and it makes us appreciate that oppertunity when it comes much more. Don't get discouraged, and just because a couple banks turn you down, keep trying. You'll find a bank who will. Have you tried Credit Unions? They do lending on member relationships, not necessarily credit based.

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DIANA_IS_BACK 5/12/2011 10:42AM

    Ashley- your dream can become reality. I know that it can put a damper on things to discover that you have hit a detour or two which you did not anticipate. Sometimes, those detours send us in a direction we never thought about which actually are more helpful and scenic than your original plans.

You have a good idea and you have the passion and drive to make it a reality. There is no doubt in my mind that you will succeed. In the whole master plan of things, I am sure that the right location, people, and funding will come to light.

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LOOKY-LOU 5/12/2011 10:30AM

    Keep on trying...what about starting out of your own kitchen, you don't have to pay for that....

Start small, you don't need very much to start small...

Working your way up from the VERY bottom, can and will happen for you Ashley, I am a believer!

Good luck...

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HEALTHYASHLEY 5/12/2011 10:23AM

    Thanks everyone for the support. I am currently working with programs from the SBA and for Women Owned Businesses so maybe those will be avenues for me. One of the people I met last night is a financial non-profit that does help you repair credit to secure financing and one of their first suggestions was that most "credit counselors" are just looking to make money off you and are actually damaging to your credit as well. I already knew that from a friend of mine who is an attorney. I appreciate all your trying to help me. It means a lot!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 5/12/2011 10:21AM

    it is hard when you feel that your family isnt backing you, but sometimes, that is just the way life is and it is up to you to carry on with your dreams and maybe eventually they will jump on board! you can't let their attitudes drag you down.

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DMGABBETT 5/12/2011 10:05AM

    Ash, have you explored the service corps of retired executives (SCORE) website?
Lots of helpful info, online workshops, etc. and best of all, FREE...
http://boston.score.org<
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KARENZIO 5/12/2011 9:53AM

    *hugs* Don't give up. We support you and believe in you!

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IBSHAUN 5/12/2011 9:49AM

    It's so disappointing when we feel so let down by people who are supposed to care about us. I learned a long time ago that blood does not equal love, support or respect. And, I also learned I don't have to take it - I am worth more. So are you. It's also difficult to over come our disappointment when something we want turns out to be more difficult. But that's just it - more difficult -- not impossible. So, readjust your plans, take a step back and find another way. Someone else mentioned a credit counselor, look at other options, it may take more time but you will get there!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/12/2011 9:43AM

    Don't give up!

Have you looked into grants? Not sure if that is an option, but it couldn't hurt to look into it.

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KATHLOW 5/12/2011 9:31AM

    i can only offer you hugs at this point...

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HIPPICHICK1 5/12/2011 9:30AM

    If it is meant to be then the Universe will leave a trail for you to follow. Just keep following those cues, insights and coincidences. If something/someone doesn't work out for you then that is the wrong path. I know this because I went through it. I was a musician, singer and song writer for over 25 years and not much ever came of my so-called career. I hardly ever made any money and when I did it went to pay credit card debt that I acquired while going after my dream. When I look back at my music career it was literally one step forward and two steps back. I had to scratch and claw for every little thing I ever got from it. It took me soooo long to realize that this dream was not going to happen. The minute I touched a bag of clay it was like the heavens opened up and poured everything it could on me. I found a studio to work in almost immediately. I found equipment at a great price because someone called the studio looking to sell it. Selling my pottery was really easy too. My pottery sales went so well it was obvious to me that music - even though I have some talent for it - was just not going to work out, but pottery-making would! I'm still in the arts, just not performing.
Good Luck to you and remember it's not supposed to be difficult. Follow the path. Follow what is put directly before you.

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MAMADWARF 5/12/2011 9:24AM

    I know you are frustrated, Ash, but if I learned one thing about you, you are a fighter and I know you are going to find away! Please do not worry about the support of one or two people when you have ALL of us behind you! You have your man and your friends and most importantly, you have YOU which is all you need. (Can you speak to some type of credit counselor to see what you can do NOW to improve your credit situation in say, 6 months)? This is just an obstacle and I know it is not going to stop you. (loved what NIC said above and googled the SBA in your area..super thoughtful of her and great advice!!). we are here, my friend, and we all know you will find a way.


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LUVDOGZ 5/12/2011 9:17AM

    Please don't give up! There is a way to do this, you just haven't found it yet! You will find the right path, it just isn't the way you thought it might be. Hugs, and you are sooo correct, nothing in life is easy!

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ANGELOO29 5/12/2011 9:02AM

    Your journey to see your dream materialize will happen. It just takes creativity, positive people and drive. You made it HAPPEN with this weight loss journey, you WILL make it happen with your dream!


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1TRULYBLESSED 5/12/2011 8:50AM

    "Many of life's failures are people who didn't know how close they were to success when they gave up." ~ Thomas Edison

"Never, never, NEVER give up!" ~ Winston Churchill

It's true for weight loss, and for all of life's challenges. Keep pursuing your dream with belief and perseverance...you WILL find a way to make it happen!
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PALMTREEFL 5/12/2011 8:48AM

  Ashley:

I think what you are trying to do and accompolish is a great thing. Like everyone is saying be creative. I honestly think you will find a way to get the funding you need even with the credit issues. If you have a well designed business plan someone will help you even if its some obscure bank or lending company instead of one of the more well known ones.

It will happen. And when it does - you can hire me as one of your severs (haha).

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NICS41 5/12/2011 8:46AM

    Check with your local SBA. I looked on the website and the local SBA in your area is having a FREE seminar - Finance Your Business. It is on May 19th 8-9:30am - Langley-Adams Library, 185 Main Street, Groveland, MA. The event description - Representatives from various finance institutions to disucss sources of finance available to assist in the start-up and growth of your business. I'm not sure if this is near you or not but it is posted to Boston's SBA website. They have many other programs you can check out also. Good luck

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OJIBWEEQUAY 5/12/2011 8:46AM

    You need partners maybe? Some (silent)financial partners that is! Where you have creative control! I wouldn't give up quite yet! Its Bean Town! emoticon

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DAISYTERRI 5/12/2011 8:44AM

    I went through the same thing when I went through a divorce (finances ruined). It did take me years to get past that but I did. I'm saying that so you know you WILL too!!!! It does take time (unfortunately).....

However
, you have your Dream for a reason. Don't let it go. It may just not be the right time at this moment. Maybe because in the future, things are in place for your business to be even bigger and better.

Don't let go of your DREAM!!!!!

I don't believe God causes the bad things in our lives, but I don't believe He wastes them. They can turn out for our good if we trust Him!

Praying for you today!!!!!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 5/12/2011 8:27AM

    NEVER let go of your dreams!

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MERULE 5/12/2011 8:21AM

  The most important thing is that you know what you want and you have a full support of your man. Remember: hard training, easy war. So there are some obstacles. You will find a way to overcome those and with that become stronger.
Weight loss journey has already made you a warrior - modify and use these skills.
Go and get what you deserve!

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KAMAPERRY 5/12/2011 8:17AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Please don't give up, God has given you this dream for a reason.I have been thru the same due to my exes. But I am, slowly coming out of it. You can too. Don't let this beat you, you are stronger than this situation!

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JBMT08 5/12/2011 8:10AM

    Hey Girl,
Just like you said, you need to be creative with getting financing to get your business off of the ground. I think you should do your research and keep charging forth, no matter how many doors slam in your face. Didnt you do the same when you were removing your weight? you may have plateaued, but you kept doing what you knew would work, and LOOK! My friend, if that business is your dream, you must fulfill it by any means necessary! emoticon
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I need structure

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

One of the things I have learned about myself is that I hate keeping a schedule but I need to keep one. When I keep myself accountable and structured is when I am the most successful. I have always admired how NOTABOUTHEFACE plans her monthly workout schedule and sticks to it. No excuses. I had previously believed that kind of structure was something I didn't need but as I look back at the last 10 months I realized that when I am my most successful is when I am my most structured. One of my faults is I am a procrastinator and I let fear control me. I have still not filled out the application for the non-profit that will help my business and I know without a doubt it is because I am afraid. I tell myself that it is because I am so busy I just haven't had time to print it out but that is an excuse. Excuses are a big pet peeve of mine. I have worked out once in 2 weeks. Why, I am tired and stressed about work. Again, another excuse. If I keep this up I will end up heavy and miserable again and I never want to go back there so there you have it. I need a schedule. Period
This week I will achieve....
I will fill out the application
I will write out the outline for my business plan
I will weight train 3 days and do 4 days of at least 30 minutes of cardio this week including my first 5K Saturday! Scary
I will plan out my meals the night before and not eat at work.
I will keep away from refined sugar as much as possible
I think those are good for this week. Finding what works is an ever changing process and there is no shame in admitting something isn't working no matter how far you are along. I want to reach the 100 pounds loss mark by my 1 year anniversary with SP the end of June and I know if I stick with my plan I can be successful.

  
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OJIBWEEQUAY 5/12/2011 8:40AM

    What an achievable plan!!!! I love that you are realistic!!!I tend to be like, yeah I'm going to lose 5 pds in 2 weeks(gained2)! Rock it Ashley!!

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GO-LOEW 5/11/2011 11:25PM

    Good plans! I too find I do much better when I have structure and stick with my plans. You can do it! And 100 pounds. I am so impressed with you.

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ZANNACHAN 5/11/2011 11:53AM

    You can do it!

Funny how people are different. I have to have a flexible schedule, because if I try to adhere to a rigid one I'm doomed to fail. At least for now, where my schedule changes so much from day to day.

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LESLIES537 5/11/2011 11:50AM

    I KNOW you can be successful with this plan, too! Like Mamadwarf said, YOU GOT THIS!! emoticon

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MAMADWARF 5/11/2011 11:26AM

    You GOT this!!! it is good to have a plan!

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KATHLOW 5/11/2011 9:02AM

    sounds like a good plan. I hate planning too, makes me feel restricted, but on the other hand, chaos is definitely not working for me... I gotta follow your example, i guess.

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NEENSTER1 5/11/2011 8:35AM

    emoticon Ashley. You are doing a emoticon job. There are always going to be road blocks while training yourself to live a weight loss lifestyle and not a diet. This is for life. Not temporary. Be Encouraged your emoticon's are right here by your side. emoticon

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KRISKECK 5/11/2011 6:01AM

    Yes, I like your plan too -- sometimes seeing it written down makes it much more real too. I am like you, I do better with structure too, and usually have a workout plan for the week in my head, at least. Makes me much more accountable. Go for it -- you know you can do anything you set your mind too!

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HOPERISING 5/11/2011 2:18AM

    Great plan Ashley! You are determined and self-aware, and you WILL succeed!

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MADEMCHE 5/10/2011 6:23PM

    Great plan love! You can do it!

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 5/10/2011 4:27PM

    Planning ahead is always a successful tool. You made your schedule and that's half the battle. Good luck with checking off everything on your to do list. I know you can do it!

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TERRYT55 5/10/2011 3:30PM

    I am a procrastinator too and do my best to make a list of what I need to accomplish the following day before I go to bed. Thanks for the push to be more structured!


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LIVIN2LOVE1 5/10/2011 1:51PM

    I'm a list keeper. The problem is, right now anyway, I have 4 lists that I'm working from. Each for different projects that I have going on.

With my eating I have to plan ahead. When I don't, I gain back lost weight and nothing is more frustrating than that.

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DAISYTERRI 5/10/2011 1:26PM

    Look at how far you've already come. To me you are already such a SUCCESS!!! And, yes, you can and will get to where you want. Like Rockman, I look forward to the 100 lbs lost blog.

You go get em!!!!

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ROCKMAN6797 5/10/2011 1:15PM

    You are so right about keeping to a schedule. I look at it as ME time. Even if it is a little as 30 minutes I make sure to scedule some ME time every day. I believe that keeping to a schedule is all part of the healthy lifestyle that I have grown to live and love!
On another note, I look forward to reading your "I Lost 100 Pounds On SparkPeople" blog within the next couple of months. You will do it!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/10/2011 1:12PM

    I am a procrastinator too (I am sparking instead of exercising), so I am now doing the Spring into Shape challenge and it is helping to keep me on track.

Now go fill out your paperwork! You can do this.

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ALOFA0509 5/10/2011 12:08PM

   
I hear you! I'm the same way, if I dont have my work outs planned out for the month in bright colors on my Calandar, I tend to sub in lots of "Rest" days.. Lol!!! I got that planning from NOTABOUTTHEFACE also.. Whom by the way if FRICKIN AMAZINZG!!! ;) U got got this sista.. Keep going!

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WEDDLEACE 5/10/2011 10:46AM

    I feel the same way - I see the most success when I stick to a schedule. Schedules are the cure for procrastination! Good luck achieving your goals this week!

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MOONBIRD 5/10/2011 10:29AM

    You are so right about just making yourself do those things. Once we start making excuses we just keep making them. emoticon

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LUCKYDOGFARM 5/10/2011 10:21AM

    You Are Making It Happen Ashley! Keep it up. you WILL make your goals..

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IBSHAUN 5/10/2011 10:02AM

    And, honesty about it is the best start. I learned to be honest with myself this year. It will feel so good when you start crossing those things off your list! Take 'em all one by one and you can do it. And... Good luck on your 5K Saturday.

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RED_WRITINGHOOD 5/10/2011 9:38AM

    I am definitely a procrastinator too! Good luck girl I know you can get it done!

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AMOHAME2 5/10/2011 9:28AM

    I've decided if I don't have structure, all I have is chaos! I need those solid rules to follow, the firm schedule, deadlines etc...
Have a great week sticking to your goals and have an awesome 5K on Saturday!!!!

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ERIN4771 5/10/2011 9:17AM

    i'm the same way as far as needing structure...i plan most everything, including workouts...if not, i seem to be confused and not sure of where to start, so i become overwhelmed and not do anything....i understand the fear thing ash, i'm going thru the same thing right now....but, we need to remember not to put off our happy life, and that means getting things going with your business plan and moving ahead...you got this....

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 5/10/2011 9:03AM

    I completely had to re-evaluate my goals. It sounds like you've been kind of dragging like I've been. I made a schedule for workouts yesterday, today was Day 1, and so far, so good :) I also have a goal to lose 100lbs by my one yr, and I'm not so sure that will happen. I have about a month, and 14lbs to go. I'm not going to stop trying, and neither should you. I know you can do this!

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AARONSGIRL420 5/10/2011 8:32AM

    I too am a procrastinator and do best with schedules. I have also gotten away from my structure lately, but am trying to recapture it. How interesting that you posted a blog about the same thing that I am trying to work on. Very timely :)

Great goals for the plan. You can do it.

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DOTTIEJANE1 5/10/2011 8:31AM

    Structure is a needed part of life .You learn so much as you go thriugh this lifestyle journey .Sounds like you are well on your way. It is ok to do something scared as long as YOU just do it. emoticon emoticon

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CHICAT63 5/10/2011 8:26AM

    Yep, I need structure also, I have a fitness & diet journal that makes me accountable for everything. Sunday after dinner I sat down and pre-planned my meals/workouts until Wednesday and will be doing the same on Wed. for the rest of the work week.

You will reach your 100 pounds mark, you will go to the gym, run your 1st 5K and continue to set-up your business:)

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OVERBURDEND 5/10/2011 8:25AM

    Structure and goals are good for you.

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KAMAPERRY 5/10/2011 8:19AM

    I need structure too, I can't just wing it. Good luck with your goals, emoticon

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FIT-WHIT 5/10/2011 8:19AM

    It's so great to realize these things about yourself- what works for you and what doesn't. Isn't it incredible how much MORE self-realization and "big-stuff" there is to this journey than "just" weight loss??? I've learned more about myself over the last year and am still learning and coming to love myself than I ever have before! It's very exciting and eye-opening.

Sounds like you have an awesome plan ahead of you for the week. I'm the same way: need structure, a schedule, and a plan of action. Lately I've been working on setting up a plan of action for getting my own business started, too! It's terrifying but exciting... I find myself scared of failure and part of me wants to sit on the sideline and just continue to dream and think about "what if someday this is a reality" while the part of me that knows success knows that I need to ACT upon my goals for anything to ever happen. So YOU GO GIRL! Go, Do, Be! Even when it's scary, you'll never know what could be in your life until you DO IT! :)

Have a great week, girl!

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