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Interesting workout myth article

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

It is funny, my mom who is a trainer told me to stop doing cardio first and strength train then do cardio. I always had done it that way and when I started at my new gym I switched to cardio first because it is so busy and so hard to get a machine at all. When I think about it I was seeing better results from ST first.
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LHIEBEL 4/29/2011 6:57PM

  Perfect timing--I have been sick and missed two days at the gym--I was wanting to get my ST done first in case I ran out of juice during cardio--this just reinforced what I need to do...THANKS!

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TISHA80 4/28/2011 3:00PM

    Thanks for the info! I didn't know this. :)

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GRACEFULIFE 4/28/2011 1:18PM

    Cardio is a good general warmup, but should be SHORT (I do 3 minutes at increasing pace on the treadmill usually, or 2 minutes on the XC ski machine), then one should move into a dynamic / semi-specific warmup, and do specific warmups for major lifts.

I always do resistance training THEN cardio. It turns out there's an article on Spark recommending the reverse... but I think they are wrong. Doing cardio before RT will hurt your ability to do the RT intensely, which is the whole point. And every fitness pro I've ever seen has said cardio after RT. Also, the program I'm doing (NROL4W) has you do more cardio-ish stuff after the RT and it's working great for me. In fact when I started to increase the intensity of my final interval I noticed an almost immediate and fairly apparent increase in cardiovascular capacity.

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KATHLOW 4/27/2011 3:49AM

    they always tell people to do this at my gym - guess i'm gonna have to start listening :-)

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LKEITHO 4/26/2011 10:12PM

    Thanks for the info!

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KTTAYLOR21 4/26/2011 7:32PM

    Thank you sssoo much for sharing this. I went to the gym after reading this and did what the article suggested. emoticon

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ECONLADY 4/26/2011 6:54PM

    Thanks for the info. I always warm up, but I will get distracted and just do the whole cardio first.

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TERRYT55 4/26/2011 6:10PM

    Great article........I'm going to switch things around and do ST first.

Thanks for sharing!

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HANNAH_CALM 4/26/2011 4:37PM

    I read about this in a magazine. This is a very good article. You're lucky you have your mom helping you out! I mostly just do cardio. Sometimes I do push-ups. I'm thinking of starting to do drop sets with free weights. That's when you use a heavy weight, the heaviest you can lift, then switch to the next lower one. It's really supposed to fatigue your muscles.

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CANNIE50 4/26/2011 3:58PM

    Great article, and great timing. I am just finishing up a few things before leaving for the gym and I will definitely not over-do my cardio warm up (just a few minutes to warm up my muscles) before hitting the weights. I am so glad you took the time to share this. Thank you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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OVERHAULING-ME 4/26/2011 2:46PM

    I've heard that before but that article really brought it home! WOW! Since I'm just starting out I've only been doing cardio and thought I'd add ST later. I need to rethink that. I will be cleaning out a corner in my garage, find my old weights and bench and get some going.

Thanks for sharing! Have a great day!

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ZANNACHAN 4/26/2011 2:28PM

    Interesting. We were just talking about this on one of the message boards. I had a trainer tell me once that I should do strength training first because moving your muscles helps the body get rid of the lactic acid that builds up during strength training (which causes that muscle burn feeling). So you'll be less sore if you do the cardio second. Though a proper cool down is still essential.

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SLFRISBEY 4/26/2011 1:41PM

    Looks like it's time to switch things up! Thanks for posting!

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ROCKMAN6797 4/26/2011 1:32PM

    Wow, great article....makes absolute sense.
Thank you for sharing Ashley.

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 4/26/2011 1:19PM

    Interesting, thanks for sharing!

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KAMAPERRY 4/26/2011 11:14AM

    Interesting, emoticon

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/26/2011 10:45AM

    I think I will try this. Im not finding my balance at all. Hopefully this helps! Thanks!!!! Have a great day!!!!

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STORMYVAWN 4/26/2011 9:54AM

    Thanks for sharing. I am going to switch things up. I am excited.
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IBSHAUN 4/26/2011 9:53AM

    I've always wondered if the order did make a difference. Thanks for sharing.

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AEBROWNSON 4/26/2011 9:32AM

    Interesting! Guess I'll give it a shot, since what I'm doing doesn't seem to be producing results. (But that could be due to the peanut butter eggs, too.)

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LUCKYDOGFARM 4/26/2011 9:05AM

    Thanks Ashley! good info.

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APMAC_D 4/26/2011 8:47AM

    Thank you for posting- this is great information :) Always learning.

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BAYBELIEVER 4/26/2011 8:41AM

    Saw this article today too! Great read! I do my exercise separately right now, but may have to think about that!

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DEB181 4/26/2011 8:41AM

    I have been told this too by my trainer.

But she also said to try .. 1 day cardio, next day ST
back to back .. then a day off for rest.

by the way... I HATE cardio

so far this has beat the boredom emoticon

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EMMANYC 4/26/2011 8:04AM

    Interesting - that's the way I was working out this spring until my surgery - because I was trying to prioritize strength training. So I would do about a 10-minute warm-up, then 20-30 minutes of strength training, and then 20 minutes more of cardio. I find that if I do all my cardio training first, I'm more likely to skip the strength training altogether.

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IMIN2GENES 4/26/2011 8:03AM

    Thanks for sharing! It's definitely worth trying for me.
Chris

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OJIBWEEQUAY 4/26/2011 8:02AM

    Yepper!!!!! My Husband taught me this when we first started dating!! Now I warm up he suggests 15 minutes then hit weights!!! He has a rockin' bod so I follow his lead! HA!!! Good job ob seeing positive results! emoticon

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NEENSTER1 4/26/2011 7:56AM

    emoticon for sharing. Very good info to know. Sounds logical. Have a emoticon day.

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ANGELOO29 4/26/2011 7:47AM

    Thank you for the information. I'll have to give it a shot and see what the results are for me.

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SLEEPTALKS 4/26/2011 7:41AM

  Thank you for sharing this! That's really good to know!

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 4/26/2011 7:38AM

    Thanks for the link. I usually do weights first just so I'm not so sweaty using the machines.

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Feeling like myself again

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

There are times when you need a kick in the butt. Seriously. You need someone or something or the universe to step forward and say "stop whining and making excuses and get in line lady". Well that came this weekend to me in many shapes in forms. I had good moments of dancing and feeling thin and happy and I had introspective moments of witnessing others struggle with their weight and remembering that feeling. In particular it was an episode of heavy that really hit home. It was about a man and a woman, he over 500 lbs, she over 400 lbs and dealing with their emotional eating issues. She also had a son who at 8 was already obese. I cried through the whole show and then I got up and went to the gym. It made me face down why I am doing this. Why I choose to eat healthy. There is a big difference between doing this because you "have to" versus because you "want to". The want too's will be successful. Life is a choice and we are not victim's of anyone and anything other than ourselves and our excuses. Yes, I am tired. Yes, I am overworked but that doesn't mean I can go back to my old ways. Stuffing candy in my face and justifying it by saying "oh it is ok, it is a one time thing" is total BS. Emotional eaters all know that it is never a one time thing and if we continue to make those excuses and seek solace in food, well it is just a matter of time before the weight comes back on. Today I woke up and felt, like me. Finally. This past month I felt like Alice falling down the rabbit hole clawing at the walls but I kept falling. Today, I caught a hold of the side and started pulling myself back out. I don't care how hard this gets I am not going to let myself go back. Not one bite of anything is worth giving up my freedom and my self esteem. Nothing.

  
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MELLYBEANS0919 4/26/2011 10:43PM

    Great blog again. As an emotional eater, that is a kick in the pants.

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DANCINGBRAVE 4/26/2011 5:53PM

    The last full sentence of your blog said it all. Freedom to be your best self.
And free to be proud of yourself.

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CHATTIEGIRL 4/25/2011 3:04PM

    Hi Ashley;

You are a strong lady and you will never give up. Keep that drive in you and you will reach your goal and be a healthy strong young lady. Stay focused in your healthy life style and let nothing get in the way. God bless you always. Learn from Spark people each day.

Joyce

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SLUDERCATS 4/25/2011 12:26PM

    Congratulations on finally pulling yourself out of the hole. THat takes determination and hard work. You can do this!!

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YANKEECHICK50 4/24/2011 4:46PM

    Good for you!! This is so perfect for me today. I've been feeling sorry for myself today. I've gained back 13 pounds of the 25 I lost last year - I have absolutely no one to blame but me, I know this. I stopped doing the things that worked: eating healthy, smaller portions and working out almost every day. Thanks for the "kick in the butt" I needed! You are an encouragement emoticon

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CUOGHI 4/22/2011 1:35PM

    Go you! I had half a pizza yesterday, and as soon as the first bite was in, I felt bad, and disgusted in myself. When hunger takes over, you can shut the "good voice" up, and make excuses that you believe.
Today I gave myself a kick in the butt too, so bring on the abs of steel!

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INSTICKS 4/21/2011 10:24PM

    I especially like the title of your blog. It's a good reminder that I will only feel like the real me when I drop some of my extra lbs.

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TERRYT55 4/21/2011 9:12PM

    I saw that episode too.....I really enjoy the show!

Good for you for clawing your way out of the hole. Keep moving forward! No excuses!
You are an inspiration!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 4/21/2011 8:37PM

    Keep clawing Alice, you're on your way back UP! NOTHING is worth going back to where we were--NOTHING!

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1TRULYBLESSED 4/21/2011 4:27PM

    Amen, Sistah!! Welcome home!!
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MUSIKGIRL 4/21/2011 2:21PM

  Great motivation... emoticon

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WEDDLEACE 4/21/2011 1:28PM

    "it is never a one time thing and if we continue to make those excuses and seek solace in food, well it is just a matter of time before the weight comes back on."

So very true! Thank you so much for posting! I've been going through a rough patch, myself. It's nice to know that others struggle too, but we are capable of pulling ourselves out of the rabbit hole! Thanks for your inspiration.

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EMPTRS 4/21/2011 1:15PM

    SOOO proud of you!!!

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MACEWOMAN 4/21/2011 12:05PM

    Good for you! emoticon emoticon

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CNIANE 4/21/2011 11:33AM

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Way to go Ashley! Keep up the great work. You can do it!

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NANHBH 4/21/2011 9:44AM

    Yeah, Ashley, you continue to jump over hurdles! Keep on keeping on! You are such an inspiration to us.
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LAURIE-RN 4/21/2011 9:25AM

    I agree 100%!

Laurie

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CHRISKENANDKIDS 4/21/2011 9:06AM

    I completely agree! I have been watching "The Biggest Loser" religiously with my husband this season and I have also seen "Heavy." Both of these shows have inspired me more than I ever thought they would. Every person on the shows have the same issues I have and they talk about it a lot. It has helped me and especially my husband see why I got so obese and what to do to change that. The main difference now is that my husband is now on board with being more healthy and I love it. I really needed his support before and didn't have it so now it makes a HUGE difference in letting me take care of myself and be the slim healthy person I know I deserve to be. Thanks for the advice!

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DASHINGJIMMY 4/21/2011 8:32AM

    "Stuffing candy in my face and justifying it by saying "oh it is ok, it is a one time thing" is total BS."

This really hits home. Hopefully I'll remember this line next time I feel a binge approaching.

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ASHOAF1 4/21/2011 8:31AM

  Thanks for sharing! What a great reminder.

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GRACEISENUF 4/21/2011 1:31AM

    emoticon I hear ya NOTHING.

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HOLLIHOCK6 4/20/2011 4:07PM

    Yeah, you're SO right. Thanks for a swift kick in the butt. emoticon

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SEESTARS 4/20/2011 11:54AM

    Way to go!!! Love this blog. One of my biggest fears is when I have kids I will not be able to teach them how to eat well to be healthy. I still have bad habbits that pop up ("just this one time"). I don't want my future kids to have to struggle to learn later in life. Let me be the one to struggle to set the best example possible... or at least struggle until it becomes a life long habit.

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LESLIES537 4/20/2011 11:06AM

    Yeah baby!!!! emoticon emoticon

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KATYMACK 4/20/2011 10:25AM

    This is an amazing blog. Thank you for sharing.

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NUTS4NUTELLA 4/20/2011 10:00AM

    I LOVE your attitude! Keep it up lady. You are AWESOME!!!
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HEIDIC75 4/20/2011 9:32AM

    thank you!!!!!

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HAPPYCUPCAKE 4/20/2011 9:29AM

    I don't know if you're talking about the show "Heavy" on A&E, but that show is really inspiring and shows how courageous people can be and that change IS possible. Sometimes we just have to man up and put our big girl panties on and hold OURSELVES responsible! I had that epiphany this week (it's in my latest blog), that I have just been looking at everyone else's spark pages and messaging people for tips and help when all of that is actually inside of me. I need to ignite the spark in MYSELF, and not depend on others for my success. In the end who is there? YOU! Yes, spark friends lend wonderful support and help, but when it's all said and done, you have yourself. Spark on, my friend!!!

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MARATHONBOUND 4/20/2011 9:21AM

    You are amazing and this is an amazing post!! That is all. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TISHA80 4/20/2011 1:20AM

    emoticon blog! The last couple of lines reminds me of a saying that I frequently tell myself. Nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels. :)

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KERSTIN814 4/19/2011 8:26PM

    Yeah for you Alice. I like this side of you a lot better!

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ECONLADY 4/19/2011 6:24PM

    I do understand about the emotional eating. Definitely me! Good Post!

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ERIKA05 4/19/2011 5:57PM

    I really like what you said about emotional eaters knowing that it's never a 1-time thing. I tell myself this lie all the time, and I need to start calling myself out on it.

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HOPE2011 4/19/2011 4:37PM

    Thank you. emoticon

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PARISBABY 4/19/2011 2:36PM

    Excellent post. Thanks for writing this and letting us all see into your heart.

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ROCKMAN6797 4/19/2011 2:32PM

    Go get 'em!

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KAMAPERRY 4/19/2011 2:02PM

    Needed to see this today, thank you

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POLSKARENIA 4/19/2011 2:01PM

    Good for you - keep on 'wanting' - you are not only wanting, but'doing'
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CANNIE50 4/19/2011 1:43PM

    Thank you for your comment on my Sparkpage. I have news for you though - you said you WANT to be a writer but I say you ARE a writer. You may not get paid for it (yet) but you clearly have a way with words. I enjoy writing as well, and find blogging to be a big part of my SP experience. Check it out sometime (though I know you are a very busy girl) - I would love to get your perspective. I am enjoying your blogs and look forward to reading more from you. emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 4/19/2011 1:31PM

    Way to Go, Ashley! emoticon emoticon

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ZANNACHAN 4/19/2011 1:31PM

    Powerful blog.

You are right, there is a difference between doing something that you "have to" do versus something that you "want" to do--that's one of the reasons that I do the workouts that I do. Even though I know that I would burn more calories if I stuck to things like the treadmill and elliptical, they get really boring very quickly, so I mix it up--I play on the Wii/Wii Fit, I bike, I play tennis, I fence, I swim, I go for walks, I roller blade, I go sledding, etc. Maybe it's not as consistent or intense a work out, but it's *fun.* And if it's fun, I'm more likely to do it, especially if I can con friends or family members into joining so I get family or friend time as well as work out time *grin*

But it's hard to keep wanting it. It's hard. It eats up a LOT of my time--I spend about 8 hours a week working out/being active--that's an entire work day (or I did, before I got sick this winter, and I hope to again as I build back up to it). And that doesn't count the time taken out of my day to meal plan, cook, eat, and track my food (thankfully, my husband cooks so that's less on me). That time all has to come from somewhere and it's all well and good to say that I want to be healthy but I also want to graduate, I want to occasionally see my friends, I want to see my family sometimes. And I want me time, down time for me to recharge my batteries or I become overly tired and stressed. And where I struggle is when these needs conflict.

That's part of why I spend as much time as I do on sparks, even though time is something I have precious little of. It helps me stay focused, stay motivated. Otherwise, the vague "want to be healthy sometime" tends to lose ground against the others.

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HAPPYSOUL91 4/19/2011 1:24PM

    Excellent and a wake up call

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/19/2011 12:58PM

    Ashley, your way with words is so wonderful I think and feel things but just can't get the words out.. I so much look forward to yours and a couple others blots daily. I have learned so much with spark and all the great people here. Your journey has had its.ups and down which makes it life and you handle it with grace. Thank you for sharing this with all of us. emoticon emoticon

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WILLIAMV3 4/19/2011 12:21PM

    A swift kick once in a while does a body good. hehe

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POOKAQUEEN 4/19/2011 12:15PM

    So beautifully written. I recently had that kick in the butt too, but it really meant a lot to me to see it in words and so beautifully described. I'm so glad you're doing better, you can do it!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 4/19/2011 12:10PM

    So glad you found your way back! Keep up the good work!

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KACYBEE15 4/19/2011 12:03PM

    I saw that episode of Heavy, too, and I was SOOOO proud of both people on that episode. At the end when that lady's son starts crying at her "reveal" was just too much for me. I just bawled. I've struggled with my weight most of my life, but so have my parents. It's so hard on children of obese parents - not because they're ashamed or embarrassed of them, but because they can tell that their parents are unhealthy and unhappy. I've watched my parents struggle with doing simple physical tasks and with self esteem issues and as a child I felt completely helpless. Now, as an adult, I still feel helpless, but I know that I can help myself. I want to get healthy and stay healthy because that truly is better for my future children. I don't want them to worry that I'm going to have a heart attack or that I will have a stroke because I have obstructive sleep apnea. I want them to know that their mom has good self esteem and lots of confidence.

It sounds like you're doing this for all the right reasons - and that's why you'll be successful! Thanks so much for the post!! It was a great one!

Have a great day!!
~ Kayli

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KARENZIO 4/19/2011 12:02PM

    Good for you!

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SKYEPHOENIX 4/19/2011 11:47AM

    Thanks for this. Timely reminder that all of us go through times that are more difficult--good to see that you're moving forward. :)

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DMGABBETT 4/19/2011 11:18AM

    Go Ashley!


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Compliments, parties and dancing

Monday, April 18, 2011

This past weekend was super busy for us and I don't know what is going suddenly in our social calendar but we are getting invitations all over the place for dinners, parties, BBQ's etc. I feel like we have something every single weekend from now to Memorial Day. Weekends are my only time to unwind so I do find it a bit unnerving.
Friday we went to dinner with a very old friend of mine and his girlfriend/soon to be fiancée so he tells me. This was the first time A and he met and the first time I met her so it was fun. She is from Vietnam originally and she made us a traditional dinner. OMG was it delicious and healthy. Tons of fresh veggies and herbs. She and I hit it off right away and had so much to chat about it made me so happy that we got along so well. Half way through the meal my weight loss came up. My friend hadn't seen me since I lost the weight. She looked at me and said "I can not even imagine you used to be overweight". emoticon emoticon emoticon
When people say things like that it still surprises me. Maybe because I am so very aware of my flaws. I know the number on the scale so to me not being overweight is still such a foreign concept. I am a good read of BS so I can tell when someone's compliment is disingenuine and she meant it.
Saturday we went to a birthday party for a friend of mine. He turned 41 and I made him princess cupcakes. They were a hit and I was informed they scarfed them down at 3 AM and everyone raved about them. These are pink champagne cupcakes and you actually mix champagne into the batter and the frosting. (PM me for the recipe, I am not posting it on here and listening to lectures about how it is not healthy) I wanted to add some of that sparkle sugar for extra pizzazz but was just too tired to hunt it down. It was still a statement and they all got a huge kick out of it. I am old so we left the party at a respectable 1 AM before I turned into a pumpkin. Best part is I had one bite of a cupcake to try it and that is it!
The funniest part of the evening was that they managed to cram a DJ and about 60 people into this tiny apartment with a fog machine and lights. Hysterical. A and I salsa danced for about 2 hours and I was good and tired but had much better endurance than I used too. People are usually surprised I dance so well, especially to latin music. I always here people telling A how awesome of a dancer I am in Spanish and it makes me feel proud. The most interesting observation I made that night was there was a small group of women that came in together who were morbidly obese. I could see on their faces how self conscious they felt and nervous. It hurt my heart to see it because I could so identify with them. Heck, I was them 6 months ago. When I was so huge I would have been miserable that whole night. I wouldn't have eaten a thing, would have been afraid to try and push through the crowd. Afraid to dance. It reminded me how much I have gotten my life back and how I wouldn't trade this for anything and how much I want to get to my happy size. I am so happy I did this for me and this weekend was a great affirmation of all of that. That I am worth it.

PS It makes me sad that I actually have to add a disclaimer to this blog. NO I am not judging people for being obese. I was making an observation about my own obesity and identifying with someone who was going through something I had been through. Jumping to conclusions and judgements is dangerous for all of us.

  
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LADY_KATHY 4/27/2011 9:41PM

    thought about starting a cupcake business? LOL ohhh to have the time.

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NEENSTER1 4/26/2011 7:58AM

    The cupcakes look delicious. Compliments emoticon You are doing wonderful pretty girl. emoticon

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RAVENSONG37 4/25/2011 4:06PM

    Sounds like a fantastic weekend and really great self-observations!

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BELLALUCIA 4/25/2011 3:42PM

    Glad u had a great time. I'm quite a dancer myself!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 4/24/2011 1:58PM

    Sounds like a great weekend, cupcakes look so yummy

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MYADOG1 4/24/2011 12:37AM

    Super impressed you only had 1 bite of cupcakes, inspires me that maybe I can resist the Easter candy! Good for you. I know what you mean I see people struggling and wish I could just tell them about Spark. Glad you enjoyed yourself. Send me that cupcake recipe if you get a chance! emoticon emoticon

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CORKY982 4/23/2011 2:45PM

  I would love that recipe if you want to inbox it to me!

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TERRYT55 4/21/2011 9:09PM

    Lovely cupcakes.........happy everyone loved them. Isn't it terrific being comfortable in your own skin? Wonderful to dance and walk across a room full of people and not feel like you are being judged? To dance with abandon not worrying about who is watching?

No disclaimer needed. When I see someone who is overweight and obviously uncomfortable I want so badly to talk to them.....to tell them it can be done. I usually don't......don't want to make them feel worse.

Thanks for the great blog!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 4/21/2011 8:43PM

    Do you find yourself wanting to go up to the morbidly obese people you encounter and tell them, "I was you, just a year ago or two years ago or whatever?" Cause I do. I don't do it, but it is my impulse. I want to inspire them, to motivate them, to tell them "IT CAN BE DONE!" But I know that wouldn't have worked on me, and more than likely will be met with disdain. Plus I am not very assertive or out-going and am quite shy. So I never do it. But I think about it--and sometimes I wish I had the nerve to do it. Ah well, when they're ready, they'll do something. Not before. It has to come from within, I have known that for years. My son needs help. I want to help him, but all I can do it show him my example and hope that somebody the light will go on for him the way it did for me. Good job on the salsa dancing! I bet you looked GREAT!

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LAURIE-RN 4/21/2011 7:55AM

    Sounds like a wonderful weekend. I understand your introspection about how you would have felt 6 months ago compared to now. I felt that way while dancing at a wedding in November. I am so proud of you! You are doing a great job!

Laurie

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LUCKYDOGFARM 4/20/2011 11:57PM

    the best part of the blog, YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

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ERIKA05 4/19/2011 6:05PM

    Empathy is a really beautiful quality - I can't imagine that anyone would feel that you were picking on the women you described. However, I do I often underestimate people's capacity to take offense. emoticon

I have a friend who lost a great deal of weight a few years ago. I'm not trying to lose nearly as much, but I was nonetheless really touched when she told me that she understood the changes I was trying to make, and how discouraged I must feel sometimes, but that I shouldn't let this take me off track. I think she had noticed that I was having a bad week and getting down on myself and wanted to give me a shot in the arm - and it worked!

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NUTS4NUTELLA 4/19/2011 3:40PM

    1. What beautiful cupcakes! I can't believe you only had one bite. I'm so proud of you! It is hard to resist such delicious treats, especially when you're the one making them.
2. Yaaaay awesome compliments!
3. I am so glad you danced your butt off at the party. It sounds like you had lots of fun!
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KTTAYLOR21 4/19/2011 2:47PM

    I am about to sparkmail you about that recipe. I don't know of any other avenue to contact you.

You having to do a disclaimer is hilarious. People always make assumptions. I understood exactly why you pointed out the young ladies. Your statement following, clearly explained why you mentioned them. Congrats on your wonderful progress!!!

Awesome Ashley at it again!!!

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NANHBH 4/19/2011 2:18PM

    Ash,

Love the comment about your endurance to dance for several hours! You are ROCKIN' IT, Sista!

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IBSHAUN 4/19/2011 12:04AM

    So glad you had a good weekend and those cupcakes look delicious!!

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MADEMCHE 4/18/2011 11:43PM

    So glad you had a great weekend! I feel the same way. Catch and I only get a so much time together. And when I have to share him with other people every weekend it gets a bit tiring. You will have to have a relaxing weekend on the books soon! The cupcakes looked awesome! So glad you had fun and danced! Love dancing. Such a fun way to exercise!

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ZANNACHAN 4/18/2011 11:31PM

    I can definitely understand how a full social calendar can be really tiring, but it sounds like you had a wonderful time! And whoo hoo for the compliment!

I love those cupcakes! It doesn't bother me that they aren't healthy; we don't have to be healthy 100% of the time. I aim for making healthy choices most of the time--the 80/20 rule is a good guideline for me because it means that I'm making a difference and being healthy most of the time without feeling punished by it. So, yeah, have the occasional cupcake... especially if there'll be salsa dancing afterward!

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COOKWITHME65 4/18/2011 11:24PM

    Glad to hear you had a great weekend. I love dancing also. Those cupcakes look awesome.

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KRAWRS 4/18/2011 11:18PM

    Man, sounds like you go to some really rockin parties! I knew what you meant about the other ladies. You caught my feelings, past and present, perfectly. It sucks feeling that way, but I'm glad you are moving past that! Hopefully they will someday too.

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OJIBWEEQUAY 4/18/2011 10:05PM

    pass the icing PLEASE! Yum!

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SERENEART 4/18/2011 9:42PM

    Those cupcakes are hot!!! I don't want the recipe there might be too much attraction to spark and fireworks....I might explode.

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KERSTIN814 4/18/2011 9:14PM

    I am so happy for you! You are so funny, you are complaining about have too much social life! I know how you feel though. I work full time, commute about 1 3/4 to 2 hours each way to work. It takes a mule team to get me out of the house on weekends, though usually I am glad I did. DH is retired so he is bored and complaining we don't do enough. I think everyone, sadly, wrongly, judge people by their weight. When I see someone who is severely overweight I know I judge them. Then I have to stop and say, well yeah, but you are 100 lbs overweight yourself. I do feel selfconcious, I dread wedding and family invitations. I am sick of being overweight. This is going to stop now.

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TISHA80 4/18/2011 8:50PM

    emoticon It sounds like you had a lot of fun and those cupcakes look yummy! :)

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ALOFA0509 4/18/2011 7:58PM

   
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ROCKMAN6797 4/18/2011 7:30PM

    Holy moley, I am tired and I only had to read about what you did this weekend!
Great that you had a good time and truly enjoy reading your thoughts.
Thank you for sharing!

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SCAZARES39 4/18/2011 7:08PM

    Loved the blog! Glad you had a good time with frineds and got to dance the night away! Life is great!

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GIANTMICROBE 4/18/2011 5:49PM

    I want those cupcakes. My birthday is May 5. emoticon

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GINA180847 4/18/2011 4:55PM

    It has always been my belief that we are our own harshest judges and people pick up on our own bad feelings about ourselves. Recently I went to a baby shower with about 20 guests and a fantastic meal was provided. I was careful to do some portion control and scarfed it all down slowly to savor, but the 10 hugely obese ladies left a lot of food on their plates and I thought "How sad is that?" In a culture where people are so poor to leave food seems ridiculous so why did they take too much? I felt bad that they were all so uncomfortable but also left wondering.

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 4/18/2011 3:42PM

    I'm so glad you had a great weekend. Those cupcakes look DELISH!!

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LESLIES537 4/18/2011 3:21PM

    Those cupcakes are too CUTE!!! I don't think I could've stopped at just one bite!! WTG! Dance your little booty off, girl! And i do mean LITTLE! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GRACEISENUF 4/18/2011 2:10PM

    You make me want to dance! The cupcakes look and sound yummo. Glad you had a good weekend and made a new friend that you can relate too. Sounds like a great time.

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NMK1980 4/18/2011 1:35PM

    I glean so much from reading your blog posts- the good and the bad stuff. Thank you for being so open about your life and experiences. They inspire me every day!

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RIGBY31 4/18/2011 1:35PM

    I completely understand your disclaimer. Blogs are to reflect you and your journey. You have a good heart and I wouldn't think of you judging. And look at you, salsa dancing! Muy bueno!

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ECONLADY 4/18/2011 1:29PM

    I think the dancing burned off that bite of cupcake. You did great!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 4/18/2011 1:20PM

    I love to dance and it is a great workout! Your cupcakes are fabulous!

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SUSIEWHITE1109 4/18/2011 1:15PM

    I love your blog -- it is so inspiring to read about you and others of us who are "getting our lives" back through healthier eating and exercising! It is so fun to be able to "join in" all the activities that we used to sit out because of our weight!

Way to go!!!

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MAMID1017 4/18/2011 1:14PM

    There is nothing better than getting a compliment from a total stranger.
Congratulations on your hard work!

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TREASURINGLIFE 4/18/2011 1:14PM

    Sounds like an awesomely hectic weekend! :) And your testimony to the then and now is reassuring for all of us. This journey isn't easy, by any means, but it is WORTH IT. Period!

Have a GREAT day! :)

- Michelle

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CALIKIKI 4/18/2011 1:10PM

    YAY sounds like it was a fabulous evening.

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KAMAPERRY 4/18/2011 1:07PM

    This is such a awesome testimony to the changes you have made. All that hard work has paid off, enjoy, you deserve it!

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KATHLOW 4/18/2011 1:06PM

    I'm so glad you had a great time! yay for parties :-)

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 4/18/2011 1:04PM

    Awesome, dancing for 2 hours! WooHoo!

Remember, you are allowed to decline some invitations.

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I learned to love myself, finally

Friday, April 15, 2011

It is funny how life has its way of working itself out even if you fight it every step of the way. I was laying on the couch last night, yup, got a few minutes of me time and watched my favorite show Vampire Diaries. I am secretly an angst ridden 16 year old in my heart and Damon is my dream man if I was not already a happily taken woman. So as I was watching all the skinny actresses I realized I have stopped beating myself up. This is a pretty new thing. Last weekend I tried on a lot of clothing and not once did I have the thought "You are so gross" or "Nothing fits because you are so fat" or "I hate my body". This is literally a first. Yes, I have my issues. I have saddlebags now which I never had before oddly enough. I think they are a result of my skin deflating now. My stomach really bothers me the most but I am considering spanx. I didn't want to go there for day to day but I am starting to think if it makes me feel better than I should just try it and see how it works out. BUT I do not have those horrible negative self destructive thoughts anymore. With each outfit I put on I was able to be objective and realize that just because I like a trend or want something to look good on me, it might not, and THAT IS OK! The best part was accepting that it isn't my fault they don't fit. It just happens and shopping is a difficult task for everyone. It is about finding a designer or two or three who cuts clothes for your shape and sticking with them. It takes effort but as I have started to appreciate myself more and more it has become enjoyable. I also learned that I am better to not go shopping on days I am already feeling down about something else because old habits die hard and I don't want to slip back into attacking myself. Even these past 3 weeks I have not been freaking out over what I ate or a fluctuation on the scale. Those numbers are not me as a human being.
I am strong, intelligent, and determined.
I am a good person who goes out of my way to help other people.
I am creative and artistic
Babies and animals are obsessed with me, seriously, I can't go anywhere without someone's dog following me around the house or their cat sitting on my head or their baby staring at me with wide eyed fascination. People comment on it all the time lol.
I am going to help people in the future with my food. People will see healthy food can be affordable and taste good.
I like me and that is something I never have been able to say before. Now, don't feel bad for me. I believe life is a learning process and to truly change you have to make yourself uncomfortable. You have to ask the scary and difficult questions and be honest with yourself. As long as you continue to do that than you will succeed. Stagnation is the destroyer of progress. Keep moving forward even if it is an inch at a time. Give up the excuses and strip yourself down to the core. Don't be afraid. Nobody will judge you harder than you already judge yourself and in the end you are the only one who matters. When you do all these things you will find that it is easy to change. Daunting? Of course. Impossible? Not at all.

  
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TKADEEPBREATH 4/22/2011 11:11PM

    You go girl . . . I loved this and your attitude . . Keep it up!!!

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RONOSOF 4/20/2011 9:52PM

    I LOVE you! and am so happy for you.

Spanx is awesome and not uncomfortable- just letting you know:) Peace, Mary

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GISSELLET 4/20/2011 9:45PM

  Thank you for posting your blog. Its very encouraging to read that you are not beating yourself up anymore. Life is way too short for that!

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MELLYBEANS0919 4/20/2011 9:00PM

    Great post! I am slowly learning to love myself too, it's certainly a journey. Glad you are now at the place.

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NEENSTER1 4/20/2011 6:40PM

    Hi Ashley emoticon blog. Your right about finding a designer or two or three that makes clothes to fit your shape. That's good advice. emoticon for that. I have a designer I really like and that I am happy with and designs really cute fitted cut to fit your size true to size clothes and good quality to.

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LJEINVT 4/20/2011 5:58PM

  Wonderfully positive blog. I also am beginning to feel more at peace with myself and excited about the changes, such as no more plus size clothes. Keep it up! You are amazing.

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EMPTRS 4/20/2011 12:19PM

    You have such an amazing attitude and I love how you view yourself-so positive! Keep it up!

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JAYMIE11 4/20/2011 12:00PM

  Thank you for those encouraging words. emoticon

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CORINNAW71 4/20/2011 9:43AM

    So true! I had a similar realization trying on clotes while shopping a few weeks ago! Some clothes just don't fit me right and never will. I don't have a butt that looks good in Levi's jeans! Never have never will but many other brands look great so I'll wear those brands! No biggie! emoticon

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TWINKIEQUEEN 4/20/2011 8:20AM

    its nice to read about your new and positive attitudes

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JAG-OH 4/20/2011 6:56AM

    That is awesome!

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FOXYFOTOGRAPHER 4/19/2011 11:32PM

    Awesome blog! Congratulations on your new "accomplishment"!

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PAWSINAZ 4/19/2011 11:03AM

    Thank you, someday I hope to be where you are at.

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BLESSEDGIGI 4/19/2011 10:15AM

    emoticon You are such a beautiful person. Great blog.

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BNP1988 4/19/2011 10:10AM

    This is exactly how I feel too! Congrats on getting there yourself. I know for me it was a long process. I'm not even at my goal weight, but I'm TOTALLY okay with where I am at now. I think the biggest part about the journey is getting your head in the game. I am adding you because you have such a positive outlook! Thanks for this. :)

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ILOVEDOLPHINS73 4/19/2011 8:32AM

    I'm glad and happy for you! Thanks for sharing, I'm working my way to that place. :) Keep inspiring us!!

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PEGGIE57 4/18/2011 11:21PM

    I'm glad you learned this at a young age! You go girl!

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SSORENSEN1 4/18/2011 9:54PM

    I really liked the part moving "forward inch by inch"! So true, just keep moving! emoticon

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ME40ME 4/18/2011 5:03PM

    Loving it!! You are truly beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

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CANNIE50 4/18/2011 4:53PM

    What an impressive blog - you can add "wonderful writer" to your list. I love the points you made, especially being more pragmatic about clothing and how it fits, or doesn't fit. I get weary from listening to women beat themselves up about clothing sizes and fit - it isn't personal, it just is, and you made the point beautifully. I look forward to reading more from you and am happy to have discovered your blogs. emoticon

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ALICIAT32 4/18/2011 4:02PM

    Couldn't agree more. U go girl!

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NUTS4NUTELLA 4/18/2011 1:47PM

    This is such a beautiful blog. It made me so happy to read it!

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JENDA9138 4/18/2011 1:36PM

    NICE!

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GETFIT2LIVE 4/18/2011 1:07PM

    Great blog! Learning to love and like yourself along the way is the very best thing about this journey, better than all the weight loss and improved fitness along the way.

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KTTAYLOR21 4/18/2011 12:54PM

    I just posted on your status that you are Awesome Ashley and those words are so true!!! Your blog today is outstanding and I see why you got most popular blog. You have told the absolute truth, the key to success in all areas of life where change is necessary!!! Wow... you have a gift, and thanks for sharing that gift with the rest of us.

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KAT2212 4/18/2011 12:45PM

    "Stagnation is the destroyer of progress."
In...deed!

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DEBBIEOLMOS57 4/18/2011 11:56AM

    way to go

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CRISM18 4/18/2011 11:20AM

  Thank you for this post....very inspirational!

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APMAC_D 4/18/2011 11:15AM

    I love it! You rock :)

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ANGIEUKFAN07 4/18/2011 11:03AM

    Awesome post!!!

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HEIDE69 4/18/2011 9:07AM

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VERONICAS_GOALS 4/18/2011 8:37AM

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GREENTREELOVER 4/18/2011 6:09AM

    love this :)

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BRITCHES82 4/17/2011 10:44PM

    AWESOME!!!

Oh and Damon is hot... I too am a secret 16 year old angst ridden teenage girl ;)

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MYADOG1 4/17/2011 12:11PM

    I am a work in progress on this! I LOVE your comment that if something doesn't fit it's not our fault. Aha moment for me, sad but true I guess reading it in somebody elses words means I can believe that. emoticon emoticon
You are changing your life and helping the rest of us, thanks and keep up the great work! Have a sparky week emoticon

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REBEKAHJOHNSON 4/17/2011 11:27AM

    I recently learned how to love myself too. I know exactly how you feel.

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LADEEDAA 4/17/2011 12:29AM

  Thank you for giving me hope that someday I could be my own friend.

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DWILCZKO 4/17/2011 12:07AM

  ur amazing!

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NANHBH 4/16/2011 11:58PM

    You are soooo healthy, Girl! Congrats! You have worked really hard. It's an honor to be on this journey with you!
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STORMY724 4/16/2011 11:36PM

    Enjoyed your post. I am feeling very good about myself, too, although I've never been one to put myself down all that much.

You mentioned Spanx ---so I checked out their website. I checked out the swimwear first ---haven't had the courage to wear a swimsuit for decades, but I will be heading for Brazil in a few months to a city on the ocean, and I just must take a dip in the Atlantic while I'm there, but a Spanx swimsuit costs 3 to 4 times what I would expect to pay ----way beyond my budget, especially for something I won't use often.

A few weeks ago, I discovered Flexees® "Fat Free Dressing" at Costco ---camisoles that hold in that roll of skin around my waist and one on my abdomen (used to be fat, now skin). They reach to the bottoms of my panties, so the length holds in everything from under the bust to there.

The camisoles (which come in white, black, and gray) seem to run true to size if you want just a little support, but if you want to look great in something a little skinnier, try one size smaller. (They come in S, M, L, XL ---not sure if 2X or 3X is available at Costco.) They are only $15.99 each.

I've seen similar online for twice that, plus shipping ---and even the exact same items for $29 (although more sizes, styles, colors, and patterns are available at the Maidenform website.)

I've had some lower back problems and they seem to help with that, too ---that little extra support on my back feels great.

Now I'm trying to find a swimsuit under which I can wear my black "Fat Free Dressing" camisole ---or one with its own "slimming" qualities to hold in that roll of skin.

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DAWNFIRE72 4/16/2011 10:37PM

    You are truly an inspiration because I don't know if I will ever truly accept my body "as is" I always find something I don't like but your blog has inspired me to start looking at the things I like more than what I hate. Thank you.

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REDLACED 4/16/2011 10:36PM

    very inspirational!

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BERRY4 4/16/2011 9:35PM

    Yeah for the transition! Feels good to be "okay" in one's own skin. The mental part is the key part to all of life.

Best to you as you move forward in health & fitness!!

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SWEETMOMMY41 4/16/2011 8:23PM

  what a wonderful blog! thanks so much for sharing! have a terrific day!

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GREENSCRAPCAT 4/16/2011 8:06PM

    Absolutely, love your thoughts, they are on my mind as well, and I am sure a lot of other people.

Thanks for sharing!

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BRENDAJOYCE11 4/16/2011 7:01PM

    Great attitude!

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TOUGHENUFF 4/16/2011 6:49PM

    very inspiring! Thanks!

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MARINO124 4/16/2011 6:10PM

    You are the living proof that it is possible to change. Thank you for posting this, it is truly inspiring. emoticon And to many more positives and fascinating self discoveries on this journey which is life!

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Burned Out

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Well, there it is. I have hit my first serious road block. I am just, tired. Tired of working too much, tired of not having enough personal time, tired from literal sleep deprivation, tired of counting and logging and tracking etc. I have pulled back from SP because I don't have anything left to give to anyone else. I don't feel it is right to continually ask for support that I can not reciprocate at this time. Close to 3 weeks this has been going on and I tried to push through and keep with it and in some respects I have and some I have not. I have made some poor food choices but at the same time the voice in my head has continued to say "that eating this or that is so not worth it". For example last night I got home after a 14 hour day and was starving. I debated Burger King for all of 3 seconds and but I just couldn't bring myself to eat it. The thought literally made me gag actually. I am proud of that. I am proud that even at a very low point I refuse to compromise and eat chemically processed garbage.
I have completely stopped running. That should make my 5 K in 3 weeks interesting. I have still been strength training and doing the elliptical. My mind and body are just a mess and I need to get out of this rut. I am not looking for advice, please don't tell me how I have to do this or that and I need to quit my job etc. I know what I need to do, sometimes the brain just needs time to catch up and process this kind of frustration. I haven't gained weight back and I am working on maintenance which makes me happy. I decided last night that what I am seeking is balance. I like to work and that is a good thing. I got my first huge reference book for my business this week and started reading it this morning and I am excited. The chef's at work are already starting to try and discourage me but I am not listening. All my life people have tried to shut me down and I have had enough of it. No more negativity people, sheesh. Yes, they can offer me good insights and I am listening to their experience but I am going to do this. There is a need for the return of good wholesome food. All of us on here are tired of the factory produced garbage they sell at chain stores. There are people like us willing to buy it! I am sure of it.
So here I sit this morning on a cliff. Do I jump or do I be scared and retreat back into the land of obesity. You should all be proud of me because I jumped. I logged my breakfast and made healthy choices and today is a new day. Nobody puts baby in a corner.
EDIT: I am not saying I am quitting. I don't know why people read a single blog from someone and make assumptions. This is about one moment in a lifetime of good health and fitness. All I am asking is before you lecture someone about clean eating or how they live make sure you actually know something about the person and how the live day to day.

  
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SIMPLE_TAILOR 4/25/2011 8:36AM

    Do what you need to. We are here when you need us.

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SALSACHIC 4/18/2011 4:16PM

    Love this post and the Dirty Dancing reference! I recently put in notice at my job and I relate to your recent posts.

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NUTS4NUTELLA 4/18/2011 1:50PM

    I am very glad you made the decision to jump. The Dirty Dancing reference made me laugh really hard!
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NANHBH 4/17/2011 8:57AM

    Ashley,

"Nobody puts Baby in a corner." LOVE IT! Just keep putting one baby-step in front of the other. Hold that vision of your own business in front of you always. You are right, Ashley, there are a LOT of people out there who will buy your healthy food.
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MARINO124 4/16/2011 6:17PM

    All I see in this blog is determination. You ARE pushing through and getting stronger in the process because you are looking on the bright side. I personally understand what you mean about peoples advice. We try to be nice, but we sometimes lecture. All I want to do is encourage you. Look at where you came from! It's a fabulous thing where you are standing! And taking the plunge! WOOHOO! No one created anything new without hearing they were crazy to even think it was possible. Heck, they even put a man in jail for saying the earth was round!

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OBLACK1994 4/16/2011 7:51AM

    I think you are right about people and the way they judge others without knowing anything about them. As for me, I ignore them! At the end of the day, U are all that matters. It's your body, your thoughts, your hopes and dreams and it's your life! So take some deep breaths and take it one day at a time! Sometimes we just have to drop everything and inhale!! Dust yourself off and try all over again! U got it! emoticon emoticon

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ZANNACHAN 4/15/2011 12:27AM

    All the best to you.

I don't know if this is an issue for you, but don't feel guilty about needing to find balance..or about not having anything to give back right now. No one is keeping a score sheet; you need to do what's important to you. It sounds like you have a pretty good head on your shoulders about this; you're just run down and tired, which is reasonable (I mean, 14 hour days? No wonder you're exhausted!) I hope you get some rest soon.

If you think about it, none of us really know each other's lives that well, just what they are willing to post in a public blog. I'm sure people just want to offer what encouragement and support they can.

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ANGIEN9 4/14/2011 6:08PM

    I love your blogs and hope you will just continue to resists those burgers!! As will I! Angie

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    All the best to you. emoticon

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HEALTHYONE2008 4/14/2011 5:13PM

    Great going Ashley! Just keep hanging in there, and don't give up on your dreams. You are sooooo worth it. emoticon

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POLSKARENIA 4/14/2011 4:58PM

    You sound a bit like me. Sometimes i feel that once I have made some progress I just need to stop what I'm doing and consolidate before moving on... and that thing about knowing what you want to do work/business-wise - wow, are we alike!
Keep on being you - It's the best thing!!
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GIANTMICROBE 4/14/2011 4:49PM

    Nothing bothers me more than when people try to shut down my dreams. WHY do they have to be so negative?! Just because their lives suck and they're too cowardly and negative to do anything about it, they want everyone else's lives to be miserable too?

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MELLYBEANS0919 4/14/2011 3:56PM

    I hope you are able to get to where you feel refreshed again. Taking a break is perfectly fine, sometimes we all need to do that. Keep doing what you are doing, be proud, we are proud of you and are here to support you.

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COLD_GOLD 4/14/2011 3:54PM

    oh sweetie! only 3 weeks and you resisted the burger! this is just a slow period... and it is TOTALLY normal!!! Don't beat yourself up about it. I know, I know... we are all supposed to track our food and exercise every day, but really, it's a process and a few weeks out of the year won't hurt. You are still exercising, and a little rest will help you recover better. Keep on rockin it! you are doing great... just come back in a few weeks to what you were doing before! emoticon

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ECONLADY 4/14/2011 2:31PM

    I think you are doing an admirable job of handling everything. Please follow your heart!

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ROCKMAN6797 4/14/2011 2:29PM

    I love the "Dirty Dancing" reference!
Good for you for blogging your thoughts, I think it will be quite helpful in getting past this roadblock!
Thank you for sharing and go Ashley!

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JENERIN01 4/14/2011 2:24PM

    Good for you. I so wish I had the guts to quit my job and pursue something that would really fill me with joy. I let the fear keep me immobile. Keep moving forward and don't regret what is behind you. By taking the "leap" you won't let yourself fail. I believe you can do it, and I think somewhere you do too. emoticon

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LIVIN2LOVE1 4/14/2011 2:17PM

    I always look forward to your blogs. You stay strong regardless of what's going on. You are such a busy person and I appreciate that because I am too.

Jump, girl, jump! There will always, ALWAYS be nay sayers.

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CHRISTINA791 4/14/2011 2:12PM

    I just want to say thank you for blogging this. I know a lot of people go through rough times, and I think it's even harder when you're one of the more popular posters (as you said, people read into things).

I'm sorry things are rough right now, and glad to hear that you're hanging in there. Best of luck with wherever life ends up taking you.

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TISHA80 4/14/2011 2:06PM

    emoticon Don't feel bad about needing support, now. That is what we are here for. You have supported so many of us, when we needed it. Now, it is time for us to support you.

Good job not listening to the negative people. There will always be people like that and we would never do anything if we always listened to them. Sometimes we just have to take chances. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?



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OJIBWEEQUAY 4/14/2011 1:40PM

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SUZYGREENBERG94 4/14/2011 12:57PM

    Sounds like a case of the Mondays... on a Thursday.... for the last 3 weeks. I sooo get it. Sounds like you're in the valley of doubt, and to be honest, I KNEW you'd jump. I think if the THOUGHT of BK makes you gag, you got this lifestyle change nailed. Peaks and valleys, girl.....peaks and valleys. You have a ton of support over here, we can all relate and we'll lift you up when you need it!

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ALOFA0509 4/14/2011 12:40PM

   
Hugs 2U my sista!!! U got this emoticon

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KAMAPERRY 4/14/2011 12:34PM

    Hugs, and please don't pull back from us, you have given us alot, and let us give back to you. emoticon

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CSERF09 4/14/2011 12:29PM

    I smiled at the Dirty Dancing reference. One of my favorite movies.

I can see your need for a break. Sounds like you have a lot going on in your life. I wish you luck with your business! emoticon

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KELCEE75 4/14/2011 12:21PM

    'Do I jump or do I be scared and retreat back into the land of obesity'

Wow...this is a question I needed to hear today. It's making me epiphanize (is that even a word?...it should be) over here! lol Thanks for this!

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LESLIES537 4/14/2011 12:05PM

    Love that you're not listening to those people who are less than encouraging about your business. You are doing this and I'm proud of you! NOBODY puts baby in a corner!!! HELLZ YEAH, girl!! Do this thang!! emoticon

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 4/14/2011 11:45AM

    Why are you quitting? Here's what you need to do...

ROFLMAO!! Sorry, I couldn't resist. emoticon

Hope everything evens out for you soon!

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MELYMEL22 4/14/2011 11:44AM

    emoticon this was the closest thing i could find to someone jumping! Much love to you ashley and good for you for keeping up the fight... in all areas of your life. emoticon

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RIGBY31 4/14/2011 11:38AM

    Maintenance is A-OK! Take a breath, redirect. Gosh almighty, girl, this is your life! {{HUGS}}

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DEB181 4/14/2011 11:33AM

    I like you.. and I like the way you think..




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IMOM4GIRLS 4/14/2011 11:31AM

    Hang in there Ashley! So proud of you for seeing this as it is. Not the end, not failure, not quitting. Jut a day in a Lifestyle!! Good for you!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 4/14/2011 11:13AM

    I am so proud of you and the choices you have made!

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MANDA_MICHELLE 4/14/2011 10:55AM

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sorry you're going through a difficult time. take the time for you, only you can live your life. remember that after the storm, there is always sunny skies.

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SLFRISBEY 4/14/2011 10:46AM

    (((hugs))) I am right there with you! And the quote "Nobody puts baby in a corner" made me smile for one of the first times today! :) Thanks for that!

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GINA180847 4/14/2011 10:41AM

    Dear, dear, dear Ashley, take care of yourself and I pray the fear you are feeling passes soon and the warrior you are finds you doing all you need to do. Of course this is hard but you should be so proud of yourself for all you are doing in spite of how difficult it is.

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HOTSTENO 4/14/2011 10:15AM

    "I don't feel it is right to continually ask for support that I can not reciprocate at this time."

I just wanted to say it's okay by me! I bet I speak for most of us here when I say I'm not reading your blog just so you'll send me a Spark goodie or whatever. You're helping me just by letting me support you!

We have all been where you are. I hope you can get things back in balance soon, but I know it's hard sometimes. Just getting enough sleep makes a big difference to my positive attitude. I hope you can turn those negative feelings into positives soon, because you are special and deserve good treatment. Be good to yourself!

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EMSJOURNEY 4/14/2011 10:09AM

    i can't wait to visit your restaurant! get that goin'! =)

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SHORTY470374 4/14/2011 10:01AM

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IBSHAUN 4/14/2011 9:58AM

    Sending a virtual hug to you while you work this all out. No advice from me - just support! Glad you jumped though.

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KATHLOW 4/14/2011 9:56AM

    I'm here for you whenever! Let me just say how proud I am of you, you seem to be handling a tiring and scary situation really well. Good for you for choosing to keep eating healthily overall, everybody makes some poor choices here and there, after all. Go ashley!

Hugs,
kath

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MADEMCHE 4/14/2011 9:41AM

    I am so freaking proud of you. And you have every right to pull back and try to find some balance. You are doing amazing, especially with everything you have going on. Thanks for the update love, you will get there. You are in new and different territory and that is scary, but also really exciting. I know you are going to do great. The fact that you are still eating healthy and exercising is amazing. SP will wait. Love you Ash! Hugs!

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HAPPY_AS_IS 4/14/2011 9:32AM

    One step at a time! But really good job on not grabbing the BK! After that long day it would have been so easy to do!!!!

Good luck w/ all that you are doing!

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CHICKENCHASER78 4/14/2011 9:25AM

    emoticon I'm glad you jumped and made good choices. I hope things get easier for you soon. emoticon

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GODZYFAN 4/14/2011 9:23AM

    I totally understand and have gone through periods of backing off myself. Know that we are here for you and support you all the way! emoticon emoticon

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 4/14/2011 9:19AM

    Friends are here to support you regardless if you can give it back or not. We are all rooting for you and please remember that. Hang in there.

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KLPEFFERS 4/14/2011 9:17AM

    Good luck with your business adventure!!! I only read this blog because it popped up on my "friend feed" that one of my friends commented on it, so I can't really comment on the rest of your blog other than to say that, I too get that feeling like, UGH you just need a break... to not be 100% on for a few days. But I wanted to wish you luck and perseverance! :)

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