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Rookie Running W2 D2

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Last night was my 5th run. I decided to modify the program to fit me so I added a week 2-A (A for Ashley lol) That means 90 seconds of running intervals with 3.5 minutes of walking. I have to say I was scared to run more than the minute but scared does not stop me from doing anything anymore. Yesterday afternoon I was really excited for my run which is a good thing. If I am excited it means I will stick with something.
I am finding I need a long warm up. The first 10 minutes for me are the hardest in terms of aches and pains so I added a longer warm up so I could give the actually running my all. I practiced my foot placement and making sure to strike with my heal and roll through and not collapse on my arches. It was pretty awesome. Not only could I do it but I can feel I am getting stronger and no foot or ankle pain today at all. That was a first and a huge victory for me. My breathing was too shallow so I need to work on that as well so I don't get side cramps but I wasn't out of my target heart rate or overly tired.
Now I understand why people get really into running. During the run it gets hard and you get tired but it is the feeling after. That rush of accomplishment and self satisfaction as well as the endorphins that is pretty darn awesome. My back was a bit sore yesterday for the first time which has been my concern all along. I have ruptured discs at L4 and L5 from an accident and the reason I was afraid to run all along was the impact. I have been strengthening my core so I am hoping that will be enough to keep me from getting injured.
This whole process is pretty unbelievable. If someone had said to me even 6 months ago I would be training for a 5k and actually enjoying it I wouldn't have believed them. It seems I need a goal to keep me focused. I did somehow pull my groin muscle and not even realize it until I woke up this morning and was all tight so I am not going to do cardio today and keep gently stretching. Hopefully it heals up quickly. I don't to get sidelined with an injury so early in the game.

  
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CASSOPIA 5/30/2011 1:23PM

    You are not alone! I am running the rookie plan. 2 min walk, 3 minute run. I can do it for the first two sets, but than my lung endurance wrecks me. This frustrates me so!!! I want to be able to do better right now! lol! I know it takes patience. From what I read and who I have talked to, it gets better with time. I run alone now. Wish I had a running partner. Anyone out there from Owosso,MI that wants to run with a rookie?

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CASSOPIA 5/30/2011 1:22PM

    You are not alone! I am running the rookie plan. 2 min walk, 3 minute run. I can do it for the first two sets, but than my lung endurance wrecks me. This frustrates me so!!! I want to be able to do better right now! lol! I know it takes patience. From what I read and who I have talked to, it gets better with time. I run alone now. Wish I had a running partner. Anyone out there from Owosso,MI that wants to run with a rookie?

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MOUNTAINKATIE 3/1/2011 12:44PM

    I have been doing interval training as well. It is AMAZING how quickly it has gotten me into cardio shape. in 7 weeks I have lost #20 and do not get nearly as winded as before I started. It really blows my mind.
~Katie

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COWGRRRL 2/28/2011 4:56PM

    Trust me, in a couple of weeks you'll be amazed that you could only run for a minute before you were wrecked.
I run for half an hour now when originally I was broken after one 90 second run. It's a great program, just stick with it and make sure that you don't wear yourself out early. I sidelined myself with a hip injury early on and it took me a couple of months to get back into it.
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ELISADEL 2/28/2011 1:11AM

    Back pain isn't terribly uncommon in running, so the good news is that even if your back hurts its not necessarily a huge problem. It's a good idea to be extra careful about it and work to keep your core strong, though!

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-KELLY-JO- 2/27/2011 11:14AM

    I think you are so brave! I want to be a runner too but I get out of breath pretty quickly. It seems the more determined I am to do it, the worse the gasping for air gets and the less distance I travel. I will have to give your idea a try and see if it works for me, too. Do you walk and then run hard or walk and then jog? I am able to do 14 mph steady on the elliptical trainer and 21 mph at random but never for more than 30 secs per spurt. If I hit the road, would this even count as jogging or running at that speed (14mph)? I would love it if you could share your thoughts on this and maybe even coach me a little, if you'd be interested! I wanna be a runner too! emoticon

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MSANITAL 2/26/2011 6:28PM

    Keep up the good work.. I too am doing the rookie 5K and I kind of changed it too for me.. I start week 2 on Monday...

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CRANK_IT_UP 2/26/2011 3:03AM

    I'm in the same boat so I've opted for the treadmill as often as my body can stand it, which so far is almost every day. As I get stronger and shed the weight, I'll attempt to jog on the local high school track since it has a nice rubberized surface which is good for absorbing some of the impact.

Keep up the good work!

Let's Go!

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SM-ARTGIRL 2/25/2011 10:34PM

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I was so excited training for my first 5k last year- I can sense you are too Ashley!
I am running my first 10 k on April - excited and motivated like you!

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ALOFA0509 2/25/2011 4:35PM

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Awsum job girl!!!! Look @ U.. 5K no problem!!!! Keep it up, your doin soooo Fantastic emoticon

Hugs,
Alofa

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MARATHONBOUND 2/25/2011 1:47PM

    WOOOHOOOOOO! Awesome job! I am SO proud of you that I'm actually squealing right now emoticon You are so inspiring and I love feeding off of that and giving some back to you! It's a win-win. I hope I'm not getting sick, because I am so ready to run tomorrow! I did it Tuesday, but Bikram killed me the rest of the week. Have a fantastic weekend, you are so amazing!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHONNAATCH 2/25/2011 1:42PM

    Way to go, Ashley! Keep up the good work!

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COCOMAC7 2/25/2011 1:35PM

    Way to go! I have been running for about a year now. There are still days where it can take 3KM before I even want to be running but then all of a sudden something clicks and the endorphins kick in and I get in the zone and I can run and run and run. Moral of my story: the beginning sucks! Especially when you first start running and then it gets a little better and then it gets a lot better and then you forget how the beginning sucks and you become addicted. It's totally about getting over the hump!

Adjusting the program to suit you is so smart. Pushing yourself is great but listening to your body is even better!!!
I have been injured twice during my running and I always take the time to heal even though I miss it like crazy. So taking rest days even when they are "unscheduled" is the right thing to do if your body says so.

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SPWITHSPIRIT 2/25/2011 12:09PM

    Great Job! You are an inspiration!
I never thought I could run.....started the same as you, a minute or so in the middle of my walk. Then more alternating, walk, run, walk, run. I'll always remember the first time I ran all the way down the road to my corner (3/4mile), I was ecstatic!
Keep what you are doing! You will succeed!!
You are awesome!
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SPWITHSPIRIT 2/25/2011 12:08PM

    Great Job! You are an inspiration!
I never thought I could run.....started the same as you, a minute or so in the middle of my walk. Then more alternating, walk, run, walk, run. I'll always remember the first time I ran all the way down the road to my corner (3/4mile), I was ecstatic!
Keep what you are doing! You will succeed!!
You are awesome!
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PHEFEY 2/25/2011 11:14AM

    I'm so glad you are enjoying running! I love it now (I tried to start a year ago and hated it then). I take a long time to warm up as well and I do moves to up the tenseness of my muscles. sounds wierd I know because tense muscles get a bad rap, but high tenseness in your muscles and improve how you feel when you run by improving your posture, muscle movement, speed, and recovery time. Try jumping jacks, jumping rope, short sprints, and high knees (just don't do anything so much that you get tired)
Kudos for individualizing your schedule!
If you don't do yoga you might want to try it for your core/back stregthening. It will also keep the muscles in your legs feeling good and should teach you some great pre/post-running stretches.
I'm looking forward to following your running!

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SKYEPHOENIX 2/25/2011 10:51AM

    I really love your positive attitude about your running. I've been getting a little too caught up in all the things I CAN'T do yet, instead of paying attention to the things I can, an AM, doing. Change of perspective, thanks!! :)

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CALVIND 2/25/2011 10:50AM

    That's great! Keep up the good work. I am not at that point yet to go running. I started jogging on the treadmill that is far as it gets. Maybe someday soon I will try it when it gets a little warmer here in Canada. You are in inspiration.

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RUNWITHMICHELE 2/25/2011 10:30AM

    Awesome! Running is exhilarating! You will be running a 5K in no time!

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KJDOESLIFE 2/25/2011 9:18AM

    Great job! One thing I realized when I started running is that I can go further and faster (although not necessarily at the same time!) than I thought. Don't let your head tell you what your body can do. You are Cardio Queen with the elliptical! I have no doubt you'll be running a full 5K before you know it!

My first 5-10 minutes can be a little rough, too. I always push past it. Last night was no different (a little Achilles tendon soreness) but when it went away... Best. Run. Ever.

Keep it up!!

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KATHLOW 2/25/2011 3:22AM

    those first minutes definitely hurt!

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RIGBY31 2/25/2011 12:09AM

    Your running inspires me, along with everyone's suggestions and comments on what to expect and insider tips. Good for you, woman!

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XTMONT 2/24/2011 10:51PM

    Way to go!

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ME40ME 2/24/2011 9:34PM

    emoticon Gld you caught the bug! I have it also...I love running and I have had setbacks over the years for not stretching or listening to my body. Listen to your body and you will run often...don't listen and it will sit you down longer than you could ever want. Glad to meet you fellow runner!

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PELESJEWEL 2/24/2011 8:47PM

    emoticon Woo Hoo for You!!! Running endorphins rock and last longer (I think).

Please start reading up about the benefits of a foam roller (lots of info on this site), the earlier you incorporate the use of the roller as a pre & post run routine, the better you'll feel, especially during the initial run warm up minutes. First time you do it, it'll feel like glass shattering because everything is so tight, but the more you roll the muscle loosens & warms up.

I'm an interval trainer as well, specifically because I am RWC (running while chunky) & personally I feel it is less jarring on the lower back, knees, body in general then running straight. I can run a complete 5k, but for me it's always about being INJURY FREE. This rationale has worked for me since I started last May.

Running is so personal - It's all about what works for your body. Like you said you felt great because you figured out foot placement - heel, roll through to toes, that is key. Pace/breathing will be the next step...it's a pretty cool journey of discovery!!

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REM-CYCLES 2/24/2011 8:35PM

    Great work Ashley - awesome work and discipline

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FRECKS96 2/24/2011 8:28PM

    Great job!!! I hope you continue to stay healthy and enjoy it!

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CRESHA20 2/24/2011 8:04PM

    See what I meant? You just get it now and are powering along. emoticon

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RACHELRUNS26 2/24/2011 7:47PM

    I'm also in Week 2 (still) and modifying my intervals (still). I do the same as you (3.5 walking, 1.5 running) for now. But everytime I get better and you're right...the feeling after is priceless!

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AMOHAME2 2/24/2011 6:57PM

    You are awesome!!! I'm the same way with the first few minutes of my runs. I need a good mile or two to warm up my legs and get everything moving fluidly before I'm actually running at my best.
Careful with that pulled groin, you're doing so awesome and you're right, you don't want any injuries!! It's something that goes along with the running territory, always feeling little aches and pains, but nothing that's going to really hurt or last too long!!

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HANNAH_CALM 2/24/2011 6:07PM

    I'm glad you're enjoying running! I hope you feel better soon. I'm about to go for a walk in the snow!

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F1AMEDIVA 2/24/2011 6:04PM

    Awesome job! I remember when I started running having those same little aches. As you said, it does get better and that feeling of accomplishment is so great. You are right to give yourself a day off esp if feeling a pulled muscle.

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ROCKMAN6797 2/24/2011 5:31PM

    Awesome job Ashley!
Keep at it and soon all of these things will become second nature. I am amazed that I can run for an extended period of time but not be out of breath (but at the same time be at my target heart rate)! It is the most wonderful feeling in the world! Keep at it and remember to properly warm-up and stretch after your run.
Thank you for sharing.

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LESLIES537 2/24/2011 5:29PM

    Awesome work! emoticon

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KERSTIN814 2/24/2011 5:25PM

    Woohoo! You are awesome!

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KAZ814 2/24/2011 5:19PM

    Fantastic job! You can do it!

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NANHBH 2/24/2011 5:13PM

    You GO, Girlfriend!

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MAMADWARF 2/24/2011 5:08PM

    so excited for you Ashley! I love reading along how you are doing.. you are so amazing. I mean it.

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MINENA1 2/24/2011 5:07PM

    GREATTTT job girl!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm SO loving to run & I get all excited about it. Ain't that something? LOL. You're doing fantastic. I like your week 2-A plan! emoticon

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OBSERVERNOMORE 2/24/2011 4:57PM

  Its great to read your posts as you get into the running phase of exercise. I have been exclusively exercising outdoors and in this weather...well sometimes it's all I can do to walk and not wipeout, but as the snow melts, I am mentally gearing up for running. Your excitement is contagious and I appreciate your openness and honesty about lifestyle changes, and life in general! Thanks so much!
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SLFRISBEY 2/24/2011 4:50PM

    If you want some running inspiration, watch the movie Run, Fat Boy, Run. It's a cute story and it makes me want to put on my running shoes every time I watch it :) And I secretly have a crush on Simon Pegg so that helps too!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 2/24/2011 4:45PM

    So very proud of you!

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AGENTNER 2/24/2011 4:40PM

    I'm new to running too....could you explain to me about the foot placement...I think I need help with that!!! I know exactly what you mean about the rush! I have never been a runner due to injury also. I have a a bad ankle that I injured back in high school that never healed properly and ended up doing more damage. But I am taking it slow and still doing the week one also. I am trying to work my way up to 2 min. run with 2 min walk. right now I am doing 1 min run 2 min walk. but maybe I will try the 90 sec run and a 2.5 min walk....good idea! I will call it week 2A also (my name is Ashley too :)

Thanks for the pop chip idea. I have not heard of them...but I will be looking them up and finding them to check them out!!! thanks again!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/24/2011 4:39PM

    Thank you! You know I was worried about my weight too but then I read an article about how weight is less of a factor than just how your body specifically works and some people are more hindered by it than others. I do think as I lose weight it will get less strenuous for me, or at least I hope so :).

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HIPPICHICK1 2/24/2011 4:36PM

    Girl, I don't know you do it! I could not run without a lot of pain all over my body until I was under 200lbs.
Wishing you much luck on healing that groin of yours.
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I am done counting calories

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

It is my nature to analyze everything. Some would say a bit too much emoticon. When you are a scientist you just question everything, it is what we do. Well with this plateau I have gone back and analyzed what is going differently now versus when I started. What am I eating differently?
Well I realized an item I was eating on a semi-frequent basis was grossly incorrect in the tracker. It was about 40% more calories than the value SP had. Now I am not blaming anyone but myself for this because I should have known better than to just blindly trust that all information is correct and I should have looked up the products nutrition myself. I did that this morning and low and behold. That would be a big reason my weight is slowed. Inaccuracy in items I am consuming.
However, it got me thinking. I have been focusing WAY too much on the calories. In the beginning I was eating purely for the healthiness of the items. It worked for me and I was losing weight at a very rapid rate. Then I started obsessing about the numbers more than I should and it all went down hill from here.
The most success I had before SP was by journaling my food, focusing on portion control and picking the most nutritional dense foods. I used the glycemic index as a guide for my choices and I am going back to doing that. I have to stop self sabotaging and focus on just being healthy. The first 35 lbs I lost with what felt like no effort just because I was making better food choices because I wanted too. Sometimes going back to basics is the key to success and getting past our own neurosis.
I am still going to track because tracking keeps me accountable but instead of doing it all day I am going to carry a notebook and write it all down. There is something satisfying to me about writing foods down. Pen and paper still rule in my book against this constant electronic world. The loss of books scares me but I am not going to go in this direction with this blog lol. I never realized how easy it is to overcomplicate something so simple.

  
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ELISAJANE1 3/27/2011 12:48AM

    I get super analytical when I track numbers too. It actually makes me want to binge because eating turns into something obsessive and unatural when I focus on how many calories and grams of carbs, fat, and protien I have eaten. I think for people like us, portion control and healthy food choices really do work better than planning and crunching numbers.

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ELLENSUN 3/25/2011 4:55PM

    I've recently decided to honor my hunger and feel my fullness while making healthy food choices. I too was spending too much time counting my calories. Good to hear someone else's experience.

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BEHAPPY0201 3/24/2011 9:16AM

    I have found that many of SP foods are off, and now check everyting against the package. The problem is...I spend hours a day tracking and trying to stay in the calorie range, and I'm still hungry!

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WONDERS06 3/22/2011 5:38AM

    Good for you! I don't count calories anymore either.

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MOUNTAINKATIE 3/1/2011 12:38PM

    Just be sure you are eating enough calories. Your body will tell you if your not, you will get shakey and feel like you can not concentrate. I did that before where I was cutting to many calories and then I really hit a brick wall. Dont go below 1200! I hope one day I will be able to not count and just feel confident in knowing, not yet for me though. Im not ready.
Keep up the fight, you are doing, and looking GREAT!
~Katie

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AMETHYST2364 2/28/2011 7:52AM

  The Sp Food tracker really is helping me, even though I sometimes go over the numbers they have. I have lost 16 pounds in one month tracking everything and making better choices. Using the tracker forces me to see what I put in my mouth. I understand how it can drive a person crazy. I find myself running to track what I eat all day. LOL But if it helps me get this weight off, well so be it and maybe somewhere through this I will find some sort of balance to maintain it after all is said and done. You are doing awesome and thanks for sharing this blog! emoticon

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OCTOBER2842 2/28/2011 5:53AM

    The food journal works for me and keeps me focus and accountible

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CSTARRG 2/27/2011 10:55AM

  I so feel what you're saying. I too am sick an tired of counting calories and I seem to have had more success when I wasn't counting calories. I think I have to change things up. Thanks for the blog. It's good to know I'm not alone in how I feel.

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JENN03275 2/27/2011 8:54AM

    I wrote a blog last night about the same thing. I feel that I have become obsessed with tracking. I lost 28 pounds without tracking. I have learned how to make better choices to feel the best that I can. I will continue to weigh and measure myself and if I notice that things are not as they should, i will once again track and analyze and see where I am making the errors. Way to go! You are doing great!!



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MISSLORI5 2/26/2011 9:13PM

    We live and we learn-obviously you have learned something new and good! Go for it! Use what you need and leave the rest as they say! I believe Sparkpeople was invented to Help people with their weight loss journeys, not to do it for them! So, keep doing what you're doing, but let your sparkfriends know once in a while how you're doing! Blessings on your wedding and all your future plans! emoticon

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LISAINMS 2/24/2011 3:50PM

    I am also number neurotic. I want the math to be right. So I check everything before I save it to my list. Sometimes it is really off. It's the exercise burn that I notice is really overestimated.

At some point we should have enough knowledge to go "off tracking" and be confident in our ability to make appropriate choices. I do not want to spend eternity tracking. It will always be there if I need it, but I want it to be second nature to choose what my body needs. Good for you for deciding to go back to what you know and be self-reliant!

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KIMBYUT 2/24/2011 10:34AM

    You're speaking my language. I lost about 75 pounds almost seemlessly by doing the basics. I ate healthy (which for me was following dr oz five basic rules), NEVER counted calories, ate three meals and two or three snacks a day and wrote it down in a notebook. I exercised by walking and exercise DVDs. I wrote that down too, I didn't analyze how many calories I was burning. Fast forward to when I started learning more and listening to more "experts advice" and using trackers to track every calorie consumed and burned, eating too much says one, eating nit enough says another expert. Enter gyms, and bootcamps and personal trainers and more experts and tracking and do this, don't do that, run this fast, lift that amount, you're doing too much you're not doing enough. WTF!? The more I know and learn the less progress I make and worse I feel! I think it's time to get back to basics for me too. I'm tired of analyzing and tracking and for feeling good then feeling bad then feeling guilty. It's overwhelming, it's mentally taxing. I'm starting to go back to basics and do what I enjoy instead of listening to the "experts" - nobody knows my mind or my body like I do. Thanks for the blog, as you can see I totally relate.

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PHEFEY 2/24/2011 9:59AM

    I love going back to basics and I do it anytime I need a push, an edge, or a change. Sorry to hear that something external was effecting your weight loss, but I'm glad that you have recognized it and are correcting it! You are doing it!

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KATHLOW 2/24/2011 8:28AM

    Hope this works for you! I have wondered why my recipes, if adapted with my own foodstuffs from the packaging, consistently have way more calories that sparkrecipes...this is probably why.

Btw, I love books too - and i'm doing my very best to save them by buyig them in giant heaps :-)

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DEBBIESCHU 2/24/2011 7:51AM

  I used to calorie count and now I just have a rounded up idea of what I'm eating for the day. This may be the cause of my plateau?? Welp. After a month break from the gym, I've started back and usually go at least 3 times a week doing cardio and weights. I have a deadline to get back my bikini body for a cruise I'm going on in April!

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ERIN4771 2/24/2011 7:22AM

    if i followed the calores suggested by sp, i would be laying on the floor...absolutely no energy....seriously!! i was so obsessed with the calories of things, and not the quality of the food, and it backfired more times i care to admit....i just started counting my grams of protein and carbs, making sure i stay within my range, and i have to say, i am feeling a bit better!! i still total the calories, but honestly, i workout 6 days a week, lifting 4 of them, and not light weights, so i really can't live on 1500 calories a day, while i burn between 400-500 per workout!! keep doing what you are doing ashley, it's always good to revisit the past to see what has worked.....

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CARILOUIE 2/24/2011 5:45AM

    I LOVE to write things down. The food journal works for me, too - I do it because I am honestly tired of counting calories.

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CARRIELYNNMARIE 2/23/2011 11:18PM

    Great blog Ashley! I can so relate right now and haven't tracked any calories in almost 4 weeks. I'm testing the ground and planning foods mentally to ensure that I meet nutritional values and portion control. With starting work again, I don't have the time to obsess over calories like before although tracking my fitness has been very helpful.



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ROCKMAN6797 2/23/2011 7:45PM

    Good post, however you choose to track as long as it keeps you honest then it is the way to track. I noticed the same thing about a few things when I would log them so I created my own entry and use that instead.

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SM-ARTGIRL 2/23/2011 7:01PM

    I am so glad I read your post today Ashley!
This year I have become too obsessed with calorie counting, first time I have ever done it.
I am clocking up way too many hours on my mobile app, even 'til the wee hours.

I like your science mind. emoticon

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REM-CYCLES 2/23/2011 6:33PM

    Go with what works for you Ashley!

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REMEMBER2BME 2/23/2011 4:53PM

    Great blog. I just read a similar one today titled "No more Numbers" I think. Both very interesting. It sounds like you have a good plan in place. May I ask how you go about using the glycemic index in foods as a guide for your choices? Do you just look foods up on the internet or do you have a book or something?

Keep up the good work!

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WILLIAMV3 2/23/2011 4:25PM

    I'm with you. Sometimes I think it's okay to eat something just because it is within my ranges. When truly, I need to eat something healthier for my body.

I too love books and hate to see them go away. I miss actually getting letters in the mail too.

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HANNAH_CALM 2/23/2011 4:13PM

    Whatever works for you! I hope you enjoy the old way better. I write down my food sometimes, but I don't really know what I'm doing. It's mostly so I'll remember, and then put it in the tracker here later.

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BADASSBLONDIE 2/23/2011 3:29PM

    Sounds like an awesome plan!!!! Go you!!!

Remember - it'll always be easier to lose weight at the beginning.

WOO HOO GO YOU!!!! It's awesome that you can re-evaluate and find what works best for YOU!

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MUSIKGIRL 2/23/2011 3:27PM

  You're right to stop focusing on the numbers. They just create unnecessary stress.

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IBSHAUN 2/23/2011 3:25PM

    Good reminder not to just blindly trust what has been entered. I've had that happen a couple of times and had to go outside of SP to find something that was more accurate. Good for you to rejuvenate yourself and get back to the healthier choices!

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CALIKIKI 2/23/2011 3:25PM

    Great way to analyze what is going on for you! (want to come and analyze me? I have lost 1 pound this month. 1! Actually I know one thing I am doing wrong: eating to much and moving to little.)

So unbelievably proud of you! Way to go!

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ALLIE4993 2/23/2011 1:54PM

    great post! I agree about the change into the electronic world. At times it can be very beneficial but as you mentioned sticking to the old pen and paper can be just as efficient. I LOVE SP and I wouldnt know where I would be without you guys for support but some of the tracking available of SP I dont necessarily always rely on as I would my own pen and paper. Keep up with the awesome work!!

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KERSTIN814 2/23/2011 1:54PM

    I agree with you but my obsessive compulsive side loves to see the calorie numbers and I can relax, knowing what I have eaten and what I have left and where I am overdoing it. I just started SP so I will probably get to where you are after a while. Whatever works for you fits with the SP philosophy I should think.

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PUGLVR760 2/23/2011 1:34PM

    I agree with you - I have found that when I use the tracker at EACH meal I start to obsess about the calories for the day. I have also decided to write down my meals, then at the end of the day add the totals. Kind of takes the calorie part of it off my mind, yet it is still keeping me in check. I like your blogs because they help me look at things from a different perspective. Plus, it is good to see that someone else is going through the same challenges. Keep up the great work!

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SYLVIALYNN2 2/23/2011 1:34PM

    I agree. Eating mindfully, choosing healthy vegetables and fruits for the most part is what works for me. I too get too caught up in over obsessing about the tracking and numbers. Better to concentrate on the healthy aspects.

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55TUCKER 2/23/2011 1:17PM

    I found your post the day (today) i decided to track differently to try to cut back computer time and still pay enough attention to keeping on plan. Thanks for your post! My little notebook comes everywhere with me beginning today and I will try to be on computer once daily for under 30minutes and post just what i need to. Thanks again.

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LESLIES537 2/23/2011 12:48PM

    Excellent analysis! I'm like you, the first 35 came off with little to no effort, all just thanks to my new healthy eating habits. The rest of it is going to take some extra effort, but I know we can do it! emoticon

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AMOHAME2 2/23/2011 12:48PM

    I'm a scientist too, and yes it's all about data and details! I stopped tracking every little bite, but I still measure and weight everything, and keep a mental tally of all my calories. I'm trying so hard to just eat intuitively but there's no data in that! And it's the same with my running. I can't just go out for a run, I need the numbers! How far (down to 10 meters) and how long (down to the second), this information is crucial!!

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GIRANIMAL 2/23/2011 12:18PM

    Way to go, super sleuth! I am not sure I would have ever figured that out. But beyond that, kudos on this choice. I know what you mean - it's rally easy to start getting hung up on numbers, and worse, just one number: calories. I bet you're gonna start just melting away again with this more mindful approach. emoticon

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HEALTHYONE2008 2/23/2011 11:47AM

    Great going Ashley! I have also found this to be true, that items do need to be checked now and then. Sometimes the infomation has changed due to changes in the processing of the item. Tracking on a daily basics is the best way to go.

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MINENA1 2/23/2011 11:43AM

    I'm all about pen and paper too. I'm old school. LOL! Ever since I started my journey a year ago it's all been done with pen and paper. I have a blackberry & don't use it to log appointments or look at the calendar or anything like that. I rather just carry a small organizer around with everything in it. Hehe! Anyway, going back to basics it good. I've gone back to basics plenty of times just to keep me moving in the right direction. Good for you chica!

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GRACEISENUF 2/23/2011 11:22AM

    Sounds like a "winning idea to me".

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SHERRYJVP 2/23/2011 11:16AM

    I think that is great. We all know that a calorie is a calorie is a calorie, but the nutritious choices really help me curb the unhealthey cravings. When Weightwatchers had the "core" program I tried it. It was wonderful in that as long as I ate from the list, which was all basic healthy foods, I didn't have to count anything. there were only a few foods that we needed that were not on the list and they were used with the weekly points allotted...anyway..it worked for me and I am trying to do something similar now.

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/23/2011 11:05AM

    I agree and I think we should all do whatever works best for us.
Years ago, I used to track my food daily in a little notebook which I always had with me. I'd just use a new page daily and wrote the date and columns for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. I wrote down everything I ate then that evening I'd look up the calories from books I had. After a while of eating the same things I usually knew the calories automatically.
However, since I found the spark tracker, I love using it and the ability to run reports is great. I just seems faster to track this way to me.
I have found that I need to double check the items or enter my own quite often. And I do like being able to store the foods that I use often in my favorites area.
All in all, I like using the automated system better, but when we go on vacation, I will probably go back to using the notebook, and enter it later on the SP tracker.
As long as we are eating healthy and staying on track I say use whatever method works best for you.
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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/23/2011 10:46AM

    Well I still follow correct portion sizes I am just writing it down instead of worrying about fitting it in my tracker. I find when I focus on the numerical value I focus too little on the nutritional value.

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DEBRAK14 2/23/2011 10:45AM

    Good job on analyzing the situation and diagnosing the problem. I always am more satisfied when tracking in my little notebook too. Not sure why...it works for me though!

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OBSERVERNOMORE 2/23/2011 10:44AM

  Sounds like a great plan. I tried the whole calorie counting thing and I know this sounds crazy but the large numbers freaked me out. WW- small numbers, writing things down all day long, it's wonderful! Enjoy you're revamp!

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SIMPLYANGEL2U 2/23/2011 10:34AM

    I rarely pick anything on SP unless I've double checked it against the label on the box etc. I too have found some of them are totally incorrect! But I do not have the willpower etc like you do. I HAVE TO record everything on SP to keep myself in check. I even count out my Mini Wheats cereal now to match the nutritional information on the side of the box for a "serving". Good luck - I'm glad someone has more will power than I do!

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RONIREDD 2/23/2011 10:34AM

    Sounds like a good plan! I actually just reset everything on my page ... I do things so inconsistently, I hate it!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 2/23/2011 10:31AM

    Ya, I think that I need to stop with my OCD and just eat because something is healthy. I am eating to fuel right now, not lose weight.

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MAMADWARF 2/23/2011 10:16AM

    40%???? Dang, that could do some serious damage! I like that you are willing to mix stuff up to get where you want to be. Go for it and let us know how you are doing!!

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MARATHONBOUND 2/23/2011 10:08AM

    That sounds like a great idea, I'm joining you! emoticon emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 2/23/2011 10:08AM

    I totally agree. Anytime I think I have to log all my food in I get so omg what a chore, I can write the food down but to figure it all out.
I want to ask, do you know of somehwhere that I can find breakfast you need.... carb, protein, ect. lunch... carb ect. I don't really know how much of anything I need. I know I need healthy and all but don't want to eat something I can't continue. I need it to be a lifestyle.
You have done well, and are continuing to do so. CONGRATS
just curious what to try while I wait for an apt with a dietican.

Cindy

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Weight loss is teaching me patience

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

If I could choose one of my worst qualities it would be my lack of patience. Not just a little lack. I can't go clothes shopping with other people because when they get indecisive it sends me off the deep end. You like or you don't. What is the big debate about? I am extremely decisive. I can tell you in 3 seconds if I like something or not and then I am moving on.
One thing that healthy weight loss is not is fast or easy. When I started on SP I quickly lost 30 lbs in the first 2 months and I fooled myself into thinking this was going to be a pretty painless process. WRONG. Throw in work busy season, my grandmother losing her fight with cancer, and a never ending plateau and in the past, I would have given up. As the numbers slowed and slowed and slowed I would have used it as an excuse to quit. This time is different.
While it is frustrating to work hard and not see the results you want on the scale I am at peace with this. How did that happen? It is all in the approach. When it is described as a healthy lifestyle that is a good description because it means I am not eating foods for their caloric value but eating them for what they do to my body. That in and of itself is a huge change for me. To be eating foods that are giving my body fuel and taste good is pretty awesome. I feel better than I did at 22 now that I am 33. I am appreciating fitness for the changes in my body not just as weight maintenance or a social activity.
Yes, there are times where I am angry the weight isn't coming off the way I feel it should. Have I contemplated giving up? Oh for about 3 seconds and then I always come back to this. No matter how slow this process is, it is better to keep fighting and keep trying than to go back to being morbidly obese and miserable. There is not one benefit to my old lifestyle but at least now I am making my heart and body healthy as I keep fighting. I think of my fat as a symptom. A symptom of an underlying problem I had and each day as I face down that problem I am melting it away. Even if it is a few ounces at a time. This may take me 2 years instead of 1 but I am going to do this and I am going to stay this way for the rest of my life.

  
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EATINGRIGHT2010 3/2/2011 2:54PM

    I totally agree. Losing weight is about being patient because it is a very slow process and getting back on the wagon whenever you fall off.

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BIKINIMAMA11 3/1/2011 3:55PM

    You really have your priorities right....it is so easy to hit a slow down and give up. Looking at this as a process of living with healthy habits will pay off, even if it takes a little longer. Good news is...supposedley the slower approach to loosing pounds (lifestyle change) is the secret to keeping the extra weight off for good. Thanks for reminding me of that!

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CHELLENCHEEZ 3/1/2011 9:18AM

    I'm going through the same thing right now with the scale not budging, but exercising daily and eating right has made a big difference. Who cares what the scale says if you're feeling better and your clothes fit? It's hard to be patient, but just think---one day you and I will both get on the scale and it will have moved 30 pounds seemingly over night! Keep it up!!

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CATWOOMAN 3/1/2011 1:18AM

    Very nicely written. You have inspired me to not get frustrated... this is a lifestyle change. We can do it.
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CHAR1970 2/28/2011 12:46AM

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JOIE501 2/27/2011 9:54PM

    I, too, wish it would melt off! :P but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Your hard work is paying off! Keep up the good work!

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BLEGNER1 2/27/2011 6:34PM

    I pray for patience all the time, because I want and I want it now. So you can see that I need to hear what you said. I will try to be more patient.

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KDYLOSE 2/27/2011 12:16PM

    I've had the exact same experience - first two months losing steadily, then hitting a plateau. I've been there since late December. It's so frustrating, and yet what's the alternative? Gain the weight back? I think not!

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RITAROSE 2/27/2011 7:48AM

  When my weight started coming off in the beginning I , too thought it would be a quick fix, but alas, life happens and metabolism slows, there's the rub! I think it's been the greatest time of my life as I've totally adopted an active lifestyle at age 52, (now I'm almost 54) and I have more strength and a positive attitude to match.
Food choices are more of a challenge. Emotional eating is under control sometimes, but then the holidays kick it into full gear or some catastrophic event comes along to give it a boost giving me challenge after challenge, but I'm up for it. The healthy lifestyle is so rewarding!! You are a gem and very bright for your 33 years! WTG! Keep up the good fight!!

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HOWLERMOM 2/27/2011 12:38AM

    Thanks for this --I've been stuck for about 3 weeks now and it is making me cranky, feeling blue, yada yada. Much appreciated reminder!!

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KAY_CEE224 2/26/2011 11:24PM

  Well said! Thanks for my daily dose of motivation emoticon

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GETBACK2GOOD 2/26/2011 9:15PM

    Excellent! I culd have written this myself :) I feel exactly how you do!!!

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SONORANARIZONAN 2/26/2011 6:55PM

    That's the thing about patience. You don't "exercise your patience muscles" (as we say in this house), if everything is smooth sailing and easy. It comes when you have to wait, and have to wait a lot for a long time.

Good blog. :)

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ALICIAT32 2/26/2011 6:21PM

    i know what you mean

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WEEZYB7881 2/26/2011 6:17PM

    For me, one of the best things about not losing weight is that one day, i'm going to be at maintenance and so it will be important for me to be okay with how I eat. no scale to reward or terrorize me, but simply the knowledge that i'm eating clean and in a way that feeds my body.

thanks for the reminder

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KATENICOLE84 2/26/2011 5:40PM

    I think one of the hardest things about weight loss is having the patience to keep it going!

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SALEX52 2/26/2011 3:01PM

    Ah patience. Yes, it alludes me, too. Thanks for encouraging me to step up and accept it that this is a life long change, not a quick fix.

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MELISSAT123 2/26/2011 1:34PM

    You and I, my dear, are a lot alike! I laughed at the very beginning of your blog because I swore you had a spycam on me when I go out shopping with friends.



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MARYS1928 2/26/2011 12:46PM

    This is the time I'm going to have patience. I've decided one pound a week is enough even those it's going to take a long time. emoticon

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SLIMTHICK2 2/26/2011 12:17PM

    Very inspiring. emoticon

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IMIN2GENES 2/26/2011 11:58AM

    Awesome blog! I can really identify with you. You've just reinforced to me that I've made a good choice in joining SP.

Thanks for sharing!
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JADEKELLY2010 2/26/2011 11:53AM

    We sound a lot alike. I am also bad with patience. At first, it was hard for me to realize that it's harder to take the weight off than it is to put it on. When I don't see quick results, I tend to quit. SP has taught me to hang in there. You're doing great!

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ROJAKHAN 2/26/2011 10:40AM

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MFABER3 2/26/2011 10:07AM

    Awesome blog. Patience is hard.

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DEBLYNN323 2/26/2011 9:04AM

    emoticon...great blog!

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MOMMYOMG 2/26/2011 8:06AM

    I feel your pain with the patience...I don't have any either. But you would HATE me because I am so indecisive. I question every decision I make and I hate it but I do. I am the girl that stands in front of the mirror for 10 minutes trying to decide if I like the outfit. I probably leave the store and think about it some more before I go back to buy it. Pitiful I know -- but how do fix something like that? Your blog was very inspirational. My weight has been up and down for the past 15 years. Luckily, I am working with 20 to 30 pounds max so I don't feel out of control. But, it would be great to KEEP those 20 pounds off. Just started my Spark journey last week but I am so enjoying all of the motivation here--thanks for yours!!!

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TERRIELYNN61 2/26/2011 2:32AM

    Thank you for sharing some of your journey of living a healthier lifestyle. This has given me inspiration. emoticon

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SARAHCOLLINS75 2/26/2011 1:41AM

  thanks for the much needed motivation

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DWILCZKO 2/26/2011 1:11AM

  :)

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ARLENE_MOVES 2/26/2011 12:06AM

    Boy, you hit me right over the head with your blog. I have loads of patience with everything but weight loss. I think I should be able to eat less on one day and by down 10 lbs the next. This made me cry and smile. Thanks

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JESS63085 2/25/2011 11:01PM

    Great blog! I have been on a plateau for the past 2 weeks and was feeling really negative. I need to develop this kind of patience. emoticon

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FITNESSGIRL1020 2/25/2011 10:03PM

    Great blog! I can relate to the patience thing!!

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BLOOMING52 2/25/2011 9:39PM

    Excellent! Thank you.

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LJBOZARTH 2/25/2011 8:58PM

    Ashley, I am so glad that your thought of giving up was a thought that was made for only 3 seconds so the actual contemplation was brief. You have a lot more will than you give yourself credit. Stick with it, as you can see from the replys and the likes that you truly are in a community of helpers offering words of encouragement and kind gestures. You will lose the weight that you want and you will only get stronger physically. It is the physical drive that will fuel your psyche and make you appreciate the well beeing that you have endulged in since you have made the healthy life style choices. You are not alone in your journey. Keep up the great work. emoticon

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COOKI3123 2/25/2011 8:33PM

    Oh my gosh, it I didn't know better I would have thought I wrote this article. Patience is definitely not my strong suit! This is an excellent article..thanks!

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MADDIE10281 2/25/2011 8:26PM

  Excellent blog, keep up the good work. Remember this is the best because it is for you

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HOTCHICA17 2/25/2011 7:12PM

    A great, inciteful blog. Many thanks.

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LISAKRISTY 2/25/2011 6:32PM

    Great blog...wow can I relate!
Congratulations on all your progress!

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NACHOSMAMA 2/25/2011 1:08PM

    I need to learn the same type of patience. Thank you for writing this blog.

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HLTHYETER 2/25/2011 11:52AM

    Excellent blog and very true. Whatever the difficulty, the improved lifestyle is worth whatever struggle it requires.

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LASARRE 2/25/2011 11:41AM

    So true and something we all should remember. Great blog!

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ILUVTOTAT 2/25/2011 10:25AM

    Exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you!

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PAULAGENE 2/25/2011 10:07AM

    Very nicely written and so true. I have been a dieter so to speak all my life. Nothing comes free and so I am with you trying each day to do my best and to realize this is not a quick fix.

Again thanks for this since I am just returning to SP. emoticon

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JAK106 2/25/2011 9:38AM

    I have been working on adopting the same positive outlook. Thank you for sharing this.

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CHRISSY1012 2/25/2011 1:02AM

    great blog, thanks for posting - perfect timing for me :)

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:39PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:38PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:36PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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TAMARA7567 2/24/2011 11:30PM

    I recognized very much what you said about the weight being a symptom of an underlying problem. For me, I have always struggled with low self-esteem and depression, and I truly think that is connected to my weight in a big way. I have finally begun to love my life and my body, and what do you know? The weight is coming off in a whole new way. It does take patience, and some creativity, and a flexibility that I am learning to embrace.

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SOSMEGOD 2/24/2011 10:42PM

    Thanks for the motivation. You remined me the slow and steady will win the race. Best of luck to you.

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Results of Me Day Shopping/Trip to Mechanic (Lots of pics)

Monday, February 21, 2011

So after my large declaration of me day on Saturday the fates decided to throw me a large curveball. Friday night when I left work my fiancÚ headed out to do some errands he needed to do and then we were going to go for shabu shabu in Chinatown at this new place we had heard about. As we were finishing the errands the car started doing this strange shaking, coughing thing so strongly that I almost had it towed instead of trying to get home. I got very upset because this car has had more problems than any vehicle ever has in the history of time. Seriously. We made it home and proceeded to have a huge fight about our finances mostly due to both being really stressed out about the car. We ended up talking it out and the night ended on a semi-decent note.
I had nightmares all night from the stress and the next more I called a mechanic that had many good reviews online about his honesty and pricing. He took me right away and it turned out to be a crack in my electrical coil so the car was misfiring. Because it was raining Friday night it caused the problem to be very noticeable, you know with water being such a good conductor, so it was arcing all over the place hence the coughing etc. It had cracked because the valve cover on my NEW ENGINE was faulty so it was leaking oil all over my coils. All in all 400 dollars and almost 4 hours later the car runs better than it has pretty much since I bought it. I had given up on the idea of me day but decided I still wanted to try to salvage some of it so I headed off to Target first.
Well I discovered something pretty awesome at Target. I HAVE SKINNY FEET NOW. I told my fiancÚ he is in trouble now because I LOVE SHOES and he laughed. I don't think he got that I am serious and will be going a little nuts in the months to come. Considering how little money I have spent on anything for myself over the last, oh 14 years, I feel I can make up for lost time. The first purchases I made funny enough were workout gear!

This is one of those moisture wicking shirts. Look how small it looks! The workout gear at Target is so cheap! I will be buying more here in the future, I am positive.

I have been in need of a sports bra. I shrunk out of my other one and i needed more than one anyway. This one is champion and fits so well. Another Target snag.


My first shoe purchase with my skinny feet. I put them on and figured they wouldn't fit because they never do and they slid right on! I actually had to buy a size down. I love the flowers and I can wear them to work considering what I do I can have more fashion forward items as opposed to conservative and boring. In the past I would have bought black because I buy everything in black. This time I got this really pretty ivory color with almost a gold shiny quality. I can't wait to wear them! I also picked up some fun springy makeup and other stuff because who can get out of Target without buying stuff you don't need?
This is when the day pretty much went downhill in terms of shopping. At the suggestion of some friends I went to TJ Maxx, Nordstrom's Rack and Kohl's. There is a reason I don't shop at these places and I was reminded as soon as I entered. The stores were packed and hot. This just isn't my style of shopping. There is no thrill in the hunt. I had started to write this blog that was a rant about how awful shopping is for plus size people. It doesn't seem right to me that 40% of the US population is fat but we get 4-10 racks in a store and average size people get 50 plus. The only thing I can think is overweight people just don't shop for pleasure so we aren't as profitable. Also, who designs plus size clothes because I don't know a single one of us that wants to look like an 85 year old golden girls reject but apparently the designers do because that is all they make for us. I left on the verge of tears ready to give up. After all this work I am still borderline plus size and it sucks to have zero options. I decided to try and give myself some perspective and I walked around the average section and looked for things I would buy if they did fit. I realized I may be just looking at the wrong stores because I didn't see anything.
Pier One was a bit of a bust too because they didn't have the pillows I wanted so I got this cool platter that was on clearance and headed home for the day. When I got home I had my first unconscious binge since I started SP. I am not going to tell you what I ate because it was embarrassing and mid-bite I stopped and threw it away. It was a big turning point for me because I realized that stress and anger are my food triggers. It was like I had blacked out. The anger over my car and the shopping set me off. I am proud I was able to see the cause and stop it.
Dinner that night was delicious. We cooked together and I made this delicious crab dish that he loved. Unfortunately he had a rough day at work and fell asleep around 9 but I don't get upset with him over it. He works so hard that it wouldn't be far for me to create drama over something like needing rest.
Sunday I decided to try again so I went to the mall. Everyone and their mother was out. I figured I would go check out Lane Bryant's sales and see what size I am now and go to Macy's and Old Navy. Well they closed the LB! I was pretty mad. Now where am I going to buy anything until I am officially not plus size. GRRRRR. This is why I shop on the internet. Macy's was a nightmare. That store used to be nice. Now it is as bad as TJ Maxx. It was a mess, the dressing room was so filthy I didn't want to change and they had 10 racks of clothes for plus size. All of it was matronly. I left feeling defeated again and headed to Old Navy.
Thank god for Old Navy. Yes, the quality is pretty low but I am not looking for investment pieces. I am looking for reasonably cute and cheap. I realized here I have dropped another size! Yeah! I found some really cute pieces here and was able to salvage the whole miserable experience. As I stood in the dressing room I had an epiphany. I can rail against social standards and be angry that we are discriminated against for being fat OR I can keep doing what I am doing and change FOR ME. Yes, it sucks there are no clothes for PS people but I don't want to be plus size anymore and this body is just a transition. I will earn those average size cute clothes and this weekend gave me the fire to keep at this. Blaming clothing manufacturers for my misery is an excuse. What I am really angry about is my size and I have the power to change that and I am changing it.
Here are my ON clothes.

I bought this in a 16. It is one of my short term goals. To fit back into a 16. A size I can buy in almost any standard store. It is much cuter in person.

This shirt is SUPER sexy. I love how it fits on me and it will need something underneath but great for going out. As I am finding my style I am realizing I want sexy but not skanky for personal time and girly and feminine for my work life. I haven't ever got to choose my style before and I am still deciding what that is for me and it is a bit overwhelming but also fun to discover.


I got this for work. It is classic and flirty and feminine and I was very pleased how it looks on me. Having blue eyes blue shirts look good one me. This was an item I wouldn't have bought before because it would have been to attention grabbing for me. I am tired of being dowdy and in all black. I want to be cute!

This shirt looks awesome on me too. The pic doesn't do it justice but it will look awesome with a pencil skirt and heels when it gets warmer. The white is a good color against my pale skin, not too stark white.

I love cardigans, not sure why, but this one has this satin ribbon that I loved. I did end up getting black because I didn't like any of the other colors. I am wearing it today and love it.


I got some bright flip flops which make me happy as I hate to wear shoes in the summer and here are my uber-sexy snakeskin shoes I bought a few months back. They fit me ever better now. They are hot.
This weekend taught me a lot about myself. First, my healthy life is such a big part of who I am now. The first items I picked out where fitness related and I was excited about them. That says a lot. Second, I stopped my first serious binge and was able to redirect my emotions. Never have been able to do that before. Third, on Sunday instead of seeking out food which is what I always did after a bad shopping trip I went to gym and did ST and ran. Then I had a healthy dinner. I am going to be a healthy weight and size because I want it. The fire inside me is there because I keep giving it oxygen. Every time the world tries to slap me down I keep fighting. Yes, it is hard but it is worth it. I am worth it.

  
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BETHIE_BOO 3/16/2011 9:01AM

    1. We need a fashion show of all these outfits! 2. I totally feel the same way about plus size clothing. Whenever I go shopping, I want to scream "I'm FAT, not OLD! There *IS* a difference!"

Also I'm a tightwad and why are fat lady clothes MORE? I mean I get they use more fabric but it's like adding insult to injury. Glad you found some things that you like, thought!

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OUTDOORMAMA3 3/15/2011 8:27PM

    awesome blog & ever so true :) Best of luck to keep on keepin on with your weight loss :)

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SNUGGLY4U 3/15/2011 6:56PM

    OMG! I simply LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE the flowery ivory shoes!!!!! So cute!!!!!

Blogs like this make me so happy and excited! Thanks for sharing!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 3/15/2011 5:13PM

    Very cute stuff.... Looks like you had a great shopping trip

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MARIE_S 3/14/2011 12:03PM

    i totally sympathize. You go girl!

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ANELAKANOA 3/13/2011 2:48PM

  omg we totally have the same style! I would take all of those things in a heartbeat! I love the shoes with the flowers on! So cute!

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NELLEGRRL 3/13/2011 11:48AM

    I'm glad you bought that polka dot shirt, I was in ON last weekend and it made me sad that there was no way I could fit into the XXL of that shirt, because I loved it. (I don't usually bother going into ON). so.. yeah! I'm happy to know another sparker is wearing it!! :)

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DESERTFLOWERG 3/12/2011 9:06PM

    Wow! I am not much of a shopper. One hour is about the maximum I can stand to shop. I do love your choices.

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NEWJEWELS4LIFE 3/7/2011 12:11PM

    Love the blue tank from ON, I keep looking at that one whenever I stop in the store. Just not ready to buy my summer clothes yet. That skirt is cute too. This blog makes me want to go shopping!! The part where you said you get to choose your style is where I am. I realized it last week or two weeks ago and I got excited. It has been over 10 years that I got to have a style. I just wore what I felt the least hideous in. There are so many perks to getting healthy and shrinking.

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GROOVER4 3/6/2011 5:24AM

    I also I can't stand the cheap materials they're using in the 'fashion' plus size clothing stores. I'm in Australia so it maybe different here but any of the younger plus size stores use thin cottons / cheap satins so that they are sagging and stretching on the hanger and you end up looking slovenly not fashionable. Sigh. But you are also correct in your observation that it isn't any use getting angry at the manufacturers. The path to a wider range of clothing is in loosing the kilos.

Huge congrats on stopping the emotional eating before it spiraled. It's a testament to how much tougher you've become mentally.

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HJMALCOLM 3/6/2011 12:55AM

    Seriously, I love EVERYTHING that you bought! Especially the shoes and the blue tank top with polka dots. So cute! I am super super excited about getting some new clothes. I am in between sizes right now and most of my clothes don't fit in a flattering way because they are too big but I'm trying to hold out on shopping for new stuff until I get closer to my goal weight! Target is one store that I really miss. I moved to Canada last year and they don't have any here yet, but they are supposed to be putting in some stores soon. I love Target!

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JAC329 2/28/2011 6:47PM

  Isn't it a great feeling!! I have gone down a few sizes myself. I can't wait to wear heels again..someday. I don't know if it is because I'm heavy, but it bothers my to wear them. I hope someday, I can wear them again!! You should be so very proud of yourself..FANTASTIC job! Great clothes too!!

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SHELLYBEL01 2/27/2011 7:57AM

  I love the shoes lol I have become addicted to cute shoes they are the one thing i can buy that makes u just feel good lol

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LEEDOUGH 2/27/2011 6:30AM

    I love the word "skanky" I can't wait to dress skanky not in a tent lol good luck in your way down I have lost 42 pounds and all I have bought is 1 bra I am waiting to get into a 20...

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WENDYKAT 2/26/2011 9:19PM

    I bought those ivory colored sandals a month ago at Target and I cannot wait til spring to wear them. All the other stuff you bought is so cute. I know exactly how you feel about shopping for clothes. They are just not a lot of stylish clothes in the ps. I am now able to wear the XL's in the regular section and it's a wonderful feeling to be able to wear something cute. I enjoy reading your blogs. Thanks for taking the time to write them.

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UHYEAHABOUTTHAT 2/25/2011 8:22PM

    Holy cute shoes, lady!! Love them!!
I think Target is the best place for everything. Their workout clothes are awesome...their shoes...the makeup...clothes, clearance, everything is the best. :) I love all your choices. Hot Mama!!
Sorry about the car. :(

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FITBARB2 2/25/2011 12:08PM

    Love all your sexy new clothes.... Your lucky being in the US.. so many more options for clothes.... I always warn my hubby , that when I get slimmer, watch out.... you think I am bad now lol.
New pretty clothes always make us feel great, so glad your looking after yourself, you have worked soo darn hard. emoticon

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HOTMAMA241 2/25/2011 12:08AM

    I am excited for you, i am buying those shoes from target also

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AGENTNER 2/24/2011 4:43PM

    I love the first pair of ivory sandals and the black and polka dot shirt! SO FREAKING CUTE!!! way to go! keep it up and we will both be wearing awesome clothes!!! woot woot!

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SM-ARTGIRL 2/23/2011 7:18PM

    I love this blog, I love your learning experiences and how you analyse and think experiences through.
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Love the photo's too.

I don't shop online, but I get really pissed with dowdy, matronly options for gorgeous curvy, plus-sized bodies in the chain stores. I love local designer, boutique shops and they practically have NO designs for plus 12!

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GIRANIMAL 2/23/2011 4:53PM

    Target is dangerous! All your new clothes are cute, but I love the black skirt. Super hot!

I believe you about the unfortunate selection for PS wearers, but I am so impressed with your ability to recognize the portion that is our favorite defense, excuses, and OWN it! You really are something special, girl.

Sorry about the car, but I'm glad it didn't totally ruin your day and seems to be better now.

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OJIBWEEQUAY 2/23/2011 9:51AM

    I love the polka dot number! Might have to be Single Brown Female and get the same one!!!!!!! You rock!

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KATHLOW 2/23/2011 4:51AM

    I LOVE the polka dot shirt! And i love cardigans too - i just bought a bright red one yesterday. i'm sure that it's the first bright red anything I ever owned.

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NOPLACESPECIAL 2/23/2011 1:33AM

    i hear you SO HARD on the shopping rant!! i had a mall trip a few years ago that nearly sent me into a mental breakdown just realizing how much it sucks to be overweight and still want to look cute. i was at the size youre at now - ive been hovering there for quite some time. and i found that what sucked the most was that there were stores for pluz-size girls, and there were stores for skinny girls, but there werent any stores for girls who were simply OVERWEIGHT - not slender, but not obese. i still remember that day, it was just this overwhelming sadness, and wondering where the hell did i fit in? and like you said, even what little clothing they had for obese women was terrible, like it was purposely designed as some sort of punishment.

of course, i 'solved' my problem back then by getting cookies. ive come far from those days!

thanks for the tip on target - i dont shop there regularly, but im in desperate need of a new sports bra.

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 2/22/2011 10:38PM

    wonderful splurge!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 2/22/2011 9:59PM

    Sorry about the car but nothing a little retail therapy won't fix! ;) Sexy clothes senorita skinny feet!

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BAYBELIEVER 2/22/2011 7:49PM

    "The fire inside me is there because I keep giving it oxygen. Every time the world tries to slap me down I keep fighting."
How cool! I love that vision that you keep feeding the new you with oxygen to keep those fires burning! Look at all that oxygen you got at Old Navy! Love the clothes! Thanks for sharing. You are right, ON gives you the chance to be you but without major $$ investment!


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PHEFEY 2/22/2011 1:37PM

    awesome! i go immediately to the fitness clothes in stores too, or I pick out clothes I could workout in if there are no fitness clothes. I had to get new pants for work because none of mine fit and it killed me that I couldn't get new yoga pants.

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EMMYKATE616 2/22/2011 10:11AM

    was just at ON yesterday, and i love that polka dot shirt!

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WEDDLEACE 2/22/2011 10:01AM

    Great blog. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad the weekend could bring so many insights for you. Keep up the great work!!

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CONTESSA63 2/22/2011 5:21AM

  those shoes are FANTASTIC! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 2/21/2011 11:15PM

    I love those flower sandals! Gorgeous!! And the polka dot top and the white one too. You have some beautiful things to wear for weeks to come!
Glad you got your car problems sorted out. I've just invested $900 in my Jeep - new radiator and a new muffler and tailpipe. Cars are such money pits! But living in a rural area with no public transport having no vehicle is not an option.


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TERRYT55 2/21/2011 10:28PM

    I love all of the clothes you bought! They are so cute. I really like the shoes from Target.
I wish I had the guys to wear sleeveless tops! I have the saggiest arms on the planet but I'm working on them. Congrats on a successful shopping trip.

I can't wait to see a picture or two of you modeling the clothes.

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SARAHNICOLE__17 2/21/2011 5:29PM

    I love Champion sports bras! I'm wearing a charcoal one right now. I also have a hot pink one. I got them as a set of two at Costco. The blue top with the polka dots is my favourite!!!! Its super cute. I'd wear that with a black pencil skirt in a heart beat.

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LOUFANJESSICA 2/21/2011 5:20PM

    Preventing a binge is a HUGE deal and stopping before it got bad shows you are making so much progress. Good for you!!!! And I love seeing your shopping photos because i LOVE to shop lol Old Navy is good if you dont want to spend a whole lot of money but still look cute and omg i could spend forever in Target!!!
Keep up the awesome work!

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SHERRYJVP 2/21/2011 4:03PM

    what a lot of fun to get new pretty things. Another way to think about shopping is "it is always frustrating for EVERYONE". No matter your size. they don't have it. Or the price is beyond. the crowds effect us all.

I wish I had the nerve to wear the really cute things. I am not evena plus size. I just feel old.

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GODZYFAN 2/21/2011 3:16PM

    It's great when shopping becomes a positive experience instead of a negative one. I used to HATE it because I always felt bad about myself whenever I shopped for clothes. It's slowly getting better. Hope your car situation works out though. It sucks worrying about money, I know. But enjoy your new stuff!! emoticon emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/21/2011 3:13PM

    Oh Ashley, you sure it home with this one.

We do have a LB however, the Macy's near me has now decided to no longer carry the PS clothes. I guess it takes up to much valuable floor space.

Most of the clothes I find in the PS's are big huge gaudy prints or big bold stripes going across. My Mom Is 85 and wears this kind of clothing. I used to wonder why she wore such ugly clothes, now I know. There's not much available out there for Plus Size Women.

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TRIP2HAPPINESS 2/21/2011 3:08PM

    The pocka* dot shirt and white shirt are SUUUUPER cute! Can't wait to see pics of your wearing them! Sounds like a up/down kind of weekend but it sounds like you ended on a great note. Keep it up Ash, you are definitely worth it! :))

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SKINNYPOWELL1 2/21/2011 2:57PM

    WOW, lots of great stuff !!!! emoticon

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GIANTMICROBE 2/21/2011 2:51PM

    I had my eye on that black drapey scoopneck top at Old Navy, but it occurred to me I already have 4 shirts like that... I'm sure you know, as I do, that when we tall girls find something long enough, we better stock up!

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RONIREDD 2/21/2011 2:45PM

    Love your purchases. And, I have a serious shoe fetish!!!!

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ROCKMAN6797 2/21/2011 2:45PM

    Wow, that was a weekend full of activities. I think the best thing of the whole weekend was being able to deal with a stressful moment is a healthy way! You definitely have turned a corner and are ready to move full speed ahead. Congratulations Ashley!

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HAPPYCUPCAKE 2/21/2011 2:38PM

    Don't worry, I have the same issues in the SAME stores. The Target dressing room gave me a mental breakdown and I starting bawling because I was so horrified at what I saw in the mirror. And none of the clothes I wanted fit me :/ I decided I'm not going back there for a while. Kohl's is a hit or miss for me, and I noticed Macy's was quite cluttered, disorganized, and had filthy dressing rooms and bathrooms (I've tried going to several). I found some really cute things at Old Navy that fit...they definitely have great options!

Congrats on finding those really cute shoes and clothes. I really like that blue polka dot shirt. I'm glad you had that epiphany about either getting mad and being miserable or working hard like you've been doing and CHANGING. We can do this, it's just going to take some bumps in the roads, failures, and getting back up and trying again. Never give up! :)

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MARATHONBOUND 2/21/2011 2:37PM

    Sorry about your car, but I guess at least it's running better right? And cute choice of clothes! I love Old Navy! I LOVE the skirt! I want to buy some skirts or dresses at some point, but I get nervous that I won't be able to pull it off..we'll see! I'm in the same boat as far as skinny feet! It's awesome! I used to be a 10-11 wide, and now I'm a 9-10 regular..I love it!! I'm happy to hear at least you were able to salvage some of the weekend. Have a great week! emoticon

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NANHBH 2/21/2011 2:17PM

    Ash,

It makes me happy to read how happy and centered you sound in this blog! Keep up the good work. You are such an inspiration to so many people!
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MAMADWARF 2/21/2011 1:58PM

    awesome blog! loved the shirts especially the polka dot! Love it love it....

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WILLIAMV3 2/21/2011 1:54PM

    Cute purchases. Glad you rallied and ended your weekend on a high note.

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CARILOUIE 2/21/2011 1:53PM

    I love love love polka dots! I bought a super cute polka dot cover for my iPhone - I just love it.
And I have more cardigans than I know what to do with... It's just so easy to throw them on! And I agree with the Coldwater Creek comment - I used to think it was all dowdy and stuff (my mom likes the stuff in there) but I have found some really cute stuff that, if you pair it with the right stuff, looks very fun.

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DEEDEE1102 2/21/2011 1:35PM

    You are worth it! Overall you had a great weekend. The clothes (and skinny shoes) were nice, but I am most impressed with the halting of the binge. I hope I can be as strong! emoticon

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Doing Things For Me Day

Friday, February 18, 2011

Tomorrow my fiancÚ has offered to cover a shift for a buddy of his at work so I am on my own until the evening. All week I have been thinking about what to do since this is normally pretty much the only day I see him at all. That is when it hit me that I should be taking this time FOR ME. How often do I spend my time alone doing things for the house or planning a surprise for him or something else that isn't about me. I dream of things I would do but don't do them. I don't make time for me, then I get resentful.
Well, tomorrow is officially doing things for ME Day. Starting at 8 AM tomorrow I am going to do all the stuff I like to do that I never have time for or make excuses that I shouldn't do because of time or money. After getting myself a delicious breakfast sandwich and a huge coffee I am going to go to clothes shopping. Not just rush and hope stuff fits kind of shopping but multi-store leisurely browsing. Yes, I am buying anything that fits and makes me feel hot. I never buy clothes because I convince myself I don't need them. Then I stand in my closet in my underwear every morning lamenting my lack of a wardrobe. After I am heading to Target and Pier One Imports to peruse the spring home goods and dream about warmer times. Not be rushed through the store going, "Is that all we need, Is that it, can we go?" Then off to the gym for a run and a great workout.

When my fiancÚ gets home we are going to have a romantic dinner and focus on us time. I am really looking forward to all of this. My old self never did things for me and never put myself first. I was raised to believe I should never buy nice things or enjoy money. All of my mother's side takes frugal to new levels. I just call it cheap lol but I love them anyway. There is nothing wrong with taking care of myself and do things for myself that make me feel good. When I meet a client and I look really good it gives me confidence. With the spring is coming a new me as well. Bring it on.

  
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PHEFEY 2/21/2011 10:07AM

    Have fun!

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ERIN4771 2/21/2011 8:26AM

    ohhhh...love "me "days...although i tend to have more than i should emoticon....it's important to take time for yourself ash....besides, how awesome do you feel trying on new clothes, drinking a huge coffee and generally feeling good about yourself?! go with it and enjoy!! emoticon

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VITASANA 2/20/2011 6:31PM

    That sounds great! "Me Days" are great and there is nothing wrong with being good to yourself. I hope you had a wonderul day!! emoticon

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DIVA14K 2/19/2011 10:12PM

    I love having me days! That sounds like a great day and your going to 2 of my favorite stores Target and Pier 1. Enjoy you! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 2/19/2011 11:42AM

    How did the shopping trip go? I'll bet the dinner was fantastic!
W00t! for ME DAYS!!

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KATHLOW 2/19/2011 6:13AM

    I hope your day is great!

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ABB698 2/19/2011 3:16AM

    Have a great weekend!!

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REM-CYCLES 2/19/2011 12:24AM

    Fantastic - hope your day is awesome - you deserve it!

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JO2TOM 2/18/2011 5:25PM

    Good for you. I usually do the same thing...All the necessary stuff, but not for me. I like the idea, and am going for it on my next day off without Tom there.

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CARILOUIE 2/18/2011 5:24PM

    I love this day! Hope you had a great one!

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CHANGINGMORGAN 2/18/2011 5:13PM

    I can't wait to hear how it goes!

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WILLIAMV3 2/18/2011 5:11PM

    Yay you! Enjoy your time! I hope you finds lots of great buys.

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COOKWITHME65 2/18/2011 4:46PM

    Have a great day Ashley. Be sure to post some pics of what you get.

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KELCEE75 2/18/2011 4:21PM

    Wow, I totally relate to this blog...from the never having 'Me' time (not cleaning!) to the 'cheap' mother. Thanks for the idea! And have tons of fun tomorrow!! :)

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NANHBH 2/18/2011 3:39PM

    I think I'll take some "me" timetomorrow, too! My favorite clothes store sent me a "We miss you" coupon for $15 off a $50 purchase this weekend only. How can I pass that up?

Enjoy your "me" day!
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ALCONSTANT 2/18/2011 3:30PM

    Enjoy your day!!

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EMSJOURNEY 2/18/2011 3:19PM

    oh ashley... that sounds like such a nice day! to go shopping for clothing without my 6 year old whining the whole time about being bored would be bliss! have a great time and post new clothing pics!! =)

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LESLIES537 2/18/2011 3:17PM

    GOOD FOR YOU! Enjoy your day, you deserve it!!! emoticon

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THEWINNER33 2/18/2011 2:35PM

    Enjoy your ME day. I would love some me time. Since I retired in 2007 DH and I are together pretty much 24/7. Love him but would love to have some me time.

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SPOOKYTHECAT 2/18/2011 2:21PM

    Target and Pier One Imports are two of my favorites that I Never get to go to~! Enjoy your "ME" day, you deserve to have new things!

Hope you find just the right things!! :) emoticon

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CHICAT63 2/18/2011 2:12PM

    Have a great ME day tomorrow ! We too often forget....

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KINSBAILE 2/18/2011 2:10PM

    We ALL need that time, enjoy your day! You deserve it!!!! emoticon

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CARMINACG 2/18/2011 1:54PM

    I hope you have an awesome You Day! I treat my Sat mornings like that, I get up make my favorite Oatmeal, hit my yoga class, and treat myself to a Lg Chai Latte afterwards before I head on with whats on my hit list for the weekend. :)

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SALSACHIC 2/18/2011 1:52PM

    I like the idea of an all me day! You are right, even in a great relationship you must have me time. Enjoy shopping for your HAWT clothes!

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AMOHAME2 2/18/2011 1:49PM

    Awesome, have a great YOU day, Ashley!! You deserve it!

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DSTAR79 2/18/2011 1:47PM

    emoticon WE ALL NEED BALANCE !!!!! ALONE TIME IS A VERY IMPORTANT KEY IN HAPPINESS AND KEEPING OUR SANITY

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KARENZIO 2/18/2011 1:40PM

    Sounds like it's going to be a great day. Have fun!

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SEESTARS 2/18/2011 1:17PM

    I hope you find lots of great clothes tomorrow. You deserve to take this time for yourself. Enjoy!

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PLSOCK 2/18/2011 1:08PM

    That sounds like a fantastic idea. Especially the clothes shopping for "hot" clothes. You're a beautiful woman, and deserve to feel that way :) Enjoy your day.

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XTMONT 2/18/2011 1:04PM

    Sounds like a wonderful day! Any room in there for a mani/pedi?

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TAMARAC2 2/18/2011 1:02PM

    Way to go! Enjoy YOUR day!

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/18/2011 12:59PM

    I Like It! Good For You! Having Me time is very important.
Enjoy! emoticon

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STEPHANIE0982 2/18/2011 12:46PM

    Sounds like a great weekend planned!! have fun with it!

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SHONNAATCH 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    Sounds like a fabulous way to spend a day! Enjoy!!!

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MARATHONBOUND 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    You are amazing and I am so happy to hear you are going to do things for yourself! I hope you have a nice, relaxing time..and a great run! I am running tomorrow too! Woot! Have an awesome weekend Ashley! emoticon emoticon

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R0SYJ3WL 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    Enjoy your 'ME' day, Ashley! You deserve it! emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 2/18/2011 12:43PM

    Good for you!
You have worked so hard to create the new you, you might as well enjoy the new you! Besides everything you do for yourself will only enhance how you treat others (especially your BF). Enjoy your ME day and hope you find some great things!

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NANABABY5 2/18/2011 12:42PM

    Sounds like a wonderful day and evening; enjoy yourself !

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GRACEISENUF 2/18/2011 12:41PM

    Good for you! I was raised the same way but have broken that cycle, lol!

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