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Weight loss is teaching me patience

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

If I could choose one of my worst qualities it would be my lack of patience. Not just a little lack. I can't go clothes shopping with other people because when they get indecisive it sends me off the deep end. You like or you don't. What is the big debate about? I am extremely decisive. I can tell you in 3 seconds if I like something or not and then I am moving on.
One thing that healthy weight loss is not is fast or easy. When I started on SP I quickly lost 30 lbs in the first 2 months and I fooled myself into thinking this was going to be a pretty painless process. WRONG. Throw in work busy season, my grandmother losing her fight with cancer, and a never ending plateau and in the past, I would have given up. As the numbers slowed and slowed and slowed I would have used it as an excuse to quit. This time is different.
While it is frustrating to work hard and not see the results you want on the scale I am at peace with this. How did that happen? It is all in the approach. When it is described as a healthy lifestyle that is a good description because it means I am not eating foods for their caloric value but eating them for what they do to my body. That in and of itself is a huge change for me. To be eating foods that are giving my body fuel and taste good is pretty awesome. I feel better than I did at 22 now that I am 33. I am appreciating fitness for the changes in my body not just as weight maintenance or a social activity.
Yes, there are times where I am angry the weight isn't coming off the way I feel it should. Have I contemplated giving up? Oh for about 3 seconds and then I always come back to this. No matter how slow this process is, it is better to keep fighting and keep trying than to go back to being morbidly obese and miserable. There is not one benefit to my old lifestyle but at least now I am making my heart and body healthy as I keep fighting. I think of my fat as a symptom. A symptom of an underlying problem I had and each day as I face down that problem I am melting it away. Even if it is a few ounces at a time. This may take me 2 years instead of 1 but I am going to do this and I am going to stay this way for the rest of my life.

  
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EATINGRIGHT2010 3/2/2011 2:54PM

    I totally agree. Losing weight is about being patient because it is a very slow process and getting back on the wagon whenever you fall off.

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BIKINIMAMA11 3/1/2011 3:55PM

    You really have your priorities right....it is so easy to hit a slow down and give up. Looking at this as a process of living with healthy habits will pay off, even if it takes a little longer. Good news is...supposedley the slower approach to loosing pounds (lifestyle change) is the secret to keeping the extra weight off for good. Thanks for reminding me of that!

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CHELLENCHEEZ 3/1/2011 9:18AM

    I'm going through the same thing right now with the scale not budging, but exercising daily and eating right has made a big difference. Who cares what the scale says if you're feeling better and your clothes fit? It's hard to be patient, but just think---one day you and I will both get on the scale and it will have moved 30 pounds seemingly over night! Keep it up!!

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CATWOOMAN 3/1/2011 1:18AM

    Very nicely written. You have inspired me to not get frustrated... this is a lifestyle change. We can do it.
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CHAR1970 2/28/2011 12:46AM

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JOIE501 2/27/2011 9:54PM

    I, too, wish it would melt off! :P but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Your hard work is paying off! Keep up the good work!

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BLEGNER1 2/27/2011 6:34PM

    I pray for patience all the time, because I want and I want it now. So you can see that I need to hear what you said. I will try to be more patient.

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KDYLOSE 2/27/2011 12:16PM

    I've had the exact same experience - first two months losing steadily, then hitting a plateau. I've been there since late December. It's so frustrating, and yet what's the alternative? Gain the weight back? I think not!

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RITAROSE 2/27/2011 7:48AM

  When my weight started coming off in the beginning I , too thought it would be a quick fix, but alas, life happens and metabolism slows, there's the rub! I think it's been the greatest time of my life as I've totally adopted an active lifestyle at age 52, (now I'm almost 54) and I have more strength and a positive attitude to match.
Food choices are more of a challenge. Emotional eating is under control sometimes, but then the holidays kick it into full gear or some catastrophic event comes along to give it a boost giving me challenge after challenge, but I'm up for it. The healthy lifestyle is so rewarding!! You are a gem and very bright for your 33 years! WTG! Keep up the good fight!!

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HOWLERMOM 2/27/2011 12:38AM

    Thanks for this --I've been stuck for about 3 weeks now and it is making me cranky, feeling blue, yada yada. Much appreciated reminder!!

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KAY_CEE224 2/26/2011 11:24PM

  Well said! Thanks for my daily dose of motivation emoticon

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GETBACK2GOOD 2/26/2011 9:15PM

    Excellent! I culd have written this myself :) I feel exactly how you do!!!

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SONORANARIZONAN 2/26/2011 6:55PM

    That's the thing about patience. You don't "exercise your patience muscles" (as we say in this house), if everything is smooth sailing and easy. It comes when you have to wait, and have to wait a lot for a long time.

Good blog. :)

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ALICIAT32 2/26/2011 6:21PM

    i know what you mean

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WEEZYB7881 2/26/2011 6:17PM

    For me, one of the best things about not losing weight is that one day, i'm going to be at maintenance and so it will be important for me to be okay with how I eat. no scale to reward or terrorize me, but simply the knowledge that i'm eating clean and in a way that feeds my body.

thanks for the reminder

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KATENICOLE84 2/26/2011 5:40PM

    I think one of the hardest things about weight loss is having the patience to keep it going!

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SALEX52 2/26/2011 3:01PM

    Ah patience. Yes, it alludes me, too. Thanks for encouraging me to step up and accept it that this is a life long change, not a quick fix.

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MELISSAT123 2/26/2011 1:34PM

    You and I, my dear, are a lot alike! I laughed at the very beginning of your blog because I swore you had a spycam on me when I go out shopping with friends.



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MARYS1928 2/26/2011 12:46PM

    This is the time I'm going to have patience. I've decided one pound a week is enough even those it's going to take a long time. emoticon

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SLIMTHICK2 2/26/2011 12:17PM

    Very inspiring. emoticon

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IMIN2GENES 2/26/2011 11:58AM

    Awesome blog! I can really identify with you. You've just reinforced to me that I've made a good choice in joining SP.

Thanks for sharing!
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JADEKELLY2010 2/26/2011 11:53AM

    We sound a lot alike. I am also bad with patience. At first, it was hard for me to realize that it's harder to take the weight off than it is to put it on. When I don't see quick results, I tend to quit. SP has taught me to hang in there. You're doing great!

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ROJAKHAN 2/26/2011 10:40AM

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MFABER3 2/26/2011 10:07AM

    Awesome blog. Patience is hard.

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DEBLYNN323 2/26/2011 9:04AM

    emoticon...great blog!

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MOMMYOMG 2/26/2011 8:06AM

    I feel your pain with the patience...I don't have any either. But you would HATE me because I am so indecisive. I question every decision I make and I hate it but I do. I am the girl that stands in front of the mirror for 10 minutes trying to decide if I like the outfit. I probably leave the store and think about it some more before I go back to buy it. Pitiful I know -- but how do fix something like that? Your blog was very inspirational. My weight has been up and down for the past 15 years. Luckily, I am working with 20 to 30 pounds max so I don't feel out of control. But, it would be great to KEEP those 20 pounds off. Just started my Spark journey last week but I am so enjoying all of the motivation here--thanks for yours!!!

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TERRIELYNN61 2/26/2011 2:32AM

    Thank you for sharing some of your journey of living a healthier lifestyle. This has given me inspiration. emoticon

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SARAHCOLLINS75 2/26/2011 1:41AM

  thanks for the much needed motivation

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DWILCZKO 2/26/2011 1:11AM

  :)

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ARLENE_MOVES 2/26/2011 12:06AM

    Boy, you hit me right over the head with your blog. I have loads of patience with everything but weight loss. I think I should be able to eat less on one day and by down 10 lbs the next. This made me cry and smile. Thanks

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JESS63085 2/25/2011 11:01PM

    Great blog! I have been on a plateau for the past 2 weeks and was feeling really negative. I need to develop this kind of patience. emoticon

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FITNESSGIRL1020 2/25/2011 10:03PM

    Great blog! I can relate to the patience thing!!

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BLOOMING52 2/25/2011 9:39PM

    Excellent! Thank you.

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LJBOZARTH 2/25/2011 8:58PM

    Ashley, I am so glad that your thought of giving up was a thought that was made for only 3 seconds so the actual contemplation was brief. You have a lot more will than you give yourself credit. Stick with it, as you can see from the replys and the likes that you truly are in a community of helpers offering words of encouragement and kind gestures. You will lose the weight that you want and you will only get stronger physically. It is the physical drive that will fuel your psyche and make you appreciate the well beeing that you have endulged in since you have made the healthy life style choices. You are not alone in your journey. Keep up the great work. emoticon

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COOKI3123 2/25/2011 8:33PM

    Oh my gosh, it I didn't know better I would have thought I wrote this article. Patience is definitely not my strong suit! This is an excellent article..thanks!

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MADDIE10281 2/25/2011 8:26PM

  Excellent blog, keep up the good work. Remember this is the best because it is for you

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HOTCHICA17 2/25/2011 7:12PM

    A great, inciteful blog. Many thanks.

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LISAKRISTY 2/25/2011 6:32PM

    Great blog...wow can I relate!
Congratulations on all your progress!

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NACHOSMAMA 2/25/2011 1:08PM

    I need to learn the same type of patience. Thank you for writing this blog.

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HLTHYETER 2/25/2011 11:52AM

    Excellent blog and very true. Whatever the difficulty, the improved lifestyle is worth whatever struggle it requires.

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LASARRE 2/25/2011 11:41AM

    So true and something we all should remember. Great blog!

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ILUVTOTAT 2/25/2011 10:25AM

    Exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you!

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PAULAGENE 2/25/2011 10:07AM

    Very nicely written and so true. I have been a dieter so to speak all my life. Nothing comes free and so I am with you trying each day to do my best and to realize this is not a quick fix.

Again thanks for this since I am just returning to SP. emoticon

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JAK106 2/25/2011 9:38AM

    I have been working on adopting the same positive outlook. Thank you for sharing this.

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CHRISSY1012 2/25/2011 1:02AM

    great blog, thanks for posting - perfect timing for me :)

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:39PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:38PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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EGR2BEME 2/24/2011 11:36PM

    Wow, that is such a great blog with lots in insight. I want to keep coming back to this too. The only worry for me is the times when I get off track, and we are only human and it will happen, it can be difficult to get back. Once the sugar hits my system, it can be an upward climb that is daunting.

I am so grateful for what I have learned because it is my reality base that pulls me back.

I wish you continued success and keep up the fight! It is SO worthwhile! emoticon

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TAMARA7567 2/24/2011 11:30PM

    I recognized very much what you said about the weight being a symptom of an underlying problem. For me, I have always struggled with low self-esteem and depression, and I truly think that is connected to my weight in a big way. I have finally begun to love my life and my body, and what do you know? The weight is coming off in a whole new way. It does take patience, and some creativity, and a flexibility that I am learning to embrace.

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SOSMEGOD 2/24/2011 10:42PM

    Thanks for the motivation. You remined me the slow and steady will win the race. Best of luck to you.

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Results of Me Day Shopping/Trip to Mechanic (Lots of pics)

Monday, February 21, 2011

So after my large declaration of me day on Saturday the fates decided to throw me a large curveball. Friday night when I left work my fiancé headed out to do some errands he needed to do and then we were going to go for shabu shabu in Chinatown at this new place we had heard about. As we were finishing the errands the car started doing this strange shaking, coughing thing so strongly that I almost had it towed instead of trying to get home. I got very upset because this car has had more problems than any vehicle ever has in the history of time. Seriously. We made it home and proceeded to have a huge fight about our finances mostly due to both being really stressed out about the car. We ended up talking it out and the night ended on a semi-decent note.
I had nightmares all night from the stress and the next more I called a mechanic that had many good reviews online about his honesty and pricing. He took me right away and it turned out to be a crack in my electrical coil so the car was misfiring. Because it was raining Friday night it caused the problem to be very noticeable, you know with water being such a good conductor, so it was arcing all over the place hence the coughing etc. It had cracked because the valve cover on my NEW ENGINE was faulty so it was leaking oil all over my coils. All in all 400 dollars and almost 4 hours later the car runs better than it has pretty much since I bought it. I had given up on the idea of me day but decided I still wanted to try to salvage some of it so I headed off to Target first.
Well I discovered something pretty awesome at Target. I HAVE SKINNY FEET NOW. I told my fiancé he is in trouble now because I LOVE SHOES and he laughed. I don't think he got that I am serious and will be going a little nuts in the months to come. Considering how little money I have spent on anything for myself over the last, oh 14 years, I feel I can make up for lost time. The first purchases I made funny enough were workout gear!

This is one of those moisture wicking shirts. Look how small it looks! The workout gear at Target is so cheap! I will be buying more here in the future, I am positive.

I have been in need of a sports bra. I shrunk out of my other one and i needed more than one anyway. This one is champion and fits so well. Another Target snag.


My first shoe purchase with my skinny feet. I put them on and figured they wouldn't fit because they never do and they slid right on! I actually had to buy a size down. I love the flowers and I can wear them to work considering what I do I can have more fashion forward items as opposed to conservative and boring. In the past I would have bought black because I buy everything in black. This time I got this really pretty ivory color with almost a gold shiny quality. I can't wait to wear them! I also picked up some fun springy makeup and other stuff because who can get out of Target without buying stuff you don't need?
This is when the day pretty much went downhill in terms of shopping. At the suggestion of some friends I went to TJ Maxx, Nordstrom's Rack and Kohl's. There is a reason I don't shop at these places and I was reminded as soon as I entered. The stores were packed and hot. This just isn't my style of shopping. There is no thrill in the hunt. I had started to write this blog that was a rant about how awful shopping is for plus size people. It doesn't seem right to me that 40% of the US population is fat but we get 4-10 racks in a store and average size people get 50 plus. The only thing I can think is overweight people just don't shop for pleasure so we aren't as profitable. Also, who designs plus size clothes because I don't know a single one of us that wants to look like an 85 year old golden girls reject but apparently the designers do because that is all they make for us. I left on the verge of tears ready to give up. After all this work I am still borderline plus size and it sucks to have zero options. I decided to try and give myself some perspective and I walked around the average section and looked for things I would buy if they did fit. I realized I may be just looking at the wrong stores because I didn't see anything.
Pier One was a bit of a bust too because they didn't have the pillows I wanted so I got this cool platter that was on clearance and headed home for the day. When I got home I had my first unconscious binge since I started SP. I am not going to tell you what I ate because it was embarrassing and mid-bite I stopped and threw it away. It was a big turning point for me because I realized that stress and anger are my food triggers. It was like I had blacked out. The anger over my car and the shopping set me off. I am proud I was able to see the cause and stop it.
Dinner that night was delicious. We cooked together and I made this delicious crab dish that he loved. Unfortunately he had a rough day at work and fell asleep around 9 but I don't get upset with him over it. He works so hard that it wouldn't be far for me to create drama over something like needing rest.
Sunday I decided to try again so I went to the mall. Everyone and their mother was out. I figured I would go check out Lane Bryant's sales and see what size I am now and go to Macy's and Old Navy. Well they closed the LB! I was pretty mad. Now where am I going to buy anything until I am officially not plus size. GRRRRR. This is why I shop on the internet. Macy's was a nightmare. That store used to be nice. Now it is as bad as TJ Maxx. It was a mess, the dressing room was so filthy I didn't want to change and they had 10 racks of clothes for plus size. All of it was matronly. I left feeling defeated again and headed to Old Navy.
Thank god for Old Navy. Yes, the quality is pretty low but I am not looking for investment pieces. I am looking for reasonably cute and cheap. I realized here I have dropped another size! Yeah! I found some really cute pieces here and was able to salvage the whole miserable experience. As I stood in the dressing room I had an epiphany. I can rail against social standards and be angry that we are discriminated against for being fat OR I can keep doing what I am doing and change FOR ME. Yes, it sucks there are no clothes for PS people but I don't want to be plus size anymore and this body is just a transition. I will earn those average size cute clothes and this weekend gave me the fire to keep at this. Blaming clothing manufacturers for my misery is an excuse. What I am really angry about is my size and I have the power to change that and I am changing it.
Here are my ON clothes.

I bought this in a 16. It is one of my short term goals. To fit back into a 16. A size I can buy in almost any standard store. It is much cuter in person.

This shirt is SUPER sexy. I love how it fits on me and it will need something underneath but great for going out. As I am finding my style I am realizing I want sexy but not skanky for personal time and girly and feminine for my work life. I haven't ever got to choose my style before and I am still deciding what that is for me and it is a bit overwhelming but also fun to discover.


I got this for work. It is classic and flirty and feminine and I was very pleased how it looks on me. Having blue eyes blue shirts look good one me. This was an item I wouldn't have bought before because it would have been to attention grabbing for me. I am tired of being dowdy and in all black. I want to be cute!

This shirt looks awesome on me too. The pic doesn't do it justice but it will look awesome with a pencil skirt and heels when it gets warmer. The white is a good color against my pale skin, not too stark white.

I love cardigans, not sure why, but this one has this satin ribbon that I loved. I did end up getting black because I didn't like any of the other colors. I am wearing it today and love it.


I got some bright flip flops which make me happy as I hate to wear shoes in the summer and here are my uber-sexy snakeskin shoes I bought a few months back. They fit me ever better now. They are hot.
This weekend taught me a lot about myself. First, my healthy life is such a big part of who I am now. The first items I picked out where fitness related and I was excited about them. That says a lot. Second, I stopped my first serious binge and was able to redirect my emotions. Never have been able to do that before. Third, on Sunday instead of seeking out food which is what I always did after a bad shopping trip I went to gym and did ST and ran. Then I had a healthy dinner. I am going to be a healthy weight and size because I want it. The fire inside me is there because I keep giving it oxygen. Every time the world tries to slap me down I keep fighting. Yes, it is hard but it is worth it. I am worth it.

  
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BETHIE_BOO 3/16/2011 9:01AM

    1. We need a fashion show of all these outfits! 2. I totally feel the same way about plus size clothing. Whenever I go shopping, I want to scream "I'm FAT, not OLD! There *IS* a difference!"

Also I'm a tightwad and why are fat lady clothes MORE? I mean I get they use more fabric but it's like adding insult to injury. Glad you found some things that you like, thought!

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OUTDOORMAMA3 3/15/2011 8:27PM

    awesome blog & ever so true :) Best of luck to keep on keepin on with your weight loss :)

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SNUGGLY4U 3/15/2011 6:56PM

    OMG! I simply LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE the flowery ivory shoes!!!!! So cute!!!!!

Blogs like this make me so happy and excited! Thanks for sharing!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 3/15/2011 5:13PM

    Very cute stuff.... Looks like you had a great shopping trip

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MARIE_S 3/14/2011 12:03PM

    i totally sympathize. You go girl!

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ANELAKANOA 3/13/2011 2:48PM

  omg we totally have the same style! I would take all of those things in a heartbeat! I love the shoes with the flowers on! So cute!

Angie

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NELLEGRRL 3/13/2011 11:48AM

    I'm glad you bought that polka dot shirt, I was in ON last weekend and it made me sad that there was no way I could fit into the XXL of that shirt, because I loved it. (I don't usually bother going into ON). so.. yeah! I'm happy to know another sparker is wearing it!! :)

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DESERTFLOWERG 3/12/2011 9:06PM

    Wow! I am not much of a shopper. One hour is about the maximum I can stand to shop. I do love your choices.

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NEWJEWELS4LIFE 3/7/2011 12:11PM

    Love the blue tank from ON, I keep looking at that one whenever I stop in the store. Just not ready to buy my summer clothes yet. That skirt is cute too. This blog makes me want to go shopping!! The part where you said you get to choose your style is where I am. I realized it last week or two weeks ago and I got excited. It has been over 10 years that I got to have a style. I just wore what I felt the least hideous in. There are so many perks to getting healthy and shrinking.

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GROOVER4 3/6/2011 5:24AM

    I also I can't stand the cheap materials they're using in the 'fashion' plus size clothing stores. I'm in Australia so it maybe different here but any of the younger plus size stores use thin cottons / cheap satins so that they are sagging and stretching on the hanger and you end up looking slovenly not fashionable. Sigh. But you are also correct in your observation that it isn't any use getting angry at the manufacturers. The path to a wider range of clothing is in loosing the kilos.

Huge congrats on stopping the emotional eating before it spiraled. It's a testament to how much tougher you've become mentally.

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HJMALCOLM 3/6/2011 12:55AM

    Seriously, I love EVERYTHING that you bought! Especially the shoes and the blue tank top with polka dots. So cute! I am super super excited about getting some new clothes. I am in between sizes right now and most of my clothes don't fit in a flattering way because they are too big but I'm trying to hold out on shopping for new stuff until I get closer to my goal weight! Target is one store that I really miss. I moved to Canada last year and they don't have any here yet, but they are supposed to be putting in some stores soon. I love Target!

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JAC329 2/28/2011 6:47PM

  Isn't it a great feeling!! I have gone down a few sizes myself. I can't wait to wear heels again..someday. I don't know if it is because I'm heavy, but it bothers my to wear them. I hope someday, I can wear them again!! You should be so very proud of yourself..FANTASTIC job! Great clothes too!!

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SHELLYBEL01 2/27/2011 7:57AM

  I love the shoes lol I have become addicted to cute shoes they are the one thing i can buy that makes u just feel good lol

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LEEDOUGH 2/27/2011 6:30AM

    I love the word "skanky" I can't wait to dress skanky not in a tent lol good luck in your way down I have lost 42 pounds and all I have bought is 1 bra I am waiting to get into a 20...

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WENDYKAT 2/26/2011 9:19PM

    I bought those ivory colored sandals a month ago at Target and I cannot wait til spring to wear them. All the other stuff you bought is so cute. I know exactly how you feel about shopping for clothes. They are just not a lot of stylish clothes in the ps. I am now able to wear the XL's in the regular section and it's a wonderful feeling to be able to wear something cute. I enjoy reading your blogs. Thanks for taking the time to write them.

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UHYEAHABOUTTHAT 2/25/2011 8:22PM

    Holy cute shoes, lady!! Love them!!
I think Target is the best place for everything. Their workout clothes are awesome...their shoes...the makeup...clothes, clearance, everything is the best. :) I love all your choices. Hot Mama!!
Sorry about the car. :(

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FITBARB2 2/25/2011 12:08PM

    Love all your sexy new clothes.... Your lucky being in the US.. so many more options for clothes.... I always warn my hubby , that when I get slimmer, watch out.... you think I am bad now lol.
New pretty clothes always make us feel great, so glad your looking after yourself, you have worked soo darn hard. emoticon

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HOTMAMA241 2/25/2011 12:08AM

    I am excited for you, i am buying those shoes from target also

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AGENTNER 2/24/2011 4:43PM

    I love the first pair of ivory sandals and the black and polka dot shirt! SO FREAKING CUTE!!! way to go! keep it up and we will both be wearing awesome clothes!!! woot woot!

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SM-ARTGIRL 2/23/2011 7:18PM

    I love this blog, I love your learning experiences and how you analyse and think experiences through.
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Love the photo's too.

I don't shop online, but I get really pissed with dowdy, matronly options for gorgeous curvy, plus-sized bodies in the chain stores. I love local designer, boutique shops and they practically have NO designs for plus 12!

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GIRANIMAL 2/23/2011 4:53PM

    Target is dangerous! All your new clothes are cute, but I love the black skirt. Super hot!

I believe you about the unfortunate selection for PS wearers, but I am so impressed with your ability to recognize the portion that is our favorite defense, excuses, and OWN it! You really are something special, girl.

Sorry about the car, but I'm glad it didn't totally ruin your day and seems to be better now.

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OJIBWEEQUAY 2/23/2011 9:51AM

    I love the polka dot number! Might have to be Single Brown Female and get the same one!!!!!!! You rock!

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KATHLOW 2/23/2011 4:51AM

    I LOVE the polka dot shirt! And i love cardigans too - i just bought a bright red one yesterday. i'm sure that it's the first bright red anything I ever owned.

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NOPLACESPECIAL 2/23/2011 1:33AM

    i hear you SO HARD on the shopping rant!! i had a mall trip a few years ago that nearly sent me into a mental breakdown just realizing how much it sucks to be overweight and still want to look cute. i was at the size youre at now - ive been hovering there for quite some time. and i found that what sucked the most was that there were stores for pluz-size girls, and there were stores for skinny girls, but there werent any stores for girls who were simply OVERWEIGHT - not slender, but not obese. i still remember that day, it was just this overwhelming sadness, and wondering where the hell did i fit in? and like you said, even what little clothing they had for obese women was terrible, like it was purposely designed as some sort of punishment.

of course, i 'solved' my problem back then by getting cookies. ive come far from those days!

thanks for the tip on target - i dont shop there regularly, but im in desperate need of a new sports bra.

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 2/22/2011 10:38PM

    wonderful splurge!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 2/22/2011 9:59PM

    Sorry about the car but nothing a little retail therapy won't fix! ;) Sexy clothes senorita skinny feet!

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BAYBELIEVER 2/22/2011 7:49PM

    "The fire inside me is there because I keep giving it oxygen. Every time the world tries to slap me down I keep fighting."
How cool! I love that vision that you keep feeding the new you with oxygen to keep those fires burning! Look at all that oxygen you got at Old Navy! Love the clothes! Thanks for sharing. You are right, ON gives you the chance to be you but without major $$ investment!


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PHEFEY 2/22/2011 1:37PM

    awesome! i go immediately to the fitness clothes in stores too, or I pick out clothes I could workout in if there are no fitness clothes. I had to get new pants for work because none of mine fit and it killed me that I couldn't get new yoga pants.

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EMMYKATE616 2/22/2011 10:11AM

    was just at ON yesterday, and i love that polka dot shirt!

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WEDDLEACE 2/22/2011 10:01AM

    Great blog. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad the weekend could bring so many insights for you. Keep up the great work!!

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CONTESSA63 2/22/2011 5:21AM

  those shoes are FANTASTIC! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 2/21/2011 11:15PM

    I love those flower sandals! Gorgeous!! And the polka dot top and the white one too. You have some beautiful things to wear for weeks to come!
Glad you got your car problems sorted out. I've just invested $900 in my Jeep - new radiator and a new muffler and tailpipe. Cars are such money pits! But living in a rural area with no public transport having no vehicle is not an option.


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TERRYT55 2/21/2011 10:28PM

    I love all of the clothes you bought! They are so cute. I really like the shoes from Target.
I wish I had the guys to wear sleeveless tops! I have the saggiest arms on the planet but I'm working on them. Congrats on a successful shopping trip.

I can't wait to see a picture or two of you modeling the clothes.

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SARAHNICOLE__17 2/21/2011 5:29PM

    I love Champion sports bras! I'm wearing a charcoal one right now. I also have a hot pink one. I got them as a set of two at Costco. The blue top with the polka dots is my favourite!!!! Its super cute. I'd wear that with a black pencil skirt in a heart beat.

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LOUFANJESSICA 2/21/2011 5:20PM

    Preventing a binge is a HUGE deal and stopping before it got bad shows you are making so much progress. Good for you!!!! And I love seeing your shopping photos because i LOVE to shop lol Old Navy is good if you dont want to spend a whole lot of money but still look cute and omg i could spend forever in Target!!!
Keep up the awesome work!

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SHERRYJVP 2/21/2011 4:03PM

    what a lot of fun to get new pretty things. Another way to think about shopping is "it is always frustrating for EVERYONE". No matter your size. they don't have it. Or the price is beyond. the crowds effect us all.

I wish I had the nerve to wear the really cute things. I am not evena plus size. I just feel old.

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GODZYFAN 2/21/2011 3:16PM

    It's great when shopping becomes a positive experience instead of a negative one. I used to HATE it because I always felt bad about myself whenever I shopped for clothes. It's slowly getting better. Hope your car situation works out though. It sucks worrying about money, I know. But enjoy your new stuff!! emoticon emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/21/2011 3:13PM

    Oh Ashley, you sure it home with this one.

We do have a LB however, the Macy's near me has now decided to no longer carry the PS clothes. I guess it takes up to much valuable floor space.

Most of the clothes I find in the PS's are big huge gaudy prints or big bold stripes going across. My Mom Is 85 and wears this kind of clothing. I used to wonder why she wore such ugly clothes, now I know. There's not much available out there for Plus Size Women.

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TRIP2HAPPINESS 2/21/2011 3:08PM

    The pocka* dot shirt and white shirt are SUUUUPER cute! Can't wait to see pics of your wearing them! Sounds like a up/down kind of weekend but it sounds like you ended on a great note. Keep it up Ash, you are definitely worth it! :))

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SKINNYPOWELL1 2/21/2011 2:57PM

    WOW, lots of great stuff !!!! emoticon

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GIANTMICROBE 2/21/2011 2:51PM

    I had my eye on that black drapey scoopneck top at Old Navy, but it occurred to me I already have 4 shirts like that... I'm sure you know, as I do, that when we tall girls find something long enough, we better stock up!

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RONIREDD 2/21/2011 2:45PM

    Love your purchases. And, I have a serious shoe fetish!!!!

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ROCKMAN6797 2/21/2011 2:45PM

    Wow, that was a weekend full of activities. I think the best thing of the whole weekend was being able to deal with a stressful moment is a healthy way! You definitely have turned a corner and are ready to move full speed ahead. Congratulations Ashley!

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HAPPYCUPCAKE 2/21/2011 2:38PM

    Don't worry, I have the same issues in the SAME stores. The Target dressing room gave me a mental breakdown and I starting bawling because I was so horrified at what I saw in the mirror. And none of the clothes I wanted fit me :/ I decided I'm not going back there for a while. Kohl's is a hit or miss for me, and I noticed Macy's was quite cluttered, disorganized, and had filthy dressing rooms and bathrooms (I've tried going to several). I found some really cute things at Old Navy that fit...they definitely have great options!

Congrats on finding those really cute shoes and clothes. I really like that blue polka dot shirt. I'm glad you had that epiphany about either getting mad and being miserable or working hard like you've been doing and CHANGING. We can do this, it's just going to take some bumps in the roads, failures, and getting back up and trying again. Never give up! :)

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MARATHONBOUND 2/21/2011 2:37PM

    Sorry about your car, but I guess at least it's running better right? And cute choice of clothes! I love Old Navy! I LOVE the skirt! I want to buy some skirts or dresses at some point, but I get nervous that I won't be able to pull it off..we'll see! I'm in the same boat as far as skinny feet! It's awesome! I used to be a 10-11 wide, and now I'm a 9-10 regular..I love it!! I'm happy to hear at least you were able to salvage some of the weekend. Have a great week! emoticon

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NANHBH 2/21/2011 2:17PM

    Ash,

It makes me happy to read how happy and centered you sound in this blog! Keep up the good work. You are such an inspiration to so many people!
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MAMADWARF 2/21/2011 1:58PM

    awesome blog! loved the shirts especially the polka dot! Love it love it....

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WILLIAMV3 2/21/2011 1:54PM

    Cute purchases. Glad you rallied and ended your weekend on a high note.

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CARILOUIE 2/21/2011 1:53PM

    I love love love polka dots! I bought a super cute polka dot cover for my iPhone - I just love it.
And I have more cardigans than I know what to do with... It's just so easy to throw them on! And I agree with the Coldwater Creek comment - I used to think it was all dowdy and stuff (my mom likes the stuff in there) but I have found some really cute stuff that, if you pair it with the right stuff, looks very fun.

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DEEDEE1102 2/21/2011 1:35PM

    You are worth it! Overall you had a great weekend. The clothes (and skinny shoes) were nice, but I am most impressed with the halting of the binge. I hope I can be as strong! emoticon

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Doing Things For Me Day

Friday, February 18, 2011

Tomorrow my fiancé has offered to cover a shift for a buddy of his at work so I am on my own until the evening. All week I have been thinking about what to do since this is normally pretty much the only day I see him at all. That is when it hit me that I should be taking this time FOR ME. How often do I spend my time alone doing things for the house or planning a surprise for him or something else that isn't about me. I dream of things I would do but don't do them. I don't make time for me, then I get resentful.
Well, tomorrow is officially doing things for ME Day. Starting at 8 AM tomorrow I am going to do all the stuff I like to do that I never have time for or make excuses that I shouldn't do because of time or money. After getting myself a delicious breakfast sandwich and a huge coffee I am going to go to clothes shopping. Not just rush and hope stuff fits kind of shopping but multi-store leisurely browsing. Yes, I am buying anything that fits and makes me feel hot. I never buy clothes because I convince myself I don't need them. Then I stand in my closet in my underwear every morning lamenting my lack of a wardrobe. After I am heading to Target and Pier One Imports to peruse the spring home goods and dream about warmer times. Not be rushed through the store going, "Is that all we need, Is that it, can we go?" Then off to the gym for a run and a great workout.

When my fiancé gets home we are going to have a romantic dinner and focus on us time. I am really looking forward to all of this. My old self never did things for me and never put myself first. I was raised to believe I should never buy nice things or enjoy money. All of my mother's side takes frugal to new levels. I just call it cheap lol but I love them anyway. There is nothing wrong with taking care of myself and do things for myself that make me feel good. When I meet a client and I look really good it gives me confidence. With the spring is coming a new me as well. Bring it on.

  
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PHEFEY 2/21/2011 10:07AM

    Have fun!

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ERIN4771 2/21/2011 8:26AM

    ohhhh...love "me "days...although i tend to have more than i should emoticon....it's important to take time for yourself ash....besides, how awesome do you feel trying on new clothes, drinking a huge coffee and generally feeling good about yourself?! go with it and enjoy!! emoticon

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VITASANA 2/20/2011 6:31PM

    That sounds great! "Me Days" are great and there is nothing wrong with being good to yourself. I hope you had a wonderul day!! emoticon

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DIVA14K 2/19/2011 10:12PM

    I love having me days! That sounds like a great day and your going to 2 of my favorite stores Target and Pier 1. Enjoy you! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 2/19/2011 11:42AM

    How did the shopping trip go? I'll bet the dinner was fantastic!
W00t! for ME DAYS!!

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KATHLOW 2/19/2011 6:13AM

    I hope your day is great!

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ABB698 2/19/2011 3:16AM

    Have a great weekend!!

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REM-CYCLES 2/19/2011 12:24AM

    Fantastic - hope your day is awesome - you deserve it!

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JO2TOM 2/18/2011 5:25PM

    Good for you. I usually do the same thing...All the necessary stuff, but not for me. I like the idea, and am going for it on my next day off without Tom there.

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CARILOUIE 2/18/2011 5:24PM

    I love this day! Hope you had a great one!

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SASSYDREAMER 2/18/2011 5:13PM

    I can't wait to hear how it goes!

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WILLIAMV3 2/18/2011 5:11PM

    Yay you! Enjoy your time! I hope you finds lots of great buys.

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COOKWITHME65 2/18/2011 4:46PM

    Have a great day Ashley. Be sure to post some pics of what you get.

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KELCEE75 2/18/2011 4:21PM

    Wow, I totally relate to this blog...from the never having 'Me' time (not cleaning!) to the 'cheap' mother. Thanks for the idea! And have tons of fun tomorrow!! :)

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NANHBH 2/18/2011 3:39PM

    I think I'll take some "me" timetomorrow, too! My favorite clothes store sent me a "We miss you" coupon for $15 off a $50 purchase this weekend only. How can I pass that up?

Enjoy your "me" day!
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ALCONSTANT 2/18/2011 3:30PM

    Enjoy your day!!

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EMSJOURNEY 2/18/2011 3:19PM

    oh ashley... that sounds like such a nice day! to go shopping for clothing without my 6 year old whining the whole time about being bored would be bliss! have a great time and post new clothing pics!! =)

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LESLIES537 2/18/2011 3:17PM

    GOOD FOR YOU! Enjoy your day, you deserve it!!! emoticon

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THEWINNER33 2/18/2011 2:35PM

    Enjoy your ME day. I would love some me time. Since I retired in 2007 DH and I are together pretty much 24/7. Love him but would love to have some me time.

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SPOOKYTHECAT 2/18/2011 2:21PM

    Target and Pier One Imports are two of my favorites that I Never get to go to~! Enjoy your "ME" day, you deserve to have new things!

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CHICAT63 2/18/2011 2:12PM

    Have a great ME day tomorrow ! We too often forget....

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KINSBAILE 2/18/2011 2:10PM

    We ALL need that time, enjoy your day! You deserve it!!!! emoticon

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CARMINACG 2/18/2011 1:54PM

    I hope you have an awesome You Day! I treat my Sat mornings like that, I get up make my favorite Oatmeal, hit my yoga class, and treat myself to a Lg Chai Latte afterwards before I head on with whats on my hit list for the weekend. :)

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SALSACHIC 2/18/2011 1:52PM

    I like the idea of an all me day! You are right, even in a great relationship you must have me time. Enjoy shopping for your HAWT clothes!

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AMOHAME2 2/18/2011 1:49PM

    Awesome, have a great YOU day, Ashley!! You deserve it!

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DSTAR79 2/18/2011 1:47PM

    emoticon WE ALL NEED BALANCE !!!!! ALONE TIME IS A VERY IMPORTANT KEY IN HAPPINESS AND KEEPING OUR SANITY

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KARENZIO 2/18/2011 1:40PM

    Sounds like it's going to be a great day. Have fun!

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SEESTARS 2/18/2011 1:17PM

    I hope you find lots of great clothes tomorrow. You deserve to take this time for yourself. Enjoy!

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PLSOCK 2/18/2011 1:08PM

    That sounds like a fantastic idea. Especially the clothes shopping for "hot" clothes. You're a beautiful woman, and deserve to feel that way :) Enjoy your day.

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XTMONT 2/18/2011 1:04PM

    Sounds like a wonderful day! Any room in there for a mani/pedi?

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TAMARAC2 2/18/2011 1:02PM

    Way to go! Enjoy YOUR day!

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/18/2011 12:59PM

    I Like It! Good For You! Having Me time is very important.
Enjoy! emoticon

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STEPHANIE0982 2/18/2011 12:46PM

    Sounds like a great weekend planned!! have fun with it!

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SHONNAATCH 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    Sounds like a fabulous way to spend a day! Enjoy!!!

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MARATHONBOUND 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    You are amazing and I am so happy to hear you are going to do things for yourself! I hope you have a nice, relaxing time..and a great run! I am running tomorrow too! Woot! Have an awesome weekend Ashley! emoticon emoticon

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R0SYJ3WL 2/18/2011 12:45PM

    Enjoy your 'ME' day, Ashley! You deserve it! emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 2/18/2011 12:43PM

    Good for you!
You have worked so hard to create the new you, you might as well enjoy the new you! Besides everything you do for yourself will only enhance how you treat others (especially your BF). Enjoy your ME day and hope you find some great things!

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NANABABY5 2/18/2011 12:42PM

    Sounds like a wonderful day and evening; enjoy yourself !

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GRACEISENUF 2/18/2011 12:41PM

    Good for you! I was raised the same way but have broken that cycle, lol!

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Sparkpeople didn't save my life

Thursday, February 17, 2011

They gave me something better. They gave me the tools to save my own life and that is much more valuable. We all the know the give a man a fish he eats for a day but teach a man to fish he eats for a lifetime. That is what this is all about. No quick fixes, no pills and magic potions. Changing my life was not easy. In fact it is one of the hardest things I ever did for myself BUT it is the most worthwhile thing I have ever done as well.
I see lots of people remark how hard all of this is. Duh, nobody said it would be easy. However, living a healthy life is possible. The answers are right here in front of you. Yes, you have to look up articles and read them and decided how it applies to your life. You have to actively implement the information you acquire. No amount of graphs and motivation posters will effect change unless you actually go out and move more and eat healthy foods.
Beyond information the support and community on here is to me the golden ticket that helped me truly stick with this. There have been several hard times for me along this road. When I didn't know if I had the strength to keep going. The scale being stuck, personal tragedy, work stress. So many excuses that I could have easily used to justify candy to myself but it was my friends on here that kept me coming back. The endless support. The never say die. I think it is rare that people in real life truly understand what we are going through but on here there is always someone who "gets it". It makes the world seem a little less empty and lonely.
I don't know where I would be today if it wasn't for SP but I am glad I never have to find out :). Thank you to all of my friends for your amazing support day in and day out. You guys are rockstars. emoticon

  
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AWEBBER3 3/9/2011 8:56AM

    So True!! I love reading your blogs, they are very motivating!!

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OASTRAEO 2/28/2011 8:01AM

    Great analogy with the fishing thing. Nice post, thanks for sharing!

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KAYTIE22 2/26/2011 6:44PM

    This is so true. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and continued success with the program.

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DFROMTX 2/26/2011 12:05PM

    Great blog! I agree with everything you said. emoticon

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IMATTER2GOD 2/26/2011 10:15AM

    You are absolutely right! emoticon. Wish I would have stuck to it 3 years ago whenever I first found it!

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LNPHAP 2/26/2011 5:33AM

    Great Blog!! This is so true!! I've only been with SP for 1 month, but it's definitely been a great month!! Looking forward to what comes ahead.. emoticon

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AMBOZARTH 2/25/2011 8:55PM

    Great blog! You're right. It is hard, but we've got to do it and I'm so thankful to have the motivation and support that I've found on Sparkpeople to help me.

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LUCKEGIRL40 2/24/2011 11:29PM

    Very true. It's funny how a simple website can change your life.

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SUITABLE 2/24/2011 1:13AM

    Thank you for sharing. I agree!

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DWILCZKO 2/24/2011 12:19AM

  :)

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NELLBELLA26 2/23/2011 11:59PM

    So very true. Even though I think I am done learning and I have acquired all the answers, I still have to remind myself to implement them on a daily basis. Eating healthy and getting in my daily fitness can be extremely tough when I am busy or I am stressed out, but I still have to do it because like you said, there is no easy way out. Only hard work will prove results.

Thanks for this blog. really seemed to hit home with me today.
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ME40ME 2/23/2011 10:19PM

    you are right and thanks for sharing...SP has impacted me as well! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ANDEENNATE 2/23/2011 9:34PM

    Thanks, this was awesome!

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REDEYEMOM 2/23/2011 9:21PM

    Well said.

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GIRANIMAL 2/23/2011 5:23PM

    Anytime! And thanks right back at ya. You too are a rock star, Ashley!

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RUNNER4LIFE08 2/23/2011 4:08PM

    emoticon blog! Very well written and so true.

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DOWNTOWNJEN 2/23/2011 1:18PM

    You are so right! And thanks right back for being a continuous source of inspiration and friendship. Like you, the community makes all the difference for me.

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Lovin' the new pic too!

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ANDRAYAYA 2/23/2011 10:58AM

    Thank you for sharing! Very encouraging. emoticon

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BGENDER 2/23/2011 8:45AM

    I love your post. I've been on here a few years and your post is so true.

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TINKER292 2/23/2011 8:12AM

    What a great post.

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JANICEONE1 2/23/2011 7:11AM

  thank you, you give me hope

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GRAMPIAN 2/23/2011 6:21AM

  Your positive attitude is an inspiration. emoticon

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TROJAN1960 2/23/2011 4:18AM

  How true, I am only 4 days in but feel the same. I might add if anyone is finding it hard going, being so early in my journey the hell of feeling useless, and how I`ve been feeling these last two years has not been easy and I know which I would pick. emoticon So come on anyone feeling down just try to remember how unhappy and unhealthy can make you feel and then move on to your goal. emoticon

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Great Post!

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KHELMAN 2/22/2011 10:47PM

    emoticon emoticonyou always have such a good outlook on life Thank you so much for sharing

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RUNANDRUN 2/22/2011 9:55PM

  Good read and good insight.

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NIKKIG3 2/22/2011 9:31PM

    So true. Great post!!!

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KAZ814 2/22/2011 9:06PM

    Great points!

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    Back at ya! Great post. emoticon

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    great post! emoticon

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MOMMYOMG 2/22/2011 3:52PM

    I'm so new to this and yes I admit the thought did cross my mind that this is a little hard and confusing....but I am slowly getting the hang of things and I'm loving it so far. Awesome post! ;o)

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DOGSHOETAT 2/22/2011 3:22PM

    Great post!

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LAWOMAN2 2/22/2011 2:56PM

    Great Reminder!! We DO have to do it ourselves!

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JLEMUS1 2/22/2011 12:30PM

    Yep we are...Just Kidding..thanks.. so true though.. emoticon

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SAX_88 2/22/2011 12:18PM

    Wonderful scribe!

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BLOOMING52 2/22/2011 11:31AM

    Congratulations.

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JENNSIN24 2/22/2011 11:21AM

    Thanks for sharing, it really does help me to know that others are having the same thoughts and feelings that I am!

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TIREDOFME21 2/22/2011 10:54AM

    I agree totally!

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CAROLINEAT50 2/22/2011 10:20AM

    Great post. Thanks for sharing some ideas/thoughts that benefit us all--regardless of where we are on the journey!

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LAURIE-RN 2/22/2011 8:42AM

    Well put! Congratulations on your success!

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"Ask your sister, she's the nutrition expert"

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

This is one of the single best compliments I have received since joining SP. My whole family is pretty into health and fitness at this point and my mom, who if you haven't read in my past blogs lost a hundred pounds 7 years ago and is a trainer now, is generally the family guru. Last night my brother called her to ask a question about his breakfast and how she felt about it and she stopped and said "Adam, you know what, your sister is really the person to call. She is the nutrition expert." Apparently she feels I have surpassed her knowledge at this point.
Now I am not pretending to have a certification or something like that but I have a significant medical background and I have spent a lot of time researching nutrition and even took Grad courses in nutrition for fun. Even with all that I have never considered myself to have above average food knowledge and I was beaming ear to ear when she was telling me the story. It told her how good it made me feel that she felt that way and she said "Ash, seriously, nobody can rattle off the stats of foods the way you do to me."
For someone who is my role model to pay me that kind of compliment meant more than I can even express. Days like today I wake up and feel a bit bad about myself and my progress because it is slower than I would like and I have to keep reminding myself that I am not "trying" to live healthy anymore. I AM LIVING HEALTHY. There is no perfect and it is ok that my progress is slow because I must be doing something right if the people around me are looking up to me for information. It makes all this hard work worth it if I can help the people I care about live healthy too.

  
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MADEMCHE 3/2/2011 4:51PM

    You are awesome! What a great compliment!

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LESKASH 2/27/2011 12:26PM

    This is great. a awesome testament to the amount of time you have spent to better yourself.

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    Awesome

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    That really is a fantastic compliment! Congratulations!

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FARFROMASAINT 2/25/2011 1:06AM

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REDLACED 2/24/2011 9:08PM

    great to hear!

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CNIANE 2/24/2011 7:34AM

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STIPER23 2/22/2011 5:51PM

    How awesome! I bet that was THE BEST compliment!

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NURSEJEANNIE 2/22/2011 2:22AM

  Words of encouragement that won't be forgotten... you will treasure THAT one forever!

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TERRYT55 2/20/2011 3:13PM

    How cool is it that you mom gave you such a wonderful compliment. You must have walked on a cloud for days!

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MAIA2011 2/19/2011 11:47AM

    Why does MAMADWARF want to learn about hard green bananas?

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I love that your mom acknowledged you that way!

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ROCKMAN6797 2/18/2011 12:54PM

    What an awesome feeling for you!
It is so important to bear in mind that this is not a race but rather a lifestyle, and, change will take place!

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/17/2011 8:44PM

    Yay! It's really good when family starts to listen.

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BRWNNTWN 2/17/2011 5:10PM

    OK - so which is better for your boddy - fake low cal margarine or a small, reasonable amount of butter. I am voting for butter.

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WEDDLEACE 2/17/2011 11:11AM

    emoticon I'm glad this comment from your mom can provide encouragement for you!! It's definitely motivation for me...maybe on day my family will say this about me :-)

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GRACEISENUF 2/17/2011 10:59AM

    You can lead by example cuz you know what you are doing!
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MSILVER94 2/17/2011 10:40AM

    Aww that was one of those moments! Congrats!

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ERIN4771 2/17/2011 7:28AM

    SWEET!!! that has to make you feel good about where you are and where you are going!!! keep it up!!

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KATHLOW 2/17/2011 4:28AM

    a compliment from someone you love! the best kind there is...

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MAMADWARF 2/17/2011 12:46AM

    damn girl, you are the bomb. can you give me any stats on hard green banana's????

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 2/16/2011 9:29PM

    Good for you!

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COLD_GOLD 2/16/2011 7:44PM

    wow! that is so sweet! But, you definitely earned the compliment! Way to be a role model to your family!

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REM-CYCLES 2/16/2011 7:24PM

    You rock, you did this day by day -- and by your living example!

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JESSIEJUICE 2/16/2011 5:58PM

    wooo! go guru!

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NUTS4NUTELLA 2/16/2011 5:35PM

    emoticon HOORAAAAY emoticon
That's awesome girly!

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MAGGIENCALI 2/16/2011 5:32PM

    That is so cool. What a great feeling!

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SASSACAIA 2/16/2011 4:33PM

    That had to just make you glow! What a compliment!! emoticon emoticon

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HANNAH_CALM 2/16/2011 4:12PM

    Good for you! That's very encouraging, I'm glad your family is noticing how bright you are!!!
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WILLIAMV3 2/16/2011 3:48PM

    That is quite a compliment! emoticon

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BADASSBLONDIE 2/16/2011 3:01PM

    What a f*cking awesome non-scale victory!!!!!!!

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SHERRYJVP 2/16/2011 3:00PM

    I would feel so honored too. So many people are quick to call the sharing of knowledge "preaching" great that the whole family is into fitness and healthy lifestyle. what fun it must be to get together and play instead of sit around like old people.

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RIGBY31 2/16/2011 2:31PM

    They went to you because you keep your food/eating plan real. I love your blogs because they are real life, not fluffy, rainbows, twinkle dust. Yes, by golly, you're the go-to gal!

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CHICAT63 2/16/2011 2:22PM

    What a great compliment indeed, way to go !

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DUSTYGIRL25 2/16/2011 2:02PM

    emoticon Keep up the great job!

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MNGIRLIE 2/16/2011 1:56PM

    This is great! What a wonderful compliment!

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NANHBH 2/16/2011 1:48PM

    You GO, Girlfriend! What a great compliment from Mom!

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PIXIECN 2/16/2011 12:14PM

  emoticon How nice!!

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CALIKIKI 2/16/2011 12:05PM

    What a nice compliment!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 2/16/2011 11:26AM

    Feel Good Stuff!
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COOKWITHME65 2/16/2011 11:02AM

    What a nice thing to say and so true. Your amazing.

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XTMONT 2/16/2011 10:59AM

    What a compliment!

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DEEDEE1102 2/16/2011 10:57AM

    Now I know who to come to with a question! At this point I am just using the nutirtion tracker and making sure everything balances at the end of the day, but my knowledge of nutrition is very low! Congrats on your mom noticing this great thing about you!

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SHELLEY147 2/16/2011 10:56AM

    What a wonderful compliment!! Enjoy it my friend...you are awesome!!

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MEANT2BCURVY 2/16/2011 10:49AM

    Fantastic compliment!!!

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YOUNEVERFAIL 2/16/2011 10:39AM

    What an amazing accomplishment. Remember its slow and steady that wins the race. emoticon

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WORTHEYMOM 2/16/2011 10:39AM

    I can just imagine what a wonderful feeling that is! Congrats!

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