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Wait, I am on a diet and I am not hungry? How is that possible...

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

I think one of the old ideas of dieting is that you are supposed to be miserable. Otherwise jokes like "It is die with a T" wouldn't exist and people wouldn't moan relentlessly about it. Yes, I know you are thinking "it isn't a diet it is a lifestyle change" and it is however what you eat is technically by definition your diet. The more that I learn about making the healthy choices the more I am realizing that portions are what they are for a reason. For example, when you put food on your plate it is supposed to be divided into 3 sections. Split it down in the middle and then divide one of the halves again. The large portion should be veggies and the 2 smaller portions should be high quality carbs and the other protein. I have found that when I follow this for meals I am never hungry. As I was laying in bed last night thinking "wow, I am still full this doesn't feel right". I realized I am still living by this idea that healthy food somehow can't be satisfying when it is so much the opposite.
When I eat healthy I feel better all the time.
I am never hungry.
My stomach isn't distended.
My skin looks clearer.
I am not tired all the time.
My moods are more stable.

However, when I eat junk foods and lots of processed sugars and low quality carbs...
I feel jittery
I experience a 3 PM crash
I am always obsessing about sugar
I am never satisfied
I continue to graze all day
I never have energy to go to the gym
My skin breaks out

Aren't all of these reasons enough to keep eating healthy? When my grandmother passed and I was eating just anything to stay alive it was a large wakeup call for me. At first I was upset that I lost 2 months of losing weight but the more I thought about it the more I realized it was a good learning experience for me.
For the first time in my life I didn't quit when I got off track
I didn't see the bad food as returning to normal
I was excited to get back to my healthy ways
I never lost sight of my goals to finish this and lose all the weight and get healthy
It was surprisingly easy to pick right back up where I was and hit my next goal of 80 lbs lost!

This morning I called my mom to chat (I had called her yesterday when I saw I had hit the 80 lbs mark). She told me she had told all of her friends and my uncles and her boyfriend that I had hit my goal and that she was so proud of me and all of them had commented how amazing and inspiring that was. I felt so good. That I made her so proud of me. However what was even better was I realized I AM PROUD OF ME. Yes, it is nice to get good feedback from the people who loved me BUT I realized the person whose approval I needed the most all along was mine. I did it and I am so proud of myself. The rest of this weight is going down.

  
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RUNNINGOLLIE 1/19/2011 10:36PM

    Awesome blog and great job on the 80lbs lost! emoticon

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DRAGONFLY79 1/19/2011 1:11PM

    Wohoo! Way to go emoticon

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APMAC_D 1/19/2011 9:01AM

    Awww this blog makes me want to give you a giant hug- you should be proud of yourself! You are a great inspiring woman. I am so glad you have all these happy thoughts of getting healthy and you can see how many ways it changes your life :)

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KATHLOW 1/19/2011 5:06AM

    i am so proud of you! I'd like to see some of your recipes too, since i'm STILL learning how not to be hungry while watching the calories...

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TRACYZABELLE 1/19/2011 3:46AM

    80 pounds gone forever-- you da bomb! And if we do it right even though we are on a DIET, we should never be HUNGRY as long as we eat right.

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LUCKYDOGFARM 1/18/2011 11:55PM

    Yay Ashley for losing the 80 pounds, but and even bigger YAY for FINALLY being PROUD of YOU! that is a huge accomplishment. I am so PROUD of you for both!

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HANNAH_CALM 1/18/2011 11:20PM

    I'm proud of you too, Ashley!!! I also feel better when I have protein with every meal. I'm not being that good at the portions of every thing, they're not all in balance. No, I'm not being entirely perfect there, too much chocolate. I need to quit asking for it for holidays, and buying it when it's on sale. I really love this blog!

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 1/18/2011 10:01PM

    You're a spark star! Congrats on 80 lbs gone forever. Brava

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 1/18/2011 8:47PM

    Baby baby... 80 pounds???? GODDESS!!!

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TRACI175 1/18/2011 6:48PM

    Congrats. 80 pounds down is awesome!

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BLONDEPOODLE 1/18/2011 6:08PM

    I definitely notice the food balance. If I eat only carbs or processed I'm hungry all the time.

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SMILEYONE11 1/18/2011 4:34PM

    I've noticed that too.....I am only eating nutritional food (more bang for the buck/calorie) and I am FULL. I actually have a hard time getting all of my calories in.

GREAT job to you! What a great accomplishment emoticon

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BTRTHANEVA 1/18/2011 3:31PM

    You got it going on now, girlfriend. Congrats!

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PELESJEWEL 1/18/2011 3:03PM

    emoticon Fantastic job Ashley!! I smiled when I read that your Mom told EVERYBODY how proud she is of you. That's so awesome! Best of all is that YOU are proud of YOU!! Yay you!

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FIZZYBALL 1/18/2011 2:55PM

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SEESTARS 1/18/2011 2:05PM

    Congrats on the 80 pounds! And not only that, I just noticed you are only 6 pounds away from the halfway mark on your tracker! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRAMMELL2 1/18/2011 1:58PM

    Congratulations!! 80 pounds lost is awesome!!! emoticon

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RIGBY31 1/18/2011 1:50PM

    I had that "I'm not hungry" feeling on sunday. SHOCK! It's a complete package when you eat right, you feel right and life is so much better. Just gotta choose it more and more.

And 80 lbs.... girl, you are amAAAzing!

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CHICAT63 1/18/2011 1:43PM

    Woohoo congratulations on your 80 pounds lost, excellent Ashley and Sista you should be proud !!!!

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AMOHAME2 1/18/2011 1:34PM

    You should be proud of you!!! 80 pounds is a big deal!!
Great blog too! I used to feel like I was going about weight loss all wrong because it was just happening too easily. Well, maybe easy isn't the right word, but it was painless, it just sort of worked. Now I know that's how it was supposed to feel, and that's what's going to make me keep it off.

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SPALM01 1/18/2011 1:32PM

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NANHBH 1/18/2011 1:28PM

    Ash,

You have much to be proud of! I'm so proud of you, too! You are an inpiration to so many here. Those next 80 are TOAST! I already see them gone for you! Keep up the good work!
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CALIKIKI 1/18/2011 1:25PM

    We are so proud of you too!

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MAMADWARF 1/18/2011 1:10PM

    80 pounds! dannnnnnnnnnnggggggg, gril! look at what you have done! You are my hero.

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ALOFA0509 1/18/2011 12:59PM

   
HURRAYYYY 80LBS GONE!!!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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MAIA2011 1/18/2011 12:50PM

    I'm on this weird carbs/eating late and therefore not accomplishing anything streak as I try to get right again. Thanks for the reminder to get back on track!

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GMO_JEN 1/18/2011 12:49PM

    Great blog! Its true-when you eat healthier there are so many added benefits. And congrats on reaching your goal! emoticon

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BRAINYBLONDE5 1/18/2011 12:11PM

    diet = die + t ; hahaha clever. thats amazing that you feel so great! keep it up! :)

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JULIEANNCAN 1/18/2011 11:30AM

    Congrats! You should be proud of YOU! Way to go! :)

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HALLORAN84 1/18/2011 11:21AM

    GREAT BLOG! It's the truth...I feel SO much better when I eat good food :) Congrats on the 80lbs. mark, YOU ROCK!

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CARILOUIE 1/18/2011 11:18AM

    Wahoo!

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CHANGINGMORGAN 1/18/2011 11:13AM

    You are amazing!

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BIONICMONARCH 1/18/2011 11:05AM

    YES!

LOVE THIS!

I feel the same way about food. There are times when I slip up even just a little but I can FEEL it and that's more motivation to NOT do that.

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NEWSGIRL2177 1/18/2011 11:02AM

    Your blog made me smile this morning. Great job! You should feel proud for all you've accomplished.
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WILLIAMV3 1/18/2011 11:00AM

    I totally agree. Whenever I revert to eating the "old way", ie. junk, I feel horrible!! It is so nice to eat good foods, be satisfied, and feel great. If more people would grasp this concept the world would be a healthier place to live.

Congratulations on reaching your 80lb goal. That is totally AWESOME!!! emoticon

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NEWANNC 1/18/2011 10:59AM

    You're SO right. It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle. So we shouldn't feel deprived or hungry all the time. We should only feel hunger when we are about to eat.

I'm currently doing a Weight Management Consultant Course online. The definition of diet is: 'planned or prescribed selection of food', 'allowance of provisions so as to furnish food, 'to take food according to rule' and 'a mode of living, with special reference to food.'

So we are all on diets, what we eat is our diet, some people simply need to modify their diets in order to lose weight or to become healthy.

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WORTHEYMOM 1/18/2011 10:58AM

    That's so awesome! I totally relate with the healthy eating and how not eating healthy affects everything! I had a couple of bad days and my face broke out. Got back on schedule with eating and working out and it cleared up! We are ALL so PROUD of YOU! Keep up the great work - you are such an inspiration to us all!

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KARLYNCANDOIT 1/18/2011 10:56AM

    this is awesome~~ You are doing great girl~~

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Dude, you stole my blog!

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Yesterday I posted a link to my new blog on blogger both on here and on facebook. I am pretty excited about it. I have a friend who is not on Sparkpeople that really looks up to me and at first I was flattered but now I am starting to get skeeved out by it. It is crossing over into more stalkerish and single white female than I am comfortable with. She commented to me on Facebook that she now has decided to start a blog as well and that she didn't want me to think she is "copying me". I found the words strange because they seemed so immature. She also texted me about it a few seconds after. I told I would check it out and tried to be supportive. When it opened I was pretty stunned. It was almost word for word my exact description of me and her first blog entry was almost identical to mine. Some might feel like I am overreacting but it really freaked me out. I know I should be flattered that she clearly admires me but I do not understand how someone could basically just steal someone's thoughts and call them their own and think it is ok? I guess this kind of thing happens and I need to look more into registering my domain name and making sure I have ownership of my writing. I know this is off topic but I just needed to vent because it upset me.

  
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SIMPLE_TAILOR 2/11/2011 3:30PM

    I hope this doesn't become too serious . . ..

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BADASSBLONDIE 1/22/2011 12:14PM

    WTF?! Not cool.

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BELLALUCIA 1/20/2011 12:32AM

    It'd have upset me too!

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 1/19/2011 5:01PM

    that's really creepy!! I dont even know that talking to her about it would work, I feel like that is a sign that she is not very stable. I would try to put some distance between the two of you. emoticon

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KITKA82 1/19/2011 3:34PM

    maybe change your phone number also? Not trying to be funny.... just sayin. Good luck with this!

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NATKITA 1/19/2011 3:00PM

    I've been through this too - you're not over-reacting. Some people just have no sense of ethical behavior or appropriate boundaries. Tell her in as nice a way as you can that this is inappropriate, and if she doesn't get it, mention the possibility of legal ramifications.

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EMSJOURNEY 1/19/2011 2:56PM

    i second *defriend*. for sure.

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KATHLOW 1/19/2011 5:03AM

    um, no, you are not overreacting. This is at the very least incredibly rude and at most incredibly creepy. *defriend*

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LUCKYDOGFARM 1/18/2011 11:49PM

    pretty dang strange! for sure!

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HANNAH_CALM 1/18/2011 11:02PM

    If you're sure that she wasn't writing about something that she has in common with you, or you feel that she needs to write in her own words, then you need to have a talk with her, either on the phone or by e-mail or whatever. Tell her that's too much like what you wrote. She needs to know that you don't approve. Tell her that you would like her to rewrite that or erase it, because it looks like she plagiarized, and you are very interested in how her own life is going. Next time she wants to use any of her words, she should quote you, with credit given to you. Maybe she doesn't know how to do that. It's a great time for her to learn! Good luck on dealing with this friend. If she's really trying to impress you, by having a blog, I think that she'll listen to any suggestions that you have. Hopefully!

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SKYEPHOENIX 1/18/2011 8:46PM

    Hmmm...could you write a blog about how disturbing it was that someone seems to be copying your blog? emoticon

I wonder if she would even clue in. Of course, if she's that unstable that might just set her off in a bad way...still, I'd be curious about whether she'd even recognize herself.

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MSANITAL 1/18/2011 7:38PM

    Your not over acting that would peev me off as well, best thing is to confront her and let her know that this is not acceptable. Good Luck..



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COOKWITHME65 1/18/2011 7:30PM

    Doesn;t sound like this was by accident. You should confront her on this.

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PASTTHEMISSION 1/18/2011 5:46PM

    I actually had someone do this to me awhile ago. We were friends in elementary school and she tried to get back in contact with me when we were in middle school, and high school, and then later when we were in our mid-20s. Not the most stable person so I declined each time. I had a public blog on livejournal and realized that she was copying some of my posts and just putting in names of people she knew instead of people I knew. Not sure why she did it, but was super creepy all the same.

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GIANTPANDA 1/18/2011 4:48PM

    Not being able to protect one's writing on SP blogs has definitely been an issue before. I have seen blogs from writers who announced they would no longer write blogs for that reason. Blogs on SP can not be copyrighted by the author, from what I understand. Blogs can be easily copied with a few computer clicks.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 1/18/2011 2:48PM

    I have seen and heard of this before - it is not accepted SP behavior.

The person doing this can be reported - and you can request that instead of copying your works, you would prefer she put a link to it in her postings.

While I rarely have problems with people copying anything on my page - this isn't "carte blance" to copy everything.

Nip it in the bud Sparked Buddy!

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MORNINGANGEL513 1/18/2011 2:47PM

  that sucks! I have a blogger account too but don't use it that much. Does it have any feature that you could block her from seeing your page? I know you can make it private and only allow certain people to see your blog, but I'm sure that sometimes defeats the purpose of having a blog!! good luck, and be careful!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/18/2011 2:35PM

    I think if it was an isolated incident I would be able to not care but there is a long history here with her that I am not going to go into on here.

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CARRIEMT 1/18/2011 2:32PM

    Perhaps she lacks the creativity and imagination to create her own words/stories/descriptions.
I'm not a fan of plagerism, but I don't think I'd be as upset as you seem to be. Call her on it- say that you noticed similarities and that she's unique and she should feel at ease to write more from the heart.
If it continues, tell her that she needs to stop or you'll no longer mentor her.
Good luck!

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TERRYT55 1/18/2011 2:20PM

    Creepy and irritating.........I'd be upset too!

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PRETTYLILHEFFER 1/18/2011 1:51PM

    That would make me very uncomfortable. Sure, if she had her own blog, with different views, but with them matching, not cool. They have made a lot of creepy movies where plots just like that!

Can you 'block' people from seeing your blogs?

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ELAOPET 1/18/2011 1:41PM

    I have a blog also. Nothing fancy, started it years ago and now it's sitting there, too important to erase because it was mainly about our struggles with AD...
But, there was this grandma, very sweet and all who took one of my posts, pictures included!!! and entered it for a contest under her own name - and then left me a comment about it (or I'd never even know) saying she hopes I don't mind!!! I did not find her sweet after that but left it at that, because it was not that important, just an ugly thing to do.
I don't know what to think about your situation, really I don't
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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/18/2011 1:39PM

    She is going to be 25 in a few days an acts 16. Lives at home. Texts me about how she hates her mom and life is so unfair. Blames everyone for her selfish and immature behavior. I try to help her grow up but I just don't see anything good coming from it anymore. Yes, it is illegal lol.

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MYOWNHERO 1/18/2011 1:35PM

    Hmmm. I teach a class in which students must write a research paper. It is astounding to me how many students "write" everything by copying a similar work and then just changing every fifth word or so. When I confront them, they often act as though I'm the crazy one. They don't even see the issue AT ALL. I might tell your story (no names of course) as an example of how the original writer feels to have her words stolen.

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MOODY9 1/18/2011 1:28PM

    Oh heck to the no! That would royally tick me off. I think you are valid in your feelings.

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PHEFEY 1/18/2011 1:25PM

    that movie didn't end well. you might want to seriously consider cutting ties with her. she obviously knew she had done something that would upset you-hence her apprehensiveness about you reading it. if you were already getting bad vibes from her-i think they were just justified.
good luck!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 1/18/2011 1:17PM

    Creepy!!!

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YOOVIE 1/18/2011 1:13PM

    Isnt that illegal?

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GIRANIMAL 1/18/2011 1:09PM

    That stinks. emoticon

Just a thought here though? Is she fairly young? Not to make excuses and/or sound ancient, but I feel like "kids" who grew up with the Internet really actually don't think very much of stealing just about any content. I'd go so far as to suggest they don't even consider it stealing as such.

Still, whether that's the case or not, you are right to be concerned about what sounds like a clingy nature at best! Good luck there. Let us know how this turns out!

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MAMADWARF 1/18/2011 1:08PM

    IM sorry ashley. I wont do it anymore. Rofl...

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 1/18/2011 12:47PM

    I've had some stalkery issues here and I can't imagine how I'd react if I saw that. I think I would maybe ask her if she realizes how her blog is almost verbatim the same as yours and that made you kind of uncomfortable and see what she says. I don't know if you know her IP address since she's visited your blog but I know I can block IP addresses on mine so if things get out of control, you might want to look into it.

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MAIA2011 1/18/2011 12:43PM

    Yikes! I've been joking about stalking people here on Spark but it is hard to forget that it is not a very funny concept after all. I think some people have a good point here that the single white female complex can range from annoying (hope that's me!) to horribly dangerous if the person is severely emotionally unbalanced. Stealing blogs is weird but immediately texting to check in suggests she has some idea that what she was doing was wrong. As someone who suffers from etiquette and social cue issues myself I would say that if you care about her then tell her to take her blog down because she plagiarized you and she knew it because she checked in. Then, please, be ready to cut and run if she does anything except apologize and do what you ask.

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VENISEW1 1/18/2011 12:13PM

    Is there any way you can ignore/block her texts. It's great that she finds you an inspiration but it doesn't sound like she's treating you w/any respect by sending you several insane texts & calling you names is not in any way being a friend. I'd try to unfriend/block her if I were you.

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SLFRISBEY 1/18/2011 11:59AM

    "I want people to follow me. Not just in a wants to wear my skin as a hat kind of way "

YES! That's very true, you don't want that. Good luck! I am creeped out for you! LOL

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CARMINACG 1/18/2011 11:52AM

    Hum, ya I would have probably been sitting there just as shocked as you if it happened to me.

Ok, in all fairness im sure this happens to all of us, we sit back read through a few blogs, stumble across a new page we have never seen before and a title catchs our eye....we read and we suddenly feel like "wow, its like I could have written that myself". There is a certian level of comfort that comes with knowing whatever obsticle you are faceing at the moment you are not alone.

But then you fast forward to someone litterly bloging a mirror image of your own life, and that is a bit disturbing really.

You may want to excercise cautioin, but mention you had check out her blog/page/whatever and hoped she will be able to continue to share "HER" thoughts, and "HER" feelings throughout 'HER" journey. hopefully she will get the picture.

The healthy benifit about bloging is to read, reflect and write your own throughts down. Simply coping others work seems like that person is really stuggleing to find their story, their meaning, their journey.

Thanks for being just a wonderful Sparkfriend to me, and so many others.

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JULIEANNCAN 1/18/2011 11:34AM

    I'm sorry to hear that happened. :( That is really quite odd. I agree that you should distance yourself from her. Also, if you want extra protection, you could post a Creative Commons License on your page. I guess it's not extra protection, just extra clear! Here's the link: http://creativecommons.org/licenses
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BLONDEPOODLE 1/18/2011 11:32AM

    That is quite creepy

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YOUNGNSMYLIE 1/18/2011 11:31AM

    whoa, definitely a red flag and cause for concern. Best case scenario is that she is trying to find a way to express herself but is--for whatever reason--unable to do so, and so she's using the words of someone she admires. Worst case scenario is that she's a few steps away from making plays for your SO/romantic interests and coming after your pets! I have had one "friendship" like this, and the best thing I did was give little or no response and distance myself from the person. Eventually, the person will latch onto someone else.
I am sure it is frustrating she has stolen your blog--i.e., your thoughts and words--but confronting her about it may only entangle you in the relationship more, and confronting her about the fact that the words are YOURS and not HERS on her blog may cause her to confront a reality she is not comfortable with; she may get mean or do something even more irritating. Use caution!
Most importantly, congrats on your new blog!

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PERFECTVELVET 1/18/2011 11:24AM

    That's very creepy. This might be one of those toxic friends that you should just break up with, stalker tendencies aside.

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FARMERJENN73 1/18/2011 11:20AM

    So weird. You have every reason to feel skeeved. Not sure how I would handle a situation like this.

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TRACI175 1/18/2011 11:15AM

    That's creepy. I'd be upset too.

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RONIREDD 1/18/2011 11:10AM

    Wow! It would freak me out too!

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CHEF4RENT 1/18/2011 11:06AM

    This is from http://www.plagiarism.org :
But can words and ideas really be stolen?

" According to U.S. law, the answer is yes. The expression of original ideas is considered intellectual property, and is protected by copyright laws, just like original inventions. Almost all forms of expression fall under copyright protection as long as they are recorded in some way (such as a book or a computer file). "

It is without a doubt wrong and illegal. I would talk to her and say I think it is great that you want to start a blog however you should ensure that it is your own life and ideas rather than mine.

That being said, for me it is a very difficult thing to confront people about this type of thing. I have always been pleased with the outcome when I have though. Just confront her with the attitude that it was a misunderstanding, and not in an angry way.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/18/2011 11:04AM

    I want people to follow me. Not just in a wants to wear my skin as a hat kind of way lol. I have tried to get this girl to leave me alone and she sends me insane numbers of texts telling me how basically I am being mean to her. Come to think of it she is kind of stalking me.

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LOVEMYKIDS874 1/18/2011 11:01AM

    that would freak me out too! I agree with what nanhbh suggested. I'm following you on blogger too, hope you don't mind.

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SUNRISESUNSET 1/18/2011 11:00AM

    You don't have to register or pay anything to have ownership of your content. The moment you create something it's yours, and must be changed beyond recognition or it's infringement on your copyright. It's up to you whether you take this further.

Maybe try and distance yourself from her. If you stop responding to her texts and emails and whatever else she sends, she should get the message. I had a friend like that who used to repeat the end of my sentences. She grew out of it eventually and latched onto someone else. Maybe your friend will do the same if you 'naturally' grow apart.

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MYSHANON 1/18/2011 10:59AM

    hide your pets

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/18/2011 10:55AM

    Thanks everybody. Sheryl, That is a good way to look at it. Thanks. It helps to get perspective from someone who isn't emotionally involved.

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NANHBH 1/18/2011 10:54AM

    Ash,

That would totally freak me out, too! If she's not on Spark, can keep your blogging here until she hopefully gets the message?

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WORTHEYMOM 1/18/2011 10:54AM

    creepy!

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My new blog

Monday, January 17, 2011

Hey everybody. I finally got my new blog up and running. If you want to follow me here it is. Let me know what you think!

changingmylifeandfindingmyself.blogs
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RUNNINGOLLIE 1/19/2011 10:15PM

    Awesome idea and it looks great! emoticon

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F1AMEDIVA 1/18/2011 2:22PM

    Ashley-great blogs. I just checked it out. Sorry to hear about your stalker. I would be upset also. Anyway, wanted to let you know I love reading your blogs and hope you still post here as well. Also, congrats on the 80lb loss. That is so awesome! You Rock!!!!! emoticon

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SUSIEWHITE1109 1/18/2011 10:48AM

    Go girl! I think it's great that you started your own blog. That situation with the gal who copied your stuff is pretty weird - I don't blame you for being upset by it. I hope everything works out for you.

Have a great Tuesday!
Susie

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JENRYAN9278 1/18/2011 10:18AM

    Hey Ashley! I am following you now too. :) I have a blog on that same site and love to just vent my feelings and frustrations and just share things I wouldn't actually SAY outloud. :) Looks great and looking forward to your posts. You can check mine out at www.bobjenjack.blogspot.com
Can'
t wait!!!

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HEALTHYONE2008 1/17/2011 8:49PM

    Great going Ashley, wish that I could write like you.
Just keep them coming. Love reading your blogs.

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TRIP2HAPPINESS 1/17/2011 6:18PM

    yay! We get to hear what you have to say more often. I LOVE reading your blogs, you are an AWESOME writer and I cannot wait to follow you. :)

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DUSTYGIRL25 1/17/2011 3:14PM

    Very Nice! Good for you for getting it out there!
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BTRTHANEVA 1/17/2011 2:40PM

    Ashlee ~

Fits you to a *T*! Subscribed - check!

Best wishes on your BIGGER blog site, sista. Way to put yourself out there and get real with you!!!!

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COOKWITHME65 1/17/2011 1:55PM

    I've bookmarked you Ashley. Hope you will continue posting at both sites. Nice work.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/17/2011 1:31PM

    I wasn't sure whether to use wordpress or blogger because wordpress has a much larger audience. However, I read that wordpress had a lot of problems with hacking this past year so I decided to go with blogger.

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PAMATX 1/17/2011 1:30PM

    Ashley, how'd you pick which site to use? I was thinking of doing the same thing over on Word Press.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/17/2011 1:25PM

    I second the video idea and I totally got the reference being that I am the same age as you and all.

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MAMADWARF 1/17/2011 1:24PM

    Love it and will follow you anywhere... Maia, can we get video of the monkey-butt thing?

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/17/2011 1:20PM

    Maia I live to hear what you think. Duh. Thanks Terry and Sylvia for checking it out! I am glad you both liked it!

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MAIA2011 1/17/2011 1:17PM

    You were going to escape knowing what I think? Pshaw. As if. And monkeys might fly out of my butt.

*no emoticon found for unfunny Wayne's World reference that pegs me squarely in my age bracket and demographic*

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SYLVIALYNN2 1/17/2011 11:49AM

    Hey Ashley, I went to the link you posted and read your blog. I say, "Amen!" Only I am now 63. Where is the knight in shining armor with whom I live happily ever after? I had so much potential, but where did it go? I feel I have wasted my life and not accomplished very much. It certainly isn't what I imagined. Maybe I read too many fairy tales. My high school counselor didn't tell me about student loans or scholarships and I thought because my family owned a business, that they made too much money for me to qualify anyway. Wish folks had said, apply anyway, what have you got to lose? There is a 50/50 chance that you will get one. Instead, she freaked out that I my boyfriends class ring had slipped around and looked like a wedding band. Now days they don't even bat an eye when middle school students get pregnant. At least you have identified the problem and are trying to do something about it. I was 60 before I woke up.

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TERRYT55 1/17/2011 11:33AM

    I'm on my way! Thanks for the post

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My first ever vlog

Sunday, January 16, 2011


So I decided to do another thing that scares me and that is to post a vlog. You can hide behind words but you can't hide in a video and part of getting past my self hatred and fear of photos is confronting them. So here I am with my new haircut. I thought a lot about doing my hair and putting on a bunch of makeup and then I decided I wanted to show you the real me. I hope you like it.

  
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BADASSBLONDIE 1/22/2011 12:10PM

    You are absolutely stunning. *hugs* Love the video blog!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 1/19/2011 9:55PM

    Hey Ashley, Great vlog! Thanks so much for opening up to us and trusting us. SparkFamilies are Wonderful!!

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FITBYFORTY2011 1/18/2011 3:17PM

    Hi Ashley, I'm a very private person, so I wish i had the guts to put myself "out there" like you have...you are gorgeous! I love reading your blogs and your vlog was even better...i love how analytical you are, how self reflective and I think the vlog showed me how gorgeous you are!

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KEIRASMAMA 1/18/2011 11:28AM

    Thanks Ashley! It is so cool to get to "know" you on a different level. I read your blogs all the time and it is nice to know who is truly behind them. I am sorry that you have been struggling the last while. I am sure that a big part of it is the emotional piece of being so close to the half way mark (or should I say at it now!) Our minds act in mysterious ways which I am convinced has a direct impact on how our bodies respond. You will pass this stage and weight and your journey will continue with much success. I am sure of it. Just hang in there and keep making positive choices when you can and keep looking forward. You truly look great by the way! ~ Karen

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CARILOUIE 1/18/2011 10:15AM

    Wow... it makes such a difference listening to/watching a vlog than reading a blog. I think this was awesome - I will get brave one of these days!

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KRAWRS 1/17/2011 7:59PM

    I think you did great for your first vlog! I stuttered a lot on mine lol. P.S. You're beautiful. And I don't like walking up ladders either! We just put our christmas stuff away yesterday. It was great hearing you talk about your clean eating and how it makes you feel. This was just on my mind. I went to the grocery store today. Yes, I did throw some junk in there (fish sticks, corn dogs, etc.)... but for the most part, I bought a TON of veggies and fruits (pears, apples, bananas, eggplant, tomatoes, even cactus!)... and a year or so ago, that wouldn't have happened! It would have been frozen pizza all the way. But now... buying the fresh stuff is such a habit... I actually MISS it and think "god there's nothing good to eat" when i'm out. its nice... this change... i'm sticking with it too!

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BROOKDOESLIFE 1/17/2011 5:30PM

    Loved your vlog. I love your honesty. I love you showed us you. You are beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I am guilty of blogging positive things even when I'm not feeling positive at all, so I appreciate you pointing that out. It's so true. I want to be more true to myself this year.
Thanks again for sharing. Congrats on your weight loss thus far. I am rooting for you!!!

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CHEF4RENT 1/17/2011 2:56PM

    Very nicely stated. I love the honesty felt in this!! Keep it up, frustrating as it may be you can do it.

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MCSNYDER1 1/17/2011 2:37PM

    Ashley,
I'm not saying this becasue I think you want to hear it. I'm saying it because it is the truth. You are an absolutely precious, precious, precious young woman!!! You look fantastic! I love the new do!

I am so glad you did this vlog. I love that you put yourself out there for all of us to see! And thank you for your honesty--you said so many things that mirror me.

I am so very proud of you.

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SLFRISBEY 1/17/2011 1:57PM

    You're BEAUTIFUL! If I had my earphones I would listen but I am at work and will have to wait until I get home. :)

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/17/2011 1:53PM

    Thanks everybody. What is weird is I think I look so different from this angle than in real life. My jaw is not quite as big as this looks. I look better from an above angle.

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COOKWITHME65 1/17/2011 1:50PM

    Congrats on your first Vblog. Great job. Your honesty is appreciated and love the new haircut.

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NEENSTER1 1/17/2011 11:16AM

    Your Beautiful. emoticon emoticon for sharing your story. You are doing emoticon! emoticon

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REDHEADMOM2U 1/17/2011 11:09AM

    Awesome vlog! Good for you keeping it real, and I agree, we can talk all we want, but we want the scale to go down.

I'm rooting for you!

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SASSYSUNFLOWER 1/17/2011 10:42AM

    First, thanks for your comment on my status, I am feeling great! You blog was true to the heart. It's not always easy and we do seem to sometimes make is seem that way. I have been sick so I haven't been able to exercise, which I just started. I may try a video blog one day..haha..I need to get up the courage. You did a great job!

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ROBINKP1 1/17/2011 10:38AM

    Great vlog!

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KATHLOW 1/17/2011 9:43AM

    ha, for some reaon i imagined your voice much higher-pitched. Loved seeing you :-)

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NANHBH 1/17/2011 2:05AM

    Ash,

Cute haircut! You look awesome. I know what you mean about self-sabotaging relationships or eating plans. I believe in you! I know you can break this plateau. Would it help if I double-dog dared you to move that scale by 1 pound by the end of the month? Just kidding - no pressure. I need to get serious about what I'm eating. While recovering from foot surgeries, I've been careless about what I'm eating - feeling sorry for myself, self-sabotaging. We can do this, Ash!
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RIGBY31 1/17/2011 12:42AM

    First... Gorgeous (love your bangs). And the honesty in your vlog is true to your words (blogs). Love that you just said it.. it is what is is! Moving forward (scale) will happen when you kick it into gear with the fitness. And eating clean and healthy is key, I believe as well. You're so honest, Ashley. And I love that!

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MAMADWARF 1/16/2011 11:11PM

    I love the VLOG Ashley! So nice to talk to you!! You and me, we are in the same annoying position with this lack of progress. We can do it tho, lets just keep on going and bust this thing! Dang, now I am gonna have to do a Vlog. Maybe when I hit the 60 pound thing I will do one...

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 1/16/2011 11:00PM

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us, Ashley! I really enjoyed getting to know you better! I hope you get through your plateau soon....I know you will! :) And I like your side bangs!

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EPIPHANY77718 1/16/2011 9:55PM

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us all! That took courage! You look awesome and I am loving your hair! emoticon

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HEALTHYONE2008 1/16/2011 9:44PM

    Thanks soooo must for doing this vlog and really spilling you guts. What an awesome why to get to know the real you and to see you in person. You are amazing. Such courange in shareing your true self.
keeep up the good work and don't forget to love yourself, you have done so well.
Love you

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JULIEANNCAN 1/16/2011 8:37PM

    Awesome vlog! emoticon Your bangs look great, by the way. I am sure you can get through this plateau. Thank you for being you. emoticon

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FIZZYBALL 1/16/2011 8:12PM

    emoticon I echo your sentiment regarding self sabotage. emoticon emoticon

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LILMISSRED79 1/16/2011 8:09PM

    What a courageous thing you did! Thank you so much for posting! I think you're beautiful, and I have no doubts that you will bust through that plateau when you're ready.

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REDDIRTRUNNER 1/16/2011 7:47PM

    Thank YOU for putting yourself out there! I know this is the beginning of a new change for you ;-)
You are breaking through that plateau as we speak! Again, thanks, and it is nice to hear you and learn a little more about you emoticon

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PELESJEWEL 1/16/2011 7:46PM

    OMG!Love the V-log! I have to chime in w/the chorus & say you sound just as I imagined! Too cool! Love the long bangs girl! Woot!

I have the same frustrations, I haven't lost weight in 4 months!! It's a new year though, with the golden opportunity to create what we desire! Not sure if you are already doing this, but you might want to add C25k training to your workouts and set a goal to run your first 5k this year. Training by running is one of the best ways to see your body change.

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ROSEWCI 1/16/2011 7:00PM

    It was so nice to SEE you my friend! You sound much like I imagined! Very very nice vlog! I look forward to many more!

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HOPE2011 1/16/2011 6:45PM

    Thank you for sharing. Thanks to your bravery, I'm going to be honest with my blogs and share ALL the parts of my journey. I know it helps me, but as you said, maybe it will help others too.



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AMOHAME2 1/16/2011 6:32PM

    Awesome vlog Ashley!! I'm so glad to get to see the real you and hear your voice! You're right, it really does make you seem more "real" to us in virtual-world!!
It's so brave of you to just sit in front of that camera and say what comes naturally! I've thought of doing a vlog for a while, but I'm just way too chicken!!

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BTRTHANEVA 1/16/2011 6:22PM

    Ashley!
Great vlog! You put your *real* self out there ~ fears, insecurities, goals and thoughts. Thank you for BEING YOU!

I really feel like your work situation is eating away at you which could be the cause of your self-sabotaging. Are you considering a job change? You're young and have your whole future ahead of you... Don't stay in places that aren't good for you.

Thank you for all you are, and especially for the opportunity of really seeing, hearing and appreciating you on a new level.

YOU ROCK!

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VITASANA 1/16/2011 6:17PM

    Thank you so much for being so candid and honest in your Vlog. You are very brave to face your worries and doubts. Everything you talked about touched me. I constantly edit myself on Sparkpeople b/c like you said, I want to act like I have everything together. I hate blogging about another set back but it's reality and it's okay. It's my truth and I have to be okay with that and be honest. I hope that whatever the block is for you right now that you will be able to move past it. I loved seeing who you are on this video and think you are amazing!

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RACINGSLUG 1/16/2011 6:02PM

    What a wonderful way to communicate with us... loved it. You seem like a person who would be so easy to talk to IRL. It sounds like you're in a very stressful and frustrating situation right now and I hope vlogging helped at at least blow off some steam. You are right that it's all about loving yourself and taking care of yourself... just keep doing that and we'll be right here if you need us!

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ALOFA0509 1/16/2011 5:30PM

   
Loved your Vlog!! Your voice is exactly how I imagined it.. Calm, very friendly.. Oh and can I say you are Rockin the Long Layers!!! love the cut.. Your Beautiful Ash!!-

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 1/16/2011 5:19PM

    I just had a great response written to you and *poof*, gone.

So here is the summary: Your truth is beautiful. YOU are beautiful.

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EVLOBOS310 1/16/2011 5:19PM

    emoticon vlog! Thanks for sharing!

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HANNAH_CALM 1/16/2011 5:19PM

    Great vlog! It really is a treat to see the way you talk, because you do wonder about what people are really like. I'm sorry the scale hasn't been budging for two months. I had a problem like that for a while, lose a pound, gain a pound, this repetition. It's very frustrating! I read that our bodies tries to keep some equilibrium to things by trying to keep us at the same weight. I hope you can overcome that soon. Your work might be contributing to that, with the stress, stress hormones. Try to find something you enjoy, for your exercise. Is there anything you've always wanted to try out? I'm doing the 10 Minute Fitness Streak Challenge, you might consider that, when you decide to start.

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TERRYT55 1/16/2011 5:14PM

    Hi Ashley......you are brave! Someday I will be too. I loved this and feel like I know you even better now.

I just mentioned to my husband that your voice sounded just like I imagined it would, very pleasant and soothing. A sweet voice.

I'm already looking forward to your future vlogs.

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ERIN4771 1/16/2011 5:06PM

    oh miss ashley!!! what a great REAL vlog!!! you sound awesome( where's that boston accent lady?) you haircut looks great, and you have such an amazing laugh (you should do that more often).... emoticon.....i know you are scared, we all are, but, the 79 pounds you have lost is only the beginning, and even though you have been stuck at the same number for the past 2 months (which happens to all of us btw) you haven't given up!!! that is HUGE!!! keep doing what you are doing, tracking, exercising etc, and in now time that number will move on the scale, i promise you my friend....in the mean time, please remember, i think you are pretty awesome, and have so much to offer and look forward to your blogs and updates!!!! emoticon

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RONNYGIRL39 1/16/2011 5:05PM

    I just watched it. Man i wouldn't like being stuck for that long. Maybe someday I'll try a vlog. Good for you for doing it!!

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BELLALUCIA 1/16/2011 5:04PM

    You look different from your pics, thanks for unveiling the real you! You are a pretty woman and smart too. We love you too!

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CREATINGJES 1/16/2011 5:04PM

    Now it is! Yay! Such a great blog! I know how you feel because, up until this month, I didn't see any change for about 6 months and it was really hard. If the clean eats works for you, then that is awesome! Stick with it, you will do great!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/16/2011 4:57PM

    Yeah I find that sometimes I can't view vlogs either. I will email it to you.

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MAIA2011 1/16/2011 4:57PM

    Now I can get seven seconds! We're switching to ComCast soon. Maybe that will make a difference. Nice bangs!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/16/2011 4:55PM

    Really? It is working on my computer...

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CREATINGJES 1/16/2011 4:53PM

    The video is working :(

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Do you ever feel trapped?

Friday, January 14, 2011

Do you ever feel like you are drowning and can't kick back to the surface? That every single day is a sick joke similar to groundhogs day in that it is always the same. Today is one of those days. It sucked from the second I got to work. After I got the weekly slap in the face they call my paycheck I pretty much just reached the end of my rope. I am tired of being a good person and playing by the rules and getting nothing back. No this is not a rainbow and kittens type of blog and I refuse to apologize for it. Nothing annoys me more than a title that starts with Negative blog: sorry. Honestly, I do not trust for one second people who only say that life is a bowl of peaches and this is easy and tra lalalalalal I am not negative. It is just not reality unless you are looped on Xanax. Than maybe it is for you and if so good for you. I am tired of the fight, I am tired of not seeing progress the way I want. I am tired of having the woman I work with steal my sales and the bosses ignore it and tell us to "just get along". I want to be free of this kind of misery. When I was a kid I swore I would never have a 9-5 and guess where I ended up. Uggh. Yes, this is not my first work gripe blog but this is where I am today.
I am not looking for anyone to fix this and yes I am working on my business plan so I can GET THE HELL OUT OF HERE. Thanks for listening. Now I am going to finish up the rest of my craptastic day in the jeans I threw my lunch on so now I smell like pico de gallo and then I am going to go healthy food shopping and workout because NOTHING is going to send me back to eating this away. Take that scale. Pbblllllllppppbbllblb (That is me blowing a raspberry if you didn't know emoticon.) Thanks for listening. I love you guys.

  
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SIMPLE_TAILOR 2/9/2011 1:29PM

    That sounds a lot like my wife's days at the bank. She is working on an exit strategy as well.

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PATTILYNN224 1/18/2011 9:49AM

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Good Rant!

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LOUANN22 1/16/2011 4:39PM

    everyones got to vent. I have real bad days at work and me and my mom complain back and forth because we both work at the same place. Tomorrow will be better!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 1/16/2011 2:56PM

    Sometimes a girls got to smell like pico de gallo!

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KATHLOW 1/16/2011 10:22AM

    ha, i am soo with you, except for the jeans. i'd consider BUYING jeans if they smelled like good pico de gallo ;-). or red wine :-).

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HOPE2011 1/16/2011 8:47AM

    I'm with you, and I really am proud that you didn't eat to feel better. I need to remember that!

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LUCKYDOGFARM 1/16/2011 12:25AM

    Ahhhh, i feel so much better now!!

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FIZZYBALL 1/15/2011 6:17PM

    Yes...at time I feel trapped as well. My job is the biggest source of frustration. Since I begin this journey over 6 months ago, that area has given me to most issues. I keep on keeping on and seek out new coping strategy and a possible career change when the time is right.

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NINNY165 1/15/2011 5:45PM

    Hey we are all entitled to a rant.....go ahead girl...Have yours emoticonI have been feeling that way at work lately...It must have showed because the people who tend to be sh*tty didn't make comments to my face....I guess I had the do not f*ck with me face...I am usually a pretty nice person... Oh well...even nice people get tired of hearing the crap....Hang in there giving you much love& hugs emoticon emoticon emoticon..When I decided that I didn't like my last job..I did just as you did came up with a plan & worked it & keep my eyes & ears open...networked leaped on faith...I even left my last job after becoming tenured...teacher..now I am a guidance counselor soon to be tenured...working on my fifth year......Your time is coming... emoticon

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COOKWITHME65 1/15/2011 5:32PM

    Yes we all have bad days. Trudge on Ashley. You can pull yourself out of this misery job of yours. Keep your eye on the big plan and focus on that business plan. emoticon

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SYLVIALYNN2 1/15/2011 11:01AM

    I can relate. How do they live with themselves. They just hog in when you are doing what you should and then steal your sales so slick and smoothly, you don't even realize it has been done until it is too late. Wishing you better days. I took comfort in hoping that one day they would meet their match or get caught and reprimanded.

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LJOHN44 1/15/2011 10:31AM

    I'm totally with you- I could have written that blog (except for the pico de gallo part). When, day after day, you are asked how your day is going and the only truthful answer you can come up with is "Pointless and soulsucking" it's a sign that you need to come up with a plan for change. I NEED TO COME UP WITH A PLAN FOR CHANGE! I'm trying desperately to hang on until April when I get vested with the company. I can't live my life in a pointless and soulsucking way...

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NEDYFAY 1/15/2011 5:16AM

    Great blog! I don't like "negative blog - sorry" titles either, although I am guilty of them myself sometimes.

Your sales-stealing co-worker deserves a kick in the shins. I hope yout get your business up and going soon so that you can get out of there. And in the meantime, use the built-up frustration to put in that little extra at the gym for an additional "bblllllllppppbbllblb" at the scales.

Keep it up!

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JULIEANNCAN 1/15/2011 4:09AM

    I'm sorry you didn't have such a great day. I hope tomorrow is better. And, way to go for keeping up your healthy habits! That's awesome!!! :)

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HANNAH_CALM 1/14/2011 11:39PM

    Read my latest blog, for a commentary on what it's like to be the joke that I am right now. My ID expired, and I just found out that my birth certificate is invalid and that it is very difficult to get a new birth certificate without a valid ID! And I go on about that... I'm glad you are starting your own business, sounds like you're in a toxic work environment!

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CHEF4RENT 1/14/2011 10:39PM

    Ashley I would say if anyone deserves a good rant it would be you. You do so much good in the way of motivation here that if you need a rant good on ya. If I were you I would get a punching bag, a color printer, 2 reams of paper, get your camera out, get some bag gloves. Take a pic of the yitch start printing them out and destroying her. lol.

You rock Ash....thanks for being the motivation to help us all:)

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HSMOM2FOUR 1/14/2011 6:57PM

    Hmmm... don't know where you work, but it sounds just like one of my former employers. It was the job I had when I was engaged to be married, and my then-fiancee' said: it's either the job or me. you are much too miserable when you get off work!
I picked the hubby... and 17 yrs later am still SUPER GLAD that I did! He was so right!!!
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ALOFA0509 1/14/2011 6:55PM

    Hugs!! I cant wait for you start your own Blog ;) my friend participated in one of those BlogHer conferences and got sooo much out of it... I hope whatever you find it brings you and keeps you in **CENTER** Cheers 2U - Alofa

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ERIN4771 1/14/2011 6:04PM

    i always worry about the people who are "happy" all the time...it's not normal...you're allowed to blog about having a sh*tty *ss day, why not? i have a hard time working with people that steal sales as well, and get tired of hearing, oh, come on, can't you just smile and suck it up? NO, i cannot and NO i will not, so you can go suck it, not me pal...woooooo that was a huge rant, didn't mean to go there, i should probably go back to my xanax, and martini i hear calling my name.....pain...go away.....
anyway..i say vent away....it's a way to blow off steam, and you aren't hurting anyone...as for smelling like pico, it could be worse, you could smell like refried beans emoticon.....hang in there chica!!!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/14/2011 5:45PM

    Thanks. No 3 day weekend for me :(.

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 1/14/2011 5:09PM

    Sorry you're having a crappy day!

You had me at "xanax" and "lunch".

I'm glad you're going to kick this crappy day's ass!

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SUZYGREENBERG94 1/14/2011 5:02PM

    I hate craptastic days, and yep, feeling trapped sucks too. here's one thing you DIDNT do...you didn't go and drown the craptastic day in a super size burger, fries and an entire chocolate cake...you didn't even JOKE about it, your solution was to go workout!!!!! I LOVE that, recognize that in yourself, that you made a really healthy choice to turn a lemon of a day into an endorphin kick and a healthy meal to refuel! GO, YOU!!!!! emoticon

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ANDIEJZ 1/14/2011 4:59PM

  Vent away....we all have our days. My complaint today is we're getting more snow....where the hell are we suppose to put it? Have a great 3 day weekend!!

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AMOHAME2 1/14/2011 4:45PM

    I agree, no need for apologizing for negative blogs! Nobody has perfect days every day, and if you're going to blog about the good times, may as well blog about the bad! At least it's honest!

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RACINGSLUG 1/14/2011 3:49PM

    Haha, I love that you stood up for the right to post about frustrating things. I always apologize for my negative blogs, I suppose I still feel guilty for having normal human emotions... way to go for calling it out for the B.S. it is.

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FUZZY1TOO 1/14/2011 3:27PM

    Hey, I've got your back if you want to take this chick out the back.....we can take'er! emoticon
I'm so glad you got this out of your system and are moving on. You will succeed.....'cuz you are one determined lady!
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Enjoy your weekend with your darling and then take next week day by day and, before you know it, you'll be flying solo and doing a fly-by to show them how it's done!
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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/14/2011 3:18PM

    Thanks everybody. I spent the last hour looking up recipes on cooking light and I feel better now. Healthy eating is so much more fun when you get creative with it!

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GLORIEE 1/14/2011 3:17PM

    GOOD FOR YOU!!! You got it off your chest. I always say that I'd rather be mad than be sad. I like that you call it like you see it. Today was bad for you but I'm hoping as soon as the clock strikes 5 you have a great weekend staring you in the face!!! emoticon

And GOOD FOR YOU for having a business plan. Focus on that and make it happen! Work on it this weekend to get yourself where you want to be. emoticon

And another GOOD FOR YOU for not letting this get in the way of taking good care of yourself!!! emoticon

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CIVIAV 1/14/2011 3:14PM

    Many times I do feel like that. I may rant or shift perspective but only after I acknowledge where I am at. Crap is often what client's of mine find at a company. Getting on with your day and showing them that crap turns into compost is the way to go now that you've vented.

Here's to a great weekend when you can put today behind you. Co-worker sounds nasty!

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MAMADWARF 1/14/2011 2:51PM

    Yep. IM here and IM listening. Feel free to rant, complain, bitch and whine. And yes, I feel that way too and you know what sucks? My boss is my husband so I have to let it go when we go in the house, 10 steps away and have dinner...lol. The fringe benefits are pretty good tho so I deal. Hope your day gets better and you enjoy your weekend!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 1/14/2011 2:44PM

    Rant away! We all need it sometimes. The day will get better because you're going shopping and you're going to work out! Forget today, it only gets on the way of of your future!

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MAIA2011 1/14/2011 2:42PM

    mmmm Xanax mmmm pico de gallo

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AEBROWNSON 1/14/2011 2:41PM

    It may be a craptastic day, but at least it's Friday!

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STASKER 1/14/2011 2:36PM

  TGIF Girlie!! Don't have to think about one negative thing for two whole days!!! Put all that frustration into a sweat-your- ass-off-music-so-loud-the-neighbors
-complain-lungs-hurt-from-breat
hing-too-hard workout!! Kick Ass!!!!

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RANGERFAN10 1/14/2011 2:19PM

    That is a good thing about blogs you can vent and sometimes feel better.

I hope you can soon find a job you enjoy. Keep your head up.

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SLFRISBEY 1/14/2011 2:19PM

    It's great that you know what you want to do! I can't wait for you to launch your business, all of us will be here to support! And you're right, life isn't all hearts and roses. Anytime you need to vent, come find me :)

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MUMZY_OF_4 1/14/2011 2:13PM

    Does it help that your rant made me laugh? The word "craptastic" is way to fun. Hope the rest of your day gets better...it's still early.

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KIMJEWKES 1/14/2011 2:11PM

    Great job promising yourself that you will still be good to your body even though work has got you down.

I feel exactly the way you do today. I hope everything turns around and you feel more appreciated and compensated for your hard work. Sometimes sales can be a tough business to get along in...there are some shady people out there.

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KT-NICHOLS-13 1/14/2011 2:04PM

    Tell is like it is and feel what you feel - those are things we should never say sorry for. It totally sucks that you are having a bad day - I get it.

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LITTLEONEJLC 1/14/2011 2:00PM

    Amen, sister! I must confess, "the weekly slap in the face they call my paycheck" did make me chuckle. Hugs.

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BADASSBLONDIE 1/14/2011 1:59PM

    You go, girl!!! *hugs* You kick this day's @ss!!!

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CCFIRECRACKER 1/14/2011 1:56PM

    i tend to be one of those "sorry for the negative blog" types because people are used to my glass half-full, bubbly, happy personality. so when i get i get down or discouraged, i feel like i'm letting people down.

but crap, sometimes life does suck and getting the anger,frustration, etc...out there by blogging, talking or whatever, can totally help. i'm glad you vented and hope it relieved some of the pressure. emoticon

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SPALM01 1/14/2011 1:47PM

    Hi there, your blog is a good thing. It may be hard to see right now, but sometimes when we get comfortable with our lives as they are we need a major slap in the face that says, "wake up and get the hell out of here!" It really sounds like you need a career change, and honestly that is never an easy thing, but sometimes if you take a risk it will pay off in the end. I know from my own experiences that when I generally start to feel the way you are about my workplace it's time to move on, but be sure to do it smartly. I also know from experience that when I made those moves my situation always improved. I wish you luck and I know that the chaos you feel now is just the world's way of letting you know it's time for a change.

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SKYEPHOENIX 1/14/2011 1:44PM

    Oh, Miss Ashley, I will be there (virtually) to celebrate the day you say 'PHLLLLBTTT' to your job for good. :):) Sucky jobs just.....suck. At least sucky days end eventually. Enjoy your workout!

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 1/14/2011 1:43PM

    AArrgg! So sorry you're having a bad day!! I hope you have a great shopping trip and workout and that helps make the day a little better! emoticon

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NANHBH 1/14/2011 1:35PM

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