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75 lbs down, see ya later 270's!

Friday, November 05, 2010

I realized something last week when my 4 month sparkaversary came and went and I totally forgot, this is my life now. I am not TRYING to eat healthy, or work out, or change how I see things. I am doing all those things and it is because I want to do them. MAMADWARF wrote a great blog the other day about how she can't even binge right anymore because she really has changed her life. (If you don't know her, check her out, she is hysterical and one of my most treasured friends I have found on here) I totally agree with her. I NEVER thought at 345 I could do this. I remember telling a friend in tears that I couldn't even imagine myself as a thin person, that I didn't think she was in here. Every single time I would drive by a fast food place I would miss my old life and I would have to force myself to drive past. I couldn't have any sweets in the house because I would eat them all. Basically I had to isolate myself in my own house from all food temptations. Luckily I have a very supportive fiancÚ who doesn't eat junk food anyway so I had the luxury of a healthy food only house.
The last few weeks I have had a whopper junior on the brain and I know I can have one if I want one. They actually are only 360 calories BUT I just haven't actually wanted to eat one. Whenever I say ok I am just going to get it and enjoy it something inside me tells me. "Ashley there are much healthier uses for those calories that will provide much better nutrition for your body". Then I look around the car like "who the hell just said that?". emoticon
I don't have the binges inside me anymore and I really can't say there is one specific reason it has changed. My life has gotten so much better since I have lost 75 lbs and I think the fear of going back has really helped me stay so focused. No, weight loss is not the sole reason I got happy. I have a good life and it was the change in my attitude that accompanied said weight loss that did it. I still don't look in a mirror and feel beautiful but I do see all I have accomplished. Sometimes I think about the fact that I have 98 lbs more to lose and it is a little depressing but I can easily turn it around and think, but I already have lost this much, I can do it again. The shear joy of being normal is amazing. To not feel like people are staring at me about my fat. They stare now but it is admiration. I can see the difference in their faces. In general I am a VERY good read of body language and it was a strange shift to witness. Last week I was sitting in traffic and I looked up to see the man on the other side staring at me. When he saw me look at him he gave me this "hey baby" smile and said "hey, how ya doin". The girl in the car with him punched him, hard, and started yelling "what are you doing?". He laughed and smiled at me again. I immediately averted my gaze and thought "why is he making fun of me?". My friend laughed and said "he was hitting on you, not making fun of you". As I thought about it I realized, yes, he was hitting on me. This was a person who knows nothing about me other than what he sees and he was admiring me. I should feel good about it. He was actually cute too so even more flattering. It made me realize that this is the next stage for me. Learning to see myself as I am, not as I was. I decided to remove all the old pictures from my facebook that make me feel bad about myself and fill it with new ones. This is who I am now and I am going to celebrate it. Six months from now I will be celebrating yet another new me and I can't wait. It is like I am shedding my old life that held me prisoner for so long. It is strange to walk into a room and not feel judged. The shift into self confidence is a pretty wild ride but let me tell you. It rocks. When I see ladies on here now who are just starting out I see so much of what I went through in them and I want to reach out and hug them and tell them I am living proof that this is possible and IT IS SO WORTH IT. Every single struggle and set back is worth it. It is hard to get healthy but it was harder to stay morbidly obese and unhappy. When I look at it like that, it is an easy choice to put down the candy and walk away slowly.

  
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DIVADOLL73 11/16/2010 2:01PM

    Ashley you are such an inspiration!!! I had to logon today just to read one of your blogs to encourage me to persevere. I must remain on this journey and maintain my determined attitude to lose this weight. Thank you soo much for your inspiration, but most of all for your transparency on your weight loss journey your a blessing to many. AWESOME!!!BLOG- emoticon

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WILLIAMV3 11/10/2010 4:15PM

    Amen girl!

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BECKYLYNNE77 11/10/2010 3:24PM

    that is awesome emoticon emoticon

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LIBBYDOODLE 11/10/2010 12:25PM

  THAT IS JUST INSPIRING. THANK YOU SOO MUCH. AND GOODLUCK IN ALL YOU DO. RAE-OHIO

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LIBBYL1 11/10/2010 12:00AM

  well done!

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MYSTERY-LADY 11/9/2010 10:16PM

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MARATHONBOUND 11/9/2010 4:55PM

    Awesome post! Congrats on your accomplishments, both physical and mental, you rock! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DPETERSON54 11/9/2010 4:07PM

    Wow that was a inspiring blog. I am proud of you.
You deserve a big congrats.

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LOSETHEWTIN08 11/9/2010 3:36PM

    Well said and very well done. I'm so proud of you. You inspire! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MILDOLLARSMILE 11/9/2010 3:16PM

    Great blog...I can't wait till I reach that point!! Congrats on your weight loss success!!!

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FAARON88 11/9/2010 2:51PM

    Great post! I can't wait to celebrate my 75th pound lost! I bet it is life changing :)

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AMYRAY417 11/9/2010 8:32AM

    Your post has really inspired me to "just say no" the next time I tell myself a McDonald's hot fudge sundae can fit into my daily calorie allowance if I only cut out some other things. Now I will say what you said - that there are better, more nutritious ways to spend those calories! Thanks!

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SERENE.ONE 11/9/2010 8:11AM

  Wow...it can feel so different. I used to be thin..and I know it felt different but I guess ive forgotten it all. Thanks for sharing.

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TRACYZABELLE 11/9/2010 2:14AM

    You are rocking that scale!!

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CHANGE4THEBEST 11/8/2010 7:50PM

    Congratulations emoticon

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BETHIE_BOO 11/8/2010 6:42PM

    I have 93 lbs to lose still. Part of me is exhausted just at the thought, but another part of me is thrilled with the anticipation of rediscovering who I am when I don't have all this excess weight holding me down. We can do it!!!!

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JOANNAB1177 11/8/2010 3:39PM

    Thanks. I am fairly new to sparkpeople and I am having trouble finding a buddy and actually connecting with people. I liked your story...

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ZIPLOCK 11/8/2010 3:09PM

    And yet another inspiring blog! You are just amazing - and gorgeous on top of it...

How cute you didn't realize the guy was seriously checking you out. It probably attracted him even more...LOL!!

Thanks, as always, for sharing!

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BARBANDED 11/8/2010 9:46AM

    AWESOME!!! I'm glad to see I'm not the only one 'hearing' those voices in my car. haha Thank you for your story. It's a motivator!!

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OPALMOON 11/8/2010 8:10AM

    That is so wonderful - good on you for doing so well!

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MOMOF2TONI 11/7/2010 10:48PM

    Good for you!! emoticon

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STACEYS32 11/7/2010 7:31PM

    You are doing an amazing job:)

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FIT-WHIT 11/7/2010 4:31PM

    Awesomeness, chica!!! You are an inspiration to SO MANY--including me. I LOVE this: "It made me realize that this is the next stage for me. Learning to see myself as I am, not as I was." I think that reconstructing HOW we see ourselves is a HUGE part of the journey, that's exciting and challenging at the same time. It's hard to let go of old insecurities and misconceptions about what we're capable of and to realize that we ARE great, and we are LIVING HEALTHY-- getting fit, feeling amazing, and LOOKING amazing. You are doing so well-- keep it up! You're a blessing to us all! emoticon

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ANGELONE11 11/7/2010 3:02PM

    Thanks so much for sharing! emoticon I have alot of weight to lose myself and reading the stories of others who have accomplished this goal gives me the motivation and encouragement to stay on track!!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/7/2010 2:21PM

    You have made great progress! We are ALL works in progress, as soon as we think we are finished, that is when the problems start anew. Keep talking to yourself, I do it too. "Am I hungry?" I will ask myself, and when I realize the answer is no, I get out of the kitchen and try to stop thinking of whatever had tempted me.
I don't think it'll ever be easy, but I do find myself craving salads, strawberries and especially grapes now. These are healthy options to the stuff I used to eat--potato chips (by the bagful) candy, cookies and cake!
I hit 199 lbs. this week from a high of 328 in July 2009. This was a huge milepost for me, but I know I'm not done and have to keep working and walking and eating healthy. With strong determination and the help of Spark People friends, I firmly believe we will both reach our goals and maintain them. That's my opinion, anyway, and I'm sticking to it!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/7/2010 2:20PM

    You have made great progress! We are ALL works in progress, as soon as we think we are finished, that is when the problems start anew. Keep talking to yourself, I do it too. "Am I hungry?" I will ask myself, and when I realize the answer is no, I get out of the kitchen and try to stop thinking of whatever had tempted me.
I don't think it'll ever be easy, but I do find myself craving salads, strawberries and especially grapes now. These are healthy options to the stuff I used to eat--potato chips (by the bagful) candy, cookies and cake!
I hit 199 lbs. this week from a high of 328 in July 2009. This was a huge milepost for me, but I know I'm not done and have to keep working and walking and eating healthy. With strong determination and the help of Spark People friends, I firmly believe we will both reach our goals and maintain them. That's my opinion, anyway, and I'm sticking to it!

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DYA177 11/7/2010 11:12AM

    GO GIRL!!! I have lost 72lbs down from 332 so I know exactly how you feel. EXACTLY. I even know ho wmuch calories i'm eating and if i went overboard that day.

lets's keep on sparking!!!!

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KMGREENWOOD 11/7/2010 10:38AM

    You give me hope. Thank you so much for succeeding and sharing it.

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KMGREENWOOD 11/7/2010 10:38AM

    You give me hope. Thank you so much for succeeding and sharing it.

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KMGREENWOOD 11/7/2010 10:37AM

    You give me hope. Thank you so much for succeeding and sharing it.

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MZRITA 11/7/2010 8:56AM

    Keep up the good work! Happy to meet you!

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KIYOSHI04 11/7/2010 8:22AM

    awesome job, you. way to go.

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BARBARAJ73 11/7/2010 7:51AM

    Good for you! I enjoy your blog and insight...
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JBMT08 11/7/2010 7:44AM

    This is so great! You are an inspiraton to me! Cant wait to say I am 75 lbs down too!!

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MARYMO22 11/7/2010 5:07AM

    I thouroughly enjoyed your blog....
I will lose a similar amout to you (when I get there) but I find even now I don't see the changes that have already happened - even though I look at the photos - everyone says how much better I look, but I can't really see it day to day....
I agree on the fast food thing, I don't crave it - in fact I crave veggies.... that's progress

Congratulations....
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CRAZYDH 11/6/2010 10:00PM

  What an awesome inspiration for someone like me just starting. congratulations!

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SASSYSUNFLOWER 11/6/2010 7:56PM

    Congratulations on the weight loss. I read blogs daily and am inspired by all of you who have lost weight already! I can't wait to be able to look back and see all of the changes I have made, both physically and mentally. I know what you mean about making the healthier choices. I have candy here at the house and at work, and it doesn't bother me one bit, because I know that I don't want it or need it. I have been keeping lots of fruits in the house to snack on. I am looking forward to my journey of changing my life and learning to live again!!!!! emoticon

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SLIMTHICK2 11/6/2010 7:09PM

    Lovely emoticon

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BETHV10 11/6/2010 5:38PM

    Congrats on the weight loss!

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ITZGOTIME 11/6/2010 12:51PM

    You are such an awesome person. Congratulations on ALL of your successes! You go girl !

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KATISCARLET 11/6/2010 12:29PM

    You are flippin' amazing! I really admire all your hard work and the strength and will that enabled it!

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Maple Pumpkin Pie

Thursday, November 04, 2010

Sorry I didn't get this up last night as promised! People are finally starting to plan their holiday parties and yesterday was nuts at work. Here it is!

Yield: 8 servings (serving size: 1 wedge)
Ingredients
Crust:
1 cup all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons sugar
1/8 teaspoon salt
1/4 cup chilled butter or stick margarine, cut into small pieces
3 1/2 tablespoons ice water
Cooking spray
Filling:
1/2 cup sugar
1/3 cup maple syrup
1 teaspoon ground ginger
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg
2 large eggs
1 cup evaporated fat-free milk
1 (15-ounce) can pumpkin
Preparation
To prepare crust, lightly spoon flour into a dry measuring cup; level with a knife. Combine the flour, 2 tablespoons sugar, and salt in a bowl; cut in butter with a pastry blender or 2 knives until mixture resembles coarse meal. Sprinkle surface with ice water, 1 tablespoon at a time; toss with a fork until moist and crumbly (do not form a ball).

Press mixture gently into a 4-inch circle on heavy-duty plastic wrap; cover with additional plastic wrap. Roll dough, still covered, to a 12-inch circle. Freeze 10 minutes or until plastic wrap can be easily removed.

Remove 1 sheet of plastic wrap; fit dough into a 9-inch pie plate coated with cooking spray. Remove top sheet of plastic wrap. Fold edges under; flute.

Preheat oven to 425░.

To prepare filling, beat 1/2 cup sugar and next 5 ingredients (1/2 cup sugar through eggs) at medium speed of a mixer until well-blended. Add milk and pumpkin; beat well. Pour into prepared crust. Bake at 425░ for 10 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 350░ (do not remove pie from oven); bake an additional 50 minutes or until set. Cool on a wire rack.
Calories 267 (25% from fat)
Fat:7.5g (sat 4.1g,mono 2.2g,poly 0.5g)
Protein:6.3g
Carbohydrate:44.5g
Fiber:2.6g
Cholesterol:72mg
Iron:2mg
Sodium:152mg
Calcium:129mg

This is a cooking light recipe. If you aren't already a fan of the magazine/website. Check it out. It is awesome.
Feel free to post your own favorite lightened or healthy holiday recipe! Let me know when you do! Lets make this a healthy and happy holiday season.

  
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GIRANIMAL 11/19/2010 2:29PM

    Oh, I love the maple syrup idea here! I just snagged like a dozen interesting dessert recipes this week from CookingLight.com. Love them! Thanks for sharing.

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TRACYZABELLE 11/5/2010 4:40AM

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 11/4/2010 11:54PM

    This looks like it will be really good and I need something to bring to Thanksgiving (at my uhh male companion's mom's house. eek!) And I'm psyched that it's low calorie! For a pie! haha
I think I might try to use half whole wheat pastry flour in the crust. Unless you've tried it and know if it did/didnt work out? Or maybe I should just make a couple variations. I'm sure I could find a few willing taste testers. emoticon

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BTRTHANEVA 11/4/2010 10:07PM

    OK. If I make this (and I WILL make this) it will be my breakfast, lunch and dinner for the day. (No whipped topping, though) Just me, myself and pumpkin pie.

Can't wait! Thanks for posting this, Ashley!
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REM-CYCLES 11/4/2010 8:38PM

    Thanks Ashley - looking forward to trying this :)

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HEALTHYONE2008 11/4/2010 3:25PM

    Thanks Ashley, this sounds great, must give it a try.!

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JO2TOM 11/4/2010 3:15PM

    Yum...gonna try it and get back to you.

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GREYPARK 11/4/2010 1:52PM

    Sounds really good. thanks. emoticon

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AMOHAME2 11/4/2010 11:31AM

    Thanks, this sounds really great!!

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 11/4/2010 9:43AM

    Thanks Ashley!

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JASPERANN 11/4/2010 8:31AM

    I have been craving Pumpkin Pie. I think I will make this and see how it tastes. =) Thanks so much!

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CLWALDRO 11/4/2010 8:24AM

    This sounds very good I am going to give it a try. thanks for sharing

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GIANTMICROBE 11/4/2010 8:21AM

    This looks great. Except I hate maple. And pumpkin. LOL

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My subconscious view of myself in a dream

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Last night I had a dream that I was out with some friends and we were at a Halloween party. In reality I don't even know any of these people. All my friends were really tall and laughing and I felt insecure, tiny and very left out even though they weren't purposefully making me feel that way. I had liked how I looked when I went to the party and then we came upon a mirror. They all looked gorgeous and I looked short, frumpy, very overweight and my hair was a mess. As I gazed in the mirror I felt instantly defeated and ashamed of what I look like. Then I woke up. It was unbelievably powerful. Have you ever heard of in Native American culture they have spirit dreams? That is what this felt like. My soul telling me something.
This is how I really see myself BUT NOT HOW OTHERS SEE ME. Why have I been torturing myself all this time? Our perception of ourselves is so different than the reality. Some of us see ourselves as more attractive or thin than we really are. Most I think see themselves like I do, worse than we truly are. I get so many positive messages and people telling me how much they love my writing. When will I truly believe that I am worthy? In so many social situations I feel like I don't belong, that I don't deserve to be there and as the weight is coming I am realizing it wasn't those around me who made me feel that way, it was me.
Yes, I was bullied as a child. Yes, I was abused by my father. I can not change those things but I can change letting those people bully me for the rest of my life. I am not that little girl anymore and I am done letting those memories haunt me and control who I am today.
We can be whomever we choose to be. Remember that. This life is yours, you have the choices. I decided to let the sad, shy, fat girl in the mirror move on because I have moved on. You can too. Do it with me.

  
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MAY1787 1/12/2011 7:15AM

    Great thoughts about spirit dreams. I totally believe in them too. I have had dreams like that. I have also had dreams that were very deja vu in the sense that I dream about something before it happens. Very wierd!
I used to have dreams about my teeth falling out. When you have a dream like that, it means that you have poor self esteem, but lately, now that I am eating healthier and have changed my lifestyle I rarely have a dream like that.

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DIVADOLL73 11/16/2010 2:41PM

    I'am with you Ashley we gone DO THIS!!!! emoticon

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BAMBAM87 11/5/2010 11:09PM

    To see yourself in your dream, is a reflection of how you act and behave in your waking life.�Consider what you are doing and how you are feeling in the dream for additional significance.

pretty nail on the head hey?

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MAIA2011 11/4/2010 6:30PM

    You are sweet and wonderful and my great wish is to go back in time and beat up everyone who has ever been unkind to you.

(Do the right thing and burn calories, too. It's a win-win.)

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PRETTYINPUNK_04 11/4/2010 2:27PM

    This blog was very insightful:) thanks!

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BRITCHES82 11/4/2010 12:46PM

    Awesome blog! I totally get the idea of perceiving yourself differently than everyone else does. I am always fearing that I look worse to people then I feel I am... which is pretty bad already. Keep your head up. You are doing awesome and you are incredibly insightful :)

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JENPOSS 11/3/2010 11:48AM

    I struggle with perception too. I have days where I still feel like the extremely skinny girl I used to be.. and then I have days where I feel like the obese girl I used to be. It's hard to get past the mental side of weight loss and believe in yourself. I just had this conversation last week with a guy that I run with weekly. He can see my weight loss.. so why can't I see what others see... I've even considered therapy. Which may be what I do when I reach my goal weight.. that is if I still have this mental block.



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REGID63 11/3/2010 11:26AM

  One day at work I was browsing SP because I had finished all that needed to be done that day....I was planning on looking up a new work out to switch up some exercises for one of my clients, instead I found myself an hour later still reading through your many Blog entries and feeling like I had made a new friend! I really enjoy your writing style and the raw honesty you display. It was an emotional rollercoaster for me as I read about your successes and struggles, victories and heart felt thoughts. I am so excited for you! Keep on going!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your life and being such an encouragement. emoticon

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HESMYWATERMELON 11/3/2010 8:14AM

    Wow thats one powerful dream- lucky you to wake up with such clarity!

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KHELMAN 11/2/2010 6:56PM

    emoticon very powerful you really know what to say to get peoples attention great blog

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MCSNYDER1 11/2/2010 4:59PM

    I do this to myself, Ashley, only when I'm awake! You see I AM the short, frumpy friend. All of my friends are tall and gorgeous. When I look in the mirror, I see a face that looks 25 years older than I am! It really bothers me. YOU, on the other hand, ARE young and gorgeous!!!

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KRAWRS 11/2/2010 4:08PM

    In our dreams, we often express what we "cannot" (or "could not") admit in real life.

Glad this made its way to your conscious thought. I feel the same way, in real life, as you did in your dream. I'd like to merge the two views (how I see myself vs. how others see me) in the near future.

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JOURNEY2DESTINY 11/2/2010 2:06PM

    The mind is your toughest opponent. It knows everything you do and how to twist it so that you see the same thing multiple ways. I understand your situation because it sounds so much like my own. I'm getting there too everyday, I'm a little stronger and a little wiser. It will get better.

Keep Sparkin

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BTRTHANEVA 11/2/2010 1:17PM

    You are moving past being the victim. You are becoming your own victorious woman and best friend! Congratulations for having the perseverence and awareness to take control of the only person on this earth that really matters - yourself.

For someone so young, you wise beyond your years. (mentally, that is... You're still a hot, young chickie!!!)

Great blog, Ashley.

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GREENSCRAPCAT 11/2/2010 1:12PM

    Great blog, very powerful!

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BADASSBLONDIE 11/2/2010 12:27PM

    "I am not that little girl anymore and I am done letting those memories haunt me and control who I am today. "

Extremely powerful.

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NUMD97 11/2/2010 12:17PM

    Outstanding. Simply outstanding. I'll add my vote to the others who have commented on your writing: You do do it well. And now you have it in writing as well! We can't all be wrong, can we?

I have seen that so much of this journey that we all are on, is truly about "us vs. ourselves" more than anything else. For whatever the reason or reasons, we allowed a lot of this to happen. And, likewise, we all have realized that it is time (high time, if you will) to discard this mantle of self-abuse and to live our lives as fully and as happily as we deserve.

Sure, I'll walk along side you as you continue on your quest. And others will also follow in step.

All the best,

Nu

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AUNTIELES53 11/2/2010 11:56AM

    thanks for the blog i LOVED it and i'm with you :)

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FRIZGIRL 11/2/2010 11:29AM

    This is a really powerful, and revealing blog! What a great step in changing your self-perception and succeeding in your journey!

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KARENIN1DERLAND 11/2/2010 11:27AM

    It's amazing how powerful our subconscious minds can be. Great job with taking control of YOUR life...
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FLWRCHLD97 11/2/2010 11:18AM

    Thank you for posting this and being honest. I will join you!!! emoticon

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RHONDA_11 11/2/2010 11:01AM

    Wow, very insightful and true! Thank you emoticon

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SKYEPHOENIX 11/2/2010 10:54AM

    "Our perceptions of ourselves IS our reality. " QFT.

I was bullied a LOT throughout school. One of the key things for me to get past it, was to realize a very simple truth--we are the stars of our OWN drama. Meaning, people (ones you don't know) don't think about you for more than the 30 seconds to a couple of minutes they might chat with you. Then they continue on in their own head, thinking in relation to themselves. And yes, if you perceive yourself as awkward and not fitting in, that's what they'll pick up on--from you. Not because they actually think that.
I realized how little people actually thought about me, when I observed my own reaction to people throughout the day. :)

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HEALTHYONE2008 11/2/2010 10:51AM

    emoticonblog Ashley, you sure know how to put your thoughts in words. Something that we all need to remember "We all are beautiful" and we all can be what we want to be. Always remember this.

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MAMADWARF 11/2/2010 10:10AM

    Great dream interpretation, Ashley. Very powerful dream and I am so glad you took the message that was being sent to you. I am glad you are ready to let the old you go cause the you I know is fantastic and worthy and loving and strong and beautiful and talented and loving and sweet and honest and brilliant.
Basically, pretty awesome.

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MEGSFITNESS 11/2/2010 10:03AM

    I would've cried had that dream been mine but I'm so glad you saw the message that you were supposed to see-that you already ARE beautiful, worthy and even more--you're worth while.

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MOMOF2RUNSAGAIN 11/2/2010 9:58AM

    Awesome blog! So, so true!!!

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UNSTOPPABLEJEN 11/2/2010 9:56AM

    Wow, that was powerfully written, and VERY true!

I have to tell you this, because I think you will appreciate the irony in it. When I first stumbled across your sparkpage, I saw not only all of the progress that you had made, but also how GORGEOUS you are, and I thought, "She will never want to friend me! I look like a fat troll!" But I subscribed to your blog and the more I read your posts, the more that I realized that even though you are beautiful, you are going through the same struggles that I am, so I finally friended you. It is ironic that you see actually yourself as unattractive!

I had tears in my eyes when I read the end of your blog where you said, "We can be whomever we choose to be. Remember that. This life is yours, you have the choices. I decided to let the sad, shy, fat girl in the mirror move on because I have moved on. You can too. Do it with me. " I think I'm ready to join you, Ashley!

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FUZZY1TOO 11/2/2010 9:47AM

    Ashley, as usual, you are very insightful. I have been struggling with this for years and have just recently....in the last week or so, in fact....started to get past that 'fat chick' image in my head.
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KARLI7707 11/2/2010 9:46AM

    I totally 100% agree with you! Good job looking at things that are hard to deal with... it's the only way to get through it!

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TADTURC 11/2/2010 9:45AM

    very powerful blog. I admire those that can put their feelings into words. Im glad you're there.

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ANGELOO29 11/2/2010 9:39AM

    Very positive message! We all have negative things in our past and people that have hurt us. Making the DECISION to change our thinking and move forward is necessary. Good for you! :)

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AMOHAME2 11/2/2010 9:37AM

    I struggle with this every day. Seeing myself as the "fat girl" still, when I know nobody else sees me that way. I know it's going to take some time to get past it but I really do think it'll happen! It has without a doubt been the hardest part of this weight loss journey, I'm sure for a lot of people. I remember hearing about a study that was done once, women on a beach were asked to point out the model who most resembled themselves in terms of size and shape. Some overwhelming percentage chose a model who was, in fact, quite a bit larger. As they say, we are definitely our own harshest critics!

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GIANTMICROBE 11/2/2010 9:34AM

    There was this one time I'd been overdoing it with food, and I had a dream that I was kneeled over a trough, snarfing cake with my face, no hands. The subconscious is absolutely amazing.

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SLFRISBEY 11/2/2010 9:34AM

    You are a strong beautiful woman! I tend to have the opposite happen in dreams, I am a hot sexy chick and then I wake up and I am sad. I know that I can get there but it's so discouraging. Time to hit the elliptical again tonight!

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Sick all weekend :(

Sunday, October 31, 2010

This past week has been pretty stressful. In addition to all that I told you in my blog about my family the company I work for had an enormous 3000 person event on Thursday which means all of us, no matter what we do, are expected to pitch in. Which is fine, I like to do manual labor sometimes. It feels good to work hard. Well I was feeling really off all week. Just exhausted beyond any normal level so I had a feeling I had something coming on. I was literally going home and going to sleep at 6PM every night. During a meeting with a new client on Tuesday night I broke out into cold sweets and almost passed out. It was embarrassing and it scared me. All of this lead up to Thursday afternoon, just hours before the event, my head filling up and throbbing like an overfull balloon. I knew I was in trouble. I made it through the event and most of work on Friday but by 3PM it was all I could do to sit at my desk so I went home. My fiance was home and awake, which is a rarity considering how much he works. I was happy because I thought we could watch movies and snuggle. I rented him the Thomas Crown Affair, which he loved (almost all movies in English are new to him so I can rent old movies all the time), and Sex in the City 2 for me. I felt like it was a bit too long and the Middle East portion was pretty lame. They could have cut that whole part out and it would have been better. I also think they have pretty much beat the dead horse on that series so I hope they go out gracefully. I love my fiance a lot and he is good at most things but not at taking care of me when I am sick. For some reason he always thinks I am exaggerating how bad I feel, forget that when he gets so much as sniffle he wants to be babied and curls up on the couch making his sick face for DAYS. When I asked him to make me something to eat because I was hungry he ordered chinese food. This was one of the few times I wished I actually had a can of soup in the house. I never buy canned soups. Too much sodium. I had some rice and protein and it worked out fine. He knows I don't like fried and greesy items so he made good choices.
Saturday I thought I was better in the morning, colds are good at tricking you, so we went out to run some errands and pick up groceries. By the end of groceries I was so tired I could barely keep moving. We came home. I forgot to get my soup, duh, and I was bummed when I got home. We spent the rest of the evening again curled up watching Ironman 2 and some Colombian shows on TV. I drugged myself on nyquil and slept until noon this morning. Drove him to work and then slept until 6PM. It really bites to wait all week for the weekend and then spend it in bed sick.
Our 3 year anniversary is next week! Yeah. I can't believe it has been that long already. I feel like we have always been together but that the time has flown by so fast at the same time. We decided last night to cancel our reservations at this fancy french place we had picked and to go out for sushi. I introduced him to sushi when he first moved here and he has loved it ever since. It seems like a more us kind of dinner and it should be fun. Nice way to celebrate.
Hopefully I will feel better soon. I did realize that being sick and having no appetite, a lot of my eating is boredom and stress, not physical hunger. I plan on focusing on hunger cues a lot more now. I hope you all had a safe and happy Halloween weekend. I managed to escape candy free. We will see about the office tomorrow!

  
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SIMPLE_TAILOR 11/22/2010 8:48AM

    Congrats on that anniversary!!

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BELLALUCIA 11/3/2010 1:17PM

    Feel better love!

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KRAWRS 11/2/2010 4:06PM

    Hope you're feeling better! Guys always think we're exagerating when we're sick, even though we wait til the last possible second to even admit to sickness, much less halt what we're doing to take care of ourselves ... but got forbid they have a headache or the sniffles! Stop the world! hahahaha.

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SHERRYLHBB 11/2/2010 8:51AM

    What great insight you pulled out of a crummy situation! I hope you're feeling yourself again soon. And happy anniversary!

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TRACYZABELLE 11/2/2010 5:06AM

    I hope you feel better too-- Get SF ice pops and maybe you will feel better as well... CHicken broth or even get fromt he chinese restaurant- soup-- Hot and sour is good to make you sweat~

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LJOHN44 11/1/2010 10:02PM

    I hope you feel better. Drink liquids and get a lot of rest. Don't over do it too fast. I hope you are in tip top shape for your anniversary!

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BADASSBLONDIE 11/1/2010 6:20PM

    Feel better! *hugs*

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PRETTYINPUNK_04 11/1/2010 5:30PM

    Awe I had a rough week too:( hope your feeling better. That's exciting about your anniversary! And cambells has low sodium soup=)

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UNSTOPPABLEJEN 11/1/2010 2:51PM

    AWE...I hope you get well soon. Happy Anniversary!!!

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MEGSFITNESS 11/1/2010 2:07PM

    Men wanna be coddled but don't know how to coddle! lol.. poor girl... I hope you're feeling better by now. Happy Halloween!! And Happy early anniversary.
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ALYSSAMICHELLE5 11/1/2010 11:01AM

    I hope that you are feeling better today! Happy early Anniversary!

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HAZELDREAMS 11/1/2010 8:59AM

    Get well soon! We rented Iron Man 2 a few weeks ago and couldn't make it through the movie.. uggh.. Prince of Persia was on our list this weekend and while it was slow going and drawn out. it did have a fabulous ending. Also watched a kids movie and a zombie movie. fun!

I hope you get the rest you need and deserve... Oh and men are always like that.. I have a hard time with my hubby because he has MS.. and no matter what I get .. cold, or the outpatient surgery I had in Sept.. nothing is like what he deals with. sighs.. Gets old fast!!

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ALICALI 11/1/2010 2:02AM

    Hey Ashley, I'm so sorry to hear how rotten you've been feeling. If I was there I would make you some nice pumkin/northern bean/mushroom soup, using LOW SODIUM ORGANIC chicken broth, with lots of garlic, a little curry, shallots and italian seasoning, then I'd puree it nice and smooth with my immersion blender, then you could sip it from you favorite mug. Take care girlfriend, I'll be thinking about you. emoticon

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HOPERISING 11/1/2010 1:02AM

    emoticon Hope you get to feeling better! I was sick all week too... and definately decided that the nausea and vomiting were just viral.. because my son just threw up all over me minutes ago. Hence the reason I am up on spark people at 1AM before my surgery! Oh well, i figure I'll get some time to catch up on my sleep later! And as for the man in your life, you have to TEACH them how to care for you... most men aren't born with that gene!

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REM-CYCLES 10/31/2010 11:39PM

    Sure hope you are feeling better soon - hey, if you have a "Trader Joes" nearby, look in the freezer section for "Tom Yam Soup" - a Thai soup that is SOOOooo good!

it is in the frozen section, it is in a greenish bag. I put an entry in my blog


Hydrate - do all the stuff you know for getting well - hope you're better real soon.

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MAMADWARF 10/31/2010 10:14PM

    oh yea, happy anniversary!!!

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MAMADWARF 10/31/2010 10:14PM

    well I hope you feel better soon. It is a guy thing to be like that. My sister's boyfriend told her once that his sunburn was worse than childbirth!! lol. Im proud of you for learning something about yourself, even while you are sick! take care of yourself!!

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SUNSHINE1234 10/31/2010 10:10PM

    My Dh and I had sinus infections at the same time and all he did was complain for 3 days.I finally told him to knock it off, we weren't dying, the doctor said my lungs were much worse than his, do you see me carrying on like you, lol. By the way, we have been married for 40 years, so , don't expect them to change. i hope that you are feeling better

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MAIA2011 10/31/2010 9:44PM

    Your fiance and my husband are the SAME person! (Not literally, we aren't sister wives or anything like that.)

When I can't walk because of plantar fasciitis he's like hurry up and walk it off. Meanwhile, he has been moaning and crying for days with a sore throat and I haven't heard a single cough or sneeze. Still, I'm putting blankets on him and rubbing his feet and bringing him hot chocolate and cooking all his favorite foods...hmm, I am starting to see why he is "sick" all the time.

The movie thing is AWESOME! He grew up in Belize without TV (or electricity for that matter) so I have introduced him to everything from Top Gun to Back to the Future to Breakfast Club and BEYOND. It's a total cheese-fest all day everyday! Also introduced him to grilled cheese. Now, THAT'S a classic.

Hope you feel better soon!

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SHAWFAN 10/31/2010 8:47PM

    I'm sorry you were sick. Hope you are feeling better this week and for your anniversary.

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MCSNYDER1 10/31/2010 8:22PM

    I think most men act the way your fiance acts when their love is sick! They just can't handle taking care of us the way we take care of them!!! I'm sure there are some who can, but I've never met any of them!!!!!
I'm sorry you were sick.

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AMOHAME2 10/31/2010 8:18PM

    Take good care of yourself!

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    emoticon emoticon Take care of yourself....

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HEALTHYONE2008 10/31/2010 7:59PM

    Sure hope that you are feeling better. I went through the same thing about 2 weeks ago. Started on a Friday and went until Thursday. Chills and just week all over. It sure was the pits.

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CARILOUIE 10/31/2010 7:49PM

    Bleh... I feel a little something coming on, too... and you're right, colds are very tricky.
I hope you feel better soon!

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Read this: "Should fatties get a room?"

Thursday, October 28, 2010

A blog with this title was published by a Marie Claire writer this week.

www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-
blog/overweight-couples-on-television


Here is an article about the fury and outrage her article created. I am happy to see so many people standing up against this kind of ignorance.
www.shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/c
ontroversy-over-fatties-sparks-apology
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If you google the subject there are lots of articles about it.

  
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DIANEG33 11/6/2010 11:30PM

  This is an incredibly sad and ill-informed article. I'm new to Spark People and to the journey to get to the weight I want and need to be - but I'm doing it with the love of people (many of the fit and trim size) who are cheering me on and want me to succeed, and will love me whether I do or not. Obesity is a disease, but it is also a social taboo. The fear of obesity is seen in many teens who face the challenges of bulimia and anorexia. I respect those individualswho embrace, care for, and share their lives with the people who are facing the over-weight and obesity challenge. With so many of our children in the US and Canada facing obesity challenges, this type of writing will only destroy their self-esteem as they realize they have to choose to be healthier. Move, eat healthier, but love each other enough to realize that it is hard and we are worthy human beings regardless of our weight.

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BRAINYBLONDE5 11/3/2010 12:34PM

    wow. I read this and was disguisted with marie clare. they are never getting my money ever again. this show was actually funny for the few minutes i did get to see! people come in all shapes & sizes & it doesnt make it right or wrong. healthy is key. thanks for opening my eyes to this though

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LISSIEONE 11/2/2010 10:00AM

    Having suffered from an eating order herself I think the Author probably has a VERY skewed view on obese people. Does that mean that her article on "fatties" was warranted? No, but it allows one to understand where such hate comes from. It has nothing to do with people who are obese, and more to do with her altered perception of weight in general. I personally was not offended by the article, I could care less what some random writer thinks about obese people.

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MAIA2011 10/31/2010 8:44PM

    This controversy has left me bemused. I have been obese in my life and overweight as well as the low side of normal weight though never underweight. I have some compassion for the author of the original article because I have never felt the self-loathing that she so clearly feels. In fact, I love fat people and think they are adorable including my smoking hot self. I love thin ones, too, (particularly my husband and my size 0 sister).

Also, I like the Mike and Molly show because I like to see people in love of all shapes and sizes. Expressions of love are not disgusting.

I hate to say it but I believe she has the right to express her pathetic misguided opinion. I'm just glad I don't have to live in her head.

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OCEANS241 10/29/2010 11:26AM

  Amen to that, NATF...she never would have issued any sort of apology if people didn't threaten to boycott the magazine. I think it's awful how her editor is standing behind the original article, saying that the writer is known for being provocative. Way to use a word with a more positive connotation than RUDE. If she wanted to write about this topic, she could have easily taken a different spin on it and at least left out the word "fatty". It's people like this that make being obese a daily struggle. I beat myself up enough, I don't need this skinny biotch giving people more ammo. Ugh!

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BEEBARF 10/29/2010 5:43AM

    The controversy has reached this side of the pond too.

If we substitute the words "black" or "Jewish" or "gay" for "fat" it really shows up her downright prejudice. And as for the "some of my best friends are" defence - it never, ever washes.

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DTMMLF 10/29/2010 5:38AM

    That Marie Claire blog incensed me. And I wrote to the head of PR at Hearst Magazines: jkleiman@hearst.com...and told them so!

It would not surprize me that there are likely no "FAT" people employed at Marie Claire But what about it's parent company - Hearst Communications and the many other magazine's they distribute like O-Oprah, Red Book, Good Housekeeping, Popular Mechanics? What range of body sizes do their readerships include? If the Marie Claire staff blogger were writing this for any of these other Hearst magazines...I'm sure this blog in this 'tone" would have NEVER seen the light of day.

Thanks for your blog!

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CNIANE 10/29/2010 4:07AM

    The best way to show displeasure is to never buy their magazine again or wait to purchase their magazine when they start printing articles about healthy weight and body image. These magazines have an air of thin superiority and meanness towards overweight people in both their content and advertising. I don't read them and I don't spend my money on them because they are not representative of the majority of people in the world. Shame on them and don't purchase their magazine. The dollar rules and you have purchasing power.

Thanks for posting this. These people are vapid, ignorant troglodytes with no idea of what reality really is...

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CAROLYN1ALASKA 10/29/2010 12:43AM

    Thanks for sharing this.
Some people need to learn to think before they write or speak. She sure doesn't deserve the job she is holding down.

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OBURRELL 10/28/2010 11:55PM

    I read this today and am glad that so many people were incensed about it. Obesity is not all in someone's mind and it's not as simple as people think to lose the weight. I don't understand why people think it's okay to [ick on bigger sized people. Wouldn't it be funny if she does develop a thyroid problem? Then she would see how easy it is to lose weight...

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TRACEYMOMOF3 10/28/2010 11:53PM

    Thank you for sharing. I like some others cannot believe she still has a job. I have never seen the show she was talking about. But would like to.

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LEXIE63 10/28/2010 7:12PM

    They started to show Mike and Molly over here a couple of weeks ago, and I love it! The main characters are wonderful. The humour is real, their struggles are real, and their anxieties are real.
The moment during their bowling date, where Mike pulls Molly to him and kisses her for the first time was one of the most romantic moments I've seen on a sitcom in a very long time. It was beautiful!
Hugs,
Lex xxx
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FLWRCHLD97 10/28/2010 3:11PM

    I am surprised the writer still has a job...

But, maybe she did this on purpose too, they're getting free publicity...

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PROPMAN1 10/28/2010 2:35PM

  amazing, isn't it that people who are 'supposed' to know better are actually rather dumb at times. The stuff that comes out of their mouths confirms it!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 10/28/2010 1:37PM

    The only reason that woman apologized is because of the crap storm she found herself in and then used an eating disorder to excuse her behavior. I don't think so. Shows hows ugly she is on the inside and quite frankly, a bully. We all have plenty of judgments in our minds that we never say outloud or put out there for public consumption. It's called decency and self control.

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AMANDAWEYRICH 10/28/2010 1:12PM

    Thank you for sharing this. People out there are very mean. Yeah I love that show, it's funny. :)

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MYREALANA 10/28/2010 1:07PM

    Wow.

Just...

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She wants "Fatties" to stay out of sight, huh?

Well, I wish stupid people would stop talking and writing blogs.

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NINJA_SMOO 10/28/2010 1:01PM

  Thank you for posting this. Her blog, the comments to it, her apology and all the other hub bub around it is a very interesting insight to where people stand on this issue. Totally insensitive of her. But (and I'm not saying what she wrote is OK) I have read a few maybe not completely sensitive blogs and comments to those blogs on THIS site where people have said 'It's your blog - write what you want. If they don't want to read it, they don't have to.' Just my two cents. Anyway, thanks again for posting.

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STASKER 10/28/2010 11:55AM

  A new talk show called The Talk featured this article yesterday. So incredibly hurtful and ignorant!! The women on the panel (of differing shapes and sizes) really laid into the author. I read that she wrote a sincere apology but that does not take away the hurt she caused with what she wrote. Some people will never be able to understand or accept that everyone is different and everyone deserves to be accepted and loved for who they are and not what they look like.

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MRE1956 10/28/2010 11:46AM

    When you think about the type of mag that MC is and who it caters to, this is absolutely no surprise, sad to say.....

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Good to know that people are standing up to this!

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SAMI199 10/28/2010 11:45AM

    I am sad too say I was not surprised by this article.It has been my personal opinion for a long time that "Fatties" are the last group of people that it ia politically correct to mock,harass & yes,hate.It is everywhere-movies-magazines-t.v.-R>now ,we are going to be the target with the new healthcare stuff. Some,yes,very thin newsanchor with her own primetime show goes off on a rant weekly about the Evils of Obesity-&
those of us who choose to be this way.I've heard talk shows about taking the children of obese parents away-stating "Child Abuse" They are serious & I am FRIGHTENED.Of course, she really does feel the way she said about FAT people-she just didn't like being called on it. I do not feel I am over-sensitive.

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TINA5318 10/28/2010 10:50AM

    wow. wow. wow. I can't believe that was allowed to be printed. The comments and her half-baked apology lead me to believe that the problem is her, not the show.

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JOANOFSPARK 10/28/2010 10:50AM

    Wow...I am amazed or should be that something that vitriolic and hateful toward 'morbidly obese' people got through the editing process, but then again, I am not. I've put up with similar snide comments, most of my adult life, even when I was not, looking back, fat at all, but just curvy. I am glad that she apologized, but not sure if it is actually heartfelt or not, but that is her problem. I choose to ignore what she has both written and said, and get on with my life and become healthier. If I gross her out walking down the street, then she can just turn her head, because I Do not intend to live my life, trying to avoid being seen by people who cannot stand the sight of me. If they don't like what they see, just turn their heads. I will not let their snide verbal bullying ruin my life or affect how I feel about myself.



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HEALTHYASHLEY 10/28/2010 10:31AM

    I disagree that someone has the right to spread ignorance. If she hates fat people, fine, but she shouldn't have the right to hurt people with her opinion. If this article was about how she hated Jewish people or African Americans it would never have been allowed to be published but because it is about fat people it is ok? Ignorance is ignorance and that magazine should be ashamed. Also, her apology is BS. It is a ploy to cover up the damage that was done and garner more attention for herself and their magazine.

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MCSNYDER1 10/28/2010 10:28AM

    I saw this on the Today Show and just absolutely could not believe it! While I agree that we are all entitled to our opinions, this is an outrage!!!

Obesity and Sexual Orientation seem to be fair game for whatever hothead wants to spout off!!! Remember the 50s and 60s????? Black Americans were attacked on a daily basis--verbally and physically! Today we wouldn't even consider such ridiculous behavior!!! Not only is it "politically incorrect"--it's a moral outrage!!!!!

Stupidity ran rampant in those decades. Apparently it still does. Shame on anyone who behaves in such a manner and shame also on anyone who defends it!!!!! My mama always taught me--"if you can't say anything nice, just don't say anything at all"! I'm 53 and I still honor that!!!

Thanks for posting this! You beat me to it!!!!

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ARCHIMEDESII 10/28/2010 10:19AM

    I was reading about this on google news and posted a link to the article in the Spark Cafe. I gotta tell you, I was shocked that a writer would post a blog of that kind. Okay, I know that we have first amendment rights and they can say whatever they like or can they ? I do feel that it's true that overweight people are the last people everyone can make fun of and get away with it.

I read a reply on another forum and someone said,"how would people feel about the article if the words overweight/obese person were swapped with homosexual ?

I think what makes the article so shocking is the level of hostility towards someone who's overweight. Maura says how disgusted she is whenever she sees an obese person walk across the room. She doesn't feel she has a problem ? Obviously she has some very serious weight issues of her own.

I suppose the question is,"do you think more people might feel like her ?" Personally, I'd like to think we don't judge people based on their looks, sex, religion, etc... but, that blog does make a person wonder. Is this how some people feel ?

Thought provoking indeed.




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HEYBUTT 10/28/2010 10:11AM

    Marie Claire (at least its online version) is notorious for drumming up controvery through fat bashing. About a month or so ago they had an article mixing it up with some food bloggers (claiming the food bloggers perpetuate disfunctional eating).

More than the size-ism, I'm offended by the poor quality of the writing in general. And I'm irked that the question ("is there a place for fat folks on t.v.?") is blatantly ignored. I find that topic to be very interesting and would love to see an INTELLIGENT article about it instead of one low rent blogger trying to be "out there" then hiding behind the veil of "I had an eating disorder" and issuing a "sorry you were offended" un-pology.

Bottom line: Marie Claire (print and electronic versions) aren't worth the time it takes to read them. It's a shame that their sh*t stirring gets them the level of attention it does while ignoring the TRUE issue, size-ism.

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VALEO75 10/28/2010 9:58AM

  I have to play devil's advocate here (not saying I agree with the intensity of the authors feelings or expressions, but...) isn't he/she entitled to his or her opinion?

Stuff like this should not be a surprise to anyone who is overweight. We get treated differently every single minute of every day, whether people realize they are treating us differently or it is just subconscious. We get paid less in the workplace for being overweight, we get chosen less, etc. etc.

Instead of nonsense like this getting to me I use it as fuel to keep me going. The reality is that you can't rid the world of people who this this way, nor should you want to. What other situation would make it possible for people to practice tolerance, compassion, and acceptance.

I say if opinions like this bother you, use them to your benefit. Use them to drive you towards your goals and then use the for something greater than your own goals. Fight these opinions by being that person who has been there and is now doing something to help others, while at the same time exhibiting those qualities of tolerance and compassion which you hope others to adopt. Attitudes are contagious, so if you want a particular attitude, perception or judgement to become norm, you must pay it forward.

On a personal opinion side note, I am glad to see that author wrote an apology for the way in which he or she expressed their opinion. It was a very harsh way to express an opinion. However, I don't fault the author at all for being truthful. Truth can hurt, but it sure is one hell of a motivator!

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TURBID 10/28/2010 9:28AM

    I don't think it excuses anything (most especially the Marie Claire staff for publishing that blog) but she is a recovering anorexic.. so she clearly is totally warped about body image. She's just a sick lady. But yeah, her comments were absurd and I can't believe it took a backlash for her to go back and realize that what she said was messed up.

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RACHELLY0724 10/28/2010 9:19AM

    Wow! Thank you for sharing - not sure that I would have known about this -

As one commenter had said, I can't believe that got through an editorial process - unless with these blogs they're just able to spout off whatever they want with absolutely zero filter (clearly the case) - Marie Claire deserves whatever hardships may come for allowing something like that to come - and the writer.....just UGH!

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TREASURINGLIFE 10/28/2010 9:02AM

    Ugh...ignorance is NOT bliss! Ignorance hurts. Period.

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ERIN4771 10/28/2010 8:58AM

    i read about this yesterday....it's amazing how many people out there still do not have a filter on their mouths.....i stopped subscribing to marie claie a few years ago, and will NEVER go back, this just sealed it......

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KARVY09 10/28/2010 8:54AM

    EMM1116 wrote a great blog on this last night!

Comment edited on: 10/28/2010 8:55:19 AM

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MRSSIBRAT 10/28/2010 8:52AM

    I was jUST watching about this on the today show.

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