Tuesday, May 13, 2014
By the way if you didn't say the title in a deep Viking style voice I suggest that you try again. It's ok, I can wait. Really, I think you should yell out "Victory," it will help you feel even better than you already do. And no I'm not going to take " but my boss is looking at me weird" as an excuse. Granted that's probably because I'm used to having people look at me that way. After all we can choose to live our lives safe or fabulous. And I aim to always choose fabulous.
Now onto the reason I titles this victory. It wasn't just to see if anyone would yell it out loud, but that's absolutely a perk. It's because I am going to start my mini goals. However, I think mini victories sound way cooler. So, I'm going with that. Besides, sometimes I write down goals and think of them being attached to a certain time frame. For example, I will accomplish this goal in a day, by the end of this month, before the next full moon, you get the idea. The problem is that it doesn't always according to plan. Therefore I've decided to work toward victories. There's no timeline. Once I've accomplished the task, ooo wait "the mission should you choose to accept it" then I will move to the next victory.
(In case you haven't noticed by now I'm kind of a geek)
This goal has nothing to do with food, diet or exercise. It isn't even about tossing out foods, scales or joining a club. All I am going to do is write what I envision my future self being. There is no date attached to this future self because there are some things out of my control and also I want to become this person for more than a day. So here is my vision for my futures self:
I am toned, trim and lean. I eat foods which give me energy and vitality. My memory and thoughts are clear. I have enough energy to play with my kids and spend time with my husband at night. I don't feel guilt about food or sneak off and eat in secret. Instead I enjoy the flavors of food and the company of the people I am eating with.
When I need comfort, I pamper myself with a bath, book, show, time with a friend or taking time to create something.
I am patient with those around me and withhold judgement. Instead of comparing myself to others. I embrace their unique gifts and talents. I cheer others on and am charitable out of love rather than obligation. Each day I exude gratitude and joy for my life.
I am creative and take time everyday to write,and/or draw. I accomplish the projects I am passionate in and learn to say no to those which aren't correct uses of my time at the moment or at all depending on the project)
This is my goal. To live each day thinking "how would the fit, holy and novelist version of myself handle this?"
Victory 1-knowing the direction that I want to be heading: being a holy, fit woman who writes novels.
Woo Hoo, goal achieved and I didn't even break a sweat. Although I've never seen sweat actually get broken. You'd think perspiration would be more flexible than than. But I digress.
Do you have a few plans you are heading toward? What would your future self look like and act like? Would he or she totally rock a fez? I'm just kidding. I think we both know that the answer is yes. Fezzes are cool.
Sunday, May 11, 2014
...oh wait the song actually goes "I've been down so long," oh well close enough. I'm coming back to blog. It's been ages, but consistency has never been my strong suit. Hmm maybe it'd be nice to have a strong suit and go all 'Iron Man' in it, but I digress.
It seems like Mother's Day is as good of a Day as any to hop back onto the SparkPeople Wagon. Although it probably is more of walking along side the wagon. That seems healthier.
Why is Mother's Day a good day to regain my fitness commitments? Well, this is a day that talks about respecting moms. I can't say that I've been particularly respectful of myself lately. There are too many times when I have skipped exercising because the kids wanted to do something else or made it hard for me to go to the gym. Then there are all of the things I've eaten for temporary comfort which lead to feeling crappy, guiltily and then the cycle continues.
I know we are all here dealing with personal demons. It's so hard for me to admit that they do have a strong hold on me, I am overwhelmed and need help. Paradoxically, I am great at saying that I have no trouble accepting help when it's offered to save myself a lecture.
Have you ever done the same? Yes, I am well aware of the healthy habits I should be incorporating into my life. All of that information is categorized happily in my prefrontal cortex, (executive part of my brain) but when the demons hit hard that part of my brain is highjacked. It happens to everyone. Then the lovely fight, flight or freeze response kicks in. For me I usually "hide" by binging.
So, my goal is to reduce the amount of times that I get to that point. To recognize the storm clouds before the typhoon hits and get out with breathing techniques, meditation or other methods of self care.
I also have an anterior motive for this blog. For a long time I've wanted a health book or website with lots of little goals I could follow. While I've come across a few lists here and there, I've never come across exactly what I have been looking for. Therefore I've decided to make one myself and start blogging my progress here.
I've read that the key to losing weight or making healthy goals is to make little changes each week, but then the same articles or books usually only toss out two or three ideas. That won't cut it for me. I need it broken down in ridiculously small steps.
What about you? What helps you commit to goals? Does it drive you nuts when people tell you how to loose weight or stop a habit when you didn't ask for their opinion? What super power would you have if you could? What? They can't all be weigh related questions.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
Day 2 of the challenge. Yes, technically yesterday would have been day 2, but I'd rather not blog on Sundays. It is a day if rest after all. (Although I wouldn't hold me up to the whole 'I don't blog on Sundays thing,' since I'm maddeningly inconsistent)
Today the challenge was to let my hair be 'au natural' and let it be. This meant no products, irons, curlers (although that'd be silly in my case) or anything like that. I imagine shampoo and conditioner would be exempt.
This was an easy and fun one for me because I don't do much with my hair. It's naturally curly. It gets tangled easily, but also does it's own thing. The ,purpose for today was not to hair bash. I don't know why, but saying hair bash makes me smile. Possibly because it sounds like ki-bosh. Possibly because it's late, I'm tired and everything seems a little bit funnier than normal. So if you don't get my humor, by all means try again around 2am. True it probably still won't seem funny, but it might just seem a little less lame. Though I make no promises.
So, what's your favorite thing about your hair? Is there a style or hair do you've always wanted to try? I want to do the top bun that looks like a bow. It seems cute. True it was probably geared more toward the 7 year old crowd, but why should they have all the fun. They already get all the cool shoes that glow when they walk.
Saturday, November 23, 2013
I wrote 10 answers to Jame's Lipton's questions and my next thing is going to be a 10 day challenge. So is 10 my favorite number? No...actually it's 6. Although that's neither here nor there.
More than a year ago I did a "10 day Recovery challenge." I enjoyed it and it helped me reflect on who I am. Since I haven't done it in a while, and because the challenge is revamped each year, I am going to do it again.
Care to join me? You can get a spiffy PDF on https://recapturingbeauty.byu.edu/challeng
Don't care to join me? That's all right. I promise it won't hurt my feelings.
Firstest, the motivations quotes from the site:
“A woman’s relationship with her body is the most important relationship she’ll ever have. The body is, quite literally, our vehicle for being—for giving, for loving, for moving, for feeling—and if it doesn’t work, it’s fairly certain nothing in our lives will work either.”
Diana K. Roesch
“It is not only possible but natural for each of us to love our bodies, to find ourselves beautiful—no matter how different, disabled, old, or battle-scarred we may be.”
Harriet Goldhor Lerner
Secondly, the challenge:
Cover the edge of my mirror with nice/possitive comments about myself.
At first I tried sticky notes, but they fell off. I decided to use my eyeliner to write motivational phrases and mantra's on the borders of my mirror. My 9 year old saw me doing this and was naturally curious.
"I'm writing some motivational phrases on the mirror," I said. There was a long pause as the watched me write a few words down. For a moment I wondered if she was going to read over the words or even ask me a question about it. Instead she continued to stand behind me for a little longer.
"O.....K......, that's weird," she said. Then went off to play with her friend. I couldn't help but smile.
Here are some things I wrote:
"My body is a temple"
"My words are kind"
"Thank you body for what you help me accomplish"
The mantra I'm going to keep repeating in my head is that "I eat and act with self respect"
I left space on my mirror for other motivational phrases as well as quotes. I might have to use paper and tape for quotes though. My poor eyeliner can only handle so many words. Spared no expense at the lofty price of $0.99 I might add.
What mantra would you write down? Do you have any favorite phrases?
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