Thursday, October 24, 2013
So for the most part I have been able to pound out an essay sometimes two for my English homework. But for some reason this essay that is due next week it just kicking my butt. I think I might be trying to hard and am having a mental block.
Also I think I might be a bit on edge because we haven't gotten our last essay back and I am not sure what I need to work on to improve this essay from the last one.
I should just not think about it for a day or two and then go back and look over my notes and what I have so far. Maybe something will hit me than.
Friday, September 13, 2013
School year is here, asking if anyone would please read my essay and send me some feed back
What Were You Thinking
Budget reforms in schools often leave sports out in the cold; fortunately there are other channels for athletes to get their fill of play. Contrasting to school sports, where most times the coach doubles as a teacher, these outside programs depend on volunteers to help make it happen. But who are these volunteers devoting their time and energy to ensure the season takes place? Most often the parents of the participants are the ones stepping up into these positions. With various reasons to coach your child’s team, there are just as many, if not more, not to coach. The biggest reason not to; is the slippery slope that is to be had in maintaining a coach / player relationship on the field and a parent / child relationship off the field and not getting the two blurred. In the best interest of ones’ mental wellbeing, sitting on the side lines ought to be the first and maybe only reasonable choice in this matter.
Anyone whose’ child participates in any type of sports, is compelled to be a sideline coach to help improve their player. When that line is crossed from being a sideline coach to an on the field coach, one bears the demand that their player should be the best out on that field in whatever position they are placed in. If their player can’t perform flawlessly, there is a perception than that this is on how they will be as a coach for the rest of the team. A strain is felt not only by the parent coach, but by the player as well, with the continued season and performances not improving. Assessment calls that the parent coach makes in their eyes are believed to be fair, but in the eyes of the other teammates and parents it appears to be favoritism. Comments are made to, or about, that player on how the position was given to them because they are the coaches’ kid; the performances of the duties for that position are poor and that player shouldn’t be there.
Such an example is with a Pop Warner Football team that I am assisting on; I have no child on the team, my opinion is unbiased on who should play where and why. The head coach has a player that he deems is the best of the best. Being the head coach he has placed his child in a very demanding role, and for it being his first year in Pop Warner, this decision has caused a few parents to question his intention and clarity to see things on the field with the other players. Other coaches have commented about how this player is un-coachable, the fact that every time they tell him something he is running off to the sidelines complaining to his father about this and that. Players are complaining that this player cannot complete the tasks to effectively carry out this position, and feel the head coach doesn’t like them because he will not try them in that position.
One such participant has some of the same attitude as the head coaches’ player. They both complain about every little ache and pain, along with the positions they are placed in. The non-coaches’ player is being rotated in on both sides of the ball, but when the defense coach wanted to rotate the head coaches’ player, the statement of “Why do you have it out for my son?” comes along. It’s not that anyone has it out for anyone’s son but if two players are acting the same, why reward one and punish the other. Is it because it’s a case of my child can do no wrong through the rose colored glasses I have on?
Ground work, for this now runaway train, had not been clearly laid out in the beginning, and with the first game in sight it’s no wonder parents haven’t taken their player off the team, or requested them be moved to a different team. A divide has started within the team. Remarks encompassed by the notion that the head coach doesn’t listen or take others opinion into account when positions on the field are at stake, are being made by players, coaches, and parents alike. To try and make this a functioning unit; has now included the involvement of the President of Pop Warner.
In the last week things have started to settle and come together. It’s been a bit like walking in a mine field to see what might be set off next. Maybe once the first game is done, things will become more routine, unless things go horribly wrong during the game that would cause a set back to the small progress that has taken place. All of this could have been avoided if the parent would have just been contempt with being a side line coach and learned the Pop Warner way first before diving head first into a commitment that they cannot fulfill.
It’s the age old story you hear all over in every origination, every parent feels they can coach and have a fair opinion on all players on the field. Reality of it, there is always going to be that little part of you that will pull for your child. Either you are going to be blind to see the true talent or you will be harder on your player above the others. It’s unfortunate that organizations have to rely on parent volunteers to coordinate and coach. A step taken back to rethink who is doing the volunteering and in what capacity may lead to other organizations out there that could be reached out to and assist in such matters. Leave the non-coaching volunteer positions to be covered by the parents, or have the parents coach another team that will not play against their child’s team or have their child on it.
Thanks for reading to the end.
Monday, July 15, 2013
So it's been a month since my last blog. Have had a few weeks with no practices or any type of games. It's been nice but my days have been filled with other items that need to get done. Like with weekend we worked on getting a spoilers on both the truck and my car, along with cleaning my boyfriends rental. Things are getting there but it seems as soon as you get one thing crossed off ten more items have accumulated.
Now I see going back to school ad's running and I feel the whirlwind of fall starting to kick into gear. Trying to put a schedule together so I can feel like I have some control of what's going on. But right now there seems to be too many unknowns. I know some what of what my school schedule will be. I am hoping that an earlier Math class opens but for now the earliest is 9 am. I swapped my english class for afternoons instead of early morning. That was a hard one to do at 8 am in the morning, my created "juices" are not flowing at that time, so the afternoon class should be a good fit. But until the first day I can not say for sure when my tests will be and mark important dates as such.
Then come mid August tackle football will start; assisting on the coaching team for that. Glad my son is picking sports through school this year. Although he does plan on coaching the younger league basketball which I will have to help assist, but that shouldn't start till the end of October.
I will be glad when school starts though. Reason? Right now I am the only one that needs to get up early in the morning. My son doesn't work or have school right now, although he does help my mom out with her business. So on those days he is up early, but my boyfriend and his son not so much. I try so hard to make him see that I can't stay up till midnight / 1 am and get up at 6 in the morning to get ready for work and be expected to function. Couple of nights of that and I am one crabby person. Wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't sitting at a desk all day, but I find at about 3 in the afternoon I want to take a nap and sometime nodding off at my desk.
This is why I am so about getting a schedule done. This why he has a copy of it and can look to see what I have coming up and know if he can request that I stay up late to help him out after his son goes to bed. Now granted the childs bedtime is supposed to be 10 but there are many times I get over there and his son is still up and doesn't go to bed till 11.
I need to get a back bone and put my foot down and when the time comes for me to get some shut eye, be like I am sorry but your time is up, I need 7 - 8 hours of sleep and if I don't go to bed right now I will not get that sleep and tomorrow will not be a very good day for you.
So there are my thoughts for the day. . . . .going to try and work on this sleep thing and if people around me don't like the fact that I don't have time to help them out when it's convent for them but not so much for me, just too bad. I am not rearranging my schedule to work for them no more.
Thursday, June 13, 2013
Update on my little world. Sports are starting to wind down for now, should have about a month and a half of only having to worry about work. Than school starts for both me and my son, after this semester I should have my core requirements done and I can start working away at my main classes. Kyle plans on playing soccer for school this year and that will start right away in the fall, actually now that I think about it they start practice in August. Ugh ok so maybe a solid month of not having to worry about any sports lol. But at least with school sports I don’t coach and I just watch.
It’s been nice being able to get back in to some type of a routine for working out. When fall gets here it will be reworking the schedule again to get those minutes in, going to take advantage as much as possible during the summer. When classes start I will really need to look into the gym at school and the use of the locker rooms.
As for currently, I rec’d a text from my Ex’s ex this morning, asking if I have talked to him, rolled my eyes when I saw it and was like here we go again. A few months ago she had a warrant issued for him for I assume back child support and such. Memorial Day weekend the sheriff’s department found out where he was and went looking for him. I rec’d a text message from him that Sunday stating that he was changing his number and leaving the state and to never try and contact him again ever. So the text this morning was a reminder to me that I need to call child support and let them know he has skipped town. Our arrangement was 50/50 placement with neither owning the other child support, but now that he’s gone. . . . . I told them I didn’t want an order issued as of yet for him to start paying me support seeing as we have no idea where he was and quite frankly he has a long line of suits against him I would just be another number. I am just fine with him being gone, but if he tries to do something a year or two down the road I wanted it recorded that he left state and this son. (he has two other sons, one older than mine that he signed off on, and the other one is younger and as far as I know hasn’t see his dad since he was a baby.)
But back to this morning’s text message, from his ex, when he text me Memorial Day weekend I had forward the text to her so she know what he was planning. Well what would you think if you got a text stating the person was leaving the state and changing their number and to never contact them again. So why would I been in contact with him since then, or him with my son. . . . . I know she’s not the brightest bulb in the bunch but why bother me with this question. Apparently she has never seen an episode of Cops where the “bad” guy runs from the Cops on foot to get away. Reason I say this is because I told her he ran from the Sheriff’s department when they went to pick him up. Her first responds was how did he know they were looking for him, “they don’t forware that they are coming”. (her exact words. My first thought Really) Hmmm he’s camping I am sure if he saw the cars with the county Sheriff’s department all over them, he would put two and two together and figured they were looking for him. Even if they weren’t looking for him he should get out of there before they find out he is one that they would be looking for. She asked me something about him not having a car, I said yes he did, but I am sure he fled by foot and had someone meet him down the road. Like he was going to drive out of the camp ground when they most likely had cars all over blocking so they could check cars as they were coming and going. Not that he is that big of a criminal and killed someone but still a camp ground doesn’t have many entrances or exits. And I am sure they didn’t have dogs there to track him if he went by foot, but still not a good thing to run from them.
So today I am taking my son to see a counselor, he has me a bit worried. I come home after work and he will be sleeping, when normally he would be on his iPod chatting with his 3DS friends and playing a game. I haven’t heard him talk to them in a long time nor do I see him playing his 3DS much anymore. Not that that’s not a good thing, always been a fight with us with how much he plays, but in the same token I don’t want him moping around, hurting because his dad left him. I’ve tried to keep the lines of communications up but he keeps telling me his is fine, but his actions don’t really tell me that.
So there’s my story of the last few weeks in a nut shell along with upcoming events. Thank you for reading and comment by giving me a smiley face or rainbows or sunshine, would brighten up my day.
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