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I'm at the mall!

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

How did I get here, you may ask?

I drove here!

I am sitting in the food court, having just finished lunch (brought from home, of course) in between follow up appointment for my hand surgery (all is good) and my first physiotherapy appointment.

What a sense of freedom!

I am now going to go and window shop a bit and wait out a thunderstorm that is banging away out there.

Feeling good!


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2BMYOWN 8/8/2012 12:23PM

    I had to read this one. LOL Malls and I do not have an easy relationship....I avoid them whenever possible because I have a nasty tendency to 1.) get lost in them, and 2.) to lose my car in the parking lot. However, this equates to also getting much more **cardio** than usual because of the excess of walking, so I guess I can't complain. LMAO

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    We take doing simple things for granted sometimes, don't we. "Don't know what you've got til it's gone". Glad you got out and about.

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MEXGAL1 7/31/2012 7:55PM

    So glad that you are feeling good and all is well.
Enjoy the rest of your evening!

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MUSICNERD1993 7/31/2012 7:41PM

    How fun!! I'm glad you're doing well! emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 7/31/2012 6:14PM

    Just one more step to full recovery Bonita, good for you!


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JESPAH 7/31/2012 1:18PM

    Today, the mall! Tomorrow, the park?

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LESSNESS1 7/31/2012 12:52PM

    you was smart to bring that lunch, no temptations, the smell of food would have got to me. emoticon

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What A Difference....

Thursday, July 26, 2012

A visit to the fracture clinic makes!

Pins--in my possession but not in my foot
Boot--in my possession but not on my foot

Physiotherapy--required, covered by my work
Driving--as the foot can tolerate it
Treadmill--as the foot can tolerate it
Footwear--supportive lace up shoes for the next month, think running shoes
Shower--foot can get wet but no soaking for 3-4 days.

How cool is that? I am already going upstairs like a normal person, downstairs I still do not quite have the knack.

I see normalcy returning on the horizon.....

All good.

I want to thank my Sparkfriends for listening to me blather on for the past six weeks and Pre-surgery too.

You are one of the big reasons I have made it to today with sanity intact!


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MEXGAL1 7/30/2012 5:33PM

    All this is wonderful news!
Woo hoo!

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ROCKMAN6797 7/27/2012 4:03PM

    Great news Bonita!
We are more than happy to support you!


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MEDDYPEDDY 7/27/2012 3:51AM

    Nice to hear - congrats! Whenever I am restrained by illness or injuries I swea that I will never forget it and be gratefu every day I am O -no emoticon

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RACHELSHADOAN 7/26/2012 11:24PM

    Yaaaay! That's great news! I'm sure you're delighted to be more mobile!

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CLEBLOOM 7/26/2012 11:20PM

    Yay!!! Congrats! emoticon

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PUDLECRAZY 7/26/2012 10:29PM

    Yay! That is such terrific news! You are really healing fast and well. Congratulations.

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DOVE1010 7/26/2012 9:25PM

    Good for you! Sounds like it has been a tough time, but now you have made it through and good things are up ahead.

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MUSICNERD1993 7/26/2012 8:35PM

    emoticon I'm so happy that you're doing well! You're always such an inspiration.

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WILDFLOWERMA 7/26/2012 8:27PM

    i'm so happy for you! You're on the home stretch & have maintained an incredible positive attitude the entire way. Kudos.

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Book Review--"Breaking Free from Emotional Eating", by Geneen Roth

Monday, July 23, 2012

This is the third book I set myself to read during my healing from foot surgery. The opinions are solely my own.

Ms. Roth has been there. She is, or has been, an emotional eater and is very emphatic with we who suffer as well. I could not find academic credentials for her, she teaches and runs workshops. I did not visit hr website. What does she say?

Ms. Roth's advice is of the "give yourself a break" category. Forget scales, or "calorie counting" (her words) and even exercise if you want to, just be very aware when and why you eat, and you will reach some weight that you and your body is happy with.

Now, I am not being (too) sarcastic. I read these self help books--an activity I used to eschew like poison--because they usually have something to give to me. And this book does as well.

One of Ms. Roth's messages that resonated is stop eating as if you will never be able to eat the food again. That is, if you want cake, and chips, and ice cream (there are no "bad foods" in her world view) go ahead and eat them with the idea in mind that you can go right ahead and eat them in the next minute, or hour, or day, or week, and so on. This will likely minimize binging. There may be some lack of reality here, such as having dollars to purchase what you want, but the book seems to be aimed to an educated and reasonable well-off audience.

Another message is eat what you really want, or else you will you eat what you don't want and then go ahead and eat what you do want anyway. Again, socially, this might be awkward, as your family lets say sits down to a three course meal and you sit down to a pint of ice cream (or to nothing at all if you don't want to eat at the pre-ordained suppertime). But, the idea of trying to put off binging by eating something else resonates with me. With me, it doesn't work.

Ms. Roth provides many helpful hints and brief exercises that are understandable and doable. She addresses areas such as family of origin, social eating, exercise, the concepts of wanting, needing, and having.

So, this book is not psychological, or Freudian, but pretty much common-sensical. It is kind, and forgiving, and she writes like she knows you. There is value in this.

The book is of fairly small dimensions and on decent quality paper with a reasonable sized font. Easy to hold and carry around.


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CALLIKIA 7/24/2012 9:01AM

    I may have to look into this book. I do agree with her on having the thing you want and not treating it as a "I'll NEVER be able to eat this EVER again" kind of event...but I agree with ROCKMAN does that address the emotional aspects of the problem of emotional eating? Still, it might be interesting to see what she has to say...

Thanks for the review!

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/24/2012 12:43AM

    I remember one summer when I lot weight without counting calories, tracking or weighing foods or exercise. I was occupied with outdoor work and had things to do all times. It is an interesting concept because it involves abandoning the ideas about how my compulsiveness works. Thanks for the review!

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ROCKMAN6797 7/23/2012 11:39PM

    Her ideas are good but how does this address the emotional issue? I am not really certain that eating the food is the problem. It seems to me that most emotional eaters have other reasons for choosing to assuage their issues with food. It seems a deeper approach might be the better approach for the emotional eating issue.
Thanks for reviewing the book Bonita!

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DOVE1010 7/23/2012 8:47PM

    I'm an emotional eater. I am very rarely hungry. I never give myself time to get hungry because I am always snacking on something hence the weight problem. Not sure the book would help me with my EE problem though, but it might help someone else. Thanks for the heads up on the book. emoticon

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MEXGAL1 7/23/2012 8:01PM

    Thanks so much for the review. Sounds like you gave us the. Est parts of the book.
Have a great evening!

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MUSICNERD1993 7/23/2012 5:50PM

    Hmm, seems like an interesting view...I don't think it'd help me at all, but maybe someone else would benefit from doing the things she suggests.
Thanks for the review!
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KMSIMMONS1 7/23/2012 4:44PM

  Thanks for this review. I'll probably not waste my time on it!!! But your time on it, and review, helped me to come to that conclusion so THANKS!

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HAPPYSOUL91 7/23/2012 4:42PM

    omg, a name from the 80's. attended some of her workshops

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How am I doing?

Thursday, July 19, 2012


This is a difficult journey, Sparkfriends, and I roll along with it as best I can.

I have one more week until my second visit to that lovely place I have already blogged about, the Fracture Clinic. I do believe the pins will come out of my foot, and the bandage will be diminished or even done away with all together. But, I am not so sure that I will be allowed to drive or walk on the treadmill. I am working on accepting this, so as to avoid some possible serious disappointment. But hey, the pins will be out. I am going to take them home, and use them for key holders or maybe costume Jewellery.

The finger surgery went well, the stitches have already dissolved and aside from some swelling it is fine. The locking action is no longer there, no more arthritic node bump. It is a bit stiff but is getting better. I watched the surgery, it is cool to see the tendon move up and down as you move your finger. Well, what did you expect from someone who gets excited about titanium sporks?

Working from home is going great, and I am almost finished reading a book that I will review in a blog.

Sometimes the days go slow, and sometimes the pain and discomfort are a bit difficult to bear. I go on SP multiple times a day, find it and you, my Sparkfriends, very supportive.

And so the recovery goes, one day at a time.....

Have a good one, everybody! emoticon

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CALLIKIA 7/23/2012 8:15AM

    Glad to hear that you're recovering. I hope you get good news from the Doc!

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MUSICNERD1993 7/21/2012 12:02AM

    I'm glad your surgery went well! I'm sure it'll make practicing a bit easier?
Speedy recovery! You're doing great!

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MEXGAL1 7/20/2012 10:13AM

    Wow, you have been through a lot. I too have both bad hands and feet and know that I will have to deal with it. I have put off doing anything to my feet until we take a trip to Seattle next month. The good news is that I am not having so much pain that I can't walk. I just use a lot of pain creams.
Continue to heal well! speedy recovery

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GUITARWOMAN 7/20/2012 8:08AM

    Yes Raul, there was an incision in my hand pulled apart by a clamp and I saw the glistening tendon (they really do shine!) moving.

I am walking outside, about .7 miles each moring, again, please do not tell my surgeon :-).


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MEDDYPEDDY 7/20/2012 3:06AM

    Promising, "only" needs patience... be well! Heal quick!

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ROCKMAN6797 7/19/2012 10:32PM

    Glad to read that your pins are coming out? Did your doctor warn you to not do any walking activity or are you in pain? It seems to me the best thing for your recovery would be to get moving again, perhaps not for an extended period of time, but get you moving nevertheless.
I sure hope that you are wrong Bonita!

Glad to read your hand surgery went well. We you talk about the tendons do you mean throught the skin or did you actually (gulp) see them??? I would have paid to see that!

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PUDLECRAZY 7/19/2012 9:23PM

    It is sooooo hard to wait to heal completely, but this sounds like movement in the right direction. I was so out of touch that I missed your post about your finger surgery. Yay! I'm glad you got that over with as well and it sounds like it is healing up very nicely.

You are my soul sister! I enjoyed watching the pins get removed from my thumb and while I haven't made jewelry from them, they are in a see through container.

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HAPPYSOUL91 7/19/2012 9:09PM

    And you are doing great. You planned well and are healing nicely, outstanding

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Some Thoughts on Turning 64........

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Sixty-four. I can't believe I made it this far! But here I am.....and some thoughts, in no particular order...

First, and I hope you will forgive this feisty old lady, a bit of "when I was your age".

I was born in the first half of the last century, a time of optimism that led families to create the baby boom generation. This has been fortunate for me, my generation carries the strength you can have in numbers, I had a secure and meaningful career and will end up with an indexed pension.

But, I was born before the polio vaccine was invented. I knew people who had polio. Families, if they could, got out of the cities for the summer to avoid the children becoming ill. One of my earliest school memories is being lined up in the gym, given a needle, given a lollipop, and being sent into the auditorium to watch cartoons. That, my Sparkfriends, was the polio vaccine.

And technology! When I was in university, I wrote my papers on a portable manual typewriter. My DH had a Smith Corona portable manual, it was built like a brick you-know-what, we still have it and it still works. I took a programming course and we entered our programs onto punch cards and gave them to the geeks who guarded the IBM 360, which filled a room. I typed my DH's PHD thesis on an IBM Selectric, which was top of the line.

Okay, enough of memory lane.

What have I learned? Keep growing and learning. Do kindness. Do volunteer work. Don't sweat the small stuff. Follow your passions, or at least one or two!

And it is never too late to change your life After gaining and losing and losing and gaining for decades, I had my aha moment in May 2009. I was 61, almost 62. And, no matter how late in your life you may start, no regrets about what went before. Look forward!

Birthday presents? In September, when I will be celebrating my two year maintenance anniversary, I will fulfill my creative side with a new guitar. For this birthday, I chose to honor the geek/nerd that I am. So, I have asked for, and it is in the mail, a high tech purse specially designed to carry an iPad. And a spork. Not just any spork, I have a plastic one and have broken another plastic one. Google spork if you don't know what it is, best utensil ever if you carry all your food with you.

No, my Sparkfriends, not just any spork. A TITANIUM spork! How cool is that?

Have a good one!


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PUDLECRAZY 7/19/2012 8:33PM

    Happy birthday, sweet friend! Great blog!

Like you, I had friends who contracted polio, and it was a constant worry. Then the polio vaccine came out. We were lined up in the gym for our vaccines, which were delivered in sugar cubes instead of lollypops. And that was that. The polio epidemic was over, just that quick.

Soap box time. I understand the fears parents have of children developing autism from vaccinations, but we are also old enough to know what happens when there aren't vaccinations. I was extremely ill with pertussis (whooping cough) as a young child, and knew people who suffered physical consequences of their mothers contracting German measles while they were pregnant. Polio killed and crippled many people. I am very grateful for vaccinations against these diseases - the risks are far less than the risks of the illnesses they prevent.

How is your foot doing? I have been so out of touch!

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CALLIKIA 7/16/2012 9:56AM

Keep looking forward! ;)

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/16/2012 4:15AM

    HOORAY ! Aha-moment at 61 - not too late for me then! Love both the memory lane part and the experience part! You are an inspiration! I think I am going to give me a fire hoop for birthday!

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MUSICNERD1993 7/15/2012 9:56PM

    New guitar? How exciting!!!
You are full of inspiration and wisdom! I hope you've had a wonderful birthday!
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KRISKECK 7/15/2012 8:40PM

    I love your perspective! Wonderful! And the spork - my son is fascinated with them and I got him a titanium spork for his 24th birthday recently as he was preparing for his big post-college experience of the lifetime - hiking a chunk of the Appalachian Trail. So, happy birthday to you and enjoy your spork!

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MEXGAL1 7/15/2012 8:24PM

    You crack me up! So many memories. I, being for years younger than you, at least by the time I was vaccinated they had developed the "sugar cube". But I remember standing in line for other ouchies.. Like the TB tests.
Had to look up the looking thing.
Happy 64!

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LDRICHEL 7/15/2012 7:53PM

    You are AWESOME.

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GUITARWOMAN 7/15/2012 5:16PM

    When I get older, losing my hair, many years from now.....

Will you still be sending me a valentine, birthday greeting, bottle of wine...

If I stay out to a quarter to two, will you lock the door?

Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when's I'm 64?
--Beatles emoticon

Raul, this and so many other songs are in my head!


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ROCKMAN6797 7/15/2012 5:09PM

    OMG, do you know the Beatles wrote a song about your birthday?! emoticon
I googled spork, went to the Wikipedia page and guess what I saw? A picture of a titanium spork! How funny is that!

Happy Birthday Bonita!


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LOSTLIME 7/15/2012 4:14PM

    Happy 64th! I am 56 and remember being lined up in the gym and given a lollipop. I also remember going to my mother's job at the IRS and seeing the computer room.
That was something in those days. We would make wreaths with the computer cards
every Xmas.

Congrats on your 2year maintainence! Good for you getting a guitar. I hope you have a wonderful birthday!

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