Sunday, May 15, 2011
Alot of people add me as a friend and I certainly do not mind at all :) that is prefectly fine. I do not however add everyone that adds me.
I used to have a couple of hundred friends on my page, and like on facebook we never had any interaction of any kind. So one day I went about doing my spring cleaning and went from 200 friends down to 33. I went to all 200 peoples pages and 167 of them were inactive for a very long time, some for over 2 years.
I figure if they haven't been active or shown signs of life in well over a year then perhaps they were just taking up space on my page that could be used for people who are here and still in the fight.
I don't think badly of those who wandered off, I myself have done that a time or 2. I don't think badly nor do I judge them, however my job here is to help myself to a better and healthy lifestyle and if i can help those around me so be it. As cruel as it sounds I simply don't have the time for those who cannot make time for themselves. That does not mean I won't welcome them back with open arms when they rejoin the fight. For now I only have enough energy to focus on my own fight and supporting those who are working hard on their own battle.
So if you add me and I do not add you back please don't be offended its not personal. If I added everyone who added me I would have, well I have no idea but it would be ALOT of friends *chuckles* I can barely keep track of myself and the friends I do have who are active or my fellow team mates on the teams I belong to. If you inspire me in some way or if we interact on a regular basis I may very well add you as a friend :) The people that I see on a daily basis or who are posting or just working it day in and day out are the people I need to surround myself with. Someone who is there for me and then vanish's and never comes back is no help to me and I certainly cannot do anything for them.
So that is my friend policy, yes I know some of you think I am mean, hey if you want tons of friends on your pages who aren't there thats fine, again I don't judge however that does not work for me :)
Incdently I don't just go through and whack people out on a whim, really if they have not been active for well over a year, no signs of life what so ever on their page then whats the point? I feel for them and whatever they may be going through, but spark people and certainly my struggle is not a priority to them which I understand work, school, family, life gets in the way. But there are those of us who stand and fight no matter what the obstacle and don't leave. I did that once before and I don't plan on doing it again, however if I do you have my full blessing to cut my a$$ right off your page ;)
Now we move onto teams, same policy as above. I really don't understand the point in being on a ton of teams and not doing anything with them. I am on 4 teams right now and I have a hard time keeping track of the things going on and posting and being involved, so no thank you I don't need a bunch of teams. I find what works and I stick with it.
I have had invites to be on various teams over my time here and I am grateful that people would invite me but don't be surprised when I refuse. Its not personal, I just don't see the point. I might in fact check out the team and if I feel it can help me in my journey I might join, but for the most part I am doing my thing and doing what works best for me.
So hopefully this will cover my friends & teams policy's :D
I felt it was easier to make it a blog and then post a link on my general page, cuts down on questions and hurt feelings alot better that way I find :D