Sunday, April 10, 2011
meh I am not sure why I am posting this one it almost has less usefull info that most. However I am not posting this for my own entertainment so on the chance it means something to someone else here it is.
All these people and websites and products and books and CRAP tell us how to lose weight, its NO rocket science, well it might be some kind of science but I am 99.9% sure there are no rockets involved.
You need to spend more fuel out than you are taking in if you don't you will not lose weight and probably gain weight.
The simplistic bottom line is weight loss is 2 simple facts.
1. Diet and I do not mean weight watchers, grapefruit, atkins diet I mean it in the truest sence of the word such as:
1. food and drink considered in terms of its qualities, composition, and its effects on health: Milk is a wholesome article of diet.
2. a particular selection of food, especially as designed or prescribed to improve a person's physical condition or to prevent or treat a disease: a diet low in sugar.
I am NOT talking about the other stuff above, which if it works for you God bless and rock on.
So we have
#1. Diet (followed quickly by #2)
drum roll please
THATS IT, its SIMPLE..........but its FAR from easy. If it were easy there would be no need for this website.
Those 2 things are all you need to lose weight, hmm if thats the case why are we all here? Because are missing a few tools in the ole tool box
1. SUPPORT: Unless we are the odd person out (which if you are GREAT) who does not need any support and they find the strength and dig deep down to pull it out, unless we are them, we need support
(Yes I am aware I do slaughter the rules of grammar part of it is lack of proper education and the other part is I don't care so it doesn't get in the way of my message) Incidently I do not mean to imply anyone who doesn't need support is odd, I just mean you are the exception to the rule :)
2. Education/Information: They say knowledge is power and its truer here than anywhere else. Granted most of us, well I know I am mostly a little lazy when it comes to educating myself as much as I need to. You really need to become a food detective, be a wiz at scanning lables in the store till it becomes 2nd nature and just know what you are shoveling into your mouth. Alot of work goes into this, the great thing is once you get it all down it becomes less work and more part of the routine. But most of us abhor the work so we will pay someone else to tell us what to do, its ridiculous WE can do the work and not pay anyone a friggin cent to tell us how to eat, well thats not entirely true a dietian yes, some group dispensing meals, eh not my cup of tea, works for you? great. rock on :)
3. Planning and structure: If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. I cannot take credit for that little gem as I did not write it
but it holds a weath of information and its my biggest struggle right now.
I SHOULD have a meal plain done EVERYDAY. I should know what I am eating, when I am eating and how much I am eating. Being the ego maniac and slightly lazy b*****d that I am I do not have what I need.
Actually I think only about 1% of it is laziness believe it or not. I think a large part of it is fear, why? I have no idea. Fear of change I guess, because by doing this one simple thing. Creating and following a meal plan 1 day at a time the landscape of my life will change 1000% maybe that scares the crap out of me because this is all I have ever known. Maybe the dark side of me, the food addict, the compulsive over eater, the eating disorder side knows its the death bell tolling and its fighting for its life so it can keep killing mine. I don't know the answer I just know planning and structure are KEY, I have not gotten there yet but I know in my heart they are a cruicial part of the program.
Ok I think I am out of steam after that so to recap
1. Proper diet
B. Education/information (arm yourself to the teeth)
I am sure there are more things but those first 2 things followed by the powerful 3 follow up supports can tear a path of ritchoues chaos through our lives that will restore balance and harmony and bring us back to the level of health and the quality of life that we deserve.
If you don't agree thats all right, I really don't care. I mean I care about you on a human level and I hope nothing but the best for you but aside from that I could care less. You do your thing I will do mine and God willing we will see each other on the other side of this battle with the gift of health
PS: What this article should have said is:
3 Reasons you are not losing weight
1. You are not eating a proper diet if you were you would probably be closer to your goals and more healthy
2. You are not getting enough exercise, if you were you would probably closer to your goals and more healthy
3. You have not armed yourself properly for the battle, because if you had the right tools you would probably be closer to your goals and more healthy.
Again its simple (not easy) but simple.
Anyone out there like me who is heavy ( and I am really heavy) If you are not losing weight and are sitting there scratching your head like I am going "I have no idea whats going on" I am eating right, I am exercising and nothing is happening.
I hate to break it to you because I hated to admit it to myself, but we are bulls****ing each other. OH NO not me, oh really? *chuckles* trust me its true. If I was eating properly and doing even half the exercise I should be or could be doing the weight would be dropping off me, melting away like magic. Unless we have some rare diagnosis from the Dr (which I don't) the bottom line is we are not putting enough into this, you might think you are but deep down you know the truth just as much as I know it deep in myself.
You can sit there and fool yourself all you want, it makes no difference to me, hopefully it pissed some of you off and you sit back and think and take some action, or hide your head in the sand it makes no difference to me, it effects my life not one bit. I wish with all my heart that everyone can be free of this dreadful weight that drags us down and keeps us from living the life we are meant to live, but its our own private prison and only we hold the key.
God bless the Eagles because truer words were never spoken
"So often time it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key" --The Eagles (already gone)
Great tune, this little gem is about minute mark 2:37 into the song
Sunday, April 10, 2011
I should start off saying I DO NOT condone counting calories (personally) what you want to do is your business and I do not judge or look down on you because of it.
Through my own personal experience and what I have learned in various programs counting calories can go from being a tool to being part of our deadly problem really quickly.
That being said I am still posting this article *chuckles*
I think this has some valid info, every little...hmm I don't want to call them tips or tricks I don't believe in that, short cuts won't get us anywhere, so for we will call them aide's. That really doesn't work well either, reminds me of South Park and giving aides to kids. There is probably only about one person who will get that joke *chuckles* anywho
Any little aide we can use to help us I think is a good thing. Once we start relying on them I think we start to lose focus, at least I do I cannot speak for the rest of you.
Read the article, nothing should shock, amaze or surprise you in there, it didn't me (I do keep waiting though, maybe someday)
Actually thats not true. For all my blowharding about hard work and not taking short cuts, deep down I have the same need and desire to have a magic pill that will make things easy because I have struggled for SO damn long and its killing me.
But the bottom line is there is no magic pill and I doubt there ever will be despite science best advances. And even if they do come up with a weight loss pill I doubt it will fix what is broken inside of us.
I don't really care what other people have told you, its not about will power, its not about motivation, its not about being fat stupid and lazy. Something is "off" something is wrong with some of us. for me pizza is as deadly as a beer is to an alcoholic. I cannot have it, should not have it because if I buy a large pizza I am giong to eat the whole damn thing. I do not posses a WHOAAAH button.
Anyways read the article take what you want from it and leave what doesn't work. As always the choice is YOURS
Friday, April 08, 2011
(this works a whole lot better when I post a link so you guys know what the heck I'm talking about)
To be honest I saw the note and was looking at it and saw the link and was looking at it so I clicked it as I am trying to be more involved. The movie started and I kind of rolled my eyes and I was going to shut the window because it would probably be "stupid" Which just goes to show you judging something before you see or know it hurts.
It was a wonderful little movie and it held a very powerful and profound life message, we should all be so fortunate to learn something from it.
I wish to thank BENTONHEALTHY so very much for posting and sharing this, good stuff :)
I hope that I learn from this not to dismiss something before I have had a chance to take in the message
Wednesday, April 06, 2011
Someone asked me this question the other day because I went from being non-existent on Sparks to dropping back in like a bomb.
Sure I logged in almost every day to get my points and to paste my words of encouragement like I do. But I did very little else, I was not using or tracking any goals. I was not really corresponding with people I was basically just doing the bare minimum. Which is kind of silly seeing as there is no minimum to be done? No one cares if I log on and do anything or not, it doesnít affect anyone but me.
I guess I logged on to do the words of encouragement because I knew a few people read and liked them and really counted on me posting as they helped them. I would do the wheel to get my points because, well it was there and it was an easy button click. Aside from the rest of it I didnít really give a rats a$$.
A lot has happened since I stopped running my big mouth here in sparks. Iíve had health setbacks. I had an incredibly painful and devastating loss in my life and self-pity and depression were kicking my a$$ all over the place with extreme prejudice.
My life is kind of like a roller coaster of highs and lows. When I am low things are very bad. I donít want to leave the house, I avoid peopleís phone calls, I donít want to see or talk to anyone. I want to deal with my darkness and pain on my own. I find it hard to come up with reasons to get out of bed or even want to live life. Not that I wanted to commit suicide, although the thought does crop up from time to time. The hurt just gets to be too much to bear and when I am in my darkest hour and as low as I can get it does not feel like the pain will ever end. It does not feel like I will ever escape the pool of darkness that I am drowning in, I only seek deeper and deeper and get further away from the light.
Some of my pain is physical and a lot of it is, well I donít know if itís emotional or mental or what you want to call it but it manifests physically. For me it actually hurts to be depressed. I donít know how else to explain it to you.
So I ride the wave. When I am riding high things are great (like now) I am ready to save the world and kick a$$ and take names. Sooner or later I seem to crest and then things start to take the inevitable descent back into darkness. So I have learned to do what I can while I can, even if I only gain an inch of ground its more than I had yesterday.
So I guess what happened is I am slowly starting to take action to save my own life. I do feel resentment and feel alone because no one is there to help me. Now thatís how I feel but that might be skewed by how I feel.
It seems liked no matter where I turn I was refused or they simply cannot help me, and suffice to say it pissed me off. I am an Aries male so I am quick to fire and I burn hot, however I do cool down almost as quickly and then I am able to be rational.
Some of the professional help I sought are downstate from me at an eating disorder clinic. They encouraged me to come down for an assessment to see if they would accept me into the program. I have gone through it before and given my current situation it would almost be a given they would take me again. It is about 5 hours south of me plus itís not inpatient so I would need a place to stay at nighttime which is problematic to say the least. So that doorway is partially blocked at this time.
Next I reached out to some friends who teach Tai Chi and both, well they did not refuse to help me but felt like I needed to stand on my own two feet first. I have studied Tai Chi off and on for about 4 years now, more off than on. So they are quite familiar with me and my high energy start to want to do everything and then quickly settling into my ďeh Iíll do it later modeĒ which as you can imagine I do not get much accomplished *chuckles* So they suggested that I use the tools that I have, which I do have many. I know most of the moves itís just a matter of putting them into practice, so they wanted me to show a little commitment to myself by practicing like I should, and once I accomplish this they would be more than happy to help me. Again initially it made me hot under the collar.
My medical Dr. who I used to have a love/hate relationship with has started to come around. I guess it would be fair to say we both have come around. I broke out of my funk and started asking the right questions. I guess I expected to go into the Dr. Office and they would take care of me. NOOOOOOO this is not how the Dr. works. They will help you out and take care of you in the office, but as soon as you walk out that door WE ARE ON OUR OWN. They can dispense all the advice they want but the truth is itís up to us to do the work. She can tell me ďeat right and exercise and get your diabetes in orderĒ but after that she has nothing. She can write me a referral for gastric bypass, anyone who has read my rants before know my policy on this. It disgusts me that itís my only ďmedicalĒ option, so if I want more options I need to create them for myself.
Now I do have friends and loved ones who care about me and have offered their ďhelpĒ but almost all of them live far away and that over the phone encouragement, well it doesnít do a lot for me. Thatís not to say I donít appreciate the thought but it really doesnít do much for me. ďOh you need to eat better, you got to exercise, you have to be wellĒ ďhave you tried this?Ē ďMaybe you should do thatĒ and the list goes on and on blah blah bloody blah. I get to the point where itís like FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU.
I also have people who live to dispense advice as ďhelpĒ To me help is NOT telling people what to do, or what you think they should do. If you want to help someone you say ďok I am here for you what do you need me to doĒ and you listen to what they have to say and if you can help them you help them. You do NOT impose your will on them or refuse to help them if they donít want to listen to what you have to say.
Hey if I have no idea what help I need or ask you for your input thatís one things, so either be willing to listen and do what ďIĒ need you to do or just stay out of my way because you are not helping.
When I left the eating disorder clinic the plan was for the next year I would be living with someone who would do the shopping and cook and prepare my meals and handle my finances. Basically my job would be to follow the meal plan given to me and to work on exercise the best I can and to work on the things given to me at the eating disorder clinic to help free myself of the eating disorder. Well that was 4 years ago and nothing has changed. I felt kind of abandoned by my family. A few of them said they could not help me, which hey I understand itís a big responsibility I get that, but it still hurt.
One family member agreed to do it and then it just fell apart which left me with another family member who stepped up because no one else would. That really didnít go well because he didnít really like what the medical team at the eating disorder clinic had to say and felt like their ideas were BS, I had to pull myself up by my boot straps and help myself like he did with his own addictions.
So I am stuck between well-meaning people who want to help but just arenít close enough to do the things that I need and people who canít or wonít help me and feel I need to do it on my own.
I battled back and forth a while, feeling sorry for myself and being resentful and pissed off. Then my health started to really raise some hell. I am diabetic as well as obese; I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, depression, anxiety a herniated disk in my back and some pretty major nerve degeneration from the diabetes. So itís not boring I have plenty to keep me busy *chuckles* Now the train of thought is if 200 pounds disappears then the diabetes should be under control, the sleep apnea will all but vanish (fingers crossed) the herniated disk well that prize I just get to keep. The nerve damage in my feet and legs is also a prize I get to keep. It cannot be reversed all I can hope to do is keep it from getting worse. The depression and anxiety, well thatís a chicken or the egg question.
Am I depressed because I am fat, or am I fat because I am depressed and the eating disorder? At this point I guess it really doesnít matter action just needs to be taken.
I am not complaining or whining about my health issues, yes it sucks but everyone has stuff they have to deal with. I recently had a stress test done which came back clean (knock on wood) so a heart attack is not something I have to worry about in the near future but if I donít smarten up that will be in the cards. I need to have a MRI done because the amount of nerve damage in my feet and legs is so severe they only see it in people who have been diabetic for 10 years or more. I have only been diabetic for about 2 years or so. They think that it could be Multiple Sclerosis, thatís the only explanation of what could cause this much damage, either that or I have been diabetic a lot longer than they thought.
Which by the way IF your Dr tells you that you are ďpre-diabeticĒ you ARE diabetic and you need to start being treated for it immediately! If youíre DR doesnít agree then find one who does and do it fast!!! You do NOT want diabetes running out of control untreated. Trust me I know. The longer it goes on then the more damage is being done and most of that damage cannot be undone. Itís your choice but I would take heed if I were you, I wish I had known this 5 years ago when the Dr. was telling me ďwell your pre diabetic and on the line but not over the line yetĒ I probably should have been treated with pills back then. Who knows for sure? Itís better to be safe than sorry. Before you dismiss my warning why donít you look up Type 2 diabetes and see what you have to look forward to as far as nerve damage and everything else and then reflect on whether you want to trust what your Dr. says when they say ďwell its nothing to worry about yet but you should take better care of yourselfĒ Itís your body and your life, take care of it or pay the price. Take it from someone who is paying dearly.
So thatís what happened, I got pissed off and the stark reality of my body slowly falling apart and my becoming less and less mobile all the time really hit home. Itís too bad it took me so long to smart up and really start to do something about it. Self-pity and denial are a bad combination. I still have days where I am shoveling s**t into my body that is spiking my blood sugar out of control so I am still slowly working on committing suicide by non-action and thatís exactly what it is.
You donít have to slit your wrists or hang yourself or even swallow a bottle of pills to be actively killing yourself. Itís a slower more painful method and you might not even realize what you are doing, but make no mistake the more we abuse our bodies with food the more we are slowly killing ourselves.
Iíve got a problem with food. I donít drink, I donít smoke, I donít do drugs. FOOD is my drug of choice as it is for many. I could really give a s**t if some Drís or a lot of people donít agree with it, to me itís right up there with alcohol and drug addiction. It might not be as severe but itís in the same ballpark and the problem is growing fast. 60% of the country is not obese by accident. And laziness is not the main cause, itís in there to be sure but overweight people are not fat, stupid and lazy no matter what the medical community thinks. Oh yes I wish I could find the article that states something like 80% of the Drís, nurses, dieticians, therapist and whoever else in the medical community think there patients are fat, stupid and lazy because they wonít ďdiet and exerciseĒ like they tell them too, nice eh? These are the people we count on to look after us. F them.
We need to stick together and help one another out we cannot depend on the medical community or the government to step in and help us or save us, WE need to do it ourselves, they are not going to do it and if they do they are not going to do it quick enough or well enough. WE must find a way to do it for ourselves, if we canít do it ourselves we need to find others who want the same things and band together. WE must find a way or die trying, those are the options, choose your own path.
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