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Please Say A Little Prayer

Wednesday, January 06, 2010

I very seldom ask people for help, but I'm asking today. My youngest daughter, ThinkthinB, is going to court today to settle custody for her 5 year old son. She and his dad were never married and had split up before Kody was even born. The dad has shown minimal interest in him all these years even though Becky has encouraged them spending time together. The last year he has spent more time with him but he is super super strict and occasionally very mean. He married a few months back and his new wife spanked Kody so hard that she left bruises on his little body. Kody cries every single time she tells him that he's going to his dads. Now all of a sudden he is taking Becky to court for partial custody. The things he is demanding are absolutely crazy, but I suppose given the right judge, he could possibly be granted some of them. If he gets his way, he will have him more than Becky does! She's a wonderful mother and they have such a close bond since it's just been the two of them for 5 years. It will crush both of them if his dad gets his way in all this. I totally understand that Kody needs time with his dad but only if it is loving time. Please,please say a little prayer for them. They go to court at 1:30 this afternoon. Pray that they get a caring and compassionate judge that will divide the time fairly between the two of them.

  
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KATHY_NATURELVR 1/6/2010 11:13PM

    Just catching up on emails. How did it go?

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MARTYLYNN1 1/6/2010 5:02PM

    I have had them & you in prayer since last night. Hope all went well.

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LYNNOTT 1/6/2010 4:06PM

    I'm late with this too, but I'll be keeping the whole family in my thoughts and prayers. Hope Becky documented the bruises, the ultra strictness, etc. Jenise had a friend who had full custody of her son until the father (they were never married) decided her didn't want to pay child support and took her to court for full custody. She documented every time he was late picking him up, what the son said he gave him to eat (think sugar, sugar, sugar) and anything that she thought would help her. Took several court visits, but they now share custody (she compromised) and she still documents everything. Hope the judge realizes that the father and stepmother are abusive.

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DRADISCH 1/6/2010 2:45PM

    Jannie I know I am late with this writing. But my prayers are with your DD & Kody and for the judge to make the right decisions. Please let us know how they make out. my prayers are also for you & Dh at this stressful time.
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PJSTIME 1/6/2010 2:44PM

    Prayers are coming your way. I hope the judge sees the truth and things go your daughters way for Kody's sake. PJ

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SHIITAKE 1/6/2010 12:00PM

   

Oh, Jannie....my heart goes out to your DD, Kody and you this afternoon ! You
will all be in my thoughts and prayers....as well as the judge who has to make a
very important decision, concerning that precious little child ! May he or she
make the correct one, for the well being of little Kody ! I certainly agree that
those bruises should be brought to the attention of the courts...for it should
have a large bearing on your DD acquiring sole custody, even ! Let us know how
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SOFEDUPP 1/6/2010 11:53AM

    My prayers on also on the way. I hope that everything works out in the best interest of the child.

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VICIOUS421 1/6/2010 11:42AM

    I am praying as well and by the way if the step-mom left bruises on Kody that is legally child abuse and should be brought to the proper authorities attention. It is not in Kody's best interest to be with someone that physically abuses him and it is not her right to lay a hand on Kody, she is not his parent.
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LESSOFMOORE 1/6/2010 11:01AM

    Jannie, I am praying as I type. Please let us know how this turns out.

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GABY1948 1/6/2010 10:12AM

    Jannie, my heart goes out to you and your whole family and my prayers but more than little prayers...BIG prayers. PLEASE let me know how it goes. It amazes me the situations that courts sometimes allow children to be placed in.

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SHOAPIE 1/6/2010 10:02AM

    My prayers are with you all. Did anybody document these bruises and bring it to the authorities attention? Please don't hesitate to do this. Your grandson deserves to be protected.

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MARIASCHOICE 1/6/2010 9:45AM

    My prayers are with you and your family. May the judge have the wisdom to see what Kody wants and needs. May God give Becky the peace going into the courtroom. God will help them through this!

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SUESZAREK 1/6/2010 9:18AM

  Oh my gosh Granny - of course ALL my prayers will be with your family especially Kody - and for the judge to make the right decision to keep that child in a loving home with his mom - not an abusive one.

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RURAL3 1/6/2010 9:07AM

    Jannie, my prayers are with you today

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BLUEGOOSE2 1/6/2010 8:58AM

  The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you. You will be in my prayers !!.

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SHIRLEYDILLARD 1/6/2010 8:31AM

    #1 - never be hesitant to ask for help. We are here for you!

#2 - praying for you & your family.



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THINAGIN2 1/6/2010 8:12AM

    My prayers are on the way!

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DEBBIEKAY1 1/6/2010 8:09AM

    Sending them as I write! God is in control and I will pray that Becky and Kody get a fair judge that can see through it all! I hope Becky has pictures of Kody's bruises

Please let me know how it turns out!
I will be praying till I hear from you!

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DAISYBELL6 1/6/2010 8:09AM

    You and your family have my prayers.

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I'd like to whine for a minute please!

Friday, October 09, 2009

We are having Octoberfest in our little town tomorrow. There will be craft booths, food booths, sidewalk sales, garage sales, a quilt show, beer garden, and a chili cook-off . About 3 weeks ago, my friend called and said that for the first time in several years she would be off work this weekend and she wanted us to go to all the things together. She just kept saying, "Now don't make any other plans cuz I want us to spend the day together! " We've talked to each other several times in the 3 weeks and she always makes that same comment. Then I told my youngest daughter about it and she said she was going to come over too. I've been really excited because I don't go out and do things with people very often, other than going to the grandsons ballgames. So I'm all pumped up just waiting for tomorrow to get here. Well...first my girlfriend calls and says her grandkids want to come and stay with her this weekend, so she's not going to Octoberfest because she doesn't want to have to take all 4 of them with us. They live 30 miles away and can come and stay anytime. Why couldn't she tell them she had plans and have them come next weekend? Especially since it was her idea to start with? Or wait and have them come tomorrow evening instead of tonight? I am disappointed, but knew that my daughter and I would still have a lot of fun , so no big deal. Well....then I was chatting on the computer with my daughter a little while ago, and she said she's not coming either!! She said it is supposed to be 36 degrees tomorrow and that's too cold to be out going to that stuff!! Now I know I sound like a whiney little kid, but what the heck!! I know that I can go to all the things by myself and that I will see tons of people that I know, but you all know how much more fun it is to go to things like that with someone else!! I was totally looking forward to a day out with the girls. I am super disappointed, but I'm just gonna put on my big girl panties and go by myself and have fun anyway!! Thanks for letting me whine!

  
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SAVINGHANNAH 10/11/2009 6:12PM

    I wish I lived near you, I would go with my favorite Granny:}:}:}

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LYNNOTT 10/11/2009 3:42PM

    I would have gone with you! I'm sorry they disappointed you, I agree with you, your friend could have asked the grandkids to come at night or next weekend. I'm glad you decided to go by yourself - hope you had lots of fun!

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PJSTIME 10/11/2009 2:12PM

    Whining caught my eye on your blog. I too would have been disappointed - like you I don't get out with friends much either. Maybe we should figure out a way to see if other Spark people could go with us to local events.

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KATHY_NATURELVR 10/10/2009 2:23PM

    Ah, I've had friends do that to me as well; sorry for your disappointment. I hope you ended up having fun as it sounds like a blast. 30 degree weather sounds fabulous to me right now. It's still in the 90's in Florida...way too hot.

I certainly miss the seasons from living down here but it sure makes visiting the northern states nicer. I miss the cool weather during festivals.

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SOFEDUPP 10/10/2009 12:16PM

    I think you should go anyway and then tell both of then what a great time you had. You have every right to be disappointed, but do not let them ruin your weekend. Go and enjoy yourself!!

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SHIITAKE 10/10/2009 1:35AM

   

You can whine as much as you want, Jannie ! I know it will
make you feel a lot better, too ! You have every right to be
disappointed....you've been counting on this outing for a few
weeks now; of course you would feel let down. I wish I were
closer...I would join you without even thinking about it ! If
I were you, I would go anyway....and have the best time that I
could ! There's no reason why your day should be spoiled just
because they aren't going !! So go and have a great time !!!
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2BFREE2LIVE 10/9/2009 11:27PM

    You have every right to feel the way you do. I know that I would feel the same. I would sure like to go with you. I hope you go anyway and have a great day.
Maybe it is time to find a true friend. I am sure if you go you will run into some people you know and have some good visits with them.
So chin up and get those walking shoes and a coat for sure on and get out there tomorrow.
Have your self a wonderful day. emoticonSandy

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49DEBBET 10/9/2009 11:00PM

    It's so disappointing when that happens!!! Hope you still go and have a great time!! wish I could go!!! emoticon

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SHIRLEYDILLARD 10/9/2009 10:31PM

    Sorry you had to be disappointed. emoticon I hope the venting helped you feel a little better. emoticon

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MARTYLYNN1 10/9/2009 10:12PM

    I would go with you Jannie if you lived closer. ;-) I know what you mean. I hate it when I have plans made with people & they cancel. One of our friends is good at making plans & canceling so we don't plan on anything with her until we see her coming. Hope you are able to have a good time in spite of your friend & daughter.
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LESSOFMOORE 10/9/2009 8:39PM

    Jannie,

You are so within your rights to whine! I hate when people do that. emoticonHave fun anyway!

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BJUMPINGFORJOY 10/9/2009 8:34PM

    I just hate it when I have made plans with someone and they cancel for another reason other than sickness or something of that sort. I think that when you give your word you should keep it if it is at all possible. I know that you will have fun, so go and enjoy your self. It sounds like fun.

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MSDIVADOG 10/9/2009 8:28PM

  You enjoy your day! If I had waited for friends and family to join me on some outings, I would have missed a lot of special events.

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CLALIZ 10/9/2009 8:23PM

    Yes! you should go, take pictures so you can show them what they missed! Or do you have someone else you can invite?
try to have fun, you deserve it.

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EAGLEDALEGIRL 10/9/2009 8:12PM

    You go and have a wonderful time. When you get back be sure to let your friend and daughter know how great it was. (even if it isn't) although I am sure it will be. Who knows you may hook up with some other people you know and have a better time then you would have in the first place. I know how you feel everyone wants to make plans then break them and wonder why you are upset. But if you did it they would have a fit. So go and enjoy yourself to the mas. and buy yourself something nice that you really want.

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Starting Over Again!!

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

I'll be celebrating my 1 year anniversary with Spark on Sept. 1. How have I progressed in the last year??? Well, it started out pretty slowly trying to learn how to navigate the site and use all the wonderful things it has to offer. I'm not much of a computer whiz so it was very confusing at first, but with perseverance and the help of my daughter(ThinkthinB) I eventually figured it all out. I started out just focusing on my calorie intake . Learning what I should and shouldn't be eating and what the correct portion size is. I faithfully logged everything I ate and was amazed at how the weight started coming off ! Portion size really does make a difference! Then I gradually started adding my exercising. I've always enjoyed going for walks, so I started with that. Then I dug out all the exercise videos that had been gathering dust for years and started adding one of those to my routine every day. My hubby gave me a treadmill and I love it!! I crank up the stereo and away I go! With all my steps in place I was slowly but steadily losing weight. It all sounds familiar, right?? You've all done exactly the same things I have. We're trying to be the best and healthiest we can be. So....if everythings going great what is this blog about???? Well, it's about how easy it is to let yourself fall back into your bad habits that got you overweight to start with.
The end of July I made the decision to only work part-time now. So for the first time in almost 30 years I'm not having to get up and go off to work every morning. I'm not sure that was such a good decision! I had my routine everyday of what time I got up, when I would fit in my exercise, and always had all my meals planned out ahead of time. It all worked out great. But now, I guess since I think I have all the time in the world, I have no routine at all!! I'm still getting my exercise in every day, but my eating has been horrible. I haven't planned out a single meal this entire month!! I decided I would allow myself to eat whatever I wanted for the first couple of days to celebrate my new freedom and then I'd get myself back on track. Here it is 4 weeks later and I'm still eating whatever I want!! I'm shocked at the end of the day when I realize how many calories I've eaten, but the next day I do it again. I've already gained back several pounds that I worked so hard to lose. I can't believe how easy it was to let myself slip back into all my bad habits that got me here in the first place. So here I am almost a year later starting from the beginning again. *sigh* I know all the right things to do and it's up to me to do them. There are no vacations from a healthy lifestyle. It's a lifelong commitment. Today is day #1.

  
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PB4WEGO 9/25/2009 1:07PM

    Thank you for sharing your story. You have motivated me to stay focused. I too was doing well... then my children went to stay with their father for 5 weeks and I forgot everything!!!! Congrats on your 1 year and sticking with it.
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SLCB1023 9/1/2009 11:35PM

    Four weeks is not enough to judge your retirement journey yet. You still think you are just on vacation. LOL You will work out a new routine and be back on the downside again in now time. emoticon

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SEKSUNSHINE 9/1/2009 8:59PM

    You will cross the finish line a winner!

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SHIRLEYDILLARD 8/25/2009 8:52PM

    First of all, congrats on all the accomplishments that you have made so far. It takes a lot of work to make changes to our lifestyles. And now it is time to readjust the schedule and get a new one that works for you. Hope you can enjoy working part-time and finding new things to do with your life.
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LESSOFMOORE 8/25/2009 8:34PM

    Jannie,

As the saying goes, fall down seven times, get up eight. Congratulations on your re-dedication!

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LYNNOTT 8/25/2009 4:22PM

    You are not alone! Between the stress from Dad's passing, and the neck/back problems I was a bit lax on the eating, and just couldn't do all the exercising. But I'm determined to get back to a routine. We will succeed!

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LUVDANCE6803 8/25/2009 12:44PM

  Jannie, First of all, congrats on your 1 year anniversary!!!! I think most of us have now, or have had the same problem you are having. We started out on SP with a lot of ambition and the lbs and inches came off. Over the course of time things seemed to change, and maybe we weren't as ambitious as we were, and maybe our eating and exercising habits weren't as good as they were.....the important thing is that we realize our "mistakes" and that we correct them. I don't think your not working and having that routine is a mistake. I think you just need to get into a different routine and eating pattern again. I know for myself that once I "fall off the wagon" I keep doing it, figuring....ok, I screwed up, so I might as well eat this piece of chocolate, or these chips, or whatever it is I crave. Now I know you my friend, and I know that you did it in the past and that you so want to do it again, so I know that you will stop giving into these cravings and overeating and get back on track. I've told myself time and again, I'm starting over. I've been on SP since Jan of 2008, and in the beginning I lost a lot of weight... 40 lbs altogether. But from October until now, my weight has either gone up or stayed the same. The weight is just now starting to come off slowly again...and I know that you will do it too. Try changing up your exercise a little bit too. That seems to help. Just know one thing.....we are all in this together, and we are here for each other.....so keep the faith my friend, and lean on us anytime you need to. We will all get to our goals eventually. The weight didn't get on us overnite, so it's not gonna get off us overnite either!!!

Huge hugs to you!

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GIFFORDMEGAN 8/25/2009 12:34PM

    Me too! Starting over today because I totally fell off of the wagon a few months ago and haven;t been able to get myslef on track. Why? When I find something that works, why do I drop the ball. Well, here's to US. . .making it stick!!!

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USMAWIFE 8/25/2009 12:06PM

    A healthy lifestyle is a full time commitement. You will do it.

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SHIITAKE 8/25/2009 12:06PM

    The good news is that you haven't gained all of it back, my friend ! You have the exercise part down really well, now all you have to do is get it together with your eating plan ! How hard is that ? lol Tell me about it, right ? You have done it before, so it is not like a new idea or anything, right ? You can do this...you just have to make your mind up to carry it out one day at a time. We have faith in you, kiddo !!



emoticonon your 1 year anniversary....and you're not really starting over again, you're starting up where you left off !! lol emoticon emoticon

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DEBBIEKAY1 8/25/2009 11:58AM

    Good for you ! No matter how many times you start over it is alright you are still here and each time you will learn something else "Never give up"
I am so PROUD of you!

Hugs Debbie

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Why I'm grumpy today!

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

I was feeling great when I got out of bed this morning. I went to bed at a reasonable time (which I seem to have trouble doing) and I slept well all night. I fixed myself a cup of hot chocolate and went out to sit on the deck and enjoy the cool early morning breeze. I mowed most of the afternoon and evening yesterday and my yard looked so nice when I got done! I take great pride in keeping it looking good even though we live out in the middle of nowhere and the mailman and I are the only ones that see it most of the time. When I got out on the deck I looked to the south and the west and my yard looked gorgeous. Green as far as the eye can see. Then I walked to the other side of the deck and looked to the north. I was in tears in seconds at what I saw! The entire strip of yard between the house and the driveway looked like someone had taken a rototiller to it!! It was totally dug up!! We have occasionally had armadillos out here and they have dug things up before, but apparently there must be a whole family of them here this year. They totally destroyed that whole stretch of grass. They are digging for bugs and they dig your grass out by the roots looking for them. Apparently my dog has made friends with them because he never barked during the night or anything!! He and I had a long talk about that after I calmed down a little!! LOL I have tried setting live traps to catch them in the past and all I ever catch is my cats and the occasional possum and once I caught a skunk!! That was quite a stinky little adventure, let me tell ya!! And now that they have started digging there, they will keep coming back to that same spot for a while. The only way we've handled them before is to sit outside in the dark with a pistol and a flashlight and wait until the ugly suckers show up and blast them. That's hubbys job and since he won't be home again for at least a month I'm afraid they are going to do a heck of a lot of damage by then.
Guess I'll stop whining now. After all, it's just grass!! But it just upset me that I put in so much time and effort to make it look really nice out here and in 1 night they ruined it!!

  
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SHIITAKE 8/11/2009 12:13PM

    I must be in another world ! lol I never saw anywhere that you had written this blog ! Oh well, better late than never ! My Dad has problems with the wild turkeys tearing his lawn up. He puts that small meshed fenching on top of the area, so they can't do as much damage ! Seems to work fairly well ! He is also a great trapper from many moons ago ( as well as a sharp shooter, from years of experience ! lol ) Shall I send him down ? lol

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LYNNOTT 8/5/2009 3:41PM

    You had a good reason to be a grumpy granny! Hope you get your problem solved. Is armadillo meat any good to eat? :)

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THINKTHINB 8/4/2009 7:14PM

    Robert said he would come "live trap" them for you. :-)

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MARTYLYNN1 8/4/2009 2:32PM

    I know what you mean. We live in the middle of nowhere too but try to keep the place looking neat. We don't have armadillos in North Mo. but my brother has them in South Mo. and they dug under his garage foundation & floor. They are destructive little critters. His answer to the problem was lead poisoning too.

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PHAHN28 8/4/2009 1:01PM

    Oh man!! I'm sorry to hear that about your little critters!! :o( Hopefully you'll catch them for good this time and they'll be gone!!

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SHIRLEYDILLARD 8/4/2009 12:59PM

    That sounds awful! emoticon I hope you can get them under control soon. Maybe you can arrange a hunting party with some friends and shoot them all!!

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LUVDANCE6803 8/4/2009 12:55PM

  Ahhh Jannie, I can feel how upset you are about your yard. I'm sure that I would feel the same way too....especially since you put so much work into it, and it is your pride and joy.......I could say don't sweat the small stuff, but I know to you it's not a small thing. ....... Tonite just sit out there and get those B**tards!! emoticon

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MORGANMAXI 8/4/2009 12:32PM

  I hear you. It seems I let the little things become big things and forget about the important things.

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Feeling Good About Myself Today!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

It's a gorgeous day in Oklahoma! The sun is shining and it's warm outside. I should have been outside mowing my yard, but I wasn't. Or I could have been working in my flower beds, but I wasn't doing that either. I need to wash the outside of all my windows and it would have been an excellent day for that, but I didn't do that either. But, nevertheless, I am very pleased and proud of myself today.
I have an elderly woman that I go in and take care of every morning. I make sure she's up, takes her meds, and I fix her breakfast for her. I do her laundry and I run errands for her. She isn't able to drive anymore and she has to use a walker to get around. She very seldom leaves her house unless one of her sons is here for a visit. This morning I took her to the beauty shop to have her hair cut and fixed. She was so excited to be going out somewhere!!She was like a young girl going on a date!! She put on a little makeup and some lipstick and had a terrible time trying to decide what to wear! It was fun to watch her! After we got done at the beauty shop I asked her if she'd like to go out to lunch. She usually has meals delivered to her from the Senior Citizens Center. I took her to a little hamburger place we have here in town. We ended up having almost a 2 hour lunch!!!! She saw and visited with so many people that she hadn't seen in a long time. I was anxious to get home and get some things done, but she was having such a great time I just couldn't make her hurry up and leave. When we were finally on our way I decided to just drive her around town and let her see all the things going on. The new houses that have been built, new landscaping people have done, all that kind of stuff. I took her out to the cemetary where her husband is resting because I remembered her telling me one day that it has been 3 years since she's been out there. When we got back to her house she gave me a big hug and started crying and thanking me for taking her out for the day. She said it was the best day she's spent in a long time. When I left her house I felt very humbled. I started out the day just wanting to get her to the beauty shop and back home as fast as I could so I could do my own thing today. I ended up feeling really good that I could bring so much pleasure to someone by doing such simple things with her that we all take for granted each and every day. So.....I'll work on my yard tomorrow. It will wait!!

  
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2BFREE2LIVE 7/17/2009 1:38AM

    Your blog makes my Heart happy, knowing that people still care in this fast paced world of ours.
I hope when you are in need that another guardian angle like yourself will be there by your side.
Doing things for othes r do not go unrewarded. Sandy

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SHIRLEYDILLARD 4/24/2009 7:10AM

    Thank you for doing what is right ... and reminding me to do what is right. I so often let my to-do list get in the way of taking time out for people.

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LYNNOTT 4/22/2009 1:57PM

    God bless you! You're a truly giving and kind person, and we're fortunate to know you!

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MARTYLYNN1 4/21/2009 11:18PM

    I know what you mean. Before Mom started taking up so much of my time I helped a little lady in town that is leagally blind a couple of days a week. There were times I was hoping I could get done quickly but seeing how much it meant to her to have the help made me forget about my plans. I still help her occasionally along with a couple of other elderly people when I can. One of the ladies told me I was a blessing to her and I don't think she understood when I told her she was a blessing to me too. I know from reading your blog you feel that way about your lady too.

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TLFRONCK 4/21/2009 5:45PM

    I don't think there are any words that can say what a great person you are! emoticon Your story brought tears to my eyes! God Bless You! emoticon emoticon

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SUMMARAH 4/21/2009 5:14PM

    You are such a wonderful person for doing that today. It's only appropriate that you feel good about yourself! Awesome!!!
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