Tuesday, January 18, 2011
I spent two weeks caring form my 96 year old mother who was recovering from a fall in mid-December. Those weeks began Christmas afternoon after a very full flurry of activity here which included a move, hosting holiday dinner parties for Thanksgiving, a church group, Christmas Eve dinner, Christmas brunch. We also had our son's family stay with us the week before Christmas so we had such fun with our two year old grand daughter who we rarely see in person. Photos and Skype are great, but just not the same as those precious hugs, giggles, and in person fun. We were so busy every day and evening that I was getting so very tired and looking forward to some down time between Christmas and New Year's. That didn't happen. While with my mom I also learned my brother, who is living with her since his recent divorce, is back in alcohol treatment (or so he claims, I'm not so sure as he is such a convincing liar), and managed to get himself fired right after I arrived. His employer gave him a great chance for help when he gave him paid time off to go to treatment. He didn't go and that was the end of that. He still leaves each morning and returns late at night perfectly willing to tell our mother about his day at work. I'm furious that he won't tell. He has cirrhosis and I don't know if there are also other health issues, but I am very concerned that he is depressed and heading towards an early grave. i want him to come clean with Mom and spend more of his time helping her until he finds another job, though I doubt he is looking.
Meanwhile, i've chosen to have joy in my life. Worry doesn't help me or those around me so I decide if there is something I can actually do to help and do it or if there is nothing I can do I let it go. I give the worry up to the Lord and find the joy in each day. My weight loss stopped and went in reverse a bit over the past few weeks, especially when I got home from my mom's house. Now I have more to lose again, though still a manageable amount, I think. Also, a friend and I will begin a program together this Friday - "Made to Crave". I'm praying that we will hold each other accountable and find success. She has a lot of weight to lose, me not, so much. I think she can be very successful and encouraged. I'm concerned for her health issues. I have MS and some other challenges and know that extra weight is bad for all of that. For her, she struggles with knee and other joint problems, high blood pressure and some other things. So, we anticipate great outcomes. I am so eager to begin. Hope all of you have gotten off to a great 2011. Each day is full of new opportunities to serve and to succeed.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
I love this time of year. It certainly feels that there is magic in the air. This week my husband is home from work, our son's family - including 2-year-old Emily - is visiting for the first time in 13 months and my son-in-law closed his practice to join his family that is already here awaiting his return to start a critical care fellowship in the spring. I get to have all four little grandchildren snuggled in the center of my universe. It is so perfect, so joyful, so beautiful in every way. But, then my mom had a little fall. She didn't break anything, but it stressed her body (and mind). So after a few days in rehab she is chomping at the bit to go home. This means, however, that I must fly out to her and care for her for I don't know how long. I leave Christmas day. It breaks my heart to leave my little piece of heaven. It is really hard because throughout my life everything has been about my mother. She has never been available when we needed her, only when she wanted to give us a part of her time. She is 96 now and miserable. She was never a happy person and that makes me very sad. It will be hard to leave such joy here to listen day and night to her misery. Still, I have hope that she will yet find peace and joy. As long as there is life and breath I know the Lord can do His work. Perhaps this time there will be joy. I won't have a computer so it's goodbye to Spark for awhile. Hopefully, she will recover quickly and not need my ongoing help. Or, if ongoing help is needed perhaps my brothers and I can figure out a good solution for her. We want her to be happy and she is determined to stay in her own home. Such is life.
Blessings to all for a beautiful Christmas and a joyous New Year!
Thursday, December 16, 2010
I started this month with a long list of things that must get done before my son's family arrives Saturday. Well, little by little that list is dwindling. Christmas is wrapped and under the tree, in the mail and or hidden for Santa to deal with. The decorations are so festive and make me smile every day over and over and over again. I finally finished my youngest granddaughter's Christmas stocking - it's taken a year due to double vision and other battles that set me back, but thanks to a wonderful lighted magnifier I got it done last night. I've pretty much finished shopping for my granddaughter's birthday party which will be Saturday night. The holiday baking is about finished - still have decorating to do and a birthday cake to make. Then I'll continue cooking and baking as needed while guests are here. I've nearly finished a book I've been putting off reading for ages. I'll be ringing the Salvation Army bell later this morning as part of my National Exchange Club service. And so it goes. Little by little the weights are drifting off and I feel much lighter in so many ways. Unfortunately, the weight isn't moving just now. Too many tastes, too many get togethers, too much celebrating. Yet, I'm holding my own and that is a blessing for this joyous Christmas season. Hope you are holding your own today, too, maybe even losing some pounds and/or inches this season. Blessings.
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