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Evening house hunt, morning walk, Life is Good!

Friday, July 30, 2010

emoticonWhat a great start to my day. emoticonI woke early, read for awhile and then walked to the nearby park, walked the trails there and came home by another route. emoticon I was able to walk through tendonitis in ankle/foot and hip injury. It feels so good to have this behind me and now look forward to lots of things to do around the house and errands to run. emoticon
emoticonWe house hunted last night, but realtor only took us to one property. That was disappointing and we don't go again for another week. emoticon My DH is frustrated at the slowness of this process. emoticon I think we'd better pick something soon. emoticon Our daughter and children will be here to register for school in just over a week and then school begins August 25th. We'll never be out of here by then and I suspect much of her furniture will be arriving soon. Such an adventure. I am so thankful that we have a home where she can be with the three children and then her husband when he arrives next spring for his neurology critical care fellowship. emoticon It will be so wonderful to have them here for the next few years. emoticon They may even choose to stay here if the faculty position he is considering comes through. emoticon Now, we just need to find that perfect little condo where I won't have stairs or nearly so much to keep up. I can't wait to start our lives in our new home. God is so good. emoticon We know He has a perfect place in mind for us. I just hope He shows us soon. emoticon Have a great day everyone. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ANJALI2010 7/30/2010 11:42AM

  Have you tried looking on the internet listings yourself. Tehre ought to be a local real estate MLS website in your area. I was far more on top of the new listings than the realtor. I'd end up telling him what we houses we wanted to see.

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House Hunting for Inspiration

Thursday, July 29, 2010

My DH and I will be out once again this evening looking for a condo to downsize to. It feels like such luxury to be able to take our time this time around. Other moves have revolved around relocations. Not this time. This time we can just look until we are satisfied to find something that will fit our lifestyle. I want a place that has a decent exercise room, perhaps a pool and definitely lots of territory to walk. I'd love to be near mass transit, especially for winter. And this time we are determined to have everything on one level. It would be an awesome benefit to find something that is move in ready, but if we have to have some work done we can live in our big house until the little one is done. We've been out looking a few times already, but we don't think we've seen our dream place just yet. If only we could combine the best parts of several! I so look forward to meeting new neighbors, praying through new neighborhoods and cleaning through a much smaller space. In the midst of this, my weight loss journey of fits and starts continues. I am making progress, very slowly, but the trend is in the right direction. Praise God! To keep the progress going I so look forward to exploring some new trails and walkways. Though the idea of packing and unpacking is not in the least appealing, the idea of a new home sweet home is heavenly. Our daughter's family has already begun moving things into our house and it won't be long before we will have to get out or get a storage facility. She's moving from a 13,000 sq. ft. mansion they've restored to this 5300 sq ft place. Her husband will do a neurology critical care fellowship here and we are delighted they are moving back to town. It will be such joy to have their three little ones near enough to hug. We hope they can sell their house to settle some of their medical bills - baby had major neurosurgery in May and they are buried in debt. We won't charge them rent, but hope they can at least pay utilities. We'll see how it all works out. We know the Lord has a plan and that His plan is so much better than anything we could ever think up. When we bought this house we stood in the middle of the main floor and prayed. He assured us this was the place for our family and it has served us so well these past 19 years. It will be hard to leave, but we so look forward to our next adventure. Blessings. Have a wonderful day!

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ANNE-ELIZ 8/1/2010 1:04PM

    Good wishes for your house hunting!

I do know what you mean about wanting to take the best features of each home you see and put them together to make your dream home...but I'm sure that as you continue your search you'll get clearer about what you do want and need and be able to come close to your ideal.


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JDB1957 7/29/2010 1:30PM

  Wishing you luck on finding you dream house. You are right god does have a plan and it is so much better than ours-he will guide you in your search and with him in charge you can't go wrong! Have a great weekend! :)

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Reunion Blues & Brights

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

So, the bright spots included an amazing afternoon with my DH's family. emoticon There were 14 adults and 11 children of all ages. My mother-in-law was in her element for sure. Even at age 95 she managed the day with grace, laughter and lots of love. I loved having my children and their families there. Our youngest was 7 months and it was so much fun to watch our daughter and her husband show her off to everyone. emoticon I took the two grandsons shopping the day before we left so they were attired in exactly what they wanted for the big picture. The five year old sported spongebob and the seven year old was in very cool shirt and shorts that he will wear when he goes back to school next month. Those two loved playing with all their cousins. Our son's little girl is 21 months old and seemed to enjoy all her cousins, too. emoticon She's a bit shy, but seemed to have a really fun day. The only damper on the reunion was that our niece didn't come. She sent her children, but she no showed after promising her grandma many times that she would be there. It was sad that she chose to let her grandma down like that. I don't know what the issues are in her life just now, but she may not have another opportunity to have her dad's family all together again. Very sad for grandma. emoticon
With my kids together I had planned to visit my 96 year old mom even if just for a few minutes. But, since she is nearly blind and has always been very self serving anyway, I guess I should have known she would not let us visit. My kids were heartbroken...especially our daughter who wanted to introduce our little miracle baby, Ziva. I begged my mom repeatedly for more than two weeks in hopes that she would allow us to stop in for a few minutes. But, as has been her history, because she would not be able to enjoy because she cannot see, she wasn't about to accommodate the wishes of even her own grandchildren. So disappointing for us all. It stirred up so many sad memories from my childhood and from all the years since then. As an adopted child, I never knew if I was even lovable. My parents never said the words, so it always left me guessing. And, I figured that since my birth parents gave me away that I had better be perfect or my adoptive parents might do the same. I've never felt I was good enough for them. Still, I so hoped she would want to see her grandchildren and great grandchildren. But, I was wrong. So wrong.
It was a challenge for me to spend four full days with Don's family when my heart was so hurt and what I really wanted to do was cry. emoticon We are back home now. I expect her to call in a little while and part of me doesn't even want to answer the phone. Still, I know I must be kind. After all, she is 96 years old. I feel so sorry for her. When I found the Lord, I knew I was lovable, I knew I was loved. My mom was an atheist for most of her she says she's more agnostic. My hubby and I have shared our faith with her through the years. When she could still see well enough to read I sent her long letters that always ended with a P.S.I Love You at the end that included Scripture, part of my personal faith journey, and a prayer. She says she read it all, but that it never 'worked' for her. What a sad woman. I cannot imagine turning away my grandchildren or not wanting to spend time with others who care. She only seems to see people now for how they can be useful to her. One of my brothers handles her finances and repairs things when he visits. The other brother does her grocery shopping and is planning to move in with her now that he and his wife of 22 years are separating. I manage contact with her doctors and help her get the medications prescribed that might help with her arthritis, sleep and some minor heart issues. Tis I do via computer and phone.
So, the blues included a 37 year old no show granddaughter who is deeply loved and whose presence was hugely missed by her grandma and everyone else and a 96 year old self centered, very alone mom, grandma, great grandma who has no interest in seeing the family that loves her.
But, the bright spots were many and brilliant. emoticon I got to see my son-in-law and sons see tide pools for the first time. I got to hold baby Ziva and receive little goodies like plastic toys and dominoes from 21 month old Emily. I got to share the time with my DH and surrounded by a lot of love. We all got there safely and landed safely back in our various states. Another bright spot for me was that despite a lot of restaurants and the big catered reunion, I didn't gain any weight. In fact, I lost some. emoticon I probably should thank my mom for taking away my appetite. Hmm. I imagine it will return soon, but for the travel it was a great source of protection.
I'm glad I got to go. I'm happy to be back home. I'm thrilled to be losing a little weight. But, mostly, I'm ever so grateful for my children, their families and my DH. Life is good! emoticon

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SARAHTAIT 7/29/2010 7:25AM

    Sounds like a fun reunion!! SOrry about some of the letdowns. So sorry about your mother-it is a really sad thing to lose one from the Kingdom no matter how hard you have tried. How sad and lonely she must be and to not know the Lord at her age-how frightening-I mean Wow-I simply can't imagine being that close to death and not knowing the Savior. I feel so sorry for those whom she has hurt-especially you and the youngones. Your attitude towrds her is to be commended and I know it is from our Heavenly Father who gives you the grace to deal with her.

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And the Award Goes To.....

Monday, July 19, 2010

emoticonKlutziest kid on the block so long ago...ME! emoticon
-I managed to break my toe walking home from kindergarten. emoticon
-I wrecked my bike by running it into a metal railing on my first ride by neglecting to turn emoticon
-I fell down the escalator on my first ride emoticon
-I fell down in the department store by standing still as instructed by my mom emoticon
-I broke my wrist the first (and only) time on ice skates emoticon
emoticonKlutziest kid on the block today....STILL ME! emoticon
-Fell off kitchen stool when I forgot which step I was on - just last week emoticon
-Got all scratched up falling into a rose bush - also recently emoticon
-Fell over my daughter's dog emoticon
-Dropped dinner on the kitchen floor emoticon emoticon
...and so much more

You would think I would learn from some of these experience and the many, many other similar not-so-fun things in my life. But, for some unknown reason I seem to need to continually relearn. emoticon Either I'm a slow learner - possibly. emoticon Enjoy embarrassment and pain - not so much. emoticon Am innately uncoordinated - perhaps. emoticon Or could it all be related to my weight issues? emoticon That is the answer that many folks around me through the years decided was the right one. emoticon I've been an easy target emoticon for abuse and name calling in general. It's tough enough picking myself up off the sidewalk when nobody is watching. emoticon It is death to do it when onlookers point and laugh. emoticon Junior high boys have probably been the worst offenders, but they are certainly not the only ones. emoticon
The sad part is that when someone has a mishap we should be first in line to offer assistance. I wonder why so few are willing to go out of their way to help another. None of us is perfect. All of us need help now and then. All of us can help now and then. emoticon
I have multiple sclerosis and probably the most emotionally devastating fall happened when I tumbled while carrying a big pile of clothing I was about to purchase. When I fell I had to crawl quite a distance to find something to push up from. I really struggle to get off the floor without some sort of assistance. emoticonIt was just before Christmas and the store was packed. I think that more than 50 people walked by me as I struggled. Not one offered to help. When I finally did get up, gather my items back into my arms and got through the check out process, I went to my car and just cried. emoticon Where has our humanity gone? emoticon Where is the empathy and sympathy? emoticon What gives anyone the right to abuse another human because of weight, or illness, or because of anything else?
I will always be klutzy. emoticon That's just how it is. I pray that I will never just walk past someone in need. I imagine many of my Spark friends have also endured similar sad and disappointing moments. I also imagine it has made each of you stronger and more eager to help wherever you see the need. God bless you for every kindness. For every kind of empathy, sympathy, kindness and assistance....The Award Goes To YOU!

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ANNE-ELIZ 7/20/2010 12:59PM

    I wonder if at least some of the incidents you ascribe to "klutziness" might not be due, in part, to symptoms of your MS? (Before I was diagnosed, I used to say that I tripped over dust! emoticon)

I've noticed from some of your other blog posts how active you are and how much you do, for your family and others.

Sometimes that can keep us from paying attention to our own needs and extending ourselves beyond what we should do. I only say this because it is a pattern that I recognize in myself. We justify overextending ourselves because we tell ourselves that others' needs are greater, or we can rest later, but "later" rarely comes...

I gather that you are mostly ambulatory, but I'm sure that you have some symptoms and that these might interfere with coordination and balance. I'm also sure that fatigue (and heat) makes any symptoms you do have worse. Also, with too much to do, we sometimes don't have our full attention on our current task.

Also, things change; symptom patterns vary. Have you had an evaluation by a physical or occupational therapist? Your doctor can refer you. Once you know if there is a specific issue you can address it. Specific exercises and rest at appropriate times can help. If you have a foot drop that's causing you to trip, there are orthoses that can help.

However, no matter what the situation, the cause of the incident,or the preconceptions they might have, for people to just stand by when someone clearly needs help, is just wrong! I'm so sorry about your experiences with people who seem to lack even the slightest bit of empathy. I apologize on their behalf, because they clearly have no clue!

I have been lucky in that I have not had such experiences, but they could not be anything but hurtful. emoticon emoticon

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MEADSBAY 7/20/2010 8:59AM

    As a famous klutz myself, I started out reading your blog laughing! emoticon

But by the end I was tearing up. emoticon

I cannot imagine walking past a person who has fallen.


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TIME2BLOOM4ME 7/19/2010 10:20PM

    I can relate. I fell outside of the grocery store. People stopped and stared at me and no one offered to help me up.


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NURSNANA 7/19/2010 8:27PM

    I can sure relate to your problem! I have always been a klutz too. It is not so funny to fall down, and worse if no one tries to give a bit of assistance. I am so sorry no one helped you in that store. I put off using a scooter in the big stores because I was embarrassed to be seen on one, and felt people could make fun of me. My experience has been totally the opposite! Everyone has been so kind to me, and even offer to get items on the top shelf, and offer to unload my groceries at the checkout! I have to park in the handicap parking and I have had people come over and offer to put my groceries into my car! It has been amazing how kind I have been treated. I can fall easily because my legs are so weak and my balance is not good. I have started using a cane some days to prevent me from falling down. It has really helped me! Thanks for sharing your experiences, and for all the good blogs!!

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Goal: Blog Daily this Week, Day 7

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Day 7...I made it! emoticon Today has been filled with gardening emoticon and house cleaning in prep for our kids arriving Tuesday night. I am drained, but it feels so good to get some things accomplished. emoticon After my tumble on Thursday I decided no more climbing on things for awhile. I think I will sleep well tonight after all this activity. emoticon I did make a batch of cupcakes emoticon for a picnic tomorrow up one of the canyons with a bunch of friends from church. Seemed so strange to be making something so sweet after all my healthy cooking of late. Hopefully there won't be any leftovers for me to bring home. I don't need the temptations. emoticon Hope this finds all of you enjoying a wonderful weekend. emoticon Blessings. emoticon

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 7/18/2010 5:26PM

    Goto love that Gardening !!! emoticon

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BALLOUZOO 7/17/2010 7:17PM

    Great blog, fun to read.

Best wishes on your wellness journey!

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