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APRIL 20TH

Monday, April 20, 2009

WELL IF I SAY SO MYSELF I DID AN AWESOME JOB EXERCISING TODAY. ALREADY HAVE 2 HOURS IN. MY MOM HAS SURGERY ON MAY 11TH.

  
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JIBBIE49 4/23/2009 3:52AM

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JENNTINYSAM 4/22/2009 11:01AM

  WTG on the 2 hours. Keep up the great work. Thanks for the comments.

Yeah 10 miles is the challenge. Hubs gave it to me starting at 5 for 2 weeks. Working my way up to 10. Now Im doing it. Its not easy.

I will keep your mom in my prayers.

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MSTELZER 4/21/2009 12:54AM

    Good for you!!!!! I just found out my mom is having surgery on Thursday! She is having both her knees replaced at the same time! She as arthritis though and otherwise is in perfect health!

Michelle

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MOBAYGIRL 4/20/2009 11:35PM

    AMAZING GR8!!!! My prayers are with you and your Mom. emoticon

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S_HANSEN 4/20/2009 10:51PM

    You are incredible... 2 hrs of exercise....that is awesome... good for you... I will pray for your Mom... emoticonSondra

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MOONLITCHELLE 4/20/2009 9:50PM

    emoticonYou GO Girl!
And emoticonand best wishes to your dear mother.

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good saturday

Saturday, April 18, 2009

went to yoga this morning and was a workout. she is getting harder each week. I missed Monday's class as I was not feeling well. I actually got tired and had to stop doing the upward and downward dogs. I haven't tried my weightloss yoga yet from the biggest loser. Hopefully tommorrow. I did get in my 120 minutes this week of fitness. I also got my appetite back and pigged out a bit. so I am sure the 3 lbs I lost will be back. my son has strep throat so he has been home and in bed since yesterday. I hate it when my kids are sick. He feels a bit better today. doctor signed him off of work until Monday.

  
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MSTELZER 4/19/2009 1:21PM

    Great job!!!!!

Michelle

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S_HANSEN 4/18/2009 10:32PM

    Wow, you did have a good saturday and a good week fitness wise... good for you. Sorry to hear about your son having strep... I hope he feels better soon... emoticonSondra

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THINNERCASS 4/18/2009 10:21PM

    Oh, I wanna do yoga so bad now! I am gonna wait though, because I think I may be trying to do too many things too fast. I hope your son feels better and I'm glad you're feeling better! Keep your head up, you're doing great! emoticon

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LUVS2SPIN 4/18/2009 10:19PM

    I am happy you are feeling better. Dont push yourself too hard too fast. It will take time to get back into your routine. Good for you for getting in you fitness minutes. I am sorry to hear your son is ill. I hope he is feeling better soon.

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ALY7J07 4/18/2009 10:18PM

    I love the weight loss yoga DVD, its SUPER hard it definitely tones you up! Ihope you enjoy it!! Don't beat yourself up so much!I really don't think the 3 lbs is coming back, but if it does chalk this week up as a learning week. Every day is a new beginning!

I hope your son feels better!

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TEACHINKIDS2 4/18/2009 10:00PM

    I hope your son feels better soon! Also, glad you are feeling much better :) Have a blessed Sunday! emoticon

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15 MINUTE MILE & MOM

Thursday, April 16, 2009

I DID IT. I FINALLY WALKED A 15 MINUTE MILE. HOPEFULLY I CAN KEEP IT GOING NOW THAT I GOT THERE. I LOVE MY NEW PEDOMETER TOO. IT IS SO COOL. I ALSO RECEIVED MY WEIGHT LOSS YOGA DVD FROM THE BIGGEST LOSER TODAY SO WE WILL BE TRYING THAT OUT SOON.

MOM WENT TODAY FOR THE RESULTS OF HER TESTS AND EVERYTHING CAME BACK 100% SO SURGERY IS GOING TO BE SOON. SHE COULD HAVE GONE THRU CHEMO AND RADIATION BUT THEY SAY SURGERY IS THE NUMBER ONE WAY TO TAKE CARE OF THE CANCER AND SHE REALLY DOES NOT WANT TO DO CHEMO AGAIN UNLESS IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. THEY WERE GOING TO DO THE SURGERY ON APRIL 27TH BUT THEY TOLD HER NOT TO PLAN ON IT. THE 2 SURGEONS NEEDS TO GET THEIR SCHEDULES TOGETHER AND SCHEDULE THE DATE. THEY TOLD HER IT WOULD PROBABLY NOT BE TOO LONG. IT IS A 4 HOUR SURGERY. MYSELF AND MY YOUNGER BROTHER WILL BE TAKING CARE OF HER WHEN SHE COMES HOME AS THE RECOVERY IS 6-8 WEEKS AT HOME AND 5-7 DAYS IN THE HOSPITAL. WE ARE TAKING TURNS COOKING FOR DAD WHILE SHE IS IN THE HOSPITAL. MY DAYS WILL SOON BE FILLED AND LONG BUT I DO NOT MIND AT ALL. SHE TOOK CARE OF ME FOR THE FIRST 25 YEARS OF MY LIFE SO NOW IT IS MY TURN TO TAKE CARE OF HER. SHE IS THE ONLY MOM I HAVE, AND SHE IS VERY DEAR TO ME.

  
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MOONLITCHELLE 4/20/2009 11:34AM

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MSTELZER 4/17/2009 12:47AM

    Nancy, you and your family continue to be in my thoughts and pryers.

Michelle

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S_HANSEN 4/16/2009 10:26PM

    Wow, you have a lot on your plate coming up here.. make sure that you try to take care of you while you are taking turns taking care of Mom... good luck to your Mom and her surgery. I will put her in my prayers... emoticonSondra

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TEACHINKIDS2 4/16/2009 9:32PM

    emoticon awesome job! Praying for your mom girl :)


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S_HANSEN 4/16/2009 9:02PM

    Good for you.. that is awesome! I am glad you like your pedometer too.. have a good night... emoticonSondra

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HARLYCHIC14 4/16/2009 8:59PM

    Congratulations! That's great!

Brandi

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MYSTERYROSE74 4/16/2009 8:58PM

    Wow! Good for you! That's quite an accomplishment! Keep it up.

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losing my son part 2

Thursday, April 16, 2009

i think the way i wrote the first one some of you took it the wrong way. i do not mind that they are sleeping together in my house. at least i know where they are and what they are doing, and yes they are using protection trust me. what i am not liking is that he is shutting me and hubby out everyone else is coming first instead of me and hubby. hubby says it bothers him but what can he do. I on the other hand am not handling it well. it makes me cry that he won't talk to us or watch tv with us. when they are at my house i see no reason why they cannot visit with us for awhile and then do their own thing but that is not working. I actually dreaded the day this was going to happen and here it is. i will have a breakdown when they actually move out (just kidding) but it is really really going to be hard for me to deal with. feel free to comment again if you wish, and thank you all for commenting on the first blog. have a wonderful day all.

  
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SURENDERISNOTME 4/16/2009 6:08PM

    Okay,I understand how you don't want to hurt your son's pride. Being he is 22 yrs old and is old enough to make grown up decisions. He is though still living at home. He owes his parents some respect. I agree with a couple of the others here. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your son. Approach the girlfriend. My hubby's mother before we were married made me feel like a second daughter like the day we met. I not advocating that you do this but if you make her feel comfortable around you this could open up possibities.

Debbie

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SAMSMOMTIZA23 4/16/2009 3:48PM

    Well, it's odd to see the other side of this situation. I am 25. A few years ago when my husband and I were dateing I didn't think my parents wanted to be involved very much, and thats what we thought about his parents too. We were wrong, and your son probably is too. I think you should knock on his door and invite the two of them to play cards, or watch a movie with you two. I have to admit, I was VERY intimidated by my husbands parents for the first year. And they are the sweetest people in the world! We would go into his room and I would be afraid to come out. My mother-in-law had to come in the room and talk to me about how they felt before I understood. I asked my Dad if thats how my parents felt too about us not spending time with him and he said it hurt him too.

Sometimes we "young and nieve" need to be talked to about our actions. If talking to your son doesn't work, talk to his girlfriend.

I hope things get better!

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CRYSTALPISTOL2 4/16/2009 3:33PM

    You have to accept it for now. Try to be supportive of this relationship and let him know he is loved by both you and hubby. emoticon

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I am losing My Son

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

well this has nothing to do with weight loss. I have a 22 year old who has a girlfriend and a job which I completely understand. I never see him anymore. He and his girlfriend switch back and forth thruout the week staying at each others house which i do not have a problem with that. When he is home he is in his bedroom with girlfriend. They don't say hi when they come in. He will come out and sit with me and my hubby but not for long before he either goes to bed or back to his room. We do not see eye to eye on this at all. I know he is 22 and he has his own life but I feel that I am losing him. Is this natural what I am feeling or am I being ridiculous. i want to be like we used to do be and be able to talk to each other and have fun.

  
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ADRIENNE502002 5/20/2009 1:15PM

    I just saw this now when looking for another past blog.

I just wanted to tell you, it's no different from when your friends just disappear when they have a new lover - you just notice it more because he's in your house, you are used to thinking of him as your boy, and a cog in the wheel of the family. He still is, but he needs time to get used to his new life.

His behavior has nothing to do with valuing you less. Hormones and budding adulthood are confusing and time consuming to learn how to deal with. I am an artist and have friends of all ages, but I few friends who are in their early twenties because I find it too draining. They usually have not yet figured out enough about themselves to be able to give consistent attention anything but romances and parties.

I'd say that give it a few years, and your son will "come back". Nobody wants to have to change diapers or clean up when a baby spits up, but we do it because we want children - and this is no different. It's not all that comfortable, but it is often part of having a child. Allow him the leeway to make the mental separation that is healthy and necessary for a child to make with their parents, and he will come back even stronger. Try to avoid taking it personally, as it is a normal part of growing up.

But you don't have to suffer in silence. You can say you miss him, and insist that he says hello when he comes in - even a wave at the doorway is nice. Sometimes it's the little things that may ease the separation you feel. I sympathize with you - it is never easy when teenagers become adults!

It may help if you spend more time on your own or new interests so that his absence does not weigh as heavily on your mind. You are used to certain routines that may have included him in the past, and if you change it up a little, it may help.

Best of luck.

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MEADSBAY 4/23/2009 8:58PM

    My 21 yr old daughter sleeps over her 23 yr old BF's house once a week or so but I'm not comfortable w/him sleeping here at all.
Our 2 bedroom condo is way too small for that.
I do insist that he spend some time here and we do family things together like dinner and movies. He goes along with that.
Maybe it's different w/daughters.
My sons, who are way older than her, moved out right after high school so we never had to deal w/this kind of stuff.
Hope everything works out.
Tell him you miss him and family time.
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TONI1937 4/15/2009 9:54PM

  I raised 3 boys but I have to admit I am older and of the old school. I set the ground rules and they abided by them. I thank the Good Lord I never had a problem with any of them. I wish you luck with this problem. I know its hard to say no to your son but I would sit down with him and let him know how you feel about all of this. Maybe he thinks its ok to shack up with his girlfriend in your house because you haven't said anything against it. Sure hope you find a remedy. Good luck. emoticon

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GAIL_SANTIAGO 4/15/2009 9:52PM

    I really think your behavior is very normal. He is coming into his own right now and thinks he doesn't need mommy and daddy. He will realize in the next few yrs how important it is to have a closer relationship with you guys. He is at that age where everything comes first. What he is doing is very normal and what you are feeling is very normal. Just continue to let him know you are there for him and he will come back around.
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XHASTEDMOMOF2 4/15/2009 9:14PM

    Don't know what to tell you on this one; but here's a hug, if that helps!!! Hang in there and let's hope and pray he comes around back to being the son you raised him to be!!

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POLYANASUNSHINE 4/15/2009 8:41PM

    His behavior is all normal. Just be there for him and et him know you are. by not being judgemental now and including the girlfriend along with him things will ease up. Your son will always be there. Just remember to keep telling hm that no matter how old he gets, he will always be your boy and you love him.i

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LDYRED53 4/15/2009 8:34PM

    As the Mother of two grown son's,what you are feeling is completely normal.The closed bedroom door thing is only because you never set boundries or house rules during his teens.We did....the GF could hang out in his room with the door open,so it was a rule they grew up with.And we always had an extra "couch" for sleepovers.Since you had no rules set,my advise is you can't now but continue to include him and her in your activities,never speak badly about her(unless she is on drugs,etc).He will always come around if you don't tune him out.My son's are always here for us and include us in their lives.Just be glad also that he hangs out at home and at least you know where he is...that is a good thing.

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MRSCAROLB2 4/15/2009 8:06PM

    Hey girl I know from experience what you are talking about. Yes this is all normal, as our children grow up they want to start doing and decisions without the parents. But I can tell you that it will change in later years as he does get older. He will know that you are there for him when he needs you, but it will not be like it was before. Just be there for him when he does need that mom talk or support.

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JIBBIE49 4/15/2009 8:03PM

    Well, I have 4 sons 34, 24, 21 and 19, so I know what you are going through. I wouldn't worry about this since he is 22. My children all were at a New Year's Eve party, including my dd, who is 18 and she was telling me how her friend was making out with one of the other guys. My take on it is that they aren't 13. From ages 10 to `18 is what concerned me.
I always found that I do well with rubbing my boys back, and rubbing their feet. They will open up and talk to me then. I don't pry about anything. I don't call them. If they want to talk to me, I'm here.
Hormones are a REAL issue at 22, so you just have to let him deal with them. At least he isn't bringing home a different girl each night. And the one thing I had hoped is that my children wouldn't be involved with any Gays. That isn't prejudice, but just honest. I worked with several gay men over the years and the stories they told me was off the chart. One said "Well, women say NO WAY, but it never happens with men, as they will do anything."

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S_HANSEN 4/15/2009 8:03PM

    Well, that is a hard one... I have a 7 year old and am not looking forward to the day where the girlfriend takes presendence. I am sorry you have to go through this. Maybe try to not talk to him about it for a day or so. Maybe it is his way of saying he just wants to see his girlfriend... Do you get along with his girl? Can they come in and watch tv with you both, or is he just wanting to be alone? Does he eat with you all? Is he civil until you want him to visit? So many questions I have to try to help you... I often think people just need to work these things out themselves, meaning that your son needs to get this out of his system.. He will come around again, I am almost sure of it. Sit tight and try to just let him be and see what happens.... emoticonSondra

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MSTELZER 4/15/2009 7:58PM

    Nancy, I feel for you! I imagine it has to be hard and only gets tougher as he makes his own life for himself. Hang in there dear and know that I am thinking of you! In a few years I will be looking to you for advise and comfort when my oldest boys hit this stage as well.

Michelle

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